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Hello I have a strained relationship with my parents. I am 44 years old woman and married late. And now have twins who are 7 years old. Before entering this marriage, I was working and paid 50% of the earnings to my parents. And tried managing with rest 50% by paying home loan, food and others. It was very difficult but at times, i couldnnot manage on my own as the finances were tight and couldnnot save anything. Later, I took a break from work due to my love marriage and had to settle in a rural place where job opportunities were unavailable. I started a school but things did not go well and had to shut down due to covid. My money which I received from PF, gratuity all had vanished due to the school and my husband business also got into troubles and has no support from families. We were almost on roads and did not have any help. It was difficult to manage with twins. Then, i started with 5 freelancer jobs and made one lakh a month which was needed to support my family. In the interim, i got a good job at Chennai and moved with my husband. He too got a job in a start up and moved with me. His being a work from home could manage my twins while they were at home. While we started earning, again my parents started asking for money and I stopped supporting them, as my sister had started giving them money every month while i got married. My sister is well settled and runs a company abroad. I had got into a job and just settling down and did not want to take pressure again. I have my children and need to save for our retirement too. So, i started saving penny by penny. And due to not supporting my parents they do not talk to me at all. I too stopped as I thought it's better to be far with peace of mind rather than have frequent heart aches. Husband side story is that..after business got lost due to covid, his mother filed case against us stating that my husband brought loss to the business and need to step away and filed an injunction case against us. So, we could neither go to our property or restart business. As such, the case is moving and no relationship with my inlaw. But I always feel when children have holidays ...and children have been unaware of the relationship of grandparents and they yearn to be with them. They are growing up without any love of grandparents and they seem to understand. At time, I feel to help my family but I am scared as they will start squeezing me totally and I will be left with no savings. At this age, I have started to save and need it for our future. Am I doing it right

My wife passed away 2 months ago.i find it very hard to carry on with my life without her

Since from last two months, I'm talking with a guy, whom I met on dating app. We haven't met in real yet. We both are different and because of our differences we often ended up doing arguments. And sometimes, we do hurt each other. Am confused whether arguing with each other is okay. Since from starting we knew we are opposite, still he kept on holding. I do wonder what if things materialise between us, how will I deal with all those arguments?

Dear Sir/ Madam, If an umarried man have live in relationship with another unmarried woman. And a child is bornout of this physical relationship, who will be the right guardians and who will bear the expensies of such child? In another case. And what will be your answer in case both the live in relationship partners are already maried but their spouses are different. I had posted this question some 8 months ago but nobody replied. Please do the needful so that I can have a clear viwe on these two points

I am now 52, i have problem correct at 3 am in (night), i cannot control. My part get hard like rod. I haven't made relationship with my wife since 12 years, after she delivered 2 childerns. I cannot control on my sex after 15 days i need. I have one partner but she is not available aways . I want to reduce my sex. what to do.

I am 29 years old man we have maid who is elder than me and married. I am getting attracted towards her. I want to get into relationship with her how to proceed

Sir i am 33 years old and i found a girl whom i love but i can't talk to her like pro and i am little bit crazy to as i have brain disorder

Hello madam I want to be anonymous.i had told you my story and asked for your advice nearly 6 -7 months back from the same email through which I am contacting you.i don't know whether you replied or not.if ever you replied please send it to my email

Hi Madam. I am married from last one and half years now, there has been numerous fights in between small and big ones both. In between this time I have become a mother, and, my baby is 7 months old now. My husband does nothing, did nothing in past one and half years. He is only occupied with his work all the time, he goes to office everyday mostly. Right now my baby is 7 months old and from last 7 months me and my parents are taking care of the baby. And, he absolutely shows no understanding when it comes to looking after the baby. Am also a working person. Moreover I pay all the bills when it comes to getting household stuff, paying rent, all the expenses related to baby. He is so shameless that he just doesn’t care too, when I pick these topics or raise concerns about handling the baby he gets abusive. I am not sure what to do now! How insensible can a person get if no one sees my husband would never feel that person like him exist in this world. I feel like filing a divorce petition now. He was the one who wanted to have baby so soon. I was never ready. Now when I have the baby I am the only person along with my parents and sister looking after the baby.

hello Ravi, I am 46 yrs old Male ,I work for a corporate. My wife is 42 yrs is not interested in sex & romantic life we have 2 kids. lately I am attracted to a married lady 53 yrs .she is separated & stays with her son . I like her the most. how do i convince her for sex. we go outing she fells good when i m with her. she is short tempered how to analyze if she likes sex plz assist .

Hi Anu, I am a 53 years male, widowed since last 3 years having grown up children pursuing higher studies, have been feeling very lonely since the demise of my wife and am unable to forget it, sometimes feel like having a female friend/ partner with whom i can share my thoughts, there is nobody to talk to since 3 years. My wife's sister who also got widowed since 4 years is also at the same stage i believe. Many a times I think of having her as my partner, though we both have never talked about it and we are mostly not in touch. Is this thinking of mine correct or is there something wrong with me. If it is ok then how to move ahead as she is a very conservative lady with 2 grown up children who have started their jobs recently. Please advise

Hello mam I'm Ankur , CSE(1 yr), 20 yr old boy and Every new day is new hope, but when it ends ,I'm still same & now I have lost the belief in me & everything else also. But still I get voices/images in my head of being good, doing work, making money, changing lives and things which i want to do, but fear/hesitate to do them. And that's why I try to find solutions of it by reading(self help, comedy)books, yoga(sometimes),.. but after 3-4 days I get defeated. And the vicious life starts again..(quiet, distracted, alone,..). I use mobile a lot( Yt, Po*n, reading material(self- help), speech(motivation), ..) but I use this as a way by which I can forget the stress/life condition/problems.. clearly "NO CONTROL". I'M writing so maybe i can get some relief & solution..

Hi Anu, I, 33 years old guy, working in corporate recently entered into an arranged marriage with a simple cultured girl who is also 33 years aold working in corporate, following a previous two-year relationship with another girl who was way hotter than my wife. Although my relationship with ex involved quite a bit of passion and physical chemistry, we had often found ourselves at odds when it came to other aspects of life, such as finances, careers, and family matters. Due to these differences, I chose to get into arranged marriage with the girl of my parents choice through the traditional arrangement process. After ex and I parted ways, she moved abroad to pursue her master's degree. Despite all this, ex and I have managed to maintain a friendship and remain in contact. It has been over seven months since my wife and I tied the knot, and we have been working on developing our sexual connection. To provide some context, here are a few reasons why this aspect of our relationship has been challenging: As my wife has never been in a sexual relationship before, she is not very experienced when it comes to expressing romance or fostering intimacy. Also, we are quite opposite to each other be it movie choices, eating habots, dressing sense, spiritual beliefs etc. I frequently find my thoughts drifting back to my past experiences with ex, which have led me to believe that I may never be able to recreate the same level of passion and excitement in my current relationship. While I used to be instantly aroused by ex, I hardly feel any sexual attraction for my wife. In last 7 months, we got physical only 7-8 times. However, the experience was not so great, and I am left feeling unsure about the future of our intimate relationship and navigating my feelings about my past relationship with ex. It's important to mention that, without a doubt, my wife surpasses ex in all other aspects of life, except for romance.

I lost my wife in Mid age. I'm 50 yrs. I dont know what to do. I'm healthy and feel like - can live for next 3/4 decades. Who will offer their trust, care, affection, love at this age. Raaj

Hello, I am in a relationship and have been trying to convince my parents for the past two years. We belong to different castes, and our families live far apart, which makes it difficult for us to meet in person. I am a 29-year-old woman, and my parents have finally been convinced. However, the issue is now with the boy's family. They are delaying making a firm decision. This is the second time they haven’t confirmed whether they are ready. The boy's father is elderly and unwell, but I can't tell this to my parents, as they might think his family is using it as another excuse to delay. The boy is under a lot of stress because his family blames him for his father's illness. Meanwhile, my parents are losing interest, as this is the second time they’ve been convinced, only for the boy’s family to delay. Both families have met twice, but there has never been a discussion about how to proceed with the marriage. We have a mediator known to both families, but since the boy’s parents haven’t given a clear answer, the mediator got frustrated and said something to my parents, making them suspicious. Now, the mediator wants to clear things up, but the situation on the boy's side is so sensitive that he cannot talk to his parents directly. The delays are making my parents even more frustrated. I do not want to leave him. My parents believe that because this is the second time things have fallen through, it's a bad omen. While the boy's mother and brother have no issues with the marriage, his father is still not fully convinced, and they are not taking any initiative. I’m unsure what to do. My parents are pressuring me to leave him and make a final decision. It's been 10 days since this situation escalated, and I keep fighting with them. They believe there’s no solution to this problem, but I am not ready to leave him, and neither is he. For my parents, two years feels like a long time to wait, and they think it’s time to move on.

Hello, I am a doctor by profession and boyfriend is an engineer. My father doesn't want us to marry as he thinks that doctors marry doctors and he is earning less so you will not go along together in life. Both my parents are professors and they don't want me to marry in a business family as he doesn't like it. My boyfriend is a nice person, how to convince my father about this as he thinks how he will face people if he marry me there.

Ma'am I love one boy and I am having strong feelings for him but as he is from different caste my parents are not agree for marriage and my brother is also tracked my phone . I am suffering here a lot . Ma'am pls advice me what can I do for that? Am I bad girl or characterless for doing so ? My parents are torchering me that if I talk to him then they will commite suicide. So aam pls suggest me what should I do . My relationship with him is 3 years now..

Hello Anu ji. I am 27 years old, I like a married man for past 2 years who is my colleague. He is has a 6-7 years son and a new born daughter. I never planned to tell him about my feelings not knowing he too has same feelings for me one day after getting drunk we kind of confessed and slowly came in relationship. We both love each other a lot but the thing is we can never be together. I am unable to bear this pain and I keep arguing over this with again and again and decided to break it off. He is too emotional and unable to bear this pain. I don't know what to do. I don't even know how to express all of our feelings and situation here. Please advise

MY AGE IS 71 MY WIFE AGE IS 65. DUE TO REMOTOLOGY AND ARHTIRITIES SHE HAS BEEN HOSPITALISED 15DAYS AT THETIMEOF GOVID.AFTER THAT SHE IS TAKING MEDICINE AND DOCTORS VISIT ONCE IN 6MONTHS. FROM THE PAST 3YEARS SHE IS NOT INTERED IN SEXUAL INTERCOURSE. NOWADAYS I MUCH INTERESTED IN SEX WHEREAS MY WIFE IS DEAD AGAINST MY FEELINGS. KINDLY GIVE ME YOUR SUGGESTIONS

Hello Anu. Im a 33 year old female , well educated and placed in a top IT company . Im independent, mature , have progressive mindset ,disciplined lifestyle, have interests outside work and pursue them, believe in true love, loyalty and good companionship. Never been in a relationship, have been taking care of parents and responsibilities at home. Finding a suitable boy through arranged marriage have become a stressful experience so far. Many people have a shallow mindset looking for certain age ,looks, education, income, parents too particular of star matching etc. Seldom come across people who think compatibility is important or lets the 2 talk first and decide. Whether its the guys who decide or parents Im not sure. I spoke to very few guys who after 1st conversation dint show any interest to connect again or interest to pursue further, although they weren't all perfect even for me but I was ok to talk and know more rather than judging them initially itself but it was not reciprocated. I spoke to a guy recently who was an extroverted personality , had past relationships, initially I felt connected with him on few things and continued to reach out. He too showed interest but later kept saying he is unsure. Although I ticked all his non negotiable list, he wants someone who can accept his past, who is comfortable with his drinking habits etc. I explained that acceptance is something everyone wants and it needs effort from both sides to make it acceptable. But this can be understood or figured out only if he shows interest and wants to know more. Without that how would one know someone is ready to accept or not. Again though I was not very sure of few things too on his habits lifestyle past etc, there were some things definitely good and worth giving a shot and hence I put my effort to know him more and connect. But he dint reciprocate, and said he needs more time and he is unsure. Its been more than a month and he dint get back. I haven't spoken to anyone else either and still thinking is it worth to message him. I am constantly worried with various thoughts as in , there is no guarantee other guys would be honest and share everything, neither I am sure if I will find someone without any past or other habits etc. But also on the other side, the other person isnt showing same interest so I cant even chase. How to know if u can always be the person who can pursue and try as there is nothing u lose. Or to have that self respect that if guy is not interested just move on dont chase. Moreover even Im not sure of few things. Parents being worried, not being able to meet many people or not being able to find suitable guys has become a stress. Honestly losing hope and interest that I would find someone who is not shallow, who is progressive, has growth mindset , is a happy person, emotionally availalble and believes in love ,respects his partner etc. Please guide me with some advise

Hii . My bf and me are very close and matured . But before getting emotionally much more opened with him and all i asked him a question that what does he feel about her sis in law . Like u know in south people get married to their cousins and close to them . I asked him a similar ques like what do u feel about her coz u guys are childhood besties and dont wanna come in between two individuals. He replied with that it's a very complicated ques . They have some chemistry, but they never spoke close but when they are together near by, some romantic vibe will there. What shall i do in this situation. Please help me

Respected M'aam, I am a 49 year old male, divorced for the last 15 years. I had been in a relationship for a few years with marriage on the cards. However, for some reason, her uncle objected and got her parents who were initially happy and agreeable to withdraw their consent. Hence, this didnt work out and we parted ways amicably. About three years back, I was approached by the wife of a friend whose marriage was going through a rough patch, for some advice and help in getting her husband back on track. However, the husband refused to change ways and their marriage remains to be rocky. This lady and I got chatting often and we became friendly. Only a few short weeks since we first met, she started visiting my house regularly. I live alone and have no living relatives. Initially these visits would be to go over prospective jobs for her husband and later on, this topic was completely ignored and we started chatting on friendly basis. What started as small physical gestures soon developed into a major physical relationship. This physical relationship has been going on for almost three years now. Everytime, she has a fight at home, she visits me and we end up getting physical. This happens almost twice a week. In the meantime, I meet her husband almost daily and have to pretend as if everything is normal, all the time hiding this fact. She doesnt want to divorce him and marry me despite being asked many times even though this itself shall be the cause of me being socially boycotted by all my friends. She wants to continue having physical relations with me and wants our relationship to be simply for this reason. I tried ending it often, but she would turn up at my door and I would have to take her in and we would again end up being physical. I do not know what to do anymore even though I want to end this but she doesnt. Please advise. Thanks

To the question "From many years my husband was cheating on me but two years back i came to know he has one baby with her. I want to end relationship with him. But parents are not letting me to do. I have to kids with yrs i dnt have job. I want to divorce him . Please tell me my decision to divorce him is right or wrong? Please guide me." should you not ask what is her contribution to the matter? Only sick men try to explore other ways- when the wife does not aprreciate his physical and emotion al needs, he will explore other possibilities. Keep me also anonymous. I suffered 50 yrs of marital life. I appreciate the wifes lack of interest. But, what about man's need? Can man fight nature's compulsions?

Hello i'm 30 years old women i'm married with my close relation my mother's brother i like him at my childhood but he loves me more & one day his mother was died then our family decide to our marriage that's why i was married with him but i'm not love him..i have one 4 years baby girl now but in 2 years later i had met one online friend he is very kind to me i fell love with him more & getting more addicted to him i thought him he is my man but i'm alredy more addicted with him he is not married he was told me to get divorce from your husband i will marry you. But i'm getting more confused Thinking of my family what a do? give me some advice how to relive in person addiction he was fight with me for small things & he was not talking with me for some days that time i felt so badly without him even i'm not sleeping & craying for whole night. i'm more craving to speek with him i know i'm totally hacked by him i don't know the way what a do?

Seven months after my delivery I had become so fat and I'm in my mother's house till now but my husband never approach me physically or any physical contact if I will make a move he will proceed but why should I make a move everytime I had told him that I likes when he makes first move but he never do that instead he will hurt my feelings with his words what to do??

Hello mam, in the school days I loved a boy which was for 8 years relationship and unfortunately we broke up.. again after some days i was in the love with another guy he tortured me so bad. These two love stories know to my parents. When I told about second person they reacted very badly and they said that they would kill that boy . But now I wanted to marry the first boy which was of 8 years relationship. My parents are very serious about it and they are trying to get matches for me. How can I tell this matter to them?. What if they threaten to kill us? I know I made a mistake but it was so unfortunate. In my whole family no one is supportive to me..

Hi Anu Im 40 plus married without child ,have sleep issue sometime take medication ,thyroid problem .After 2 ivf cycle procedure lead to broader line sugar without tablet .Now husband mother and sister continuous Husband in October 2023 file for divorce. He without job past 3 year. I want to continue marriage filed section 9 ..What can be done with life ..

Hello Anu, I would prefer to remain anonymous. I am 37 year old. My father purchased an apartment for around 35 lakhs, with an initial payment of approximately 5 lakhs. At the time, I believe he intended to pay for it himself, as my career was quite unstable. However, over the last four years, I have moved back to my hometown due to the pandemic and have since found success in my career, earning a substantial income. My father then started asking me to deposit money into his account so that he could continue making payments for the apartment. His reasons varied, ranging from being short on legitimate (white) money to wanting to use my legally earned income for this purpose, and I complied without much thought because I’ve always been an obedient child. Over the last six months, I contributed the final 7 lakhs for the property, and I was led to believe that it would be registered in either my name or my wife’s name. However, just two days ago, my father informed me that it must be registered in his name. This has left me feeling manipulated and betrayed. Despite contributing a significant sum of around 30-32 lakhs, I still feel I have no say in the property. I’ve never been able to communicate openly with my father, and this situation has only made things worse. When I confronted him, the conversation didn’t go well, and my mother expressed deep disappointment in me, implying that I am not a good son. They made me feel guilty, and I am now left with a sense of profound loss. Regardless of the outcome, I feel like I’ve lost. If the property is registered in my name, I feel like a terrible son, and if it isn’t, I feel like I’ve lost both my savings and my dignity. I would appreciate any advice or guidance on how I should approach this situation, or what I should believe in moving forward. Just for context, my father has a decent business, owns the house we live in, and possesses other assets, so it’s not as though he is dependent on my income for survival.

I have been married for 12years . I married when I was 19. I have 2sons . My husband doesn’t love me and he had said to me many times .i even have doubt on him bcus he doesn’t come home to sleep 2 times in 2 weeks . Everyday I feel anxious and worried if he would not come bck . I have beg him many times to not sleep outside. Whenever he go out he never picks up my call even once. He is seeing a girl. For that we fought all the time . He asked for divorce many times but why can’t I u love him and leave him. I feel like I would die if I can’t be together with him.

I met with a car accident back in 2013. The car landed up on the edge of the divider at night. I was taking a turn and there was a truck coming on the other side whose headlights blinded me for a whole and the road didn't have streetlights either. After that incident, I just drive to nearby places in the suburb I stay. I fear getting into an accident again. I'm a fairly good driver. Should I start long drives again?

I am getting attraction to my sister in law, but she is just using me for her work

Hi Mam, I am 30 year old working IT. I got married 3 years ago. We do not have kids.We loved each other and got married. He is 12 years elder to me. He has been earning and is responsible. He takes good care of me and he helps me in household work. There are good things about him. But, he has lied a lot in financial matters. He and his family had potrayed that they are settled. In fact, they are in lot of handloans and debts. My husband has taken huge amount of home loan without discussing it with me. Also , his parents are financially dependent on him(This was also discussed earlier but he had not told about this. He had hidden this also saying they are getting another source of income) He has a brother who is arrogant and is not working. Brother is 33 years old. (This was also not disclosed. My husband had just told that his brother is not earning as of now but he will earn in future) My inlaws say that brother will work in near future and he will also contribute to the house. But, i have no hopes in it. We have been quarelling over every single thing because of his brother. Our normal converstaion does not last for more than 5 min. It will turn into a huge fight. Fight has gone to such extent that it has got abusive, no respect for each other and family and violent. This is just not alone from his side. I have my anger issues too. We are aggressive too in nature. My husband is burderned because of this. My husband has two families (ours and his) to take care. I am not able to plan for a kid because i have lost the trust in my husband and feel insecure financially. Also, he is aging. Please suggest what do i do with him. I am not able forgive him for what he is done. He has accepted his mistake. He agrees to whatver i argue because fault is at his end. But, I fear where we will not be afford for a baby. I dont know what he will do if i quit my job and extend my maternity leave. I dont trust my husband. I fear where again he will take loan, i fear where he would lie again. We are struggling here and his brother has no idea that our relationship has strained because of him!! I want to talk it out to my husband's brother in front of my in laws and explain him. Other wise, should i stay with my husband?? Should i leave my husband??? We do have feelings for each other but I dont have peace of mind. Please suggest mam. I need a direction. My health is getting spoilt and i am in stress all the time because we shout and fight each and everyday..

i am 56 years old male having lost my dear wife 7 years ago. i live with 2 children aged 24 and 16. i do most of the household chores like cooking etc. i feel exhausted living a solitary life and in constant grief crying silently and thinking of how it would have been if my wife was around. I get irritated easily with my children who don't act responsibly. Feel like having a new partner but worried how things would pan out especially with grown up children. Please suggest.

Hi Anu ji, I am married since 2002 and have a single son who is 21 years. I like and love another lady who is also married and has 2 sons. We both are not happy in our respective married life. We also both love each other and have gone far ahead in our relationship n want to get married. My wife has caught me several times but i cant forget my girlfriend. what should i do

Hi Anu ji, I am 42 yr old single parent. I have a 10 yr old son living with me. My wife and I were separated when our son was 3 yr old and we recently settled our divorce. Immediately after our divorce, my ex-wife got re-married. Her husband isn’t willing to take my son in and hence she handed over his legal custody to me. She has moved on with her life and my son doesn’t feature in her list of priorities. I am more than happy to have him. During the last 7 years of separation, she did not allow me or my parents to meet my son, so we could not build a strong bond together. Now, it has been 6 months since my son has moved in with me. Its only me and him living together ATM. My parents stay in our ancestral village and are unable to stay with me. Though its challenging for both of us to discover and understand each other, it must be tougher for my son. He understands the fact that his parents aren’t together and hence he has to stay with either of us at a time. Sometimes, he does get emotional about this situation not being normal compared to his friends / cartoons / movies etc. He also misses his mother and often keeps quoting that “My mother does it this way...”, “Me and my mum used to do this / that” etc etc and I appreciate that. I am fine with him talking to his mother through WhatsApp and meeting her whenever they wish to. He is also close to his other maternal family members, and I do not have any issues with him maintaining that bond. Now the challenge is, my ex-wife and her family abuses and shoos me away every time I try to ask them about my son such as his eating habits, likes, dislikes, vacation plans etc etc. They also bad mouth me whenever they speak to my son. That poor little soul gets influenced and feels that its punishment for him to live with me. And I feel betrayed as I too have made sacrifices / adjustments in my career, relationships etc to be able to take care of my son. I feel like stopping his communication with his mum and maternal family, but worried if that would adversely affect him. Now I have also started to get angry whenever he speaks to his mum or maternal family and try not to vent out at him, but I sometimes I do. Please guide me to navigate this delicate situation and what should I look forward to in my life.

Hi I'm 26 and my wife also same age, my wife is not interested in sex past 1 year. I tried to talk too many times for knowing what's the reason and the real issue and tried to speak tell what main issue she is facing and also tried to talk with her sister and parents and tell the situation we are facing. But she not interested to tell anybody , so i tried her phone and all details related to my help but noting in my hand. So after a 1 year i helpless so I asked directly to her can I go outside sex with any another women she not agreed so I complained the same tell me why are you not interested with me in sex . Not respond And once day I talked again can I go to sex with another women she cried in front of my family members Please help me for this situation

Dear Love Guru, I am married and 18 and 9 year old boys. I am married for 20 years, and my wife lost interest in sex from last couple of years. She also doesn’t like to sleep in same bed. I have tried to convince her, but she says , this not now age to have sex and she not young girl. Without sex, I am into depression, my wife says, she is happy to give divorce, if required. What would be best in my situation, should I go for divorce ?

Hello mam i am 23 and whaen i was 19 i had physical relationship with a guy who done black magic to me and has my photo with him he says he love me and want to marry me but i dont rejected it after that he tell everyone about it now i am totally depressed what should i do whether i live or die

I wanted to get clarity on my situation. I am 24yr old and i am working person. I am loving a girl in my office since two years and she also accepted. We are from intercaste and her parents accepted. But my parents are not in a way to get convinced no matter what. They want the caste to be same also and they are completely saying that what society will tell if you are doing like this and we cant live if you do like this. But i loved the girl the most and took care of her and being with her each and every second. I dono what to do. The only idea i m having is to go away from home , do my job and be with her. Now my parents are not allowing me to go to job also instead they asked me to take wfh. Please give me some suggestions on this. Please mam. Whenever i think of her that i left her and came i m getting so much chest pain which i cant bear. please help me with this. Constraints they are saying is its intercaste and age difference as she is 3yrs elder to me. But we feel that we are more compatible and more understanding. Girls side family agreed for this as they want their daughters happiness, but from myside they are doing emotional blackmail that they cant live if i do this and all. I am in hopeless situation, please help me with some suggestions.

I got Married 20 years ago and my wife always fighting with me on pity issues and dominating me on every thing where i go to whom i talked. I have 1 daughter for which we lived together now for 3 years she didn't talk to me never make food or never loved me she told me to not to talk to my parents and relatives who are in other states. She checked my mobile and deleted my relatives and parents contact number. what will I do , I never forced to talk to my parents

Hello, I been married for 16 years now. From last 4 years, my wife has been getting involved with a colleague of her friend. After I found out, she said she is only friends with him and promised to stop chatting with him. But I found out that she was still talking to him. When I confronted her she denied it and said I am unnecessarily doubting her, but promised to stop and block him. But its empty promise and she continues chatting him. she refuses to sleep in same room and continues talking to him late into the night. I managed to get certain screen shots of her chats but nowadays she locked her phone. Her friends were encouraging her and also playing messenger/peacemaker role when she has a tiff with him. I really dont want a divorce because it will affect my kids but seems like there is no alternative. She keeps threatening me that she will file a case against me and my family and also that I need to pay for alimony if i plan to divorce. I indirectly raised this issue with her family but she has said so many negative things about me to them that they seem to take it lightly. I am frustrated now . Please advice

M married for four years n have been in separation since 3 years...M 30 years and he is 36 yrs old...Due to his family behaviour I left and came back.... actually he is a loving and caring person...during these 3 years we talked many times as well he blocked me many times..this kept on continuing...Suddenly again he called me on June this year and we even met..that time he promised that he will come on August n take me back but suddenly at the end of July he txtd me saying he will not come and blocked me... recently I heard that he is relationship with another girl....i tried contacting him but no way....he even said his friends that he is getting married to that girl...how can he do this to me???I love him a lot n m totally stressed now...don't know what to do??please help me

My wife is 60 years and not interested in sex for the past 5 years saying that it is painful. Is it common among all woman above 55 years

Hi, i am a divorcee, my ex wife took custody of my son. as per our mutual consent, i have a weekly visiting access to my son. but my ex wife is frequently changes her address and not in contact, i am unable to meet my son from last 18 months. he is saying Daddy to her brother. kindly give any solution. i dont want to go court again where i already loose my 6/7 years.

i am married for 20 years and have a 13 year old daughter, there is no physical connection with my wife for the last 10 years. i have got into a relationship twice in last 8 years. the first one didn't go through. i am in my 2nd relation now which i want to take it ahead for the rest of my life. my wife knew my first relationship and she has a doubt about my 2nd relation. considering the non cooperation in house hold activities and marital responsibilities , i decided to call it quits and asked for divorce and she is adamant, not willing to give divorce saying that if she divorces me i will remarry and it should not happen as i should suffer as she so also suffering. my parents and her parents tried their level best to patch up, but in vain. i am staying alone separately from a year. what should be next step in trying for mutual consent for the divorce?

hi anuji. I have been married for last 12 years with 2 kids of 10 years. in March I came to know that my wife is repeatedly on call with one person. after checking call logs came to know that she was in touch with the person from last 8 months. initially she denied and informed that she is talking with her female friend but on Truecaller male name was displayed. when I confronted 2-3 times she agreed she was speaking with male person but he is outside town for training purpose. when I checked the persons records I came to know that dates provided by my wife were incorrect. I went to marriage counseling and after repeated confortation she agreed she has committed mistake and asked for forgivenes and requested one chance. after 2 months I came to know that she has lent money without my knowledge to 2 people whom we had agreed that she would not speak 7-8 years back but now came to know she was in contact and has lent money and jewellery without my knowledge. people are refusing to return. these incidents have happened 4-5 months back and wife has moved on but it's difficult for me to trust her even after 5-6 sessions of marriage counseling. currently we are enjoying healthy married life but back of mind it's very difficult to trust my wife and I face anxiety and depression issue whenever such thoughts crop in my mind. I am been in marriage for children well-being and overall family well-being. I have already informed her parents and given ultimatum that if such things repeats then there wouldn't be any chance of recourse. last six months have been worse due to this issue. I want to know how to decrease anxiety and fear of such issue cropping in my life as it's getting difficult to trust.

I'm legally seperated my wife 48 years of married life. I had given almost all of my own hard earned money to her and only son. I depend on my ancestral property and my stock business I'm staying in an old age home. There I got a very ordinary looking old woman as friend We share our sorrows and sometimes go out to enjoy very limited intimacy. My ex wife troubles me even for this smal happiness I have in my utter failure life I'm retired medical college Professor with M. D., Ph. D. qualified. What action I can take as a legally separated man. Hope you will have some solution Many gurus don't respond even

Hi Anu, I am a guy 45, married and with 2 lovely children. My wife and I have great relationship from the time of love marriage. I love her a lot and as a family all is great financially, emotionally. It does seem to be like a perfect family anyone can ask for. During dating she was she was flirting with others but after all our love and commitment we moved ahead. She has this nature of seeking attention from others and I was ok as long as it was harmless. After our first child, I know it must be difficult for her as a new mother etc but I caught her with her colleague, they were having affair for 1.5 years. she regretted her decision and I forgive her. I gave her more attention and we continued, she shows all the love and affection and I know in my heart she loved me a lot as I do the same. All was good, we had a second child and the pregnancy and post pregnancy was happy. She has been very happy and giving her all to the family. Our relationship was very good from every angle. yet again she had a one night stand and also another affair. This time i was heard broken. She is independent, she earns well and better than me of which I am proud of. If she is unhappy with the relationship and marriage, i am happy if she is wants to move on for her good. But she repented again and says he cannot live without me and that she only loves me. If there is so much love I am unable to understand why she is looking elsewhere. I have asked her to make me understand but she has no answer. I have forgiven her as my love for her is a lot and I know she does love me too and we continue our marriage... but I am unable to figure out this nature and for her and myself I want to understand what can be done. I am lost.

Hi, I love my parents a lot & the same way is for them, but in my family there are people who might say ill words against my father if he agreed to my decision, its really been 5 years I am trying to convince my father and even my grandfather also convinced him, but still my father is on the same point that I will not let this happen & if you want to do you go ahead but you will never come back here. I know the love and worry he have for me but there are many people ( one pandit) out of nowhere they are coming and askiing me to leave the guy and get marrieg in same caste. How the rules are changed if they know that my relationship is now 16 yrs & now I am making a tough decision of getting court marriage done. But suggest me will there be any tiny hope where I can still ask my father to be on my side. Apart from that he agreed for cousin marrigae in same cast but he will not attend that marrirage for mine atleast he can give me blessing. I was a good bacha for him which really made him hurt and he didnt expected this from me, tell me how can i make them agree

Hi Ma'am, I got married few years back to my boyfriend. It was an intercaste marriage to which my parents opposed very strongly. They tried doing everything from verbal abuse, emotional abuse, guilt tripping, calling names, blaming my education to even asking me to leave my job. But with my elder brothers support I was able to still go ahead and got married to him. Today my parents love my partner a lot and are very happy with the very same person and his family which they were earlier opposing to due to fear of what others will say to this intercaste marriage. But today there is a similar situation built up at home with my brother's wedding. He is in his 30s and parents are concerned of getting him married asap. He told them about his girlfriend from other caste which was okay with the parents but they didnt like the girl purely from looks. They are concerned now that people will question them why you bought such a bride for your son and that they had so many beautiful prospects to which they said NO and now will be making this girl a bride of the house which will open them to mockery of others. They have not even met the girl but only after seeing photos they are so negative and again hurting us as well as themselves by saying lot of negative toxic things and guilt tripping for everything they have done for us. I feel they will become happy in few years but at this point they are not even agreeing to meet the family due to which the girl's family is getting apprehensive of marrying their daughter to our family. I have been trying to convince my parents but they start saying things like you also did the same so you will obviously support and we don't want to be a part of anything. If you want to get married go ahead and do it but don't expect us to be a part of it. What should I be doing?