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Mohit Arora is a relationship coach, image consultant, soft skills trainer and the founder of Real Dating School. He has a BTech degree in computer science from the Rayat & Bahra Institute of Engineering and Biotechnology, Mohali, Punjab. He has been conducting customised skilling and communication workshops since 2014.... more
keerthana Question by keerthana on Apr 29, 2024Hindi
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Hi Mam, Actually I am self independent girl. I am not financially dependent on anyone. I am good in my career. I have a boyfriend the relationship is been 10 years. lastyear when i told my parents i wanted to get married to him, my parents opposed it . now they have fixed my marriage with someone else , i tried to tell the person who is going to get married to me that i am in relationship and i am not able to overcome with that. i am not interested in this marriage. The boy who is going to get married to me told all the details what i have informed to him regrading my relationship to my parents . and also he is saying me that he is going to give me a good life he wanted to marry me only. what should i do now even my parents wanted me to get married to the person who they have arranged wedding .But i am really not interested.

Ans: You are financially Independent. So how can he give you a good life? Your good life depends on you, not that guy. Go where your heart feels better.

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Hi..I just saw your page and found this is the right page where I can get answer.. I am so confused and so my thoughts coming in my mind and noone in my life which I can tell. However, I found you hopefully you'll get my answer I want to marry with my partner but he is not earning as much and I'm also earning but we both started our career in 2023. And my parents wants I should get Marry with someone and he is searching. But I told my parents that I love someone but the issue is he is not from my caste that is not the big issue main issue is that my partner belongs from very nuclear family like his mother and sister is there and noone is there in his family and my parents also saying the boy is not earning a good salary and noone is there in his family how will you be happy and I don't think so he is good for you.. but my partner loves me so much he loves me till 6 years and he waited for me also. My question is that for getting a married is all this stuff matters ? My parents is arising so many questions somehow she denied..should I convince to my parents or they are saying right ??
Ans: The salary is not a problem, if he doesn’t have misplaced ego about his wife earning more than him; some men are broad-minded enough to even be proud of their wives earning more. Nor is caste; love has no fixed faith. But this nuclear family business is a red flag; I would strictly advice not living under the same roof with his mother and sister. There is bound to be friction. Then relations sour and your marriage gets strained. If he is willing to step out from under their shadow and live separately with you, and the money-making is not an issue for him, you’re making the right choice of partner. If either of the above is not realistic, I would suggest you stop trying to convince your parents and listen to what they have to say.

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My parents said to me for marriage but i am in relationship with someone but he doesn't want marriage with me what i can do. I feel depressed and no one understands my feelings because it's very hard move on in life
Ans: it's important to acknowledge and validate your feelings. It's natural to feel upset, disappointed, and even depressed when facing such circumstances. Allow yourself to feel those emotions and give yourself permission to grieve the loss of the future you envisioned with your partner.

However, it's also important to recognize that you deserve to be in a relationship where your needs and desires are valued and respected. If marriage is important to you and your partner is unwilling to commit to that, it may be a sign of fundamental differences in your priorities and goals. In such cases, it's essential to have open and honest communication with your partner about your feelings and needs.

Express to your partner why marriage is important to you and listen to their perspective as well. However, if you find that you're unable to reach a compromise or if your partner remains unwilling to reconsider their stance, you may need to reassess the relationship and consider whether it's ultimately fulfilling and healthy for you.

Moving on from a relationship can indeed be incredibly challenging, but it's important to prioritize your own happiness and well-being. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family members who can offer understanding and empathy during this difficult time. Consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor who can provide guidance and help you navigate through your emotions.

Remember that while it may feel overwhelming now, with time and self-care, you will be able to heal and move forward toward a brighter future. You deserve to be in a relationship where you feel valued, respected, and fulfilled, and it's okay to take steps to pursue that happiness, even if it means letting go of something that's no longer serving you.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 10, 2024Hindi
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Hello mam, glad to find you here. Mam, I'm a female, 27 yrs, I have been in a relationship with my partner since 9yrs, but he is from different caste. We both were immature when we started our relationship but our relationship grew stronger as time passed.We have gone through ups and downs of our relationship and are still intact. When I was into 3yrs of our relationship he was doing some odd job, at that time I told my mom about us and she said 'NO' because of caste issue irrespective of his job. Another reason is that my father is an impulsive person who thinks to harm himself whenever something happens, so mom said my father might harm himself if I go forward. At the same time there were some issues in boys family and my brother met them and he said no to it.But I couldn't get away from him, so I stayed. Later I talked to my partner about his family environment and I said that I couldn't stay with them because of the negative impact. He talked to his family and confirmed that after marriage we will lead our life under different roof but maintain the sufficient relationship with his family. We both are now settled in jobs but he earns a bit less than me but we earn a handsome salary combining our both salaries. Now, it's time for my marriage and I want to marry him and he have changed alot for me without leaving his family and he understands me very well. I feel safe with him. Now the problem is my parents wants to get me married and I also want to get married to the whom I loved but my mom and brother are not yet all giving me the chance to convince them. They are trying to convince me for marriage with others but I couldn't do that, that will kill me all my life. They are saying that if I go for intercaste then they have to suffer all their life and my father might do something to himself if he finds out. I love my family dearly and that's why I have been waiting all these years for their approval. I do not want anyone to lose their life because of me. My partner have left the decision to me because of my situation at home and he is supportive of me. My transfer is nearing where I have two options, one is to opt for my home town(not Village), where I can bring my parents to town with me to stay( now my posting is in another city). Second is to opt for different city( where I have to stay with my brother who doesn't approve of my love and blames me for his career). In order for me to convince them for my marriage should stay with my family or away from them and how can I convince them? Sorry' for the long story and I hope I hear from you.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Be clear about what you want and in this process/journey, there will be a lot of highs and lows...
Also, you may not be able to have the cake and eat it too which is why you are struggling at making a decision. You want to marry the man of your dreams that your parents and brother disapprove of BUT you don't want to disappoint them by going against them...You can't have one foot in two different paths...it will tear you apart; literally...
So, decide what you want, the pros and cons of going against the family...of course there are situations where over time, parents have accepted the boy/girl but there's a lot of patient waiting.
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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on May 17, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Apr 16, 2024Hindi
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I am 41, with take home salary of 2L/month. I want to retire early and live a sustainable life. Considering family income of 3.3L/month and expenses close to 1.1L/month, I have no loans, owns house without HL. I have invested 1 Cr is agricultural land and leased and rental income of 24% ROI. I also have a Bajaj goal assure ulip of 1L/yr since 2018 for 15 yrs premium paying term and 20 yrs of maturity and newly purchased another ulip in midcap 150 index fund of 2.5L/yr for 10 yrs payment term and withdrawal after 25 yrs. I have a corpus of 1 Cr and want to know good instruments which can help me retire b/w 55-60 yrs. I want to grow my capital aggressively considering Indian economy will grow in the future. Pls suggest if Lumpsum investment is recommended or SIP considering the surplus I have for investment now. Where should the entire amount be invested temporarily till everything is invested over time if SIP or SWP options are considered. Kindly suggest.
Ans: Planning for Early Retirement with Aggressive Growth Strategy
Compliments on Your Financial Discipline
You have a well-structured financial situation with no loans and significant investments. Your approach to early retirement with a focus on aggressive growth is commendable.

Current Financial Overview
Monthly Take Home Salary: Rs. 2 lakhs.
Total Family Income: Rs. 3.3 lakhs.
Monthly Expenses: Rs. 1.1 lakh.
Investments: Rs. 1 crore in agricultural land with 24% ROI.
ULIP Policies: Bajaj Goal Assure ULIP (Rs. 1 lakh/year for 15 years) and Midcap 150 Index ULIP (Rs. 2.5 lakhs/year for 10 years).
Corpus: Rs. 1 crore.
Investment Strategy for Retirement
Asset Allocation:

Diversify your portfolio across various asset classes such as equity, debt, and gold to manage risk and maximize returns.
Equity Investments:

SIP in Equity Mutual Funds: Given the long-term horizon, SIPs in equity mutual funds are recommended. Focus on a mix of large-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap funds for diversification.
Lumpsum Investment: You can invest a portion of your corpus in equity funds through Systematic Transfer Plan (STP) to mitigate market volatility. Start with a lump sum in a liquid fund and systematically transfer to equity funds.
Debt Instruments:

Debt Mutual Funds: Allocate a portion to debt mutual funds for stability and regular income.
Public Provident Fund (PPF): This is a safe option with tax benefits and should be part of your debt portfolio.
Gold:

Sovereign Gold Bonds (SGBs): These are government-backed and provide a regular interest along with capital appreciation linked to gold prices.
Emergency Fund:

Maintain an emergency fund covering 6-12 months of expenses in a high-yield savings account or liquid fund.
Temporary Investment Until SIP Deployment
Liquid Funds: Park your corpus in liquid funds temporarily. These funds offer better returns than savings accounts and are highly liquid, allowing easy transfer to SIPs.
Systematic Transfer Plan (STP): Utilize STP to gradually move money from liquid funds to equity funds, reducing the impact of market volatility.
Recommended Mutual Fund Categories
Large Cap Funds:

Invest in large-cap funds for stable and consistent growth with lower risk.
Mid Cap and Small Cap Funds:

Allocate a portion to mid-cap and small-cap funds for higher growth potential, considering your aggressive growth strategy.
Flexi Cap Funds:

These funds invest across market capitalizations and provide flexibility to fund managers to optimize returns.
Balanced Advantage Funds:

These dynamically manage the allocation between equity and debt, providing a balanced approach to risk and return.
Tax Planning and ULIPs
Review ULIP Policies: Ensure the ULIP policies align with your financial goals. ULIPs often have higher charges compared to mutual funds, so consider this in your overall strategy.
Insurance-cum-investment schemes
Insurance-cum-investment schemes (ULIPs, endowment plans) offer a one-stop solution for insurance and investment needs. However, they might not be the best choice for pure investment due to:
• Lower Potential Returns: Guaranteed returns are usually lower than what MFs can offer through market exposure.
• Higher Costs: Multiple fees in insurance plans (allocation charges, admin fees) can reduce returns compared to the expense ratio of MFs.
• Limited Flexibility: Lock-in periods restrict access to your money, whereas MFs provide more flexibility.
MFs, on the other hand, focus solely on investment and offer:
• Potentially Higher Returns: Investments in stocks and bonds can lead to higher growth compared to guaranteed returns.
• Lower Costs: Expense ratios in MFs are generally lower than the multiple fees in insurance plans.
• Greater Control: You have a wider range of investment options and control over asset allocation to suit your risk appetite.
Consider your goals!
• Need life insurance? Term Insurance plans might be suitable.
• Focus on growing wealth? MFs might be a better option due to their flexibility and return potential.

Tax Benefits: Maximize your tax benefits through investments in PPF, NPS, and ELSS (Equity-Linked Savings Scheme) funds.
Conclusion
To retire between 55-60 years with a sustainable lifestyle, focus on an aggressive yet diversified investment strategy. Use a mix of SIPs in equity funds, debt funds, and gold investments. Temporarily park your lump sum in liquid funds and use STPs for gradual investment. Regularly review and adjust your portfolio to stay aligned with your financial goals.

Planning for early retirement is a significant decision, and your disciplined approach is praiseworthy. Continue to monitor and adapt your investments to ensure a secure and prosperous future.

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 14, 2024Hindi
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Sir, I am 44 years and want to invest in SIPs to collate a corpse of 6 Cr in next 15 years. I have below SIPs running since 2020. DSP flexi cap (G) - 20k per month Axis bluechip (G) -20k per month If you can suggest the right MF to invest and the distribution. Many thanks...
Ans: Building a Rs. 6 Crore Corpus in 15 Years
Commendable Start
You are already off to a strong start with your existing SIPs in DSP Flexi Cap and Axis Bluechip funds. Starting early and maintaining consistency are key to achieving your financial goals.

Assessing Current Investments
DSP Flexi Cap (G): Flexi cap funds provide diversification across market capitalizations, which balances risk and growth potential. This is a solid choice.

Axis Bluechip (G): Bluechip funds focus on large-cap stocks, offering stability and steady growth. This fund helps in reducing volatility in your portfolio.

Suggested Investment Strategy
To achieve a corpus of Rs. 6 Crore in 15 years, you may need to diversify further and increase your SIP amounts. Here’s a recommended strategy:

Increase SIP Amounts:

Based on your target, calculate the required monthly SIP amount. You may need to increase your total SIP amount from the current Rs. 40,000.
Diversify Across More Funds:

Adding more funds can help you capture different market segments and reduce risk.
Recommended Funds and Distribution
Large Cap Fund:

Continue with Axis Bluechip (G). Consider increasing your SIP in this fund to maintain stability.
Flexi Cap Fund:

Continue with DSP Flexi Cap (G). Flexi cap funds are versatile and can adjust to market conditions.
Mid Cap Fund:

Add a mid-cap fund for higher growth potential. These funds invest in companies with higher growth prospects but come with moderate risk.
Small Cap Fund:

Allocate a smaller portion to a small cap fund. These funds can provide significant growth but are more volatile.
Balanced Advantage Fund:

Include a balanced advantage fund. These funds dynamically adjust the allocation between equity and debt based on market conditions, providing stability.
Suggested Distribution
Axis Bluechip Fund: Increase SIP to Rs. 25,000 per month.
DSP Flexi Cap Fund: Increase SIP to Rs. 25,000 per month.
Mid Cap Fund: Start an SIP of Rs. 20,000 per month.
Small Cap Fund: Start an SIP of Rs. 15,000 per month.
Balanced Advantage Fund: Start an SIP of Rs. 15,000 per month.
Monitoring and Adjustments
Regular Reviews: Review your portfolio every 6-12 months. Ensure it aligns with your goals and risk tolerance.

Rebalancing: Rebalance your portfolio annually to maintain the desired asset allocation.

Step-Up SIPs: Increase your SIP amounts annually in line with your salary increments. This helps in achieving your goal faster.

Conclusion
Your goal of accumulating Rs. 6 Crore in 15 years is achievable with the right strategy. By increasing your SIP amounts, diversifying across different fund categories, and regularly reviewing your investments, you can stay on track to meet your financial objective.

Investing for the long term requires discipline and patience. You are on the right path, and with consistent efforts, you will achieve your goal.

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 28, 2024Hindi
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Sir namaskar 10 Sal 4 Mahina Mera service ho gaya tha 58 year ke bad pension Mein contribution band ho gaya tha Uske bad bhi final withdrawal Mein reason 55 year ka reason de rahe hain Aise Mein Main Kya kar sakta hun
Ans: Namaskar! You have completed 10 years and 4 months of service. After the age of 58, your pension contributions stopped. However, during final withdrawal, you are facing an issue with the reason being marked as 55 years.

Steps to Resolve Your Issue
Contact EPFO Office: Visit your nearest Employee Provident Fund Organization (EPFO) office. Explain your situation in detail and provide all necessary documents.

Document Verification: Ensure you have all relevant documents, such as your service certificate, age proof, and any previous communication with EPFO. These will help in verifying your correct service period and age.

Grievance Redressal: Use the EPFO grievance redressal portal. Register your grievance online and track its status. This can expedite the resolution process.

EPFO Grievance Portal: EPFO Grievance Management System
Employer Verification: Contact your employer’s HR department. They can verify your service records and provide additional support or documentation to correct the age error.

Correction Request: Submit a formal request for correction in the age/years of service in your EPFO records. This should be done through your employer or directly at the EPFO office.

Additional Tips
Follow-Up: Regularly follow up with the EPFO office. Persistent communication can help speed up the process.

Keep Records: Maintain copies of all correspondence and documents submitted. This will be useful for future reference and any potential follow-ups.

Seek Help: If you face difficulties, consider seeking help from a Certified Financial Planner. They can provide guidance on managing your pension and retirement funds effectively.

Conclusion
Addressing the discrepancy in your pension records is crucial. By following the steps above, you can correct the error and proceed with your final withdrawal smoothly. Stay patient and persistent.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 28, 2024Hindi
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Hi RediffGURUS, please guide if i need to make changes in mutual-funds selection. I want to invest for retirement which is 19 years from now and need 3 CR. I have term insurance where i will receive bonus+SA in next 10 years of 60 lac, life insurance of 6 lac by 2026 which is bonus+SA, PPF currently have 5lac for 3 years, NPS currently have 2.83 lac for 3 years, sbi technology opportunities fund 87K for 3 years with 2K sip, just starting sip in may month sbi large and mid cap fund which is 1K with step up 10%, 1K in PGIM midcap opportunities with step up 10%, Parag parikh flexi fund 2K SIP. To save tax i invested in superannuation two months ago for 7K. Can you please help me if my mutual-funds selection are correct or need changes
Ans: You are already taking significant steps towards securing your financial future. Investing in mutual funds, term insurance, life insurance, PPF, and NPS demonstrates a commendable approach.

Assessing Your Current Portfolio
SBI Technology Opportunities Fund: Your investment in this fund for three years shows a focus on sector-specific growth. However, sector funds can be volatile. It’s essential to ensure that this aligns with your risk tolerance.

SBI Large and Mid Cap Fund: Starting an SIP in this fund is a good move. Large and mid-cap funds provide a balanced approach between stability and growth potential.

PGIM Midcap Opportunities Fund: Midcap funds are suitable for long-term growth but come with higher risk. Your step-up SIP plan indicates a disciplined investment approach.

Parag Parikh Flexi Cap Fund: This fund is known for its diversified approach. Investing in a flexi cap fund is wise as it offers exposure across market capitalizations.

Suggested Adjustments
Diversification: Ensure that your portfolio is well-diversified across different sectors and asset classes. Over-reliance on specific sectors can increase risk.

Risk Management: Balance your high-risk investments with more stable options. Consider adding some conservative funds to cushion against market volatility.

Additional Investment Suggestions
Balanced Funds: Consider adding balanced or hybrid funds to your portfolio. These funds invest in a mix of equity and debt, offering stability and growth.

Regular Review: Periodically review your investments to ensure they align with your goals. Adjust your portfolio based on market conditions and personal circumstances.

Long-Term Strategy
SIP Discipline: Continue with your disciplined SIP approach. Regular investments help in averaging out market fluctuations and build a substantial corpus over time.

Tax Efficiency: Utilize tax-efficient instruments like PPF and NPS. These not only provide tax benefits but also offer a stable return over the long term.

Step-Up SIPs: Your plan to step up SIPs by 10% annually is excellent. It ensures your investments grow in line with your income, helping you reach your financial goals faster.

Conclusion
Your current mutual fund selections are on the right track for achieving your retirement goal of 3 crores. Ensure diversification, manage risks, and periodically review your portfolio.

Planning for retirement can be complex, but your proactive approach is commendable. Keep up the good work, and stay focused on your goals.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

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