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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 09, 2024Hindi
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Dear relationship gurus, I am 21 year old boy and i am being good in studies from my childhood but in college my friends used to make GFs but i hesistant to make because i used to feel that career is most important and all the relationships my friends are making are toxic in their reality ,i also feel specially for an middle class boy like me the primary goal should be an a good career and money but in college some girls converse with me but what i always feel that girls are attracted to the guy who have decent amount of money and having a well financial background ,so what really girls sees in a guy ?? And should i also try dating a girl? Because after graduation i feel so alone and sometimes low also ??

Ans: Girls don't care about money. You'll have to learn to talk with women. Make money but it has nothing to do with women.

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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 07, 2024Hindi
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Hi, I am 32 year old male. I have contentment in all major aspects of life such as job, money, friends, family, fun etc. But everytime I try to bring a girl into my life everything just turns in to chaos. There is a lot of pressure from from family, friends and almost everyone that I know for me to get married. But I cannot accept just anyone in my life through matrimony sites or references. I am afraid that the hard work that I have put in all these years to make my life comfortable will be shaken up by marriage. I cannot choose people by their attributes but have to just develop a liking for them. Similarly I have no interest in how a girl looks, what job she does or any material aspects. I am happy with someone who choses me completely and is committed to me. Unfortunately I couldn't find anyone such and I am in the phase of saying no to marriage completely as life is good as it is. I had a girlfriend when I was 25 and she left me after 5 years of relationship because her parents did not accept which I respected. Could connect with anyone else until this year who also left me after an year because her parents will not agree as my parents are not rich enough. I cannot connect with anyone else physically or emotionally. I think it's injustice to the woman I marry if I marry her just for the sake of society. I am completely confused, could you please share your expertise on this. Thanks in advance!
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

It's amazing how you are putting other people's needs over yours. That's very selfless of you. If you don't feel you are ready to commit, there is no rush; no matter what people say. I understand that societal pressure can be very tough, but as you said, being in an incompatible relationship will be tougher on both you and the woman. All I can say here is wait. You are content with your life, and that is more than most people have. Focus on that. Make it even better. If and when the time is right, you will meet someone, and things will fall into place. It might sound cliche, but trust me, this is the best thing to do. Again, I repeat, do not give in to peer pressure. No good things can come out of it.

Best Wishes.

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Financial Planner, MF and Insurance Expert - Answered on Dec 24, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Dec 13, 2025Hindi
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Hi Reetika, im aged 50 and have retired early. Was an NRI till 2024 and in 2025 returned to India. I was keen on investing in the mutual fund market and thus took the plunge. There were 2 aspects of my investment, a) Capital Appreciation , b) Income Growth towards monthly expenses. I had initially planned my monthly expenses post tax as 3 Lacs but having stayed here for a year Im looking at a figure of 2 lacs pm post tax. The corpus that i had set aside to invest was 7.5 Cr out of which I have done the following investments. 1) Chola Finance Perpetual Bonds 50 lacs . Coupon rate is currently 9.25 2) Sriram FD's 30 lacs @8.30 % for 3 years 3) Parag Parikh Flexi Cap Fund - 42 lacs 4) HDFC Flexi Cap Fund - 43 Lacs 5) ICICI Prudential Opportunities Fund - 17 lakhs 6) Nippon Large Cap Fund - 10 Lakhs 7) HDFC Multi Asset Active FOF - 50 Lakhs 8 ) ICICI Prudential Multi Asset Fund - 1 cr 9) ICICI Prudential Balanced Advantage Fund - 1 cr 10 ) SBI Balanced Advantage Fund - 50 Lakhs 11) SBI Gold Fund 10 Lakhs In total it comes to 5.02 Cr. Investments started in May 2025, mutual funds under regular growth. I am yet to invest further in equity funds along with multi asset and fof. Whilst im ok in investing further im just not getting the confidence in equity as of now. Maybe as im a new entrant these jitters but somehow i dont want to committ further to equities given the current situation. Please review my portfolio and suggest any changes , also whats a good time to start on SWP from my BAF funds ? The BAF i invested in Sep 2025. Request you to also suggest my further investments ( amount wise ) in the different funds and how do i time them. Many Thanks
Ans: Hi,

Your 2 aspects of investment are completely ok. But the approach is not correct. The funds you have mentioned are overlapped and not recommended. A portfolio like this doesn't generate good returns for capital appreciation.
Are you taking anyone's help to choose these funds? If yes, you need a better professional. If no, work with a CFP to guide you.

Investing in equity markets now is ok. Understand your concern due to recent volatility and market movements but there's a away to invest in equity. you should connect with a Certified Planner to help you with your existing 5 crore investment ( yes it needs reallocation as soon as possible) and to allocate remaining 2 cr as per your profile.

SWP from BAF is not an ideal way of SWP. There is a different strategy altogether for covering your expenses of 2 lakh pm. So please hold on to do SWP for now. Things will become more complicated and your goal of capital appreciation can vanish.

Please connect with a professional Certified Financial Planner - a CFP who can guide you with exact funds to invest in keeping in mind your age, requirements, financial goals and risk profile. A CFP periodically reviews your portfolio and suggest any amendments to be made, if required.

Let me know if you need more help.

Best Regards,
Reetika Sharma, Certified Financial Planner
https://www.instagram.com/cfpreetika/

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Financial Planner, MF and Insurance Expert - Answered on Dec 24, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Dec 02, 2025Hindi
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Hi Ritika, I am 44-year-old (with old parents aged 73 years and 69 years respectively), with an overall experience of 20 years and currently out of work. I have financial outlay of around 1 lakh INR per month. I have following accrued around 2 CR INR in savings/investments in mine and parents’ name. Self 1. Cash/Bank Balance: 7,79,345 INR 2. Gold: 16,00,000 INR (at present Value) 3. Private Equity Investment: 3,00,000 INR (Current value not known) 4. EPF: 1,91,694 INR (Pension fund certificate to be issued) 5. PPF: 4,34,647 INR (maturing on March 31, 2027) 6. NPS: 7,17,082 INR (Present value, only money can be withdrawn) 7. Mutual Fund: 39,55,990 INR (present value) (Presently no SIP active) a. Kotak Midcap Fund Growth - 462074.39 INR b. Canara Robeco Large and Mid Cap Fund Growth - 232882.56 INR c. Parag Parikh Flexi Cap Fund Growth - 39890.59 INR d. UTI Floater Fund Growth - 140843.37 INR e. ICICI Prudential NASDAQ 100 Index Fund Growth - 4778.28 INR f. HDFC Hybrid Equity Fund Growth - 208010.52 INR g. ICICI Prudential Focused Equity Fund Direct Growth - 158680.09 INR h. Parag Parikh Flexi Cap Fund Growth - 906784.26 INR i. SBI Gold Fund Growth - 229485.03 INR j. Tata Large & Mid Cap Fund Growth - 525368.51 INR k. UTI Mid Cap Fund Direct Growth - 146678.84 INR l. Kotak Focused Fund Growth 500067.79 INR m. Mahindra Manulife Large & Mid Cap Fund Growth 199775.29 Parents (Both senior citizens) 1. Cash/Bank Balance: 21,85,343 INR 2. SCSS: 60,00,000 INR (receive quarterly returns 1,22,400 INR) 3. FD: 40,80,650 INR (approx. monthly return 26,500 INR) 4. RD: 2,06,397 INR (one expiring on Dec 04, 2025 and another around June 22, 2026) 5. Mutual Fund: 39,55,990 INR (present value) Mother a. HDFC Flexi Cap Direct Plan Growth - 5505.76 INR b. Nippon India Large Cap Fund Direct Growth - 5361.17 INR c. HDFC Balanced Advantage Fund Direct Growth - 5303.59 INR Father a. HDFC Flexi Cap Fund Growth - 4611.13 INR b. HDFC Mid Cap Fund Direct Growth - 5414.97 INR c. Nippon India Growth Mid Cap Fund Direct Growth - 5150.97 INR d. HDFC Transportation and Logistics Fund Growth - 5024.97 INR e. HDFC Balanced Advantage Fund Growth - 4364.43 INR f. HDFC Balanced Advantage Fund Direct Growth - 5297.8 INR Please let me know how can I rejig these investment/savings, so that I can fetch necessary returns to run my expenses, without depleting my existing corpus.
Ans: Hi,

I am so sorry to hear about your situation. But you have a very good corpus (whole family) at your age. This can easily fund your expenses till you find a job. Let us analyse the aspects in detail:
1. Cash - 7.7 lakhs in your account. This amount can fund you for 7 months. You can easily prepare for your job & give interviews without worrying for money.
2. Gold - Good but keep it without any thought of selling it.
3. Private equity - 3 lakhs. Direct equity investment is not recommended due to high exposure and continuous monitoring. You can shift this entire amount into mutual funds.
4. Mutual Funds - 39.5 lakhs. A very good corpus at your age. But the funds you mentioned are highly scattered and overlapped. This is one example of a portfolio that we will not recommend. This needs a serious rework. Work with a professional to realign all these funds and amounts keeping in mind your profile. Otherwise it will not give good returns.
And avoid doing the same by yourself as you need to focus on getting a job instead of trying to correct your portfolio. A professional's job is to do it for you.

Your parents assets:
1. Cash - 21 lakhs - quite big amount to keep as cash. Keep minimum of 5 lakhs as cash and do FD of remaining funds.
2. SCSS - 60 lakhs - good, continue.
3. FD - 40.8 lakhs - good but the interest is quite low and taxable. Instead consider putting this money in debt mutual funds.
4. Mutual Funds - both parents have very small amounts in a lot of funds. It is of no use. You can redeem all these funds and choose only 1 fund - HDFC Balanced Advantage Fund for your parents money.

Hopefully you will get a job in 7 months without worrying the need to cover your monthly expenses, and will take a professional's help to work on your portfolio to align it and generate the better returns.

Hence do consult a professional Certified Financial Planner - a CFP who can guide you with exact funds to invest in keeping in mind your age, requirements, financial goals and risk profile. A CFP periodically reviews your portfolio and suggest any amendments to be made, if required.

Let me know if you need more help.

Best Regards,
Reetika Sharma, Certified Financial Planner
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Hello Vivek Sir, I am 48 year having privet Job. I have started investment from 2017, current value of investment is 82L and having monthly 50K SIP as below. My goal to have 2.5Cr corpus at the age of 58. Please advice... 1. Nippon India small cap -Growth Rs 5,000 2. Sundaram Mid Cap fund Regular plan-Growth Rs 5,000 3. ICICI Prudential Small Cap- Growth Rs 10,000 4. ICICI Prudential Large Cap fund-Growth Rs 5,000 5. ICICI Prudential Balanced Adv. fund-Growth Rs 5,000 6. DSP Small Cap fund Regular Growth Rs 5,000 7. Nippn India Pharma Fund- Growth Rs 5,000 8. SBI focused Fund Regular plan- Growth Rs 5,000 9. SBI Dynamic Asset Allocation Active FoF-Regular-Growth Rs 5,000
Ans: Hi Sanjay,

It is great that you are investing since 2017. Long investments and patience always gives results.
You can easily achieve your goal corpus by the time you turn 58, if investment done correctly.
The funds you mentioned have so much overlapping and scattered. It needs rework and complete reallocation. Maximum of 5 funds should be there. Take the help of a professional to align your portfolio with your goal and customized profile.
A random portfolio like yours can create an opposite impact.
Also try to increase the monthly SIP by 10% each year. This will take care of inflation power.

Hence do consult a professional Certified Financial Planner - a CFP who can guide you with exact funds to invest in keeping in mind your age, requirements, financial goals and risk profile. A CFP periodically reviews your portfolio and suggest any amendments to be made, if required.

Let me know if you need more help.

Best Regards,
Reetika Sharma, Certified Financial Planner
https://www.instagram.com/cfpreetika/

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Dec 24, 2025

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Hello sir , I am 62 yrs and now have 25 lakh surplus money , where to invest if mutual fuds please recommend the good funds to me with %.thanks
Ans: Your discipline in building surplus funds deserves genuine appreciation.
Reaching this stage reflects patience, planning, and financial maturity.
At 62, your focus rightly shifts toward stability and steady income.
At the same time, growth must continue to fight inflation.
A balanced approach is therefore very important now.

» Age, Life Stage, and Investment Context
You are in the early retirement transition phase.
Capital protection becomes more important than aggressive growth.
Regular income matters more than high returns now.
Volatility should be controlled carefully.
Liquidity should be available for emergencies.
Tax efficiency must be managed smartly.

Mutual funds still suit this phase well.
They offer flexibility, transparency, and diversification.
They also allow gradual withdrawals when needed.

» Core Investment Philosophy at 62
Your money must work without stressing you.
Every rupee should have a clear purpose.
Risk should be measured and intentional.
Returns should be reasonable and repeatable.
Cash flow should feel predictable.

Avoid chasing market highs at this age.
Avoid locking funds for very long periods.
Avoid complicated structures and opaque products.

» Recommended Asset Allocation for Rs.25 Lakh
This allocation balances safety, income, and growth.
It also manages market ups and downs.

– Equity-oriented mutual funds: 35%
– Debt-oriented mutual funds: 55%
– Hybrid-oriented mutual funds: 10%

This structure keeps volatility under control.
It also allows reasonable growth over time.

» Role of Equity Mutual Funds at Your Age
Equity is still necessary even after 60.
Inflation reduces purchasing power every year.
Medical costs rise faster than general inflation.
Equity helps your money stay relevant.

However, equity exposure must be limited.
It must also be diversified and disciplined.

» Equity Mutual Fund Allocation – 35%
This equals around Rs.8.75 lakh.

Suggested internal split is as follows.

– Large, established companies focused funds: 25%
– Flexibly managed equity strategies: 10%

Large company exposure provides stability.
Business models are proven and resilient.
Earnings visibility is generally better.

Flexible equity strategies add adaptability.
Fund managers adjust based on market conditions.
This reduces risk during market corrections.

Avoid aggressive mid and small company focus now.
They bring sharp volatility and emotional stress.

» Why Actively Managed Equity Funds Matter
Markets are not always efficient in India.
Corporate governance quality varies widely.
Sector cycles change unpredictably.

Active managers can avoid weak businesses.
They can reduce exposure during excess valuations.
They can increase quality bias during uncertainty.

This flexibility matters more after retirement.

» Debt Mutual Funds as the Stability Anchor
Debt funds will form your portfolio backbone.
They provide stability and predictable behaviour.
They also support regular income planning.

At 62, debt allocation should dominate.
It protects capital during equity market falls.

» Debt Mutual Fund Allocation – 55%
This equals around Rs.13.75 lakh.

Suggested internal structure is below.

– Short maturity focused debt strategies: 25%
– Medium duration debt strategies: 15%
– Conservative income-oriented debt strategies: 15%

Short maturity funds reduce interest rate risk.
They are suitable for near-term needs.
They offer better predictability.

Medium duration funds balance return and risk.
They work well for three to five years horizon.

Income-oriented debt strategies support steady cash flow.
They also smooth overall portfolio returns.

Avoid credit risk heavy strategies at this stage.
Chasing extra yield can damage capital.

» Tax View on Debt Mutual Funds
Debt fund gains are taxed at slab rates.
This applies to both short and long holding periods.
Plan withdrawals in lower income years.
This improves post-tax outcomes.

» Hybrid Mutual Funds – Limited but Useful
Hybrid funds combine equity and debt exposure.
They reduce volatility through internal balancing.
They simplify allocation management.

However, allocation must remain limited.

» Hybrid Mutual Fund Allocation – 10%
This equals around Rs.2.5 lakh.

Choose conservative hybrid orientation only.
Debt portion should dominate clearly.
Equity portion should be controlled.

This segment acts as a shock absorber.
It also supports smoother returns.

» Liquidity and Emergency Planning
Always keep liquid access available.
Unexpected medical or family needs can arise.

Ensure at least twelve months expenses remain accessible.
This can be through savings or liquid-oriented funds.
Do not invest entire surplus tightly.

» Withdrawal Strategy Planning
Investment is only half the journey.
Withdrawal planning matters equally now.

Use a staggered withdrawal approach.
Avoid redeeming equity during market downturns.
Withdraw debt portion first during volatility.

This protects long-term growth potential.

» Market Volatility and Emotional Comfort
Market corrections are unavoidable.
Your portfolio must allow peaceful sleep.

The suggested allocation reduces panic risk.
It avoids sharp portfolio swings.

Emotional comfort is a hidden return.
It matters greatly after retirement.

» Rebalancing Discipline
Portfolio balance will change over time.
Equity may grow faster in bull markets.

Review allocation once every year.
Shift excess equity gains into debt.
This protects accumulated profits.

Do not rebalance too frequently.
Avoid reacting to short-term noise.

» Inflation Protection Over Retirement Years
Inflation silently erodes fixed incomes.
Medical inflation is especially dangerous.

Equity exposure counters this risk.
Active management further improves protection.

Without equity, retirement corpus shrinks in real terms.

» Estate and Nomination Discipline
Ensure nominations are updated everywhere.
This includes mutual funds and bank accounts.

Create a clear will if absent.
This avoids future family disputes.

Review beneficiaries regularly.

» What Not to Do at This Stage
Avoid chasing high return promises.
Avoid locking funds into illiquid structures.
Avoid concentration in single themes.
Avoid frequent portfolio tinkering.

Simplicity supports longevity planning.

» Monitoring and Review Framework
Review portfolio annually, not daily.
Track alignment with life needs.
Adjust only if life circumstances change.

Market noise should not guide actions.

» Final Insights
You have reached a position of strength.
Your surplus reflects years of discipline.
The goal now is sustainability, not speed.

A balanced mutual fund approach fits well.
It offers growth, income, and flexibility.
It respects your age and responsibilities.

With proper allocation and patience,
your money can support you comfortably.

Stay invested with clarity and confidence.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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