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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jul 16, 2024

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 03, 2024Hindi

Relationship

I am married for 15 years .my husband has relationship with his asst since 7 years.i came to know recently.he denies.we don't have kids.i love him.whats Good for me .leave him or any other option

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am sure that must have been shocking. When you got to know about the relationship of your husband with his assistant, did you confront your husband with it?
If Yes, what did he have to say? Did you ask him if he is interested in working on the marriage? Do you want to also be in the marriage?
If No, why haven't you confronted him on it as yet?

Confrontations can in a dead-end situation be an indication to what action to take next. If he is cool and unbothered, then you know he doesn't care how this affects you.
if he yells and threatens you, you know that he wants you to stay out of his business.
If he apologizes, the you need to assess how genuine it is and then think if you wish to continue as well.

Since, I don't have information on whether this subtle confrontation happened or not, my suggestions are a little general, but do pick off of them and work on it.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 10, 2024Hindi

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From many years my husband was cheating on me but two years back i came to know he has one baby with her. I want to end relationship with him. But parents are not letting me to do. I have to kids with yrs i dnt have job. I want to divorce him . Please tell me my decision to divorce him is right or wrong? Please guide me.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Whether you want the marriage or not is your decision. Obviously, you are hurt and sad and disappointed on being cheated upon.
And the best decision seems to walk out. But parents do not want that for their daughter...it's an emotional time!

Rather than being impulsive, be smart about it. Talk to a lawyer who can advise you on how the terms of separation must be where your rights and those of the children will be protected. Your husband will have to take on that responsibility. So, you need to also think of your children's welfare in the midst of all your emotions. Difficult, but so needed right now. So, seek the support of your parents in this...they may not want to support BUT if you are sure that you want a divorce, find a good lawyer who can guide you appropriately.

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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 28, 2024Hindi

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Good evening.i am married for 15: years to a man against my parents wishes we don't have kids.5months back i came to know he has a link with his assistant since some time.i asked them.they asked me for proofs.i don't have.i asked him to send her off.he refused.i am totally disturbed.please advice whether or not to continue with my husband.thank you.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It's sad that instead of reassuring you, your husband asks you for proof. But, you have not shared how you 'came to know that he has a link' with his assistant. This is vital information as it will not just gather proof but will also tell you how your husband views the marriage and whether he has any interest in continuing.
Now, whether you must continue or not, is a decision you must make based on all the evidences that you gather and also finding out from your husband if this marriage is important to him as well. Then things will give you clarity into making a decision. So, how did you come to know and what actually made you suspect him?

All the best!
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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 21, 2024Hindi

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I am married for past 2 years it's an arranged marriage. On the first night of marriage my husband told me that he is in love with someone else I was fine with it then when I told my family they asked me to stop being a fool and try to build this marriage. In these 2 years I have been strictly checking his phone asking for his location as advised by his father still he has never touched me . We never talk and i have lost interest in trying after 1 year .I like living with him as I get freedom even though there is no relationship between us I live in joint family and if I go back and take divorce they will get me married again soon . Why should I do !? Should I leave him as he is still in love with someone. Or should I enjoy my freedom. I have asked him to not ask me anything about my life and i will never ask anything to him about his life... please help ?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Your first goof-up was being okay with a person who said that he loves someone else.
Your second goof-up was trying to make the marriage work by doing what your father-in-law wanted you to do (check phone).

In both cases, you placed HOPE over your common sense. Maybe it did not occur to you that you are stepping into a world that may never let you live a normal married life?

Now, my question to you is: What freedom are you talking about? This same freedom will someday come back to haunt you as there is no family system that you are part of, no relationships to be part of...Is this okay with you?

Marriages or Life partnerships are not like: you mind your own business and I will mind mine. There is communication, trust, mutual respect, love, affection, giving-receiving...do you think your marriage will have this OR can the two of you work towards this? If YES, give it your best shot else, you really must think: What do I want for and in my life?

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