I am married for 15 years .my husband has relationship with his asst since 7 years.i came to know recently.he denies.we don't have kids.i love him.whats Good for me .leave him or any other option

Ans: I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this situation with your husband. It's understandable that you feel hurt and confused about where you stand in your relationship.

First and foremost, you have to prioritize your own well-being and happiness. You deserve to be in a relationship where you feel respected, loved, and secure. It's important to have a conversation with your husband and express your feelings about the situation. Let him know how his behavior has affected you and your relationship. Be clear about what you expect from him moving forward.

It's also important to set boundaries and make sure that they are respected. If you feel uncomfortable with him seeing or talking to the other woman, let him know that it's not acceptable. Consider seeking the help of a couples therapist or a marriage counselor to work through the issues in your relationship and communicate effectively.

Ultimately, it's up to your husband to end the relationship with the other woman and commit to your marriage. If he continues to choose the other woman over you, it may be time to reevaluate your relationship and decide what's best for you in the long run. Remember, you deserve to be happy and have a fulfilling relationship.

Ans: No you certainly are not “doing correct”! Here’s a good man who loves you and treats you well and has forgiven your indiscretions and still you want someone else? You agreed to marry, right - no one put a gun to your head. Now honour that commitment and stop being so fickle-minded. At 23, your boyfriend is really young and immature. Right now you’re all hot and heavy, but give it a minute; realistically your relationship is unlikely to survive in the long run. And you want to hurt your husband and walk out on your marriage for nothing…he’s only ever treated you right. Don’t be a fool!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Whether you want the marriage or not is your decision. Obviously, you are hurt and sad and disappointed on being cheated upon.
And the best decision seems to walk out. But parents do not want that for their daughter...it's an emotional time!

Rather than being impulsive, be smart about it. Talk to a lawyer who can advise you on how the terms of separation must be where your rights and those of the children will be protected. Your husband will have to take on that responsibility. So, you need to also think of your children's welfare in the midst of all your emotions. Difficult, but so needed right now. So, seek the support of your parents in this...they may not want to support BUT if you are sure that you want a divorce, find a good lawyer who can guide you appropriately.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Ans: Dear Yukti,

If you are having some doubt, chances are there have been signs that made you think so. The best case scenario is to ask him again and if his explanations don't align, please reconsider this relationship. You are not obligated to stay with a man who is making you paranoid.

I am sorry I cannot be of much help because I am not clear on the dynamics of your relationship. Are you separated, are you divorced, do your partners know about your relationships, everything matters.

Best Wishes.