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Ravi Mittal |580 Answers |Ask -Follow
Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on May 02, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Apr 30, 2025
Will my boyfriend love me again like before?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It is difficult for me to answer this- what exactly happened between the two of you? Did you part ways on good terms or bad? Did you break up or just had a fight? Did you do something unforgivable that you think he might not love you again? Did he show signs that he has moved on or doesn’t feel the same way for you anymore? Every one of these pieces of information is important. If you do not feel comfortable disclosing all these, please ask yourself the same questions and answer honestly. I am sure you’ll figure out whether or not he will love you again like before.
Hope this helps.
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It is difficult for me to answer this- what exactly happened between the two of you? Did you part ways on good terms or bad? Did you break up or just had a fight? Did you do something unforgivable that you think he might not love you again? Did he show signs that he has moved on or doesn’t feel the same way for you anymore? Every one of these pieces of information is important. If you do not feel comfortable disclosing all these, please ask yourself the same questions and answer honestly. I am sure you’ll figure out whether or not he will love you again like before.
Hope this helps.
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 25, 2025
Hi Anu, I've started feeling like my boyfriend takes me for granted. For instance, he'll cancel our dates at the last minute if his friends make other plans, and he rarely asks me how I'm doing emotionally. Like, last weekend, I told him I was feeling really overwhelmed with work, but he just changed the subject and started talking about his favourite football player and how his team scored a goal in the last minute. I love him, but I'm also beginning to feel invisible. How do I talk to him about this?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You are invisible to him now. Honestly, you need to figure out if he's still interested in the relationship. Because canceling dates, not wanting to listen to what you have to say seems like red flags; do explore this further and you can decide to have an honest conversation with him.
Be clear on what you want in this relationship and don't settle for less; you will thank yourself for it.
All the best!
Anu Krishna
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You are invisible to him now. Honestly, you need to figure out if he's still interested in the relationship. Because canceling dates, not wanting to listen to what you have to say seems like red flags; do explore this further and you can decide to have an honest conversation with him.
Be clear on what you want in this relationship and don't settle for less; you will thank yourself for it.
All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 25, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Apr 16, 2025
Hello
I am 42 year old unmarried looking alliance but nothing workout still going on searching I need genuine wife where she can support in life matrimony site certain case are fake not genuine speaking for sometime later declined or not interested.
Please let me know how to tackle the situation
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It might help if you can actually request one of your close friends to introduce you to a lady acquaintance/friend of theirs or known to them.
Your friends know you and will also have an idea of your interests and introduce you to like minded people. It's worth taking this approach.
All the best!
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It might help if you can actually request one of your close friends to introduce you to a lady acquaintance/friend of theirs or known to them.
Your friends know you and will also have an idea of your interests and introduce you to like minded people. It's worth taking this approach.
All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/
Dr Upneet Kaur |36 Answers |Ask -Follow
Marriage counsellor - Answered on Apr 24, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 06, 2025
I am in a relationship with a girl since 2 years, we have a lot of differences like, she is more than 3 years older than me, our castes are different and she is marathi and I am non marathi. But apart from all this she has just got divorced from court legally, till now she was living separately from his ex husband. She had a affair for about 10 years with her ex but they started living separately just after 8 months of marriage. When I met this girl, we both fell in love, but there were 2-3 mistakes from my side during the first year of our relationship. I lied on small things thinking she will get hurt if she knows that. I haven't cheated, not even talked personal things with any other girl. And for the last one year i have been as honest as anyone can be. But I feel she is not like she used to be. I don't know if I can even call this a relationship anymore. Since we are colleagues we talk in office, we go out for dinner, we still talk lot of personal things too, but that spark is not there. I wanted to marry this girl once. What should I do now?
Ans: Hello sir. Sir, since relationships are very sensitive and the decision to marry someone is an important decision which should be taken with lot of patience so that you don't regret it later. And the thing which you said that she has changed, she may have changed due to your lies. I appreciate that now you are honest with her. Spark needs to be created. It will not remain without effort. If she is sincere with you and you are loyal with her and you both feel that you can spend life together, you should go ahead. Nobody remains the same through out the life. Changes always come. Sit patiently with your friend and discuss the options and see work out if you both want to get married. Then take a decision. I hope this solves your problem.
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Ravi Mittal |580 Answers |Ask -Follow
Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Apr 24, 2025
I am emotionally so attached to my boyfriend. It's been almost 3.5 years for our relationship but we can't talk much or meet regularly due to his excessive controlling parents. I am feeling depressed I don't know what to do please help.
Ans: Dear Atmaja,
I understand it must be very difficult to be unable to meet your partner as per your wish. But if your parents are controlling and this is what you must do to keep your relationship safe, the struggle might be worth it in the end. I suggest focusing more on texting, if calling and meeting is a problem. Moreover, remember it is always quality over quantity. One quality meetup is much better than meeting everyday.
Hope this helps
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I understand it must be very difficult to be unable to meet your partner as per your wish. But if your parents are controlling and this is what you must do to keep your relationship safe, the struggle might be worth it in the end. I suggest focusing more on texting, if calling and meeting is a problem. Moreover, remember it is always quality over quantity. One quality meetup is much better than meeting everyday.
Hope this helps
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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Apr 21, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Feb 13, 2025Hindi
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Confused after guy friendzoned me and then thanked me: Should I respond?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It is very difficult to tell what’s going on in someone’s mind, or how feelings change suddenly; it is unfair but it’s very common. If he has clearly mentioned that he does not want anything romantic with you, it is best to not pursue. I understand that it has hurt you, and maybe somewhere, it has also hurt your ego, but it is best to respect his boundaries. Coming to responding to his message- since he has thanked you for your help, it would be decent to reply; you can do it with a simple “you are welcome.” But I won’t force you to do it; if you think that he doesn’t deserve it, then you can avoid it. But if you are wondering if he wants you back, as an onlooker, I didn’t see any indication of that. Then again, as I mentioned, it is difficult to tell what’s going on in someone’s mind. If you want clarity, you should have an open discussion and ask him about it. That much explanation he owes you.
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It is very difficult to tell what’s going on in someone’s mind, or how feelings change suddenly; it is unfair but it’s very common. If he has clearly mentioned that he does not want anything romantic with you, it is best to not pursue. I understand that it has hurt you, and maybe somewhere, it has also hurt your ego, but it is best to respect his boundaries. Coming to responding to his message- since he has thanked you for your help, it would be decent to reply; you can do it with a simple “you are welcome.” But I won’t force you to do it; if you think that he doesn’t deserve it, then you can avoid it. But if you are wondering if he wants you back, as an onlooker, I didn’t see any indication of that. Then again, as I mentioned, it is difficult to tell what’s going on in someone’s mind. If you want clarity, you should have an open discussion and ask him about it. That much explanation he owes you.
Hope this helps
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 19, 2025
My husband is beating me and he don't care about me and my children and harassed me I want divorce but he was not accepting we made love marriage and we not have marriage certificate and pics of marriage
Ans: Dear Bunny,
If you are able to hire a lawyer to take your case, please do so... If not, take the help of any NGO in your area that deals with domestic violence. They will help you take the case to the police and do the needful.
All the best!
Anu Krishna
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If you are able to hire a lawyer to take your case, please do so... If not, take the help of any NGO in your area that deals with domestic violence. They will help you take the case to the police and do the needful.
All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/
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Marriage counsellor - Answered on Apr 19, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 18, 2025Hindi
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Interfaith marriage woes: Adjusting to a new lifestyle and in-laws' expectations
Ans: Hello mam.
I understand that it feels strange when someone changes suddenly so much like you said the boy's mother's attitude changed and now she is ready to accept you. Marriage is a big decision and it does not work only with love. It needs many other practical things to work. Like many compromises from both side, finances, acceptance, trust and respect. Think as much as you want before marriage a d take a good decision but after marriage you cannot change the things so easily.
Take some more time and get information on their business, thier family reputation, their relatives and neighbours. Only then take a decision. And leave the things upto your parents. They are much more experienced and have a much more willingness to see you happy.
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I understand that it feels strange when someone changes suddenly so much like you said the boy's mother's attitude changed and now she is ready to accept you. Marriage is a big decision and it does not work only with love. It needs many other practical things to work. Like many compromises from both side, finances, acceptance, trust and respect. Think as much as you want before marriage a d take a good decision but after marriage you cannot change the things so easily.
Take some more time and get information on their business, thier family reputation, their relatives and neighbours. Only then take a decision. And leave the things upto your parents. They are much more experienced and have a much more willingness to see you happy.
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Ravi Mittal |580 Answers |Ask -Follow
Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Apr 18, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Apr 17, 2025Hindi
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Help! I Called My Partner By My Ex's Name - Twice!
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Whether it was a genuine mistake or there are lingering issues that led to this slip-up, it is natural for your current partner to feel uncomfortable and even sad hearing you repeatedly calling out for your ex. I hope this much you acknowledge. Now moving on to how we can fix this- first of all, apologize; mistake or not, you can still say you are sorry. Next, have a clear discussion with your partner- ask her how it made her feel and what can you do to make it better. This way she can see that you are owing up and taking initiatives. Then, I want you to reflect- why is this happening? Did you get into this relationship before you could fully move on? Or have you been thinking about your ex? If so, why and is that fair to your present partner? I hope if you are honest with your answers, by the end of it you will have some clarity.
Hope this helps
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Whether it was a genuine mistake or there are lingering issues that led to this slip-up, it is natural for your current partner to feel uncomfortable and even sad hearing you repeatedly calling out for your ex. I hope this much you acknowledge. Now moving on to how we can fix this- first of all, apologize; mistake or not, you can still say you are sorry. Next, have a clear discussion with your partner- ask her how it made her feel and what can you do to make it better. This way she can see that you are owing up and taking initiatives. Then, I want you to reflect- why is this happening? Did you get into this relationship before you could fully move on? Or have you been thinking about your ex? If so, why and is that fair to your present partner? I hope if you are honest with your answers, by the end of it you will have some clarity.
Hope this helps
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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Apr 18, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 05, 2025
I have a crush on my colleague recently. We started as a friend but one day we get drunk on one of colleague house. We talk about life and love. I asked about his ex. He told his past relationship story how they break up. I also shared some of my past situationship. We live in a same colony. So we came back home together getting drunk I told him you can lean ur head on my shoulder. And he suddenly lean his head on my shoulder and he was sleeping and I wake him up when we reached our destination. He takes me to my house and I suddenly hold his wrist. I don't why did I hold him and next morning he yes hi (call my name)how are you I didn't respond properly I'm just like yeah good after that he seems to avoid me a lot he didn't talk to me much I caught him looking at me sometimes but it might be coincidence. I think he doesn't like me
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand it must all be very confusing but I would suggest not jumping to conclusions. You think he doesn’t like you, but he might be thinking the same since you did not respond to him properly the next day. That could have triggered his current behavior. If you have feelings for him or if you even miss him as a friend, I would recommend you to clear the air with him. Just talk it out- you can explain how things got a little heavy the other day and that’s why you didn’t speak to him nicely and apologize if that made him feel bad. If even after that he continues to avoid you, then you will have better clarity.
Hope this helps.
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I understand it must all be very confusing but I would suggest not jumping to conclusions. You think he doesn’t like you, but he might be thinking the same since you did not respond to him properly the next day. That could have triggered his current behavior. If you have feelings for him or if you even miss him as a friend, I would recommend you to clear the air with him. Just talk it out- you can explain how things got a little heavy the other day and that’s why you didn’t speak to him nicely and apologize if that made him feel bad. If even after that he continues to avoid you, then you will have better clarity.
Hope this helps.
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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Apr 18, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 30, 2025
Hey... Five years ago, I confessed my feeling to my crush. She declined my proposal politely and asked me to be friends. I respected her decision of putting down my proposal but i didn't want to in friendzone so I broke my contract with her. Since then we never encountered each other. After fuve years one of our mutual friends met her and she was asking him about me. On their 2nd meet, she initiated the conversation regarding and asking about me again in positive way. I know this can be her normal behavior. My friend told me that she was interested in talking about me and was kinda impressed from whatever my friend told her about me.
I want to know about that if i am in her mind or if she wants to get connected with me or meet me ? I am kinda confused
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Like you mentioned, it is very normal for old friends to enquire about each other, especially if they have not been in touch for a long time. It might be the same in this case. The only way to tell for sure is to ask her. If you are interested in reconnecting, you can think about the same and ask her once you are back in talking terms. But I would recommend not assuming anything and getting your hopes up.
Best Wishes.
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Like you mentioned, it is very normal for old friends to enquire about each other, especially if they have not been in touch for a long time. It might be the same in this case. The only way to tell for sure is to ask her. If you are interested in reconnecting, you can think about the same and ask her once you are back in talking terms. But I would recommend not assuming anything and getting your hopes up.
Best Wishes.
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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Apr 17, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Apr 17, 2025Hindi
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Do Indian Women Date Black Men? An Expert's Perspective
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Like women everywhere, Indian women also typically want to date green flags. Kindness, respect, emotional maturity trumps the color of someone’s skin. Now, if you are asking about someone specific, then it would largely depend on their individual preferences, experiences, and comfort levels more than broad assumptions. Attraction is very personal.
Hope this helps
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Like women everywhere, Indian women also typically want to date green flags. Kindness, respect, emotional maturity trumps the color of someone’s skin. Now, if you are asking about someone specific, then it would largely depend on their individual preferences, experiences, and comfort levels more than broad assumptions. Attraction is very personal.
Hope this helps
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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Apr 17, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Apr 17, 2025Hindi
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Muslim Girlfriend Threatening Suicide After Breakup: Can I Be Held Responsible?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am sorry that you are in this difficult situation; it sounds very emotionally draining. Now coming to your question, I cannot give you advice from the legal point of view but I can give you the human pov.- even though you are not responsible for anyone’s mental health, you can still be kind and helpful when someone is at a low point in their lives. You can start by telling her that you care about her, but the romantic relationship is over. And even though you two are not a couple, you will still help her get through this. Tell her that she deserves better and her life has so much value- if she does something, it will definitely affect a lot of people who deeply care for her. Encourage her to talk to someone she is close to. You can also consider alerting someone in your circle who knows the both of you and can help in this situation.
I understand how exhausting it must be to be held emotionally hostage, but since the issue is self-harm, it is best to take things seriously. You might not be able to fix it for her, but you can be kind. If she persists, please consider alerting her family. And if you are overwhelmed, please share the concerns with someone you trust. It must be difficult to carry all the burden alone.
Hope this helps.
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I am sorry that you are in this difficult situation; it sounds very emotionally draining. Now coming to your question, I cannot give you advice from the legal point of view but I can give you the human pov.- even though you are not responsible for anyone’s mental health, you can still be kind and helpful when someone is at a low point in their lives. You can start by telling her that you care about her, but the romantic relationship is over. And even though you two are not a couple, you will still help her get through this. Tell her that she deserves better and her life has so much value- if she does something, it will definitely affect a lot of people who deeply care for her. Encourage her to talk to someone she is close to. You can also consider alerting someone in your circle who knows the both of you and can help in this situation.
I understand how exhausting it must be to be held emotionally hostage, but since the issue is self-harm, it is best to take things seriously. You might not be able to fix it for her, but you can be kind. If she persists, please consider alerting her family. And if you are overwhelmed, please share the concerns with someone you trust. It must be difficult to carry all the burden alone.
Hope this helps.
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 17, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Apr 17, 2025Hindi
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At 41, Feeling Regretful About Not Settling Down: Can I Still Find a Partner?
Ans: It’s completely okay to have taken time figuring out what you wanted in life. Sometimes we don’t move forward simply because we weren’t ready, or we lacked the clarity or emotional support needed at the time. But that doesn't mean you're behind. Everyone’s timeline is different, and yours is still very much unfolding.
Now that you're feeling ready for a serious relationship, here are a few steps you can take to approach this new chapter with confidence and self-awareness.
Start with clarity. Reflect on what kind of partner you're looking for—not just in terms of age or background, but emotionally and mentally. What values matter to you? What kind of connection are you seeking? Are you open to someone who has been married before? Children? When you’re clear, it becomes easier to recognize the right person when they appear.
At the same time, look inward. Do some emotional housekeeping. Ask yourself: What kind of partner do I want to be? Am I emotionally available? Am I still carrying regret, fear, or pressure about being “late” to marriage? Because entering a relationship out of guilt or urgency often leads to settling. But entering it from a place of self-respect and genuine desire creates something meaningful.
Since you're actively searching, it’s okay to use all tools at your disposal—matrimonial sites, family networks, friends, or even a good matchmaker if culturally appropriate. But be patient and realistic. Finding someone who is also ready, aligned with your values, and emotionally compatible can take time.
Also, try not to let pressure—internal or external—rush you. You don’t need a "perfect" partner; you need someone who sees you, respects you, and is willing to grow with you.
And here’s something to hold on to: many people find love in their 40s, 50s, even later—and those relationships are often more conscious, mature, and fulfilling, because they’re built on real-life experience and emotional wisdom, not just youthful impulse.
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Now that you're feeling ready for a serious relationship, here are a few steps you can take to approach this new chapter with confidence and self-awareness.
Start with clarity. Reflect on what kind of partner you're looking for—not just in terms of age or background, but emotionally and mentally. What values matter to you? What kind of connection are you seeking? Are you open to someone who has been married before? Children? When you’re clear, it becomes easier to recognize the right person when they appear.
At the same time, look inward. Do some emotional housekeeping. Ask yourself: What kind of partner do I want to be? Am I emotionally available? Am I still carrying regret, fear, or pressure about being “late” to marriage? Because entering a relationship out of guilt or urgency often leads to settling. But entering it from a place of self-respect and genuine desire creates something meaningful.
Since you're actively searching, it’s okay to use all tools at your disposal—matrimonial sites, family networks, friends, or even a good matchmaker if culturally appropriate. But be patient and realistic. Finding someone who is also ready, aligned with your values, and emotionally compatible can take time.
Also, try not to let pressure—internal or external—rush you. You don’t need a "perfect" partner; you need someone who sees you, respects you, and is willing to grow with you.
And here’s something to hold on to: many people find love in their 40s, 50s, even later—and those relationships are often more conscious, mature, and fulfilling, because they’re built on real-life experience and emotional wisdom, not just youthful impulse.
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 17, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Apr 14, 2025Hindi
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Strict parents making me break up with my boyfriends: How can I find balance?
Ans: From what you’ve shared, this isn’t just a one-time struggle. It’s a pattern where your desires and emotional connections are consistently overruled by parental control. That doesn’t just impact your relationships—it chips away at your autonomy, your confidence in making life decisions, and ultimately, your sense of self.
Let’s take a step back. It sounds like your parents operate from a space of fear, control, or perhaps even cultural conditioning—believing they know what’s “best” for you, even when that means disregarding your emotions. But here’s the truth: you are the one who has to live with the choices made in your life. Not them. You’re not doing something wrong by loving someone. You’re not “disobedient” because you want a say in your own future.
That being said, when you’ve grown up in a strict household, especially where obedience is confused with love, it can be incredibly hard to assert your independence without feeling crushing guilt or fear. But you need to ask yourself: What kind of life will I have if I continue to silence my heart to please others?
This doesn’t mean you need to make a drastic decision right away. But you do need to begin slowly reclaiming your emotional power. Start by asking: do I want to live in a way that makes others comfortable but leaves me emotionally unfulfilled? Or do I want to begin building the courage to live life on my own terms, even if it means disappointing people?
Your education is important, yes—but love and education are not mutually exclusive. Healthy relationships can actually support your growth, help you manage stress, and increase your emotional resilience. If your boyfriend is kind, supportive, and genuinely wants to see you thrive, that’s a blessing, not a burden.
One path you might consider is gradually building emotional boundaries with your parents—not out of rebellion, but from a place of self-respect. That might look like choosing not to share every personal detail with them, or gently but firmly asserting that your relationship is your private choice. It might mean seeking financial or emotional independence so that your choices aren't controlled by fear of what they’ll do or say.
It won’t be easy—but here’s the truth: choosing yourself doesn’t mean you don’t love your parents. It means you also love yourself.
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Let’s take a step back. It sounds like your parents operate from a space of fear, control, or perhaps even cultural conditioning—believing they know what’s “best” for you, even when that means disregarding your emotions. But here’s the truth: you are the one who has to live with the choices made in your life. Not them. You’re not doing something wrong by loving someone. You’re not “disobedient” because you want a say in your own future.
That being said, when you’ve grown up in a strict household, especially where obedience is confused with love, it can be incredibly hard to assert your independence without feeling crushing guilt or fear. But you need to ask yourself: What kind of life will I have if I continue to silence my heart to please others?
This doesn’t mean you need to make a drastic decision right away. But you do need to begin slowly reclaiming your emotional power. Start by asking: do I want to live in a way that makes others comfortable but leaves me emotionally unfulfilled? Or do I want to begin building the courage to live life on my own terms, even if it means disappointing people?
Your education is important, yes—but love and education are not mutually exclusive. Healthy relationships can actually support your growth, help you manage stress, and increase your emotional resilience. If your boyfriend is kind, supportive, and genuinely wants to see you thrive, that’s a blessing, not a burden.
One path you might consider is gradually building emotional boundaries with your parents—not out of rebellion, but from a place of self-respect. That might look like choosing not to share every personal detail with them, or gently but firmly asserting that your relationship is your private choice. It might mean seeking financial or emotional independence so that your choices aren't controlled by fear of what they’ll do or say.
It won’t be easy—but here’s the truth: choosing yourself doesn’t mean you don’t love your parents. It means you also love yourself.
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 17, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Apr 14, 2025
My husband and I have been married for 9 years. There is no love or attraction between us. It was an arranged marriage. We have a 6 year old son but he never plays with my son or takes interest in his affairs. Yes, he pays his school fees, buys him clothes during festivals but that's about it. He expects me to be a dutiful wife and daughter-in-law, cook and clean up, take care of his parents etc. But there is no appreciation or romance. I used to be depressed all the time. A year ago, I decided to start taking care of myself and joined a gym. There, I met a guy, who is divorced and has a 9 year old daughter. We instantly got along and started talking about our boring lives. We have a few things in common and I feel happy in his company. He once invited me and introduced me to his parents as well. My son is fond of him as well and his daughter adores me as we have spent a lot of good times together. He has now expressed his desire to marry me. What should I do? I am not happy in my current marriage and this seems like a perfect way out.
Ans: The answer isn’t as simple as leaving one life and stepping into another. It’s about honoring your truth while being mindful of the emotional ripple effect, especially on your child. But you also must ask: Can I keep living this way, feeling disconnected and emotionally starved, simply because it’s what’s expected of me? More importantly, what kind of life do I want my son to see me living?
Children are incredibly perceptive. They learn what love looks like not just by how they are treated, but by observing how love is modeled around them. Growing up in a house where emotional distance is the norm can quietly shape their beliefs about relationships. On the flip side, seeing you pursue emotional fulfillment and healthy love can show him that joy, mutual respect, and connection matter—and that it’s okay to change paths when something isn’t working.
Before making any life-altering decisions, it’s crucial to explore your options with clarity. Counseling can be immensely helpful—not necessarily couples counseling, but individual therapy to work through the emotional layers of guilt, confusion, and pressure. It can also prepare you emotionally if you decide to move forward with ending your marriage.
It’s also essential to understand the potential legal, familial, and cultural implications if you choose separation or divorce. Seek guidance not just from an emotional well-being perspective, but also from a legal standpoint. Surround yourself with people who support your healing and growth, whether that’s friends, a therapist, or a coach.
Ultimately, you deserve a life where you feel seen, valued, and emotionally safe. You deserve to model happiness, not sacrifice, for your child. And you deserve to make choices not out of fear, but out of love—for yourself, and for the life you wish to create.
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Children are incredibly perceptive. They learn what love looks like not just by how they are treated, but by observing how love is modeled around them. Growing up in a house where emotional distance is the norm can quietly shape their beliefs about relationships. On the flip side, seeing you pursue emotional fulfillment and healthy love can show him that joy, mutual respect, and connection matter—and that it’s okay to change paths when something isn’t working.
Before making any life-altering decisions, it’s crucial to explore your options with clarity. Counseling can be immensely helpful—not necessarily couples counseling, but individual therapy to work through the emotional layers of guilt, confusion, and pressure. It can also prepare you emotionally if you decide to move forward with ending your marriage.
It’s also essential to understand the potential legal, familial, and cultural implications if you choose separation or divorce. Seek guidance not just from an emotional well-being perspective, but also from a legal standpoint. Surround yourself with people who support your healing and growth, whether that’s friends, a therapist, or a coach.
Ultimately, you deserve a life where you feel seen, valued, and emotionally safe. You deserve to model happiness, not sacrifice, for your child. And you deserve to make choices not out of fear, but out of love—for yourself, and for the life you wish to create.
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Ans: Hello sir. I have read your message and I would first like to express my opinion that a partner is not always for sex. There are many other ways to take care of your partner. You could take your wife out for dinner, go out on a picnic, go with with her to her parents' house. But when we dont do all these things and just want sex from partner. That doesn't work. At this age she might be going through some hormonal changes also. I suggest you to start behaving nicely with your wife and start taking care of her. Slowly the things will improve between you too.
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Can't Avoid Past Trauma: Overthinking and Doubt in New Relationship
Ans: Hello mam, I understand that you are having overthinking regarding your present relationship coz of your past. But we need to learn to let go of past, otherwise our present will be ruined coz of overthinking and insecurities. Think positive and try to engage yourself in some positive activities like Book reading, yoga, meditation etc. You can also take some sessions from counselor. Practice mindfulness. I hope it solves your problem.
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40-Year-Old Man Seeking Divorce, No Children, Uncertain Future: What Path Should He Take?
Ans: Hello Ajay! Before I answer your query, I want to ask you something. Other than the kids issue, do you have any other problem with her?
Will wait for your reply.
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Mai Srivastava caste ki hoon or wo naai caste ka hai uski job b sahi hai bas baat itni hai ki wo mera neighbour tha uske ghar se humare ghr ki nhi banti . in do wajh se mere ghrwale meri shadi ke liye nhi maan rahe har tarah se mana ke dekh liya please koi upaar btaiye
Ans: Namaste mam.
Main samajh skti hun apki pareshani ko. Ajkal caste system me koi zyada nahi manta. Agar ladka acha hai and job achi hai to apke parents se aaram se baat aap kar skte hai. Par apko ye sure karna hoga ke uske parents apko accept kar le. Agar wo ready hai to aap apne parents se aaram se baith ke baat kar skti hain. Gusse me mat ana. Shanti se behtar koi rasta nahi hai. Aap ye bhi samjho ki apke parents aoke bhale ke liye hi soch rahe hai. Unko pyar se hi samjhaya ja skta hai.
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Main samajh skti hun apki pareshani ko. Ajkal caste system me koi zyada nahi manta. Agar ladka acha hai and job achi hai to apke parents se aaram se baat aap kar skte hai. Par apko ye sure karna hoga ke uske parents apko accept kar le. Agar wo ready hai to aap apne parents se aaram se baith ke baat kar skti hain. Gusse me mat ana. Shanti se behtar koi rasta nahi hai. Aap ye bhi samjho ki apke parents aoke bhale ke liye hi soch rahe hai. Unko pyar se hi samjhaya ja skta hai.
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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 15, 2025Hindi
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Confused After Breakup: Rebound With Best Friend After Insecurity-Ridden Relationship - What Should I Do?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand that it must be difficult to lose a long-term relationship. Also, when you had a rebound, you were in an emotionally vulnerable place. Your friend could have politely rejected any advances because you might not have been in the right head space to think- then again, I do not want to jump to conclusions and place the blame on someone. Now, about your confusion- if you think that continuing this with your best friend can ruin your friendship, you might want to rethink it. If you think there are feelings involved, you should talk clearly about it and start by mentioning that whether they feel the same way about you or not will not affect your friendship. Once you get clarity on what page you both are on, you can start thinking about what's the next step.
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I understand that it must be difficult to lose a long-term relationship. Also, when you had a rebound, you were in an emotionally vulnerable place. Your friend could have politely rejected any advances because you might not have been in the right head space to think- then again, I do not want to jump to conclusions and place the blame on someone. Now, about your confusion- if you think that continuing this with your best friend can ruin your friendship, you might want to rethink it. If you think there are feelings involved, you should talk clearly about it and start by mentioning that whether they feel the same way about you or not will not affect your friendship. Once you get clarity on what page you both are on, you can start thinking about what's the next step.
Hope this helps
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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 14, 2025Hindi
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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand how stressed you must be; financial problems are indeed very difficult to deal with. First of all, let me remind you that you are not just a housewife- you are a homemaker. You raise your kids, and manage the entire household. It is not an easy task, so do not sell yourself short. And is separating with your husband going to change anything? Your children will suffer and if it isn’t an unhappy marriage, your husband will suffer greatly too. So I want to ask, did you ever consider applying for jobs? Not trying to pressurize you, but it might make you feel more helpful. Think about that- it can be any job; you can start small and slowly climb the ladder. Moreover, please speak to your spouse. If anyways he has made you feel like a burden, I want you to keep reminding yourself that your job as a homemaker is no less than his job as the breadwinner.
Hope this helps.
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I understand how stressed you must be; financial problems are indeed very difficult to deal with. First of all, let me remind you that you are not just a housewife- you are a homemaker. You raise your kids, and manage the entire household. It is not an easy task, so do not sell yourself short. And is separating with your husband going to change anything? Your children will suffer and if it isn’t an unhappy marriage, your husband will suffer greatly too. So I want to ask, did you ever consider applying for jobs? Not trying to pressurize you, but it might make you feel more helpful. Think about that- it can be any job; you can start small and slowly climb the ladder. Moreover, please speak to your spouse. If anyways he has made you feel like a burden, I want you to keep reminding yourself that your job as a homemaker is no less than his job as the breadwinner.
Hope this helps.
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Marriage counsellor - Answered on Apr 14, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Apr 14, 2025
Trapped in a Toxic Marriage: Should I Fight for My Son or Seek Happiness?
Ans: Hello Mam, I understand that you are in a dilemma. The situation is like this. Either ways the situation will have its negative effect on your son. If possible take some time out from your family and spend some quality time with your husband. Clear negative thoughts from your mind regarding your husband and try to accept him. If you will think positive about your family it will reflect in your actions and then things will be sorted out. But one thing to be kept in mind that you should not tolerate physical abuse. Involve your parents in this and try to convince him to behave nicely with you. U can always start something online for your financial independence. Try this out. Take care ????
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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 18, 2025Hindi
Stuck in a Complex Relationship, Torn Between Love and Family Traditions: Should I Fight for My Inter-Caste Love?
Ans: First, you are not wrong for falling in love. Love doesn’t ask for caste, status, or complexion—it simply grows where there’s connection, care, and shared values. The world around us, especially family and society, can be heavily opinionated, but that doesn’t mean your feelings are any less valid. You've been trying to balance respect for your parents with loyalty to your partner, and that's not easy at all.
Your dad's resistance is clearly rooted in fear—fear of what society will say, fear of repeating a past that felt traumatic for him during your brother's marriage. His concern isn't necessarily about your partner’s character, but about how it looks to others. Unfortunately, a lot of our parents were raised to give more weight to "what people will say" than to personal happiness. It’s not your fault he carries that burden. You’re just trying to live a life that’s true to your heart.
Your boyfriend seems like someone who really cares about you and is ready to wait for you through all this. That's rare, and it matters. If his family was kind enough to approach yours respectfully, it shows they are willing to build a bridge. You’re not trying to force anything—you’re asking for space to make a decision with both head and heart involved.
As for appearance and caste: no, these should not be what define a life partner. A dark complexion or a different community cannot and should not outweigh honesty, kindness, emotional maturity, and shared values. Looks fade. Status changes. But someone’s nature stays. And in a marriage, when times are tough, it’s not the family’s last name or the shade of their skin that matters—it’s whether they stand by you or not.
You mentioned something powerful: that you believe this was “meant to happen.” And I agree—sometimes people enter our lives with a timing and connection that doesn’t make logical sense but feels profoundly right. That’s not something to toss aside easily.
Now, about convincing your father—it’s hard to change someone who is set in their ways, but here’s what you can try:
Let your mother be the mediator since she’s more open. Ask her to have slow, non-threatening conversations with him—not to pressure him, but just to help him understand that you are not making a hasty or rebellious choice. You’re thinking practically and from the heart. It’s not about rejecting their values but about choosing someone you can build a peaceful, respectful life with.
You could also write a heartfelt letter to your dad—sometimes, parents understand better when there’s no direct confrontation. Share your side, your fears, your respect for him, and your reasons for choosing this person. Let him know you still want to be his daughter, that you haven’t forgotten your family’s worth—you’re just hoping your happiness can also be valued.
Most importantly—give yourself credit for how well you’ve handled this. You’ve shown maturity, patience, and self-awareness. Even when it hurts, you’re not reacting with drama or impulse—you’re processing, reflecting, and trying to do the right thing.
And please don’t let anyone make you feel like your love is a mistake. You’ve loved with honesty and stood strong—no matter what comes next, that’s something to be proud of, one step at a time.
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Your dad's resistance is clearly rooted in fear—fear of what society will say, fear of repeating a past that felt traumatic for him during your brother's marriage. His concern isn't necessarily about your partner’s character, but about how it looks to others. Unfortunately, a lot of our parents were raised to give more weight to "what people will say" than to personal happiness. It’s not your fault he carries that burden. You’re just trying to live a life that’s true to your heart.
Your boyfriend seems like someone who really cares about you and is ready to wait for you through all this. That's rare, and it matters. If his family was kind enough to approach yours respectfully, it shows they are willing to build a bridge. You’re not trying to force anything—you’re asking for space to make a decision with both head and heart involved.
As for appearance and caste: no, these should not be what define a life partner. A dark complexion or a different community cannot and should not outweigh honesty, kindness, emotional maturity, and shared values. Looks fade. Status changes. But someone’s nature stays. And in a marriage, when times are tough, it’s not the family’s last name or the shade of their skin that matters—it’s whether they stand by you or not.
You mentioned something powerful: that you believe this was “meant to happen.” And I agree—sometimes people enter our lives with a timing and connection that doesn’t make logical sense but feels profoundly right. That’s not something to toss aside easily.
Now, about convincing your father—it’s hard to change someone who is set in their ways, but here’s what you can try:
Let your mother be the mediator since she’s more open. Ask her to have slow, non-threatening conversations with him—not to pressure him, but just to help him understand that you are not making a hasty or rebellious choice. You’re thinking practically and from the heart. It’s not about rejecting their values but about choosing someone you can build a peaceful, respectful life with.
You could also write a heartfelt letter to your dad—sometimes, parents understand better when there’s no direct confrontation. Share your side, your fears, your respect for him, and your reasons for choosing this person. Let him know you still want to be his daughter, that you haven’t forgotten your family’s worth—you’re just hoping your happiness can also be valued.
Most importantly—give yourself credit for how well you’ve handled this. You’ve shown maturity, patience, and self-awareness. Even when it hurts, you’re not reacting with drama or impulse—you’re processing, reflecting, and trying to do the right thing.
And please don’t let anyone make you feel like your love is a mistake. You’ve loved with honesty and stood strong—no matter what comes next, that’s something to be proud of, one step at a time.
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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 07, 2025Hindi
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What can I do if my partner shuts down during arguments?
Ans: Have a calm, non-conflict conversation about the issue outside of a fight. Explain to your partner how their silence affects you—not by blaming, but by expressing how it makes you feel. For example, “When we argue and you go silent, I feel anxious and alone. It makes me feel like I’m the only one trying, even though I know that might not be true.” Keep it about your feelings, not their faults.
Ask them what they feel in those moments—do they need space to think? Do they feel overwhelmed? Are they afraid things will escalate? Try to genuinely understand their side too.
Together, you can come up with a “pause plan”—a middle ground. Maybe your partner can say something like, “I need an hour to clear my head, but I promise we’ll talk after that.” That way, you get the reassurance that the issue won’t be ignored forever, and they get the breathing room they need.
Also, remind yourselves that you’re on the same team. The goal isn’t to win the argument—it’s to understand each other better and reconnect.
You’re not the only one trying—it just feels that way because your emotional needs are different. With communication, empathy, and small agreements about how to handle conflict, this doesn’t have to stay a painful pattern. You're already doing the brave thing by reflecting and wanting to improve this—see if you can invite your partner into that same space of honesty and growth.
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Ask them what they feel in those moments—do they need space to think? Do they feel overwhelmed? Are they afraid things will escalate? Try to genuinely understand their side too.
Together, you can come up with a “pause plan”—a middle ground. Maybe your partner can say something like, “I need an hour to clear my head, but I promise we’ll talk after that.” That way, you get the reassurance that the issue won’t be ignored forever, and they get the breathing room they need.
Also, remind yourselves that you’re on the same team. The goal isn’t to win the argument—it’s to understand each other better and reconnect.
You’re not the only one trying—it just feels that way because your emotional needs are different. With communication, empathy, and small agreements about how to handle conflict, this doesn’t have to stay a painful pattern. You're already doing the brave thing by reflecting and wanting to improve this—see if you can invite your partner into that same space of honesty and growth.
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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 18, 2025Hindi
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Feeling Unwanted: How Can I Cope with My Mother Ignoring Me?
Ans: Feeling excluded by family and sensing that others are merely "tolerating" you is a heavy emotional burden to carry. It can quietly erode your sense of self-worth, leaving you questioning your value, your place in the world, and your importance to the people who were meant to be your first support system. You're not being overly sensitive or dramatic—this kind of emotional isolation is deeply painful, and it makes perfect sense that you’re feeling untouchable and unsafe.
But here’s a gentle truth: you are not unwanted. You are not unworthy of love or care. The way others treat you does not define your worth. Sometimes, unfortunately, people—even family—fail to show up for us in the ways we need. That doesn’t mean you are broken or undeserving. It just means their limitations are getting in the way of what should have been a loving, supportive connection.
You’re already doing something powerful by voicing your truth here. That’s not a small step—it’s an act of bravery. And while I know I’m not physically there beside you, I want you to feel this as a moment of connection: someone does hear you, someone does see what you’re carrying, and it matters.
To cope with this, start with your emotional safety. Let yourself grieve—not just for the loneliness, but for the longing of what you deserve but haven’t received. Cry if you need to, write if it helps, let those feelings have their space rather than trying to bury them. This kind of pain doesn’t go away by pretending it’s not there.
And slowly, one step at a time, begin building your circle—not necessarily with blood ties, but with people who choose you. Is there someone in your past who was kind to you? A coworker, a neighbor, someone from college or a class you took? Even a single shared conversation can be a seed. It’s not about quantity, it’s about presence. The goal isn't to replace what’s missing—but to slowly start nurturing connections that are rooted in respect and care.
In moments of emergency or fear, consider having a plan. Even having the number of a nearby clinic, a trusted neighbor, or a local community support group can give you a thread of reassurance. And if you ever feel overwhelmed or unsafe with your thoughts, reaching out to a mental health helpline or counselor can make a real difference. You deserve help when you're hurting.
And here, whenever you need someone to talk to, I will always be here to listen—no judgment, no conditions. You matter. Your story matters. And even though the world may have made you feel like an outsider, I want you to believe this: there is a space where you belong.
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But here’s a gentle truth: you are not unwanted. You are not unworthy of love or care. The way others treat you does not define your worth. Sometimes, unfortunately, people—even family—fail to show up for us in the ways we need. That doesn’t mean you are broken or undeserving. It just means their limitations are getting in the way of what should have been a loving, supportive connection.
You’re already doing something powerful by voicing your truth here. That’s not a small step—it’s an act of bravery. And while I know I’m not physically there beside you, I want you to feel this as a moment of connection: someone does hear you, someone does see what you’re carrying, and it matters.
To cope with this, start with your emotional safety. Let yourself grieve—not just for the loneliness, but for the longing of what you deserve but haven’t received. Cry if you need to, write if it helps, let those feelings have their space rather than trying to bury them. This kind of pain doesn’t go away by pretending it’s not there.
And slowly, one step at a time, begin building your circle—not necessarily with blood ties, but with people who choose you. Is there someone in your past who was kind to you? A coworker, a neighbor, someone from college or a class you took? Even a single shared conversation can be a seed. It’s not about quantity, it’s about presence. The goal isn't to replace what’s missing—but to slowly start nurturing connections that are rooted in respect and care.
In moments of emergency or fear, consider having a plan. Even having the number of a nearby clinic, a trusted neighbor, or a local community support group can give you a thread of reassurance. And if you ever feel overwhelmed or unsafe with your thoughts, reaching out to a mental health helpline or counselor can make a real difference. You deserve help when you're hurting.
And here, whenever you need someone to talk to, I will always be here to listen—no judgment, no conditions. You matter. Your story matters. And even though the world may have made you feel like an outsider, I want you to believe this: there is a space where you belong.
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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 27, 2025Hindi
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Wife Berates Me for Texting Husband Who Stares, Claims I'm Characterless - What Can I Do?
Ans: What you’re going through is unfortunately not uncommon. A man invades your personal space with repeated staring, gives unsolicited advice, possibly stalks you, and when you attempt to address it with dignity and clarity, he twists the narrative and plays the victim. This reversal—where the actual victim is painted as the aggressor—is a classic defensive tactic by people who know they’ve crossed boundaries and don’t want to be held accountable. His reaction to your message shows his true character. Instead of acknowledging your discomfort and stopping, he projected shame onto you and tried to protect himself by degrading you in front of your husband.
His wife’s reaction, though painful, also makes a certain kind of sad sense—when a woman is scared, shocked, or insecure about her relationship, she may lash out at another woman instead of confronting the man who is actually responsible. That doesn’t make her behavior right, but it helps to understand it. She’s probably reacting from a place of fear, denial, and misplaced anger. You don’t need to justify yourself to her anymore. You tried your best to explain, and the fact that she wasn’t ready to listen shows her unwillingness or inability to see the truth right now.
You’ve done everything someone should do—tried to clarify respectfully, confronted the issue through proper channels, and included your husband. Now, your emotional safety, your dignity, and your peace of mind matter the most.
This man is clearly uncomfortable with accountability, and now he's trying to flip the story to discredit you. Let him. You do not owe him any further energy or explanation. Instead, stay calm, document everything (dates, messages, incidents), and if the staring or stalking continues, consider speaking to the society committee or, if necessary, legal authorities. Not to create conflict, but to protect your space and your truth. If it escalates or becomes more distressing, don’t hesitate to report it formally.
Most importantly, remind yourself—you acted out of strength, not shame. You stood up for yourself when something didn’t feel right. That is powerful. Hold your ground with dignity. You’re not alone in this. I’m here if you want help drafting a response, navigating this socially, or just to talk when things feel too heavy.
You deserve to feel safe and respected in your own home and neighborhood. Don’t let anyone steal that sense of peace from you.
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His wife’s reaction, though painful, also makes a certain kind of sad sense—when a woman is scared, shocked, or insecure about her relationship, she may lash out at another woman instead of confronting the man who is actually responsible. That doesn’t make her behavior right, but it helps to understand it. She’s probably reacting from a place of fear, denial, and misplaced anger. You don’t need to justify yourself to her anymore. You tried your best to explain, and the fact that she wasn’t ready to listen shows her unwillingness or inability to see the truth right now.
You’ve done everything someone should do—tried to clarify respectfully, confronted the issue through proper channels, and included your husband. Now, your emotional safety, your dignity, and your peace of mind matter the most.
This man is clearly uncomfortable with accountability, and now he's trying to flip the story to discredit you. Let him. You do not owe him any further energy or explanation. Instead, stay calm, document everything (dates, messages, incidents), and if the staring or stalking continues, consider speaking to the society committee or, if necessary, legal authorities. Not to create conflict, but to protect your space and your truth. If it escalates or becomes more distressing, don’t hesitate to report it formally.
Most importantly, remind yourself—you acted out of strength, not shame. You stood up for yourself when something didn’t feel right. That is powerful. Hold your ground with dignity. You’re not alone in this. I’m here if you want help drafting a response, navigating this socially, or just to talk when things feel too heavy.
You deserve to feel safe and respected in your own home and neighborhood. Don’t let anyone steal that sense of peace from you.
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RediffGURU: Why haven't I received a reply to my question for 4 weeks?
Ans: Hi,
There are around 100 gurus on the Rediff platform, each specializing in four different domains. If you have asked a question, it's possible that the guru you reached out to may not have the information you need. Even if you direct your query to a specific guru, the questions posted by the admin from Rediff may not be well-informed. Additionally, the volume of responses received by Rediffguro is quite large, which can lead to delays.
As a result, if you do not receive a response from the respective guru, your query may remain unresolved. It would be advisable to repost your question on the Rediff platform for better chances of receiving an answer.
POOCHO. LIFE CHANGE KARO.
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There are around 100 gurus on the Rediff platform, each specializing in four different domains. If you have asked a question, it's possible that the guru you reached out to may not have the information you need. Even if you direct your query to a specific guru, the questions posted by the admin from Rediff may not be well-informed. Additionally, the volume of responses received by Rediffguro is quite large, which can lead to delays.
As a result, if you do not receive a response from the respective guru, your query may remain unresolved. It would be advisable to repost your question on the Rediff platform for better chances of receiving an answer.
POOCHO. LIFE CHANGE KARO.
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Stuck in 10-year relationship with betrayal and uncertainty: What should I do?
Ans: Dear Anjana,
I totally understand your pain and your concern. Whether it went farther than what he claims does not matter; the fact that he was involved, physically or emotionally, with another woman makes it completely wrong on his part- there is no excuse for that. Coming to the waiting part- I would really suggest you reconsider waiting for him any longer. You have waited and in the meantime, he has been cheating on you. Plus, he is still not giving you any assurance. It’s best that you reconsider this relationship. You deserve much better. And even if it takes you some time to find someone else, it would be far better than living your life with a man who could not respect and love you enough to remain loyal or think about your feelings.
Please think about this before you make any decision. Hope this helps.
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I totally understand your pain and your concern. Whether it went farther than what he claims does not matter; the fact that he was involved, physically or emotionally, with another woman makes it completely wrong on his part- there is no excuse for that. Coming to the waiting part- I would really suggest you reconsider waiting for him any longer. You have waited and in the meantime, he has been cheating on you. Plus, he is still not giving you any assurance. It’s best that you reconsider this relationship. You deserve much better. And even if it takes you some time to find someone else, it would be far better than living your life with a man who could not respect and love you enough to remain loyal or think about your feelings.
Please think about this before you make any decision. Hope this helps.
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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Apr 11, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 17, 2025
Hello, I want to talk to a girl. I don't want to marry her but still want to talk to her. I don't want to love her but still want to talk to her lovingly. I want to share my every feeling with her. I want to sleep in her lap. I want to limit myself to kisses and don't even want to love her. How do I tell her all this?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You can tell her exactly the way you told me. The thing is that your requirements are very specific and if you wish to be in such a relationship with someone, you need to openly and clearly tell them what you want. There should be no room for misinterpretation or assumptions which can hurt the other person later on. Your potential partner should know what they are getting into and how much they can expect from you. And if you both are on the same page, there you go.
Best Wishes.
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You can tell her exactly the way you told me. The thing is that your requirements are very specific and if you wish to be in such a relationship with someone, you need to openly and clearly tell them what you want. There should be no room for misinterpretation or assumptions which can hurt the other person later on. Your potential partner should know what they are getting into and how much they can expect from you. And if you both are on the same page, there you go.
Best Wishes.
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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Apr 11, 2025
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Divorced and Directionless: Should I Stay or Go?
Ans: Dear Ajay,
I would suggest you speak to a lawyer on how to legally go around this. On a more emotional level, I can advise you to keep to yourself. I am not able to be of much help without knowing a little more detail about your situation.
Best Wishes.
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I would suggest you speak to a lawyer on how to legally go around this. On a more emotional level, I can advise you to keep to yourself. I am not able to be of much help without knowing a little more detail about your situation.
Best Wishes.
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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Apr 09, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Apr 08, 2025Hindi
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Confused: My friend's wife flirted for years, now ignores me – what's going on?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand that you are dealing with something very emotionally confusing and sensitive. But, from the very beginning it has been wrong, don’t you think? I don’t want to assume that you flirted back or indulged in the behavior, but to begin with, the dynamics were off, given she’s your friend’s wife. Chances are she realized that it wasn’t right, and decided to rectify it by setting boundaries. If that’s the case, I would advise you to respect the boundaries and do not push her or over-pursue her. I would also suggest you reflect on why it bothers you so much?
If you still want answers, you can ask her but very carefully- for instance, “I noticed that we don’t talk much these days. Is there something bothering you? If so, I totally understand and respect your decision. I just wanted to know if I did anything wrong.” This way you are not putting the blame on her.
Hope this helps.
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I understand that you are dealing with something very emotionally confusing and sensitive. But, from the very beginning it has been wrong, don’t you think? I don’t want to assume that you flirted back or indulged in the behavior, but to begin with, the dynamics were off, given she’s your friend’s wife. Chances are she realized that it wasn’t right, and decided to rectify it by setting boundaries. If that’s the case, I would advise you to respect the boundaries and do not push her or over-pursue her. I would also suggest you reflect on why it bothers you so much?
If you still want answers, you can ask her but very carefully- for instance, “I noticed that we don’t talk much these days. Is there something bothering you? If so, I totally understand and respect your decision. I just wanted to know if I did anything wrong.” This way you are not putting the blame on her.
Hope this helps.
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 09, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Apr 07, 2025
My fiance and I used to be so close when we were dating. We used to talk for hours, cuddle, and laugh so much. We recently decided to move in so we could spend more time together. But now, even when we're together, it feels like we're just roommates. I miss that spark. Is this normal? And how do we bring it back without forcing it?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Familiarity breeds contempt! When you were dating and away from one another, there was a part of each of you that waited for the excitement of seeing one another again, surprising each other, laughing, talking...now, you live under one roof, obviously you did know that a bit of that fun and spark will go missing, didn't you?
Try to recreate the dating scene now...keep some space from each other to keep the mystery alive!
All the best!
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Familiarity breeds contempt! When you were dating and away from one another, there was a part of each of you that waited for the excitement of seeing one another again, surprising each other, laughing, talking...now, you live under one roof, obviously you did know that a bit of that fun and spark will go missing, didn't you?
Try to recreate the dating scene now...keep some space from each other to keep the mystery alive!
All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 09, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Apr 06, 2025Hindi
55-Year-Old Telugu NRI Father Seeks Advice on Daughters' Betrayal and Financial Burden
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Since you have mentioned that you don't seek guidance but just wanted to share the pain; thank you for writing in and sharing and I wish you well in life and can only hope things get better for you...
All the best!
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Since you have mentioned that you don't seek guidance but just wanted to share the pain; thank you for writing in and sharing and I wish you well in life and can only hope things get better for you...
All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 09, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Apr 04, 2025Hindi
Listen Should I tell my marrying cousin about my past affair?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
There is nothing that you can do, right? If your cousin is getting married, wish her well...
And as for you, a reality check; did you put in all the efforts into building your marriage or did your past affair keep coming back and prevented you from giving this marriage a chance?
All the best!
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There is nothing that you can do, right? If your cousin is getting married, wish her well...
And as for you, a reality check; did you put in all the efforts into building your marriage or did your past affair keep coming back and prevented you from giving this marriage a chance?
All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 09, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Apr 02, 2025Hindi
Listen My Daughter-in-Law Refuses to Have Children: Should We Seek Separation or Legal Help?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
This may sound a bit rude to you; my apologies if it does but someone needs to say it aloud...
Why exactly are you getting into the middle of all of this? They are two grown people who need to sort this out for themselves. If your daughter-in-law is not prepared to be a mother, there's obviously a reason for this and this is between the couple. Let them talk about it If your son is coming to you with his issues with his wife, should you not actually ask him to take it up on his own?
And how did the talk of separation come about? Is this question from you son or are you suggesting it by yourself?
Let them sort out their issues without any intervention from you or anyone in the family and this so-called dream of family lineage and depriving you of becoming grandparents is sounding like an agenda.
Their marriage, their way of living! And that's how it must be! Please push your son to be a husband first and then a dutiful son otherwise he will lose his marriage.
Once all of you back off from all your expectations, it's possible that the relationship between the two of them starts to get better
and she may feel like even thinking of an idea of starting a family. And as for unpleasantness created in your larger family; they have no say in your son's marriage.
All the best!
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This may sound a bit rude to you; my apologies if it does but someone needs to say it aloud...
Why exactly are you getting into the middle of all of this? They are two grown people who need to sort this out for themselves. If your daughter-in-law is not prepared to be a mother, there's obviously a reason for this and this is between the couple. Let them talk about it If your son is coming to you with his issues with his wife, should you not actually ask him to take it up on his own?
And how did the talk of separation come about? Is this question from you son or are you suggesting it by yourself?
Let them sort out their issues without any intervention from you or anyone in the family and this so-called dream of family lineage and depriving you of becoming grandparents is sounding like an agenda.
Their marriage, their way of living! And that's how it must be! Please push your son to be a husband first and then a dutiful son otherwise he will lose his marriage.
Once all of you back off from all your expectations, it's possible that the relationship between the two of them starts to get better
and she may feel like even thinking of an idea of starting a family. And as for unpleasantness created in your larger family; they have no say in your son's marriage.
All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 09, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Apr 01, 2025Hindi
Listen Worried About Friend's Uncharacteristic Behavior After Father's Death
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Thanks you for your kind words of acknowledgement!
It's nice to know that you care a lot. Just be with him as any friend would...let him have the time to grieve and instead of putting a time to how quickly he must normalize, just let him be...That would really help him more than you wanting to see him better due to your anxiety. This is more about him than you. Step in to intervene only if there are drastic and detrimental changes in his behavior.
All the best!
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Thanks you for your kind words of acknowledgement!
It's nice to know that you care a lot. Just be with him as any friend would...let him have the time to grieve and instead of putting a time to how quickly he must normalize, just let him be...That would really help him more than you wanting to see him better due to your anxiety. This is more about him than you. Step in to intervene only if there are drastic and detrimental changes in his behavior.
All the best!
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 09, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 31, 2025Hindi
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Torn Daughter: Can't Stop 54-Year-Old Dad's Affair?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Your father is just coping with his loss in this manner; it's unusual and very complicated. Now, is it right or not is something that is left to him to decide. But he does need to understand that this could also ruin the reputation of that young girl. She is just under his influence in terms of attention (physical and maybe emotional) and it's likely once he's through the grieving phase, he will drop the girl like a hot potato and she will have no where to talk and complain about it.
Do involve an elderly family member who can talk sense into him. This is not just about respecting your late mother but also understanding the repercussions of having an association with a younger woman and that too a neighbor. If he is just doing this to forget his grief, it's not going to end well for anybody.
All the best!
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Your father is just coping with his loss in this manner; it's unusual and very complicated. Now, is it right or not is something that is left to him to decide. But he does need to understand that this could also ruin the reputation of that young girl. She is just under his influence in terms of attention (physical and maybe emotional) and it's likely once he's through the grieving phase, he will drop the girl like a hot potato and she will have no where to talk and complain about it.
Do involve an elderly family member who can talk sense into him. This is not just about respecting your late mother but also understanding the repercussions of having an association with a younger woman and that too a neighbor. If he is just doing this to forget his grief, it's not going to end well for anybody.
All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 09, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Mar 29, 2025Hindi
Listen Confused about married colleague's secretive WhatsApp messages - Should I confront him?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Have fun but 'secretly' is fun no? That's what he is happily enjoying...
Obviously he cares about his reputation and what if you get too involved in him; so he's making sure he has fun but in a way that has a boundary.
I would suggest let him not have the pleasure of drawing that boundary so there is not need for you to respond to any of his messages...And you are absolutely right in asking: "If we are just friends why he want to keep it private." There lies your answer. For him, possibly it has gone beyond this in his mind and hence he keeping it private. Draw your boundary NOW. Better later than never.
All the best!
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Have fun but 'secretly' is fun no? That's what he is happily enjoying...
Obviously he cares about his reputation and what if you get too involved in him; so he's making sure he has fun but in a way that has a boundary.
I would suggest let him not have the pleasure of drawing that boundary so there is not need for you to respond to any of his messages...And you are absolutely right in asking: "If we are just friends why he want to keep it private." There lies your answer. For him, possibly it has gone beyond this in his mind and hence he keeping it private. Draw your boundary NOW. Better later than never.
All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Apr 07, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Apr 07, 2025Hindi
Listen Ready for marriage, but partner isn't: 29-year-old woman seeks advice
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You are right; it does sound like he is stalling, but then again, we might be wrong. The best way to gain clarity is to ask him about it. Asking directly might cause a conflict, so do it in a more subtle way- ask him where he sees himself in 5 years. If he does not mention you in his plans, it would be an indication that he is not serious about the relationship. And keep note of small things like if he is making small-term plans with him, like a travel plan 3 months later or long-term plans, like a friend’s wedding that will happen one and half years later. These small details can help you get a rough idea of what he is up to. But I want you to remember that all of these are just speculations. You can take your speculations, put it on the table and have a clear discussion.
I hope these help.
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You are right; it does sound like he is stalling, but then again, we might be wrong. The best way to gain clarity is to ask him about it. Asking directly might cause a conflict, so do it in a more subtle way- ask him where he sees himself in 5 years. If he does not mention you in his plans, it would be an indication that he is not serious about the relationship. And keep note of small things like if he is making small-term plans with him, like a travel plan 3 months later or long-term plans, like a friend’s wedding that will happen one and half years later. These small details can help you get a rough idea of what he is up to. But I want you to remember that all of these are just speculations. You can take your speculations, put it on the table and have a clear discussion.
I hope these help.
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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Apr 07, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Apr 03, 2025Hindi
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Should I tell my sister I love her husband?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am not sure what suggestion you are asking for here? But, in general, gay or straight, being in love with your sister’s husband is morally wrong. He is your sister’s husband; if you plan to pursue this feeling, then you must understand that you will be intentionally hurting your sister and coming from a sibling, this will break her heart. Even if we look at it from a 100 different perspectives, you’d still be wrong, and I want you to understand that this has nothing to do with your sexual orientation. I understand that people cannot control their feelings, but what you do with it and how you act on it makes all the difference.
Best Wishes
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I am not sure what suggestion you are asking for here? But, in general, gay or straight, being in love with your sister’s husband is morally wrong. He is your sister’s husband; if you plan to pursue this feeling, then you must understand that you will be intentionally hurting your sister and coming from a sibling, this will break her heart. Even if we look at it from a 100 different perspectives, you’d still be wrong, and I want you to understand that this has nothing to do with your sexual orientation. I understand that people cannot control their feelings, but what you do with it and how you act on it makes all the difference.
Best Wishes
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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Apr 07, 2025
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My GF Is Forced Into Marriage, Lost Hope - Can I Help?
Ans: Dear Solar,
I understand how difficult it must be for you to go through all of this- please stay strong. Coming to your question whether your GF gave her 100% to stop this wedding- no one, other than her, can truly answer this question. If you doubt it, you can ask her, but I don’t think that will help at all. Right now, your only focus should be on your wellbeing. If there is a chance to stop this wedding, it is on her. You really are not in a position to do anything about it. I know it is frustrating, but that’s the truth. If you try anything, you might ruin her relationship with her parents.
You have to focus on keeping your mind off her and the wedding and focus on yourself. Surround yourself with your loved ones. Try to pursue a hobby, keep yourself busy, and focus on your studies/career. I understand that you have anxiety and seeing a counselor about it can help more than you can imagine. But if you are not ready for it, for now, do the things I asked you to do.
Best Wishes.
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I understand how difficult it must be for you to go through all of this- please stay strong. Coming to your question whether your GF gave her 100% to stop this wedding- no one, other than her, can truly answer this question. If you doubt it, you can ask her, but I don’t think that will help at all. Right now, your only focus should be on your wellbeing. If there is a chance to stop this wedding, it is on her. You really are not in a position to do anything about it. I know it is frustrating, but that’s the truth. If you try anything, you might ruin her relationship with her parents.
You have to focus on keeping your mind off her and the wedding and focus on yourself. Surround yourself with your loved ones. Try to pursue a hobby, keep yourself busy, and focus on your studies/career. I understand that you have anxiety and seeing a counselor about it can help more than you can imagine. But if you are not ready for it, for now, do the things I asked you to do.
Best Wishes.
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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Apr 07, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Apr 04, 2025Hindi
Listen 2-Year Age Gap: Should I Ask Out My Older Neighbor Crush?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
While age does not matter in love, especially a two year age gap, it is still a preference that varies from person to person. Now, let’s say your neighbor doesn’t have a problem with your age, do you know if she has similar feelings for you? Instead of thinking how to make her your GF, first figure out how you can express your feelings for her and how to find out if she has the same feelings for you. The only way to do that is slowly telling her about it and noticing how she reacts. But I want you to remember that reaction is not everything. She must verbally confirm that she feels for you too, or else there will always remain some room for misinterpretation.
Hope this helps.
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While age does not matter in love, especially a two year age gap, it is still a preference that varies from person to person. Now, let’s say your neighbor doesn’t have a problem with your age, do you know if she has similar feelings for you? Instead of thinking how to make her your GF, first figure out how you can express your feelings for her and how to find out if she has the same feelings for you. The only way to do that is slowly telling her about it and noticing how she reacts. But I want you to remember that reaction is not everything. She must verbally confirm that she feels for you too, or else there will always remain some room for misinterpretation.
Hope this helps.
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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Apr 07, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Apr 06, 2025Hindi
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31-Year-Old Woman Rejected After Investing Time and Emotion: What Should She Do?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand it must be confusing- you spoke to him and from your perspective, things went smoothly and yet they dropped the proposal abruptly. But here’s the catch- it might not have been the same experience for him. As you mentioned, you had basic conversations; is it possible that he was hoping to connect with you more in the three weeks’ time? We can’t say for sure what was the reason, but one thing I can tell you is that you deserve someone who does not need convincing to marry you. I know you were invested in him, but it is much better to lose those three weeks than settle for a marriage where both partners are not on the same page. Please understand your worth. I can’t stop you from contacting him or asking them what went wrong, but I can certainly advise you against it. You will get better alliances. Also, I want you to understand that you are only 31; you are still so young. Do not settle for anything less than the one who's best for you!
Best Wishes.
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I understand it must be confusing- you spoke to him and from your perspective, things went smoothly and yet they dropped the proposal abruptly. But here’s the catch- it might not have been the same experience for him. As you mentioned, you had basic conversations; is it possible that he was hoping to connect with you more in the three weeks’ time? We can’t say for sure what was the reason, but one thing I can tell you is that you deserve someone who does not need convincing to marry you. I know you were invested in him, but it is much better to lose those three weeks than settle for a marriage where both partners are not on the same page. Please understand your worth. I can’t stop you from contacting him or asking them what went wrong, but I can certainly advise you against it. You will get better alliances. Also, I want you to understand that you are only 31; you are still so young. Do not settle for anything less than the one who's best for you!
Best Wishes.
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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Apr 07, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Apr 02, 2025
I had my first boyfriend, we were together for 3 years and had physical relationship but he was cheating on me and he did not want to marry me, so I distanced myself from him and after some time a boy liked me and fell in love with me He knows every single detail about my past, even about some physical relations, still he loved me but now when I am in a relationship with him, he keeps bringing up my past again and again and says that I am not able to forget him.
Ab m kya karu mujhe kuch smjh nhi aa rha h
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
If you were honest and transparent about your relationship history and he was okay with it, then you have nothing to worry about. His problems with your past are his problems; it’s not on you. First of all, it should not matter. Secondly, in case it does matter to him, you were completely honest about it from the beginning. If he is creating issues, he must take some time to sort it out. Making you feel guilty about it is not the solution nor the right approach. Please communicate the same to him, but in a kind and polite way, because even if it is not right, he might still be genuinely hurting. Give him the time and scope to sort things out in his mind. If this continues to be an issue, you might want to rethink the relationship. You don’t want to live the rest of your life with this same conversation going on in a loop.
Hope this helps.
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If you were honest and transparent about your relationship history and he was okay with it, then you have nothing to worry about. His problems with your past are his problems; it’s not on you. First of all, it should not matter. Secondly, in case it does matter to him, you were completely honest about it from the beginning. If he is creating issues, he must take some time to sort it out. Making you feel guilty about it is not the solution nor the right approach. Please communicate the same to him, but in a kind and polite way, because even if it is not right, he might still be genuinely hurting. Give him the time and scope to sort things out in his mind. If this continues to be an issue, you might want to rethink the relationship. You don’t want to live the rest of your life with this same conversation going on in a loop.
Hope this helps.
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Marriage counsellor - Answered on Apr 04, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Apr 04, 2025Hindi
Listen Long-distance woes: Should I relocate to India for my boyfriend?
Ans: Hello mam,
I want to congratulate you first that you are doing so well in your professional life. Not everyone has such opportunities. Now lets discuss about your personal life. I agree that due to different time zones it gets difficult to maintain proper communication. Take out time once and discuss this with your partner. Otherwise long distance relationships do work. It is just correct understanding. And tell him your tentative plan of coming back to India. I hope this works.
Regards
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I want to congratulate you first that you are doing so well in your professional life. Not everyone has such opportunities. Now lets discuss about your personal life. I agree that due to different time zones it gets difficult to maintain proper communication. Take out time once and discuss this with your partner. Otherwise long distance relationships do work. It is just correct understanding. And tell him your tentative plan of coming back to India. I hope this works.
Regards
Dr Upneet kaur
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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Apr 04, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Apr 04, 2025Hindi
Listen Distant Girlfriend Suddenly Unavailable: Advice for a Worried Partner?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Did you contact anyone who lives near your partner? More than any other concerns, you should be worried why the calls and messages are not going through. Try contacting her or any family member or friend who knows about you. The situation does not add up given how regularly you both used to communicate. I hope she is safe and contacts you soon.
Best Wishes.
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Did you contact anyone who lives near your partner? More than any other concerns, you should be worried why the calls and messages are not going through. Try contacting her or any family member or friend who knows about you. The situation does not add up given how regularly you both used to communicate. I hope she is safe and contacts you soon.
Best Wishes.
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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Apr 03, 2025
Asked by Anonymous - Apr 03, 2025
I am married but I find my neighbour very hot. He recently smiled at me and since then I am unable to resist talking to him. Is it normal to be attracted to a male after you're married?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Being married doesn’t turn off your ability to appreciate good looks of people other than your partner but it is only okay up to a certain point. Most of the time, these attractions are fleeting and what really matters is how you handle them. But while we are at this discussion, I would remind you that your marriage or partner might not seem as interesting and exciting right now, but it is much more than that. Long-term relationships can become mundane. It is important to address anything that you might be lacking in this relationship- is the excitement missing? Do you need more emotional support or maybe more time and attention? N number of things can trigger what you are feeling right now, and at the same time, this can be stemming from nothing and you simply found another human being good looking. But I would still recommend healthy boundaries even if your intentions are completely pure.
Hope this helps.
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Being married doesn’t turn off your ability to appreciate good looks of people other than your partner but it is only okay up to a certain point. Most of the time, these attractions are fleeting and what really matters is how you handle them. But while we are at this discussion, I would remind you that your marriage or partner might not seem as interesting and exciting right now, but it is much more than that. Long-term relationships can become mundane. It is important to address anything that you might be lacking in this relationship- is the excitement missing? Do you need more emotional support or maybe more time and attention? N number of things can trigger what you are feeling right now, and at the same time, this can be stemming from nothing and you simply found another human being good looking. But I would still recommend healthy boundaries even if your intentions are completely pure.
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