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Dating Coach - Answered on Jul 06, 2024

Mohit Arora is a relationship coach, image consultant, soft skills trainer and the founder of Real Dating School. He has a BTech degree in computer science from the Rayat & Bahra Institute of Engineering and Biotechnology, Mohali, Punjab. He has been conducting customised skilling and communication workshops since 2014.... more

Question by MOHSIN on Jul 06, 2024Hindi

Dear Doctor I am male 34, i am planning to get married soon. But i think I will have problems in becoming a dad bcoz I have physical relationship in the recently. I observe that I gets nervous and i am unable to satify my partner, I get erection but soon after 2-3 mint I find that there is no erection at all. can you advice me to what to do, should I inform the girl before we get married or my problem can be solved after marriage.

Ans: Why do you get nervous? Are you using protection?

**There are many reasons for not being able to get erection.** Some of the most common include:

* **Medical conditions:** Diabetes, heart disease, and certain medications can all contribute to erectile dysfunction.
* **Psychological factors:** Stress, anxiety, and depression can also make it difficult to get an erection.
* **Lifestyle factors:** Smoking, drinking alcohol, and using drugs can all damage your blood vessels and nerves, which can lead to erectile dysfunction.

**Best is get it fixed first before getting married as you don't want to ruin someone's life.** Erectile dysfunction can be a serious problem, and it's important to get it treated as soon as possible. There are a number of different treatments available, and the best one for you will depend on the underlying cause of your erectile dysfunction.

**Don't Marry. Fix the problem first.** Marriage is a big step, and it's important to be sure that you're ready for it. If you're having problems with erectile dysfunction, it's best to get it fixed before you get married. This will help you to avoid any potential problems in your marriage and ensure that you and your partner have a happy and fulfilling relationship.

Mohit Arora S
Founder - Real Dating School

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Hi Anu,I am a regular rediff news reader.I went through some of you post and I felt I can surely request you to help me in my situation.We are married since February 2017. We had a pretty good life in terms of physical and emotional as well.In Dec 2018 we had a child but after that there is a change in my wife's sexual behaviour.She is willing to have sex; we do get involved as well also. We become passionate in kissing and all but unfortunately she doesn't get wet.It's very difficult for me to keep my focus and I lose my erection.Just want to ask you is this because of change in hormonal issue due to birth of child or is this something we need to seek a professional to help us.She is really loving, caring and even she is disappointed with this.We even had a conversation over this. I asked her if she is no more interested in sex or if she doesn't find (me) attractive. Her answer was 'nothing like that'. She is very happy with me as a husband.

Ans: Dear A, being a mother is a big blessing for a woman.

She transitions into a beautiful phase of her life. But with this comes the responsibility of caring for a new-born or in your case a toddle round the clock.

She hardly has the time to focus on being a wife with the constant feeding and changing of nappies.

Added to that is she’s working, then there’s additional office work besides also taking care of the household chores.

Also, a woman goes through a lot of changes in her body after the delivery and for a few women sex is off the cards for a while after that.

This could be because some women feel that their body is not what their husbands will love anymore and also her focus has shifted on to her baby who needs her love, care and support 24/7.

There is a bond between the mother and the child that at times can irk a few husbands who can translate that as feeling ignored and angry.

This is the time the new father can also spring into action and come together for his lady and his child.

Support your wife unconditionally and love her without any expectations in return

Offer to care for the baby so that she can take some time-off to rejuvenate herself

Encourage her to indulge in a hobby that she might have stopped because of the baby; this will help her be in a happy space

Compliment her and engage in a little off-the-bedroom intimacy like hugging, kissing and holding hands

Watch movies together and do a couple of things that bonded you as a couple before the baby arrived

Smile at her warmly and reassure her that no matter what nothing has changed and that she is still the woman that you loved and married

Does this work? Yes, it does…Love and reassurance can cause a lot of calmness in her and arouse her better in bed.

And if there’s something still amiss, then maybe you could talk to a gynecologist who can guide both of you on the next steps and rule out any medical challenges. All is well.

Simply be in Love. Wishing you and your family a beautiful life!

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