Hello Ma'am, I am a introverted person. I talk very less that becoming a problem in pur relationship tht he is saying i am not opening up to him i am hiding things how can i change myself from an introverted to an extrovert person

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Two things to understand here:
1. You are an introvert and you are happy being one
2. You are a forced introvert as you are unable to break the walls that you have put around you.

If you belong to the first category, enjoy the state of bliss as is. But from what I gather, you seem to falling under the second category wherein you want to expand your social circle and be a part of activities etc.
Then you have to put yourself out there.
1. Do understand that as much you want to be engaged with like-minded people, even these people will at some point in time think different from you.
2. Do accept people for who they are and that way you will come from a non-judgemental space while engaging with them.
3. Do connect with people who are totally different from you and it will help you expand your mind to be curious about them.

If this is a difficult thing to do...think....What if one of your children came to you with the same problem that you have now? What would you tell them to do?
Also, get into circles on social media that discuss topics which interest you. Join a gym or a hobby class and that is an avenue to make new friends irrespective of gender.
To add more friends, you need to be friendly as well...so open your heart and mind...

All the best!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Almost 100% of introverts have a very successful love life. I would not worry about it at all. For starters, I would recommend trying online dating. You do not have to interact face-to-face and you get ample time to know your match before you finally decide to meet them in person. You can even mention that you are an introvert in your bio and find people who have a similar nature to yours. You do not have to ask a friend to find you a date, you can do it yourself and most importantly, at your own pace. Do give it a try.

Best Wishes.

Ans: I would rather say that it is completely normal to feel shy or over think any conversation in a new group or public meetings. Rather than considering it as your negative behaviour, opt for boosting your confidence over time. Take small steps to reach your better self such as begin by initiating a small conversation with your classmates or ask a question in GD session without any self-doubt. All you need is shifting focus from self-doubt and judgement onto being available in the conversation with your whole mind and body. Most people are more interested in giving their opinions, rather than listening to yours and this fear is just in your mind that needs to be broken. Another practice you can entertain in your life is assertiveness, which means expression of thoughts in a calm and composed manner in a safe setting where you will feel free to communicate. Once you begin with small disagreements in a comfortable group, it will help you to step out of your comfort zone. Additionally, working on your body language, maintaining good posture, making eye contact, and speaking at a steady pace can naturally make you feel more confident. If conversations make you nervous, prepare a few open-ended questions beforehand to keep discussions flowing. Celebrate small wins along the way, as every effort to push beyond your comfort zone counts. The more you practice, the more natural it will feel, and soon, social interactions won’t seem as daunting. You’re capable of growing into a more confident and outgoing version of yourself, just take it one step at a time.
Wishing you success,
Aamish Dhingra
ICF-PCC Certified Life Coach
Co-Founder, Cocoweave Coaching International, Delhi