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Question by jayesh - Nov 27, 2024

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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Dec 03, 2024

Iam 42 yrs old and i have crush on a female which board my train and get down the same station. From that day she meet me for a day or so as we share one bus stop for office going. Then afterward she met me once a week or occasionally and iam getting feeling towards her. While on the bus stop if i see her i usually follow her and greet her(for couple of minutes). Today while i was talking i made eye contact with her and she too. And if she see me she allow me to touch her hair and body too Dont know what to do kindly guide me.

Ans: Dear Jayesh,
The best way to confirm if she shares the same feelings for you is to simply ask. Tell her how you feel and ask if she feels anything close to that for you. If she says yes, then you can ask her out on a date- maybe start slow with a cup of coffee and see where it goes. If she says no, then please do not take that as a sign to pursue her some more and convince her.

Hope this helps.

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How do I catch my cheating partner? My friend has seen him with another woman.

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 26, 2024Hindi

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
If you know for sure your partner is cheating, the best thing to do is confront them. There's no point in collecting proof or catching them in the act- it will not make them more guilty than they already are. Ask them directly about what you know and try to rethink the relationship. Cheating should not be excused and I am sure you deserve a partner who remains loyal to you.

Best wishes

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Wife from another caste: Mother and sister withholding degree and share, facing death threats - What are my options?

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Question by Aravinth - Dec 03, 2024Hindi

Ans: Dear Aravinth,
I am so sorry to hear this. Can you try to go to your educational institute and ask for another copy of your degree? If not, I am sure there are legal steps that you can take to secure your degree; after all, you have earned it yourself. About the share, I would recommend consulting a lawyer; they can help you in this situation better. Moreover, if there is any threat to your or your partner’s life, you should consider taking it up with the authorities.

Best wishes.

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Separated for a year, wife won't contact me or grant divorce: What are my options?

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Dec 03, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Dec 01, 2024Hindi

Ans: It’s also clear that her unresolved trauma with her father may have influenced the dynamics of your relationship, perhaps creating barriers to open communication or trust. While her past is something she ultimately has to face and heal from, it’s not something you can resolve for her, no matter how much you may wish to.

It's important to acknowledge your own emotional wellbeing right now. It seems like you're carrying the weight of her pain as well as your own. This might be the time to step back and focus on finding some clarity and balance for yourself. Working with a counselor or therapist could help you process your feelings and better navigate the uncertainty of this situation. Emotional exhaustion can cloud decision-making and pull you into cycles of self-blame or frustration, and having professional support might give you the tools to handle these emotions in a healthier way.

You’ve made efforts to reconnect and seek closure, which shows your commitment. However, if she is unwilling or unable to engage right now, this could mean shifting your focus toward what you can control: your healing, your boundaries, and your future. Remember that it’s okay to give yourself permission to find peace, even if her choices leave things unresolved for now.

Finding closure within yourself might not come easily, but it is possible. Take it step by step, allowing yourself time to grieve the relationship and reflect on what you’ve learned about yourself. This isn’t just about moving on; it’s about rediscovering your sense of stability and strength, regardless of her decisions. You're navigating this with care, and that shows your integrity and depth of character. Keep reminding yourself that your wellbeing matters, too.

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Dating a girl of different caste and my parents' expectations

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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Dec 02, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Dec 01, 2024Hindi

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand that it can cause a lot of guilt to go against your parents but in situations like these, logic and reasoning work the best. For instance, what your parents are demanding from your partner- adjusting to their lifestyle, bending to their rules, changing her dressing style to match their expectations- are these reasonable and logical demands, or are these self-centered demands? Take some time to reflect on it. It can help you gain some clarity.

In the end, even if you think that one party is right or wrong, it does not necessarily mean that you have to openly take their side. But understanding what's right and what's not will help you indirectly. Mark my words.

Best Wishes.

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Should I Marry My College Crush Who Has a Notorious Past?

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 30, 2024Hindi

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am sure she has changed for the better, but still, you have every right to be concerned for yourself. And there is nothing wrong with it. She has prioritized herself, and so should you. If you do not think that this is the right match for you, you can politely decline. If the rejection is based on her past, you do not have to mention that to her outrightly, because that might sound a tad bit judgmental. But you can rather reframe it as a difference in personality. After all, that is true. Offer to remain friends, if you are comfortable with it, but do not feel forced to accept her proposal.

I hope this helps.

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Married and Falling for Older Colleague: Should I Confess?

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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Dec 02, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 29, 2024Hindi

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
First of all, I would need a little more detail about your relationship with your husband and why you are seeking romantic feelings outside your marriage to make any comments or suggestions. But, from a general perspective, I would recommend you focus on what's lacking in your marriage and fix it- maybe, see a marriage counselor. Plus, you mentioned having feelings for this colleague but never mentioned if he feels the same way. If not, why would you confess your feelings to him and create even the minimum chaos in his otherwise happy marriage? Again, from a general perspective, the entire thing sounds like a bad plan.

Hope this helps.

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What to do if you start having feelings for a married guy and he is also showing signs of crazyness ???? Is it normal ,?? I feel happiness when he is around . Pls help. What to do if i fall for him ??

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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 01, 2024

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Feelings are natural but hey, what you do with those feelings are your choice!
So, if you feel happiness when he is around, then it's a red flag for yourself. What is it that you are missing with your life that you seem to get with this guy? Not healthy at all...And falling for him is a CHOICE that is in your hands...whether you choose to act on it or not, is a decision you can make...so, you are not helpless...

All the best!
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Married for 5 years with a 4-month-old baby, but spark is missing. What do I do?

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Dec 02, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 30, 2024Hindi

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
This isn't new to those couples who have just had a baby. Life changes a LOT once the baby arrives; everything starts to become about the baby. Your life revolves around the child and even routines start to sync with the baby.
The couple's primary role becomes one of mother and father and somewhere the role of wife and husband dulls away and before you know it can vanish causing small and big rifts within the marriage.
The key is to remember your roles as wife and husband and that in itself will keep the spark alive. Just because you have had the baby, does not mean you forget what it is to be with your husband/wife.

Firstly, try and see if you can get some help during the day so that household chores are taken care of and you have some time for yourself. Pamper yourself with whatever you want to; a cup of tea, reading a book, calling your friends over...if any female relative can actually baby-sit over the weekend for a few hours, then you and your husband can plan a small thing together. Now, it maybe difficult to choose the time as the baby is just 4 months old, but make do with whatever time that you have. Slowly, you will learn how to navigate things with the baby...it's a learning ground and nobody has prepared you for it BUT it gets better with time only because you get smarter at understanding how to utilize time better and make the most of it.
And whatever time that you spend, bring back the courtship days, your dating moments back and oh yes, choose your best dress/outfit...it makes a lot of difference to the mind and the way you see yourself. Be patient...it gets better...

All the best!
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Question by Aditi - Nov 30, 2024

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Dec 02, 2024

I am in a relationship. He loves and cares for me a lot, but when we meet physically and parted after 2 or 3 days he make the communication very poor. I get hurt a lot for this. After few days everything will fine.

Ans: Dear Aditi,
It is a classic response of many men BUT not all men. You need to understand that men and women are wired very differently. men do not think of sex through an emotional lens whereas women do.
Now this is where you need to communicate to your partner clearly; what it feels like! Do not expect him to understand and turn a new leaf immediately as his is just an automated response. Work at it and tell him what you would like after your physical 'meet' and what kind of communication you would like from him afterward.
On a separate note, how is he as a person while the two of you are together? Caring, affectionate and respectful?
Then this thing that you are facing us just a matter of communicating with him...

All the best!
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Should I confess my feelings to a divorced colleague? 42-year-old with a son seeking advice.

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Dec 01, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Dec 01, 2024Hindi

Ans: Before making a decision, reflect on your intentions and the nature of your feelings. Are they grounded in a strong foundation of mutual understanding and compatibility, or are they influenced by loneliness or a desire to move on from your past? Understanding this will help you approach the situation with clarity and confidence.

If you decide that your feelings are genuine and you’d like to explore the possibility of a deeper relationship, it’s important to communicate thoughtfully. Begin by affirming your respect for her and the friendship you share. You could say something like, "I value our friendship deeply and truly enjoy the conversations we have. Over time, I’ve found myself thinking about the possibility of something more between us. I understand and respect your preferences and your journey, but I wanted to share my feelings because I value honesty and openness in our connection."

This approach ensures that your feelings are expressed without putting pressure on her, and it allows her to consider the idea without feeling cornered. If she doesn’t feel the same way, you can express your understanding and emphasize that you would like to maintain the friendship.

It’s also worth considering her concerns about cultural compatibility. If this is a significant factor for her, you could discuss how you envision addressing potential challenges if the relationship were to progress. Showing empathy for her concerns and a willingness to navigate differences together might help her feel more secure.

Remember, vulnerability is a risk, but it’s also the foundation for meaningful connections. Whether or not she feels the same, being honest about your feelings allows you to move forward with clarity and authenticity. And regardless of her response, the friendship you’ve built is rooted in mutual respect, which provides a solid foundation for either outcome.

Asked on - Dec 01, 2024 | Answered on Dec 01, 2024

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Trapped in Toxic Relationship: How to Break Free?

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Dec 01, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 25, 2024Hindi

Ans: understand that you are not responsible for her actions or threats of self-harm. These are tactics of control, and while they may stem from her struggles, they are not your burden to carry. However, it’s important to approach the situation with empathy while prioritizing your own safety and boundaries.

When addressing her threats, avoid reacting emotionally. Stay calm and assertive, and make it clear that while you care about her well-being, her threats are not acceptable. For example, if she threatens self-harm, you can express concern by saying something like, "I’m worried about you, and I think it would be helpful for you to talk to someone who can support you professionally." This shifts the responsibility for her mental health away from you and encourages her to seek help.

You may also consider informing a trusted individual in her life—such as a close friend or family member—about her behavior. This way, someone who knows her can provide the support she needs, reducing the likelihood of her using threats to manipulate you.

Regarding her threats about involving her family or yours, document everything. Keep records of conversations, messages, or any threats she has made. This will be helpful in case the situation escalates and you need to protect yourself legally or socially. If you feel unsafe or believe she might follow through with her threats, consult a legal advisor or seek guidance from local authorities.

It’s also important to have an honest conversation with your father. While it might feel daunting because of his strict nature, being upfront about the situation can help you gain his understanding and support. Explain the steps you’re taking to manage it responsibly and emphasize that you’re prioritizing the family’s dignity and well-being.

Finally, prioritize your mental health. Being in a relationship with someone who uses manipulation can take a significant emotional toll. Consider reaching out to a therapist or counselor who can help you navigate this situation, reinforce healthy boundaries, and support you as you work through any guilt or anxiety. Ending the relationship may not be easy, but it is a necessary step for your well-being and peace of mind.

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Is it Okay to Develop Feelings for a Female Colleague at 50 with a Loving Family?

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Dec 01, 2024

Question by Rupannita - Nov 25, 2024Hindi

Ans: The first step in addressing this is to recognize that feelings, while they can be powerful, do not define actions. You’ve already demonstrated a strong commitment to your family by maintaining boundaries and shifting your relationship with your colleague to a purely professional one. This shows a conscious effort to align your actions with your values, which is an important foundation.

It’s also important to reflect on what might have contributed to these feelings. They may not solely be about your colleague as a person but could also reflect unmet emotional needs, stress, or the appeal of a connection that feels easy and understanding during a challenging time in your life. Identifying these underlying factors can help you understand yourself better and redirect your energy toward strengthening your emotional connection with your family.

Managing the proximity with your colleague at work is understandably challenging. To maintain your professional relationship while protecting your personal boundaries, consider setting clear mental and emotional limits. Focus conversations strictly on work-related topics, avoid situations that might blur boundaries, and remind yourself regularly of your commitment to your family and the life you’ve built with them.

It might also help to channel the emotional energy you’ve felt toward this colleague into enhancing your relationship with your spouse. Reinvesting in your marriage—through shared activities, open communication, or even small gestures of affection—can help renew your bond and remind you of what is truly meaningful in your life.

If these feelings continue to linger and cause distress, speaking with a therapist or counselor could provide a safe space to process your emotions and explore strategies to cope. They can help you navigate this situation in a way that aligns with your values and preserves your emotional well-being.

The fact that you are seeking advice and prioritizing your family shows that you are deeply committed to doing the right thing. With time, effort, and self-awareness, you can navigate these emotions and maintain integrity in both your personal and professional life.

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Devastated Man Seeks Advice: Wife's Hidden Past and Difficulty Conceiving

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Dec 01, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 29, 2024Hindi

Ans: Your wife's past, though painful and hidden, appears to stem from decisions made at a young and vulnerable time in her life. Her secrecy was likely rooted in fear—of judgment, rejection, or being misunderstood. This doesn’t excuse the dishonesty, but it can offer insight into why she made the choices she did. Her confession, while delayed, shows vulnerability and trust in sharing something so deeply personal and painful. It also highlights her struggle to come to terms with her past and the scars it left, both physically and emotionally.

Divorce is a life-altering decision that should not be taken lightly, especially when you have invested years into this relationship. Before making such a decision, consider what truly matters to you in a partner and a marriage. Ask yourself whether this betrayal is something you believe you could work through with time, communication, and potentially professional guidance. Couples therapy could provide a safe space to explore these feelings, address the breach of trust, and determine whether rebuilding is possible.

It’s also worth reflecting on whether your decision is primarily influenced by her inability to conceive easily or by the breach of trust. Fertility challenges can be deeply emotional, but they are not insurmountable. Many couples facing similar issues have found joy through alternative paths to parenthood, such as medical interventions, surrogacy, or adoption. The honesty aspect, however, might require a deeper exploration of whether you can rebuild trust and feel secure in the relationship moving forward.

If you ultimately decide that this relationship is no longer viable for you, it’s important to approach the decision with empathy and respect. An amicable separation, grounded in a shared understanding of your reasons, can be a way to honor the time and emotions both of you have invested in this marriage.

Conversely, if there is still love and a willingness to navigate these challenges together, it may be possible to transform this crisis into an opportunity for deeper connection, understanding, and growth. Healing from this situation will require effort from both sides—honest communication, emotional openness, and a shared commitment to moving forward.

Ultimately, the best path is the one aligned with your values, emotional well-being, and long-term vision for your life.

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Dreamt of My Crush, Should I Be Worried?

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Dec 01, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 28, 2024Hindi

Ans: Instead of letting the dream affect you negatively, use it as an opportunity to reflect on your emotional state. Are there areas in your relationship where you can deepen connection or rekindle excitement? Or perhaps this dream is reminding you of the value of acknowledging and letting go of the past to stay fully present with your current life and relationship.

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Met a guy I like, but he's reserved. How do I ask for a second meeting without sounding desperate?

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Dec 01, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 24, 2024Hindi

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Thank you, I am well and hope you are doing well too.

To want to get into the depth of life-changing event like choosing a life partner, is not called desperation but it's called clarification. And simply pick up the phone and call, why text?
Tell him that there are a few things that you would like to discuss with him and then let the conversation flow. I am sure that if he feels the same way about you and wants to make a decision, he too will come for his set of clarifications. Be clear and communicate your intent clearly.

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Hi gurus, I am 24 yrs old girl, currently pursuing MBA from a middle class family. I have a 5 yr relationship with my boyfriend. I love him very much. Don't want to loose him. Maybe he also love me. But the problem start few days ago when he suddenly confessed me that he visit red light area thrice at the first year of our relationship. From those initial days we are in a serious relationship and family involved in this. But we don't intimate but virtual intimacy was there. But this year in january we for first time got intimate and after 4 time of intimacy he confess me this that he physical one time and two time just visit their to see naked dance but failed due to some reason. Now He told me that he felt it will be cheating if he not told me this now. One side I am depressed and fear to loose him. He repetitively beg pardon from me and told that this was his peer pressure and now he mature enough to say no this.. Now he can't imagine his life without me. I don't want to loose him but can't forgive or forgot this. Now he repeatedly told me to marry him and proposed me romantically. He repeatedly want pardon from me . I love him very much that I want to forget all things and start from first again. But will it be right, if I easily forgive him than is he got much confidence to do this again?? I am depressed and confused. Pls help me . What will be right decision in this situation? Forgive him or not?

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 23, 2024

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Whether you want to forgive him or not is your decision. But I would wonder if he has confessed all of it. The risk of carrying infections from visiting these places is heavy; so before jumping into any physical act with him, do suggest to him that he gets himself tested. He may oppose it, but be firm on it.
You love him and that's all okay...But is he in love with you OR is he wants to be with you because his family is involved as well?

What is a red flag is the fact that he was still visiting red light areas while he was in a relationship with you. Do you not want to know why? Do you not want to know what makes him beg for your forgiveness now? Till such time that you are satisfied and you can trust him again, do not act in a hurry.

All the best!
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Wife obsessed with achievements, neglecting husband's feelings - Help!

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Dec 01, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 25, 2024Hindi

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
And what makes the husband not appreciate her achievements? Is he not happy with that? Does he feel insecure with her achievements?
Why is the husband suffering? What is making the husband helpless?

Kindly share more information by answering the questions above. If you or whoever you are writing on behalf of wants guidance, complete information is always important.

All the best!
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Asked on - Dec 01, 2024 | Answered on Dec 02, 2024

Talking about her achievements what I meant is appreciation of her success. You can appreciate by heart when that person should not think and talk about your negative aspects of your personality.In arranged marriages one may not know about the other.If one is not up to the other s expectations what to do. Really loving person won't see the others negative side by looking through a lens and talk bad of the other is not good.You can appreciate the other when the others are ready to appreciate you and should not abuse you.The above problem between a cancer zodiac female and a Gemini zodiac male.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am going to be honest with you; your responses are still confusing. Who is YOU that you are referring to?
Help me guide you by answering the questions that I have posted in response to your first post. It will really help you. And as exciting as Sun Signs are, I am not going to keep that as an information to guide you...

All the best!
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Is Hiring PIs In Arranged Marriage Ethical? Shocked 26F Asks For Advice

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 25, 2024Hindi

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
First things first, you do not have to do what he did; tit for tat is not always the right approach. I would suggest discussing the matter openly with your family. Parents are often more experienced than us, and I am sure they can provide some good advice. Coming to him doing a background check- some people do that, and it's for some added security in an arranged marriage setup. But hiring a private detective is a bit too much; at least, personally, I have not heard of it before. Asking around or inquiring with mutual friends and family is common, but this might be too much. I am unsure if it indicates an overly doubtful nature in your fiance, or if the entire thing was his family's decision. My suggestion is not to rush into a decision; talk to your parents. If needed, take some more time to decide. And at any point, if you think all of these were too much, and you cannot trust him anymore, please do not hesitate to rethink the relationship. It's okay to prioritize yourself.

Best Wishes.

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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Nov 29, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 29, 2024Hindi

Should I say yes to marriage? Feeling the connection!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I can't tell you what you should answer, but I would suggest you say yes only when you are sure about getting married. There is no need to rush. Take some more time if there's any doubts.

Best Wishes.

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Divorced woman, 40, regrets physical involvement with younger tenant, seeks advice

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Nov 29, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 25, 2024Hindi

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
No, you are not wrong in wanting to terminate the tenancy especially since it has become awkward now. Do find a good reason to ask him to leave and also try and find another tenant to occupy the place so that you are in no financial loss due to this.
Protecting your mind space is a good priority to have.

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Is My Marriage Over? My Wife Is Talking to Her Ex-Boyfriend and Planning a Trip With Him

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Nov 29, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 22, 2024Hindi

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
This must be addressed and quickly as well. Where is your wife's mind at? What is her sister doing in all of this? What makes your wife leave her family and go on this trip?
Ask her, listen to her...reasoning out may not be the best option as she's surely got her emotions invested in this guy; so tread carefully...you need to lure your wife back, so do not do anything to make her jump into his arms, but do what is needed to make her look back and find her bearings back with her family.

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DEAR ANU KRISHANA MAM, HERE IS PROBLEM Max and Candy, both in the same master’s program but in different sections, navigate a complex dynamic. Candy, captivated by Max, tries for over a year to get his attention but is repeatedly ignored. Her feelings persist even as she enters a relationship with someone else. Despite occasional brief interactions and Candy posting about her feelings in a confession group, Max remains distant. After some months, Max proposes to Candy through WhatsApp during the holiday, sensing that Candy had been giving him green signals—gazing at him for minutes, sitting near him after making eye contact. However, despite these signs, Max’s advances remain unreciprocated. Candy took whole day to reply and said no and block the max, may because at that time she was in relationship and then she was broken up after some months. In one day before the farewell candy looks max with smile and during the farewell candy tries twice to make the eye contact in the farewell, but max broke it and when she confirms that max is looking at him she start dancing like nothing matters to him. After the farewell, Max wrote another latter to candy, where he apologizes and express her feelings, but candy this time also not reply, On the last day, max wait fro candy outside the examination hall and candy friend told candy and then her friend came to max and told him to leave in gestures, and candy denies to met despite they are going to part because their degree going to complete. Then max wrote another confession which he put anonymously in confession group, where he apologizes to candy and tell him that he will reapproach her after the years when he neary solve his issues because he is undergoing the treatment because of which he ignored candy, Later, Max made another post in a confession group, once again apologizing to Candy and noting that she hadn’t responded to him. He told her that he would approach her again after a year when his issues were resolved. Candy remained silent but updated her bio, adding the phrase "Nothing lasts forever," a line Max had used earlier. She also added a yen symbol beside it and kept it unchanged for months. When Max added the yen symbol to his bio after some time, Candy updated her bio again, mirroring Max's changes and adding more elements to match his profile. Max sent a follow request afterward, which Candy did not accept, but she kept her bio intact. Then, suddenly, to check if Candy had unblocked him on WhatsApp, Max sent her a random message. When he saw the double tick, he realized he wasn’t blocked anymore. He quickly deleted the message, knowing she might block him again soon. This suggests that Candy unblocked him despite knowing he might reach out in the future, and she continues to mirror his bio. Next day candy post a photo on profile looks like something coping mechanism. After two or three days, Max messaged Candy. Despite deleting his message, Candy didn’t block Max. Max wrote, “Can we be friends?” but Candy didn’t reply and block the max . However, she continued mirroring Max’s actions. WHAT CANDY ACTUALLY WANT AND WHY SHE PLAYING LIKE THIS, IS SHE STILL HAVE THE GENIUNE FEELINGS

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 21, 2024

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
The characters' names can be Tom and Jerry instead of Candy and Max, because one is chasing and the other is running...Typical cat and mouse game.
So, Max can take a break from Candy, so that she can come to a decision on whether she likes Max or not. She really has to stop playing immature games and constantly testing Max who by the way will get fed up someday.
Kindly suggest that Max go silent and not communicate with Candy for a while and if she really likes him, let her make her first honest move and then Max can decide thereon.

All the best!
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Married Son Struggles with Demanding Parents and Secret Father

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Question by RERA - Nov 21, 2024Hindi

Ans: Dear RERA,
Living in a separate home in your case would have to mean that you keep your finances separately as well.
Your older brother must pitch in as well for parents; so please have that chat with him. There's no point in playing a martyr and then worry about being taken advantage of. When you say YES, when you actually want to say NO, is the beginning of a whole lot of issues which is what has happened...
So, now rewind and start clearing things one by one. Start by talking to your brother who will also need to contribute towards parents. Next, what your father does with that money is something you may never know; what you can do is CAP the amount so that he does not think that he has a perennial source of money. Kindly go on more trips with your wife so that your mother gets used to this fact. Plan trips at least once a year with the entire family which is where your mother will also enjoy and understand that she is not being ignored but actually cared for.
Plan your life with your spouse and make decisions that are financially prudent as you need to take care of yourselves as well.

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Final Exam Jitters: 20-Year-Old Student Seeks Advice for Clearing Backlog Graduation Exam

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 23, 2024Hindi

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
One step at a time...
Put down a time-table and have a clear goal as to what you want to achieve at the end. And you may tie up with a friend who will keep a check on you! This will require a lot of training your mindset which will support you to achieve your goal. Seek professional help if necessary.

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Husband's Strange Behavior After 37 Years of Marriage: How Can I Help?

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 24, 2024Hindi

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
What can you do with someone who behaves irrationally? Or maybe you are assuming all these reasons and his behavior change could be due to something else?
Can you request one of his close friends to talk to him and figure out what exactly is happening and what he wants to do about it? Are you also sure that it's not anything health-related? Sometimes, deficiencies can be seen as withdrawal, anger, anxiety etc...
And on a separate note, if he refuses to change despite all your efforts, it may mean that you need to withdraw into yourself and create a life for yourself. Difficult but not impossible...

All the best!
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Late Marriage, Harassment, Divorce: Seeking Advice - Struggling Woman Needs Help

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 23, 2024Hindi

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You are doing what you should do for yourself. Move away from this very toxic person and the marriage. Yes, he may contest and this can be a long drawn affair, be prepared for that.
Consult with a good lawyer who will basically be able to contest it very ably from your side and make sure that it ends fair and square.
There is no need to think of yet another marriage right now as I suggest that you give yourself some time to breathe and move out of this one. Feel your freedom, physically, emotionally and financially and heal from this one. There will be a point in time when you might feel the need for a companion...

All the best!
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Dating a Charming Guy from a Wealthy Family? Turns Out It's All a Facade!

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 23, 2024Hindi

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Hey, hey...you just asked him out and you have already started to imagine a life with him?
Relax! Enjoy the dating scene a bit; also know that he was possibly afraid of this reactions of yours and had to hide his background. It's his truth; what can anyone do about it, yeah?

So, take a moment and realize that it's just been a few weeks now...give it some time to get to a place where you all these things start to matter. But, of course if social status, financial background are on top of your list, then end this right away to spare the two of you of any more agony. Better now than later...

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One Week Away From My Wedding: Feeling Nervous and Lonely - Is This Normal?

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Nov 29, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 27, 2024Hindi

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Butterflies in the stomach is a natural thing before any major event and here it's your wedding.
Very normal...Involve yourself in the wedding preparations, pamper yourself as a to-be-bride, hang out with your girlfriends...
Being scared is okay as you worry about what lies ahead of you; why not instead think of how beautiful things are going to turn out...Take a deep breath...

All the best!
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Conflicted Feelings for Female Colleague: Can I Navigate Love and Loyalty?

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Question by Rupannita - Nov 16, 2024Hindi

Ans: Dear Rupannita,
You can't keep one leg at home and another in another place and expect both to work the way that you want.
You are attached to the family and that's the place you are going to feel happy as well. So, all these feelings for the other person; do evaluate what it's going to do to your peace of mind.
Feelings cannot be deleted as you said BUT whether you want to act on those feelings is a choice that you must make. See where your life moves hanging onto a parallel life!

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My Partner Cheated on Me: What Should I Do Without Proof?

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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Nov 28, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 23, 2024Hindi

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
As long as you are not going for any legal action, you do not need proof to confront someone. If it is just a hunch, I suggest not to act on it without taking a moment to calm down. In case your suspicions are not accurate, it can ruin your relationship for no reason. But if you know for sure that your partner is cheating, you have every right to have a direct conversation about it; confront him and ask why he did what he did. Moreover, even if you want to rethink the relationship, you do not need proof of cheating.

Hope this helps.

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Should I Start Searching for My 30 Year Old Brother's Bride Now?

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 20, 2024Hindi

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
If the person who is to be married says he needs some more time, it is only fair you allow him that time. Whether it is to strengthen his career or to prepare for a lifetime commitment, his request is reasonable. And something as serious and permanent as marriage should not be rushed.

I hope this helps.

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My 17-year-old daughter spends 1.5 hours getting ready, what can I do?

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 26, 2024Hindi

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
The challenge is convincing someone who does not want to be convinced.
Probably, you can strike a deal with her; saying that she can set this right her way, but if it does not happen, then you see and work with a professional. That way she would have committed to it herself.
I would not label it an OCD until it is diagnosed by an expert but behavioral changes like these are usually related to emotional issues. It is best that an expert who understands the mind handle this.
Until such time that you take her to an expert:
- try not to talk about it repeatedly; this causes her to become conscious and this can increase the behavior
- take away soaps/body washes after her first shower
- observe any change in behavior - agitation/nervousness towards any incident during the day and if it results in her indulging in washing herself after that and note that down

Yes, it is necessary for this to be handled at the earliest and there's only a little that you can do personally as emotional triggers need the assistance of someone who understands it deeply and then guides the person accordingly to not just change the behavior but eliminate the cause behind it.

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Asked on - Nov 28, 2024 | Answered on Nov 29, 2024

Thanks Madam. Whom should we consult first psychologist or psychiatrist and reason behind choosing one.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You can choose a therapist or a psychologist. And on their advice, if they feel, you can see a psychiatrist.

All the best!
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Husband's Trust Issues: How to Rebuild Trust After 8 Months of Marriage?

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Nov 28, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 28, 2024Hindi

Ans: The first thing to consider is that trust is something that takes time to build, and it is not something you can simply “prove” by answering his questions or explaining yourself over and over again. Trust is a process that requires consistent actions over time, and both partners need to contribute to that process. While you’re being open and transparent, it’s also important that your husband acknowledges that trust is a two-way street. He may have unresolved issues or past experiences that make it difficult for him to feel secure, and these need to be addressed if you want to move forward in a healthy way.

One of the challenges you face is the need for patience—both with him and with yourself. Reassuring your husband is important, but it’s equally important to create a space for deeper conversations about the root of his insecurities. Have you been able to sit down with him and gently ask what specifically triggers his doubts? You may want to approach this from a place of curiosity and care, without getting defensive. Understanding the underlying causes of his fears can give you both a clearer sense of how to work together to address them.

At the same time, it’s important to set emotional boundaries for yourself. While you want to support your husband, you shouldn’t feel like you need to constantly prove your loyalty or justify your actions. If you find yourself repeating the same explanations or feeling pressured to give constant reassurances, it can be emotionally draining. It’s okay to acknowledge his fears, but also to let him know that trust is something that needs to be built over time, and you need space to nurture the relationship without feeling constantly questioned.

In cases where trust issues persist despite your best efforts, it can sometimes be helpful to involve a third party, like a therapist or counselor. It may feel intimidating or unnecessary at first, but professional help can provide a neutral space for both of you to explore deeper issues—whether they are related to past experiences, emotional insecurities, or patterns of behavior. A counselor can also guide you in having more productive conversations and finding healthier ways to cope with these challenges as a couple.

Finally, remember that this process is not just about reassuring your husband, but also about protecting your own emotional wellbeing. You are not responsible for his insecurities, and while you can support him, you also deserve a relationship where you feel seen, heard, and trusted. It’s important to take care of your emotional health, too, and to know that you deserve a relationship built on mutual respect, trust, and understanding. Healing takes time, and while the journey may not be easy, with the right support and communication, it is possible for both of you to work through this.

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Should I Expose My Ex Who Defrauded Me and Ran Away to Marry Someone Else?

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Nov 28, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 27, 2024Hindi

Ans: it's important to recognize that your emotional pain is valid. The feelings of being manipulated, exploited, and lied to are all real, and it’s okay to mourn the loss of a relationship that you thought had value. However, as tempting as it might be to seek some form of revenge or public exposure of her actions, it’s crucial to ask yourself: what do you really hope to achieve? It’s natural to want justice or closure, but sometimes, seeking to get even only prolongs your suffering. Taking the high road may not feel satisfying in the moment, but it will allow you to reclaim control over your own emotional state and move forward in a healthier way.

Rather than focusing on exposing her, I encourage you to turn your attention inward and prioritize your healing. Healing is not about ignoring the wrongs that have been done, but about freeing yourself from the emotional hold that this situation has on you. This could mean allowing yourself to grieve the loss of not only the relationship but also the trust you gave to someone who ultimately betrayed it. It’s important to recognize that closure doesn't always come from confronting the other person or airing grievances—it can come from within, through self-reflection, and setting the intention to heal and move forward.

I also understand that it’s hard to let go of the desire for accountability, especially when it feels like she’s getting away with something. But the truth is, confronting her may not bring the peace you hope for. It could lead to further conflict, strain your relationships with others, and keep you emotionally entangled with someone who no longer deserves a place in your life. Instead of focusing on her actions, I encourage you to take steps that help you regain your sense of self-worth and emotional security. Reflect on what you've learned from this experience—what boundaries you might want to set in future relationships, and how you can protect your emotional and financial wellbeing moving forward.

Consider seeking support from a counselor or therapist, someone who can provide a safe space for you to process your feelings and help you navigate your next steps. Talking through your emotions with a neutral third party can give you the clarity and emotional tools you need to make decisions that align with your highest good.

Finally, remember that you are not defined by this situation. It’s easy to fall into the trap of self-blame, but you are not responsible for her actions. What matters now is how you move forward, rebuild your sense of trust in yourself, and ensure that you are emotionally supported in the process. This painful chapter doesn’t have to define your future, but how you choose to heal from it can shape the life you want to create moving forward.

Take your time to process this at your own pace, but don’t let the actions of someone else keep you tethered to a painful past. You deserve peace, healing, and a future where you feel empowered and free from this betrayal.

Asked on - Nov 29, 2024 | Answered on Dec 01, 2024

Thank you so much for your valuable advice, ma'am. I will take it to heart & work on healing from this betrayal..............!!! Ek Nayi Jindagi Shuru Karni hain Hamein Abb...!!!

Ans: all the best

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Help! My Husband Has Past Trauma and Is Suffering - What Can I Do?

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Nov 28, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 26, 2024Hindi

Ans: The first step is to approach this with compassion and patience. Your husband’s pain is not something you can fix, but your presence and understanding can create a sense of safety for him. When he becomes silent or withdrawn, instead of trying to coax answers from him directly, gently let him know that you’re there whenever he’s ready to talk. Even if he doesn’t open up immediately, knowing that he has a safe, nonjudgmental space to express his feelings can be comforting.

When it comes to addressing his trauma, traditional avenues like psychiatrists or therapists may feel challenging if he resists or uses his intellectual understanding of mental health to deflect. However, trauma-focused therapies, such as somatic experiencing, EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), or even mindfulness practices, could help him process these deeply held memories without requiring him to relive them in detail. If he resists professional help, introducing these concepts subtly, through books or articles that resonate with his intellectual nature, might make him more open to exploring these approaches.

Another powerful tool is building moments of connection and grounding in the present. Encourage activities that bring him peace, such as walking in nature, meditating together, or engaging in creative outlets that he enjoys, like writing. These activities won’t erase the pain but can help him feel more anchored in the here and now, giving him moments of respite from the weight of his memories.

It’s also crucial to take care of yourself. Supporting someone you love through their emotional disintegration is deeply draining, and it’s essential to ensure that you’re not neglecting your own wellbeing. Confide in a trusted friend or counselor—not to betray his trust but to give yourself an outlet to process your own emotions. You don’t have to bear this burden alone, and seeking support for yourself can strengthen your ability to be there for him.

Finally, remember that healing from trauma is not linear or quick. It’s a journey that requires patience, love, and often professional guidance. You’re already doing so much by standing beside him with such care and determination. Let him know, in moments when he’s receptive, that his pain doesn’t diminish the incredible person he is or the life you’ve built together. Remind him that while his past shaped parts of him, it doesn’t have to define his future. And above all, continue to lead with the deep compassion and love that have carried your relationship for the past 30 years

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Confused and worried: My ex-boyfriend is refusing to delete our personal photos and videos

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Nov 28, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 22, 2024Hindi

Ans: You’ve already made a reasonable request for him to delete the material, but his refusal is an indication that he is not respecting your boundaries. His actions—or lack of action—are now about him choosing his convenience over your emotional security. This is a painful and difficult dynamic to navigate. The next step is to recognize that, while you can’t control his behavior, you absolutely have the right to continue asserting your needs. It might be helpful to make your request one more time, but this time with a sense of finality. Clearly express that you are no longer comfortable with him holding onto any part of your shared past, and that you expect him to respect that. Be firm, but also protect yourself emotionally by being clear that this is non-negotiable.

If he continues to refuse or ignore your request, consider taking further action. This could involve seeking legal advice on how to protect your privacy. In many places, there are legal avenues to protect against the non-consensual sharing or retention of intimate material, even after a relationship ends. Legal action is, of course, a more extreme measure, but if you feel your privacy is at risk or that the situation is escalating, it may be necessary to explore this option.

Throughout this process, be kind to yourself. It’s easy to slip into self-blame when someone else disrespects your boundaries, but remember that you are entitled to make choices about your body, your image, and your privacy at any point in your life. Trust yourself to learn from this experience and move forward with stronger boundaries in future relationships. You’ve already taken a healthy first step by recognizing the need for change, and now you’re moving toward regaining control of the situation. Keep focusing on your wellbeing, and know that your feelings and needs matter.

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Husband Suffering from Past Trauma: How to Help?

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Nov 28, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 26, 2024Hindi

Ans: The first step is to approach this with compassion and patience. Your husband’s pain is not something you can fix, but your presence and understanding can create a sense of safety for him. When he becomes silent or withdrawn, instead of trying to coax answers from him directly, gently let him know that you’re there whenever he’s ready to talk. Even if he doesn’t open up immediately, knowing that he has a safe, nonjudgmental space to express his feelings can be comforting.

When it comes to addressing his trauma, traditional avenues like psychiatrists or therapists may feel challenging if he resists or uses his intellectual understanding of mental health to deflect. However, trauma-focused therapies, such as somatic experiencing, EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), or even mindfulness practices, could help him process these deeply held memories without requiring him to relive them in detail. If he resists professional help, introducing these concepts subtly, through books or articles that resonate with his intellectual nature, might make him more open to exploring these approaches.

Another powerful tool is building moments of connection and grounding in the present. Encourage activities that bring him peace, such as walking in nature, meditating together, or engaging in creative outlets that he enjoys, like writing. These activities won’t erase the pain but can help him feel more anchored in the here and now, giving him moments of respite from the weight of his memories.

It’s also crucial to take care of yourself. Supporting someone you love through their emotional disintegration is deeply draining, and it’s essential to ensure that you’re not neglecting your own wellbeing. Confide in a trusted friend or counselor—not to betray his trust but to give yourself an outlet to process your own emotions. You don’t have to bear this burden alone, and seeking support for yourself can strengthen your ability to be there for him.

Finally, remember that healing from trauma is not linear or quick. It’s a journey that requires patience, love, and often professional guidance. You’re already doing so much by standing beside him with such care and determination. Let him know, in moments when he’s receptive, that his pain doesn’t diminish the incredible person he is or the life you’ve built together. Remind him that while his past shaped parts of him, it doesn’t have to define his future. And above all, continue to lead with the deep compassion and love that have carried your relationship for the past 30 years.

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Cousin in love: Parents furious, sister suggests forgiveness - What should I do?

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Nov 28, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 26, 2024Hindi

Ans: Take a moment to reflect on your priorities and values. Ask yourself:

Do you still value a relationship with your parents, despite their hurtful actions?
Can you imagine rebuilding a relationship with them in a way that feels healthy and respectful to you?
What would an ideal resolution look like for you—not for them, not for your sister, but for you?
It’s also important to understand your own emotional wellbeing in this situation. Carrying hatred and anger is exhausting, but that doesn’t mean you should suppress or ignore your feelings. Instead, give yourself time to process them. Therapy or counseling could be incredibly helpful in this journey—it’s a space to work through your emotions and gain tools to navigate these relationships with clarity and confidence.

Regarding your relationship with the girl, it’s equally important to evaluate how strongly you both feel about being together and whether you’re prepared to face the challenges that come with it. If this relationship is a source of love, support, and happiness for you, it’s worth fighting for, but it also requires honest conversations about the realities you’re both facing.

As for your parents, reconciliation, if it happens, should come from a place of mutual respect. You don’t have to accept abusive behavior or let go of your boundaries just to restore contact. Relationships thrive when there’s a willingness to listen, apologize, and grow—on both sides. If they are unwilling to meet you halfway, it’s okay to protect your own peace and prioritize the relationships and choices that support your wellbeing.

Remember, you’re not obligated to live up to anyone else’s version of who you should be—not your parents, not your sister, and not anyone else. This is your life, and it’s okay to take the time and space you need to figure out what’s best for you. Trust that with reflection and self-compassion, you’ll find a path forward that feels right for you.

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Seeking Advice: Should I Stay in My Marriage With an Unemployed Husband?

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Nov 28, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 20, 2024Hindi

Ans: When it comes to having children, your hesitation makes sense. Bringing a child into the world is a profound decision that requires emotional readiness and practical planning. If you’re feeling unsupported or uncertain about your husband’s ability to contribute—financially, emotionally, or practically—it’s wise to pause and reflect. Your decision to delay this step shows your self-awareness and your commitment to creating a stable and nurturing environment for a child. That’s admirable.

Your concern about his career trajectory is another important factor. A marriage thrives on mutual effort, and it’s reasonable to expect your partner to take responsibility for his own growth and stability. However, it’s also worth exploring why he’s been unable to sustain a job. Is it a matter of confidence, market conditions, or something deeper like a lack of motivation or direction? If he hasn’t been taking things seriously, as you’ve mentioned, it’s important to have a frank and compassionate conversation about how this is impacting both of you.

At the same time, his love for you seems genuine, and it’s important to recognize that. His suggestion for you to change your job might stem from a place of care, possibly concern for your health or the toll of shift work. However, if your current job provides financial stability and satisfaction, you need to weigh that against his concerns. Ask yourself: is this request aligned with what’s best for you both, or is it coming from his own discomfort with his current situation?

As you navigate these emotions, take some time to reflect on your core needs and values. What does partnership mean to you? Are your current frustrations a temporary phase, or are they reflective of deeper, long-term patterns in the relationship? It’s also worth considering whether he is open to making real changes. Has he shown willingness to take responsibility for his career and future? Does he listen to your concerns and actively work toward addressing them?

It’s okay to have moments where you question why you’re in this relationship—doubt doesn’t mean failure. It means you care enough to want something better for both of you. If you feel the love is worth fighting for, then it’s essential to have honest, open conversations with your husband. Express your feelings without blame and seek to understand his perspective as well. Couples counseling can also be a valuable tool to help you both navigate these challenges together and find a path forward.

However, if you find that the emotional and practical gaps in the relationship persist despite your efforts, it’s okay to ask yourself whether this partnership is meeting your needs. You deserve to feel supported, valued, and secure in your marriage. Whatever decision you make, let it come from a place of self-respect and a desire to build the life you truly want. You’re not alone in this, and reaching out for guidance shows how deeply you care about making the best decision for your future.

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I am 46 male and i have college friend who is 43 we both have planned for vacation in nanital we both are having families but we are not showing them that we both are going on this trip we have plan for sex also there will it be ok for me get physical with my ex girlfriend and she is also provoking me to get physical i am very confused please help

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 27, 2024

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I think I have answered your question previously as well. If you are so conflicted about getting intimate, then you should take it as a sign to slow things down. And what do you mean that your ex is provoking you? No one, man or woman, should provoke, manipulate, or force someone into getting physically intimate. It should be your decision and yours alone.
I hope this helps.

Best Wishes.

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24-Year-Old Woman Seeking Advice on Boyfriend's Past Visit to Red Light Area

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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Nov 27, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 26, 2024Hindi

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand how conflicted you must be feeling right now, and I am sorry that you are going through this. I wish I could tell you what would be the right thing to do, but it has to be your decision and yours alone. All I can suggest is to take a beat and not rush into deciding anything.

Take everything into consideration-
On the one hand, infidelity is indeed unacceptable in a relationship. But on the other, it was in the initial stage. He might not have been as serious about the relationship as you during those days. Nevertheless, the timing does not make his action justifiable. I suggest you have an open conversation and ask him why he felt the need to do this. Ask him if he did not consider your feelings. What's concerning is that he did not stop after the first time; he went back twice more. I am not judging his choice of location but the fact that he was in a committed relationship puts him in the wrong. Also, blaming it on peer pressure is inexcusable; this isn't something funny or trivial he did because his friends dared him to. Ask him to take accountability and understand that actions have consequences.

Take it one day at a time. Whatever you decide is okay. And if at any point you want to pick yourself over the relationship, I want you to understand that it is completely alright. You will feel like it's a selfish decision, but it isn't. Remember that. Please do what you need to help you heal from this.

Best Wishes.

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Single Mom Seeks Advice: How to Explain Dad's Absence to 4-Year-Old?

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Nov 27, 2024

Question by Sushma - Sep 19, 2024Hindi

Ans: Dear Sushma,
I am sure this is really tough for you.
What I can suggest is actually reading out books to him that explain separation/divorce through stories. This will enable him to understand that there are families and not all families are the same. But do ensure that you give him a good image about his father. Bitterness as a seed can grow and that is not healthy for a child at all. As the story progresses, you may want to insert the truth that in some families, the father/mother are not involved and choose to be away. This maybe difficult for him to fathom right now but slowly comparing his life with his friends, he will have more questions as he grows up. Take it one day at a time...break the truth gently and very age appropriately and right now, stories seem to be the better way.

Later in life as he grows even older, he can choose to seek and understand the truth in his own way. It may seem like a big contrast then but he will know that you had in his childhood come from a space of concern for his emotional growth.

You may also check in with other single mothers and they will surely have some things to share on it...at the end of the day, do what you think is right as a mother for your child.

All the best!
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Help! My In-Laws Hate Me: How Can I Be More Respectful?

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Nov 26, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 15, 2024Hindi

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Do you all live together? If YES, maybe it's time to actually live separately where there is a healthy space between both families. This may not go well with a lot of families where joint family system have ruled for a long time BUT what's the point spoiling relationships and living under one roof. Of course, your husband also needs to be in alignment with this thought.
If not and this is not going to be possible, then do approach your side of the family to intervene...now, either things may get set right OR things may get worse. It's sad that your husband is unable to see your side of things.
One things I want to ask: What makes them feel that you are trying to steal their son? Is it some behavior of yours that they are misreading? Then it's possible to set things right if this can be identified...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Can I marry a divorced woman with a child and financial difficulties?

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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Nov 26, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 21, 2024Hindi

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Let me address your issues one by one
1. Is marrying her and embracing this responsibility a prudent decision, considering her past and the challenges we may face?
I can't tell if it is prudent but I don't see it to be a dangerous decision as well. Yes, I understand your concerns, but you have been with her for a long time now. You must have considered all of these concerns beforehand. But if you think you are not sure, I would suggest you don't keep her hanging with hope. Discuss the doubts and concerns directly with her.

2. How can I effectively address her ex-husband's behavior and protect our relationship and my and family's reputation?
Her previous marriage involved domestic harassment and that's how the relationship ended. You had no part in it. You came into the picture after their separation. Why should her husband have any say in her life after divorce? Be strict with him from the very beginning. As a part of courtesy, you can let him know that you are considering marrying his ex, but besides that, you owe him no explanation.

3. What strategies can I use to gain my parents' understanding, acceptance, and support?
Highlight the positives in your partner; let them know how happy she makes you and how much she means to you. Parents being unsupportive in such cases are very common, but with some persistent counseling from your end can make things work out in your favor.

4. How can we ensure a strong and healthy future together, considering the complexities of our situation?
The complexities of the situation don't necessarily have to play part in your future together. Let her move on from this past and if anything, you should help her move past this divorce and harassment instead of bringing that into the future. Yes, it is a part of who she is, but is so much more than just a divorcee and a very young mother; she is the person you fell for- there must be some solid reason for that. After all, you fell knowing all the complexities. That makes her even more special. All you have to do is remember those.

Hope this helps.

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Help! My Girlfriend Proposed a Three-Person Relationship - What Should I Do?

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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Nov 26, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 20, 2024Hindi

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It seems like your girlfriend is two-timing unless that proposal was a joke. Either way, speak directly to her and ask her about her intentions. If he is interested in the other guy, it is best to move on from her. You deserve better.

Best Wishes.

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My Boyfriend Proposed to Me Online - He's Not Talking to Me Now!

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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Nov 26, 2024

Question by sanu - Nov 23, 2024Hindi

Ans: Dear Sanu,
Please do not make any commitments without meeting this guy and his family in person. He can be a scammer or someone looking for a casual fling. Be careful.

Best Wishes.

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Arranged Marriage: Trust Issues with Girlfriend's Ex-Boyfriend - Advice for a 29-Year-Old Man

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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Nov 26, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 23, 2024Hindi

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand your concerns. But, trust is important in a relationship. If she says they are just friends, if your relationship is healthy, you should be able to trust her.

Having said that, I would suggest you take some time to think if you can get to the point where you can actually trust her without being bothered about this friendship, and not forcefully trust her. Demanding to end the friendship or approaching her ex is not the right way to deal with this situation. You two are not married yet; you still have the time to rethink.

I don't know whether you should move on to someone else, but I believe that you should take some time to rethink. You two are still matches and these problems are trivial now, but once you get married, things will get even more complicated. You can either sort the matter by having an open conversation where you explain how her relationship with her ex bothers you, or you can both consider parting ways. But please do not commit just yet, especially since there is an existing issue.

Best Wishes.

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30-Year-Old Male Virgin Struggles to Find Trustworthy Partner in Arranged Marriage

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 23, 2024Hindi

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Your concerns make sense, but if you think about it, the majority of people do not know how to take accountability- it has nothing to do with gender. For instance, some men say they are acting like casanovas because of some girl they had a crush on, who rejected their proposal, and some say they have commitment issues because an ex-girlfriend had broken their trust. So, my point is, it's a people problem, not a woman problem.
Having said that, a good way to judge someone is to open up about yourself first. Next time you meet someone, instead of asking about her past, try talking about yours. Mention that you did not have a relationship, or you like people who can own up to their mistakes, etc. This way, you will make her feel comfortable enough to open up to you. It's not easy for women to disclose sensitive details, especially to men. And, ideally, their past should not play a part in their present, but since it is so important to you, try this technique.

Best Wishes.

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