My girlfriend(20) of 3 yrs wants to focus on carrer and completely leave me but i am suggesting her that i will wait 10 to 15 years for her carrer but she still said no , but she is a very good person and i also know she will never date anyone , she only said that she will not care for me but only for carrer, what shall i do? I seriously do love her and want her to succeed but does not listen to me atleast once.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am sorry that you are facing these problems. First of all, the spark fizzling out in a relationship is very normal, especially in a long-term relationship. You have two options-

One- tell her about your concerns. The fact that the constant quarrels bother you should be expressed in words. You can't assume that your partner will get it by herself. After having a clear discussion about the same, both of you can put equal effort into bringing back the initial spark. Try spending more quality time, pursue some shared hobbies, learn to problem-solve without getting into a heated fight, and more.

Two- you can reconsider this relationship. Once you have tried everything from your end to make things better and tried to reason with your partner but she is still keeping up the same temperament or you are still facing the same issues, you are allowed to rethink your choice to be with her. It's okay to put yourself first once in a while. It is a relationship today; tomorrow it will be a marriage and if things are still not going great, both of you might end up regretting it.

But before going to the second option, try the first.

Best Wishes.

Ans: Dear Ojo,

You sound like an amazing person. You loved, you supported and you have been as giving as anyone should be. But now, it is time to focus on yourself. You deserve someone who loves you exactly as much as you do. You deserve to be chosen over everything else every once in a while. I cannot ask you to move on; that's up to you. But, I can tell you that understand your worth. Is this all you want from life? Is this all you deserve? If you answer honestly, I think you would know what's the right thing to do here.

Best Wishes.