I am 36 years old and still single. I want to get married but alliances are not working. I have been in isolated environment from childhood so I never approached any girl so never had any relationship either. From last few months I started feeling very lonely. Is this because of my single status?

Ans: Dear Hariharan,
Have you tried Dating apps? It may seem a bit intimidating at first...but it has yielded good results for few and many. No harm in making an attempt...even if nothing comes out of it initially, it will keep you in a level playing field with a possible added perk of friendships if it doesn't become romantic in nature...eventually something might click too...
Keep your mind open to keep your options wide.

All the best!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Let's address your concerns:
1. "I want to get married or I'll end up alone.": This is not a reason to get married and you know that. Get married to build a team, a family together where you help each other grow. Incidentally, you also have a companion and lonely days instead become days filled with happy cheer and sometimes challenges as well. So, change your mindset while looking for prospects for marriage so that when you are in conversation with someone who is a match, you don't come across needy but instead focus on how the two of you grow together.
Your fear is right now pulling you into marriage rather than for more positive reasons.

2. Pressure from relatives and peers: Is it their life that you are leading? NO! Then stop focusing on what they tell you and focus on how you can make the best use of matrimonial sites or dating apps (if you choose that). Also, request your friends to set you up with someone that they might know since they know you well.

You can also join groups and communities online (beware of scams and scamsters here) where you might find like-minded people to meet and interact with. Being part of some hobby class or adventure camps may also allow for similar meeting points where you can hit it off with people who hold similar interests as yours.

Lastly, don't give up...when the time is right, it is...So, don't lose hope BUT certainly lose your current fearful mindset and embrace a mindset that is joyful and cheerful and selfless.

All the best!

Ans: Feeling like the odd one out when you're the only single person in your social circle, especially when many of your peers are getting married or starting families, is completely normal. It's natural to compare ourselves to others and feel pressure to conform to societal expectations, but it's important to remember that everyone's journey is unique and there's no right or wrong timeline for marriage or starting a family.

Firstly, it's crucial to recognize and accept where you are in your life right now. Being single at 25 is perfectly okay, and it's essential to focus on your own personal growth and happiness rather than comparing yourself to others. Take this time to explore your interests, pursue your goals, and build meaningful connections with friends and family.

It might also be helpful to shift your perspective on being single. Instead of seeing it as a negative or something to be ashamed of, try to embrace it as an opportunity for self-discovery and personal development. Use this time to invest in yourself, nurture your passions, and create a fulfilling life on your own terms.

Additionally, try to surround yourself with supportive friends and family who value you for who you are, regardless of your relationship status. Seek out activities and hobbies that bring you joy and allow you to connect with like-minded individuals who share your interests.

Remember that being single doesn't define your worth or happiness, and there's so much more to life than being in a relationship. Focus on living authentically, staying true to yourself, and enjoying the journey of self-discovery. And when the time is right, you'll find someone who appreciates and complements the amazing person you are.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Gyms, open parks, theater groups, dance classes, expressive art classes...the list is endless...you can definitely find like-minded women here who obviously may not be looking for a relationship. So, start by being friends and please hold your horses on making the first move as many times, a woman is happy just having you as a friend. Don't lose hope; but be a bit restrained in your approach. Now, I have no clue why with an MBA, you can't find something that pays you better...that information I don't have...so, find ways to find a place that appreciates your skill and that can pay you better.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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