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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 01, 2024Hindi
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Im 28M, feel like i have done wasted a lot of my life till now. I'm in a career but its not going good, I waste a lot of time in mobile, I don't have have any social life. I feel immature for a relationship. My patents are looking for a match, but I feel unworthy. I want to improve myself atleast till a point where I can accept myself. Please help.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You are most likely in a space which is forcing you to think different from what you thought to get to where you are now.
So, take it as a good sign!!!!!!
Ask yourself:
- What do I want from life and in life?
- How do I want my relationships to be?
- How can I improve my money situation?
- What is an ideal health like for me?

These are very general questions. Once you get to the bottom of these, you will get to a point where you might feel stuck BUT will know what the problem area is. This is half the battle won.
From that point on, either, you dig deeper by putting clear goals and following them. If you find it difficult to do this, find an expert who can guide you further by working on the challenge area in great detail leading you to a useful solution. Taking the first step is a huge improvement. It's a step towards a better life than what you are leading now. So, wake up and move yourself to answer the first set of questions...it will give you a way forward...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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I am 29 years old. I work as a software engineer. During Covid time I broke up with my girlfriend and I feel very bad about it. She was just passing her time with me but I really loved her and I am now struggling to move on. I even had suicidal thoughts sometime back.I feel like nothing is happening in my life. I feel like I'm stuck in my past. Life is boring like hell, no interest in any activities.I have 7 years of experience but only getting paid 12 lakhs per annum, this also bothers me every time. Everyone I meet acts good with me only for their advantage. No one is available when I need them. None of my friends take me seriously.Any advice from you will be really helpful.
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Dear SR,

When you don’t value yourself, why expect anyone to value you?

Thinking of attempting to take your life just because of a failed relationship only means that your life is always in someone else’s hands.

Obviously, your earning capacity is the way it is as you are not working to your full potential.

How can you with the way you think about yourself!

Your life is important and it counts. Value it; love yourself more.

Indulge in some hobby and treat your friends the way you want them to treat you. And if you feel that people act good with you only to take advantage of you, ask yourself if you are giving them your full attention while you are with them.

Time to stop pitying yourself, smile a lot, reassure yourself that this moment is a new beginning and most importantly: Love yourself even more.

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i feel defeated in life how to start again and move on path of happiness
Ans: It's normal to feel defeated and stuck at times, but it's important to remember that it's never too late to start again and work towards a happier life.

Here are some suggestions to help you get started:

Identify your goals and passions: Take some time to reflect on what you want to achieve in life and what makes you happy. This could be a new career path, a hobby, or a personal goal. Identifying your passions and goals can give you a sense of direction and purpose.

Break down your goals into small steps: Once you have identified your goals, break them down into small achievable steps. This can make them feel less daunting and help you stay motivated.

Create a plan: Develop a plan for how you will achieve your goals. This could involve taking classes, networking, or seeking out mentorship or guidance.

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Practice self-care: Taking care of your physical and emotional health is important in achieving happiness. This could involve eating healthy, getting enough rest, and engaging in activities that bring you joy.

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Reflect on your interests and passions: Take some time to think about what you enjoy doing and what you’re passionate about. This can help you identify potential career paths that align with your interests.

Explore different career options: Research different career options that interest you and learn more about the skills and qualifications required for those roles. You can also consider taking online courses or attending workshops to develop new skills.

Network with professionals in your field: Reach out to professionals in your field of interest and ask them about their career paths. You can also ask for advice on how to get started in the industry.

Gain experience through internships or volunteering: Consider taking on internships or volunteering opportunities to gain experience and build your resume. This can also help you make connections in your field of interest.

Consider further education: If you’re interested in pursuing a specific career path that requires additional education, consider going back to school to gain the necessary qualifications.

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Understanding the Stuckness:

Self-reflection: Take some time for introspection. Ask yourself: what specifically feels "stuck"? Is it a particular area of your life (career, relationships, etc.) or a general feeling of unfulfillment? What are your thoughts and emotions around this feeling?
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Start small: Trying to achieve too much at once can be overwhelming. Set small, achievable goals to build momentum and confidence. Focus on celebrating small wins, no matter how insignificant they might seem.
Practice mindfulness: Techniques like meditation or deep breathing can help you become more present and aware of your thoughts and feelings without judgment. This can improve your ability to focus and prioritize.
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Hi Ramalingam Sir, Good Evening. I recently bought a land in Bangalore outskirts by redeeming 75 lakhs from my MF portfolio. I've started house construction through a Builder which will cost me 1 crore which will be funded by PMS worth 60 lakhs (which will be redeemed shortly) and remaining 40 lakhs funded by MF portfolio of 85 lakhs. This will leave me with 45 lakhs of MF balance. I will be retiring in March 2026 and has a monthly salary savings of Rs 2 lakhs for the next 9 months and will be getting a bonus of Rs.7 lakhs in Mar'26. Total savings from now till March 2026 would be 25 lakhs. Also I will be receiving retirals (PF and Gratuity) of Rs.60 lakhs. I've invested Rs 20 lakhs in my friend's startup business and getting 15% returns (monthly payout of Rs.25000). I've not taken any loans in the past 25-30 years so no debts. I've to fund my only Son's Engineering from 2025 to 2029 approx 20 lakhs and need Rs.25 to 30 lakhs for his marriage sometime in 2032-33. My post retiral expenses would be approx 45 to 50K per month. I've a small 500 sft flat worth 10 lakhs in Bangalore outskirts and 50% share in ancestral house property worth approx 1 crore which cannot be sold anytime sooner. Been working very hard all through my career and hardly taken my family for trips and hence would like to relax and have yearly domestic trips and international trips every 2-3 years and manage household expenses without depending on my Son. I am getting jittery as not sure if I had over committed in constructing own house and if I would be able to sustain for the next 20 years at least. I am now 58 yrs young. Appreciate your comments and advice. Thanks
Ans: You have shown deep commitment to your family, career, and financial goals. At age 58, with no debts, a solid savings base, and clear life priorities, you are in a commendable position.

Let’s walk through your situation and build clarity, confidence, and comfort around your choices. We'll approach it from a 360-degree perspective, one step at a time.

1. Summary of Your Current Financial Position
Assets and Investments Post House Construction:

Land and under-construction house: Rs. 1.75 crore (land + construction)

MF after partial redemption: Rs. 45 lakhs

PMS (to be redeemed): Rs. 60 lakhs (will be used for construction)

Retirals (EPF + Gratuity): Rs. 60 lakhs in March 2026

Monthly savings till retirement: Rs. 2 lakhs/month × 9 = Rs. 18 lakhs

Bonus in March 2026: Rs. 7 lakhs

Investment in friend’s business: Rs. 20 lakhs (monthly income Rs. 25,000)

500 sqft flat: Rs. 10 lakhs (can be used later if needed)

50% in ancestral property: Worth Rs. 50 lakhs (not liquid currently)

Estimated Corpus by March 2026:

MF: Rs. 45 lakhs

New savings + bonus: Rs. 25 lakhs

Retirals: Rs. 60 lakhs

Friend’s business investment: Rs. 20 lakhs

Total liquid corpus post-retirement: ~Rs. 1.5 crore

This is excluding the house, flat, and ancestral share.

You’ve been very structured and responsible. That deserves full appreciation.

2. House Construction: A Good Decision or Over-Commitment?
Many people feel jittery after making large financial moves close to retirement. That’s natural. Let’s evaluate practically.

Merits of the House Decision:

You’re building a real, usable asset

You avoided debt

You’ve used PMS and MF corpus strategically

You’ll own a valuable asset without EMIs

Cautions:

Rs. 1.75 crore is locked into a non-income generating asset

That impacts liquidity

Any delay or overrun in construction can stress finances

Maintenance costs will come in future

Assessment:

You are not over-committed, but you are fully committed

You will have around Rs. 1.5 crore in liquid assets post-retirement

That is sufficient for 25+ years of moderate expenses

But cash flow planning is now crucial

3. Monthly Expenses and Income Post-Retirement
Expenses:

Household: Rs. 50,000/month

Yearly domestic trip: Rs. 1 lakh

International trip every 3 years: Rs. 5–6 lakhs/3 years

Kid’s education and marriage (long term goals)

Inflation-adjusted needs:

Monthly: Rs. 60,000–65,000 average

Yearly requirement: Rs. 7.5–8 lakhs minimum

Adjusting for travel: Rs. 9–10 lakhs/year

Income Sources:

Rs. 1.5 crore corpus can generate income

Rs. 25,000/month from friend’s startup (Rs. 3 lakhs/year)

You may do light consulting post-retirement (if desired)

Flat and ancestral house – backup options

Gap:

Income from business + returns from corpus should comfortably fund your lifestyle

Withdrawal of 6% per year from corpus is sustainable for 25+ years

So yes, you will be able to sustain your lifestyle comfortably.

4. Child’s Education and Marriage Planning
Education (Rs. 20 lakhs from 2025 to 2029):

Start an STP from mutual funds into a short-term debt fund

Use part of your new monthly savings to add to this fund

You don’t need to use corpus fully now; plan withdrawals in stages

Marriage (Rs. 25–30 lakhs in 2032–33):

This is still 7–8 years away

Allocate Rs. 10–12 lakhs from retiral corpus into balanced funds

Let it grow with moderate risk

Rebalance after 4–5 years

There is no urgency to keep this money liquid now.
Systematic planning will ensure you’re ready when the time comes.

5. Ideal Asset Allocation Strategy
Post-retirement, protecting capital is more important than high returns.

Recommended allocation:

30–35% in balanced mutual funds (for moderate growth)

30–40% in debt mutual funds (for stability and income)

10% in liquid or ultra-short debt (emergency and short-term needs)

10% can remain in the friend’s business if stable

5–10% in gold SGBs (if you wish to add for diversification)

Avoid:

Large allocation to direct equity or high-risk PMS

Illiquid assets which you may need in future

Important: Work with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) to set up regular plans.
Avoid direct mutual fund investing. You won’t get strategic rebalancing.
Also, index funds don’t adjust to changing market cycles. Stay with active funds.

6. Cash Flow Planning: Systematic Withdrawals
SWP (Systematic Withdrawal Plan):

Set up a monthly SWP from debt mutual funds after retirement

This gives stable income and reduces tax impact

Keep 12–18 months of expenses in liquid funds at all times

Review portfolio performance every year with a CFP

Don’t let market volatility force you to redeem more.
That breaks the long-term plan.

7. Emergency Fund and Risk Protection
Even at 58, some basic protections are useful.

Emergency fund:

Rs. 5–7 lakhs in liquid fund or sweep-in FD

Covers medical or urgent repair costs

Health insurance:

Ensure you and spouse have Rs. 10–15 lakh family floater

Even after retirement, continue it

Don’t depend only on savings for medical expenses

No loans:

You’ve kept yourself debt-free. That is a big strength.

Continue to stay that way

8. Legacy Planning and Estate Structuring
It’s wise to think long term.

Key actions:

Create a WILL and assign nominees to all assets

Inform family about investments and passwords

Keep a folder with documents, mutual fund statements, property papers

Mention your 50% right in ancestral house in the WILL

You may also include a clause for your friend’s business investment

This brings peace of mind and prevents future confusion.

9. Mental and Emotional Well-Being
After a long career, it’s okay to relax.

You should:

Travel with family guilt-free

Maintain hobbies and social activities

Do short-term consultancy if it feels fulfilling

Spend time in your new home with no EMI pressure

Accept that you’ve done your best. That is enough.

No investment is more valuable than memories with loved ones.
Please prioritise those now.

10. Finally
You are not over-committed. You are well-planned and deeply committed to your family.
You’ve stayed debt-free, built wealth, and now created a home.
Even after spending on the house, you’ll have over Rs. 1.5 crore of investable assets.
This can support you for the next 25 years and more.

Key actions ahead:

Finalise retirement asset allocation with a CFP

Setup SIPs and STPs for child’s goals

Create WILL and update nominations

Keep emotions out of investments

Track only once in 6 months

Your worry shows how much you care. That’s your strength.
But rest assured, you are financially independent and emotionally strong.
Take that yearly vacation. You’ve earned it.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Hi , I'm 42 years employed in a private job. Monthly salary : 4.5 lacs (post tax), yearly Stocks allocation : 40 lacs ( post tax), bonus - 16 lacs post tax. Savings /investment rate : 1 lacs monthly towards mutual fund, 1 lac towards company stock ESPP, Bonus savings around 10 lacs, stock allocated annually - all saved ( 40 lacs). Yearly 1.5 lac each to myself and spouse account , 1.5 lacs SSY. Investment corpus so far : Mutual funds -90 lacs Equity - 80 lacs FDs - 1 cr Company stocks held ( vested post tax) - 60 lacs SGB - 16 lacs EPF corpus - 1.25 Cr PPF - 18 lacs Land - 80 lacs current value Goals : Buying a home (current value 2cr) Kids education ( current estimate 2cr) 7 yrs old kid need this inflation adjusted after 10 years Retirement corpus - 1.5 lac expense per month. How much I should save and build the corpus and how ?
Ans: You have done an excellent job with savings. At age 42, with consistent income and a disciplined habit, your financial life is already ahead of many. Now, the next step is to align everything with your life goals. Let’s assess and structure your plan from a 360-degree perspective.

Current Income and Savings Snapshot
Monthly post-tax salary: Rs. 4.5 lacs

Annual bonus (post-tax): Rs. 16 lacs

Annual stocks allocation (post-tax): Rs. 40 lacs

Monthly savings:

Rs. 1 lac in mutual funds

Rs. 1 lac in company ESPP

Bonus savings: Around Rs. 10 lacs yearly

Annual stock savings: Entire Rs. 40 lacs

Additional yearly savings:

Rs. 1.5 lacs in your PPF

Rs. 1.5 lacs in spouse’s PPF

Rs. 1.5 lacs in SSY

You are saving over Rs. 65–70 lacs every year. That’s an impressive commitment to your future.

Asset Allocation Overview
Mutual Funds: Rs. 90 lacs

Listed Equity: Rs. 80 lacs

Fixed Deposits: Rs. 1 crore

Company Stocks: Rs. 60 lacs

SGBs: Rs. 16 lacs

EPF: Rs. 1.25 crore

PPF: Rs. 18 lacs

Land: Rs. 80 lacs (not considered liquid for planning)

The total financial asset base (excluding land) is around Rs. 4.89 crore. Excellent progress.

Goal 1: Buying a House Worth Rs. 2 Crore
Assessment and suggestions:

You can buy the house without a loan by using part of current corpus.

However, don’t deplete all liquid assets at once. Keep Rs. 1 crore as reserve.

Use a mix of company stock sale and FDs. Avoid using mutual fund corpus.

Delay the purchase if possible, to avoid breaking FDs prematurely.

Buying should not delay kids’ education or retirement plan.

Recommended action:

Use Rs. 60 lacs from FDs

Use Rs. 60 lacs from company stock

Balance Rs. 80 lacs from stock allocation over next two years

Avoid touching mutual funds and EPF

This method keeps your long-term investment engine running.

Goal 2: Child’s Education – Rs. 2 Crore in 10 Years
Your child is 7 now. So, higher education will start at age 17.
You need Rs. 2 crore in future value. Assume this rises due to inflation.

Evaluation and strategy:

Continue monthly mutual fund SIP of Rs. 1 lac

Top-up SIP by 10–15% annually if possible

From bonus savings, allocate Rs. 5 lacs annually towards child goal

Avoid investing this amount in company stock

Why mutual funds?

Actively managed funds adjust to market cycles

Regular mutual fund investments through a Certified Financial Planner provide ongoing strategy

Mutual funds offer better goal tracking compared to direct stocks

Regular plan gives support and review; direct plans lack that

Why not index funds or direct funds?

Index funds follow the market. They don’t outperform in down cycles.

Direct funds don’t come with advisory or personalised strategy.

Regular plans help align your investment with your goal through expert CFP support.

Stick to regular plans advised by an MFD who also holds CFP certification.

Goal 3: Retirement – Rs. 1.5 Lacs Monthly Expense
You are 42 now. Assume retirement at 55. That gives 13 more years.
Post-retirement, you need Rs. 1.5 lacs monthly (inflation-adjusted).
You already have a strong foundation for this.

Retirement-focused allocation suggestions:

Continue EPF and PPF contributions

Keep SGBs till maturity for regular returns

Add to mutual funds regularly. SIP top-up yearly

Consider a separate SIP for retirement corpus of Rs. 50,000/month

Allocate Rs. 20 lacs annually from bonus and stocks into balanced funds

Why this strategy?

SIP builds wealth steadily and reduces risk

Balanced funds reduce volatility closer to retirement

Actively managed mutual funds adjust with market cycles

Regular review helps you stay on track

You already have Rs. 1.25 crore in EPF and Rs. 18 lacs in PPF. That’s a strong start.
Continue PPF contributions till 55. It gives tax-free interest and safety.

Risk Management – Insurance and Contingency
You didn’t mention insurance or emergency funds. Please evaluate this area seriously.

Suggestions:

Maintain emergency fund of Rs. 15–20 lacs in liquid funds or FDs

Term life insurance: Sum assured should be 10x of your annual income

Health insurance: Minimum Rs. 15 lacs family floater + employer policy

Add personal accident and critical illness cover

Even the best investment plans can get disturbed without these protections.

Portfolio Rebalancing and Tax Optimisation
Rebalancing tips:

Don’t hold excess in one asset. Limit company stock exposure to 10–15% of total.

Mutual funds and equities together should be 60–70% of your corpus.

FDs, PPF, EPF, SGB can be 30–40% for safety.

Tax efficiency guidance:

Mutual fund capital gains are taxed. Plan redemptions wisely.

Equity mutual fund LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lacs taxed at 12.5%

STCG taxed at 20%.

Debt mutual fund gains taxed as per your slab.

Use staggered withdrawals to reduce tax burden. Do not redeem large amounts at once.

Estate Planning
With a growing asset base, plan for asset transfer early.

Key steps:

Create a WILL mentioning all major assets and nominees

Assign nominees to all mutual fund folios and demat accounts

Consider a private family trust if asset base crosses Rs. 15 crore in future

Estate planning avoids confusion for your family later.

What You Should Do Yearly
Review goals every year with CFP

Increase SIP every year with salary hike

Track inflation impact on education and retirement goals

Reduce FD exposure slowly and invest more in balanced mutual funds

Keep land as legacy, not part of active planning

Trim company stock holding every year to control risk

Finally
You are on a great path. Your savings rate is strong. Your income is excellent.
Your awareness and discipline are already better than 90% of people.
But, the next phase needs clear focus. Protect your goals from market swings and risks.

With small adjustments, you can secure your child’s education and your retirement.
Do regular reviews. Keep rebalancing. Avoid overexposure to one asset type.
Stick to professionally managed investments through regular mutual funds advised by a CFP.
Avoid direct plans and index funds which lack active management and advice.

You don’t need new products. You need better structure and discipline.
And, every plan needs annual review and course correction. That keeps your plan relevant.

Keep up the discipline. Your future self will thank you for it.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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