I am in a relationship since 3 years. My age is 22 and he is 31 year old ..We met online. But after that we met many times .I daily talk with his mother and also know very well about his family. But my parents is very strict.how to convince my parents for marriage?

Ans: When you next speak with your parents, choose a calm and private setting. Start the conversation by expressing your love and respect for them, acknowledging their concerns, and stating your commitment to understanding their perspective. Share your genuine feelings about your partner and the relationship, emphasizing the mutual respect, love, and career aspirations you both share.

Highlight the positive attributes of your partner, focusing on his education, values, and how he complements you. Address specific concerns your parents have raised, providing clear and respectful counterpoints to any false accusations or misunderstandings. If possible, arrange for them to meet him or speak with his parents, as this might help bridge cultural and regional gaps.

It’s important to be patient and give your parents time to process the information. They might need multiple conversations to come to terms with your decision. Lastly, consider involving a neutral third party, such as a trusted family friend or relative, who can mediate and provide a balanced perspective.

Your goal is to maintain a respectful and open dialogue, showing empathy towards their concerns while standing firm in your decision. This balanced approach can help gradually shift their perspective and foster acceptance.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand that you are in a challenging situation. If you want to convince your parents, the first thing is to acknowledge their concerns. It is normal for parents to be worried about their child's future. You mentioned your partner is comparatively less educated than you and works as a driver; while every profession is equally important and as long as he is honest and hardworking and puts food on the table, he is doing well, parents can find the financial situation a little concerning. Instead of avoiding or being defensive about these concerns, address them. Let them know how you plan on tackling these differences in your relationship. Emphasize his character, personality, and all the qualities that drew you to him. Tell them how you have been in a stable relationship for 4 years, despite all the odds. In today's day and age, that is a huge thing. Convincing them would also require you to show that you are mature enough to make this decision so have the discussion once you and your partner have a solid plan and have the nitty-gritty all sorted.

Be practical and do not expect them to be onboard immediately. They have your best interest at heart and you know that your situation isn't ideal. Give them time to come around. It might take some compromises as well.

In the end, I would also urge you to think this through before introducing the relationship to your parents. Marriage is a big decision. Ultimately, it's your happiness and life at stake. Don't rush.

Best Wishes.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Caste shouldn't be an issue in this day and age, if not that goes against your family values. But, when it comes to finances, it is of utmost importance. Whether your partner's family is financially stable or not is not your concern; are you and your partner financially secure? That's more important. If not, I suggest finding a fix for that before you pitch the relationship to your parents. Otherwise, it would be very difficult to convince them, which is, to be honest, quite natural.

Best Wishes.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Ask the 'guy' to step in and do his bit to talk to your family. If they are able to appreciate what you appreciate in him, maybe things can work.

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Ans: This requires a longer discussion - you may wish to schedule an interaction on https://andwemet.com/ if you like - however for now - you have to have this conversation which you should - be prepared for a push back (or they may surprise you and say a yes) - when that happens listen to them - do not react, keep quiet - do not fight it. This does not mean you are agreeing to their reaction - it means you are sure and are thinking on how to manage it calmly. I am confident if you handle this calmly your family will agree in time - all the best.