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Asked by Anonymous - May 02, 2024Hindi
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Hi i am guru. I am 57 year old. My spouse 40 year old she had an affair with her boyfriend for a period of 1 year. Reason she assigns for relationship is i am poor i can't fulfill her dreams like car and package tours own house etc. She says she intentionally did this because I used to beat her for her mistakes which are big mistakes. Now we leaving together but no sex after we know about affair. Now I am in confusion weather to continue or not. I am in confusion, she stays with me like unknown person and make me to take care of home expenses even though she earns

Ans: Leave. Move on. Better to be alone than to be with negative energy

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Hello, I have been married from 15 yrs. I have a 9 yrs old son with me. In oct 21 my wife (age 38) started making REELS on insta of the facial acting. She got involved and told me that she is just doing for followers and like. People used to comment good and bad which i didnt like. She was trying to make young guy friends. In april 2022 she had an affair with a 22-year-old boy who was not even financial stable. I could she changes in her every day. In June 2022 I caught her and she confess that she did affair and also done physical relationship. I had unconditionally loved her all these years and didn’t wanted to let her go. Also, didn’t wanted to hurt my son by taking a divorce. That guy refused to keep my son and their relation broke, but my wife still loved him and missed him. Few months she was in depression and I took her upmost care and swallowed what she did. I just told her that please come back to our life as you were before but she was not getting back. There used to be few quarrels, she was just staying alone within herself and I never felt that love which she used to give me. Later in feb23 there was a marriage at her family and I agree to go with her so she may get that feel during our times and she promised me to enjoy the marriage and make love with me. But she was happy with her relative and didn’t even bother to make that love and affection with me. from that time, I used to get angry and fight with her. I went into depression. In May 2023 she was getting worst and one day fight increased and I asked her to leave my house which I wasn’t intentionally wanted to. She left and went missing 24 yrs and then called from her mom mobile who was in her village, since she didn’t come back home and from last two month, she has been asking me money for herself and says it’s her rights. She doesn’t bother for my son and just show that she loves him. She works and stay with woman from 6 months and I’m looking after my son all alone. I told her u can work but just come home and make things better for my son. Her conditions is to give money security (money) then only she will return. All my family says she is just behind money and doesn’t care what I and my son is going through. She is not guilt for what she did. 15 yrs of marriage has been ruin and now she has no shame at all. She talks rudely if i dont send her money and now I refused sending her. Please advice what do I do now.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You seem to have done a lot to try and get her back. What can you do if she doesn't want to acknowledge your efforts or appreciate what family life is! One would imagine that a child in the equation may bring about a change in heart but that doesn't seem to be the case here at this moment.
Your family members are right in their mind about the way that see your wife as they have been observing how this has impacted you and your son.
Either you wait for her to come to her senses OR simply learn to live life without her. If the outside world of social media is what seems to satisfy her, no matter what you do, she will be dissatisfied and unhappy. This only means that she has to learn and appreciate what she has with you and your son.
It is also possible that she has been disinterested in the marriage for a while now and has been seeking approval and validation from people on social media. Even if this is the case, being angry with you is understandable BUT what about her own child? What makes her not want to deal with that reality? If you need an answer to this, simply WAIT and WATCH without begging her to come back...That will give you an idea as to where her mind is and then decide on the future course...

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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 25, 2023Hindi
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Ans: She has not betrayed you. Your relationship with her appears to be transactional. You don't love her. You are just needy because you don't have any other options. My advice is to give her divorce and move on. If you need help with that, you can reach out to me.

She doesn't owe you anything. Take your own responsibility as a man and get a better woman who loves you

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 02, 2025Hindi
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Sir I am a student of class 12.I am a JEE aspirant.I wish to study abroad if I cannot get a cs seat in a good iit, but I missed all the deadlines ( I got this idea recently).Is it ok to wait for a year and upgrade my skills to study at ucl in case I don't get into iit?
Ans: Have You Checked Your JEE (Main) Score? What’s Next?

By now, you have appeared for JEE (Main). Have you checked the answer key and assessed your score? Understanding where you stand will give you a clearer idea of your performance in JEE (Advanced).

Exploring Other Options:
IIT is not the only pathway to a great career in Computer Science. You can also consider other entrance exams or explore studying abroad.

Considering a Gap Year for Studying Abroad:

If you’re aiming for top universities like UCL but missed application deadlines, taking a gap year can be a strategic move. It allows you to:

1. Strengthen your academic profile (SAT/ACT, TOEFL/IELTS, subject tests)
2. Gain experience through internships, research, and open-source contributions
3. Improve your programming skills and competitive coding performance
4. Apply for better scholarships and multiple global universities

Challenges & How to Overcome Them:
A gap year requires discipline and planning. Challenges include:
1. Social expectations – Overcome doubts with a clear action plan
2. Staying productive – Engage in structured learning, internships, and projects
3. Financial planning – Research scholarships and funding opportunities

What You Can Do in a Gap Year?: 1. Retake JEE (if needed) 2. Prepare strong applications for international universities

If you secure a good CS seat in India, that’s a great option. However, if you wish to explore global opportunities, a well-planned gap year can help you gain admission to top institutions like UCL. All the Best for your Prosperous Future.

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