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i am 42 yrs married and i married before 15yrs.My spouse cheated me before our marriage, she had a relationship with one guy.. that time i also asked her abt this guy but she not told me anything. and second day of my marriage i came to know that she cheated me.i completely broke down and i told her don't leave with me. go to your home. but she said i didn't know how this happened and i was very sorry for my mistake and i will never do it again in my life.. now its almost 15 yrs went away but still i unable to forgot what she done with me. we have two kids. Since the day i warned her before 15 yrs still today she listen everything i want, every words, whatever she want to do she always took my permission. but still i unable to forgot her past. she cheated me that time... whenever i thought abt her i felt nervous and its effect on work.. what should i do

My boyfriend's mom is very possessive. Whenever we are together she finds a reason to interrupt or call him away from me. When we go out, she constantly checks on where he is, what we are doing, and how long we will be together. I feel like there is too much interference. He is 31, I am 27. We are both financially independent. But there is no space for us to build our relationship without his mom being involved in our lives. I understand her concern as a mother, but this level of control makes me feel invisible and sidelined. I'm worried how this will affect our relationship if we continue and take it to the future?

Is a joint family better than living separate? My boyfriend is a Gujarati who has always lived in a joint family. He is 32 and they do business together as a family. That's a tradition for over 80 years now. Every one has separate rooms, businesses. But they prefer and try to have one meal together. I am 27, an MBA from a Tamil family. I have cousins and grandparents but we have always been a nuclear family travelling betweeen Mumbai and Pune. I have a younger sister who lives with my parents in Pune. I find the concept of joint family too overwhelming. I am okay to meet them during festivals but living in the same house with so many people is making me uncomfortable. I love my BF so much that I might just agree to make him happy but deep inside I know I will regret the decision. I feel it is so unfair that I have to choose between following his tradition and my comfort and peace. He doesn't mind if I eat non veg outside the house. There are no other discomfort or disagreement areas apart from this. His parents have accepted me as their daughter and I find it hard to tell them I want to live separate. What should I do?

Is it normal if you don’t miss your partner anymore? I recently noticed that when my partner leaves for work or long travel, I feel nothing. When we were dating, I used to feel so emotional. I would cry a lot, miss him for days. Now, I feel nothing. No relief, no longing, no irritation, just emotional blankness. This scares me more than arguments ever did. Does it mean our love is slowly dying?

I am 32 married for 6 years, no kids. But I have been noticing that my partner has changed a lot. He is talking less, I feel less emotional connection, and we have been spending very little time together. I don't know if there was any incident after which his behaviour changed or it is something that happened naturally. Whenever I try to talk about it, it gets ignored. I feel confused, stressed, and worried about my marriage, and this relationship. What should I do?

Hello. I am currently in my second year of Engineering. I have been studying in a boarding school since 8th standard. Till 7th, there was a girl whom I didn't like much. But, after seeing her after almost 1.5 year, in 9th, I was literally shocked. I got a deep crush for her. But the biggest problem has raised because my family shifted to a city far away from the previous one in my 10th standard. I can't even find her anywhere, not on Instagram or anywhere on social media. Her father might be there in contact list of my dad's phone. But I am very much afraid to inform regarding this to my family. What should I do ?

Dear Sir, I am 45YO working in GCC and She is 45YO working in India govt banking sector. We met through matrimonial site in 2009. We liked each other and decided to get marry. But due to some arrogent way of talking of her and her mother with my mother, which I didn't like at all. So before gettting finalising and engagement, I decided to go away from her without hurting and it took 5 month in Feb 2010. Actually I AM AGAINST HURTING ANYBODY'D'S HEART. So I made a situaton like that she rejected me. While meeting we both decided, even though, if we are not getting married with other we will be as friends in future. So I got married in 2011 and She got married in 2012. After our marriage we got busy in our married life and we were not able to contact with other for several years. But in second half of 2019 we again came into to contact over phone WA. Once she demanded make-up box and some chocolates from GCC, so I provided through courier. Then her demand increased with mobile recharge, Sani-pads, U/garment, sometime cakes on birthdays for her and for her 2 daughters, for late father's, own mother even though her mother stays in different city, gifts through Amezon, Flipkaut, Zamato, Swiggu etc etc.. One day she told she want to marry me, because there were physical quarrel with the husband and MIL, So she want to get divorse due to dosmetic violence between them. I avoided this topic as I am happy with my married life. Then 1 day she had some gmeil problem she was not receving email so she shared password. So I cleared all the promotions and unuseful stuff from her gmeil account. But I was shocked when I saw that she had saved all communication of having extramarital affair chats of WA with her office 2 different colleagues and, 1 Garage mechanic and College friend all were vulgar chats and different-different years. Especially all vulgar words and arrangement and planning made by her to meet in different room location. There I came to know why her husband is so physical quarrel with her. She had mentioned about husband activity of beating to her. And so both of them want to get divorse. But this all thing I kept it confidential with me from her. Let she admit some day. But I am still waiting. Now after 2021 all this has stopped because I convinced her and made her feel what she was doing after meeting her. She admitted her mistake and she promised that she will not go in wrong path. She also said it happened unknowingly she went with the flow. But She pleaded me and wants my Love and want to marry me privately and for her happiness, she in under divorce process. She proposed me for marriage in 2021 till now I have avoided with some excuses. Coming to the main topic, since 2021 to 2025, whenever I visit India, we meet each other, as I too have soft-corner for her and Love her as we were first Love of each other in 2009. Everytime when I inform her that I am coming to India, her dreams flies in sky and tells me come soon, I want to marry with You. And every time she ask something or the other gift as mentioned above. How should I get rid of this burden of over-expenses. Due to this it is difficult to manage my monthly expenses, means "The snake has to be killed and the stick should remain intact". Everytime I tells her this month not possible next month for sure, but again after 2-3 days she comes with new demand. And I am sure, if I broke this relationship she will again go to wrong path as she is getting divorce. Pls give some tips how to reply her to stop these expenses from me.

My son a corporate lawyer is 27, he is seeing a girl since covid 19 ended, the girl is well educated, courteous,rightly placed but very independent minded. they both want to marry and myself and my wife do not have any objection to it, infact we have agreed that they can live independently post wedding to hav desired privacy subject to uphlding indian values. they both understand it very well. Now the issue is the girls parents appear to have objection to her wedding wince they think they are rich and if the girl marries our son she will have to face regular constraint for money and will need to live like middile class families. Their point is well undertood by us and respected by us i.e. myself my wife and my son. Issue is 1. we the parents never knew that they were very socalled rich, 2. we never thought that the the couple will marry as my son had told us multiple times that they dont haveany such plan. 3. we as parents are ok with they not marryiing or marrying, only this is the cancellatin of marriage will scar our son for ever emotionally as he had said that if she does not marry him he will not marry again. Kindly advise how do we support this situation to avoid damage to everyone.

Hello Dr, I am married for 24 years. Our was love cum arranged marriage. But within 3-4 months of our marriage we had leave my fathers house due some dispute between me and my father. We shifted to a rental home. We have 2 son who now grown up. Our family life was good. In the year 2019 I got a job in Kenya. I was working there on bachelors status. My family was staying back in mumbai and wife is also working. I visited my family very year for a month on holiday. In Dec'2024 I lost my job and came back to mumbai. I was jobless for 6 months. Since July I have started working in a small firm for survival. Physically We both are not active since 4 years. Now I feel like to reconnect with her physically and emotionally. But dont know she is a changed person. She doesnt have emotions for me. If I try to even touch her she gives me a scary look. Please tell me how should I handle this situation. I want her back in my life.

Hi RediffGurus, I’m a 30M (CTC : 30LPA) and currently in serious marriage discussions with a woman (28F ; CTC : 25LPA) I met through Shaadi.com. Some context: We’ve met 5+ times one-on-one Our families have met twice Conversations have been deep and transparent on values, marriage expectations, kids, finances, lifestyle We even went as far as sharing ITR, CIBIL scores, investment details We both did and shared full body health checkups, including fertility, STDs, and thalassemia In our 2nd meet, we discussed past relationships. She told me she had one relationship. In the last meet a few days ago, she herself brought up physical intimacy (I did not bring this up out of nowhere). I honestly shared that I’m a Virgin. She explicitly said she is a Virgin too. After that, we got formally engaged with the Blessings of both Families & continued meeting up with each other, occassionally. Then during one of our recent meets, out of nowhere, she confessed that she is NOT a Virgin and that she had been physical with her ex. Her explanation was that at the time the topic came up earlier, she wasn’t comfortable sharing and ended up giving an incorrect answer. She said she fumbled her response to her own question. Now I’m struggling with something deeper than just the V-card aspect. Because: This was explicitly discussed, not assumed She had multiple chances to correct it earlier We were already at a stage of extreme transparency in other sensitive areas. Now I’m questioning other things we’ve discussed that I can’t independently verify. Like views on cheating, open marriage, long-term expectations, etc. I don’t know: Whether this is a forgivable lapse due to fear/discomfort? Or a red flag about honesty? Or what, realistically, she can do now to rebuild trust? I don’t want to overreact, but I also don’t want to ignore this. How should I proceed in this situation? What questions should I ask myself or her before deciding whether to move forward or walk away?

I am seeing someone for 2 years. He's a doctor and I noticed that he's active on multiple dating apps even after we started dating. I am confused because he said he likes me but his actions feel different. Is this because we agreed to see each other seriously this year. I don't know if he is keeping his options open because I am serious. I feel worried and unsure if I should confront or step back. What should I do?

Seeking advice to help my brother move on after failed love/marriage Hi Sir/Madam, My brother was in a relationship with a girl who is 14 years younger than him. They had been in love for more than 10 years. The girl’s family was aware of their relationship, but our family was not. After nearly 10 years, my brother informed us that he wanted to marry her. This came as a shock to our family, and we initially did not agree to the marriage. None of us in the family (my parents, my sister, or I) approved of his choice for several reasons. For two years, we tried to convince him not to go ahead with the marriage, but he was firm in his decision. Eventually, we accepted his choice, and the marriage took place. However, after the marriage, they never stayed together even for a single day. The girl left soon after for her exam preparation, which lasted about 8 months. Later, she expressed that she no longer wanted to live with him, saying she had lost all feelings for him and wanted a divorce. My brother still loves her deeply and wants to live with her. He is even ready to accept all her conditions, including her wish to work. But the girl continues to reject him and insists on getting a divorce. We are trying to convince my brother to accept the reality, let go of the past, and start a new life. However, he remains emotionally attached to her and is unable to move on. Our aged parents are deeply distressed, as he is not listening to anyone’s advice. He is now 39 years old, and we are worried that he is losing precious time and peace of mind. Please suggest how we can help him overcome this difficult phase and begin a new chapter in his life.

Sir, I used to teach a girl. After a year, we both fell in love with each other. But then I suffered from a serious mental illness, and during that time, I asked her to tie a rakhi (sacred thread symbolizing a brother-sister relationship). Now that I’ve recovered, I still have feelings of love for her. What should I do?

I'm 21M, 2year cllg student. I'm attracted towards 3year senior girl. She is very pretty, and very beautiful n attractive. I see her with respect and wanted to talk n meet but never able to do it.. I just notice her and my mind kinda start observing her.. I liked her social nature, very passionate speaker and good dancer and have a bold voice. Her vibe is chilling and funny. But here is me fantasizing about her, meeting her and smiles, giggles in thinking. As I'm bit insecure and ambivert but I tried to be open n social by joining club and spreading connection but my due to my nature all same. It's going to be 10 month of her being my crush but ... Tell me the RIGHT path.. forget her(which I can't) or confess her( which I'm not able to)..

I enjoy being active on social media and like posting photos, reels, and updates about my daily life, travel, and time with friends. However, my parents constantly worry about online safety, family reputation, and what relatives or neighbours might say if they see my posts. They often ask me to delete pictures, stop posting stories, or reduce my social media presence, even when there is nothing inappropriate. Last time a professor saw me online and said I should spend time studying than be on Instagram. I was being polite by adding them to my feed. Now I feel like they want to control me. Should I just block them or hide my posts?

I am 17, in college and sometimes skip lectures because they feel repetitive or unhelpful, but my parents expect 100 per cent attendance. When they find out, it leads to arguments and lectures about discipline and responsibility. They feel that skipping classes means I am becoming careless. My grades are decent if not great. But it leads to comparison with peers who I don't relate to. How do I explain my perspective and still maintain trust with my parents?

I am about to get engaged to a NRI boy in an arrange marriage setup. My concern is that he hardly calls me (maybe once in 15 days) and dont even text me sating that he dont like texting, and when i discussed with him that this bothers me, he said you are expecting too much we are not girlfriend boyfriend, its an arrange marriage. We just met once and things were finalized. Again his avoidant nature is bothering me, is it normal to call only 2-3 times in a month? What should I do?

Hello... I don’t know what to do here or am I playing with my life or what..! I am a woman making my career As CMA which will be done within 4 years as i have already cleared half of the exams and after that my family has said that they will wait for 4 years max and then i need to marry cus i have two more sisters younger than me on the other side i wanna marry my bf but he is not settled yet and said he need time to settle his dreams are also big like setting multiple business and has to set 5 business like gym+sanitary+electrical equipments+ home decor+tiles and said he also wanna buy a car due to this he can’t focus on marriage and said “in sab ke alawa mujhe kuch nahi sujhta” but also said that “if he was doing something he would definitely marry me cus he need a life partner “ but these business will take time like many years...I am getting too much proposals right now cus it is my prime age for this. I am too confused what should I do as my bf said that he can’t even do engagement before those things and my family will pressure me in 4th year

Hi I am married for 24 years. Our was a love cum arranged marriage. But within 3-4 months of our marriage we had to leave my father's house due some dispute between me and my father. We shifted to a rental home. We have two sons who are now grown up. Our family life was good. In the year 2019 I got a job in Kenya. I was working there on bachelor status. My family was staying back in mumbai and wife was also working. I visited my family very year for a month on holiday. In December 2024 I lost my job and came back to Mumbai. I was jobless for 6 months. Since July I have started working in a small firm for survival. Physically both of us are not active since 4 years. Now I feel like reconnecting with her physically and emotionally. But I feel like she is a changed person. She doesnt have any emotions for me. If I try to even touch her she gives me a scary look. Please tell me how to handle this situation. I want her back in my life.

I am around 59, I was never married, possibly no luck or rue my past chances when I was young and attractive, I am still in good looks, hit the gym everyday; I like one girl who is single, 29 years old and am seriously interested in her, she is quiet and works in sales-telecom, her english is not so eloquent but I find her very attractive, I am interested to marry her, I met her in th past, she likes my dressing, personality, finds me attractive but never reciprocated to me, she is altogether conservative, I did not have her telephone number and email but got her coordinates from a known person to both, I like her very much. I sent her messages on her email - no obscene messages but like "I adore you", "I like you" etc in hindi; I quietly saw the reciepant in her email "+1" - but cannot fathom this "+1" receipant, so was scared maybe she connected me to her HR or to police but I am a a smart and intelligent bloke; maybe she could put me into police?? -but I never would write anything obscene to her; but whenever I send her message I always write the first line - "please do not complain" - how to improvise ?? My body functions very fine, my productivity I assume is good because I exercise regularly and before I was a long distance runner; I am definately going to tell her that - I wish to marry her and that "I like you intensely" !! please advise ?? - dreams need to be attempted !! regards

Hi My Name is krunali my problem is that related to relationship n marriage life, my age 33 yr i have one kid of 5 month old only but my husband this time went to Thailand in last week only n told me i am getting bore at home bcz he drop me 15 days back only my native home town nagpur city , we 3 of us came here i vusited to my inlaws family then my husband drop me my mom home, after few day i got one call but bcz of small baby i unable received that call but after some time he massage me on whats app krunali mye 1 week ke liye solo trip ja rha hu karabi n phuket kal se 1 week ke liye thats it , befor this massage never ever we discussed about any trip or he is getting bore in Bangalore without me or my baby ....when i call him immediately when i saw his text he said ki muze bore ho rha hai mye solo trip ja rha hu even though we lost out one baby in 8th month only whole family was into pain n last time when i was pregnant n we lost out baby after two month of staying in banglore i came up with my mom dad in home town , after one month he came for Diwali festive were coming and he can we communicated like always were doing we had sex to but next day night he was down stairs i came to my bedroom in in-laws place n i just simply saw his wallet. What i found flight laugh bill airport bill of laugh and airport bus ticket of return of Bangalore ,when i saw this all thing i shocked i started crying when i saw in his laptop bag Bangkok ticket of 1 week trip n money exchange he spent 50 k in indian rs. I was around 19 k thai bat ... i controlling my self until my husband came to bedroom and indirectly i started questioning ... and that day i hot to know ki my husband telling lie to me but that time i didn’t open that Bangkok topic bcz my inlaws not supporting to me at all i cant express how bed i felt that day ... because when i was my mom dad home he told me he is going for shri shri ravi shankar sessions for upcoming 1 week and my mobile will be switched of for one week i trusted because we both was in pain that time because od we last baby in 7th month and this time also happend same only i was againg pregnant immediately bcz before knowing this all i got that two like i was thing about to take sepration from him but in that same month soarting only i got positive pregnancy i tought with him he said i won’t go without knowing you after that , and this time he informed me he is going for solo trip , i dont know if you have beautiful wife very charming kif of 5 month its about 1 month only i came here my mom dad home he said he is getting bore he maid plan he informed me n he went , when i m calling him at night he is saying y ru calling at night , its sleeping tym and 2 days massage was not delivered him bcz hi off the mobile ...what should i do now i m loving him alot i want happy peacefull family what should i do???

I met a boy in arrange marriage meeting one week ago he said that he had no drinking habit then tomorrow we meet again then he admitted he drinking occasionally what should I do now

Hi. We are a family of 4, my husband aged 45 years, myself of 44 years and 2 kids, a son aged 3 years and a daughter aged 15 years. I have been feeling lonely since last 4-5 years and since my husband used to get angry over me for small reasons, I only discuss only if it feels absolutely necessary. Our emotional and physical connect was also entirely missing. Recently I found my husband cheating with another woman and when asked for he admitted of cheating me with multiple different women over last 6 years. Although he admits his mistake and it feels as if he is trying to improve and give more attention to me, however i fear that he may cheat again which has resulted in sleepless nights filled with fear for me even when he sleeps besides me. It seems that I have 3 options. Option 1 - To continue my life and let him do whatever he wants. Option 2 - Give him a chance assuming that he will not cheat, Option 3 - Seperate from him, assuming that he is definitely going to cheat. I have read on multiple forums that on ce a male starts cheating he never stops. Pls guide on which option I should take.

Is 16 too young to date? I am in first year of college, and I like meeting someone during weekends. He's my childhood friend who has known me since I was 7. But my parents believe that relationships are a distraction and should only happen after marriage. Because of this, I hide things from them, which makes me feel guilty and stressed too. I want honesty but I know how my parents will react if I tell them who I meet. How should I deal with my relationship while living with parents? Is it a crime to meet and share your feelings?

Shadi se pahle wife ka past malum ho gya to kya karu

My parents often judge my friends based on their background, habits, or social media presence. We chat, make reels, bunk classes or talk late nights because we like spending time, gossipping, discussing college. They think my friends are a bad influence, even though they don’t really know them. They don't even make the effort. This makes me feel misunderstood and embarrassed. How do I handle this situation without choosing between my friends and my family?

My son is a B. Tech (computer Science) second year student in a well reputed Private University in Greater Noida. He is working very hard in studies but not able to get good grade or passing marks. He is introvert type and has not many friends. He has been introduced to many teachers and senior students for hand holding purposes and guiding him but he not coming up to meet them and sort out his problems. He is a hosteler. To whom should we take him (Professional Counsellor/ Psychologist/ Psychiatrist) to assess and know the exact reasons or issues he is facing to address his problems. How can we help him to come out of present situation.

I am 43 years old married man, arranged marriage. Married for past 13 years with 4 kids (aged 2, 3, 10 and 13). I work abroad with good salary package and live with my family. My wife is MSc. and home maker. She teaches the kids and cooks and takes good care of kids. I am academic research scholar. From the start of our marriage, I noticed my wife does not open much and moderate religious person. I am also not very extrovert person. I work from 8 am to 5 pm in office which is walkable distance from my house. After coming from office, I help her in kichen daily, look after the kids, help kids in math, clean the house, put the yougest kid to sleep, then I get some 'me' time which happens only after 11:30 pm in the night. I dont use phone untill everybody is sleep or my kids dont allow me to use phone while i am playing with them. Now sometimes I feel we are just room mates with 1-2 times sex in a month. In terms of love with my wife, I initiate all the time, she never expresses love. I am not very possessive kind of person. She does not show any interest in my work and never ask me hows my day etc. She only smiles and rarely laught. I thought may be it will improve with time. There is no money issue, she buys what ever she likes. She has her own card and I provide extra money if she asks. I assumed may be she does not like me from the beginning but staying in marriage due to family pressure and kids. I am average looking person and dont accept everything what she says in terms of investment, holiday etc. I had accepted my fate. She started doing book writing and publishing online and now earning and keeping separate account, She is very excited about it and feels happy and shares with me the publication but not the earnings. I give suggestions and money what ever she asks for marketting and promotion etc. I am happy for her. Recently I came across an email in her phone which was from her ex. There was a long deleted chat, in summary they were madly in love but could not get married, i dont know the reason or even she never spoke about him. they kept chatting even after our marriage. Her ex got married and divorsed with one grownup kid. He is single and work abroad in a different country with good salary package (may be better than mine). She emailed him after long time I guess but now she is secretly chatting with him very often. she keeps her phone locked and deletes the chats. He is also interested and asking her to leave and marry him. She is not saying yes to him but regrets that she married me. At this point I dont know if I should talk to her regarding this but she will definitely be upset to know i checked her phone. Few years back we had a major fight (that time i didnot know about her ex), i had proposed for divorse and settle it mutually if she is not happy with me but she denied and stayed. I dont know what I should do to make her happy. we both are from very respected family in the society and I dont know if her parents knew about her affair. Even though she is chatting with him but she behaves very normal with me, no fight no argument, as if nothing is happening. I dont know whats in her mind, is she just casually chatting with him or buying time, waiting for the right moment to leave? Shall I file for divorse or accept my fate as room mates. Am I worrying too much?

My husband doesn't lock the door when we have s**. This was the main reason for his ex-wife to divorce him. His parents feel that it is safer to keep the door unlocked in case of emergencies. But honestly,I feel awkward. I am not comfortable. Once his sister casually walked in to pick up some stuff, ignoring us on the bed. I was clothed but it still made me feel uncomfortable. We don't have a private bedroom but we use the bed at night. There are two shared wardrobes in the room which people need to access. I have explained this to my husband but he says I need to learn to adjust and work around it. Even if the door is closed, I always fear that someone might just walk in. What to do?

Mam, I know some ways by which i can change my state of mind from lazy to working.. and having pressure/deadline helps to move on. But still I'm get trapped in guilt of actions and don't feel confident that next time i will be able to control myself..( cuz some actions give short pleasure/gratification easily.. but guilts also). And in all those silent, sad, depressed emotional time my Real working time gets wasted.. and feels like I just live in more guilt and saddness..even if it hurts. But don't wanna live like that!! What I do?

My parents don't let me wear sleeveless or crop tops. I am not fat or ugly. All my friends wear them and my parents expect me to wear boring kurtas and denims to college. I feel embarassed not to dress my age. My mother picks my outfits. Even if someone gifts me something nice, my parents don't let me wear it. I am 17. How do i convince them to let me wear what I like?

I am unable to sleep at night. I wake up with nightmares of random events and people that have no logic or connection in real life. I don’t keep my phone near me, and I’ve tried meditation, but I can’t figure out why I’m still not able to sleep properly.

Dear Miss, I am not a good studious student nor had a good educational background during my schooling and engineering. I somehow managed to pass and get through. I searched for a lot of jobs after my degree but could not get a good one. The last one i got was an unpaid one too. Therefore i decided to pursue studies in UK. After i did two diplomas i got an internship job at a health care which was going good. All of a sudden my parents decided to get me married to a girl from my home country as they liked her and we believe in astrology a lot. The girl was very obedient and decent as per my parents knowledge. So i took leave from work place twice and went and got married , but due to this the project at healthcare went beyond my understanding and i was finding it difficult to cop up with that. Unfortunately, during a meeting the manager found out that my internship was way too much and decided to let me go. After that i decided to apply for my field job and soon i got one. Immediately after that i applied for a spouse visa for my wife. We use to quarrel over the phone several times as she wanted to do her internship in another city. Her phone used to be busy when i used to call at the later part. I was growing suspicious. But never mind i made a call to her and informed her that the spouse visa is sure to come so be ready. For about2-3 months i did not talk to her because it will cause more fight and i wanted her to realize that. I brought her gifts and birthday cake and a lot in the mean time. But my calculation was completely wrong. When the visa arrived i asked her to go for the interview, but she took a u-turn. She ran off to another city for a job. I also went back to my home country and enquired and urged her to go for the interview but she wanted divorce from me and filed a divorce case and harassment case against my parents. I decided to give a fight back which took away a lot of time and put my whole family into depression. Finally my parents went under pressure and decided to let her go by signing the papers without my knowledge. I was completely upset with this behavior of my parents and did not communicate with them for about 2 years. My mother's health was deteriorating also. i decided to take my sister in laws help too as she was from the same health care background. Thinking she can communicate or talk to her and make things easier. But she was a poison by nature and kicked me out of the house by making excuses. My brother was also against me and fought with me. I decided not to visit them anymore I also found out from few sources that my ex wife had sex with someone and did a abortion but that is not fully confirmed yet which happened just after my marriage mostly. Now my parents are worried and are taking effort daily to get me married with a divorced lady on the matrimonial websites. They somehow want me to get married and move further. But i am finding it very difficult, even though i makeup my mind i find one or the problem in the girls whom i meet on matrimonial websites. Either some have attitude or some have something hidden. Some have looks problem or some have less educational background I could not upgrade my knowledge due to all this problems in life, so , i had to settle with a low income pay at a warehouse kind of job. There is no promotion nor any upgradation there only dirty politics. I have applied for the UK citizenship this year by thinking i can move to another country and work or go back to India for sometime upgrade my skills and come back for a good job. I feel i am lost and there is nobody to help me out. I am getting older also and not in a good position to do the ware house job further. My brother keeps communicating with my father that he can arrange some job for me so not worry. But i don't feel like taking his help. kindly advise

one of my friend who is married from past 14 years having 2 kids (elder son 12 and daughter 8)...he was out of home deputed to site on project work by company for more than 4 months. During this period he did not visit the home but regularly available on call and in touch with his w... when he returned to home his wife was behavior was not normal as like earlier ... later he found out that his wife got involve with her college friend during this period ..... and they had physical 01 time during this period... now my best friend he is very caring and not able to forget this betrayed act by his wife... after all this he is not able to concentrate and focus on his work.. he love his wife so much and want to forgive her but how to handle this situation in decent way... he is not willing to divorce or parting his ways... request you to suggest some way out to get out of situation and lead a normal life as like earlier

hello mam, My son 19 year old from last 4 year his behavior change not listing not having food properly whole day watching mobile after 10th i put him diploma in electrical engineer he completed his 1 year but from 2nd year he stop going to college we both are working parent so nobody is there at home to force to go for college his teacher every day calling me to send him to college but he is not listing i ask him did teacher scold you or any student is troubling you he said no one is troubling me i don't want to study i want to do voice dubbing i want to give my voice for cartoon and for dubb movies in july 2025 he told me in 2028 i will leave both of you i have my dream i leave the home i ask him what is your dream he said 1st 2 dream i cant tell you but 3rd dream is to go to japan for tour i thought he is joking. In August 2025 he started going for voice dubbing classes in 1st week of August 2025 he told me my planning is change next month only i will leave both of you again i thought is just pulling my leg but on 15 September its regular Monday we both parent went for job and he called me around 12 pm and said daddy left the home not a single rupees he had with him and he left the home in full of rain he keep walking and talking to me i ask him where you are going but he said that's secrete i took his mom in conference and try convince him but he not listing with 1 hour talking with him on phone i ask him tell me the landmark where you are he told me one landmark while talking him i left office to reach the landmark he told i forcibly sit him in car and take back home with his mother after reaching home with his mother we are trying to convince don't do like this its your home we have only one child that is you but he said no today is the i want to go let me go don't fail my planning whole standing at home he said want to go without having water or food just crying and saying i want leave the home in evening at 7pm i told him give me three month i will send to japan for tour after hearing this he little bit convince but said repair my mobile which was shutdown due rain water get inside arrange visa and passport within three month and give new laptop for playing game but after three i will leave both of you and left the home in december 2025 he told me he will the home. he is very superstitious at home not having bath use same cloth he said if change cloth and have bath all my power will go after that incidence leaving home he become more superstitious each and every moment he whispering himself after asking why you doing this saying this is my power i will get what i want if i scold him he said i will leave home right now please help me what to do he not having bath not changing cloth not having afternoon food not cutting his nails from last 15 days i am very much in stress due to his behavior and stress about his future also he is not behaving like a normal child whole day and night watching mobile. Please help

My husband loves me but he also chills with people who have hurt and insulted me in the past. He says they are his friends and family so he cannot ignore them. I feel very hurt when my partner ignores my feelings because he has never taken a stand for me. Am I wrong to expect my husband to support or comfort me?

I am in a physical relationship with a younger neighbour. He recently told me that he has a girlfriend but he doesn't want to get married to her. They have been childhood friends so she is seeing me as competition. She feels that I am the reason for their breakup. I don't know how to handle this.

I am in an intercaste relationship. In my family my father's has problems regarding the relationship but I am ready to marry him beyond all the circumstances. But when I tell him to live separately after marriage as I need privacy and space and he has joint family so I think lack of space occured.. but he said that I am selfish and I need to separate him from his family as I am leaving my parents. And also he said that he does not need this type of privacy. Also I think he is ready to leave me if I don't agree with him.. So what should I do? Should I leave him too?

Dear Madam, I was a bright student during my school days and my plan was to become a civil servant but that did not succeed even after several attempts. With the advise of my brother i went ahead and pursued Masters at a normal university in Sydney. I did internship and continued staying with my job though it wasn't my field of study. After that what came as a shock was my brother's divorce. We don't know what is the actual issue till date but I tried a lot to fix the gap by talking to his ex-wife but they were very orthodox. I couldn't see my brother suffer because he had planned and arranged so much for her. I had no choice then so i try to harm his ex-wife by spoiling her reputation thinking she will come back for him. In the mean time i got married to a girl who was her relative too thinking my wife can help us in some case but she turned out to be completely in the opposite direction. She was probably convinced by my brother's ex-wife or their relatives that she is not coming back. Even then my brother tried to go meet his ex-wife through many channels. My wife did not help him at all in any aspect. Finally the divorced happened and everything ended. Now we have sought several proposals but nothing seem to be a good fit for him. Most of the girls whom we met on matrimonial sites are fake profiles with something hidden or falsely represented. I would say my brother escaped all this. But we are worried about his life now as he is already in his 40's and he seem to be struggling for a good job and finance. He is very picky probably but doesn't talk much to all of us. Sometimes he even says the game is over so no point looking at a second marriage. My wife and he fought once when he visited us because she didn't want him in our house and she created a fight putting me in the front. After that he stopped coming to our house or see us or talk to us. Things even gets worse sometimes when her brother comes and visits us and stays at our house which my parents don't like. My parents argue that your brother was not allowed to stay for few months then how come her brother is allowed for several months. What kind of partiality is that? I feel i could not do anything for him despite the fact that he is my only brother. He is good at heart and looked after me when i went abroad financially and even came to meet me few times. I tried to send him money, gifts but he is still the same. He communicates with our parents but not with me nor my wife anymore. Kindly give us a good advise.

I have a huge crush on my college professor. He is 41, tall, looks smart and teaches management in two other colleges. Lot of girls like him but he has never taken advantage of that, at least not that I know of. I even found out that he got divorced two years ago. My friend told me that she saw his profile on a dating app. Ever since then, I've been wanting to tell him how I feel. I don't want to have an affair in college, but I just want to tell him how much I admire him. I am 19 and this is the first time I have felt this way about any guy. My friends think I am crazy, this is just hormones. How to find out if this is real?

Hi. I have been in a long distance relationship since 6 months,and i have known my boyfriend since 10 months. He is very understanding, caring,and honest person. He had already told everything about us for his parents and their parents agreed. We both are financially independent. I told my relationship to my parents and they are against it as my boyfriend is from lower caste, different region, not done his degree from a reputed college but a local engineering college, and his status. They are thinking about relatives, and society what will they say, about their pride, status, and all the respect they have earned uptill now will vanish because of my decision. My parents are very protective of me and have given me everything and like me a lot.They are saying its long distance you might have met only 15 times you don't see this person daily to judge his character. If you have known this person for atleast 2/3 years, with u meeting him daily it would be different. But the person i met is honest from the start. They are hurting daily because of my decision. I cant go against them and be happy.

Have read some of your answers and I am appalled as to how biased you seem. To most daughters in law you have suggested basically to shut up and best abuse for ‘family peace’ whereas when a man complains of his wife being close to her mother you go like ‘oh what a woman’. Looking at your profile one expects you would teach your clients assertiveness, self respect and fairness.

My married ex still texts me for comfort. Because of him, I am unable to move on. He makes me feel guilty by saying he got married out of family pressure. His dad is a cardiac patient and mom is being treated for cancer. He comforts me by saying he will get separated soon and we will get married because he only loves me. We have been in a relationship for 14 years and despite everything we tried, his parents refused to accept me, so he chose to get married to someone who understands our situation. I don't know when he will separate from his wife. She knows about us too but she comes from a traditional family. She also confirmed there is no physical intimacy between them. I trust him, but is it worth losing my youth for him? Honestly, I am worried and very confused.

Hi Anu, My husband doesn't do house chores. We both work full-time, but I still end up cooking, cleaning, and doing laundry. When I ask for help, my partner will say, ‘Just tell me what to do,’ but then he conveniently forgets. Maybe he doesn't like it or he is genuinely forgetful. I have tried many ways to make him explain. Once I only did my share of laundry to make him realise but he simply ignored. Every week this pattern repeats. Is this normal? How can married couples divide responsibilities fairly to avoid fights?

Feeling alone in the world and iam not having any close friends everybody is busy with their works and family, help me what to do

I'm 43 married and I want to date again. After our marriage, my husband shifted to Dubai and has no plans to return to India. Ours was an arranged marriage. I have two daughters, both are in high school. I recently found out that he is cheating on me. I can't get divorced till he returns to India but I don't want to be single and feel guilty or blame my husband. My husband never loved me. I want to feel loved again. I don't know how and where to get started. Can you help?

Hi , My name is Jayen and my wife's name is Neha We are (37,36) 13 old in married relationship. Since I do job in abroad . I take 2 leaves of 30 days every year . My wife clearly says she don't have interest in me since our marriage get older . Some days before she told me she has what's app chat with my 28 year nephew , Unmarried guy . She says everytime that she is unsatisfied with me (sexually) She ask me everytime to give her permission to have physical relationship with nephew . She says you have spoiling my life . You can repair it now by giving permission . What can I do in this situation ? Does giving permission can spoil our marriage life ? Give me some better advice

Not happy with previous answer. Asking again. My boyfriend gets angry over very small things. Last time, I didn't respond to his call for 15 minutes and he kept calling to check what happened. Earlier, I thought it was out of concern, but even if I meet my friends without telling him, he gets upset. We fight over little, trivial things, and he would later say he didn’t mean it. I am scared to speak my mind. I don't know what will make him angry. How do I know if this is a toxic relationship? We know each other for 3 years now

My wife and I argue almost every week. Sometimes it's about house chores like who will clean up, sometimes over bigger things like paying bills money or inviting friends. After every fight, she will say sorry, and promise there won't be any argument. But last couple of months, she has stopped apologising and refused to talk to me. We havent spoken properly for a long time now. I have tried initiating but she thinks it is pointless. Is frequent fighting normal in relationships? Should I ignore or do something about it?