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Mohit Arora is a relationship coach, image consultant, soft skills trainer and the founder of Real Dating School. He has a BTech degree in computer science from the Rayat & Bahra Institute of Engineering and Biotechnology, Mohali, Punjab. He has been conducting customised skilling and communication workshops since 2014.... more
Asked by Anonymous - Jun 29, 2024Hindi
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Sir , Honestly I'm aa merit student ...I scored 95.1 percent in boards , 94 percentile in jee main and around 70 marks in jee advanced....Honestly sir career is going good....But sir , Coming to my relationship I've aa girlfriend ....She is also aa merit ....She scored the same percent in studies just like Mee...We've been in relation for 1 and half year from my 11 th class onwards....As 12 th is ending up boards mains and adv exams coming up ....There has been distance ...Like her parents were strict ...So I couldn't get time....I felt like she is ignoring me for her career ...but honestly sir she didn't think abt Mee....She always think abt only her career....So fights and all....But we use to get close again after every fight....But She behaved strange like she was done , when fights were going on....and she left Mee 2 days...just because of problems going on with me in my tough times....She left me like anything....I did love her soo muchh and she betrayed Mee...I'm soo much depressed I just want her to come back for Mee...but she doesn't.....because she never loved not even aa drop of tear...she told me this that she doesn't need to cry because she don't love me anymore....Sir how do they just leave like that....Girls In the society are like this rn....I'm soo muchh stressed and depressed sir....What do u say sir ?

Ans: She has more options that you have. She is getting constantly hit up by other guys. Don't blame the girl. Get better and get more options

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am so sorry you are in such a situation. You have done nothing wrong. Usually, I would ask you to not doubt your partner, but her behavior has not been exactly fair. You communicated your concerns to her, and instead of explaining or trying to reason with it, she dumped you. That seems a bit harsh and also manipulative. I can’t force you to stop trying to contact her, but I will tell you this: no one is worth ruining your health for, especially if that someone does not value you. Please consider letting this relationship go because from what you shared, it doesn’t sound healthy at all. I believe, deep down even you know it. It’s affecting your health. You deserve someone who loves you, and only you. Your health crisis or sorrow is not a “mental issue” to them. Please consider my advise.

Best Wishes.

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand how difficult it is to let go of a relationship you have built from scratch, but is it really how you want to continue? It really seems to be going nowhere. His parents are already in bad health and he married someone else for their happiness. Does it seem like he will be able to leave her? So many people’s happiness and lives depend on this one decision. I think it’s about time you and your BF have a clear conversation about the same. If he can’t give a proper timeline, please try to understand his situation. But also make sure he understands yours and maybe rethink this equation. It really isn’t healthy. You deserve a love you can have wholly, and not just in pieces, and in the shadows.

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