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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 17, 2024Hindi
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Hello, I have issues with making eye contact with girls, and strangers, when I roam around, I tend to just look at others, when they make ey contact with me I stopaking eye contact, what does this mean?

Ans: Do it gradually. You'll get comfortable with it. There's anything special about making eye contact with people

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I am 40 year old man. Having psychological problems after coronavirus shutdown .Problem is that I am not able to talk to others looking at their eyes..even If i try to , it's just for few seconds and eyes starts to wander..to stop that , nowadays If I sense that my eyes going off contact, I look at somewhere and talk..I am feeling very guilt and making very discomfort to others or at least I think they feel discomfort .. While talking to woman, mainly making sure I should not look at theirs.. I am married and my sexual relationship is not great..every time its like forceful because my wife never shows interest and I stopped it. searching for some other options to fulfill my desire .I think this also contributes to my problem.. please advise how do I overcome my problem and be confident while talking to others.
Ans: Dear therinthu,

First of all, it's important to understand that the lockdown affected every one of us in some way or the other. Yours is a more complex mix of emotional and marital problems. Covid has left a lot of us with heightened anxiety issues and that is what might be troubling you as well. Understand that it isn't uncommon and it can be sorted with a little bit of practice. Try practicing eye contact in a less stressful situation, like with a close friend. Maintain eye contact for over five seconds, ten seconds, and so on. You can also practice in front of a mirror. When interacting with someone, focus on the conversation; focus on listening instead of thinking how you are coming off. It will take off the pressure of eye contact and reduce your anxiety.

Your marital issues might be adding to the anxiety. Try having an honest discussion with your wife. Address your problems and offer to see a marriage counselor to work on them. Individual therapies can also work. Seeking the help of a trained professional can benefit your marriage.

The pandemic has been tough on us all. Be kind to yourself.

Best Wishes.

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I am 61 self Disciplined minimalist. I am now in SWP segment. 4% SWP and step up SWP are all okay and understandable but much worried on flip side which am often not thinking much. Considering next 30 years block 1. Inflation may also shoot up from 6% to 15% 2. Normally market crash once in 10 years assuming 30% crash 3. Recovery phase may take slow say 5 to 7 years 4. War natural calamities etc influence market once in 7 year 5.expected return may hit bottom from 10% With all this sequential risk, the worry is will my corpus empty earlier should I be with half starving and my SWP is good only in paper or any corrections needs to be done? Because when age grows, expenses can't be reduced, only rebalance the ratio from travel to utility like that So please guide me will my SWP corpus empty earlier, and should I do now as preparedness
Ans: Your concern is very valid and very mature. Most people focus only on returns, but you are thinking about risks like inflation, crashes, and long recovery. This is exactly what protects a retirement plan.

» The Real Risk – Sequence of Returns
Your worry is not wrong.

If market falls early in retirement and you keep withdrawing
Then recovery is slow
Corpus can reduce faster than expected

This is called sequence risk
And yes, this can impact SWP sustainability

But this can be managed with structure, not by stopping SWP

» Inflation Risk – Bigger Than Market Risk

If inflation moves from 6% to even 10–12%, pressure increases
Expenses rise continuously, but corpus may not match

Reality:

Inflation risk is permanent
Market crash is temporary

So your plan must protect against inflation first

» Is 4% SWP Safe?

4% is generally considered reasonable
But not “guaranteed safe” in all conditions

In your scenario (high inflation + poor returns):

4% may become slightly aggressive

Better approach:

Keep flexibility between 3.5% to 4%
Reduce withdrawal slightly during bad market years

» Biggest Protection – Bucket Strategy
This is the most important correction

Divide your corpus into 3 buckets:

Bucket 1 (0–5 years expenses)
Keep in safe instruments (liquid / low risk)
This funds your SWP
Bucket 2 (5–10 years)
Hybrid or balanced funds
Bucket 3 (10+ years)
Equity funds for growth

How this helps:

During crash, you do not touch equity
You spend from Bucket 1
Equity gets time to recover

This directly reduces sequence risk

» Dynamic SWP – Very Important Adjustment
Instead of fixed thinking:

In good years → continue or increase SWP
In bad years → pause increase or reduce slightly

Even a small 5–10% temporary cut:

Greatly increases corpus life

This is practical, not theoretical

» Rebalancing Discipline

Once a year, review allocation
When equity grows → shift some to safe bucket
This “locks gains”

This creates a natural buffer for future crashes

» Extreme Scenario Planning (Your Concern)
You mentioned:

30% crash
5–7 year recovery
High inflation

In such case:

Bucket 1 should cover at least 5–7 years expenses
This is your survival shield

If this is in place:

You will not be forced to sell at loss
Corpus will not empty early

» Expense Behaviour – Practical Reality
You are right:

Expenses don’t reduce easily with age
They only shift (travel → medical, lifestyle → essentials)

So plan should:

Keep medical buffer separately
Not depend on cutting expenses

» Mental Model Shift
Do not think:
“Will my corpus finish?”

Think:
“How do I protect withdrawals during bad phases?”

Because:

Markets recover
But wrong withdrawals during crash cause damage

» Final Adjustments You Should Do Now

Maintain 5–7 years expenses in safe bucket
Keep equity allocation for long-term growth
Use flexible SWP (not rigid)
Rebalance yearly
Be ready to reduce withdrawal slightly in extreme conditions

» Finally

Your fear is not overthinking, it is intelligent thinking
SWP does not fail because of market alone
It fails due to poor withdrawal strategy during bad years

If you structure your buckets and keep flexibility, your corpus can comfortably last 30 years and more without “half starving” situations.

You are already ahead because you are asking the right question at the right time.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.linkedin.com/in/ramalingamcfp/

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