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I am 17, in college and sometimes skip lectures because they feel repetitive or unhelpful, but my parents expect 100 per cent attendance. When they find out, it leads to arguments and lectures about discipline and responsibility. They feel that skipping classes means I am becoming careless. My grades are decent if not great. But it leads to comparison with peers who I don't relate to. How do I explain my perspective and still maintain trust with my parents?

I am about to get engaged to a NRI boy in an arrange marriage setup. My concern is that he hardly calls me (maybe once in 15 days) and dont even text me sating that he dont like texting, and when i discussed with him that this bothers me, he said you are expecting too much we are not girlfriend boyfriend, its an arrange marriage. We just met once and things were finalized. Again his avoidant nature is bothering me, is it normal to call only 2-3 times in a month? What should I do?

Hello... I don’t know what to do here or am I playing with my life or what..! I am a woman making my career As CMA which will be done within 4 years as i have already cleared half of the exams and after that my family has said that they will wait for 4 years max and then i need to marry cus i have two more sisters younger than me on the other side i wanna marry my bf but he is not settled yet and said he need time to settle his dreams are also big like setting multiple business and has to set 5 business like gym+sanitary+electrical equipments+ home decor+tiles and said he also wanna buy a car due to this he can’t focus on marriage and said “in sab ke alawa mujhe kuch nahi sujhta” but also said that “if he was doing something he would definitely marry me cus he need a life partner “ but these business will take time like many years...I am getting too much proposals right now cus it is my prime age for this. I am too confused what should I do as my bf said that he can’t even do engagement before those things and my family will pressure me in 4th year

Hi I am married for 24 years. Our was a love cum arranged marriage. But within 3-4 months of our marriage we had to leave my father's house due some dispute between me and my father. We shifted to a rental home. We have two sons who are now grown up. Our family life was good. In the year 2019 I got a job in Kenya. I was working there on bachelor status. My family was staying back in mumbai and wife was also working. I visited my family very year for a month on holiday. In December 2024 I lost my job and came back to Mumbai. I was jobless for 6 months. Since July I have started working in a small firm for survival. Physically both of us are not active since 4 years. Now I feel like reconnecting with her physically and emotionally. But I feel like she is a changed person. She doesnt have any emotions for me. If I try to even touch her she gives me a scary look. Please tell me how to handle this situation. I want her back in my life.

I am around 59, I was never married, possibly no luck or rue my past chances when I was young and attractive, I am still in good looks, hit the gym everyday; I like one girl who is single, 29 years old and am seriously interested in her, she is quiet and works in sales-telecom, her english is not so eloquent but I find her very attractive, I am interested to marry her, I met her in th past, she likes my dressing, personality, finds me attractive but never reciprocated to me, she is altogether conservative, I did not have her telephone number and email but got her coordinates from a known person to both, I like her very much. I sent her messages on her email - no obscene messages but like "I adore you", "I like you" etc in hindi; I quietly saw the reciepant in her email "+1" - but cannot fathom this "+1" receipant, so was scared maybe she connected me to her HR or to police but I am a a smart and intelligent bloke; maybe she could put me into police?? -but I never would write anything obscene to her; but whenever I send her message I always write the first line - "please do not complain" - how to improvise ?? My body functions very fine, my productivity I assume is good because I exercise regularly and before I was a long distance runner; I am definately going to tell her that - I wish to marry her and that "I like you intensely" !! please advise ?? - dreams need to be attempted !! regards

Hi My Name is krunali my problem is that related to relationship n marriage life, my age 33 yr i have one kid of 5 month old only but my husband this time went to Thailand in last week only n told me i am getting bore at home bcz he drop me 15 days back only my native home town nagpur city , we 3 of us came here i vusited to my inlaws family then my husband drop me my mom home, after few day i got one call but bcz of small baby i unable received that call but after some time he massage me on whats app krunali mye 1 week ke liye solo trip ja rha hu karabi n phuket kal se 1 week ke liye thats it , befor this massage never ever we discussed about any trip or he is getting bore in Bangalore without me or my baby ....when i call him immediately when i saw his text he said ki muze bore ho rha hai mye solo trip ja rha hu even though we lost out one baby in 8th month only whole family was into pain n last time when i was pregnant n we lost out baby after two month of staying in banglore i came up with my mom dad in home town , after one month he came for Diwali festive were coming and he can we communicated like always were doing we had sex to but next day night he was down stairs i came to my bedroom in in-laws place n i just simply saw his wallet. What i found flight laugh bill airport bill of laugh and airport bus ticket of return of Bangalore ,when i saw this all thing i shocked i started crying when i saw in his laptop bag Bangkok ticket of 1 week trip n money exchange he spent 50 k in indian rs. I was around 19 k thai bat ... i controlling my self until my husband came to bedroom and indirectly i started questioning ... and that day i hot to know ki my husband telling lie to me but that time i didn’t open that Bangkok topic bcz my inlaws not supporting to me at all i cant express how bed i felt that day ... because when i was my mom dad home he told me he is going for shri shri ravi shankar sessions for upcoming 1 week and my mobile will be switched of for one week i trusted because we both was in pain that time because od we last baby in 7th month and this time also happend same only i was againg pregnant immediately bcz before knowing this all i got that two like i was thing about to take sepration from him but in that same month soarting only i got positive pregnancy i tought with him he said i won’t go without knowing you after that , and this time he informed me he is going for solo trip , i dont know if you have beautiful wife very charming kif of 5 month its about 1 month only i came here my mom dad home he said he is getting bore he maid plan he informed me n he went , when i m calling him at night he is saying y ru calling at night , its sleeping tym and 2 days massage was not delivered him bcz hi off the mobile ...what should i do now i m loving him alot i want happy peacefull family what should i do???

I met a boy in arrange marriage meeting one week ago he said that he had no drinking habit then tomorrow we meet again then he admitted he drinking occasionally what should I do now

Hi. We are a family of 4, my husband aged 45 years, myself of 44 years and 2 kids, a son aged 3 years and a daughter aged 15 years. I have been feeling lonely since last 4-5 years and since my husband used to get angry over me for small reasons, I only discuss only if it feels absolutely necessary. Our emotional and physical connect was also entirely missing. Recently I found my husband cheating with another woman and when asked for he admitted of cheating me with multiple different women over last 6 years. Although he admits his mistake and it feels as if he is trying to improve and give more attention to me, however i fear that he may cheat again which has resulted in sleepless nights filled with fear for me even when he sleeps besides me. It seems that I have 3 options. Option 1 - To continue my life and let him do whatever he wants. Option 2 - Give him a chance assuming that he will not cheat, Option 3 - Seperate from him, assuming that he is definitely going to cheat. I have read on multiple forums that on ce a male starts cheating he never stops. Pls guide on which option I should take.

Is 16 too young to date? I am in first year of college, and I like meeting someone during weekends. He's my childhood friend who has known me since I was 7. But my parents believe that relationships are a distraction and should only happen after marriage. Because of this, I hide things from them, which makes me feel guilty and stressed too. I want honesty but I know how my parents will react if I tell them who I meet. How should I deal with my relationship while living with parents? Is it a crime to meet and share your feelings?

Shadi se pahle wife ka past malum ho gya to kya karu

My parents often judge my friends based on their background, habits, or social media presence. We chat, make reels, bunk classes or talk late nights because we like spending time, gossipping, discussing college. They think my friends are a bad influence, even though they don’t really know them. They don't even make the effort. This makes me feel misunderstood and embarrassed. How do I handle this situation without choosing between my friends and my family?

My son is a B. Tech (computer Science) second year student in a well reputed Private University in Greater Noida. He is working very hard in studies but not able to get good grade or passing marks. He is introvert type and has not many friends. He has been introduced to many teachers and senior students for hand holding purposes and guiding him but he not coming up to meet them and sort out his problems. He is a hosteler. To whom should we take him (Professional Counsellor/ Psychologist/ Psychiatrist) to assess and know the exact reasons or issues he is facing to address his problems. How can we help him to come out of present situation.

I am 43 years old married man, arranged marriage. Married for past 13 years with 4 kids (aged 2, 3, 10 and 13). I work abroad with good salary package and live with my family. My wife is MSc. and home maker. She teaches the kids and cooks and takes good care of kids. I am academic research scholar. From the start of our marriage, I noticed my wife does not open much and moderate religious person. I am also not very extrovert person. I work from 8 am to 5 pm in office which is walkable distance from my house. After coming from office, I help her in kichen daily, look after the kids, help kids in math, clean the house, put the yougest kid to sleep, then I get some 'me' time which happens only after 11:30 pm in the night. I dont use phone untill everybody is sleep or my kids dont allow me to use phone while i am playing with them. Now sometimes I feel we are just room mates with 1-2 times sex in a month. In terms of love with my wife, I initiate all the time, she never expresses love. I am not very possessive kind of person. She does not show any interest in my work and never ask me hows my day etc. She only smiles and rarely laught. I thought may be it will improve with time. There is no money issue, she buys what ever she likes. She has her own card and I provide extra money if she asks. I assumed may be she does not like me from the beginning but staying in marriage due to family pressure and kids. I am average looking person and dont accept everything what she says in terms of investment, holiday etc. I had accepted my fate. She started doing book writing and publishing online and now earning and keeping separate account, She is very excited about it and feels happy and shares with me the publication but not the earnings. I give suggestions and money what ever she asks for marketting and promotion etc. I am happy for her. Recently I came across an email in her phone which was from her ex. There was a long deleted chat, in summary they were madly in love but could not get married, i dont know the reason or even she never spoke about him. they kept chatting even after our marriage. Her ex got married and divorsed with one grownup kid. He is single and work abroad in a different country with good salary package (may be better than mine). She emailed him after long time I guess but now she is secretly chatting with him very often. she keeps her phone locked and deletes the chats. He is also interested and asking her to leave and marry him. She is not saying yes to him but regrets that she married me. At this point I dont know if I should talk to her regarding this but she will definitely be upset to know i checked her phone. Few years back we had a major fight (that time i didnot know about her ex), i had proposed for divorse and settle it mutually if she is not happy with me but she denied and stayed. I dont know what I should do to make her happy. we both are from very respected family in the society and I dont know if her parents knew about her affair. Even though she is chatting with him but she behaves very normal with me, no fight no argument, as if nothing is happening. I dont know whats in her mind, is she just casually chatting with him or buying time, waiting for the right moment to leave? Shall I file for divorse or accept my fate as room mates. Am I worrying too much?

My husband doesn't lock the door when we have s**. This was the main reason for his ex-wife to divorce him. His parents feel that it is safer to keep the door unlocked in case of emergencies. But honestly,I feel awkward. I am not comfortable. Once his sister casually walked in to pick up some stuff, ignoring us on the bed. I was clothed but it still made me feel uncomfortable. We don't have a private bedroom but we use the bed at night. There are two shared wardrobes in the room which people need to access. I have explained this to my husband but he says I need to learn to adjust and work around it. Even if the door is closed, I always fear that someone might just walk in. What to do?

Mam, I know some ways by which i can change my state of mind from lazy to working.. and having pressure/deadline helps to move on. But still I'm get trapped in guilt of actions and don't feel confident that next time i will be able to control myself..( cuz some actions give short pleasure/gratification easily.. but guilts also). And in all those silent, sad, depressed emotional time my Real working time gets wasted.. and feels like I just live in more guilt and saddness..even if it hurts. But don't wanna live like that!! What I do?

My parents don't let me wear sleeveless or crop tops. I am not fat or ugly. All my friends wear them and my parents expect me to wear boring kurtas and denims to college. I feel embarassed not to dress my age. My mother picks my outfits. Even if someone gifts me something nice, my parents don't let me wear it. I am 17. How do i convince them to let me wear what I like?

I am unable to sleep at night. I wake up with nightmares of random events and people that have no logic or connection in real life. I don’t keep my phone near me, and I’ve tried meditation, but I can’t figure out why I’m still not able to sleep properly.

Dear Miss, I am not a good studious student nor had a good educational background during my schooling and engineering. I somehow managed to pass and get through. I searched for a lot of jobs after my degree but could not get a good one. The last one i got was an unpaid one too. Therefore i decided to pursue studies in UK. After i did two diplomas i got an internship job at a health care which was going good. All of a sudden my parents decided to get me married to a girl from my home country as they liked her and we believe in astrology a lot. The girl was very obedient and decent as per my parents knowledge. So i took leave from work place twice and went and got married , but due to this the project at healthcare went beyond my understanding and i was finding it difficult to cop up with that. Unfortunately, during a meeting the manager found out that my internship was way too much and decided to let me go. After that i decided to apply for my field job and soon i got one. Immediately after that i applied for a spouse visa for my wife. We use to quarrel over the phone several times as she wanted to do her internship in another city. Her phone used to be busy when i used to call at the later part. I was growing suspicious. But never mind i made a call to her and informed her that the spouse visa is sure to come so be ready. For about2-3 months i did not talk to her because it will cause more fight and i wanted her to realize that. I brought her gifts and birthday cake and a lot in the mean time. But my calculation was completely wrong. When the visa arrived i asked her to go for the interview, but she took a u-turn. She ran off to another city for a job. I also went back to my home country and enquired and urged her to go for the interview but she wanted divorce from me and filed a divorce case and harassment case against my parents. I decided to give a fight back which took away a lot of time and put my whole family into depression. Finally my parents went under pressure and decided to let her go by signing the papers without my knowledge. I was completely upset with this behavior of my parents and did not communicate with them for about 2 years. My mother's health was deteriorating also. i decided to take my sister in laws help too as she was from the same health care background. Thinking she can communicate or talk to her and make things easier. But she was a poison by nature and kicked me out of the house by making excuses. My brother was also against me and fought with me. I decided not to visit them anymore I also found out from few sources that my ex wife had sex with someone and did a abortion but that is not fully confirmed yet which happened just after my marriage mostly. Now my parents are worried and are taking effort daily to get me married with a divorced lady on the matrimonial websites. They somehow want me to get married and move further. But i am finding it very difficult, even though i makeup my mind i find one or the problem in the girls whom i meet on matrimonial websites. Either some have attitude or some have something hidden. Some have looks problem or some have less educational background I could not upgrade my knowledge due to all this problems in life, so , i had to settle with a low income pay at a warehouse kind of job. There is no promotion nor any upgradation there only dirty politics. I have applied for the UK citizenship this year by thinking i can move to another country and work or go back to India for sometime upgrade my skills and come back for a good job. I feel i am lost and there is nobody to help me out. I am getting older also and not in a good position to do the ware house job further. My brother keeps communicating with my father that he can arrange some job for me so not worry. But i don't feel like taking his help. kindly advise

one of my friend who is married from past 14 years having 2 kids (elder son 12 and daughter 8)...he was out of home deputed to site on project work by company for more than 4 months. During this period he did not visit the home but regularly available on call and in touch with his w... when he returned to home his wife was behavior was not normal as like earlier ... later he found out that his wife got involve with her college friend during this period ..... and they had physical 01 time during this period... now my best friend he is very caring and not able to forget this betrayed act by his wife... after all this he is not able to concentrate and focus on his work.. he love his wife so much and want to forgive her but how to handle this situation in decent way... he is not willing to divorce or parting his ways... request you to suggest some way out to get out of situation and lead a normal life as like earlier

hello mam, My son 19 year old from last 4 year his behavior change not listing not having food properly whole day watching mobile after 10th i put him diploma in electrical engineer he completed his 1 year but from 2nd year he stop going to college we both are working parent so nobody is there at home to force to go for college his teacher every day calling me to send him to college but he is not listing i ask him did teacher scold you or any student is troubling you he said no one is troubling me i don't want to study i want to do voice dubbing i want to give my voice for cartoon and for dubb movies in july 2025 he told me in 2028 i will leave both of you i have my dream i leave the home i ask him what is your dream he said 1st 2 dream i cant tell you but 3rd dream is to go to japan for tour i thought he is joking. In August 2025 he started going for voice dubbing classes in 1st week of August 2025 he told me my planning is change next month only i will leave both of you again i thought is just pulling my leg but on 15 September its regular Monday we both parent went for job and he called me around 12 pm and said daddy left the home not a single rupees he had with him and he left the home in full of rain he keep walking and talking to me i ask him where you are going but he said that's secrete i took his mom in conference and try convince him but he not listing with 1 hour talking with him on phone i ask him tell me the landmark where you are he told me one landmark while talking him i left office to reach the landmark he told i forcibly sit him in car and take back home with his mother after reaching home with his mother we are trying to convince don't do like this its your home we have only one child that is you but he said no today is the i want to go let me go don't fail my planning whole standing at home he said want to go without having water or food just crying and saying i want leave the home in evening at 7pm i told him give me three month i will send to japan for tour after hearing this he little bit convince but said repair my mobile which was shutdown due rain water get inside arrange visa and passport within three month and give new laptop for playing game but after three i will leave both of you and left the home in december 2025 he told me he will the home. he is very superstitious at home not having bath use same cloth he said if change cloth and have bath all my power will go after that incidence leaving home he become more superstitious each and every moment he whispering himself after asking why you doing this saying this is my power i will get what i want if i scold him he said i will leave home right now please help me what to do he not having bath not changing cloth not having afternoon food not cutting his nails from last 15 days i am very much in stress due to his behavior and stress about his future also he is not behaving like a normal child whole day and night watching mobile. Please help

My husband loves me but he also chills with people who have hurt and insulted me in the past. He says they are his friends and family so he cannot ignore them. I feel very hurt when my partner ignores my feelings because he has never taken a stand for me. Am I wrong to expect my husband to support or comfort me?

I am in a physical relationship with a younger neighbour. He recently told me that he has a girlfriend but he doesn't want to get married to her. They have been childhood friends so she is seeing me as competition. She feels that I am the reason for their breakup. I don't know how to handle this.

I am in an intercaste relationship. In my family my father's has problems regarding the relationship but I am ready to marry him beyond all the circumstances. But when I tell him to live separately after marriage as I need privacy and space and he has joint family so I think lack of space occured.. but he said that I am selfish and I need to separate him from his family as I am leaving my parents. And also he said that he does not need this type of privacy. Also I think he is ready to leave me if I don't agree with him.. So what should I do? Should I leave him too?

Dear Madam, I was a bright student during my school days and my plan was to become a civil servant but that did not succeed even after several attempts. With the advise of my brother i went ahead and pursued Masters at a normal university in Sydney. I did internship and continued staying with my job though it wasn't my field of study. After that what came as a shock was my brother's divorce. We don't know what is the actual issue till date but I tried a lot to fix the gap by talking to his ex-wife but they were very orthodox. I couldn't see my brother suffer because he had planned and arranged so much for her. I had no choice then so i try to harm his ex-wife by spoiling her reputation thinking she will come back for him. In the mean time i got married to a girl who was her relative too thinking my wife can help us in some case but she turned out to be completely in the opposite direction. She was probably convinced by my brother's ex-wife or their relatives that she is not coming back. Even then my brother tried to go meet his ex-wife through many channels. My wife did not help him at all in any aspect. Finally the divorced happened and everything ended. Now we have sought several proposals but nothing seem to be a good fit for him. Most of the girls whom we met on matrimonial sites are fake profiles with something hidden or falsely represented. I would say my brother escaped all this. But we are worried about his life now as he is already in his 40's and he seem to be struggling for a good job and finance. He is very picky probably but doesn't talk much to all of us. Sometimes he even says the game is over so no point looking at a second marriage. My wife and he fought once when he visited us because she didn't want him in our house and she created a fight putting me in the front. After that he stopped coming to our house or see us or talk to us. Things even gets worse sometimes when her brother comes and visits us and stays at our house which my parents don't like. My parents argue that your brother was not allowed to stay for few months then how come her brother is allowed for several months. What kind of partiality is that? I feel i could not do anything for him despite the fact that he is my only brother. He is good at heart and looked after me when i went abroad financially and even came to meet me few times. I tried to send him money, gifts but he is still the same. He communicates with our parents but not with me nor my wife anymore. Kindly give us a good advise.

I have a huge crush on my college professor. He is 41, tall, looks smart and teaches management in two other colleges. Lot of girls like him but he has never taken advantage of that, at least not that I know of. I even found out that he got divorced two years ago. My friend told me that she saw his profile on a dating app. Ever since then, I've been wanting to tell him how I feel. I don't want to have an affair in college, but I just want to tell him how much I admire him. I am 19 and this is the first time I have felt this way about any guy. My friends think I am crazy, this is just hormones. How to find out if this is real?

Hi. I have been in a long distance relationship since 6 months,and i have known my boyfriend since 10 months. He is very understanding, caring,and honest person. He had already told everything about us for his parents and their parents agreed. We both are financially independent. I told my relationship to my parents and they are against it as my boyfriend is from lower caste, different region, not done his degree from a reputed college but a local engineering college, and his status. They are thinking about relatives, and society what will they say, about their pride, status, and all the respect they have earned uptill now will vanish because of my decision. My parents are very protective of me and have given me everything and like me a lot.They are saying its long distance you might have met only 15 times you don't see this person daily to judge his character. If you have known this person for atleast 2/3 years, with u meeting him daily it would be different. But the person i met is honest from the start. They are hurting daily because of my decision. I cant go against them and be happy.

Have read some of your answers and I am appalled as to how biased you seem. To most daughters in law you have suggested basically to shut up and best abuse for ‘family peace’ whereas when a man complains of his wife being close to her mother you go like ‘oh what a woman’. Looking at your profile one expects you would teach your clients assertiveness, self respect and fairness.

My married ex still texts me for comfort. Because of him, I am unable to move on. He makes me feel guilty by saying he got married out of family pressure. His dad is a cardiac patient and mom is being treated for cancer. He comforts me by saying he will get separated soon and we will get married because he only loves me. We have been in a relationship for 14 years and despite everything we tried, his parents refused to accept me, so he chose to get married to someone who understands our situation. I don't know when he will separate from his wife. She knows about us too but she comes from a traditional family. She also confirmed there is no physical intimacy between them. I trust him, but is it worth losing my youth for him? Honestly, I am worried and very confused.

Hi Anu, My husband doesn't do house chores. We both work full-time, but I still end up cooking, cleaning, and doing laundry. When I ask for help, my partner will say, ‘Just tell me what to do,’ but then he conveniently forgets. Maybe he doesn't like it or he is genuinely forgetful. I have tried many ways to make him explain. Once I only did my share of laundry to make him realise but he simply ignored. Every week this pattern repeats. Is this normal? How can married couples divide responsibilities fairly to avoid fights?

Feeling alone in the world and iam not having any close friends everybody is busy with their works and family, help me what to do

I'm 43 married and I want to date again. After our marriage, my husband shifted to Dubai and has no plans to return to India. Ours was an arranged marriage. I have two daughters, both are in high school. I recently found out that he is cheating on me. I can't get divorced till he returns to India but I don't want to be single and feel guilty or blame my husband. My husband never loved me. I want to feel loved again. I don't know how and where to get started. Can you help?

Hi , My name is Jayen and my wife's name is Neha We are (37,36) 13 old in married relationship. Since I do job in abroad . I take 2 leaves of 30 days every year . My wife clearly says she don't have interest in me since our marriage get older . Some days before she told me she has what's app chat with my 28 year nephew , Unmarried guy . She says everytime that she is unsatisfied with me (sexually) She ask me everytime to give her permission to have physical relationship with nephew . She says you have spoiling my life . You can repair it now by giving permission . What can I do in this situation ? Does giving permission can spoil our marriage life ? Give me some better advice

Not happy with previous answer. Asking again. My boyfriend gets angry over very small things. Last time, I didn't respond to his call for 15 minutes and he kept calling to check what happened. Earlier, I thought it was out of concern, but even if I meet my friends without telling him, he gets upset. We fight over little, trivial things, and he would later say he didn’t mean it. I am scared to speak my mind. I don't know what will make him angry. How do I know if this is a toxic relationship? We know each other for 3 years now

My wife and I argue almost every week. Sometimes it's about house chores like who will clean up, sometimes over bigger things like paying bills money or inviting friends. After every fight, she will say sorry, and promise there won't be any argument. But last couple of months, she has stopped apologising and refused to talk to me. We havent spoken properly for a long time now. I have tried initiating but she thinks it is pointless. Is frequent fighting normal in relationships? Should I ignore or do something about it?

Hello, I am in physical relationship before my marriage, after that I do arrange marriage and now I have a baby ... Before sometime my husband saw photos of my past relationship.. before marriage I accept that I am in relationship but not accept that physical relation and take photos but now husband have photos, my husband frequently asking about past but lied .. he want to do legal action against me for hiding situation... What to do now?

My friend got married, it was an arrange marriage all the family is good all went very well but after marriage her husband told her that he has an severe disease which he and his family did not told her before marriage. They were supposed to tell her and her family about it before marriage but they didn't, now she is so tensed she couldn't tell her parents also , what should ahe supposed to do?

My partner thinks working late is not good for girls. I mean, he works 9 to 12 hours every day but if I spend 2 hours extra to complete a deadline, he makes a big deal out of it. He thinks women should balance their time and focus on the family while it's okay for men to stay back late. He even goes out for drinks with colleagues after work because he has worked late, which I think is unfair. Why are rules different for women?

My boyfriend gets angry over very small things. Last time, I didn't respond to his call for 15 minutes and he kept calling to check what happened. Earlier, I thought it was out of concern, but even if I meet my friends without telling him, he gets upset. We fight over little, trivial things, and he would later say he didn’t mean it. I am scared to speak my mind. I don't know what will make him angry. How do I know if this is a toxic relationship? We know each other for 3 years now

My partner gets angry over very small things. Last time, I didn't respond to his call for 15 minutes and he kept calling to check what happened. Earlier, I thought it was out of concern, but even if I meet my friends without telling him, he gets upset. We fight over little, trivial things, and he would later say he didn’t mean it. I am scared to speak my mind. I don't know what will make him angry. How do I know if this is a toxic relationship?

I am 29 years old now, I have a boyfriend, we are dating since 3 years and we know each other since 6 years for now, we used to work together and met at the workplace itself. He is 5 years older than me, Earns good., I have a family business and joined business now leaving the job. I am a single child to my parents. Now we want to get married, but our castes and religions both are different from each other. I want to start the conversation with my family for the same, but as their thoughts and the type of response they give to other intercaste and inter religion marriages are very negative. Therefore I know what kind of response I am going to get from them. I want to know how to start the conversation with them and how to convince them for it?

Long story short: we are 8 month old long distance couples, i use to listen to her, she told me if she loves me she'll be open to me 100% and whenever she feels to call me she will and tell me exactly how she feels, i respected that. I thought if i want to be a good partner i need to listen i need to support her emotions, but sometimes i do not want to be on calls and tell her lets finish for the day but i dont want to loose her i kept that from her and pretended to be interested everytime, she sensed that vibe from me, telling me that u seem off over calls, like u r performing a task. Suddenly we had a fight and i told her that sometimes i just predented to be listening but i am not. From then she has adusted she does not msg or call me frequently, i feel guilty about not telling her sooner. Will this ever repair or will it be like this forever? Is this change good for both of us or only for me ?

I am 48 years old man, have always been in love with my younger brother(44 years) (cousin). He and I were best friends since childhood and I am too much in love with him. For last 23 years, we have parted (fought) and I have avoided him like anything. He knew all about my love (letters/stalking/begging/crying) and thats why he distanced himself from me. He came back after 23 years (only on whatsapp chat), and again i started crying and what not and emotionally totally unstable. My wife, kids and even i am surprised how bad it is within me. He wants me as a friend (not overly emotionally invested). I have started writing emotional emails (once a month) which he never responds. How can I be a normal human being with him? Is it even possible? I hate being like this, how can i let go.... It's for so long what help do i need if any.

My boyfriend's father is flirting with me. Earlier i used to think he is just complimenting me but now it is getting too far. He constantly checks my social media and comments me in private chat. Once he said, if he was younger I would have dated someone exactly like me. I have been respectful, responding with gentle smileys because I don't know how to react. I don't know if I am reading too much into it, but how do I talk about this to my boyfriend? Will this affect their relationship and ours?

My husband doesn't appreciate me. Ours was a love marriage arranged by friends and family. Initially he used to shower me with compliments when I was working. After my delivery, my in-laws did not support me in raising our daughter. They wanted a grandson. They don't say it but it shows in their attitude. They are spreading all kinds of stories about my hygiene, cooking, and conversations with my mother. My daughter is 2 years old. I don't get time to groom myself. I quit my job last year so I could focus on our daughter. I try to help my mother in law in the kitchen whenever I can but she tells my husband that I am lazy, that I am good for nothing. This is causing a lot of fights due to misunderstandings. Now that I don't earn, I feel more guilty and dependent. My confidence is low. I don't remember the last time I visited a salon because my husband is the only earning member in the family. I can't visit my parents as they are also growing old and my daughter is so young. I honestly don't know how to fix these issues staying in this family. What do you think?

My boyfriend and I had a conversation and told me he will be ready in 2 years before he can get married, that for next year he can come see my parents and maybe next year start thinking about marriage, and he won’t ever want to tie me down if I ever see someone who is ready and I don’t go that I can keep my options open doesn’t mean he doesn’t love me or wants to date someone else but to avoid the talk that he kept me in a relationship for so long

Dear madam I have this suitaution in my life. Plz do guide me with this. So i have 2 married sisters and a brother with who i dont get along well. We used to be close back then. Later on my father passed away and then i got busy searching work. After getting work i got carried away with my newly found friendship with a boy i started spending much on him rather then my family. But still then i never neglected my family every kind of help i tried to give them. In the meanwhile i used to take care of my bedridden grandmother who used to stay in another state. Then my second sister started feeding everyone's mind against me saying i dont help them with money and i spend most on my grandmother and cousin. Though my sister were earning well still they waited me to spend on them which i stopped by then as they were earning. And there used to be a real good fight with my sisters and me regarding money issue and als my marriage thing and i gave them bitter words and also curses which i regret to this day thinking how could i do hated thing to my family .In next few years my sister got married but my second sister never invited me for her marriage and did all her wedding plans in my absence and i als never attended her wedding. I attended my 3rd sister wedding. After that my second sister plotted a plan against me by taking everyone on her side and kept me out of all the family functions. I just ignored them and decided to never to get bothered by any of this. Now the problem my 3rd sister is pregnant and they have planned a babyshower and like they are just telling me to attend it. To be honest they just told me a day before the function. How to handle this. Should i attend? And how to deal with such kind of people they seem to take advantage of my helpless. Please guide me on how to become a strong girl while taking desicion.

Whenever there’s a fight, my partner never says sorry. When we were dating this was fine as I like to mend things faster. But now that we are married it's always somehow my fault. Even when I try to talk calmly, he would twist the story and make me feel guilty. I don't know if this is his real personality or he is trying to control me. Is this a red flag? How do I know if he is doing it intentionally to stay powerful? How do I teach him to take equal responsibility?

I am a 32 year old married woman working in an IT company earning 1.2 lakhs monthly. My husband earns 1.8 lakhs. We stay with in-laws in joint family in Mumbai. My mother-in-law taunts me daily about not having baby even after 4 years of marriage. She says I am career focused and I am not a good wife. My husband says ignore but it's affecting my mental health. Is it wrong to have a career after marriage? Should we move out or I should quit job?

Hello Sir, I'm really struggling with my family's behavior after my arranged marriage. They pushed me into it, and now they're constantly guilt-tripping me and badmouthing my wife and her family. It's getting really tough to handle, and I'm feeling overwhelmed. Can you please offer some advice on how to deal with this situation? I just want to be happy and have my family's support.