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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 28, 2026

I’m facing a small but recurring issue with my wife when it comes to money. I’m naturally more of a saving person—I like keeping some money aside for future expenses, emergencies, children’s needs and other things that may come up unexpectedly. My wife, on the other hand, feels that if we can comfortably afford something now, there is no point in always postponing it just to save more. It’s not that either of us is irresponsible with money, and thankfully we don’t have any major financial problems, but this difference in our thinking keeps coming up every few weeks. Sometimes it starts with something as simple as buying something for the house or planning a holiday and then turns into a discussion about our overall spending habits. I don’t want her to feel that I’m controlling how she spends her money, and at the same time, I don’t want to feel guilty for wanting to save. How can couples with very different financial habits find a middle ground and decide together how much to spend, save and keep aside for the future without making money become a regular source of tension in the marriage?

Ans: Hello sir. I hope you are in good health. Coming to your question, financial management remains a little sensitive topic specially when both members are earning.
You both have different habits and different thinking in terms of financial management and I think both are correct. The only thing with which the things can be sorted out is that you both sit and discuss and mutually come to a specific percentage of income which should be saved and which should be kept aside for holidays or for home fund. This way you both will clearly know and then you will not have problem in spending or saving.
I hope this solves your problem.
All the best..take care !!

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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 28, 2026

I sometimes get upset because my wife remembers small things I said during an argument months ago, while I usually forget them once the disagreement is over. She says those words still affect how she feels about me, whereas I feel we should be able to move on after apologising. Why do one can remember the same argument so differently, and how to stop old disagreements from repeatedly coming back into new ones?

Ans: Hello sir. I hope you are in good health.
Now coming to your question, this is one of the most common problems between couples and mostly it happens from the women's side. Women do remember the old conflicts and whenever again a disagreement happens that whole thing comes again and the conflict gets heated and exaggerated.
Well, i would like to share my personal opinion on this. Me and my husband have made a rule for ourselves that even if we disagree on any point, we shall not repeat the things or arguments that happened in the past. We shall remain to present conflict and will try to solve it as soon as possible.
This really worked and we both respected this rule. You can also apply this in your personal life. I am sure it will work for you as well.
All the best..take care!!

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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 28, 2026

I’m a little confused about how I should handle situations involving my husband and his parents. Whenever they have an argument or disagreement, I usually prefer to stay quiet because I feel that if I get involved, the situation could become even more complicated. I don’t want his parents to feel that I’m trying to create a distance between them, and I also don’t want to say something in the heat of the moment that I may regret later. But after the argument is over, my husband sometimes tells me that he expected me to support him because I’m his wife. From my point of view, supporting him doesn’t necessarily mean agreeing with him or taking his side every time, especially when I don’t know the complete context of their disagreement. At the same time, I can understand why he may feel hurt if he thinks I’m simply standing by and watching when he needs me. How should to handle these situations when disagreements with in-laws keep creating tension in the marriage? Is there a healthy way for a spouse to show support without automatically taking sides or disrespecting the other family members?

Ans: Hello mam. I hope you are in good health.
Well, coming to your question, you can definitely take your partner's side by understanding the things on which the disagreements happen. For example you disagree with your partner at a specific point of time, in public you should try to calm the situation and take his side if possible but after that in private you can share your opinion and correct him if he is wrong somewhere. This way he ll feel that yes you support him but on the other hand he ll also realize that where he went wrong. Probably the situations will get better with this.
I really appreciate your nature that you don't want to disrespect other family members. Its very good and shows your upbringing and your intent of maintaining relationships.
Keep it up...take care !!

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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 08, 2026

I’ve been seeing someone for a few months and things are getting serious. Recently, while we were talking about our college days, she mentioned that she had been in a relationship before me. I didn’t think much of it initially, but later I started wondering how serious they were, why they broke up and whether she still compares certain things between us. I don’t want to keep questioning her or make her feel like she has to justify her past, but at the same time, I find myself getting curious and sometimes insecure about things I know nothing about. How much is it actually reasonable to know about a partner’s past relationship when you’re thinking of a long-term future together?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Curiosity is very natural, but if you ask me if it's reasonable to assess someone by their past relationships, I would say no, in most cases. When would it really matter? If the break up was very harsh and it left a mark on your partner; if the relationship was toxic and it affected her attitude toward love; if it was a very long term relationship and your partner is showing signs that she has not moved on from it yet. These are just some examples; even these don't mean she is any less loving toward you. If you are curious, you can casually ask. There's nothing wrong with that. But don't push for information. I am sure she is happy and content with you; after all, she felt secure enough to casually mention a past relationship without worrying how you would react. It shows she trusts you.

Hope this helps.

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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 08, 2026

A friend of mine has been dating his girlfriend for almost a year, and lately money has started becoming a slightly uncomfortable topic between them. In the beginning, he would happily pay for dinners, cabs and small shopping because he wanted to make her feel special. But recently she has started asking him to lend her money for things like bills or unexpected expenses, and he has helped a few times. He doesn’t mind supporting her when there is a genuine need, but he’s now worried that saying no might make her think he has changed or doesn’t care anymore. How should couples handle situations like this? Is it better to set some financial boundaries early, even in a serious relationship, or can that make things feel too formal?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand your friend's concerns. Couples usually try supporting each other, even financially but there has to be a boundary. There should be an open discussion about finances in a relationship and there should also be a soft boundary, or else a partnership can end up feeling transactional. Please ensure your friend that while helping occasionally is fine but expecting to be lent money every now and then should not become a habit. A caring partner would not mind if there's no financial gain from a relationship.

Hope this helps.

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 01, 2026

My wife's sister's husband has become very friendly with me over the last few years. We meet often at family functions and sometimes talk separately about our personal lives. In the beginning, I was comfortable sharing things with him because I thought we had a good understanding. But slowly, I feel he has started asking too many questions about my marriage and my relationship with my wife. He sometimes asks about our arguments, our private matters and how we handle things at home. At the same time, he also shares many personal details about his own marriage with me, including problems and things that I feel are too private. Sometimes I don’t know how to respond, because I don’t want to encourage him to discuss such personal matters, but I also don’t want him to feel that I am avoiding him or judging him. Because we are family, I am worried that if I suddenly create distance or tell him directly to stop asking personal questions, it could create awkwardness between both families. I also don’t want my wife to feel that I am hiding something from her or that there is some problem between us.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand your concerns. You don't have to directly confront him about sharing too many personal details or asking you questions, nor do you need to create distance. The sweet spot is to build a gentle boundary. For instance, when he asks you something personal, instead of avoiding the question, just answer vaguely, like, "yes, things are going good" or "Nothing major. You know, routine married life stuff." This way, he will soon lose interest. And when he shares personal information with you, you can simply listen without offering any advice or asking follow-up questions. The conversation will die down on its own. This way, he will neither feel like you are avoiding a conversation with him nor believe that you are encouraging him to get up close and personal with you.

Most importantly, do not hide this friendship from your wife. It's okay. Friends do share things with each other at times and sometimes one person might feel burdened with too many information after a while. These are natural courses of a friendship. The important thing is that you are being considerate of your marriage and want to create a boundary. You can do that without being misunderstood or losing a friend.

Hope this helps.

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 01, 2026

I once told a relative something personal about my marriage related to sex because I trusted them. Later, I found out that the same information was discussed with other family members. Should I confront the person about breaking my trust, or is it better to quietly stop sharing personal matters with them?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am sorry that you put your trust in someone and they failed you. As unfortunate as it is, this happens more often than we can imagine. Going forward, I would like you to be extremely careful about sharing your sensitive information with friends and family, no matter how close they are. I am not saying they are discussing the matter with others because they wanted to gossip about it; it might have stemmed from a place of concern but still doing so without your permission is unacceptable. If you are comfortable with it, it is completely reasonable to confront them and establish a boundary about what can be shared and what can't be. Have a polite and respectful conversation, but be strict about the part where they did not take your consent before sharing your personal information.

Hope this helps.

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Question by Partha - Oct 04, 2026

Why I haven't atleast one girlfriend still?

Ans: Dear Partha,
I am not sure how old you are but everyone finds love in their own timeline. If you look at others and compare your love life, you are bound to be left feeling sorry for yourself. But the point is not to have at least one girl friend; the point is to find the right person and I am sure you will find her at the right time. I know it's easier said than done, but trust me, finding the right person, even if it's late, is much better than finding 10 wrong people.

Hope this helps.

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Question by ROHIT - Aug 31, 2026

I am in love with a married woman who has a two-year-old daughter. She doesn't look at me, but I try to catch a glimpse of her and constantly wait for her to step out of the house. Please help me.

Ans: Dear Rohit,
I understand that falling for someone is not within our control but this is a very dangerous situation here, where the chances of you ending up hurt is almost 100%. Please distance yourself. I am sure you feel a strong attraction towards her but trust me it is not love. Love requires you to know the person, not just look at them. If you intentionally keep your distance, this will slowly fade. You deserve someone who will love you back and looks at you the same way you look at them. A mother of a two year old is not that person, in this case. Please understand that.

Hope this helps.

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Question by Mau - Sep 29, 2026

Hlo msg me relationship

Ans: Hey Mau,

Please feel free to share your queries.

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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 29, 2026

My wife and I are both 45, and we have a 10-year-old daughter. We are financially comfortable and, from a practical point of view, we could afford to have a second child. Sometimes we feel that our daughter would love having a sibling, and the thought of expanding our family is exciting. We also feel that having another child could bring a different kind of happiness and experience into our lives. At the same time, we have been a family of three for the last 10 years and have become comfortable with our routine and lifestyle. Starting again with a newborn at this stage of our lives feels like a huge responsibility. We worry about whether we have the same energy, patience and emotional readiness that we had when we became parents the first time. There is also the reality that we would be much older when the child reaches important stages of life. We find ourselves going back and forth between wanting another child and wondering whether we are simply feeling that our daughter should have a sibling. We don’t want to make such a life-changing decision out of guilt, social expectations or fear of future regret. How can we honestly assess whether we genuinely want another child, or whether we are just attracted to the idea of giving our daughter a sibling?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It is wonderful that you want to give your child the joy of having a sibling. But, as you mentioned, there are things to consider before making up your mind and you are already assessing them beautifully. Here are few things you should ask yourselves:
1. If our daughter is perfectly happy being a single child, do we still want a kid?
2. Are we ready to raise a newborn once again? It involves sleep deprivation, lot less freedom and a long-term responsibility.
3. What if our daughter does not get close to her sibling, as we are hoping?
4. Are we both equally willing?
5. How does having another baby right now impact our healthy, especially the mother's?

These are very important questions here. If you get clarity on these, you will know exactly what is the right choice.

Hope this helps.

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Sep 30, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Sep 25, 2026

My husband doesn't trust me at all. Ours was an arranged marriage. After our son was born, we stopped being intimate as we got busy in our lives. He used to travel for work and I was managing everything alone. When he was home I would step out to meet my friends or stay up working late thinking he will take care of our son. However, he started doubting me and start following up, stalking me. He would pass comments about the dress I am wearing, the people I meet at work, the clothes I wear etc. At one point it got dirty and disgusting. It's been over a year since we went out or had a sit down conversation. I don't feel like talking to him any more because every conversation leads to arguments like these. He thinks I am having an affair with every guy I meet. What should I do?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
When doubts start to creep into a marriage, then you know that just the two of talking about it may not help. Kindly involve a professional who can work with both of you bring back the trust and rebuild the marriage. Obviously not having enough time together and also not utilizing the available time with each other usefully has caused the marriage to deteriorate.
A professional will guide you aptly here.

All the best!
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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 29, 2026

A close friend of mine started treating another friend’s wife as his “sister,” but over time his behaviour became uncomfortable. He would make jokes with her, hug her frequently and touch her casually, almost as if calling her a “sister” gave him the right to cross normal personal boundaries. My wife noticed this behaviour and brought it to my attention, which made me look at the situation differently. Now I’m confused about how I should react. I don’t want to judge my friend or create unnecessary problems based only on what I have observed, but at the same time, I don’t want to ignore behaviour that makes my wife or me uncomfortable.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Are you part of this equation? NO!
Isn't it your friend's problem whose wife is being treated this way? If you and your wife feel uncomfortable; you have a choice of not moving into this set of friends. What happens between two other couples is not your problem; let them sort it out...Step in only if your friend or his wife come to you or your wife asking for help on this!

All the best!
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Sep 30, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Sep 22, 2026

A close friend recently got married and now spends almost all his free time with his wife. He has gradually stopped meeting his old friends and even avoids family plans because he feels guilty leaving her alone. His wife hasn’t specifically asked him to do this. How do you maintain a healthy relationship while still keeping your own friendships and individual life?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Initial few weeks and months can look like this and it is also necessary to bond within the marriage.
Yes, but it can slowly move into a zone of loss of identity and individual choices and lives which invariably will be blamed upon one another and the marriage.
Wait for a few days or weeks and slowly make a plan and invite your friend and his wife. Initially he is most likely to come if his wife is also invited. Once he knows that his wife subtly approves of his old life and it will not cause any rift between them, he will go back to being himself again with his friends.
It's just helping your friend transition and bridge both his worlds.

All the best!
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Sep 30, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Sep 22, 2026

Can being too available actually create problems in a relationship? I’m talking about someone who immediately replies to every message, always changes their plans for their partner and is constantly available whenever the other person needs them. They’re doing it out of love, but could this eventually lead to losing personal boundaries or taking each other for granted?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Oh YES!
Being too available initially feels like LOVE, but sooner than later when the partner cancels on them, they will feel taken for granted and not included.
Whoever this person is can draw subtle boundaries by actually doing something for themselves first; hobbies, work, home, friends...this way, their love life becomes one part of their life and not THE ONLY PART...It protects their mind space from disappointments and hurt that can come from making their partner their world; letting the partner breathe a bit can also evoke more love into the relationship.

All the best!
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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 22, 2026

My partner and I don’t really fight, but lately we’ve started feeling more like roommates. We talk about bills, work, groceries and family responsibilities, but hardly have proper conversations anymore. Nothing dramatic has happened between us, so how do couples recognise when emotional distance is quietly developing?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
One of the pitfalls of a marriage that's lived through many years is: it becomes clinical and structured and quite monotonous. It ends up just functioning to keep the home afloat. Bills, household chores, responsibilities start to dominate everyday conversations and before you know it, the marriage has become just another relationship to be lived.
You can't wish away the bills or responsibilities of a marriage BUT you certainly can choose to bring back some excitement in the marriage.
Recall how your initial days of marriage were; some fun, some joy, a lot of love and togetherness...
Choose to focus on bringing this back in little ways and you will be able to see your marriage in a whole new light...

All the best!
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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 25, 2026

Hi, I have been living in posh sector of NOIDA for 36 years with my family including my wife, daughter, son and my parents in a nice huge house of around 12 bed rooms. Three bed room set we have rented out. Now my kids have started working and due to their job profile, are not living with us. Me and my wife live separately in the same house although my kids have their rooms with my parents. Now only we four i.e. parents , me and my wife live in the huge house. My wife purchase a new 2 BHK flat nearby and wants me to move out with her. How can I leave my parents, who are in their 80's now, with whom I have been living for last 57 years since my birth. Neither can I let my wife live all alone. Kindly suggest.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Obviously the current house is too large for just the 4 of you and it only makes sense that you all move into a smaller set up together...any reason why your wife wants to live separately after so many years? It would be worth your time to actually figure out what's happening; it's possible that she's also growing tired of caring for a house and aged in-laws...
Woman that age when their kids step out like a bit of freedom and space from the regular responsibilities...have an honest conversation with her and most importantly be ready to listen to what she has to say...It will help you straighten the situation that you are currently in!

All the best!
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Question by QUALANI'S - Sep 27, 2026

Afterv20 uears of marriage i came to about my husband is in contact with his ex girlfriend

Ans: Dear Qualani's,
What is your question for me?
I can only assume that you want to know what to do...You obviously need to talk to him about it and express that it makes you feel uncomfortable. At this point, this is all I can suggest as I don't know what your question or situation is!

All the best!
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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 22, 2026

I have a friend who takes hours to reply to messages and then immediately starts wondering whether the other person is upset with her. She checks the last-seen status, rereads messages and sometimes sends another text just to get a response. She knows she is overthinking, but she can’t seem to stop. How can someone break this kind of relationship anxiety?

Ans: Remove notification + blue ticks.

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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 12, 2026

Is being in sexless marriage worth it ?????? This year no sex at all. Just we are becoming people who are staying together just for heck of it or for social security!!!!! I am telling y wife better we sleep separate as we don't have that feelings towards each other. Please advice.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
If you are your wife want to work on this, you must work on your marriage first...then seek the advice of a professional who can help with this.
But if it feels better living under one roof but leading separate lives and you both are mature enough to handle that; then do just that. A lot of couple like in this kind of marriage where they have the companionship if one another but keep sex off the table.

All the best!
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Sep 18, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Sep 03, 2026

My parents are being unreasonable after my marriage. They are 56 and 63 but they behave like kids. After marriage, for every festival, my parents expect me to come home and spend time with them. If I celebrate a festival with my husband or his family, they become upset and accuse me of forgetting my own parents after marriage. They also expect me to visit them frequently and feel hurt if I cannot meet their expectations. I understand that they miss me and that it may be difficult for them to accept the changes that come after a daughter's marriage. However, I now have my own home, husband and responsibilities too. I am pregnant and now the fight is between who does what and where I will stay after my pregnancy. Whenever I try to explain this to them, they become emotional and say that I have changed since getting married. I love my parents and don't want to hurt them, but I also don't want to feel guilty every time I make plans with my husband or his family. What should I do? Please help.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
A few parents forget that when their children marry, they will go ahead and set up their own families...as they forget this, they also forget that by issuing pressing demands they have somewhere started to emotionally drain their children...
Spending time with them cannot become a demand and in your case you are being guilt tripped and made to choose between them and your family...

- mark your boundaries clearly; show them love by spending time with them when you can...it means that you may have to rework the way things have been up until now!
- if on a call with them, stick to talks that is casual and one that does not give them a chance to complain...keep the calls short
- visit them on a day that you have pre-decided (maybe once/twice a month on a particular day in case you are in the same city/town)
- if they are in another city/town, try to go around one festive time so that they also feel wanted and loved
- stop explaining why you need to go to your in-laws home; do you need to explain why you are visiting your parents to anyone; no, right?

Ultimately this is almost like setting new boundaries that will be uncomfortable BUT necessary in the long run.
You need some peace of mind t=during your pregnancy and emotions must enable you rather than drain you. Take the help of your husband in case you need him to draw these boundaries as your parents may not start to question him...take charge of this NOW...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 08, 2026

I recently met a couple who have been married for more than 20 years, and honestly, at first I thought they were siblings because their facial features and even their expressions looked surprisingly similar. Is it possible for couples to actually start looking alike after spending so many years together, or do we just begin to notice similarities because we already know they belong together?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
That's an interesting observation. It isn't so much as people start to look alike, but they might start to have similar personalities, expressions, similar dressing sense, and even start to sharing behavioral quirks. It's nothing uncommon. We see the same in most long-term couples. Years of staying together can lead to couples start adopting each other's personalities. And like you mentioned, you might be also noticing them more because you know they are together.

Hope this helps.

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Question by Jayakiran - Sep 02, 2026

Hello Anu, Me and my wife are hardly having sex and being felt intimated from past 7 months. We have no intimacy connection now, we are just with each other with zero sex with marriage of 15 years long. Don't know what to do with it. We don't even talk of why we have so low sex drive. What can be done?

Ans: Dear Jayakiran,
If you don't or hesitate to talk about an issue that is bothering you both, then don't you think that it's time for someone neutral to help you break the ice on it? Obviously the best is when the couple a good channel of communication and discuss anything and everything, but if there's a lot of hesitation, kindly seek the help of a professional to help you both on this...
There are phases in life where intimacy dips like: after the birth of a child, loss of any kind like a job or a near and dear, financial instability...all these can bring a time when intimacy will be the last thing on your minds as you have other emotional situations to face and be in...be patient, try and sit down to talk about these...to start a conversation, start spending a lot of time together to bring back the love that is hiding somewhere and then these kind of chats become easier...if you are still struggling, do seek professional help!

All the best!
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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 08, 2026

I love my cousin she is my mother sister doughter and we want to marry each other family is not accpeting our relation saying kill all relationship with or find us dead they emotionally blackmailing her and im not able to anything she is 17 year old im 27 literally i feel like dying because right now i am not able to do anything our talk also stop what shoud i do pls help me

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I would urge you to understand why your parents are opposing. Is it because you are cousins or do they believe you can do much better? Once you understand their actual concern, you can slowly attempt to address them instead of trying to solve this with just emotions. In the process, you will also understand whether their concerns are valid or just opposition to your relationship.

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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 20, 2026

I was looking for a girl and recently went to see one through a family friend she seemed good looking nice had good convo, her parents also liked me , but after a few days they told that she is not agreeing, and rejected me for a petty reason which was laughable later i enquired about her through social media i got to know she is in a relationship with a guy , dont know how serious they are but i was heartbroken as i had fallen for her everything matched and just because of this guy all those efforts gone in vain , now i am confused and have lost confidence in seeing girls i had started loving her and thought maybe she had some misunderstanding, so i need your help how to cope up with this and forget her

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
So, one girl rejects you and you have decided that 'all girls' are the same?
In one meeting you fell so much in love that you are willing to compromise your peace of mind?
How exactly can you forget that the day is fresh and new and that there's always more exciting things in store for you?
Choosing to feel better is in your hands as much choosing to feel miserable; she loves someone else, so what? There's a time when that will happen for you as well just that it won't be with this girl and that part is called ACCEPTANCE!

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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 21, 2026

For the question: "My parents are looking for grooms who are 10 years elder to me. I don't connect with the person at all. How to convince parents I am not interested in marrying a random stranger simply because he is well settled, has a good job and parents. I am 24, I want to work, travel, have my own experiences. my parents dont want me to date anyone, just get married. How is this fair? Am I asking something wrong?", One very important point you missed adding is that whether the person wants to marry at all. There are increasingly women who want to not marry and unsettle themselves. And it is her choice. Parents cannot force marriage on her. If they do, it can become a police case too of forced marriage.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Thank you for starting a healthy debate; your points are well taken.
I would also add that: when one is financially independent, then taking decisions for oneself is almost accepted by parents; when one makes a lot of noise without that financial backing, the parents assume they must step in and take charge...
I am not sure which question you are referring to, but keeping the cops out of this is wiser...anything that comes from a space of anger is just ego in place; who is going to benefit by involving the cops?

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 31, 2026

My mother-in-law gets involved in almost every aspect of my married life. She has moved in with us and tells me how to manage our home and children. She has a problem -- she has an opinion on everything I do. When my husband is around, she acts innocent to get his love and attention. She is a frequent liar and this has led to frequent arguments between us. My husband is finding it difficult to balance his relationship with both of us. How can I save my marriage?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
What if you simply nod to whatever she says and then exactly what you want.
"You may not like the way I do things at home, so maybe it will be easy if you lead the way;", slowly ease your way out of any of the tasks in this manner by filling the same time with something else to do...slowly transition things to her so that she does it the way that she wants.
Sadly the previous generation assume that the next generation need their guidance; yes they do but not in the form of instructions and demands and impositions but with a lot of love, care and support. It's hard to change that mindset, but draw boundaries to keep your sanity intact.

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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 22, 2026

I was looking for a girl and recently went to see one through a family friend she seemed good looking nice had good convo, her parents also liked me , but after a few days they told that she is not agreeing, and rejected me for a petty reason which was laughable later i enquired about her through social media i got to know she is in a relationship with a guy , dont know how serious they are but i was heartbroken as i had fallen for her everything matched and just because of this guy all those efforts gone in vain , now i am confused and have lost confidence in seeing girls i had started loving her and thought maybe she had some misunderstanding, so i need your help how to cope up with this and forget her

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I want you to understand that her rejection had nothing to do with you; you did not fall short. Look at it this way: She is already committed to someone else; she rejected you with petty reasons because it would have been unfair to drag you and keep you hooked only to marry the other guy in the end. From an outsider's POV, this saved you a bigger heart break. About feeling loss of confidence: it's understandable. But the moment you realise that it was not at all about you but her prior commitment, you will start feeling confident about yourself again. You deserve someone who will love you with their whole heart. Her rejection is not a reflection of your value.

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Question by Prashanth - May 07, 2026

Hi, I am 58 Yr old Male with 29 yrs into arranged marriage. I have 2 daughters. I am being treated like a stranger in my own house. My wife does not give respect, no value, no love and affection care. Always negatives talking about me for everything. Not listen to any thing regarding family or personal matters. I am not earning much. I am doing my best doing business services. For everything I need basic amount to manage my business until it develops. There is no support for this from my family. Instead of supporting and motivating me, She is always negative about me. She knows I am not earning enough and unable to meet major transactions. She has come from a wealthy family were as I am not. She has helped in providing financial support many times. Now past 3-4 yrs, her behavior has changed. She taunts and blames me for she providing the financial support. Whatever she has provided is always used for family. she knows that. I am unable to focus on my business development. She's gives negative feedback about me to my daughters and they also behave same with me, Instead of supporting and motivating me. There is no intimacy or sex past 1 year. Hardly 1 once in a month earlier, after I force (make positive effort) her lovingly. I love her very much. But this is making me lose that love & affection on her. In our 29 yrs of marriage, she never initiated intimacy, love. Always I been doing it. She never shows interest in getting physical right from 1st day. She has not kissed me even once or hugged me voluntarily in these 29 yrs. I initiate everything. I am romantic. She is not. She gives one or the other reason and avoids. She avoids kissing. She never liked gifts i bought for her. I want her to wear different dresses, but she rejects. Though we sleep on same bed, she just sleeps off. When i go to her, either she pushes or says she has to wake up early sleep now. Even with so many days gap, when I initiate intimacy after 1-3 months, but she taunts saying I only want that from her. I have been hugging, kissing and showing love, affection care on her right from the 1st day of marriage. The same thing is missing from her. I have tried many times talking to her in polite way, trying to woo her, but of no use. I have approached many times we can have one on one talk and sort out any issues she has with me, but she avoids coming into talking terms. I have tried to talk saying lets understand whats going wrong. If I start generally talking, she starts arguing, negative talking and avoids the main discussion that forces me to shut my mouth. when we go out on a 2-3 day trip, she enjoys outing seeing places, food & sleep. Doesn't behave romantically, lovingly. It's just like same as at home. Even I know I am not earning much and trying best to do well. She always keep telling about her money and financial support and her parental house with arrogance & attitude. She has been good with her parental side, but not my side. I believe both husband and wife should take care of family together irrespective of who is more financially strong. Just because I am not earning well, this type of treatment I don't understand. If it was recent few yrs I can understand. But right from day one I have been facing this. Now I've stopped talking much and in silence going through loneliness.

Ans: Dear Prashanth,
I understand that it has been quite difficult for you. After 29 yrs, feeling unwanted, unsupported and criticized can leave anyone extremely lonely. Your problem sounds a lot bigger than just lack of intimacy. There are long-standing communication issues, and both emotional and financial issues. This cannot be solved with romance alone. The better step is to stop pursuing intimacy for now, since your partner is uninterested, and instead focus on having a structured conversation, such as, "Are you willing to work on this marriage, to make it better?" If she refuses to discuss these things with you, I suggest seeing a marriage counsellor; it will be an impartial party looking into the matter, without supporting one over another.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 31, 2026

Hi Madam, I am from Jaipur. My daughter is married in well off joint family having a baby of 2 years. My daughter is facing the following problem/s. 1. In their family, she has mother-in-law, her two sons (daughter is married to the elder son), the other son is also married with a working wife. My daughter is also working in a reputed multinational company. 2. We have raised our daughter with good values viz. always respect elders whether or not they reciprocate with love, keep good relations with all (elders and younger), to take care of home. 3. The problem is her mother-in-law is totally in favour of her younger daughter-in-law as she is from their caste. She gives more importance to the younger bahu than my daughter. No matter how much my daughter does for her mom-in-law and others in the family, she always finds fault with her. On the other hand, the younger daughter-in-law is very clever and shrewd and finds ways to butter mother-in-law and the sister-in-law (who is also married having 2 children, living separately). She does very less household work and still manages to get praise from all because of her shrewdness. My daughter doesn’t like doing buttering, lip-service. 4. My daughter is therefore continuously facing physical and mental stress due to all this. She shares her sufferings with me and I try to console her and advise her to tactfully handle situations as they arrive. Don’t take too much stress but I understand her situation. 5. My son-in-law though loves his wife but care more for his ageing mother and therefore doesn’t confront his mother, his bhabhi or his younger brother (who is also totally in favour of his wife i.e. younger daughter-in-law). He supports my daughter in private but doesn’t confront his mother whenever my daughter complains about her, saying mom might feel hurt. 6. The biggest problem is due to all this; my daughter is in great stress. Sometimes unable to cope with extreme situations surrounding her. She keeps sharing her thoughts and problems with me and I give her advice according to best my knowledge and experience. I request for your expert advice on what action should we take so that my daughter can lead a normal, dignified life. Thanks.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It's almost impossible to change people BUT the way we respond to them is the only safe bet...

If your son-in-law openly supports your daughter, you know what it will do to the family; fights, arguments and if there's a rift your daughter will be blamed for it
If the only way is a joint family, then the way to approach this is quite straightforward and it's even better as your daughter is working, so very little time for interactions at home. Now, if your daughter chooses to be bothered by who's the better daughter-in-law and who does more work and who gets the praise, she's going to be stuck in this loop and there's no end to it.
Yes, I will ask her to ignore, do only what she can, not waiting for anyone to notice...seeing this change in behavior will definitely cause the family to notice it and who knows things may change.
If marriage only meant that one's efforts must be noticed and especially in a joint family, that is almost an impossibility as someone or the other is going to be unhappy with the efforts. Is your daughter going to chase this or is going to life her life?
As I mentioned earlier, trying to change someone will only end up in fights and if your daughter and her husband are ready for what will follow, then that's a choice that they need to make which is also fine.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 19, 2026

Hello Ma'am, My Son is 16 y/o and studing in class 10. He is in love with one of girl studing in his class, she also like my son and already reciprocated her feeleing. We both are working parents and as he lives alone all day at home, we have provided him Mobile, WiFi , Cable TV etc... Now we are worried as this can effect his studies as well as that girl too. WE as a parents tried our best to convyence him(my son) to stop all these things and focus on studies. Pls advice how to resolve this issue..?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Try and spend time with him when you are back from work and over the weekends.
Play sports with him or in any way that will give him time with you exclusively. The age that he is in, attraction to the other gender is common BUT if you start noticing that it's affecting his grades or he's going to be heavily distracted and lose focus on himself, then seek the help of a professional.

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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 08, 2026

Hello Mam/Sir I’m in relationship with my cousin and we both want to get married . How should I convince my parents as in Northern India. Our both parents completely against it but we can't live without each other what should i do pls help me Right now im not able to do anything

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
If cousin marriage is normal in your family, then try to tell your parents all the positives you see in your partner. But if the concept is not normalized, then I would urge you to understand why your parents are opposing. Is it because you are cousins or do they believe you can do much better? Once you understand their actual concern, you can slowly attempt to address them instead of trying to solve this with just emotions. In the process, you will also understand whether their concerns are valid or just opposition to your relationship.

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Question by P - Jul 22, 2026

my daughter 28+ feels that she should be married to a boy of same age or at the most 3 years old, does it make any difference if she marries a person who is 5 years senior to me

Ans: Dear P,

If your daughter has a certain preference, it is always best to keep that in mind while looking for alliances. It is possible that she thinks that a man close to her age will understand her best than a man 5 years older. If you push her to settle for someone whom she is not entirely comfortable with, it might later cause conflicts in the relationship. Marriage is a big decision and the one getting married should be allowed to have the ultimate say.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 16, 2026

I AM 38 SINGLE RICH Hindu MAN in India. NO SIBLINGS OR Friends. DID MY GRAD FROM US AND WORKED THERE. AFTER I RETURNED MY PARENTS PASSED. NOW I LIVE ALONE. WAS SCAMMED in SHAADI PORTAL. NEIGHBORS/RELATIVES DON'T HELP. WANT TO MARRY. CAN SOMEONE ADVICE?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am sorry you had such a bad experience while using an online matrimonial platform. I would suggest never sharing sensitive detail during the initial chatting phase and avoid financial conversations or matches who keep trying to steer any discussions toward money. Also, be careful of matches who share too many details too fast, because most genuine users tend to take their time vetting you and only then revealing details about themselves. Other than that, a little research will show you apps that suit your requirements. You do not have to be limited to matrimony sites alone. You can try dating apps that cater to serious daters who are looking for long term relationships and connections that lead to marriage. That would broaden your dating pool. I am sure you will find the right match very soon. Don't let one negative experience discourage you.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 13, 2026

My BF acts weird in front of others. But when we are at home, he is emotionally dependent on me. I noticed that he doesn't like taking pictures or talking to me much when we are with his friends. I thought he doesn't enjoy PDA, but something feels wrong. When we are together on the phone, he needs my attention, emotional support and reassurance. He shares all his stress, career worries and personal insecurities with me. But when we go on a date, or in public, especially around his male friends or coworkers, he behaves like I barely matter. Sometimes he will walk ahead of me, ignore me in a conversation and tell me to make friends with others. He acts very casual, like we are 'just friends.' Actually, we have been dating for 8 months so I am confused. I tried asking him and he said I am overthinking it. He feels there is nothing unusual or weird about not behaving like a ideal couple. But what is the harm in holding hands or looking at each other affectionately, even if we are not a married couple?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It's possible that your partner is a private person and he might be shy about PDA. But the real issue here is the difference in how he treats you in public and in private. It is understandable that you are feeling confused. Your partner needs to understand that holding hands is not just about showing affection but it also gives you a sense of security in the relationship. Express your feelings clearly; let him know that you want to be acknowledged as partner even when you are in public, and that's completely normal. If he continues to dismiss your feelings, even if it is truly overthinking, the issue will require a deeper conversation. A healthy relationship will always make you feel value, whether it is in private or with a room full of hundred people.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 15, 2026

mene mere bf pe cheat kiya h hm ek dusre se bahot pyar krte h pr mene cheat kiya me excuses nhi de rhi hu pr meri mental state thik nhi thi muze tk kuch smj nhi aaya ki me kya kr rhi hu ye galat h but abhi muze realize ho gya h m roj khud ko hurt kr rhi hu ye guilt muze jine nhi de rha h muze mera bf vaps chahiye m kya kru?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
If you are physically hurting yourself, I strongly urge you to stop and speak about your struggles to a close friend or family member. Talking really helps. Next, I understand that you want your partner back, but we can't force someone. Give it some time. I think both of you need time right now to heal from the wound. I would urge you to take better care of yourself, both mental and physical health.

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Question by Subhadip - Jul 13, 2026

My parents are fully support my relationship then,My gf gave some slang to my parents few years ago , after these incident my parents are against my relationship and now they want that i marry an another girl according to them ..now what should i do ?

Ans: Did your gf have anger issue? Has she worked on it
Was this a one time incident? And never done again

If so then explain to folks it was one time outburst

If not and this is how she is - ask her to work on her self and once she does - you can then convince your family.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 29, 2026

Please suggest how to bring back intimacy in our marriage, we barely have sex now. We both don't talk about it, we don't do. We feel we have done which is not creating any attraction and making the feel to do love. It feels now we are just two individuals married for 15 years.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
How long have you been married? If it's been a while, the monotony of it can seep into the bedroom creating boredom. If the marriage is more recent then check if arguments or expectations from one another have been conflicting leading to poor intimacy. Coming to the topic of intimacy, it's not just physical but starts with emotional intimacy. Have conversations, spend time with each other, do little things for one another, pay compliments, and express gratitude to each other!
Intimacy inside the bedroom starts outside of it.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 21, 2026

I'm dating a married man on a dating website. Initially we met as friends, and within a year, he opened up about troubles in his marriage. I was shocked that he was married and I disconnected with him. We didn't speak to each other for three years while his divorce was going on. But we recently bumped into each other and discovered we were still interested in each other. He is genuinely sweet and takes good care of me when we are together. There is a warmth about him without being demanding, which I like about him. He is still not divorced because his wife wants 3/4th of his current and ancestral property. They don't even have kids so he is resisting. They were married for 2 years and according to him, they were not compatible and she was only interested in his money, so he chose to separate. I know divorce cases can be ugly, but I don't know how to support him? I really love him. But reality is I am 43, single and he is 47, yet to be divorced. What are my chances to find genuine love again? Should I wait and support him or accept the reality that our time is not now?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Ask most women who date men who are going through a divorce and they will have tales to tell you on how:
- it creates insecurities, doubts and high levels of anxiety
- you never get chosen as he is fighting a battle outside
- it leads you to keep vacillating between 'should i be with him or leave him'?

It's one thing being in love, it's totally something else to act on that emotion. If any emotion leads you to anxiety and insecurities, either wait for the clouds to clear and the wind to blow gently your way OR accept this fully...So, if you wish to support him, know what you are getting into especially if you are envisioning a future with him soon. You have no clue how long it's going to take for his divorce to fall through and if he wants to be married again.
Know what you want and what this relationship can offer you and then make a wise choice.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 29, 2026

My parents are looking for grooms who are 10 years elder to me. I don't connect with the person at all. How to convince parents I am not interested in marrying a random stranger simply because he is well settled, has a good job and parents. I am 24, I want to work, travel, have my own experiences. my parents dont want me to date anyone, just get married. How is this fair? Am I asking something wrong?

Ans: First breathe and smile

Unsure the kind of relationship you share with parents.
Unsure if you are ready to get married now or later.

If you share a healthy realtionship with your parents let them know
- that while they are searching, you are open to meeting men but not ready to get married for another 2 years as you are looking to work all your life and wish to focus on building a strong foundation in terms of your career, so when you get married you can then focus on building a relationship vs juggling both if you marry now.

- work on your early filters and share it with your parents as they search for a boy - this may help - https://andwemet.com/blog/must-haves-vs-non-negotiables-dating-after-28explained-i-andwemet

- dont fight your parents, because the more you push the less they will listen - tell them to search in the age group you want them to be. As for those 34 - you meet them (it's sad but nothing can be done about it) and decline them if the age does not work for you.

Now something else

1) Keep in mind the man will not share his finances 'as expected by the society' even if he marries you and makes way more than you. Money is a sensitive matter and it is fair if he does not share it with you, you are marrying him and not a financial liability - however things change in 2-3 years once trust is built. A request please do not say a yes just because he makes 3 or 4 times more than you and if you do keep this point in mind.

2) Meet the men with an OPEN mind and text less, meet more, observe more - meet 7-8 times over an activity, for eg: a board game, meet his friends, introduce him to your friends etc

3) Keep in mind a healthy marriage will allow you to work, travel, have your own experiences :)

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 30, 2026Hindi

Hi ma'am , I am lil bit demotivated now a days , me and my best friend decided that if we will end up being in same college then we will be in official relation , we studied a lot , but unfortunately we are not getting same college , we were so close , we planned everything , and now going to iiser behrampur without him , it sucks , he can't continue a long distance relation , he had a bad experience in his last long distance relation , so he is basically not ready , I understand but , what's my fault in this , we shared everything , we were completely into each other , we had everything except just commitment , we were both emotionally and physically involved , I don't know ma'am but I am suffering a lot , it's kind of trauma for me , not just that we will not be in same college , but it affects me more that how can he walk away so easily like this ....

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand that you are feeling really sad and I am sorry that you are going through this right now. Sometimes two people can deeply care about each other but circumstances can get in the way. I know it's hard to accept but this happens sometimes in life. It's neither of your fault. The decision he made does not reflect your worth in his eyes; it just means he is deeply bothered by distance in a relationship. Right now, I would suggest you focus on yourself and this new chapter of your life. Give yourself time to heal; there's no rush to be okay. Take your time.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 20, 2026Hindi

My boyfriend sometimes says things that really upset me, and I end up getting angry very quickly. For example, he may make a casual joke about my cooking or cleaning habits. He will sometimes compare me to someone else, or say something sarcastic in front of his friends. I am not prepared so it instantly triggers me. Even small or silly comments like 'you are just lazy' or ignoring something I told and reminded him weeks ago can make me lose my temper and react strongly. This is starting to affect our relationship and daily communication. I want to know how to deal with my anger issues, so there are less misunderstandings in love. How can I respond in a calmer way?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
First of all, it's great that you have identified the flaw in yourself and trying to rectify it. Now, the instances you shared sound like legit reasons to have a reaction but how you show it makes all the difference. Instead of shouting or picking a fight, as soon as you feel yourself getting angry, remove yourself from the situation for a while. For instance, if your partner is making a joke which doesn't sit right with you, just leave the room for a moment till your anger fades and you can think rationally whether the situation truly demanded that reaction. If you feel, yes, he was out of line, take your time and calm down first and then have an open conversation with him about how his jokes or comments make you upset. You are not the only one in the wrong here. Trust me, a calm conversation can sort out 90% of the daily problems we face.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 16, 2026Hindi

My gf and soon to be wife is very possessive and insecure. She is a single child and has grown up in a nuclear family. She doesn't like it when I spend time with my cousins or friends. Initially I tried involving her but she wasn't comfortable so I would meet them without her. But I have always informed her. Now she finds new reasons to get annoyed. I don't understand what her problem is. I want to be honest with her but her behaviour is making me wonder if I should stop telling her who I am meeting with. If we want to get married, this behaviour can be very damaging to both of us. We have been dating for 3 years and if I break up with her, I don't want to hurt us. How do I talk to her?

Ans: Ok if it is how it is then please please delay the marriage - if she does not change her ways this will not work.

I agree breakups are bad - really hurtful - so you have 2 choices
1) marry and stay unhappy all your life
or
2) break up and feel hurt for a year or so

decide what works - we can talk in detail if you wish by scheduling an interaction here https://andwemet.com/relationship-guidance

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 13, 2026

I am having issues with fake faces, promises, hidden goals in relationships. i feel like a failure for not being fit in, its difficult to share that i feel cheated or dumped in every single relationship i have today. is this only i am the problem or it is what it is ??

Ans: You may not like my response - the issue is
- you are choosing wrong
- you dont love yourself enough and seek external validation.

Change both and see the difference. There is guidance service if you wish to invest in to improve your life choices - https://andwemet.com/relationship-guidance

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Asked by Anonymous - May 11, 2026Hindi

My wife is very active socially and often gets appreciation or small awards at different events and functions. Whenever something good happens, she gets genuinely excited and always makes an effort to share that happiness with her family. She never goes empty-handed - she'll take sweets or snacks for everyone, happily explain what happened at the event, who appreciated her work, and all the small details with excitement. But what I've observed is that her family - especially her brothers and elder sister - mostly just listen quietly, eat the sweets, and move on. They don't really ask questions, show curiosity, appreciate her efforts, or even casually discuss it later. There's no excitement, no proud reaction, not even simple comments like 'well done' or 'how did it happen?' Sometimes it feels emotionally very flat from their side. I personally feel bad seeing this because my wife genuinely values family support and always includes them in her happy moments. I can't understand whether this is just their nature, jealousy, emotional reserve, or simply the way some families behave without openly expressing appreciation. How should someone deal with this kind of silent response from close family members?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Why are you jumping to her defense? Did your wife mention that she is bothered by it? Each person and their family dynamics are unique...maybe you come from a family where everyone is very expressive and her side of the family are muted about sharing.
To each his/her own; if you start looking at it through a magnifying lens, it's always going to look alarmingly insane.
Unless your wife feels bad about it, let it be and let it go...
If she does mention that she wants to do something about it, step into it and suggest that she clearly mentions to her family how she feels and what she would like as a response from them instead.
Life gets easier to sail through once we learn to accept people for who they are rather than expect them to turn the world over and change which anyway isn't going to happen, yeah?

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Asked by Anonymous - May 20, 2026

Hi health expert, I have been struggling with severe health anxiety for many years now. I am currently in my mid-40s and I think this started after a traumatic experience around 10–12 years ago. We had gone on a family vacation and shortly after returning my uncle fell seriously ill. After diagnosis we found out he had advanced stage cancer and we lost him within a few months. The shock of that experience affected me deeply and ever since then I have lived with an intense fear of cancer and serious illness. Even small things like a stomach ache, a pimple, swelling, fever, or any unusual sensation trigger extreme fear in me. I immediately start thinking the worst and it causes sleepless nights and constant worry. This has seriously affected my quality of life. Along with the anxiety, my OCD symptoms also become very intense during these phases. It feels like there’s a voice in my head constantly telling me to perform certain rituals like praying immediately, drinking water at a specific moment, not switching off the AC, or doing random actions “or else” something bad will happen. It becomes mentally exhausting, and at times I struggle to function normally in my daily routine. I have consulted several psychiatrists and psychologists over the years, but I still feel unhappy and stuck. I am reaching out here to ask if anyone has experienced something similar or found anything that genuinely helped whether coping techniques, home remedies, calming practices, or anything else that brought some peace and stability. Basically I am looking for some home remedy and also want to check is this something rare or they are people who goi through this.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Health anxiety is not abnormal but it can rob you of a good quality life and when it starts to eat into your mind and keep you stuck in a loop constantly, you need to take action.
Your nervous system is on a hyper vigilant mode that perceives a small burp as a major threat sending you into a survival mode. This will keep you in an endless loop of worry, researching symptoms, anxious over the smallest things; everything will feel heightened. Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) is known to treat this very well; you can seek a therapist in your area to guide you through this challenge.
In the meantime, you can try the following at home:
- every time you feel your heart beating heavily or mind racing, resort to breathing from the diaphragm (2 mins; don't force the breaths, let it be as easy as it can be - if you begin to feel uneasy STOP immediately)
- journal your thoughts and write down your worst fears and breathe again reassuring yourself that it happened to your uncle and that does not mean it will happen to you as well
- practice the attitude of gratitude and write down 5 things that you are grateful for every night before going to bed
- the next time there's a thought that you are about to loop into, do 10 jumping jacks or splash cold water on your face; this attempts to distract you and reset your nervous system
- surround yourself with people who are usually cheerful and carry a positive mindset

You are either the master of your mind OR you get enslaved by it; you have experienced the latter...for once, try taking charge and see how you can master it and live peacefully. It requires mind training and it's possible with consistent efforts.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 13, 2026Hindi

My husband is having an affair with a woman from his gym for over a year now. I started suspecting it when I started noticing small changes in him. He is 47 and he suddenly became very conscious about his looks. I pushed him to join a gym and soon he started spending extra time. I helped him buy new clothes but now he is glued to his phone. I thought he was focusing on fitness and health. Slowly, he started ignoring me. Our talks reduced, he would get irritated if I asked him something. He started dressing up and hiding stuff from me. When I confronted him, he admitted he had become close to a younger woman from the gym. But what hurt the most was when he said that being with her makes him feel younger. I was shocked he said this after 17 years of our marriage. We have a 15 year old daughter. This woman from the gym is 23. I have seen her on Instagram. Does this mean our marriage is over? Should I speak to the woman as well?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It says more about your husband than you; the man short of his 50s needs validation from girls in their early 20s to feed his ego...On her part, she's possibly just getting a 'fatherly' protective instinct from him and the attention on both sides is being misinterpreted as 'attraction'.
Most likely, it will fall by the side soon when she finds a younger guy and in case it doesn't, time to take your husband to task...he needs a reality check; just send a male member of the family to the gym at the same time. Men like your husband are very worried about their image and will get the message loud and clear.

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jun 02, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - May 11, 2026Hindi

Hello I am 49 years old male I don't know if I am suffering from high level anxiety or not sure what it is I am also suffering from high blood pressure and high blood sugar level but unable to control and get medical check up due to financial issues. I am unemployed for almost 2 years and I think of some incident and as if I am having a argument with argument and cannot conclude that imagination until I get exhausted and sweat. especially while sleeping then I imagine other incident which makes me really talk to myself whisper loudly and I don't know why it keeps happening to me and also have habit of looking at the mirror a lot I really don't know what it is it how to become normal.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Mind and Body work in perfect tandem to either keep you unhealthy or healthy.
So, by not doing a few tests, your mind is constantly in the anxiety loop and that's again going to make you ill. Blood Pressure is just a walk in routine check with a general practitioner of Medicine which does not cost a lot and so is a test to determine how much are your blood sugar levels through a simple blood test. Get it done and get medicines if required and notice how quickly your mind settles as your body gets taken care of.

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jun 02, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Apr 24, 2026

My partner and I are very different when it comes to hobbies and interests. For example, I enjoy going out, exploring new places, meeting people, and trying new activities, while my partner prefers staying at home, watching movies, or just relaxing quietly. In the beginning, these differences didn’t bother me much, but now I sometimes feel like we don’t have enough in common to spend quality time together. There are moments when I want to do something exciting, but I end up going alone or compromising, and that makes me wonder if this gap will grow bigger over time. At the same time, I also understand that everyone has their own personality and preferences. So I’m confused is it actually okay for partners to have completely different hobbies and interests, or is having common activities important for a strong and long-term relationship?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Yeah, it's absolutely okay for two partners in a relationship to be widely different in their likes and dislikes. They key lies in how you bridge that gap.
Is this by highlighting how different you are and feel upset by it OR recognizing those differences and finding things to do in common?
Usually, I would suggest having an open communication where the two of you respectfully agree that you are different but will make the effort to spend time doing things together. And it's also okay to do your own things during the week and get together of the weekends to do stuff that both of you enjoy. You could also agree that one weekend you spend time at home and do stuff that your partner like and the next weekend you two do what you like by going out.
It's about bridging that gap respectfully and politely; it works!

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Asked by Anonymous - May 11, 2026

Whenever I plan a family trip or even a simple one-day outing, my wife somehow ends up suggesting a temple visit as the main destination. I understand faith is important to her, and I respect that completely, but honestly I get a little frustrated because almost every trip starts feeling more like a religious visit than an actual break or vacation. Sometimes I just want to relax, explore new places, enjoy food, nature, or spend light-hearted time together without following a temple-focused schedule all the time. Even if I suggest a hill station, beach, resort, or short leisure drive, she'll usually try to include a famous temple nearby and make that the priority. After a point, I've started losing excitement while planning trips because I already know where the conversation will go. I don't want to hurt her feelings or disrespect her beliefs, but I also wish my idea of a relaxing holiday was considered equally important. How do couples balance different expectations like spirituality versus leisure when planning family outings?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Rather than having trips that cover only either/or, why don't you plan one that combine both...that way both of you are happy. Finish the temple visits first and then go and have a relaxed time by the mountains and oceans.
If this entails a long holiday and is hard to do, then have a conversation that you alternate between temples and leisure holidays.
There's always a mid-point, you know! And to accommodate each others' preferences is what makes for a happy holiday time...

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