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Asked by Anonymous - May 12, 2024Hindi
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Hi Anu, i am 41 yr old married person. I have one son of 4yr . My married life is disaster and my wife never do sex with me. Hardly i had 3-4 times sex with her in a decade. Yhis put me in depression and never told anyone abt this, bcz it is arrange marriage and she happens to be relative within family. I started going to massage centre and they happens to give extra services since last year for sexually satisfaction. Had oral sex like kissing etc. Off late i have developed rashes on neck area, which are not going away for last 3 months. I do not have anyother symptoms. Consulted skin dr and used various ointments. But it is not going away. I told dr that bcz of shaving i could have rashes. But i am fearing i could have got hiv/ STD. But i never had sex without condom. Please help, how to deal with situation.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
The only way to know is by getting yourself tested. Do go to a Lab and get your blood work done for any STDs. Only then the doctors can treat you accordingly, right?
The chances of any STDs are only minimized by using a condom, but there is no guarantee that it protects you completely against it. So, get yourself tested if this is bothering you...it's better to know and treat it sooner rather than wait and wonder with all the stress...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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There's obviously an issue when it comes to sexual intimacy. But when you are very strictly focused on something not happening, it becomes stress and sexual intimacy in stress never happens.
If there is no medical issue, then it's purely about indulging in a lot of foreplay, a lot emotional bonding and most importantly learn to laugh a lot together. This releases a lot of strain and stress if any from both of you as a couple which in turn will help in intimacy.
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