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Hi. I am 54 years. Male. Married at 30 Lost my wife after 7 years of marriage having two kids (who r grown up now). Re married after two years of first wife's demise but separated after three years n having a kid who stays with his mother. Few years after my separation from 2nd wife. I am in to few relations. Today I am in to long distance relationship with two married women's one is separated with a kid and other with two grown up kids. Both are loyal to me. I am happy but since I meet them one in a month or so. I feel the urge to have more. One more word men has approached me n v r chatting n may meet soon. My question is, Is it normal.? Is it ok to live like this. Pls answer.

I am 30 F. My boyfriend thinks that he dont deserves me. The reasons are: the love and dedication I gives him + i am still a virgin and he is not+ he is my first boyfriend+ my talents+ my family status. Because of this he is pulling away from me. I know that I will never get an amazing life partner than him and I have even communicated it to him. But still he is pulling away from me and hoping that I will find someone better. What should I do?

My name is Umesh and my age is 28 and loving girl age is 18 since two years ago. Before started the relationship i spoken to her mother she agree for marriage. Now I am asking for engagement because two years happened and her mother discussed with her brother. But brother is not agree. Girls is saying you should wait after some time he will agree. Note girls father is ded. As I mentioned my age 28 family is forcing me for marriage but girls family not agree. Girls is agree but she wants to wait again for next two years without any confirmation. What should I do. Should I wait her or can I move forward

Hi, I’m a 27 year old independent woman who’s living in Bangalore. I’m financially in a good position now. Also, I’ve met a guy 3 years ago and fell for him but he’s not very emotionally connected with me and sometimes acts as a narcissist and doesn’t treat me with respect. I’ve tried communicating with him about how I feel after such actions. He acknowledged and limited such behaviour to some extent. I really love him and spoke about marriage too. He brushes it off and diverts the topic that he’s not ready. I don't see any clear signs of this relationship, even his parents are looking for matches to get him married. He doesn't accept anyone either. My parents are in a different city and they want me to shift with them to look for alliances who can marry me. Recently, they’ve shared a profile and I spoke just for the sake of parents. After speaking to him for 3 and a half hours during the first conversation, I realised that he was a better compatible partner for me. I'm not sure which path to pursue. My marriage is not fixed yet as my decision is still pending. Kindly help me with the best advice.

I had a relationship with my married friend..and his family know me very well even his wife too... whatever occasion they are invited to my house and me too in their house... But nobody knows about our affair...no one from our friends zone not even our families... He broke up with me in this 1yr... I wanted to connected as friends but he stop talking to me also but act like we are friends..this act for our families and for friends.. and from this 1yr I feel myself cheater, guilty, fake, shame and going to panic attacks and depression...he moved on but I'm not...even now alday all-time i feel myself as a cheater... Feeling bad for parents, friends zone those who loves me and thinking about me that I never ever did this type of bad karma like cheating... I really lost myself happy...just wanted to be free from this life(suicide or whatever) just want to go away from everyone and free from this guilt and shame and from this faking happy life... I never wanted like this relationship...but it happened... Also I was a girl who judging others for their extra marital affair..and now I'm the culprit and nobody knows about this...it's really feel like cheater and fake self that I can't carry...just want to be free... What should I do for self?????

Dear Anu ma'am, please keep this anonymous. My bf often speaks about weight of girls, rather the size. So today he told something in those lines about a junior colleague of mine. I like my colleague who is very nice to me. I told please don't talk like that it is bad behavior and I don't want to talk such a way. This is rude. Then I added how would you like if someone talks same about your mother. So he started showing tantrums, started shouting speking badly about me that I am taking things personally and showing some gestures. He turned the table telling that I take everything on myself etc etc. I told you are a hypocrite since you tell that you respect women but actually you don't....and so the fight increased etc etc... I want few tips/suggestions from you: 1. Was I wrong to personalise a offense to him so he understands and stops? 2. Did he cross boundary? I have had enough...i have told this earlier too. 3. Is it good to try and connect to a person when he is wrong? 4. He told me it os enough i cant go with you anymore...was I at fault? He seems a sorted guy, responsible etc...but this has become too much Please advise..I am at my wit's end wondering if I was at fault. Should we love someone like this?

I am 42 years old married who is woking at an establishment of a Public Sector company. I am holding a senior position. I have one female colleague who is of my age and married. She very frequently comes to my cabin and sits with me. She sits very close to me almost touching my body. She is very frank with me and discuss very personal things with me. She adores me a lot. Since last couple of days, I have started missing her when she is not around. I don't know how to overcome this situation. I think she also has liking for me. Please advise what to do

Dear Doctor I am male 34, i am planning to get married soon. But i think I will have problems in becoming a dad bcoz I have physical relationship in the recently. I observe that I gets nervous and i am unable to satify my partner, I get erection but soon after 2-3 mint I find that there is no erection at all. can you advice me to what to do, should I inform the girl before we get married or my problem can be solved after marriage.

Hi Team, I am 40 years old with 9 year old son, divorced an year back. Separated from my husband 4 year's back....I am Senior software engineer, well settled in life with supporting family.. My mom wants me to get married, i have gone through a bad rough phase in my previous marriage..I also need a partner in life but worried about the kind of person who might come in life and not sure will the person be good and will be give intense love to me and my son.. For me my son is my world and he is my lifeline...I am Regular follow of your advises, i have seen many people approaching you people and they are looking for partners in life.. I don't want to register in matrimonial sites as maximum are fake profiles... What is your advise???

Sir , Honestly I'm aa merit student ...I scored 95.1 percent in boards , 94 percentile in jee main and around 70 marks in jee advanced....Honestly sir career is going good....But sir , Coming to my relationship I've aa girlfriend ....She is also aa merit ....She scored the same percent in studies just like Mee...We've been in relation for 1 and half year from my 11 th class onwards....As 12 th is ending up boards mains and adv exams coming up ....There has been distance ...Like her parents were strict ...So I couldn't get time....I felt like she is ignoring me for her career ...but honestly sir she didn't think abt Mee....She always think abt only her career....So fights and all....But we use to get close again after every fight....But She behaved strange like she was done , when fights were going on....and she left Mee 2 days...just because of problems going on with me in my tough times....She left me like anything....I did love her soo muchh and she betrayed Mee...I'm soo much depressed I just want her to come back for Mee...but she doesn't.....because she never loved not even aa drop of tear...she told me this that she doesn't need to cry because she don't love me anymore....Sir how do they just leave like that....Girls In the society are like this rn....I'm soo muchh stressed and depressed sir....What do u say sir ?

Hello, I have issues with making eye contact with girls, and strangers, when I roam around, I tend to just look at others, when they make ey contact with me I stopaking eye contact, what does this mean?

Hello mam...I am married for 4 years now... recently I got to know about my wife's past relationship with one of her colleagues..she is still working in the same office with him..she was also sexually very active with him....I was a virgin at the time of our marriage and she was not...I was ok with that..but she was having sex with her boyfriend even few days before our marriage..that is making me little uncomfortable..how to cope mam

My girlfriend(20) of 3 yrs wants to focus on carrer and completely leave me but i am suggesting her that i will wait 10 to 15 years for her carrer but she still said no , but she is a very good person and i also know she will never date anyone , she only said that she will not care for me but only for carrer, what shall i do? I seriously do love her and want her to succeed but does not listen to me atleast once.

I have boy friend we r in relationship from past 5 yrs now he's going to get married to some other girl bcoz of his family. We didn't even broke up each other, the one thing is I'm in my clg 2nd I have 3 more yrs left to finish my studies and my parents won't agree to marry him but if u want to get marry to him I have to finish my studies for me But he don't have a time he has to get marry this year he asked me shall I say with their parents but i haven't finished my studies so I said no And one more thing is we r ready to get married now also but i have elder sister she didn't get marry yet If I get married to him I have to live with him and should continue my studies but if I do that that may affect my sister's life What to do now ?? I'm so confused

Ma'am I m totally obsessed with her. Almost couple of years gone in my college btw she is my colleague in college despite that I never talked to her even for single minute till now what should I do my image in front of her is so arrogant and sincere although we have eye contacts several times in college she is in my batch St Stephen's College University of Delhi But unfortunately I never dare to ask her for an hangout I got stuck here for too long.at the same time I'm totally afraid of her what should I do actually I tried a lot erase her picture in my mind bcz she is bit different she is not a long term partner she just needs fun as it seems through her past experience in college witnessed through my eyes can you please help how to move on from this situation

Am 30+ men I need date some one girl please suggest

I'm 20. Studying in a co-ed college. Is it okay if I'm not approached by any guy till now?

hello mam, Iam raj, male 28 yrs,having physical attraction towards older woman than me. even though I have a healthy sexlife with my gf. I feel only matured older women can satisfy me. i sometimes feel ashamed of such thoughts and sometimes I cannot control. why is this happening to me.

Hello, I am Afrin . I met this guy 3 years back through a dating app . We used to talk on weekends initially for few months . Then I started falling for him and I told him about it and that i would only like to continue if there is a future as we we can get married, he said he is Hindu and I am Muslim so it won't be possible for him so I strictly asked him not to contact me again as we want different things , after that we didn't talk for 4 months , and 4 months he called me again . I picked up , talked for two three weeks only on weekends and the same question i again asked he again said it won't be possible and I again told him not to contact me and he again stopped calling or texting me . After 6 months of this ,he again called ,I picked up. This time he said , he is moving to foreign country so it might be possible for him to marry . I believed , we kept talking now 3,4 days a week . We both were happy ,and enjoyed talking to each other , then finally after 2 years , he came to meet me from a different state . We met, i brought some of my friends with me . We spent 5 days , bt after 3 days ,I saw him behaving rudely .. I tried talking to him and I got to know that , since I was talking to my friends in our language , he misunderstood us thinking we were may be making fun of them . On 4th day , when my friends left , I went to his room and saw him using dating app .. I asked him to show me his phone he didnt show me and we had a heated argument. And he left me alone in that room , and the next day he had his flight .. i saw, he blocked me the day he left me in that room . I tried contacting him for the first in this two years but he blocked me every where . So , this way for 6 months I was blocked , after him unblocking me ,he neither called me not texted me , and I also didn't try to contact him . After after 1 year of him leaving me in that room, he called few days back , I picked up , and the way he was talking i dint like it as I could sense he was expecting the things from me which are against my values . And by now ,I lost feelings for him . So the first day I could say anything, the next day i told him clearly that i don't have feelings for him anymore , so if he is expecting something else from me he won't get it . If he wants to remain as friends he can ,rest I don't want to be in a relationship with him anymore . And after two days he again blocked me . What should I do if he again calls me ? Should I just block him now ? Or should I talk to him normally?

Hello love guru mera name bablu rahul he or me ek long distance relationship me hu social site par usne mera name aaj tak nahi pucha lekin mene use apna name sirf rahul bataya jo ki mera cast he or hamare relationship ko 3 month ho gaye he lekin ab mujhe ye samjh nahi aa raha ki me use real name kese batau pls help me.

He always controlling me .If i wear jeans it means it's a cheat for him because he don't like that i wear jeans

Hi.. I want to ask if as a 40 year old woman is it ok to be with someone 8 years younger if both of us are into it. Just that I am feeling as if it’s a taboo and I will be excluded from the society for doing so ... pls advise

Hi Mam. I am 40 years old single woman. I was very happy being single and doesn't not wanted to get married. Being single never bothered me actually. But few months back i met someone who is 9 years younger than me and i developed feelings for him. He doesn't feel same for me and never gave any signs . I don't know how to get out of this as I can't avoid him completely bcoz of some social work we do together. This thing is hurting me deep inside and 8 don't know how to deal with it. Pls help

I am a 25 years old girl preparing for competitive exams. Meanwhile in preparation I got into a relationship that ended without due closure. The questions like why , how troubles me a lot.I am not able to move on neither to concentrate on studies.Please help

I’m 36 year old female, I have fallen in love with a friend, we are compatible on all levels. Physically as well as mentally attracted to each other. But he says he doesn’t have those feelings for me. What should I do ? Should I continue talking to him as a friend in hopes that his feelings will change in the future or should I break contact and move on with my life ? What should

Hi Mam, Actually I am self independent girl. I am not financially dependent on anyone. I am good in my career. I have a boyfriend the relationship is been 10 years. lastyear when i told my parents i wanted to get married to him, my parents opposed it . now they have fixed my marriage with someone else , i tried to tell the person who is going to get married to me that i am in relationship and i am not able to overcome with that. i am not interested in this marriage. The boy who is going to get married to me told all the details what i have informed to him regrading my relationship to my parents . and also he is saying me that he is going to give me a good life he wanted to marry me only. what should i do now even my parents wanted me to get married to the person who they have arranged wedding .But i am really not interested.

I am 36 years old and still single. I want to get married but alliances are not working. I have been in isolated environment from childhood so I never approached any girl so never had any relationship either. From last few months I started feeling very lonely. Is this because of my single status?

Hi i am guru. I am 57 year old. My spouse 40 year old she had an affair with her boyfriend for a period of 1 year. Reason she assigns for relationship is i am poor i can't fulfill her dreams like car and package tours own house etc. She says she intentionally did this because I used to beat her for her mistakes which are big mistakes. Now we leaving together but no sex after we know about affair. Now I am in confusion weather to continue or not. I am in confusion, she stays with me like unknown person and make me to take care of home expenses even though she earns

I don't have relation with wife as she is a patient. Hence I have relation with a divorcee. But i dont erection when I get physical with her. Please advise

Hi , Iam 40 , and divorced , I Recently met a girl in my office , who is just a fresher and we have a gap of around 15 Years. Is it Ok to Continue relationship with this girl ? is the Age Gap Too Much to Handle. Should i withdraw from the relationship at the earlier stage itself rather than getting into it and later break up?

we have 3 yrs of relationship and in that frm 2 yrs we are in long distance we have great bondings ,no issue on that but the major issue taht we have no future becos he belongs to bhramin family his family is very strict not accept intercaste marriage and also they dont want him to move out of house . right now he is pursuing mbbs and i am pursuing computer science . i live in bangalore as u know its tech hub and best place for me for career but he will make future in gujarat he is telling me to come over there after marriage still we have lot time to think but he dont want to hang me in middle of the situation as he is not able to promise me that he will make it work 100% . He now every time telling me ki if u come to gujarat then only it will work and convince his family and some time he tells me that even if u come their might be my parents not fully accept u and tell u something rudely and all stuffs as i belong to general and may be u will regret for ur career also . what should i do should i compromise my career and do remote job or stay in some small company just for him or otherwise leave him? even i have great fear of not getting any soulmate after this becos as my experiences my elder sisters and brothers are still dint get their perfect partners its hard to get married to unknown i know i am overthinking at this stage but am confuse. i also dont have much frnd to talk about my prsnl problems .its been 2 yrs i have been through my personal loss and family problems also some times i am in pain getting sucidal thoughts its not for the relationships .Please help me with this .

Hello Ma'am, I am a introverted person. I talk very less that becoming a problem in pur relationship tht he is saying i am not opening up to him i am hiding things how can i change myself from an introverted to an extrovert person

I recently joined a job. And met a man, he said that he’s separated from his wife he’s 43 (I’m 27) and has 2 teen kids. He has been claiming that he loves me, we have been sexually involved, but here’s what - 1. My instincts says that he’s not right for me 2. One of my female colleagues claimed that he had sex with her (which he denies outragingly he even cried, vomited, and is willing to do anything to prove it) 3. He lies a lot. I have caught him on smaller lies but I have no proof of anything Now I communicated that I wish to be end this relationship but he insists that he wants to spend time with me till 30th. I am feeling suffocated and forced. He acts entitled to my time and energy. Every time I try to end things it leads to huge drama. What should I do?

Hello, I'm a 33 year old guy from Pune. Till now I have always remained single although I had a few dates via online platforms,but it never got converted into something. I have been looking for a partner since covid but the girls I'm interested in and want to pursue ahead,they do not communicate properly and mostly end up ghosting I'm 6'2 with stable job in IT mnc with good salary and looking for someone whose height is 5'5 and above. What are the ways I can approach? I wish that I meet the girl in person atleast on weekends if not on weekdays. I don't have the patience to communicate online for a long time. I do not have anyone of my liking in social circle and it's very limited as there is still wfh going on I do not like short,fat girls whose looks are below average. Sorry for being blunt but this is as straight as much as I can put out.

My marriage was arranged in our comminity about 20 years ago. However i found that my wife was too lazy and lacked common sense and basic IQ probably due to the upbringing by her parents. She required a lot of push to go to even a partime school to keep herself busy. She couldnt get along well with my parents either . I still adjusted with her although she knew nothing about bonding and it appeared a clearcut onesided relationship with me putting in all efforts to bond However in 2007 after we had a child, she ubknowingly started neglecting me all the more and it was evident that i was just married to b a breadwinner although i went out of my way to provide them all the comforts. I has expressed this to my inlaws and they appeared apologetic initially She neglected the daughter as well and i found that my daughter had been faring v poorly in exams and failing while my wife gav her access to mobile at age of 11 and she started encouraging her to build relationship with guys Now that she has moved with her parents along with the child in her custody, she and my inlaws are demanding money from me although i have paid her far more than she earned. They assume that i have to keep paying them money Need your advice to handle this

I am married 42 male. I m in love with a lady who is also married for the last 2 yr . We met through matrimony prior both of our marriage in 2015. She has many relationships till date with colleagues and also with her husband boss. Inspite of knowing this , I am unable to come out of the relationship. Also she used to tell me she doesn't love me.i hv already spent around 1.5 lakhs for buying gifts. She had been physical with 3 college friend and for her husband promot, she slept with her husband boss. Inspite of knowing all these, I can't forget her. We dnt have any physical relationship.I madly love her. Tried many times to discontinue the contact, but every time she by any means win and I start talking. She used to lie me always. Inspite of knowing many physical relationship with her husband colleagues and her friends in recent times, I can't forget her. Tried consulting psychiatrist and also taking medicines but of no help.

I am 40 year old unmarried man. I never had a gf in my life neither I dated anyone. I started late searching for my life partner. Problem is i am still not sure what are the qualities I am looking for in life partner. Also i come from middle class family with 2 unmarried sisters at home.

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My Name is Krishna, I got married at 25 but I got cheated by the girl whom I married now I got Divorce at 29,Iam in Anxiety and Depression but I expect a good Understanding to want to get married but I am very low to trust is there any therapy for this to trust a new girl and start new life.

I am 52 year and feel very lonely. On the advice of my doctor, started searching for a life partner on Shaadi.com, however most of the profiles are either fake or scammers. It just happened that I had almost ?125, 000 to an NRI. Should I file a police case against Shaadi.com as the profiles do not have photos, KYC document verification and fake information. Please help.

How to respond when the person you have been dating since 4 years shows commitment issues but also occasionally talked about marriage stuff. At this point of life, I want only commitment, nothing else, no time pass things. All such hardness to control my emotions and setting boundaries is reflecting in my nature too. I'm becoming more cranky all the time and avoiding talking to people. Additionally, this biological clock pressure is always ticking in my mind. Please suggest.

I am in a relationship since 3 years. My age is 22 and he is 31 year old ..We met online. But after that we met many times .I daily talk with his mother and also know very well about his family. But my parents is very strict.how to convince my parents for marriage?

Dear relationship gurus, I am 21 year old boy and i am being good in studies from my childhood but in college my friends used to make GFs but i hesistant to make because i used to feel that career is most important and all the relationships my friends are making are toxic in their reality ,i also feel specially for an middle class boy like me the primary goal should be an a good career and money but in college some girls converse with me but what i always feel that girls are attracted to the guy who have decent amount of money and having a well financial background ,so what really girls sees in a guy ?? And should i also try dating a girl? Because after graduation i feel so alone and sometimes low also ??

Hi, I am struck in a morally complicated situation right now. Kindly guide me . I'm a modern woman yet who believes in culture. I am 24years old female from South India. Currently arrange marriage alliance process is going on and it is almost about to be finalized if i say yes. I have had a 3 serious relationship s in my past and the last one i was physically involved because i believed we would end up together. Even our families were involved we were about to get engaged. everything went fine until one day we had a huge fight and later as a result he didn't want to continue it anymore. He broke it off. This happened 1.5 years back and I loved him too much that I wanted him to comeback. Deep down i know he was not right guy for me yet i wanted him. About 2 months back I had a sudden realisation that hit me very bad I realised I need to move on and mentally I was able to disconnect myself from him, not completely but yeah i did. Now in the current situation the guy who is my potential fiance, I want to be transparent with him but I am not sure how well he will take it as we barely know each other. I met him only twice. He seems interested to marry me. I do not want to ruin his trust or feelings. The problem is I am not sure if he is open minded enough to accept my past. I'm willing to put in my efforts to make things work in marriage and keep my past behind me. If I tell him about my past and he is not interested to proceed and reject us my family will be upset ( they liked this match cuz the guy was nice and decent, his family and everything was convenient to them). I am totally stressed out as my family is waiting for my response to proceed further. The guy doesn't seem to be very particular about anything. I don't know what to do and how to do it.

My age is 56 and I am still interested in sex. Kindly advise if it is normal or i should ignore it. Thanks.

Hi I m in situation right now, where my family is almost confirmed by groom and already I have a boyfriend, since in 7 years of relationship I have already told my family about him but they are not supporting me just because of caste and standard and looks problem, can you advice what should I do now ?

Hi I am fifty year old male and married for twenty one years. We have a son aging 20 years. From the beginning our marriage life was with full of fighting because of her short temper nature. I had negotiate it because of my son. Three years back l found her cheating on me and having an affair with her old classmate. She always shouting on me and live life as per her wish. She go for parties and enjoying her life. She is only with me for the money. We dont have any relation but staying in one home. Now she started encouraging my son and he also sometimes shout on me and making my life hard. She is very good in acting and having good image of her outside. Still she is having affair. No one in my family is able to question her. She always give bad words fir me and my family. I am very much depressed and it is taking toll on my body. I am unable to sleep. Please help me in this case. What l should do?

I am 43 yrs old . I have love marriage post 16 yrs of long battle of ups and down in personal life with my fiancee who's my wife now . In these last 16 years also she had affair with 3-4 Mens before returning to me. One of them was her office colleague who's marries now too. For. Last 2 years it was more of a distance relationship whereas she stays in one town and am in other coz of our job commitments. I had promised her to fulfill financial goals such as change in job better financial stability house car honeymoon in abroad but due to financial limitation and medical emergencies with mother I couldn't manage her expectations. Now she is saying she has given me enough time and asked for. Mutual divorce. She has filed in court also. Unwillingly just to keep her words I signed docs but I didn't want divorce Infact I love her blindly. Meanwhile I came to realize she has stated affair with same Ex colleague of been offoce who's posted t some other place. She is pressuring him to get divorce from existing wife and move on in their life post our divorce. That guy is just using her physically and financially. That guy has bought apartment by borrowing 1 Mn INR from my wife whereas in last 2 years if my medical emergency she has never ever helped with even 10k and always shows me as a bigger for. Money. I know end result would be divorce as she wants the same and now openly she is enjoying her days and weekends with that guy. Have told to her family members but being financially independent she hardly listens to anyone. She is branch manager of govt bank and. I am private job employee. Her age is 33 yrs and her existing boyfriend age is also same. Working in same organisation. I am helpless what to do knowing the fact she has been giving herself to her boyfriend. In marriage relationship she has betrayed me again. She is asking for divorce to look after her rest of life in better way. I don't know what to do I loved her blindly n still do.