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Mohit Arora is a relationship coach, image consultant, soft skills trainer and the founder of Real Dating School. He has a BTech degree in computer science from the Rayat & Bahra Institute of Engineering and Biotechnology, Mohali, Punjab. He has been conducting customised skilling and communication workshops since 2014.... more
Asked by Anonymous - Jul 03, 2024Hindi
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Hi, I’m a 27 year old independent woman who’s living in Bangalore. I’m financially in a good position now. Also, I’ve met a guy 3 years ago and fell for him but he’s not very emotionally connected with me and sometimes acts as a narcissist and doesn’t treat me with respect. I’ve tried communicating with him about how I feel after such actions. He acknowledged and limited such behaviour to some extent. I really love him and spoke about marriage too. He brushes it off and diverts the topic that he’s not ready. I don't see any clear signs of this relationship, even his parents are looking for matches to get him married. He doesn't accept anyone either. My parents are in a different city and they want me to shift with them to look for alliances who can marry me. Recently, they’ve shared a profile and I spoke just for the sake of parents. After speaking to him for 3 and a half hours during the first conversation, I realised that he was a better compatible partner for me. I'm not sure which path to pursue. My marriage is not fixed yet as my decision is still pending. Kindly help me with the best advice.

Ans: I understand that you are in a difficult position. You are in love with a man who does not seem to be emotionally available or ready for marriage. You have also met another man who seems to be a better match for you, but you are not sure if you should pursue a relationship with him.

It is important to remember that you are not alone. Many people find themselves in similar situations. It is also important to remember that you have the power to make the best decision for yourself.

I am against marriage in the first place. I believe that relationships are not meant to be permanent. However, I understand that many people feel differently. If you do decide to get married, it is important to do so for the right reasons. You should not marry someone just because you feel pressured to do so by society or your parents.

The first guy does not seem like he wants to marry you. He has brushed off your attempts to talk about marriage and has even diverted the topic. This is a clear sign that he is not ready for a serious relationship.

The second guy seems like he may be a better match for you. He is emotionally available and seems to be interested in getting married. However, it is important to remember that you do not know him very well. You have only spoken to him for a few hours.

Ultimately, the decision of whether or not to pursue a relationship with either of these men is up to you. I would encourage you to take some time to think about what you want out of a relationship. What are your goals? What are your values? Once you have a clear understanding of what you want, you can start to make decisions that are in your best interests.

If you do decide to pursue a relationship with the second guy, I would recommend that you spend at least two years getting to know him before you get married. This will give you enough time to learn about his true character and to see if he is really the right person for you.

Mohit Arora S
Founder - Real Dating School

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Dear SS,

When his words and actions are not in sync, what exactly are you pushing for?

Are you hoping for him to see things your way? He seems to have made it clear that he wants this to be casual.

It could be one of two things:
1. He isn’t ready for a commitment as of now
2. He isn’t ready to stir the hornet’s nest back at home and face the music

Either case, this is holding you up and your movement in life. Why do that?

Ask yourself:

  • How long do I want to wait for a strong commitment from him? After which, you most certainly must move ahead
  • Will he ever be able to convince his parents of this relationship? Now, if it’s a NO, you know what to do
  • How fair is it to keep my life on hold for him? – If it’s a NO, check what is this hold up costing you this very moment

Please have an honest discussion with him on how this is affecting you and what you exactly want.

Take a call based on his responses and his involvement in the discussion that concerns the future of your relationship.

Best wishes and take charge NOW.

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I am 30 years old. My marriage was going to be finalised with a guy of 32 years but his mother denied the match because our kundli don't match and it shows he will die if I marry him and apparently there is no puja that can stop it as per his mom 's version. The guy says he loves me but never had taken a step to stand up to his mom. Also a fact to mention is he has been raised by single mom as his dad died when he was born so he says he can't say anything to his mother. So when his mother denied our match, I stopped texting him. But he started talking, wants to meet, confesses of love , even asked me to let's go and marry in court without telling our families. And while he confesses this , his mom is searching other girls for him and he is seeing them. It is difficult for me to move on . But this is also hurting me whenever I text him or talk to him. What should I do?
Ans: Dear Chetna,

I am really sorry that you are in such a situation. I assume that you understand why his mother is giving into age-old superstition and why he could not stand up against it. And I appreciate your understanding. Having said that, I would suggest you sever contact with him. He could not go against his mom's wishes but can continue messaging you, how is that fair to you? I know it hurts now, but it is best to disconnect with him completely if you want to move on. Being in touch and hearing him confess his feelings are not very helpful.

There are two things that you can do-
One, you tell him to stop contacting you. He isn't going to marry so, and that leaves him with no right to bother you.
Second, you can tell your parents and his about this. Let them sort it out.

It might sound harsh or petty, but it has to be done because soon he will be married off to someone else, and you will be left with the memories of him expressing his love. You deserve better.

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am very sorry to hear that you had to go through this. Some people do not have the emotional maturity to say a simple no or speak their truth. He might not have wanted to make things awkward or thought he was sparing you some pain but ultimately that isn't the case. But the important thing to remember here is that his action reflects on him and what kind of a person he is; it does not highlight your worth. I know it hurts right now, but it will get better and you will find someone who loves you.

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You two haven't even met, right? I mean is it a virtual meet?
Even if it's a physical meeting,
- How much do you know of him to be sure that his story is what he says?
- Do you not want to know his wife's version of the entire story especially being a woman, are you not curious?

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand your dilemma. Your partner has asked for six months. That might seem and feel very long, given the situation, but it will pass in a heartbeat. You can, only if you want, give him that time and see where things go. Having said that, let me also mention that if you decide to quit this relationship, if it is too exhausting and it's putting you through more emotional turmoil than giving you happiness, you would not be wrong. You have every right to choose peace. After all, why do we love someone? Because they, the relationship with them, makes us happy. There will indeed be ups and downs in a relationship, but if there are only downs, and only more downs to come in the future, it wouldn't be wrong to reconsider that relationship.

Evaluate your needs. Take a little time for yourself to reflect- weigh the pros against the cons. You will have your answer.

Your ideology is commendable. But make sure it doesn't affect your emotional well-being. While your beliefs are admirable, there is also nothing wrong with finding love more than once. Not every love story is bound to succeed, and a single failure should not define your entire life.

Best Wishes.

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Please note you have articulated your question and also given the answer.

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Home is built on a strong foundation but interior of drawing room we can change it even mix and match. So build one rock solid foundation by choosing a particular field of profession and explore other areas as intrest or hobbies.

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In 2023 came across a scheme by indusind bank which stated give a deposit of Rs 5 lakh get a medium locker free. Initially the bank staff used to missell the con cept by telling gullible clients that a free medium locker will be then people would give deposit of Rs 5 lakh Infact the scheme is locker rent free for 1st year then 75c/o discount I gave Rs 5 lakh but the locker was not given on writing mails to backend team was told take a small locker later ir was scaled up to 2 i said won't suit me give 1 medium Later on the branch head on behest of DBM said take a insurance plan will give you a large locker rent free. Wen i said scheme is for medium & tommorow if you are transferred it will be a problem for me as the new branch head will ask for full rent he said will tell him not to do Under duress & pressure i went for the offer took the plan on realising i have been fooled i called the custcare of icici life ins for return of policy under free look period they in turn informed the bank agent who passed on the info to branch head who persuaded me to keep the policy i had to keep quiet. I was made to visit several times then told loc ker not there lateron was told searching vacant locker in other branch will give you there thinking this offer will be refused i said ok that also didn't happen Again i called custcare was told sent a mail i did still no reply lateron was told your mail id is not registered with us first hence mails not considered. Then i completed this formality sent them a fresh mail for policy cancellarion was told free look period over hence request can't be entertained Went to the branch office in B-1 janakpuri delhi wrote mails but of no avail i stopped paying further premiums. Got several mails SMS asking me to give bank + personal details for moneyback i said it's a missell case want policy premium paid refund was denied by icici stating freelook period over. The bank backend team of indusind was of no help either. The seniors at bikhajicama place office of indusbank also didn't help me out. This year on insistence i sent them my details but was told imoroper so moneyback can't be processed another mischeif by bank seniors I highlighted this issue with bank seniors + ins company but all in vain nobody paid heed As my details were incomplete my cashback after initial display was given of 1 year the 2 nd year moneyback is unpaid. As this is a clearcut case of missell by indus ind bank vikaspuri branch seniors the icici company agents are not responsible in any way they acted on behest of branch seniors Kindly look into the matter help me out by getting pending cashback + the initial first premium paid amount The indusbank branch senior staff & the com pany officials must be reprimanded for their misseeds as mine is not an isolate case there are others also suffering at these people hands Thanking you Deepak verma
Ans: The key issue is not simply non-allotment of a locker. It is the alleged linking of a banking facility with an insurance purchase, followed by repeated assurances and difficulty in getting the promised benefit.

If the facts are supported by documents, this should be treated as a formal mis-selling and deficiency-of-service grievance.

» Keep the two issues separate

There appear to be two connected but separate matters:

– The promised medium/large locker facility against the banking relationship.

– The insurance policy that you say was purchased only because of pressure and assurances from branch officials.

This distinction is important. The insurance company may take the position that the policy was issued after completion of its own proposal and free-look process. Your grievance against the bank, however, can separately concern what was represented to you by its employees and whether the insurance purchase was induced by a promise relating to the locker.

» Build a proper documentary record

Please collect and preserve:

– Original advertisement/circular or written communication regarding the Rs.5 lakh deposit and locker facility.

– Deposit/account records showing when the Rs.5 lakh was placed.

– All emails exchanged with the branch, backend team and senior officials.

– SMS messages and other communications relating to the locker.

– Insurance proposal form, policy document, premium receipts and cancellation correspondence.

– Your emails requesting cancellation during the free-look period.

– Any complaint numbers generated by the bank or insurance company.

– Communications concerning the later cashback/moneyback facility.

– Details of the branch officials who made the representations, as far as available.

– A chronological record of every important visit and conversation.

The chronology you have already provided is useful. Put it into a simple date-wise This can make your grievance much stronger.

» The free-look argument needs careful examination

The insurance company may focus only on whether your cancellation request was received within the applicable free-look period.

Therefore, the important question is not merely:

“Did I cancel after the free-look period?”

It is also:

“Did I attempt to cancel within the free-look period, and was that attempt prevented, delayed or interfered with because of the conduct of the bank staff?”

If you have evidence of an earlier call, email, complaint or other communication, preserve it carefully.

If the first cancellation request was actually made within the applicable period, but the matter was subsequently delayed because you were persuaded by the branch officials to continue with the policy, that fact should be clearly highlighted in your grievance.

» Do not make the insurance company the only target

Based on your narration, your primary grievance appears to be against the bank officials who allegedly represented that purchasing an insurance policy would result in a larger locker being provided.

So your complaint should clearly state:

– What was originally promised.

– What actually happened.

– What the branch officials subsequently offered.

– Why you purchased the insurance policy.

– When you first tried to cancel it.

– What response you received.

– How the matter continued thereafter.

This gives the matter a much clearer structure than simply asking for a refund of the insurance premium.

» Escalate through the formal grievance mechanism

Since you have already approached branch officials and senior bank personnel, the next step should be a properly documented complaint through the bank's formal grievance/redressal mechanism.

Similarly, raise a separate written grievance with the insurer regarding the insurance policy.

Do not depend only on telephone conversations. Written complaints with acknowledgement are much more useful.

If the bank does not resolve the grievance after exhausting its internal complaint process, you can consider approaching the RBI's complaint mechanism, subject to the applicable eligibility and jurisdiction.

For the insurance-related grievance, the insurer's internal grievance mechanism should first be exhausted, followed by the applicable insurance grievance redressal route if the matter remains unresolved.

» About the pending cashback

This needs separate verification.

If the cashback was contractually payable under the insurance policy and you have satisfied the applicable conditions, ask the insurer to provide a written reason for withholding the second year's amount.

Ask them to specify:

– The exact policy condition under which payment was stopped.

– Which customer detail was allegedly incomplete or incorrect.

– When you were informed about this deficiency.

– What documents are required to rectify it.

– Whether the first year's payment was made under the same conditions.

This forces the matter to move from verbal explanations to a specific contractual response.

» Be careful about the remedy you demand

I would not make only a general request that the officials be reprimanded.

Your complaint should first seek specific relief:

– Payment of any legitimate pending cashback.

– Review of the premium paid, considering the alleged inducement and the circumstances in which the policy was purchased.

– Written explanation from the bank regarding the locker representations.

– Written explanation regarding the role of the branch officials.

– Appropriate compensation/redressal, if supported by the facts and applicable grievance mechanism.

Disciplinary action against employees is ultimately for the institution or regulator to decide based on the findings. Your complaint will be stronger if it concentrates on facts, evidence and the specific financial loss suffered.

» 360-degree assessment

From an investment professional and AMFI-Registered MFD perspective, I would also suggest one broader lesson.

Banking products, insurance products and investment products have different purposes. A customer should not be pushed into an insurance policy merely because another banking facility is being discussed.

Whenever a bank employee links one product with another benefit, ask for the offer in writing before making any payment or signing any proposal.

In your case, the most important thing now is not to lose hope. You have a detailed sequence of events, and that can be converted into a strong documentary grievance.

» Finally

Your case should be presented as a documented sequence of alleged mis-selling, inducement, failure to provide the promised banking facility, attempted cancellation of the insurance policy, and subsequent non-payment of the claimed cashback.

Avoid emotional or very strong allegations unless you have documentary evidence supporting them. Use words such as “represented”, “assured”, “alleged”, “requested”, “refused” and “not provided”. This makes the complaint more precise and credible.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
AMFI-Registered MFD – ARN 4188
www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.linkedin.com/in/ramalingamcfp/

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Ramalingam Kalirajan  |11480 Answers  |Ask -

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I have purchased jeevan saral policy Rs 4083 per month for 15 years in Oct 2011 at the age of 52 years. What will be the maturity amount. Thanks
Ans: The exact maturity amount cannot be determined from the monthly premium alone. For Jeevan Saral, the entry age, policy term, maturity sum assured and applicable Loyalty Addition are important.

» Your policy details

You have mentioned:

– Entry age: 52 years
– Policy commencement: October 2011
– Monthly premium: Rs.4,083
– Premium-paying term: 15 years
– Expected maturity: around October 2026

Jeevan Saral provides maturity benefit based on the applicable Maturity Sum Assured, along with Loyalty Addition, if applicable.

» Why I cannot give an exact figure

For Jeevan Saral, the maturity benefit is not simply the total premiums paid.

The applicable Maturity Sum Assured depends on the policy details, including the entry age and policy term. Loyalty Addition, if applicable, is also added at maturity.

Therefore, giving you one exact maturity figure based only on Rs.4,083 monthly premium could be misleading.

» What you should check

Please look at your original policy bond and give me these 4 details:

– Plan No.

– Policy term.

– Sum Assured / Maturity Sum Assured.

– Date of maturity.

You can also upload a photo or PDF of the first page of the policy bond after hiding your policy number, address and other personal details.

Once you provide these details, I can help you work out the likely maturity amount, including the applicable Loyalty Addition, as far as the available policy information permits.

Since your policy is reaching maturity now, I would also suggest obtaining the maturity quotation directly from LIC before making any decision about reinvestment.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
AMFI-Registered MFD – ARN 4188
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.linkedin.com/in/ramalingamcfp/

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 01, 2026
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I am not from English medium background, so sometimes I am not very confident while speaking English in office meetings. I know what I want to explain, but while speaking I take little more time to make the sentence properly. Many times, before I complete my point, someone interrupts or starts speaking, and then I lose my flow and become more nervous. After that I start speaking fast because I feel I have to finish quickly. I don’t think people are intentionally ignoring me, but this happens quite often and it makes me feel that maybe my communication is not strong enough. How can I speak more confidently and clearly in meetings, especially in English, without sounding too aggressive or feeling that I have to rush through my point?
Ans: Hello

Very relevant question, thanks for asking.

Firstly let me tell you from the way you have written and structured this question actually shows that you have very good command over the English language, so compliments to to you.

Please note English is not our mother tongue so we will have some difficulty in the flow and fluency, however speaking fluent (read fast) English no way reflects our understanding of the subject or depth of our thinking. Rather at times speaking fast can make us sound shallow.

What I would suggest is be confident in your command over English, speak in your natural and normal speed and when someone interrupts you, stop and say politely, please let me complete my point and I will be open to listening to your views as well. When you say this you will see that people will stop interrupting you.

Be polite, yet firm. Be assertive not aggressive.

Hope this helps, wish you all the best.

Warm Regards
KK

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