I am 40 year old unmarried man. I never had a gf in my life neither I dated anyone. I started late searching for my life partner. Problem is i am still not sure what are the qualities I am looking for in life partner. Also i come from middle class family with 2 unmarried sisters at home.

Ans: It will help if you sit and make a list of your deal-breakers and negotiables - you may not like to compromise in your deal-breakers while can do so for your negotiables. Length of dates to know if you have met the person differs from person to person - some may know in the first few dates and some take time...Hope this helps.

Ans: Dear Sivakumar,

You can try any dating app to find a life partner. More and more people from metros and smaller cities are using online dating platforms to find the perfect match for marriage. Make sure to mention that you want a serious relationship that will lead to marriage in your bio. This way you will attract people who want the same thing as you and avoid wasting time with people who are in it for casual relationships. Another important tip- please find a suitable dating app that mostly caters to people wanting exclusive relationships.

Best Wishes!

Ans: Hi Sachin,

I understand that dating can sometimes be very frustrating. You have every right to start wondering whether it will work or not. Since you have already tried dating apps and even had a positive experience, I would ask you to recognize that as a win first. Second, let me share some tips with you that might help you find the right kind of matches:

- Write a detailed and attractive Bio. What should it include? 40% about yourself- your education, your quirks and habits, likes and preferences, and everything that makes you you. 10% about what you can offer as a partner. 10% about the type of relationship you want. Do you want to date exclusively, or are you looking for casual? Are you looking to get married or long-term dating? Mention it clearly to attract the right matches. The remaining 40% should be about the kind of person you want to date. Your idea of a perfect partner. It would save you a lot of time and energy on the relationships that start strong but eventually fizzle out.

- The display picture can play an important role. Always pick a recent and clear image to never mislead anyone. Choose an image that shows you in your element, preferably smiling because that makes you seem warm and welcoming. Refrain from over-editing.

- Another important step is the first message. Write a detailed and personalized first message instead of a Hi.

Other than this, I would ask you to have patience. Regardless of the mode of dating, finding the right partner can take time in certain instances. Good things take time.

Best Wishes.

Ans: Dear R,
You can try asking close friends and family members to set you up with someone compatible. If you want more control over this, try a matchmaking and dating app. A little research and you will find the right apps, ideally, the ones that cater to serious daters who are looking to get married. Once you find that, update your profile with a recent picture; write your qualifications in the BIO to impress your matches, and mention exactly what you expect from your match- good looks, caring, loving, and responsible- this would help you attract the right people and save you time and energy from chatting up the wrong matches that will go nowhere. These platforms are perfect for finding a compatible partner because you can, quite literally, filter through tons of people and find the one that suits you best.

Hope this helps. Best Wishes.