
Um... Hello .. I'm currently a dropper student and had been in a relationship for 1.5 years.. I liked her first. But we broke up. Before breaking up, we had fight on a topic for about 1 week. She is studying in a coaching institute and I'm self studying because of distance problem. But I got to know that a boy was always looking at her and he used to get jealous if she talked to anyone. But she didn't react and when I asked , she said that she knew that he liked her but she didn't say anything to him because he didn't propose to her. But until recently, she doesn't have time to spare with me but she talked with that guy for 8-9 hours . Even on my birthday , I asked her to give me time but she couldn't and she would talk to that guy for 9 hours straight .I used to wait for her for 12 hours straight when she was in coaching, but after she returned I hardly could get 20 mins but she used to talk to him for 3-4 hours. When I asked her, she gave the same excuse that the boy didn't propose yet so she will continue talking to the boy. And , when I take too much stress, my body gets sick , like nosebleed and suffocation and all, but she now treats my behaviour as mental torture as I share my insecurity and my worsening body condition. But last day when I asked the boy, the boy said that the girl(my girlfriend )was responsible for all this And when I said that I contacted the boy. She broke up. I tried to get in contact with her in every way possible but was blocked from every where. And she said that I didn't deserve love or friendship because I was being insecure about her that friend. Can you please.. please tell me where did I do wrong? Or what should I do?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am so sorry you are in such a situation. You have done nothing wrong. Usually, I would ask you to not doubt your partner, but her behavior has not been exactly fair. You communicated your concerns to her, and instead of explaining or trying to reason with it, she dumped you. That seems a bit harsh and also manipulative. I can’t force you to stop trying to contact her, but I will tell you this: no one is worth ruining your health for, especially if that someone does not value you. Please consider letting this relationship go because from what you shared, it doesn’t sound healthy at all. I believe, deep down even you know it. It’s affecting your health. You deserve someone who loves you, and only you. Your health crisis or sorrow is not a “mental issue” to them. Please consider my advise.
Best Wishes.