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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 29, 2024Hindi
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I'm around 54 years married to a widow who had two kids around 14 years back. Her behaviour towards me most of the time is very rude. she doesnt keep anhy relation with my family members and always has a grudge on them without any reason, due to which i have no physical relation with her, just Im staying in the house. Now I have met a female who is married with two kids and working as a cleaning staff, her husband is useless and not working for the last four years and she is running her house with her salary. I have been meeting her for the last eight months and would like to continue the relation, even she is very much interested, but due to family constraints she is not able to come out of the married relation she has. I take care of her and her kids day to day needs. So how do I go ahead with is relation ? Im a bit confused

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You are trying to search for a wife and a family in the other lady and her children; something that you are unable to find in your own home.
How much longer do you want to live two parallel lives? Decide whether you want to continue with your marriage and work at making it work...OR find solace with another lady and her family. 8 years is a long time BUT any relationship that comes out of a need ceases to exist when the need is over or gone. What will happen when this cleaning staff lady stops wanting your money or attention? Will you then jump into another relationship?
How you go ahead in this relationship is something only you will know. Someone is bound to get hurt...Also, you seem to definitely care about family. How will they react to all of this?
Consider a few important things before you jump to any conclusions...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Asked on - Aug 05, 2024 | Answered on Aug 07, 2024
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Thanks Madam, for ur prompt advice. I would like to further ask a question on my subject. I understood that the female with whom I am having an affair has been hiding some of her banking transactions with me I asked her about the same but she said that there is nothing as such. . So i took her bank statement of last six months and came to know that she was playing some online games and had almost lost around 10k, So I asked her on this issue. She has got wild on me as to how could I take the bank statement without her knowledge and has stopped talking to me and has blocked my number. I dont think it was a mistake on my part of checking her account as I had a doubt and that proved true. Even then I pleaded to her and accepted that it was my mistake for tracking her account without informing her and also assured that it wont be repeated. But still she is very adamant and not ready to talk to me. So madam how do i convince her and get her back.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Surely you have the right to know where your money is being spent.
In fact, you could have told her upfront that you want to know what is happening with the money that you give her. Is it being used for household expenses? But it seems the lady has caught fancy with some online games.
Obviously, you don't trust her and that is the reason that you went behind her back to check on the money. And then you go ahead and apologize.
You have only given her a message that whatever she does with you or your money is fine. Do you need any more proof? Focus on your life better rather than jumping into relationships. Convince to get a lady back who has been hiding things from you? Do you not see how this is slowly turning against you? Hopefully, someday you will realize...
Stop and think and make the right decision...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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