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Anu Krishna |1576 Answers |Ask -Follow
Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 01, 2025
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Arranged Marriage Pressure: Girlfriend's Family Ignoring My Job Prospects and Caste
Ans: Dear solar,
In sab ke beech, aapke girlfriend ka kya kehna hai? Woh aapne bataaya nahin. Kya woh apne parents ko tall sakegi aur kitni der kar paayegi? Kya woh aapke jon lagne tak intezzar karna chahti hai? Aisa lag raha hai ki is rishte ka wazan aap leke ghoom rake ho...thoda apne girlfriend ke saath baithkar plan kijiye taaki woh bhi aapke saath is samasya ka hal dhoond sake.
Ek baat toh hai ki uske parents ko manaana mushkil hoga aur jab tak aapki job nahin lagti woh is rishte ke liye raazi nahin honge. Toh plan yeh karna ki jab tak aapki naukri lage, tab tak aap dono is baat ko aur is samasaya ko aur uske parents ko kaise sambhalenge. Joh bhi ho saath mein milke plan karna.
All the best!
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In sab ke beech, aapke girlfriend ka kya kehna hai? Woh aapne bataaya nahin. Kya woh apne parents ko tall sakegi aur kitni der kar paayegi? Kya woh aapke jon lagne tak intezzar karna chahti hai? Aisa lag raha hai ki is rishte ka wazan aap leke ghoom rake ho...thoda apne girlfriend ke saath baithkar plan kijiye taaki woh bhi aapke saath is samasya ka hal dhoond sake.
Ek baat toh hai ki uske parents ko manaana mushkil hoga aur jab tak aapki job nahin lagti woh is rishte ke liye raazi nahin honge. Toh plan yeh karna ki jab tak aapki naukri lage, tab tak aap dono is baat ko aur is samasaya ko aur uske parents ko kaise sambhalenge. Joh bhi ho saath mein milke plan karna.
All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 01, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 05, 2025Hindi
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Can I save my marriage without a divorce or suicide?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Forget everyone... Marriage is between two people and only they matter. You can't see your wife in pain, right? Then there's obviously affection still left for her. Work this out as a couple. Take a vacation away from in-laws, sister, parents...people can complicate matters more than the couple themselves...The two of you do need this time by yourselves to rebuild your marriage. Do it with an intention to work things out and you maybe surprised as to how things can get rebuilt between the two of you.
All the best!
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Forget everyone... Marriage is between two people and only they matter. You can't see your wife in pain, right? Then there's obviously affection still left for her. Work this out as a couple. Take a vacation away from in-laws, sister, parents...people can complicate matters more than the couple themselves...The two of you do need this time by yourselves to rebuild your marriage. Do it with an intention to work things out and you maybe surprised as to how things can get rebuilt between the two of you.
All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 01, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 24, 2025
I have caught ky wife affair when i ask about this continuously she sometimes blackmail me she will do something to her,what should i do
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Kindly go for an intervention to a Marriage Therapist who can help you and your wife pull back the strings and work things together. Obviously she's not playing fair when she has begun to blackmail you; the only way to bring things out will be to work with an external person and see where things lead...
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Kindly go for an intervention to a Marriage Therapist who can help you and your wife pull back the strings and work things together. Obviously she's not playing fair when she has begun to blackmail you; the only way to bring things out will be to work with an external person and see where things lead...
All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Dr Upneet Kaur |25 Answers |Ask -Follow
Marriage counsellor - Answered on Mar 31, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 30, 2025
I am a 25 year girl. I am in love with a 42 year men. He is also in love with me but he is married too. What should I do ?
Ans: Hello mam. Mam, knowing that he is married and has a family to support it is not a good decision to move ahead in this relationship. He might be having a mid life crisis and feels that he is in love with you but he should concentrate on his family and you should presently concentrate on your career. Your parents also might not approve this alliance.
Plz rethink on this advice and take the right decision. Take care!
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Plz rethink on this advice and take the right decision. Take care!
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Ravi Mittal |557 Answers |Ask -Follow
Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Mar 31, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 30, 2025Hindi
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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Like you mentioned, it is very normal for old friends to enquire about each other, especially if they have not been in touch for a long time. It might be the same in this case. The only way to tell for sure is to ask her. If you are interested in reconnecting, you can think about the same and ask her once you are back in talking terms. But I would recommend not assuming anything and getting your hopes up.
Best Wishes.
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Like you mentioned, it is very normal for old friends to enquire about each other, especially if they have not been in touch for a long time. It might be the same in this case. The only way to tell for sure is to ask her. If you are interested in reconnecting, you can think about the same and ask her once you are back in talking terms. But I would recommend not assuming anything and getting your hopes up.
Best Wishes.
Kanchan Rai |571 Answers |Ask -Follow
Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 30, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 29, 2025Hindi
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Sidelined in Sales: How to Handle a Competitive Colleague?
Ans: Start by documenting instances where your colleague takes your customers. Keep track of assigned leads, interactions, and any proof that shows unfair interference. Once you have enough evidence, approach your manager diplomatically. Instead of complaining, frame it as a concern about fair opportunity and teamwork. You can say something like, "I’ve noticed some overlap in customer assignments, and I want to ensure a structured approach so that everyone gets a fair chance to contribute."
At the same time, build relationships with other colleagues. Even if they are currently sidelining you, consistency in communication and showing your expertise will gradually shift their perception. Join informal discussions, offer insights, and find ways to make yourself valuable within the team. Sales is as much about internal networking as it is about customer engagement.
For your customers, establish stronger direct relationships. The more your clients trust you, the harder it will be for someone else to take them. Be proactive in follow-ups, personalize your approach, and make them feel you are the go-to person for their needs. If you can, set up meetings or calls with them before your colleague gets the chance.
If your workplace has a CRM system, ensure that your interactions with customers are properly logged. This creates a record of your engagement and makes it harder for someone else to claim them unfairly. If processes for lead allocation are unclear, suggest to management that a transparent system be put in place to avoid conflicts.
This will take time, but by being assertive, strategic, and focused on performance, you can shift the dynamics in your favor. If you remain consistent and prove your worth, your position in the team will strengthen, and your colleagues will have no choice but to acknowledge your contribution.
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At the same time, build relationships with other colleagues. Even if they are currently sidelining you, consistency in communication and showing your expertise will gradually shift their perception. Join informal discussions, offer insights, and find ways to make yourself valuable within the team. Sales is as much about internal networking as it is about customer engagement.
For your customers, establish stronger direct relationships. The more your clients trust you, the harder it will be for someone else to take them. Be proactive in follow-ups, personalize your approach, and make them feel you are the go-to person for their needs. If you can, set up meetings or calls with them before your colleague gets the chance.
If your workplace has a CRM system, ensure that your interactions with customers are properly logged. This creates a record of your engagement and makes it harder for someone else to claim them unfairly. If processes for lead allocation are unclear, suggest to management that a transparent system be put in place to avoid conflicts.
This will take time, but by being assertive, strategic, and focused on performance, you can shift the dynamics in your favor. If you remain consistent and prove your worth, your position in the team will strengthen, and your colleagues will have no choice but to acknowledge your contribution.
Kanchan Rai |571 Answers |Ask -Follow
Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 28, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 27, 2025Hindi
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Long-Term Relationship Facing Arranged Marriage: What Should I Do? (SC and General Caste)
Ans: The real question here is not just about her parents—it's about her. If she truly wants to be with you, she needs to resist this marriage and make it clear that she does not consent. But if she is unable to stand up to them, then you need to ask yourself if you want to keep fighting for someone who is not fighting alongside you. Love is powerful, but it cannot survive if only one person is struggling to keep it alive.
Right now, you need to have an honest conversation with her. Ask her directly if she is ready to resist or if she is feeling too pressured to fight back. If she wants to be with you but is feeling trapped, you both need to find a way to delay or stop this marriage. But if she is already giving in to their pressure, then you need to start preparing yourself for the painful truth that she may not choose you in the end.
At the same time, focus on your own stability. Your career is not just about proving her family wrong—it is about securing your future and self-worth. No matter what happens with this relationship, you need to build a life where no one can ever make you feel like you are not good enough again. It is not easy to walk away from love, but sometimes, choosing yourself is the only way forward.
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Right now, you need to have an honest conversation with her. Ask her directly if she is ready to resist or if she is feeling too pressured to fight back. If she wants to be with you but is feeling trapped, you both need to find a way to delay or stop this marriage. But if she is already giving in to their pressure, then you need to start preparing yourself for the painful truth that she may not choose you in the end.
At the same time, focus on your own stability. Your career is not just about proving her family wrong—it is about securing your future and self-worth. No matter what happens with this relationship, you need to build a life where no one can ever make you feel like you are not good enough again. It is not easy to walk away from love, but sometimes, choosing yourself is the only way forward.
Kanchan Rai |571 Answers |Ask -Follow
Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 28, 2025
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Controlling Parents: Trapped Between Their Happiness and My Own
Ans: Dear Niveditha,
Right now, your emotions are tangled in hurt, anger, and helplessness, but you are not powerless. The first thing you need to do is detach emotionally from their guilt-tripping. You cannot live your entire life trying to please people who refuse to acknowledge your needs. It’s okay to love and respect your parents, but not at the cost of losing yourself.
Start setting boundaries, even if it feels impossible at first. If they constantly taunt you, limit conversations with them. If they threaten to cut ties, remind yourself that love should not be conditional. If they refuse to support you, find strength within yourself. You are already surviving without their emotional backing, which means you are stronger than you think.
As for your relationship, you need to ask yourself—are you willing to sacrifice your happiness just to avoid family drama? If you truly love this person and see a future together, you will need to stand firm in your decision. Love requires courage, and choosing your happiness is not selfish—it’s necessary.
You are not alone in this. Many people fight similar battles with families who refuse to understand. But at the end of the day, this is your life. You deserve love, respect, and the right to make your own choices. No matter what happens, never let their words make you believe you are unworthy of happiness. Keep fighting for yourself, because you deserve it.
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Right now, your emotions are tangled in hurt, anger, and helplessness, but you are not powerless. The first thing you need to do is detach emotionally from their guilt-tripping. You cannot live your entire life trying to please people who refuse to acknowledge your needs. It’s okay to love and respect your parents, but not at the cost of losing yourself.
Start setting boundaries, even if it feels impossible at first. If they constantly taunt you, limit conversations with them. If they threaten to cut ties, remind yourself that love should not be conditional. If they refuse to support you, find strength within yourself. You are already surviving without their emotional backing, which means you are stronger than you think.
As for your relationship, you need to ask yourself—are you willing to sacrifice your happiness just to avoid family drama? If you truly love this person and see a future together, you will need to stand firm in your decision. Love requires courage, and choosing your happiness is not selfish—it’s necessary.
You are not alone in this. Many people fight similar battles with families who refuse to understand. But at the end of the day, this is your life. You deserve love, respect, and the right to make your own choices. No matter what happens, never let their words make you believe you are unworthy of happiness. Keep fighting for yourself, because you deserve it.
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 28, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 25, 2025Hindi
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Ans: A relationship, even in its early stages, should not feel like a duty. While some people do take time to open up, a complete lack of initiation from her side raises important concerns. Communication is not just about words; it’s also about effort, interest, and a willingness to connect. If she truly wanted to get to know you, even at a slow pace, there would be at least some level of curiosity or effort from her side.
It’s good that you gave space to see if she would reach out, but her silence for an entire month speaks volumes. This is not about overthinking—it’s about acknowledging your feelings and recognizing whether the emotional energy you are investing is being reciprocated. If she is this distant now, it’s fair to wonder whether this pattern will continue after marriage.
Rather than silently carrying these doubts, it would be best to have an open conversation with her. Express your feelings calmly and ask her directly about her thoughts on the relationship. It’s important to know whether she is truly interested or just going along with the marriage out of obligation. Clarity now can save you from deeper emotional struggles later.
Marriage is a lifelong commitment, and both partners should walk into it with confidence, not just because it was arranged or expected. If her response still feels indifferent or passive, you have every right to reconsider. This is your life, and you deserve a partner who values building a connection as much as you do.
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It’s good that you gave space to see if she would reach out, but her silence for an entire month speaks volumes. This is not about overthinking—it’s about acknowledging your feelings and recognizing whether the emotional energy you are investing is being reciprocated. If she is this distant now, it’s fair to wonder whether this pattern will continue after marriage.
Rather than silently carrying these doubts, it would be best to have an open conversation with her. Express your feelings calmly and ask her directly about her thoughts on the relationship. It’s important to know whether she is truly interested or just going along with the marriage out of obligation. Clarity now can save you from deeper emotional struggles later.
Marriage is a lifelong commitment, and both partners should walk into it with confidence, not just because it was arranged or expected. If her response still feels indifferent or passive, you have every right to reconsider. This is your life, and you deserve a partner who values building a connection as much as you do.
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Marriage counsellor - Answered on Mar 28, 2025
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Will My Parents Ever Accept My Marriage to a Vegetable Seller's Daughter?
Ans: Hello sir! People do have different backgrounds. No two persons can have exactly same financial backgrounds. As long as you are settled and you are accepting her by heart, her financial background doesn't really matter. But one thing is there that you should not make her realise at any point of time that she has a weak background than you. You can slowly convince your parents also to accept the girl by heart and include her in your family. I hope this solves your problem.
Take care!
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Take care!
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Marriage counsellor - Answered on Mar 28, 2025
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Daughter Wants Intercaste & Interfaith Marriage with Younger Man, Seeking Guidance.
Ans: Hello sir. I understand that parents are the only ones who want the best for their children, no matter their age. As now your daughter is a doctor and is considering a doctor only is not a bad option. Earlier there was an issue of caste and age in the society but now the difference is getting vanish. Love marriage is considered normal now despite the difference in caste or age. You can meet the boy once or twice and clear your doubts. After that both the families can sit and talk. After all its the happiness of your daughter that matters. According to me, should should consider this option.
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Take care!
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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Mar 27, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 27, 2025
I am a girl who wants to have sex who also a virgin like me..but I already give it to my boyfriend cause I thought his the one but after the cuddle he told me that he already did that on his ex should I accept it??even its hurt to hear??
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
How can someone else tell whether you should or should not accept something? It depends on your values and desires. And what you want does not align with what you got- if that bothers you then you can rethink this. But also consider this one thing- what if your next partner treats you the same way? Would that be okay? Do you think these factors should matter in a relationship? Think hard on this and make your choice.
Hope this helps.
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How can someone else tell whether you should or should not accept something? It depends on your values and desires. And what you want does not align with what you got- if that bothers you then you can rethink this. But also consider this one thing- what if your next partner treats you the same way? Would that be okay? Do you think these factors should matter in a relationship? Think hard on this and make your choice.
Hope this helps.
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 26, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 06, 2025Hindi
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Why Can't I Bond with my Older Brother?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Yes, it's absolutely normal to have a sibling with whom you can't really look up to. The key here is to accept people for who they are and what they put into a relationship especially when it comes to sibling associations. The more you start to demand in your mind, the more your brother will keep falling short and the chances of a healthy connection will go missing. Instead, you can put what you wish to into the relationship without really expecting nothing much in return. In fact, you will be at peace...
Difficult to do but not impossible...
All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Yes, it's absolutely normal to have a sibling with whom you can't really look up to. The key here is to accept people for who they are and what they put into a relationship especially when it comes to sibling associations. The more you start to demand in your mind, the more your brother will keep falling short and the chances of a healthy connection will go missing. Instead, you can put what you wish to into the relationship without really expecting nothing much in return. In fact, you will be at peace...
Difficult to do but not impossible...
All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Dr Upneet Kaur |25 Answers |Ask -Follow
Marriage counsellor - Answered on Mar 25, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 20, 2025Hindi
Listen Husband Ignores Me and Doesn't Respect Me as a Housewife: How Can I Regain Respect and Become Financially Independent?
Ans: Hello mam,
The problem you are facing is very important to discuss. Well, I appreciate your sacrifice of leaving your job for your son and in laws. I understand that you have to take care of your in laws also and your family also. In today's world there are many work from home options that you can see and work on like you can join some coaching site, or if you know something then you can share your knowledge with others. You can earn very well by working from home and you can take care of your family also. I hope this will work. Gradually your husband and your son will understand you and start respecting you. Take care !
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The problem you are facing is very important to discuss. Well, I appreciate your sacrifice of leaving your job for your son and in laws. I understand that you have to take care of your in laws also and your family also. In today's world there are many work from home options that you can see and work on like you can join some coaching site, or if you know something then you can share your knowledge with others. You can earn very well by working from home and you can take care of your family also. I hope this will work. Gradually your husband and your son will understand you and start respecting you. Take care !
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Marriage counsellor - Answered on Mar 25, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 20, 2025
Hello Dr Kaur. My husband chats with random women online at night. We have been married for 5 years and have a 2 year old daughter who sleeps next to us. It is embarrassing and I have caught him secretly checking out women on dating apps and social media. I don't know if he is casually browsing, dating or having an affair outside of our marriage. When I walk into the room, he will switch off his screen and pretend to sleep or work on something important and change the topic immediately. Ours is an arranged marriage. How do I discuss this nicely without offending him? Please help.
Ans: Hello mam
It's completely understandable that you're feeling concerned, embarrassed, and unsure about how to approach this situation. As a relationship counselor, I'd suggest that you choose a calm and private moment to talk to your husband, avoiding any blaming tone. Start expressing your feelings and concerns. You could say, "Hey, I wanted to talk to you about something that's been bothering me. I've noticed that you're often on your phone at night, and I feel uncomfortable not knowing what's going on. Can we talk about what's going on and why you're doing this?" In this way, you may be able to have a more open and honest discussion about what's going on and work together to find a resolution that strengthens your relationship.
Take care!
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It's completely understandable that you're feeling concerned, embarrassed, and unsure about how to approach this situation. As a relationship counselor, I'd suggest that you choose a calm and private moment to talk to your husband, avoiding any blaming tone. Start expressing your feelings and concerns. You could say, "Hey, I wanted to talk to you about something that's been bothering me. I've noticed that you're often on your phone at night, and I feel uncomfortable not knowing what's going on. Can we talk about what's going on and why you're doing this?" In this way, you may be able to have a more open and honest discussion about what's going on and work together to find a resolution that strengthens your relationship.
Take care!
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Dr Upneet kaur
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Marriage counsellor - Answered on Mar 25, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 20, 2025Hindi
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Marriage counsellor - Answered on Mar 25, 2025
HI! i need an advice on how convince my parents, i am in love with a guy who is much genuine to all my feelings and loves me to the core, well he earns a quite less than me, that is the major reason for my parents disapproval also he belongs to a different caste, i had tried convincing my parents certain times telling them about how we could handle our lives happily but it ended up in them blackmailing emotionally, and verbally and physically abusing. i found this page and thought this would be apt for giving me answers
Ans: Hello mam, it is not bad to fall in love with a person who has a different caste from yours or earns a little less than yours.
Financial things can be managed at a point but he should be willing to change his own situation by working on it.
You can sit with your parents and talk to them and convince them to atleast have a meeting with the boy and share their concerns with him. I am sure you will be able to convince them and make the things in order. Take care !
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Financial things can be managed at a point but he should be willing to change his own situation by working on it.
You can sit with your parents and talk to them and convince them to atleast have a meeting with the boy and share their concerns with him. I am sure you will be able to convince them and make the things in order. Take care !
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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Mar 25, 2025
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My Boyfriend Hates My Music Video?
Ans: Dear Srijal,
If you know there is nothing awkward or controversial about the scenes, keep your head held high. The most you can do here is ask your partner what is it about the situation that’s bothering him so much- if his answer sounds reasonable, you can try to clarify things. But if it is simply his mindset or nature that is making the entire situation more complicated than it is, please rethink this relationship. This might repeat with several other innocent situations.
Hope this helps
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If you know there is nothing awkward or controversial about the scenes, keep your head held high. The most you can do here is ask your partner what is it about the situation that’s bothering him so much- if his answer sounds reasonable, you can try to clarify things. But if it is simply his mindset or nature that is making the entire situation more complicated than it is, please rethink this relationship. This might repeat with several other innocent situations.
Hope this helps
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Marriage counsellor - Answered on Mar 25, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 18, 2025
I am 21 years old girl and I am preparing for my banking exam. I have completed my bachelor's and currently I am pursuing m.com . I am having an affair with a guy who is married having two children and we have together spent 4 years. We love each other alot and he also takes care for me everytime. My mother abstained me from talking to him last year as we committed her that we want to marry but now everything is ok My mother is also talking to him and I am also . My mother is not agree with this marriage but his mother is agree . What should we do now???
Ans: Hello mam,
I understand your dilemma mam. Let's look at both aspects of this relationship.
If you go ahead with this relationship, what have you thought about his previous family? His marital status and family commitments can't be ignored. Have you considered the potential impact on his children and wife? Their life will be ruined and kids future will be at stake.
Secondly, your mother concern is very important and correct. The person who already has family commitments will not be able to invest the same amount of financial and emotional resources in your relationship.
I understand that you have invested four years in your relationship and you both care for each other. But in this case, it is advisable for both the families to sit and discuss every aspect and problems of this situation. The situation will get clear and you ll be able to take a better decision. You can also try couple counsellings.
In case the things dont work out then accept the reality and move on gracefully and welcome the opportunities that are waiting for you with open arms.
Take care !
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I understand your dilemma mam. Let's look at both aspects of this relationship.
If you go ahead with this relationship, what have you thought about his previous family? His marital status and family commitments can't be ignored. Have you considered the potential impact on his children and wife? Their life will be ruined and kids future will be at stake.
Secondly, your mother concern is very important and correct. The person who already has family commitments will not be able to invest the same amount of financial and emotional resources in your relationship.
I understand that you have invested four years in your relationship and you both care for each other. But in this case, it is advisable for both the families to sit and discuss every aspect and problems of this situation. The situation will get clear and you ll be able to take a better decision. You can also try couple counsellings.
In case the things dont work out then accept the reality and move on gracefully and welcome the opportunities that are waiting for you with open arms.
Take care !
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 25, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 24, 2025Hindi
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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I don't predict the future BUT I can tell you that when the age gap is large, thoughts and value systems start to become different and 19 years is a very long gap...so, it can cause issues within the marriage when mind compatibility fails.
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I don't predict the future BUT I can tell you that when the age gap is large, thoughts and value systems start to become different and 19 years is a very long gap...so, it can cause issues within the marriage when mind compatibility fails.
All the best!
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 25, 2025
Sir mera Naam Rakesh h mai ek ladki se pyar krta hu hm teen saal se relationship me h...Bt 5 saal phle ladki ki mami ne usko phla fusla kr uski shadi apni kisi ristedar se krwa de..shadi ke bad ladki ke ghr wale ladki ki support me the or unhone ladki ko ni bhja or ladki bhi us ladke ke sath ni jana chte the..us ladke ne trh trh ki dhmkia de ki tmhre bhai ko marwa dege tmhre ghr walo ko jel krwa dege or hm suicide kr lege or sbko fasa dege aise dhmkia deta rha....ab 5 saal bad ladki ke ghr wale bhi jhuk gai or ladki pe presure bna ke or emotional krke uski shadi krwa de...bt ladki us narak se niklna chte h ladki ke pas wo sare sabut bhi h jo ladki ne in 5 saalo pe usko sataya h....audio... vedeo...fasi lagate hue usne photo bhje...msgs me dhmkia de wo sb h ladki ke pass...ab aap btai ki ladki kaise nikl skte h us daldal se kyoki ab wo apne maike bhi ni ja skte...
Ans: Dear Shaoryam,
Isme kainsi saazish karna hai? Nikalna hai daldal se niklo...itna kya sochna? Agar uski zindagi nark banegi toh wahaan kyon zindagi shuru kare...boriya bistar baandho aur niklo...phaansi ki acting woh kare, dhamkiyan woh de aur dare yeh ladki...kyon? Sabut hai na?
Lekin in sab mein aapka kya role hai joh itna pareshaan ho rahe hain?
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Isme kainsi saazish karna hai? Nikalna hai daldal se niklo...itna kya sochna? Agar uski zindagi nark banegi toh wahaan kyon zindagi shuru kare...boriya bistar baandho aur niklo...phaansi ki acting woh kare, dhamkiyan woh de aur dare yeh ladki...kyon? Sabut hai na?
Lekin in sab mein aapka kya role hai joh itna pareshaan ho rahe hain?
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 25, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 19, 2025Hindi
Listen What can I do to improve my relationship with my wife who has anger issues?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Well, if only she could appreciate all your efforts towards the family and her. But you know what; what she could be missing is the emotional connection with you especially when you work 7 days a week...it leaves you very little time with the family or for her. This can cause a lack within your relationship. Is it possible for you take a day off so that you have time for yourself and your family? It maybe the same job or something else. I know that changes are hard to make BUT at the end of the day, relationships especially the core ones matter the most, don't they?
This change can definitely put things back together and give your wife the opportunity to be with you and appreciate you even more...
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Well, if only she could appreciate all your efforts towards the family and her. But you know what; what she could be missing is the emotional connection with you especially when you work 7 days a week...it leaves you very little time with the family or for her. This can cause a lack within your relationship. Is it possible for you take a day off so that you have time for yourself and your family? It maybe the same job or something else. I know that changes are hard to make BUT at the end of the day, relationships especially the core ones matter the most, don't they?
This change can definitely put things back together and give your wife the opportunity to be with you and appreciate you even more...
All the best!
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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Mar 24, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 21, 2025Hindi
Listen Hindu Girl in Love with Muslim Boy: What Should I Do?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It depends on how important religion is to you and your family. If you think it can cause a lot of problems later, if and when you both tell your parents about your relationship, then I would suggest avoiding this. He might love you now, but would he be able to stand up to his family when the time comes? Ask him that and think about it yourself as well before making any decision.
Best Wishes.
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It depends on how important religion is to you and your family. If you think it can cause a lot of problems later, if and when you both tell your parents about your relationship, then I would suggest avoiding this. He might love you now, but would he be able to stand up to his family when the time comes? Ask him that and think about it yourself as well before making any decision.
Best Wishes.
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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Mar 24, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 21, 2025Hindi
Listen He's perfect for me, but different: how do I convince my parents?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am sorry you are standing in such a tricky situation. First of all, I want to know if you have a job? If yes, would two people's salaries together provide a comfortable life? If not, do you think his salary alone will cut it in this economy?
I want you to ask yourself the same questions. If you do not have a job yet, I would urge you to try for one. Financial independence is extremely important, especially for women. Now, I cannot comment on the caste thing, because the seriousness of that differs from family to family, but if it is earning that is bothering your parents, you can wait a bit and aim for a higher-salaried job and pitch in the same idea. Or at least, show your parents that you and your parents are willing to put in the work. Their concerns about income are not completely baseless, because once life becomes uncomfortable, love can take a backseat. Focus on building a better career and then get married. Do this for yourself, and not just for your parents.
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I am sorry you are standing in such a tricky situation. First of all, I want to know if you have a job? If yes, would two people's salaries together provide a comfortable life? If not, do you think his salary alone will cut it in this economy?
I want you to ask yourself the same questions. If you do not have a job yet, I would urge you to try for one. Financial independence is extremely important, especially for women. Now, I cannot comment on the caste thing, because the seriousness of that differs from family to family, but if it is earning that is bothering your parents, you can wait a bit and aim for a higher-salaried job and pitch in the same idea. Or at least, show your parents that you and your parents are willing to put in the work. Their concerns about income are not completely baseless, because once life becomes uncomfortable, love can take a backseat. Focus on building a better career and then get married. Do this for yourself, and not just for your parents.
Hope this helps
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 24, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 18, 2025Hindi
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42-Year-Old Professional Seeks Advice on Overcoming Dislike for Remote Meetings
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Many people have disliked the 'work from home' option that involves a lot of virtual interface. But do remind yourself: What is the need of the hour? There are a lot of things that you may dislike as eating options but you do anyway knowing that they are good for health, right?
When you start obsessing over something that you don't want, it makes it bigger in your mind to tolerate and that can cause you a lot of struggle. So, why not instead find ways of dealing with the inevitable?
How can you make things better for yourself when you have virtual meets and presentations? What are the advantages/perks of doing these virtually? When you start to look at the brighter side of things, the disinterest kind of starts to fade away and it makes it easier for you to be a part of what your work demands.
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Many people have disliked the 'work from home' option that involves a lot of virtual interface. But do remind yourself: What is the need of the hour? There are a lot of things that you may dislike as eating options but you do anyway knowing that they are good for health, right?
When you start obsessing over something that you don't want, it makes it bigger in your mind to tolerate and that can cause you a lot of struggle. So, why not instead find ways of dealing with the inevitable?
How can you make things better for yourself when you have virtual meets and presentations? What are the advantages/perks of doing these virtually? When you start to look at the brighter side of things, the disinterest kind of starts to fade away and it makes it easier for you to be a part of what your work demands.
All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 24, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 13, 2025
I had a 2 years relationship with a girl. Last year she left me for another guy and gave him her virginity and got pregnant. After getting abortion that guy left her. Now she came back to me and talked to me for about 2 months just as friends but i loved her so much that i forgave her and accepted her and we got in relationship. But one night she told me about all her past with her 2nd boyfriend. Now i don't want to keep relationship as her past makes me shiver and i promised her for marriage but i can't get over the fact that she cheated me and lost virginity to another guy then came back and wants me to marry her. So if i am not sure of marriage should i involve in physical activities with her ( we never envolved in physical activities before ) or should i avoid doing that until i am sure of marrying her.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You are not even sure whether you want to accept her past with the other guy. If you have not made peace with this, why talk of marriage and indulging in physical stuff with her? It's not her this time; it's YOU!
So, take a break from this association, clear your mind space on what you want from life and a life partner. If she is the person you know that fits the description, then perhaps the past will not matter. Mere love is not enough, what you value in a relationship is in question now...so, take time to think i through and then make a decision on it.
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You are not even sure whether you want to accept her past with the other guy. If you have not made peace with this, why talk of marriage and indulging in physical stuff with her? It's not her this time; it's YOU!
So, take a break from this association, clear your mind space on what you want from life and a life partner. If she is the person you know that fits the description, then perhaps the past will not matter. Mere love is not enough, what you value in a relationship is in question now...so, take time to think i through and then make a decision on it.
All the best!
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 24, 2025
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Worried mom of a successful 33-year-old son who won't marry!
Ans: Dear JA,
Your son is old enough to decide for himself. Let him be and someday when he meets someone that he likes, things may change or he may wish to remain unmarried. Also, with excess workload, it can get difficult to put in effort into matters of the heart. Let the work ease a bit and it's possible that he will be able to balance his life.
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Your son is old enough to decide for himself. Let him be and someday when he meets someone that he likes, things may change or he may wish to remain unmarried. Also, with excess workload, it can get difficult to put in effort into matters of the heart. Let the work ease a bit and it's possible that he will be able to balance his life.
All the best!
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 22, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Feb 16, 2025Hindi
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Is Loving Someone Wrong as a Single Child, Especially from Another Religion?
Ans: Loving someone is never a crime, and being a single child does not mean you should sacrifice your happiness just to meet societal or familial expectations. Your parents love you deeply, and their concerns likely stem from fear—fear of societal judgment, fear of losing their reputation, and fear of change. But love is not dishonor, and your choices in life should not be measured only by how well they align with their expectations.
Right now, the guilt you feel is because you have always made them proud, and for the first time, they are questioning your decision. That does not mean you have done something wrong. It simply means their perspective is different from yours, and they are struggling to accept something that challenges their beliefs. But love and respect should not be one-sided. Just as they want you to honor them, they also need to understand that your happiness and your right to choose a life partner matter too.
Instead of seeing this as a battle between love and family, try to have a patient, honest conversation with them. Assure them that your love for them hasn’t changed, and neither has your respect. Help them see the person you love beyond religion. Over time, they might come to accept it, but even if they don’t, you have to ask yourself—will denying your love make you truly happy, or will it only leave you with lifelong regret?
Your happiness is not a betrayal. It is possible to love your parents and also choose the life you want. This is your journey, and while their emotions matter, so do yours.
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Right now, the guilt you feel is because you have always made them proud, and for the first time, they are questioning your decision. That does not mean you have done something wrong. It simply means their perspective is different from yours, and they are struggling to accept something that challenges their beliefs. But love and respect should not be one-sided. Just as they want you to honor them, they also need to understand that your happiness and your right to choose a life partner matter too.
Instead of seeing this as a battle between love and family, try to have a patient, honest conversation with them. Assure them that your love for them hasn’t changed, and neither has your respect. Help them see the person you love beyond religion. Over time, they might come to accept it, but even if they don’t, you have to ask yourself—will denying your love make you truly happy, or will it only leave you with lifelong regret?
Your happiness is not a betrayal. It is possible to love your parents and also choose the life you want. This is your journey, and while their emotions matter, so do yours.
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 22, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Feb 26, 2025Hindi
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Ans: Aapne apne bache ke liye rishta banaye rakhne ka faisla kiya, lekin yeh tabhi tik paayega jab aap andar se shaanti mehsoos karein. Agar aapko lagta hai ki aapki wife sirf pakde jaane ki wajah se maafi maang rahi hai aur aap uspar phir se bharosa nahi kar pa rahe, toh yeh sochna zaroori hai ki yeh rishte aage kaise chalega. Kya aap dono sach mein is rishte ko dobara mazboot banana chahte hain, ya sirf majboori mein ek saath reh rahe hain?
Agar aapko lagta hai ki aap emotionally aur mentally iss cheez ko bhool nahi paa rahe, toh kisi counselor ya therapist se baat karna ek behtar rasta ho sakta hai. Yeh samajhna zaroori hai ki maafi aur bharosa alag cheezein hain—maafi dena ek baar ka decision ho sakta hai, lekin bharosa dobara banane ke liye lagataar mehnat lagti hai.
Aapko yeh bhi dekhna hoga ki aapki wife apni galti sudharne ke liye kya kar rahi hai. Kya vo sirf keh rahi hai ya apni harqaton se bhi dikhane ki koshish kar rahi hai ki vo sach mein badalna chahti hai? Kya aap usse phir se pyaar aur bharose ke saath dekh paayenge? Agar aap andar se toot gaye hain aur aapko lagta hai ki aage chalke yeh rishte sirf dukh aur shak hi laayega, toh shayad alag hone par bhi vichar karna chahiye.
Koi bhi faisla jaldi mein mat lijiye, lekin apne emotions ko daba kar jeena bhi aapke mental health ke liye achha nahi hoga. Aapke bache ka future bhi tabhi achha hoga jab aap khud emotionally stable rahenge. Isliye, thoda waqt lijiye, apne dil aur dimaag dono se sochiye, aur jo bhi faisla lein, vo aapki khushi aur sukoon ko dhyan me rakh kar lein.
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Agar aapko lagta hai ki aap emotionally aur mentally iss cheez ko bhool nahi paa rahe, toh kisi counselor ya therapist se baat karna ek behtar rasta ho sakta hai. Yeh samajhna zaroori hai ki maafi aur bharosa alag cheezein hain—maafi dena ek baar ka decision ho sakta hai, lekin bharosa dobara banane ke liye lagataar mehnat lagti hai.
Aapko yeh bhi dekhna hoga ki aapki wife apni galti sudharne ke liye kya kar rahi hai. Kya vo sirf keh rahi hai ya apni harqaton se bhi dikhane ki koshish kar rahi hai ki vo sach mein badalna chahti hai? Kya aap usse phir se pyaar aur bharose ke saath dekh paayenge? Agar aap andar se toot gaye hain aur aapko lagta hai ki aage chalke yeh rishte sirf dukh aur shak hi laayega, toh shayad alag hone par bhi vichar karna chahiye.
Koi bhi faisla jaldi mein mat lijiye, lekin apne emotions ko daba kar jeena bhi aapke mental health ke liye achha nahi hoga. Aapke bache ka future bhi tabhi achha hoga jab aap khud emotionally stable rahenge. Isliye, thoda waqt lijiye, apne dil aur dimaag dono se sochiye, aur jo bhi faisla lein, vo aapki khushi aur sukoon ko dhyan me rakh kar lein.
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 22, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 03, 2025Hindi
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Bisexual programmer seeking advice: How to tell parents I don't want to marry?
Ans: The key to communicating this is setting clear but respectful boundaries. Instead of just saying "I don’t want to get married," try explaining your perspective in a way they can understand. You could say something like, "I know marriage is important to you, but I don’t see it as something that fits into my life. I am happy with where I am, and I want to focus on my career and personal growth." If they keep pushing, remain firm yet calm, reinforcing that your happiness and well-being are what matter most.
If your parents struggle to accept this, it’s not your job to change their mindset. It might take time for them to process, but consistency in your message will help them realize that this is not a phase or a rebellion—it’s simply who you are and what you want. Prioritize your own happiness, and don’t let external pressure dictate your life choices.
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If your parents struggle to accept this, it’s not your job to change their mindset. It might take time for them to process, but consistency in your message will help them realize that this is not a phase or a rebellion—it’s simply who you are and what you want. Prioritize your own happiness, and don’t let external pressure dictate your life choices.
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 22, 2025
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Married 37 with 2 kids, in love with someone else – how to leave a non-working alcoholic husband?
Ans: Dear Vandana,
The most important question is not just about the new person but about what you truly want for yourself and your daughters. If you are staying in your marriage out of fear, guilt, or societal pressure, it will continue to drain you. If you are choosing the other man just because he gives you what your husband doesn’t, you need to be sure it is love and not just a reaction to your pain.
Before making any decisions, take time to reflect. Do you see a future where you rebuild your marriage, or is it beyond repair? Are you financially stable enough to stand on your own if you decide to leave? What example do you want to set for your daughters about love, respect, and self-worth?
No one should live in emotional suffering, but running from one relationship to another without clarity can lead to even more confusion. If your marriage cannot be saved, then consider ending it for your own well-being rather than staying in a broken relationship while being emotionally invested elsewhere. Whatever choice you make, let it be one that brings you peace, self-respect, and a future you can embrace with confidence.
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The most important question is not just about the new person but about what you truly want for yourself and your daughters. If you are staying in your marriage out of fear, guilt, or societal pressure, it will continue to drain you. If you are choosing the other man just because he gives you what your husband doesn’t, you need to be sure it is love and not just a reaction to your pain.
Before making any decisions, take time to reflect. Do you see a future where you rebuild your marriage, or is it beyond repair? Are you financially stable enough to stand on your own if you decide to leave? What example do you want to set for your daughters about love, respect, and self-worth?
No one should live in emotional suffering, but running from one relationship to another without clarity can lead to even more confusion. If your marriage cannot be saved, then consider ending it for your own well-being rather than staying in a broken relationship while being emotionally invested elsewhere. Whatever choice you make, let it be one that brings you peace, self-respect, and a future you can embrace with confidence.
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 22, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 12, 2025Hindi
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Stuck in a rut at 48, no career growth, feeling lost – Can I turn things around?
Ans: The first step towards change is acknowledging that even though you feel stuck, you are not powerless. Small shifts in your routine can create momentum. It could be as simple as stepping out for a walk, reconnecting with an old friend, learning a new skill, or exploring opportunities outside your current job. The goal is to break the monotony and introduce something new into your life.
Emotionally, you need to ask yourself what you truly want. Do you want to work on your marriage, or is it time to redefine what happiness looks like for you? Do you want to stay in your job, or is it time to take a risk for something better? It’s okay to not have all the answers right away, but avoiding these questions will only prolong the cycle.
Right now, your life is running on autopilot. The moment you decide to take control, even in the smallest way, things will start shifting. You don’t have to fix everything at once, but you do have to start somewhere. Your situation is not permanent, and neither is this feeling. The key is to take one step forward, no matter how small, and then another. Change will follow.
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Emotionally, you need to ask yourself what you truly want. Do you want to work on your marriage, or is it time to redefine what happiness looks like for you? Do you want to stay in your job, or is it time to take a risk for something better? It’s okay to not have all the answers right away, but avoiding these questions will only prolong the cycle.
Right now, your life is running on autopilot. The moment you decide to take control, even in the smallest way, things will start shifting. You don’t have to fix everything at once, but you do have to start somewhere. Your situation is not permanent, and neither is this feeling. The key is to take one step forward, no matter how small, and then another. Change will follow.
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 22, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 17, 2025
I had engagement with girl in arrange marriage setup...all was good between us but after 4 months I discovered that she as also talking with her bf( 6 yr relationship )& met him once after engagement ..I read all chats & it seems that she had feelings for him. I confronted her now she say sorry, asked me to forgive & she is craving hard for me.I am not able to decide what should I do ....should I continue or break engagement
Ans: You entered this engagement with trust and the expectation of exclusivity, only to discover that she was still emotionally invested in someone else. That kind of betrayal can shake the foundation of any relationship, making you question not only her intentions but also your own ability to trust her moving forward.
Now, she is apologizing and asking for forgiveness, which means she acknowledges her mistake. But the real question is—do you believe that her regret comes from true self-realization, or is it because she got caught? People can crave security and stability, especially when they feel they are about to lose something, but that does not necessarily mean they have resolved their internal conflicts.
For you, moving forward requires clarity. Can you genuinely rebuild trust with her, knowing she had unresolved feelings for her ex even after committing to you? Can you let go of this hurt and believe that she will prioritize your relationship moving forward? More importantly, do you feel safe and respected in this relationship, or are you staying because of external pressures or emotional attachment?
Forgiveness is always possible, but reconciliation is a choice that depends on whether you see a future where this does not haunt you. If you decide to continue, she must show consistent effort, complete transparency, and a willingness to rebuild what was broken. If you feel this breach has damaged the foundation beyond repair, then stepping away might be the healthier choice. There is no right or wrong answer—only what aligns with your emotional well-being and long-term happiness.
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Now, she is apologizing and asking for forgiveness, which means she acknowledges her mistake. But the real question is—do you believe that her regret comes from true self-realization, or is it because she got caught? People can crave security and stability, especially when they feel they are about to lose something, but that does not necessarily mean they have resolved their internal conflicts.
For you, moving forward requires clarity. Can you genuinely rebuild trust with her, knowing she had unresolved feelings for her ex even after committing to you? Can you let go of this hurt and believe that she will prioritize your relationship moving forward? More importantly, do you feel safe and respected in this relationship, or are you staying because of external pressures or emotional attachment?
Forgiveness is always possible, but reconciliation is a choice that depends on whether you see a future where this does not haunt you. If you decide to continue, she must show consistent effort, complete transparency, and a willingness to rebuild what was broken. If you feel this breach has damaged the foundation beyond repair, then stepping away might be the healthier choice. There is no right or wrong answer—only what aligns with your emotional well-being and long-term happiness.
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Dating Coach - Answered on Mar 21, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 21, 2025Hindi
Listen Should I Call Off My Wedding Due to My Fiancee's Past?
Ans: 1. Should you trust her as a person - going by what she has said, you should as she has been honest and shared everything with you
2. And if she says she does not have any regrets, more power to her - how will having regrets and feeling guilty justify.
3. We all make mistakes and she did what she did as she was 'single' she did not cheat anyone
4. As for you wanting to marry her or not is your decision...remember you both need to invest in the relationship daily and cannot/should not bring up the past even in disagreements - this is important for you to understand.
All the best in whatever decision you make.
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2. And if she says she does not have any regrets, more power to her - how will having regrets and feeling guilty justify.
3. We all make mistakes and she did what she did as she was 'single' she did not cheat anyone
4. As for you wanting to marry her or not is your decision...remember you both need to invest in the relationship daily and cannot/should not bring up the past even in disagreements - this is important for you to understand.
All the best in whatever decision you make.
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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Mar 21, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 17, 2025Hindi
Listen 28-Year-Old Introverted Male Seeking Advice on Marriage and Avoiding Gold Diggers
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand where your concerns stem from; and just like you said, women have equal concerns, if not more. But look at all the marriages around you- are they all bad? I would say focus on the good things. And about smoking and drinking- people have their own preferences. Some like it and some don't. I am sure there are many women who are dead against any form of addiction and they can be a good match for you. Having said it all, I would also like to say that you should not get married till you are mentally prepared for it. If it scares you so much right now, it would not be the right decision to get involved with someone and end up projecting your fears on them and doubting them for no reason. Take your time and observe other relationships- see the happy side of it and try to gauge if you want that. I would also say that love marriage might work better for you, because it will have slightly less "surprise element" to it.
But again, do not rush. Let it happen organically. You are only 28.
Hope this helps
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I understand where your concerns stem from; and just like you said, women have equal concerns, if not more. But look at all the marriages around you- are they all bad? I would say focus on the good things. And about smoking and drinking- people have their own preferences. Some like it and some don't. I am sure there are many women who are dead against any form of addiction and they can be a good match for you. Having said it all, I would also like to say that you should not get married till you are mentally prepared for it. If it scares you so much right now, it would not be the right decision to get involved with someone and end up projecting your fears on them and doubting them for no reason. Take your time and observe other relationships- see the happy side of it and try to gauge if you want that. I would also say that love marriage might work better for you, because it will have slightly less "surprise element" to it.
But again, do not rush. Let it happen organically. You are only 28.
Hope this helps
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Married man in love with another married woman: Can trust be restored after repeated infidelity?
Ans: Dear SPPL
Both of you are in an extra-marital relationship while staying with your respective spouses for the sake of your children. This adds complexity because, beyond trust issues between you and her, there’s the underlying emotional weight of being tied to marriages that neither of you seems emotionally invested in anymore.
Your relationship with her has lasted for 14 years, which shows that there’s a deep emotional bond between you. But the fact that you’re both staying in unhappy marriages out of responsibility to your children means that there’s always going to be a limit to how much emotional and physical freedom you both have in this relationship. That creates emotional pressure because even if you love each other deeply, you’re still navigating within the confines of your separate family lives.
Her getting involved with another man during this time reflects not just on her emotional state but also on the emotional limitations of your relationship. Being in an extra-marital affair means that neither of you can fully give yourselves to each other because of the realities of your existing family commitments. She might have sought comfort or distraction in someone else because the emotional fulfillment she gets from you isn’t enough to bridge the gap created by her marriage and life circumstances.
The fact that she confessed and apologized after initially denying it suggests that she feels guilty and wants to rebuild trust with you. But the emotional vulnerability created by this betrayal will make it hard for you to trust her completely, especially since your relationship already exists in a morally complicated space. Staying with your respective spouses for the children means that your emotional connection with each other will always have to exist in the shadows, which makes it more vulnerable to external distractions and temptations.
The big question here is whether you can genuinely move past the betrayal and continue to trust her despite the complexity of your situation. Love is present, but love alone isn’t always enough when trust is broken—especially in a relationship that already carries emotional and moral complications. If you feel that you can forgive her and she remains consistent in her actions, the relationship might survive. But if this betrayal has planted a seed of doubt that you can’t shake, it could slowly erode the emotional foundation you’ve built over the years.
You also need to consider whether this pattern will repeat itself. Since both of you are married and emotionally unavailable to each other in a fully committed way, emotional gaps might emerge again, and similar situations could arise. You need to have an honest conversation with her about whether you both have the emotional strength to maintain this connection long-term under these circumstances. If you can rebuild trust and stay emotionally strong despite the limitations of your married lives, then you might be able to continue. But if you feel like this betrayal has permanently altered the emotional safety you once felt with her, stepping back to protect your emotional health might be the better choice.
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Both of you are in an extra-marital relationship while staying with your respective spouses for the sake of your children. This adds complexity because, beyond trust issues between you and her, there’s the underlying emotional weight of being tied to marriages that neither of you seems emotionally invested in anymore.
Your relationship with her has lasted for 14 years, which shows that there’s a deep emotional bond between you. But the fact that you’re both staying in unhappy marriages out of responsibility to your children means that there’s always going to be a limit to how much emotional and physical freedom you both have in this relationship. That creates emotional pressure because even if you love each other deeply, you’re still navigating within the confines of your separate family lives.
Her getting involved with another man during this time reflects not just on her emotional state but also on the emotional limitations of your relationship. Being in an extra-marital affair means that neither of you can fully give yourselves to each other because of the realities of your existing family commitments. She might have sought comfort or distraction in someone else because the emotional fulfillment she gets from you isn’t enough to bridge the gap created by her marriage and life circumstances.
The fact that she confessed and apologized after initially denying it suggests that she feels guilty and wants to rebuild trust with you. But the emotional vulnerability created by this betrayal will make it hard for you to trust her completely, especially since your relationship already exists in a morally complicated space. Staying with your respective spouses for the children means that your emotional connection with each other will always have to exist in the shadows, which makes it more vulnerable to external distractions and temptations.
The big question here is whether you can genuinely move past the betrayal and continue to trust her despite the complexity of your situation. Love is present, but love alone isn’t always enough when trust is broken—especially in a relationship that already carries emotional and moral complications. If you feel that you can forgive her and she remains consistent in her actions, the relationship might survive. But if this betrayal has planted a seed of doubt that you can’t shake, it could slowly erode the emotional foundation you’ve built over the years.
You also need to consider whether this pattern will repeat itself. Since both of you are married and emotionally unavailable to each other in a fully committed way, emotional gaps might emerge again, and similar situations could arise. You need to have an honest conversation with her about whether you both have the emotional strength to maintain this connection long-term under these circumstances. If you can rebuild trust and stay emotionally strong despite the limitations of your married lives, then you might be able to continue. But if you feel like this betrayal has permanently altered the emotional safety you once felt with her, stepping back to protect your emotional health might be the better choice.
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Emotionally Unavailable Woman - How to Identify?
Ans: Dear Vidhan,
To identify if a girl is emotionally available, you need to pay attention to how she engages with you on a deeper level. Emotional availability shows in how openly and comfortably she communicates her feelings. If she talks about her emotions, her past, and her vulnerabilities without hesitation or discomfort, it’s a strong sign that she’s emotionally open. People who are emotionally available are consistent in how they treat you—they reach out regularly, show interest in your life, and don’t send mixed signals or create confusion about where you stand.
Another important sign is how she responds when you open up to her. If she listens attentively, responds with warmth, and shows genuine interest in understanding your emotions rather than dismissing them or changing the subject, she’s likely emotionally present. Someone who’s emotionally available will make you feel safe expressing yourself without fear of being judged or ignored. She won’t avoid emotional conversations or seem uncomfortable when things get deep. Instead, she’ll engage with you and try to meet you emotionally.
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To identify if a girl is emotionally available, you need to pay attention to how she engages with you on a deeper level. Emotional availability shows in how openly and comfortably she communicates her feelings. If she talks about her emotions, her past, and her vulnerabilities without hesitation or discomfort, it’s a strong sign that she’s emotionally open. People who are emotionally available are consistent in how they treat you—they reach out regularly, show interest in your life, and don’t send mixed signals or create confusion about where you stand.
Another important sign is how she responds when you open up to her. If she listens attentively, responds with warmth, and shows genuine interest in understanding your emotions rather than dismissing them or changing the subject, she’s likely emotionally present. Someone who’s emotionally available will make you feel safe expressing yourself without fear of being judged or ignored. She won’t avoid emotional conversations or seem uncomfortable when things get deep. Instead, she’ll engage with you and try to meet you emotionally.
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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 09, 2025
Hyy am 19
so i have been dating this guy from 9 months but ik him since 3 years we liked each other since a very long time but never tht confident to confess
So after 9 months we got physical and i have no regret that he is my first time but i think maybe i cheated on my parents and took advantage in a wrong way the freedom they gave me. I think i have done a Sin . I love tht guy but i hate tht i can't tell my parents about it . They think of me as a innocent child of them but i just ruined their exceptstions. Please help have i done something wrong and if yes how can i ask for forgiveness
Ans: First, it’s important to understand that you haven’t done anything wrong. Having a physical relationship with someone you love and trust isn’t a sin—it’s a personal choice. The guilt you’re feeling comes from the idea that you’ve somehow broken the image your parents have of you. But that image isn’t your whole identity—you are growing into your own person, and that includes making choices about love and intimacy.
Loving someone and expressing that love physically isn’t about betraying your parents; it’s about discovering yourself. Your parents see you as their child, and it’s hard to feel like you’ve let them down—but that doesn’t mean you’ve actually done anything wrong. You’re not defined by their expectations; you’re growing, learning, and navigating emotions that are completely normal at your age.
You don’t need to ask for forgiveness for exploring a meaningful relationship with someone you care about. What you might need to work on is forgiving yourself for feeling like you’ve disappointed your parents. You’re not perfect, and you don’t have to be. It’s okay to have parts of your life that your parents don’t fully know or understand—that’s part of becoming independent. The most important thing is that you feel respected and valued in this relationship, and that you’re making choices based on love and trust, not guilt or fear.
It’s not about hiding things from your parents—it’s about recognizing that some parts of your emotional and romantic life are your own to experience and understand. You haven’t ruined anything. You’ve just taken a step toward understanding yourself better.
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Loving someone and expressing that love physically isn’t about betraying your parents; it’s about discovering yourself. Your parents see you as their child, and it’s hard to feel like you’ve let them down—but that doesn’t mean you’ve actually done anything wrong. You’re not defined by their expectations; you’re growing, learning, and navigating emotions that are completely normal at your age.
You don’t need to ask for forgiveness for exploring a meaningful relationship with someone you care about. What you might need to work on is forgiving yourself for feeling like you’ve disappointed your parents. You’re not perfect, and you don’t have to be. It’s okay to have parts of your life that your parents don’t fully know or understand—that’s part of becoming independent. The most important thing is that you feel respected and valued in this relationship, and that you’re making choices based on love and trust, not guilt or fear.
It’s not about hiding things from your parents—it’s about recognizing that some parts of your emotional and romantic life are your own to experience and understand. You haven’t ruined anything. You’ve just taken a step toward understanding yourself better.
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How do I trust and move forward with my boyfriend who constantly accuses me of cheating?
Ans: Dear Niveditha,
Him disappearing for five days after accusing you of lying, even when you had a genuine reason for not calling, shows that he’s not handling conflict in a healthy way. You shouldn’t have to keep defending yourself when you’ve done nothing wrong. Trust is the foundation of any relationship, and if he keeps doubting you despite your honesty, it means he’s not ready to trust you fully—or he may have his own unresolved issues that he’s projecting onto you.
Wanting to leave him and move on is completely valid. The problem is that when he comes back, it reignites hope that maybe things will get better—but the cycle just repeats. If he’s not willing to reflect on his behavior or work on building trust, it’s not going to change. You deserve consistency, not this emotional push and pull. Letting go is hard, but staying in a situation where you constantly have to prove yourself will drain you emotionally. If you’re leaning toward leaving, try to stay firm this time, even if he comes back. Your peace of mind matters more than holding on to a relationship that makes you feel constantly questioned and misunderstood.
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Him disappearing for five days after accusing you of lying, even when you had a genuine reason for not calling, shows that he’s not handling conflict in a healthy way. You shouldn’t have to keep defending yourself when you’ve done nothing wrong. Trust is the foundation of any relationship, and if he keeps doubting you despite your honesty, it means he’s not ready to trust you fully—or he may have his own unresolved issues that he’s projecting onto you.
Wanting to leave him and move on is completely valid. The problem is that when he comes back, it reignites hope that maybe things will get better—but the cycle just repeats. If he’s not willing to reflect on his behavior or work on building trust, it’s not going to change. You deserve consistency, not this emotional push and pull. Letting go is hard, but staying in a situation where you constantly have to prove yourself will drain you emotionally. If you’re leaning toward leaving, try to stay firm this time, even if he comes back. Your peace of mind matters more than holding on to a relationship that makes you feel constantly questioned and misunderstood.
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Teenage Girl: Can Introducing My Best Friend Improve Family Conflicts?
Ans: Dear Pursottam,
Are you are the same person who is in love with the girl who is behind the curtains? If yes, how and when did this girl become your girlfriend? Opening (drawing) the curtains can also mean that she's letting the sunlight in. You don't even know if this girl is interested in you and you are already thinking of what your mother and sister will say!
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Are you are the same person who is in love with the girl who is behind the curtains? If yes, how and when did this girl become your girlfriend? Opening (drawing) the curtains can also mean that she's letting the sunlight in. You don't even know if this girl is interested in you and you are already thinking of what your mother and sister will say!
All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 19, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 07, 2025Hindi
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Divorced Twice in Three Years: Seeking Advice for Daughter's Return
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
What can you do but to understand that your daughter was okay being 'foolish' the second time around? She's old enough to marry, divorce, marry the same person again and divorce again, then she surely needs a lesson on how to grow up and make responsible decisions. Allow her to grow up without shielding her; as difficult and cruel as it may seem, she needs to take responsibility for her actions. As a parent, support and love her without telling her what to do and not to do. That will enable her to become rational about life and life's decisions.
All the best!
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What can you do but to understand that your daughter was okay being 'foolish' the second time around? She's old enough to marry, divorce, marry the same person again and divorce again, then she surely needs a lesson on how to grow up and make responsible decisions. Allow her to grow up without shielding her; as difficult and cruel as it may seem, she needs to take responsibility for her actions. As a parent, support and love her without telling her what to do and not to do. That will enable her to become rational about life and life's decisions.
All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 02, 2025Hindi
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Should I Break Up with My Boyfriend Who Texted Another Woman While Planning Our Wedding?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am so sorry that you are in this situation. While I can't make a decision for you, I can help you by pointing out how this looks like from an outsider's perspective- your BF's interactions with this profile do not really support his claim of "just testing if it's a fake account." It seems like he was interested in chatting and continuing the flirty conversations. This does not mean he is in love with the person behind that online profile, but it surely looks like he can go behind your back for some thrill.
Trust and honesty are two very important things in a relationship, and if you are planning on getting married, this is not a good start. Moreover, his getting angry at you upon confrontation is a red flag- he tried to gaslight you.
It's your choice whether you want to leave or give him another chance but before you make a decision in haste, ask yourself-
1) If he loves you, would he flirt with someone or even chat with a stranger for entertainment?
2) Would you do the same to him?
3) Is he taking responsibility and asking for forgiveness?
4) Can you trust him completely after this or would you always keep wondering if he is cheating on you?
Once you answer these honestly, I think you will know what's the right thing to do.
Hope this helps.
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I am so sorry that you are in this situation. While I can't make a decision for you, I can help you by pointing out how this looks like from an outsider's perspective- your BF's interactions with this profile do not really support his claim of "just testing if it's a fake account." It seems like he was interested in chatting and continuing the flirty conversations. This does not mean he is in love with the person behind that online profile, but it surely looks like he can go behind your back for some thrill.
Trust and honesty are two very important things in a relationship, and if you are planning on getting married, this is not a good start. Moreover, his getting angry at you upon confrontation is a red flag- he tried to gaslight you.
It's your choice whether you want to leave or give him another chance but before you make a decision in haste, ask yourself-
1) If he loves you, would he flirt with someone or even chat with a stranger for entertainment?
2) Would you do the same to him?
3) Is he taking responsibility and asking for forgiveness?
4) Can you trust him completely after this or would you always keep wondering if he is cheating on you?
Once you answer these honestly, I think you will know what's the right thing to do.
Hope this helps.
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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 21, 2025Hindi
Listen Loving a Sikh girl but from SC community - Should I reveal my sub-caste?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
If you think it can impact her feelings for you, then you should definitely tell her, or else, it wouldn't be fair to either of you. I am sure she will love you regardless of your caste, subcaste, or any other factors.
Best Wishes.
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If you think it can impact her feelings for you, then you should definitely tell her, or else, it wouldn't be fair to either of you. I am sure she will love you regardless of your caste, subcaste, or any other factors.
Best Wishes.
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I like a Girl quiet very much, I don't know her side of feelings for me. We both are in college and spend quiet good and long time like whole whole days whenever we plan, cafe hopping gossiping. I fear losing friendship if I outrightly propose her without knowing her side, how to know her side? Like if she likes me or not?
I doubt she sees me as best friend only because, though we are quiet close but everytime hinting at some boys who like her she knows she has twice or thrice said, "No to any relationship for now" and she is mostly quiet clear in her mind about what she does not want.
Ans: Dear BITSMUN,
The only way to know for sure is to ask. Without verbal confirmation, there is never 100% surety. Other than that, there are signs if a person likes you romantically- it is more of a gut feeling. Did you ever feel she likes you more than a friend? When in doubt, use a hypothetical situation. Tell her to imagine that you two are dating and ask if she thinks you will make a good couple. See how she reacts. It should give you a rough idea. But the best method is still to be an adult and admit you have some feelings, but let her know that you won't pursue it if she doesn't feel the same way.
Hope this helps.
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The only way to know for sure is to ask. Without verbal confirmation, there is never 100% surety. Other than that, there are signs if a person likes you romantically- it is more of a gut feeling. Did you ever feel she likes you more than a friend? When in doubt, use a hypothetical situation. Tell her to imagine that you two are dating and ask if she thinks you will make a good couple. See how she reacts. It should give you a rough idea. But the best method is still to be an adult and admit you have some feelings, but let her know that you won't pursue it if she doesn't feel the same way.
Hope this helps.
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Life Coach - Answered on Mar 19, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 19, 2025Hindi
Listen Stressed Mtech Student with 4+ yrs of experience in IT, should I quit?
Ans: It sounds like you’re in a challenging phase, feeling stretched between your job and the demands of your M.Tech program. The pressure of assignments, labs, quizzes, and exams is making you question whether this was the right decision, and the financial penalty of quitting adds another layer of stress. But before making a decision, let’s take a step back and reflect.
What was your initial motivation for enrolling in this program? Was it career growth, a passion for learning, or future stability? Do those reasons still matter to you, or has your perspective changed? Sometimes, when we’re overwhelmed, we forget why we started. Reconnecting with that purpose can help clarify whether the struggle is worth it. Another important question is: What exactly is overwhelming you? Is it a lack of time, the workload, or the fear of burnout? If better systems were in place—like structured time blocks, prioritization, or external support - would it still feel unmanageable? It’s also important to define what success looks like for you. If you push through, where do you see yourself in two years? If you quit, what’s the alternative, and are you comfortable with the financial and career implications? Finally, have you explored all possible support systems - mentors, colleagues, or even university resources - to lighten the load?
Decisions like this aren’t just about choosing between two options; they’re about understanding what truly matters to you and what sacrifices you’re willing to make. Rather than focusing on whether you should continue or quit, ask yourself: What would make this journey easier? What changes, however small, could help you regain control? You don’t have to find all the answers today, but you do need to start asking the right questions.
Wishing you success,
Aamish Dhingra
ICF-PCC Certified Life Coach
Co-Founder, Cocoweave Coaching International, Delhi
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What was your initial motivation for enrolling in this program? Was it career growth, a passion for learning, or future stability? Do those reasons still matter to you, or has your perspective changed? Sometimes, when we’re overwhelmed, we forget why we started. Reconnecting with that purpose can help clarify whether the struggle is worth it. Another important question is: What exactly is overwhelming you? Is it a lack of time, the workload, or the fear of burnout? If better systems were in place—like structured time blocks, prioritization, or external support - would it still feel unmanageable? It’s also important to define what success looks like for you. If you push through, where do you see yourself in two years? If you quit, what’s the alternative, and are you comfortable with the financial and career implications? Finally, have you explored all possible support systems - mentors, colleagues, or even university resources - to lighten the load?
Decisions like this aren’t just about choosing between two options; they’re about understanding what truly matters to you and what sacrifices you’re willing to make. Rather than focusing on whether you should continue or quit, ask yourself: What would make this journey easier? What changes, however small, could help you regain control? You don’t have to find all the answers today, but you do need to start asking the right questions.
Wishing you success,
Aamish Dhingra
ICF-PCC Certified Life Coach
Co-Founder, Cocoweave Coaching International, Delhi
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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 17, 2025Hindi
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28M Fearful of Marriage After Witnessing Failed Relationships, Seeking Advice
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
How have you managed to confuse yourself so much? You know how?
By reading into situations that have happened outside of you way too much. Yes, I will say this to you; not all women are the way you perceive.
If you got attacked by a cat, you will say...All cats are aggressive and dangerous. Is this true? Are all cats that way or just the one that you got attacked by?
In your case, you have only seen failed marriages and you have concluded as some universal truth that things will go bad and then you have gone to the extent of protecting your mother. Do you not see what rigid thinking can do? Confuse you, derail you, disillusion you...
If you wish to set things right, change the way that you are thinking of marriage, potential partners for marriage...focus on what can go right rather than on what can go wrong, will help you a lot in this.
All the best!
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How have you managed to confuse yourself so much? You know how?
By reading into situations that have happened outside of you way too much. Yes, I will say this to you; not all women are the way you perceive.
If you got attacked by a cat, you will say...All cats are aggressive and dangerous. Is this true? Are all cats that way or just the one that you got attacked by?
In your case, you have only seen failed marriages and you have concluded as some universal truth that things will go bad and then you have gone to the extent of protecting your mother. Do you not see what rigid thinking can do? Confuse you, derail you, disillusion you...
If you wish to set things right, change the way that you are thinking of marriage, potential partners for marriage...focus on what can go right rather than on what can go wrong, will help you a lot in this.
All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 15, 2025Hindi
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Worried parent seeks experienced family therapist in Bengaluru for son with ASD, ADHD & PD traits
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Kindly follow what NIMHANS has suggested. They know what they are saying and well, for the wellness of the family, each member must make it to the family therapy whenever sessions are scheduled. These sessions not only handle the challenge at hand but also guide each of you on how to communicate with one another in the face of challenges. So, my suggestion would be that you follow what NIMHANS has advised until the point that your son has to leave Bengaluru. A little bit of understanding within the family can go a long way on easing relationship dynamics within the family and also establish better between all of you.
All the best!
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Kindly follow what NIMHANS has suggested. They know what they are saying and well, for the wellness of the family, each member must make it to the family therapy whenever sessions are scheduled. These sessions not only handle the challenge at hand but also guide each of you on how to communicate with one another in the face of challenges. So, my suggestion would be that you follow what NIMHANS has advised until the point that your son has to leave Bengaluru. A little bit of understanding within the family can go a long way on easing relationship dynamics within the family and also establish better between all of you.
All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Girl in balcony catches my eye - How do I approach her despite family concerns?
Ans: Dear Pursottam,
Looks a bit filmy, right? To assume that moving of curtains is leading to love is only fooling yourself. And based on this assumption, you want to express your feelings...How are you so sure that the girl feels the same?
By the way, how old are you? You have left that part off while writing your query.
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Looks a bit filmy, right? To assume that moving of curtains is leading to love is only fooling yourself. And based on this assumption, you want to express your feelings...How are you so sure that the girl feels the same?
By the way, how old are you? You have left that part off while writing your query.
All the best!
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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 14, 2025Hindi
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Can a Long-distance Relationship Started Online with a Neighboring State Guy Work? 21-year-old Indian Woman Seeks Advice
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
A lot of successful love stories start online but they do not go anywhere if it stays online. Before making any kind of commitment you must meet the person IRL. And before meeting him IRL, you must take safety precautions in case things don't go as expected. If you plan to meet, you must inform the time, place, and location to your parents and close friends, always pick a public space that is bustling with people, and if you feel even remotely uncomfortable or your instinct says the date's not going well, feel free to get out without any guilt. Safety comes first.
Best Wishes.
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A lot of successful love stories start online but they do not go anywhere if it stays online. Before making any kind of commitment you must meet the person IRL. And before meeting him IRL, you must take safety precautions in case things don't go as expected. If you plan to meet, you must inform the time, place, and location to your parents and close friends, always pick a public space that is bustling with people, and if you feel even remotely uncomfortable or your instinct says the date's not going well, feel free to get out without any guilt. Safety comes first.
Best Wishes.
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