My girlfriend(20) of 3 yrs wants to focus on carrer and completely leave me but i am suggesting her that i will wait 10 to 15 years for her carrer but she still said no , but she is a very good person and i also know she will never date anyone , she only said that she will not care for me but only for carrer, what shall i do? I seriously do love her and want her to succeed but does not listen to me atleast once.

Hi Anu, I have been going through your column on rediff for some time and I feel you will be able to help me out. I want your advice on my relationship with my girlfriend. We have been in the relationship for 3 years now. I love her a lot and see a future with her. But there are some issues. I think she has some mental health issues. I could never judge in what mood she is in. I look forward everyday to the time we talk or spend together but most often after the meet/ talk I feel low. She almost never misses to find mistakes in everything I do and she blames it on my immaturity since she is 3.5 years elder to me (I am 29). Very rarely I do find out eventually that her judgment was right but most often I feel in all sense she is irrational and I think I am correct. This has taken an emotional toll on me. Now I do not feel like sharing thoughts and things with her because of the fights and emotional toll that I would have to face. I love her a lot and it seems like she too does but might be, I am wrong. I tried breaking up with her thrice. But every time because of some or other urgency or work-related stuff when we reconnect we fall back deeply in love. We are in same field but different organization. I was earlier in the same organisation but she left as she got a better offer. It makes sense to me but sometimes I do feel she could have stayed in same organization). She has been asking me to marry her, but all these things stated above makes me nervous what might be in future if I do marry her. As I take time to think it out she puts it as if I never wanted to marry her. I seek your advice.

I am in 6 years relationship with my girlfriend. Recently I don't feel the vibes with my girlfriend. She judges me a lot in each aspect, I can adjust upto certain limits, but she other 3-4 days finds a reason to get upset about me. We patch up only if I win her over , this has happened a couple of 100 times. Please suggest, I am getting this feeling that I must chase something better. I have talked with her , that if she doesn't like me then marry other guy. She says, it's my decision, you don't teach me anything. After few days she becomes normal. What should I do , I m confused.

I've been on and off with this girl i really love , she never committed fully but has always been exclusive.. she broke off in may but due to some problems with her family, I helped her which made us very close .. I asked her if this will happen again she said it won't .. 2 months passed and now she has broken up again saying she wants to focus on CAT exam which she has taken drop year for .. I helped her family, her in everything financially and emotionally but she left again even after seeing I am in love with her .. after all I've done she keeps leaving, saying she needs to focus on exam and isn't sure about me even now or in future ... Should I wait or just give up on her totally