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Betsy Question by Betsy on Apr 27, 2024Hindi
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Hello Ma'am, I am a introverted person. I talk very less that becoming a problem in pur relationship tht he is saying i am not opening up to him i am hiding things how can i change myself from an introverted to an extrovert person

Ans: It's possible through a series of steps and pushing yourself out of your comfort zone gradually..

1- start saying hi to everyone (you'll feel better after doing it)
2- start making small conversations
3 - don't filter too much. Say what comes to your mind.

There are many more things you can do however it requires personalized assessment and guidance.

Hope it helps .

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hi , I am a 40 year old man with 2 kids and wife , aged parents .Financially and health wise i am doing good and working in a reputed mnc. My relationship with parents , wife ,kids and siblings is in good spirits . however i am an introvert and don't have many friends .while i had friends in childhood and youth however they have moved in there life .i want to have an improved social life and also have joined a course to improve social skills and more strong relationship socially and at work . As course suggest to approach people , however i still don't approach/talk to people when opportunity is there .i also tried to have more positive attitude towards other people ..however still sometimes i start criticizing them in my mind...and sometimes i feel that approaching /talking may belittle me in front of them,,,, and talking /approaching opposite sex is even more difficult ... any suggestion to improve on this part and how i can improve my social life and get/find company of like minded people .
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Two things to understand here:
1. You are an introvert and you are happy being one
2. You are a forced introvert as you are unable to break the walls that you have put around you.

If you belong to the first category, enjoy the state of bliss as is. But from what I gather, you seem to falling under the second category wherein you want to expand your social circle and be a part of activities etc.
Then you have to put yourself out there.
1. Do understand that as much you want to be engaged with like-minded people, even these people will at some point in time think different from you.
2. Do accept people for who they are and that way you will come from a non-judgemental space while engaging with them.
3. Do connect with people who are totally different from you and it will help you expand your mind to be curious about them.

If this is a difficult thing to do...think....What if one of your children came to you with the same problem that you have now? What would you tell them to do?
Also, get into circles on social media that discuss topics which interest you. Join a gym or a hobby class and that is an avenue to make new friends irrespective of gender.
To add more friends, you need to be friendly as well...so open your heart and mind...

All the best!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 02, 2025Hindi
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I'm a 19-year-old college student from Kolkata, and I’ve always been the shy, introverted type. While my friends easily speak their minds and make connections, I find myself overthinking every word I say. It’s affecting my confidence, especially in group settings or when I meet new people. I really want to be more outgoing and assertive, but I don’t know where to start.
Ans: I would rather say that it is completely normal to feel shy or over think any conversation in a new group or public meetings. Rather than considering it as your negative behaviour, opt for boosting your confidence over time. Take small steps to reach your better self such as begin by initiating a small conversation with your classmates or ask a question in GD session without any self-doubt. All you need is shifting focus from self-doubt and judgement onto being available in the conversation with your whole mind and body. Most people are more interested in giving their opinions, rather than listening to yours and this fear is just in your mind that needs to be broken. Another practice you can entertain in your life is assertiveness, which means expression of thoughts in a calm and composed manner in a safe setting where you will feel free to communicate. Once you begin with small disagreements in a comfortable group, it will help you to step out of your comfort zone. Additionally, working on your body language, maintaining good posture, making eye contact, and speaking at a steady pace can naturally make you feel more confident. If conversations make you nervous, prepare a few open-ended questions beforehand to keep discussions flowing. Celebrate small wins along the way, as every effort to push beyond your comfort zone counts. The more you practice, the more natural it will feel, and soon, social interactions won’t seem as daunting. You’re capable of growing into a more confident and outgoing version of yourself, just take it one step at a time.
Wishing you success,
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Co-Founder, Cocoweave Coaching International, Delhi

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