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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 01, 2024Hindi
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Hi Anu ji. I have been hesitating to ask this question. Now I dare to tell my story. Iam married for last twenty five years and having three girls. For the last few years my wife is least interested in sex and remains away from home frequently. In fact before ten years we were living in a locality where one of my wife's friend was living with her family. Her husband was fond of sex with different woman and for this he used her wife to make freinds, cajole them and call them at night for watching blue films. My wife also got trapped in the net and one night I found her missing from bed. The main door was locked from outside. I kept waching her return and she came at 2.30 in night. I pretended sleeping and did not tell anything to my wife but shifted to new colony. Husband of my wife's friend kept coming to new house during my and children's absence. One day I returned from office after one hour and found the man in my house. I asked my wife to stop all this and since than he did not came but my wife started remaining absent from house many often with the lame excuse that she is going to visit her parents. I am upset and doubt that she goes to her friend's house. Should I let it go on?.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It's possible she is involved in this vicious loop...
When you confronted your wife when you found the man in your home, what exactly did she say or how did she react? I don't find you sharing this anywhere in your question...and this would give an indication as to where her mind is...
It is quite possible that your wife has been a part of the other couple's exploits and is willing to be a part of it. I guess it requires the two of you actually getting around to talking about what exactly is going on.
If this is going to be her lifestyle, it's necessary to see how this is going to impact the girls at home and also whether you choose to accept this as her lifestyle.

Should you let this go on? - How fine are you with not being a part of this marriage in a way that must be? Are you willing to compromise on your married life? How will this affect the children? How will you work around the fact that your wife is possibly sleeping around with random people? What will your future seem like as a family?
Check your answers to these and you will know exactly what you are okay with and what you are not fine going along with. That will define your next course of action. It's as simple as asking yourself: What is that will truly see me in a happy place? You will know after answering these questions...a good reality check is in order!

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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So, in a nutshell, you think your wife was flirting behind your back, you dropped some hints and then she has either stopped, or then stopped you from spying on her phone.

First of all, why are you dropping hints to her instead of talking straight? Which husband is going to appreciate his wife being wooed by other men with all this darling-baby love talk?

Even if she’s not having an affair, the flirty behaviour is bound to make you uncomfortable. Don’t you think you should call her out on it instead of pretending like some other man is making her uncomfortable?

Clearly, she’s enjoying the attention!

You seem very timid and intimidated by your wife. And if her behaviour has changed toward you for the better because you suspect she is guilty of something, all the more reason to get to the bottom of it!

Stop playing games and pussyfooting around her. Do some straight-talking for a change instead of going behind her back and reading messages!

And FYI, being good-looking doesn’t give any spouse licence to make their partner insecure!

 

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You’ve been sweeping the same issues your marriage has faced from the very beginning under the carpet for 15 years. Why?

And instead of addressing the issues, you decided to go ahead and have a second child?

Having a child is a joy in itself, but it is never the solution to marital woes; in fact, in most cases it only exacerbates the problem.

From everything you’ve told me, you seem to come across as an insecure husband.

I’m not saying that what you’ve told me is untrue, but you keep suspecting your wife of flirting with random men and have no proof of it.

Both sides of the family support her and let me tell you, unless she is a master of deception, no one can conceal their true nature so well from everyone else for the better part of two decades.

Maybe what you construe as flirting is simply her being friendly? Maybe you’re just not comfortable with the manner in which she interacts with other men?

Have you ever managed to prove her inappropriate relations? And when you accuse her, she blows up at you... a guilty party would not react in so volatile a manner.

I do think marital counselling is in order. And yes, maybe separately at first and then together.

Contact a good therapist and do it sooner rather than later... 15 years has been long enough!

 

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Hello, I have been married from 15 yrs. I have a 9 yrs old son with me. In oct 21 my wife (age 38) started making REELS on insta of the facial acting. She got involved and told me that she is just doing for followers and like. People used to comment good and bad which i didnt like. She was trying to make young guy friends. In april 2022 she had an affair with a 22-year-old boy who was not even financial stable. I could she changes in her every day. In June 2022 I caught her and she confess that she did affair and also done physical relationship. I had unconditionally loved her all these years and didn’t wanted to let her go. Also, didn’t wanted to hurt my son by taking a divorce. That guy refused to keep my son and their relation broke, but my wife still loved him and missed him. Few months she was in depression and I took her upmost care and swallowed what she did. I just told her that please come back to our life as you were before but she was not getting back. There used to be few quarrels, she was just staying alone within herself and I never felt that love which she used to give me. Later in feb23 there was a marriage at her family and I agree to go with her so she may get that feel during our times and she promised me to enjoy the marriage and make love with me. But she was happy with her relative and didn’t even bother to make that love and affection with me. from that time, I used to get angry and fight with her. I went into depression. In May 2023 she was getting worst and one day fight increased and I asked her to leave my house which I wasn’t intentionally wanted to. She left and went missing 24 yrs and then called from her mom mobile who was in her village, since she didn’t come back home and from last two month, she has been asking me money for herself and says it’s her rights. She doesn’t bother for my son and just show that she loves him. She works and stay with woman from 6 months and I’m looking after my son all alone. I told her u can work but just come home and make things better for my son. Her conditions is to give money security (money) then only she will return. All my family says she is just behind money and doesn’t care what I and my son is going through. She is not guilt for what she did. 15 yrs of marriage has been ruin and now she has no shame at all. She talks rudely if i dont send her money and now I refused sending her. Please advice what do I do now.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You seem to have done a lot to try and get her back. What can you do if she doesn't want to acknowledge your efforts or appreciate what family life is! One would imagine that a child in the equation may bring about a change in heart but that doesn't seem to be the case here at this moment.
Your family members are right in their mind about the way that see your wife as they have been observing how this has impacted you and your son.
Either you wait for her to come to her senses OR simply learn to live life without her. If the outside world of social media is what seems to satisfy her, no matter what you do, she will be dissatisfied and unhappy. This only means that she has to learn and appreciate what she has with you and your son.
It is also possible that she has been disinterested in the marriage for a while now and has been seeking approval and validation from people on social media. Even if this is the case, being angry with you is understandable BUT what about her own child? What makes her not want to deal with that reality? If you need an answer to this, simply WAIT and WATCH without begging her to come back...That will give you an idea as to where her mind is and then decide on the future course...

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Asked by Anonymous - May 26, 2024Hindi
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Hi, I married 1 year ago my wife told me she was forced to do a marriage against her concern and she didn't want the marriage life and wanted to live as strangers, also she refused to take wife responsibilities at home i have waited trusting she would change but she never changed. She is alone daughter to her parents borned after 16 years to their parents and she used to live outside around 17 year for her studies. After marriage whenever her parents come she used to ignore me, also she work in private sector and not share even single rupee to home. However all house hold work i do being boy, also she is not at all interested in intercource as well. After marriage 2 week she stayed in PG stating that my close friend will go to native allow me to spend time with her reast all i will be with you like. I agreed. Later 6 Month she used to give reasons for intercource i got periods, rashes, not feeling good, tiered, no mood, etc this happen till 6 month. After this we had 4 times in 2 month with protection that too just for 1 or 2 min as she mentioned lot of pain, after that she started avoiding, since i was not fulfilled by sex desire i started making extra marital affairs in facebook and turned to whatsapp only text, one fine day she saw all msgs i did with extra marital affair and she took photos of that and went to PG without informing any one. Later both families elder sat and asked she used to show the msgs that i did with extra marital affairs and she wanted seperate now from me. Though i accepted the extra marital affairs only interms of msgs and since you not willing to do sex i choose this way i mentioned. But she dont like to come back now. Her father took 2 month of time that he will change her mind set but i dont think she can. As her mother is also not good women, suporting her daughter and making such big issues and she also not interested in this marriage itself.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Sometimes people are just not ready for marriage and here your wife certainly came along with a huge baggage of unresolved issues behind her.
Marriage requires both partners to be responsible not just towards one another but take an active interest in their roles. This calls for maturity from both partners here.
Now, this was never a possibility with your spouse as she felt the marriage was a forced one. That is enough to destroy any chances of the marriage falling in place. You are also in a soup now that she has found her 'proof' that gives her a ticket out of this marriage.
The question here is: Do you want this marriage? If YES, then you will have to start down the part of proving your innocence and what led to what and how and when...If NO, then since your spouse has found her ticket to freedom, the only thing you might have to do is clearly state and not explain anything as to how things went downhill right from the beginning. Her parents may believe you or not, but that's what your decision needs. They may try to malign you in the family, just stick to your version of what happened and move on.
So, you are at that point where you need to make a decision. What is it going to be?

All the best!
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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 19, 2024Hindi
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Hi.. good evening.. i want your advise.. we are married for 6 months now and we had a arranged marriage. My mistake was not informing my wife about my past relationship which we had broken up badly and immediately after my marriage my ex girlfriend shared our pictures with my wife purposefully and she got upset with that and me and my family convinced my wife that i have broken up with her and i dont have any contact with her and it is true and i am loyal to my wife. Everthing was normal after that and 2 months passed and i observed that my wife is in regular contact with a guy on phone whom she calls friend and talks to him daily. I confronted this to her and she told that he is just her freind and he had helped her before during her difficult times. Again this continued and i asked her to stop contacting him daily and even though he is a friend what is the point in talking to him daily and she just cried telling that i am controlling her and she feels like she has no freedom and is in jail and i am not allowing her to talk to her friends. After this she limited her talks with him and seemed fine by me as it is just a friendly casual talks 2 to 3 times a week. One day she asked me reply to one of her emails and wanted to upload some file. While i went to upload i had access to her google photos and i was shell shocked to see lots of photos of her with this guy whom she calls friend and in close proximity. Also there are pictures of them dated 3 to 4 years back and also the most hurting part is the pictures of her with him after our marriage as well. She had told me that they have a college get together and reunion and she had went with him on that day and stayed overnight as well. I was literally shocked by this and confronted her immediately and then she told me that she was in relationship with him and her parents did not agree so couldnt marry him and even he also cancelled many marriage proposals because of her and she betrayed him and happily married now with me while he is still not married and she feels guilty as all this happened to him because of her and so she talks to him daily and she can only feel ok once he is married. I told her she has to stop talking to him if we want to keep this marriage.. she tells me if i leave her she is dead as even her parents wont accpet her and also he (her ex boyfriend) will not accept her and she says she has nowhere else to go.. she still cares for me though but i dont know what else to do.. she still talks to him 2 to 3 times a week... please advise how to go about this
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Your wife was never into this marriage and it became convenient for her to pursue a link with her ex-boyfriend once she found out about your past.
Everything that she does now being justified. You are right in putting your foot down, but have you seen a favorite toy being snatched away from a child? The need for that toy only gets stronger.
The way that you can counter this is by showering her with a lot of care and attention as I do gather that the two of you want this marriage. You want it as you are in love with your wife, she wants it as she has nowhere to go. Fair enough! The reasons right now might not be the same BUT someday with much love going into the relationship, the two of you can be on the same path.

Now, the question is: Are you willing to wait and pour more into the relationship? She will waver for a while going back and forth between you and that guy; it will hurt you...There will be a lot of anger and perhaps feelings of inadequacy in you, BUT you know that it's not the case. Can you persist on this journey? I sincerely believe that somewhere along the way, she is bound to stick by you when she realizes the stability that you can offer and that the sheen out there will wear out. Possible? Are you willing? If you are, go for it...Love, care, stability, security is something that is core in any marriage...be a part of it!

All the best!
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Hi sir i am 34 years i was started SIP 5000 in following category 1)Uti nifty 50 index fund 1000 (2) Parag parikh flexi cap 1000 (3) motilal oswal mid cap 500 (4) HDFC mid cap 500 (5) Nippon India small cap 1000 (6) bandhan small cap 1000 plz suggest my portfolio
Ans: You are 34 years old. That gives you long investment time.
You have started your SIP journey early. That is a strong first step.

You are investing Rs. 5,000 monthly in six different funds.
Your current SIP allocation covers different categories.
This includes index, flexi-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap funds.

Let’s now analyse your SIP portfolio from every angle.
We will keep it simple, professional, and easy to follow.

Portfolio Allocation Overview
Your SIP is spread as:

Rs. 1,000 in Nifty 50 Index Fund

Rs. 1,000 in Flexi Cap Fund

Rs. 1,000 in Mid Cap Fund A

Rs. 1,000 in Mid Cap Fund B

Rs. 1,000 in Small Cap Fund A

Rs. 1,000 in Small Cap Fund B

Total SIP = Rs. 6,000 monthly.
Let’s now assess each component.

Problems with Index Fund Allocation
You have invested in an index fund.
This is a passive fund. It copies an index like Nifty 50.

Disadvantages of index funds:

No active stock selection

Poor quality stocks can stay in portfolio

Cannot exit bad sectors during crisis

Cannot avoid risky or falling companies

Gives average market return, never better

No cushion during market crash

No fund manager to guide investments

Why actively managed funds are better:

Expert fund manager selects quality stocks

Regular review and change of holdings

Avoids weak performing sectors and stocks

Aims for higher return than index

Adjusts portfolio based on market and economy

Gives better risk-adjusted return over time

Action Point:

Stop SIP in index fund

Start SIP in an actively managed large-cap or flexi-cap fund

Choose through a certified financial planner for better planning

Direct Plans – A Serious Concern
If you are using direct funds, that is a problem.
You have not mentioned this, but we must explain.

Disadvantages of direct mutual funds:

No help from any MFD or Certified Financial Planner

No one to review performance regularly

You may not rebalance when needed

You may panic in market fall and withdraw early

You may miss new opportunities

No goal tracking or future value estimation

Why regular plans through MFD with CFP are better:

You get human guidance

Helps in emotional decisions during market panic

Portfolio review done every 6–12 months

Helps plan for goals like house, retirement, or child’s future

Tax planning done smartly

Helps increase SIP over time as income grows

Action Point:

If you are using direct funds, switch to regular funds

Take support from CFP-certified MFD

You will gain much more than the lower expense ratio of direct plans

Fund Overlap – Mid Cap and Small Cap
You are investing in:

Two mid cap funds

Two small cap funds

That creates overlap in risk and sectors.
Mid and small caps are more volatile.

Problems with duplication:

Same type of stocks in two funds

More funds, but not more diversification

Managing becomes harder

May dilute performance

Action Point:

Keep only one good mid cap fund

Keep only one small cap fund

Use saved SIP for a large and mid-cap or balanced fund

You are only 34.
So you can take exposure to mid and small cap.
But it must be balanced and structured.

Flexi Cap Fund – A Good Core Holding
Flexi cap fund is useful in any portfolio.
It allows fund manager to invest in all segments.
Large, mid, and small caps are all used smartly.

Benefits of Flexi Cap:

Offers diversification in one fund

Reduces need for too many funds

Fund manager moves across sectors and caps

Suitable for both beginners and long-term investors

Action Point:

Keep SIP in flexi cap fund

If possible, increase allocation slightly

Flexi cap can be your core portfolio fund.

Asset Allocation Gaps
You are fully invested in equity funds now.
This is okay for long-term goals only.

But you must create some balance.
Later, you will need debt or hybrid funds also.

Why asset allocation matters:

Equity gives growth, but is volatile

Debt gives stability, but low return

Mix of both gives smoother journey

Important during market crash or job loss

Action Point:

Add a balanced advantage fund when SIP increases

Use it to reduce portfolio risk gradually

Plan using help of a certified financial planner

Goal-Based Planning – Missing in Portfolio
Your current SIP does not mention your financial goals.
That is risky. Money without a goal is directionless.

Each SIP must have a purpose:

Buying house

Retirement planning

Child’s education

Emergency corpus

Vacation or vehicle

Without goal tagging, you may withdraw early
or may not know how much to invest.

Action Point:

Define your goals clearly

Tag each SIP to one goal

Estimate future cost of each goal

Adjust SIP amount every year as income grows

Monthly SIP Amount – Review and Plan
Rs. 6,000 SIP is a good start.
But you must increase it regularly.

You are 34. You may work for 25 more years.
You must save more every year.

Action Plan:

Increase SIP by 10% every year

Link SIP increase with salary increase

Shift extra SIP to funds suggested above

Review portfolio every 12 months

This will help build wealth in the long term.

Taxation Awareness
When you sell mutual funds in future, tax applies.
You must plan your redemptions properly.

Latest tax rules:

Long Term Capital Gain (LTCG) on equity above Rs. 1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%

Short Term Capital Gain (STCG) taxed at 20%

Debt mutual fund gain taxed as per income slab

Action Plan:

Track holding period of every SIP

Don’t sell early unless urgent

Redeem smartly after holding 1–3 years or more

Discuss tax impact with your CFP

Step-by-Step Suggestions
Exit index fund SIP

Stop duplicate mid cap and small cap SIPs

Retain one flexi cap fund

Increase SIP in flexi cap slowly

Add balanced fund as SIP grows

Define and tag goals clearly

Review portfolio once every year

Shift to regular plans via CFP-guided MFD

Avoid emotional withdrawals in market fall

Plan taxes before redemption

Increase SIP as income rises

Don’t add too many funds in future

Keep portfolio simple and balanced

Track and rebalance every year

Finally
You are on the right path.
You started early. That’s a huge advantage.

But your portfolio has overlapping funds.
And one passive index fund that limits growth.

Your asset allocation is tilted fully to equity.
That is fine for now. But not forever.

You also must link SIPs to your life goals.
Only then the journey becomes meaningful.

Direct plans and index funds don’t help long term.
They look cheap but lack planning support.

A certified financial planner will guide with clarity and direction.
SIPs must grow with your income and life needs.

Keep discipline. Avoid panic. Invest with purpose.
This is how you create wealth and peace.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jun 24, 2025

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i m 49 years old, earning 2L pm, I have a Hsg Loan of 55L, Car Loan of 10L & Education Loan of 21L, I m investing 40000 pm in Direct Stock SIP. I Have 54L in Mutual Funds, 60L in Equities, Have 1 office, 2 Homes, Have 25.65 L In PPF & FDR is 41L, I want to retire by 57? How to maxmise my Investment so that i van earn 2.5l pm after 57
Ans: You are 49 years old and earning Rs. 2 lakh per month. You want to retire at 57 and get Rs. 2.5 lakh per month after retirement.

You are investing Rs. 40,000 per month in direct stocks. You have loans totalling Rs. 86 lakh. You hold Rs. 54 lakh in mutual funds, Rs. 60 lakh in equities, Rs. 25.65 lakh in PPF, and Rs. 41 lakh in FDs. You also own one office and two homes.

This is a good base. You are doing many things well. Now, let us build a detailed 360-degree plan. The goal is to become debt-free, protect wealth, and build steady retirement income.

Clean Up and Prioritise Your Loans
Housing loan is Rs. 55 lakh. This is your biggest burden.

Car loan of Rs. 10 lakh is short-term. It doesn’t build assets.

Education loan of Rs. 21 lakh must also be cleared before retirement.

Your EMIs are reducing cash flow. They delay investments.

Action Plan:

Use your FD of Rs. 41 lakh to part-prepay loans.

First close the car and education loan.

Then reduce principal on the housing loan.

Don’t touch equity or mutual funds to close loans.

Loan interest rates are higher than FD returns. So, use FDs wisely to save interest.

Your Emergency Fund Must Be Defined
You have Rs. 41 lakh in FD. You don’t need to keep all.

Keep only 6 to 12 months of expenses:

Rs. 6–8 lakh is enough in liquid mutual funds.

Move the rest to medium-term hybrid funds.

This gives better returns than FD and keeps liquidity.

Your PPF is a Safety Net, Not Growth Engine
You have Rs. 25.65 lakh in PPF. That is very good.

PPF is safe. But it gives fixed return. It cannot beat inflation fully.

Action Plan:

Let PPF continue till maturity.

Don’t depend on it for major post-retirement cash flow.

Use it for emergency buffer or short income gaps.

It adds stability to your overall portfolio.

Direct Stocks Need Regular Supervision
You are investing Rs. 40,000 per month in direct stocks.

You also hold Rs. 60 lakh in equity stocks.

This is a large allocation. Direct stocks carry higher risk.

Action Plan:

Reduce new direct stock SIP to Rs. 10,000 monthly.

Shift Rs. 30,000 monthly into diversified mutual funds.

Review equity stocks every 6 months with a Certified Financial Planner.

This reduces concentration risk. And adds professional fund management.

Avoid Direct Mutual Funds, Shift to Regular With CFP
You didn’t mention if you use direct mutual funds. If yes, you must switch.

Problems with direct funds:

No expert guidance.

No goal tracking.

Emotional mistakes during market ups and downs.

Benefits of regular plans through CFP:

Professional reviews.

Help with goal mapping.

Timely switches and rebalancing.

You need clarity, not confusion, especially before retirement.

Stay Away from Index Funds
Index funds may look attractive. But they are not good at protecting wealth.

Problems with index funds:

No defence during market crashes.

No flexibility in asset allocation.

Blindly follow market without judgement.

Actively managed funds are better:

Skilled fund managers manage risk.

Can avoid weak sectors.

Have better long-term performance.

At this age, avoid passive investing.

Avoid Real Estate as Future Investment
You already own:

One office.

Two homes.

That is more than enough.

Don’t invest more in real estate:

Poor liquidity.

High maintenance.

No regular income.

Instead, build your retirement plan through mutual funds and debt-free assets.

Create Retirement Buckets Now
You want to retire at 57. You want Rs. 2.5 lakh per month income.

You need three buckets:

Growth Bucket:

Equity mutual funds.

For years 10–25 post-retirement.

Helps beat inflation.

Income Bucket:

Hybrid mutual funds with SWP.

Gives monthly income from age 57.

Safety Bucket:

Debt mutual funds.

For years 1–5 after retirement.

This model spreads your risk and builds income flow.

Use Your FD Money Smartly
You have Rs. 41 lakh in FD. Use it like this:

Rs. 8 lakh – emergency fund.

Rs. 10 lakh – pay off car and education loan.

Rs. 10 lakh – invest in hybrid mutual funds.

Rs. 13 lakh – slowly move to equity funds.

This gives you growth and also reduces debt.

Don’t let FD money sleep. Make it work.

Build Corpus for Retirement Income of Rs. 2.5 lakh Monthly
You have 8 years to retirement. You will need a large corpus.

Assume your target is Rs. 4–5 crore by age 57.

Your current assets can get you close:

Rs. 54 lakh in mutual funds.

Rs. 60 lakh in stocks.

Rs. 25 lakh in PPF.

Rs. 41 lakh in FD.

Office property may give rental income.

But loans reduce the compounding. So, clearing them is urgent.

What Monthly Investment Is Required Now
You must invest Rs. 75,000–1 lakh monthly for the next 8 years.

Suggested split:

Rs. 30,000 in diversified equity funds.

Rs. 20,000 in hybrid mutual funds.

Rs. 10,000 in debt mutual funds.

Rs. 10,000 in global or thematic funds.

Rs. 10,000 in healthcare or balanced advantage funds.

Don’t do this on your own. Do it with a Certified Financial Planner.

Don’t Depend on Rental Income Alone
You have two homes and an office. Rental income is not always stable.

Tenants may leave.

Property may remain vacant.

Maintenance and repairs are costly.

Keep real estate only for partial support. Not as main income source.

Start SWP Plan for Income After Retirement
Don’t use annuities. They lock your money and give low returns.

Use SWP (Systematic Withdrawal Plan) from mutual funds.

Advantages of SWP:

Fixed monthly income.

Tax-efficient structure.

Control over money.

Flexibility to change amount anytime.

Start SWP from age 57. Plan now to create the corpus.

Taxation After Retirement Needs Planning
Mutual funds have updated tax rules.

Equity mutual fund gains above Rs. 1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%.

Short-term gains taxed at 20%.

Debt mutual fund gains taxed as per income slab.

Use SWP from hybrid and debt funds to keep tax low.

Keep mutual fund withdrawals within limit to stay tax-efficient.

Don’t Forget Will and Nomination Planning
You have many assets. These must pass smoothly to family.

Write a Will now.

Update mutual fund nominations.

Add nominee in FDs and PPF.

Share asset list with spouse.

This prevents legal problems for your family later.

Check Your Health and Term Cover
You didn’t mention health insurance or term insurance.

If you don’t have:

Take family floater health cover of Rs. 20–25 lakh.

Add super top-up if needed.

Take term insurance till age 60 if family depends on you.

Insurance gives safety to your wealth plan.

Finally
You are in a powerful position. You have high income and many assets.

But loans, scattered assets, and stock exposure can reduce growth.

Take these actions now:

Clear loans with FD.

Reduce direct stock exposure.

Shift to mutual funds with guidance.

Build 3-bucket retirement plan.

Invest monthly with proper asset allocation.

Plan your SWP income after retirement.

Secure health and term insurance.

Make your Will and nominations today.

Retiring at 57 with Rs. 2.5 lakh monthly income is possible.

But only with discipline, action, and expert guidance.

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Chief Financial Planner,
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Hello sir, I've 1.2Cr home loan under construction,I do 1L ppf and 50k NPS. I'm looking to use 80EE exemption-50K on loan interest HRA-3L in old regime 54F- no capital gain tax 80C-1.5L old regime Please help to choose the correct regime suitable for me. (Salary -25+)
Ans: You’re taking wise steps with PPF, NPS, home loan, HRA, and capital gains goals. Let’s analyse thoroughly from a 360° financial and tax view.

Income and Deductions Overview

Your salary is Rs. 25+ lakhs per annum.

You contribute Rs. 1 lakh to PPF annually.

You also invest Rs. 50,000 in NPS yearly.

Home loan is Rs. 1.2 crore under construction.

You intend to use:

Section 80EE interest deduction up to Rs. 50,000.

HRA deduction of Rs. 3 lakh under old regime.

Section 54F to avoid capital gain tax.

Section 80C full limit of Rs. 1.5 lakh under old regime.

Understanding Both Tax Regimes

Let’s compare old and new tax regimes:

Old Regime

Higher tax slabs but allows full deductions.

You can claim PPF, NPS, home loan interest (section 80EE), HRA, 80C and 54F.

This lowers taxable income significantly.

New Regime

Lower tax slabs but fewer exemptions.

You lose deductions like HRA, 80C, 80EE, NPS (partial), 54F.

Only NPS under Section 80CCD(2) employer contribution is allowed.

Limited scope for reducing taxable income.

Deductions in Your Case

Let us evaluate critical deductions one by one:

1. Home Loan Interest (Section 80EE)

Eligible deduction up to Rs. 50,000 annually.

You are planning to claim this under old regime.

Under new regime, this deduction is not available.

2. HRA (House Rent Allowance)

You claim Rs. 3 lakh annually under old regime.

Not allowed under new regime.

3. Section 54F (Capital Gain Exemption)

If you sell any long-term asset and invest in home, you can save capital gains tax entirely.

Applicable under old regime only.

4. Section 80C Deduction

Total of Rs. 1.5 lakh including PPF, ELSS, life insurance premium, EPF etc.

You invest Rs. 1 lakh in PPF.

Remainder can be filled with approved instruments.

Old regime allows this full deduction, new regime does not.

5. 80CCD (NPS)

You invest Rs. 50,000 in NPS.

This comes under 80CCD(1B), allowed in old regime.

New regime only allows employer contribution (section 80CCD(2)), not employee’s.

Tax Impact Comparison

Your situation is well aligned for old regime benefits.
You have multiple deductions resulting in significant tax relief.

Under Old Regime You Can Claim:

Home loan interest under 80EE.

Full HRA up to Rs. 3 lakh.

Full 80C deduction of Rs. 1.5 lakh.

Section 54F if capital gains arise and are reinvested.

NPS under 80CCD(1B).

This makes your taxable income much lower.

Under New Regime:

You lose HRA, 80C, 80EE, 54F, NPS deductions.

Only basic exemption and standard deduction apply.

Tax will be higher due to loss of deductions.

You would pay far higher taxes under new regime than old.

Other Financial Planning Considerations

Let us now look beyond taxes to ensure your financial strength grows.

Emergency Fund

Maintain at least six months of household expenses.

Ideal corpus would be Rs. 3–5 lakh given your loan obligations.

Use liquid mutual funds or bank deposits.

Do not touch this for non-emergency.

Home Loan Strategy

Home loan under construction means you can claim interest only after possession for income tax.

But for tax planning, you can estimate future deductions.

After possession, allocate max interest under 80EE and HRA if you rent.

Continue PPF and NPS simultaneously to sustain deductions.

Retirement Corpus

You already invest in PPF and NPS.

That is a good retirement foundation.

You may also start SIP in actively managed equity mutual funds, via regular plans.

This helps grow retirement wealth beyond PPF/NPS.

Avoid index funds. They deliver only average returns. Actively managed funds adapt to market cycles.

Why Prefer Regular Plans via CFP Over Direct Funds

As your Certified Financial Planner, I ensure your portfolio is reviewed regularly.

Regular plans give guidance, rebalancing, and goal tracking.

Direct plans require you to handle rebalancing and timing alone.

Investors in direct plans often make emotional mistakes, like entering or exiting at wrong times.

With a CFP, you get discipline and professional support.

Scenario Examples

Let us see how things fit:

If You Choose Old Regime:

You get Rs. 1 lakh PPF, Rs. 50k NPS, Rs. 50k home loan interest, Rs. 3 lakh HRA, Rs. 1.5 lakh 80C, and 54F benefits.

Your taxable income drops significantly.

Likely lower total tax than new regime.

If You Choose New Regime:

Only standard deduction and no other exemptions.

You lose Rs. ~6–7 lakh worth of deductions.

Taxable income increases and tax liability rises.

Since your deductions exceed the increased tax difference, old regime is financially wiser.

Practical Steps for You

Choose Old Regime for this financial year.

Continue PPF and NPS contributions.

Claim home loan interest under 80EE.

Maintain HRA records to claim Rs. 3 lakh.

Plan 54F use when you sell assets and invest in property.

Track total investment under 80C and ensure full allocation.

After home possession, still claim interest under section 24 and HRA if renting.

Additional Growth and Protection Plans

Looking ahead, also consider these 360° aspects:

Insurance Needs

Ensure you have life cover and health insurance.

If no term plan exists, buy pure term plan for minimum Rs. 1 crore.

Have family floater health policy with Rs. 5–10 lakh cover.

Accident cover is inexpensive but useful.

Retirement SIPs

Add actively managed equity SIPs of Rs. 5k–10k if cash flow allows.

Keep old regime until major deductions are consistently used.

Revisit regime option every year.

Loan Repayment Strategy

After possession, consider increasing EMI or making lump sum prepayment when possible.

Reducing loan principal reduces total interest and speeds up debt-free status.

Emergency Corpus Build-Up

Set aside monthly savings for emergencies.

Ideal to reach at least Rs. 3 lakh.

Use for sudden job loss or medical crisis.

Final Insights

Old regime suits your situation best due to strong deduction profile.

Continue as you are with PPF, NPS, home loan interest and HRA claims.

Use 54F when capital gains arise and reinvest.

Stick to actively managed mutual funds via regular plans for growth.

Strengthen insurance, emergency corpus and loan repayment.

Review this annually and adjust as your situation changes.

Your planning is strong and thoughtful. With disciplined execution now, you can enhance tax savings and build long-term wealth. Should we work on balancing cash flow post-construction or selecting mutual fund categories next?

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 24, 2025Hindi
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Hi, Im 30y old and married, Ive one kid who is 2.6y old. Im planning to buy a house via loan next year consodering my current expenses and investments is it good approach to take the flat next year? My inhand salary post tax deduction 1.08L My expenses and investments as below Rent: 12k Household expenses:18k Mutual Funds SIP: 18k(current accumulated amount is 2.16L) Stocks:1.38L Emergency fund: 20k RD deposit(accumulated 1.3L) Sukanya samridhi yogana:3.5k monthly(44k accumulated so far) Liquid savings:10k monthly(for my daughter education) Cheeti: 17k monthly(its for 20 monthly,completed 9 monthly after 20 monthly amount credited is 4L) LIC: Monthly 4k(Paid 5 years, 11 more years to be paid yearly premium is 45k) Please advise how well I can manage my savings and im planning to buy a flat how can I achieve that considering the current expenses and savings. Thanks in advance
Ans: You’ve shown great discipline in managing savings, family needs, and future goals at just 30.

Let us evaluate your financial readiness, the impact of a home loan, and how to adjust wisely.

This assessment will guide you from all angles—cash flow, liquidity, investment health, and protection.

Income, Expenses, and Monthly Surplus
In-hand income after tax is Rs 1.08 lakh.

Monthly rent is Rs 12,000.

Household expenses are Rs 18,000.

Mutual fund SIPs are Rs 18,000.

LIC premium is Rs 4,000.

Chit fund contribution is Rs 17,000.

Sukanya Samriddhi deposit is Rs 3,500.

Liquid savings for daughter is Rs 10,000.

These monthly outflows total around Rs 82,500.

Your monthly balance is only around Rs 25,000.

This makes your budget tight for handling any large EMI.

Mutual Fund SIPs — Continue with Discipline
Rs 18,000 SIP shows excellent saving behaviour.

Current mutual fund corpus is Rs 2.16 lakh.

Please continue these SIPs through regular plans via MFD with CFP support.

Avoid direct mutual funds. They give no handholding, no alerts, no correction strategies.

Direct plans look cheap, but they lack timely guidance.

Investors panic during market falls and exit direct plans wrongly.

Regular plans help you stay invested with a CFP guiding your risk.

Avoid index funds too. They follow market passively and offer no downside protection.

Index funds underperform when markets fall or stay flat.

Actively managed mutual funds are better with professional decision-making.

They adjust sector exposure based on economy and risk cycles.

Stocks and Equity Exposure
You have Rs 1.38 lakh in stocks.

This is a good experience builder.

However, limit direct equity exposure to 10% of total assets.

Stock markets need time and research.

Let mutual funds handle most of your equity investment.

Emergency Fund Is Too Low
You currently have Rs 20,000 as emergency corpus.

This is insufficient for a family with a child.

Target at least Rs 1.5–2 lakh as safety reserve.

Use a liquid fund or short-term debt fund to build this.

Emergency fund protects you from job loss, health issue or delay in income.

RD Corpus — Use it Wisely
RD balance of Rs 1.3 lakh is decent for short-term goal.

It’s not suitable for long-term growth.

Use it partially for your house down payment.

Once RD matures, allocate half to mutual funds and half to emergency fund.

Sukanya Samriddhi Account
Rs 3,500 monthly is being contributed.

Accumulated corpus is Rs 44,000.

Good long-term step, but SSY is illiquid till 18 years.

Returns are also fixed and not inflation-adjusted fully.

Don’t increase investment here. Continue as is.

Better to put fresh long-term savings in equity mutual funds.

Liquid Savings for Child Education
You save Rs 10,000 monthly for daughter’s education.

You’re doing great with that intention.

But liquid savings may give only 3–4% returns.

Shift this to a hybrid equity mutual fund.

It gives better growth with moderate risk.

As your daughter grows, this corpus can support quality education.

Chit Fund Contribution
Rs 17,000 monthly for 20 months is ongoing.

9 months are completed.

On maturity, you’ll receive around Rs 4 lakh.

Chits are risky, unregulated, and lack transparency.

You can use this Rs 4 lakh as part of your down payment.

After maturity, avoid rejoining any new chit.

Mutual funds are safer, flexible and goal-oriented.

LIC Policy — Reconsider and Reallocate
You pay Rs 4,000 monthly towards LIC.

5 years completed, 11 more years remain.

Annual premium is Rs 45,000.

This is most likely an investment-cum-insurance plan.

Such policies offer poor returns, usually less than 5%.

Surrender now and reinvest in mutual funds.

Take a pure term plan separately for life cover.

LIC traditional plans lock your money and give low value at maturity.

Buying a Flat Next Year — Readiness Check
Buying a home is emotional, but let’s stay financial while assessing it.

Down Payment Readiness
You need to fund around 20% of flat price + registration.

Flat worth Rs 40 lakh needs Rs 8–10 lakh upfront.

Your chit fund will give Rs 4 lakh.

RD + mutual fund corpus adds Rs 3.5 lakh.

You’ll still need Rs 2–3 lakh more.

Start saving Rs 20,000 monthly for next 10 months.

EMI Capacity and Loan Readiness
With Rs 25,000 surplus monthly, you can afford Rs 20,000 EMI.

But this removes your safety cushion.

During initial loan years, reduce SIPs to Rs 10,000.

Post 2–3 years, increase it again once comfortable.

Maintain emergency fund before committing EMI.

Don't rely on LIC maturity or chit reinvestment to manage EMI.

Loan Tenure Planning
Don’t stretch loan beyond 15–20 years.

Longer loans increase total interest outgo.

Choose fixed or reducing interest options.

Check foreclosure charges, if any.

Prefer prepayment after emergency fund is strong.

Term Insurance and Health Cover
You didn’t mention life insurance apart from LIC.

Please take term insurance of at least Rs 1 crore.

This protects your child and spouse financially.

Also, take a family floater health cover of Rs 10 lakh.

Medical emergencies should not eat into your savings.

Realigning Financial Flow
Let’s adjust current strategy for better results:

Surrender LIC, save Rs 4,000 monthly.

Stop chit fund after maturity, save Rs 17,000 monthly.

Build emergency corpus, save Rs 1.5 lakh over next 6–8 months.

Protect yourself with term and health cover.

Shift liquid savings and RD maturity to hybrid/equity mutual funds.

Continue SSY but don’t increase investment in it.

Pause SIP temporarily if loan starts, but restart in 2 years.

Capital Gains Tax Rules for Mutual Funds
If you redeem mutual funds for flat purchase, be aware:

Long-term equity gains above Rs 1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%.

Short-term equity gains taxed at 20%.

Debt mutual funds are taxed as per your income slab.

Plan redemptions in a staggered manner.

Avoid sudden bulk withdrawals from mutual funds.

Steps for Next 12 Months
Take these steps now to be ready for next year:

Build Rs 2 lakh in emergency fund.

Save Rs 2–3 lakh more for down payment.

Close chit and redirect that amount to mutual funds.

Take term insurance immediately.

Take family health insurance.

Don’t buy new policies from LIC or any other insurer.

Avoid any new direct stock investments.

Continue mutual funds through MFD and CFP-guided regular plans.

Final Insights
You have good savings habits and long-term thinking.

Your expenses are controlled. You’re focused on family security and stability.

But current savings are too scattered. Efficiency is low due to illiquid and underperforming products.

Avoid chit funds, LIC, and liquid-only strategies. Shift to structured mutual fund investments.

Protect your family with insurance before taking any home loan.

Buying a flat is possible next year if you plan now.

You need 6–8 months of focused savings and safety net.

With proper support from a Certified Financial Planner, your journey will stay smooth.

Please don’t choose index funds or direct mutual funds. They are riskier without expert support.

Stick with actively managed regular mutual funds. Let a CFP track and guide every goal.

This ensures peace of mind, even after the EMI starts.

Build your plan, not just your flat.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 23, 2025Hindi
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Iam 43yrs old & my husband is 50yrs old.Our monthly expenditure is Rs 25000 permonth.We have 5lacs amount health insurance. We are child free,no loans and living our own house.How much money we need to save for retirement & oldage?We have FD,Ppf &emergency fund for 6 months. We don't want to invest in mutual funds, sip & stock market.Kindly guide what amount is needed for both of us for retirement &oldage. Thanks in advance.
Ans: You both are in a good position now.

You have:

No loans

Own house

Emergency fund

FD and PPF

Low monthly expenses

No dependents

Clear preference to avoid equity market

That gives peace of mind.
Now let’s create a full retirement and old age plan for both of you.

Estimating Your Retirement Needs
Your current age: 43

Your husband’s age: 50

Monthly spending: Rs. 25,000

Annual spending: Rs. 3,00,000

Retirement can start in 10 to 15 years

Life expectancy: plan for up to age 85 or 90

You need money that will:

Cover living cost

Manage health expenses

Beat inflation

Stay safe from risks

Support you for 30 years after retirement

So, we need to estimate future cost first.

Understanding Impact of Inflation
Rs. 25,000 today may become Rs. 50,000 in 15 years

That’s because of inflation

Healthcare inflation is even higher

Your monthly expense after 15 years may be Rs. 50,000

Yearly expense will be Rs. 6,00,000

This Rs. 6,00,000 is not fixed.
It will keep increasing each year.

So, your retirement fund should:

Support rising costs

Give regular income

Be easily accessible

Be low risk

Target Retirement Corpus
For a peaceful retired life:

You need at least Rs. 1.5 crore to Rs. 2 crore

This will support you till age 85 or 90

This range considers healthcare and inflation

It also assumes you don’t want mutual funds

If you live longer or if costs rise more:
Then Rs. 2.5 crore may give better comfort

This is not just one-time saving
You can build it slowly in the next 10–15 years

Where to Invest Safely
Since you avoid market-linked investments:
We will stick to Government-backed and safe options

1. PPF – Public Provident Fund
Very good for long-term saving

Gives tax-free returns

Lock-in is 15 years

You can extend in 5-year blocks after that

Invest up to Rs. 1.5 lakh per year per person

Continue investing till retirement

Use both your and husband’s PPF accounts

2. Post Office Time Deposits
Safe and gives fixed interest

Choose 5-year deposit option

Reinvest interest if not needed

You can ladder deposits at different intervals

3. Senior Citizens Savings Scheme (SCSS)
Use after age 60

Can be opened in post office or bank

Gives good fixed interest

Joint account allowed

Interest paid quarterly

Maximum limit per person is fixed

4. Post Office Monthly Income Scheme (POMIS)
Gives monthly income from interest

Suitable after retirement

Can be opened in joint name

Combine it with other schemes for income

5. RBI Floating Rate Savings Bonds
Tenure is 7 years

Gives interest every 6 months

Rate changes every 6 months

Good for medium term savings

Safe as backed by RBI

Health Insurance – Must Be Reviewed
Your current cover is Rs. 5 lakh

This is low for two people above age 40

Hospitalisation costs are rising fast

One illness can exhaust entire cover

Action Plan:

Buy a top-up health insurance of Rs. 10–15 lakh

It will cover costs beyond base policy

Premium is low if taken now

Also consider critical illness rider

Take individual or family floater as per suitability

Emergency Fund – Maintain Continuously
You already have 6-month emergency fund

That is very good

Keep it in sweep-in FD or short-term RD

Use only for medical or urgent needs

Review every year

Income Planning Post Retirement
After retirement, your savings must give monthly income.

Create 3 Buckets:

1. Short Term – 1 to 2 years

Keep in FD or savings

For daily expenses

2. Medium Term – 3 to 7 years

Use 5-year time deposits

Use SCSS and POMIS

3. Long Term – 8 to 20 years

Use PPF maturity

Use floating rate bonds

Reinvest matured deposits

This bucket system helps manage income flow easily.

Taxation in Retirement
Interest from FD, SCSS, and POMIS is taxable

PPF maturity is tax-free

Plan withdrawals to stay below taxable slabs

Use both PANs to split income

You can claim senior citizen tax rebates

Use Form 15H if income is below exemption

Asset Protection and Nomination
Ensure all accounts have nominations

Keep joint names where possible

Maintain written records of investments

Store documents in safe folder

Share details with spouse

Make a simple Will if needed

Regular Review of Plan
Your financial plan should not be rigid.

Review it every 2–3 years

Update if costs increase

Track inflation and healthcare costs

Make sure your documents and health cover are valid

If you ever feel the need to grow faster:
Then you may consider 5–10% exposure in safe mutual funds
But only after talking to a certified financial planner
For now, focus on safe and steady savings

If You Change Mind About Mutual Funds Later
You currently avoid mutual funds. That is respected.
But just in case you consider it in future:

Avoid direct funds. Why?

They give no guidance

You have to manage portfolio alone

There is no review support

Wrong actions in panic can cause big losses

Regular funds through a certified MFD offer:

Human support

Emotional discipline

Goal-based approach

Portfolio tracking and rebalancing

So always invest with a certified financial planner
If you ever open mutual fund SIPs in future

Step-by-Step Plan for You Now
Save regularly in PPF

Add new 5-year time deposits every year

Track and review your FDs

Buy Rs. 10 lakh top-up health insurance

Build SCSS and POMIS buckets after age 60

Use RBI bonds for long-term support

Keep emergency fund updated

Don’t keep money idle in savings account

Plan for monthly income structure post-retirement

Create nominations and written financial record

Finally
You both are already ahead in terms of clarity and discipline.
No loans, no dependents, and your own house is a strong foundation.

Now your goal is to save enough to maintain this peace forever.
Rs. 1.5 crore to Rs. 2 crore will give that stability.
It must be saved and spread across safe options over next 10–15 years.

You don’t need mutual funds or shares if your comfort is in safety.
But you do need consistent saving, reviewing, and health protection.

Take simple steps. Avoid complex or high-return promises.
Stay with Government-backed and time-tested choices.
Let your lifestyle stay simple and your future secure.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 23, 2025Hindi
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Sir I am 50 years old male having CTC of 70 LPA in private non pensionable job, wife is government employee with 20 LPA salary with pensionable job Investing 70 K per month in MF with portfolio of 1.3 cr, PPF of 22 lakhs in both account, Four LIC policies, Family Star Health Cover of 15 lakh and Term plan of 50 lakh each. Having 35 Lakhs in Salary Saving account with 7 lakh in FD with some physical gold ornaments of 30 lakhs and property of 1cr How to plan rest of career and retirement
Ans: At age 50, with a strong income and asset base, you are in a good position. Your wife has a government pension. You have no mention of loans. This is excellent.

You are investing Rs. 70,000 monthly in mutual funds. Your mutual fund portfolio is Rs. 1.3 crore. You have Rs. 22 lakh in PPF. You also have four LIC policies. There is Rs. 35 lakh in a savings account and Rs. 7 lakh in FD. You also hold Rs. 30 lakh worth of physical gold and own property worth Rs. 1 crore.

Let’s now plan the rest of your working career and your retirement years step by step. This plan is 360-degree. It focuses on protection, investments, cash flow, retirement income, and legacy.

Build a Strong Emergency Fund First
You must protect against job loss or health crisis.

You already have Rs. 35 lakh in savings.

Keep only Rs. 6 to 9 lakh as emergency fund.

Shift the rest to suitable debt mutual funds.

This gives better returns than a bank account. But it remains safe and accessible.

Review and Strengthen Insurance Cover
Your current health cover is Rs. 15 lakh for family.

You need at least Rs. 30 lakh now. Include super top-up.

Health care costs are rising every year.

Your term insurance is Rs. 50 lakh each.

At your income level, this is low.

You should increase your cover to at least Rs. 1.5 crore.

Take cover only till age 60.

Your wife has a pension. But if anything happens to you before that, term insurance will protect her future.

Check All LIC Policies in Detail
You hold four LIC policies. These must be reviewed closely.

If they are:

Traditional endowment plans,

Money-back policies, or

Investment-cum-insurance plans,

Then they are not suitable now. These plans give low returns (around 4–5%). They lock your money. They mix insurance with investment.

Suggested action:

Surrender policies after checking surrender value.

Reinvest the amount into mutual funds.

Take help from a Certified Financial Planner.

This will improve returns and simplify your investments.

Evaluate Your Mutual Fund Portfolio
You are investing Rs. 70,000 monthly in mutual funds. You already have Rs. 1.3 crore invested.

That is a strong and valuable base. But it must be reviewed.

Key things to check:

Are you holding too many funds?

Are any funds consistently underperforming?

Is your asset allocation correct?

A Certified Financial Planner can help review and clean your portfolio.

Prefer Actively Managed Funds Over Index Funds
You must avoid index funds now. They are not suitable for serious wealth goals.

Disadvantages of index funds:

No human decision-making.

Cannot exit weak sectors.

Follows the market blindly.

Benefits of actively managed funds:

Fund manager adjusts based on market changes.

Can avoid bad companies.

Can protect during market crashes.

At this life stage, protect your capital. Don’t leave it to chance.

Avoid Direct Funds, Choose Regular Funds With CFP Guidance
Direct mutual funds save on expense ratio. But they don’t give advice.

Problems with direct funds:

No help during market corrections.

Hard to do rebalancing yourself.

No support for goal-based planning.

Advantages of regular funds through a Certified Financial Planner:

Better fund selection.

Risk management.

Rebalancing when needed.

Your large portfolio deserves expert attention.

How to Use Your Rs. 35 Lakh in Bank
This cash is underperforming. You should not let money sleep.

Suggested plan:

Keep Rs. 6–9 lakh as emergency.

Move Rs. 8–10 lakh to debt mutual funds.

Invest Rs. 15–20 lakh in hybrid mutual funds.

This balance helps with short and medium-term goals. And reduces tax.

Avoid putting this money in real estate. It is illiquid and costly.

PPF Can Be Held As Low-Risk Asset
You both have Rs. 22 lakh in PPF. Continue till maturity.

PPF is safe. But it is not enough for retirement alone.

Do not over-allocate here. Limit future contributions to Rs. 1.5 lakh per person per year.

Use mutual funds more for long-term growth.

Convert Physical Gold to Productive Assets
You hold gold worth Rs. 30 lakh. Gold is good for safety. But it doesn’t grow or pay income.

Issues with gold:

Price is volatile.

No regular income.

Risk of theft or damage.

Suggested steps:

Keep Rs. 5–8 lakh for emotional value.

Sell rest in small parts.

Invest proceeds in mutual funds.

Do this over 1–2 years. Don’t rush the exit.

You Don’t Need New Property Investment
You already own Rs. 1 crore property.

Avoid more property purchases. Reasons:

Long holding period.

Low liquidity.

High transaction cost.

Maintenance hassles.

Use mutual funds instead. They are flexible and tax-efficient.

Define Retirement Goals and Timeline
You are 50 now. Let’s say you want to retire at 60.

Ask yourself:

What monthly income do you want after retirement?

How much do you need every year till age 85 or 90?

Will you downsize your lifestyle later?

Answering this helps define your retirement corpus target.

Estimate Future Expenses and Inflation
Let’s assume you want Rs. 2 lakh per month after retirement. In future, due to inflation, you may need Rs. 3–3.5 lakh monthly.

So, your retirement corpus must be large enough.

You must build this from:

Mutual fund corpus.

PPF maturity.

Converted gold value.

SWP income.

Your wife’s pension will help. But don’t depend only on that.

How to Structure Your Retirement Portfolio
Divide your retirement assets in three parts:

Growth Bucket:

Equity mutual funds.

For next 15–20 years.

Income Bucket:

Hybrid mutual funds with SWP.

Start post retirement.

Safety Bucket:

Debt mutual funds.

For early retirement years.

This approach gives you income, stability, and long-term growth.

Set a Monthly Retirement SIP Plan
You are investing Rs. 70,000 monthly. Increase this by 10% every year.

Split like this:

Rs. 40,000 in equity mutual funds.

Rs. 20,000 in hybrid funds.

Rs. 10,000 in short-term debt funds.

This gives a balanced risk and reward structure.

Understand Retirement Taxation
From 2024, mutual fund taxation is updated.

Equity mutual fund gains above Rs. 1.25 lakh per year are taxed at 12.5%.

Short-term equity gains are taxed at 20%.

Debt mutual fund gains taxed as per income slab.

You can use SWP post retirement to manage tax impact better.

Avoid annuity plans. They are not flexible and give low return.

Write Your Will and Do Estate Planning
You are building assets. You must plan for easy handover.

Write a simple Will now.

Mention all assets, insurance, mutual funds, property.

Register the Will legally.

Keep copies with trusted people.

Also ensure all nominations are updated.

This protects your family and avoids legal trouble later.

Work-Life Planning Beyond Money
Decide when you want to stop working.

Think about what you want to do after retirement.

You can also do part-time or consulting work.

Keep your mind and health active post 60.

Plan finances so that you have freedom and no pressure.

Review Everything Every Year
Once you set the plan, do regular reviews:

Check mutual fund performance.

Review goals and allocations.

Increase SIP with income growth.

Shift from equity to debt as retirement nears.

Get annual review from a Certified Financial Planner.

This helps you stay on track and take better decisions.

Finally
You are doing very well. You are 50, with high income and strong assets. But now is the time to protect and grow wisely.

Review LIC and insurance first.

Use idle cash for better returns.

Don’t invest in more property.

Convert part of gold into mutual funds.

Build a structured retirement plan with clear buckets.

Avoid index funds and direct funds.

Take guidance from a Certified Financial Planner regularly.

This is your most powerful earning phase. With the right actions, your retirement can be peaceful, independent, and stress-free.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 24, 2025Hindi
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I am 40 years old, having a income of 1.36 lakhs a month excluding EPFO and NPS. Having a home loan of 80L, paying a EMI of 1L per month. Getting a rental income of 9k. EPFO savings are 12L. In mutual funds 5L. No other savings. My regular maintenance is becoming difficult, I have no children yet.
Ans: At 40, with a stable income and EPFO corpus, you have already laid some foundation. However, your current cash flow strain due to home loan EMI needs focused restructuring. Let’s go through your financial life from a full 360-degree angle and offer simple, practical guidance.

Monthly Income and Loan Commitments

You earn Rs. 1.36 lakhs monthly (excluding EPFO and NPS).

Rental income adds Rs. 9,000, so total monthly inflow is Rs. 1.45 lakhs.

Your EMI is Rs. 1 lakh per month. That’s nearly 69% of your monthly inflow.

This is a very high EMI-to-income ratio.

This pressure is affecting your monthly maintenance and savings.

Assessment:

Your current EMI eats away most of your cash flow.

This creates stress in regular budgeting and long-term savings.

There is a need to reduce fixed monthly obligations.

EPFO Savings Review

You have Rs. 12 lakhs in EPFO.

This is your long-term retirement reserve.

Do not touch this corpus unless there is a real emergency.

EPFO grows slowly but safely with compounding.

Continue contributions as it builds a pension safety net.

Do not treat this as liquid wealth. It is your retirement pillar.

Mutual Fund Investments Assessment

You have Rs. 5 lakhs in mutual funds.

This is a valuable liquid asset in your current situation.

You didn’t mention SIP or type of funds, so we will give a general insight.

Suggestions:

If the funds are sectoral or thematic, consider exiting them.

If the funds are actively managed diversified equity, hold them.

Avoid using this fund for daily expenses unless very urgent.

This Rs. 5 lakh is your flexible reserve. Keep it for liquidity planning.

Do not redeem all at once unless EMI crisis worsens.

Loan Burden and Cash Flow Structuring

Right now, the EMI burden is your biggest concern.

Insights:

Rs. 1 lakh EMI on Rs. 1.45 lakh income is risky.

You are left with only Rs. 45,000 for all expenses and savings.

That gap causes stress in your monthly living.

Options to Consider:

Explore extending home loan tenure to reduce EMI.

Even if it increases total interest, it gives you breathing space.

You can prepay partially once income improves later.

Talk to your bank about EMI restructuring or balance transfer.

A lower EMI now will improve your monthly cash position.

No Children Yet – Opportunity to Stabilise Finances

Without kids, you have fewer financial liabilities for now.

This is a good time to correct your financial base.

Suggestions:

Use this phase to reduce debt and build savings.

Plan for children’s future only after stabilising your monthly flow.

Build an emergency fund slowly for any upcoming life change.

Maintain health insurance to cover any medical risk.

Emergency Fund – Build Slowly and Steadily

You have not built an emergency fund yet.

With a high EMI, emergency funds become even more important.

Steps to Build It:

Target Rs. 1.5 to Rs. 2 lakhs as first milestone.

Begin by saving Rs. 5,000 to Rs. 7,000 monthly.

Keep it in a liquid mutual fund or sweep-in FD.

Do not touch it for any non-emergency reason.

No Mention of Insurance – This Needs Immediate Action

You haven’t mentioned life or health insurance. This is risky.

Life Insurance:

You need a term insurance policy urgently.

Coverage should be minimum Rs. 50 lakhs to Rs. 1 crore.

Buy a pure term plan. Do not combine insurance with investment.

This will protect your family if anything happens to you.

Health Insurance:

Buy a standalone health policy, minimum Rs. 5 to 10 lakhs.

Don’t depend only on employer insurance (if any).

Medical emergencies can drain your mutual fund or EPFO.

Accident Cover:

Consider a low-cost personal accident policy.

Covers disability or injury. Helps in case of work loss.

Expense Management Tips

With a tight EMI, cutting unnecessary costs becomes vital.

Suggestions:

Track all monthly expenses. Cut any luxury or non-essential spends.

Avoid credit card EMIs or personal loans.

Set a monthly spending limit for lifestyle costs.

Focus on cash-based budgeting till EMI burden is eased.

Do not borrow more for investment or luxury.

Future Financial Planning – Step by Step

Let’s now look at the mid and long-term strategy:

Short Term Goals (Next 1-3 Years):

Reduce EMI to manageable level.

Build Rs. 2 lakh emergency fund.

Start small SIPs again once EMI is reduced.

Mid Term Goals (3-7 Years):

Plan for children if you wish to start a family.

Create a health reserve corpus separately.

Increase SIP gradually as EMI burden comes down.

Long Term Goals (After 7+ Years):

Continue growing your EPFO.

Add mutual fund SIPs for retirement.

Target equity funds with active management.

Avoid index funds. They don’t give outperformance.

You need active fund managers to manage market changes.

Why Actively Managed Mutual Funds Are Better Than Index Funds

Let us clarify some important points.

Disadvantages of Index Funds:

Index funds just follow the market. No decisions are made by experts.

They include bad-performing stocks also.

No protection in down market cycles.

Returns are average, not optimal.

Benefits of Actively Managed Funds:

Skilled fund managers pick quality stocks.

Bad performers can be removed.

Fund strategy changes with market conditions.

Better for long-term wealth and goal-specific plans.

You should always choose regular plans through Certified Financial Planner.
Direct mutual funds may look cheaper but come with hidden risks.

Why Avoid Direct Mutual Funds Route

Many investors think direct funds give better returns. This is half truth.

Disadvantages of Direct Funds:

You lose personal tracking and guidance.

No help for portfolio correction or goal mapping.

Most direct investors underperform due to bad timing decisions.

Emotional decisions ruin long-term goals.

Why Choose Regular Plan via Certified Financial Planner:

You get guidance and regular review.

Risk tolerance and goals are aligned correctly.

Portfolio rebalancing is done smartly.

Errors are avoided, saving more in long run.

Taxation Awareness for Mutual Fund Investments

Since you hold equity mutual funds, be aware of the latest tax rule:

Long-term capital gains (LTCG) above Rs. 1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%.

Short-term gains taxed at 20%.

Debt fund gains are taxed as per your income slab.

Don’t redeem funds blindly. Use them only after tax check.
A Certified Financial Planner helps you with better tax-efficient planning.

Step-by-Step Action Plan for You

Speak with your home loan provider. Check if EMI can be reduced.

Create Rs. 5,000 monthly emergency fund plan.

Pause all new investments till EMI becomes manageable.

Buy a Rs. 50 lakh term life insurance plan urgently.

Get Rs. 5 lakh family floater health insurance today.

Do not redeem your mutual funds now. Hold as emergency support.

Avoid further real estate buying. Focus only on repaying this loan.

Avoid risky investments, direct equity or trading.

Once EMI is reduced, resume SIPs in active mutual funds.

Stay invested through regular plans guided by a CFP.

Reassess your plan every 6 to 12 months.

Finally

You have already taken brave steps by investing and managing a home loan alone.
But the current EMI burden is too high for healthy financial life.
Focus on correcting the loan EMI, protecting with insurance, and building emergency savings.
Do not let market noises push you into wrong investments now.
Take one step at a time, with clarity and calmness.
Your financial recovery and growth are possible with small but steady actions.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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