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Dating Coach - Answered on Apr 15, 2024

Mohit Arora is a relationship coach, image consultant, soft skills trainer and the founder of Real Dating School. He has a BTech degree in computer science from the Rayat & Bahra Institute of Engineering and Biotechnology, Mohali, Punjab. He has been conducting customised skilling and communication workshops since 2014.... more
Asked by Anonymous - Apr 15, 2024Hindi
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Hello, I'm a 33 year old guy from Pune. Till now I have always remained single although I had a few dates via online platforms,but it never got converted into something. I have been looking for a partner since covid but the girls I'm interested in and want to pursue ahead,they do not communicate properly and mostly end up ghosting I'm 6'2 with stable job in IT mnc with good salary and looking for someone whose height is 5'5 and above. What are the ways I can approach? I wish that I meet the girl in person atleast on weekends if not on weekdays. I don't have the patience to communicate online for a long time. I do not have anyone of my liking in social circle and it's very limited as there is still wfh going on I do not like short,fat girls whose looks are below average. Sorry for being blunt but this is as straight as much as I can put out.

Ans: I understand your situation. This is how it is good majority of men. However, there is a way' out. Stop wasting time on online dating and start meeting girls in real life.

Now, you may ask How?

You can go out - malls, markets, clubs, and talk to any girl you like and attract her. I know it may sound weird or scary, but it's not. I've been doing it for more than a decade and hundreds of my students are doing it as well more and their dating and love life has skyrocketed.

I would urge you to get started. You can reach out to me for the same.

Bless.
Asked on - Apr 15, 2024 | Answered on Apr 22, 2024
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I already know that but girls are always surrounded with someone or when they are alone they are busy talking to someone or listening to music. How can I start in such cases. If you can mention the steps.
Ans: Whether they are alone or doing something else, don't let that stop yourself from talking to her .

You can start by asking directions, or using a observational conversation starter like where did you get that purse from, or you can compliment her. And then take it from there..

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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Apr 22, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Apr 21, 2024Hindi
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Hi, I am 25+ years of old. Earning a handsome ammount of money arround 1lakh. I am a introvert, kind of kanjus you can say. I don't have any gf. I had one one one-sided relationship but because of low self confidence I didn't able to express my feelings. I don't feel myself as a ugly person but I am over waight, facing hair fall recently that's why I lose confidence approaching girls. I tried few dating apps but use. As I am a introvert I don't like to go to parties but definitely become comfortable after knowing the other person. Currently in Bangalore but being from a remote area I don't feel comfortable approaching a girl. What should I do.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand how you are feeling. First of all, you are not alone in this. Secondly, it's time you recognize how much you have achieved in life. Kudos to that.

Now, coming to your concern, being an introvert is not an issue, though it comes with its own set of challenges. I understand that you feel shy when it comes to talking to women. That's where dating apps come in. You have seen no results on them; I hear you. But give it another try, but this time, with a fool-proof strategy. First off, write an appealing bio. It's equivalent to writing a cover letter- you put forward your best attributes and convince people why they should date you. You can mention your achievements, you can be honest and disclose that you are an introvert, mention what you have to offer as a partner and don't forget to mention what you are looking for in your partner. This would give your potential matches a concise idea of you and also help attract the right people. Second, display image matters. While I am not encouraging you to put up an over-edited picture hiding your imperfections, do not put up the worst one either. Make sure it's recent, decent, and of you and you alone, and not in a group. Third, if you like somebody, don't be afraid to send a message. You are not committing to them, nor do you have to see them in person. Leave a message, interact, only if things go well, meet in person. There's no rush and no prior commitment. Fourth and the most important one, be patient. The right match can take a while but when you do find them, it will be worth the wait.

Best Wishes!

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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Aug 21, 2024

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hi, i am navin 33 years old never had a girl friend still date. let me tell you about my self. i am 5.45 ft 164 cm and with shoes close to 5.5 ft. i am obese will come to it later. i am a ba hons graduate in game design and hold two post graduate diplomas one in game programming and one in digital marketing. I have my own video game studio where i make video games. my mom owns two business one is a advertising agency in chennai and one is a imported teak furniture store in bangalore. my dad after his retirement working in an different advertising agency helps my mom in her furniture store. since i live with my parents i do investing and options trading as well. my mom is a malyali and dad is a telgu. even though obese and i am brown/fair compared to others in india. i am on matrimony and on dating, dating been there for a long time and matrimony from October 2021. still now i haven't gotten a single proper match when i send a request its a immediate reject for all the reasons above i can handle the rejection that doesn't bother me but there are times people immediately block me on what's app or my profile on matrimony or dating. it is frustrating and sad what should i do? how should i move on
Ans: Dear Navin,

I understand that it can be frustrating, but as you mentioned, do not take any of these rejections personally. The flaw is not in you, it's in their mindset. Now, what are the things that you can do? First thing, why don't you write about yourself in your bio just like the way you did here? It gives people a fair idea of who you are and also an amazing glimpse at the fact that you are transparent and genuine. You do not mean to mislead anyone. These traits are not easy to find in today's world.

Next, I am glad to see that you are not conscious about your obesity but it isn't really a healthy way to live. If there is no underlying disease causing the weight gain, you can start working on it. Don't do it to impress women and get a date; do it for yourself. Working on improving your health is a wonderful quality and many women appreciate that.

Lastly, look for people with the same personality type, similar likes and dislikes, shared values, and so on for a smoother interaction. Just keep trying. Finding love can take some time. It will happen for sure.

Best Wishes.

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Insurance, Stocks, MF, PF Expert - Answered on Dec 24, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Dec 24, 2024Hindi
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Hello i am almost 30 now I have invested around 40 lakhs in Market (mutual funds plus equity) 6 lakhs ppf maybe 2 lakhs pf I have parental property of combining around 2.5cr I have my parents helath insurance from a private insurance company, also covered by cghs health scheme,so no major worries about health expenses, for me i have 10lakhs health insurance Apart from this we have family pension also. As of now overall i have a monthly income of around 2-2.25 lakhs. I have a car a bike a scooty all valid for next 8-10 years What should be my goal amount for the retirement, i want it as early as possible As per the current scenario i am assuming i will live max till 75 years age. As of now i can invest 80-90k per month Yet to be married i assume i need atleast Lakhs per month as of now What should be the ideal amount with which i can retire
Ans: Hello;

Hope you have adequate term life insurance for yourself.

You may start a monthly sip of 90 K in a combination of pure equity mutual funds.

After 10 years your sip and lumpsum investment will grow into sums of 2.09 and 1.24 Cr respectively.

This adds upto 3.33 Cr. If you add your ppf and EPF corpus then this should add upto a sum of around 4 Cr.

If you invest this corpus in a conservative hybrid debt fund and do a SWP at the rate of 3.5%, you may expect a post tax monthly income of
1 L+.

As you get married your expenses will rise as also the need to plan for various other goals.

Therefore the decision to retire from regular 9-6 job should be backed up with alternate business plan or such other plan to monetize your hobbies that may yield income over atleast next 10-15 years.

Best wishes;

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