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Ans: Hi!!

It is not ok for your manager to text you outside of work hours, period. You have to set boundaries now.
Talk to him and tell him since you are extremely busy after you reach home, it is not possible to reply to messages.
Have two different numbers for the office and for the personal work.
Shut the office phone once you reach home.

Reply back to him in the team meeting and tell him once you reach home you really cannot take any calls or reply to messages.

There are always solutions to problems. Find them and learn to set boundaries courageously.

If you are a woman and he texts you like this, then embarrasses you in team meetings, you really can take action against him .

Take care of yourself ! All the very best..

Ans: Hi!!

You are working with this company since 2023. It's close to a year and a half that you are working here?
You are still young and new in this company, there is so much to learn and grow.
Take your manager's feedback and work on it, you yourself said you don't share your ideas and plans because everyone is more experienced than you. it's time to change this... raise your hand in meetings, say you have an idea to share and then in al oud and clear voice share your ideas. Plain and simple solution for your issue.
Initially your leader should have encouraged you to speak and he should have made you comfortable...if it didn't happen then it won't happen now... pls take charge of the situation now without the blame game, go ahead and share your ideas.
You are also experienced now...

All the very best!!

Ans: Hi!!
It is extremely important to have empathy and approachability as qualities in a leader. You have them so congratulations!!

As a leader it is important for you maintain a safe distance too , so that people don't take you for granted and that your judgement is not clouded.

You need to tell people that everyone has personal problems, so the only way forward is to shut them out when they come to work and perform to the best of their abilities.

You really can't quote one incident and draw conclusions here, you might have made a mistake as regards to this team member you are mentioning, it's ok , you are human. Forgive yourself and move on.
You need to find a balance between empathy and accountability...it's a tough job to be a leader, and a compassionate one that too. Apply the concept of "different strokes to different people at different times". Set boundaries, take care of yourself and your time. You must take care of your emotional well being too, you can't allow everyone to dump their baggage on you.

Take every experience as an experience to make you wiser, have a discerning eye and know when to put your foot down and when you need your inherent compassionate quality.

Enjoy being a leader...you really can make a difference in people's lives, but at the same time you have to take care of yourself.

All the very best...

Ans: Hi!!

To be in a position where you are today and say, ' I love what I do', is simply stupendous, congratulations!

In the context of you being 32 and still unmarried will definitely get you the comments that you are receiving... and like you said they are happening informally casually... so just treat them that way, casually... answer them, don't avoid them or don't show annoyance. Just answer them with a ,"not happening anytime soon, ask me after 02 years", or any other casual remark you deem fit.

I can understand the frustration...forget about what other people are trying to imply etc , they are just casual remarks and take them that way.
"I don't want to snap or sound defensive because that often backfires", this is your remark I am requoting, don't give too much importance to it, if you are sure of what you want in life, you don't have to explain anything to others, it is none of their business any way, just shrug your shoulders and move on! You can't change people...
Also I would like to state, that it is ok to take a break when you marry or have a child after marriage... it is so normal, and thankfully you are in an era where these are recognized as important milestones in life and a women after a break is welcomed back with open arms by the same organizations. With your kind of credentials I don't think you'll ever have any problem getting back to work after a break.

Wishing that you make peace with yourself and the world around you...work is just one part of life. Take care of yourself and all the very best!!

Ans: Hi!!

I totally understand what it means to be working remotely and the sense of isolation you are feeling. I am guessing you are a people's person and you like to interact with human beings on a day to day basis in your work environment. I just completed a 03 month long training assignment for a US based client and I totally empathize with you.

In the past COVID times, working remotely and in isolation is the new norm. So , do not base your sense of purpose based on just your work.
Find ways and means of finding your need for 'people connect' by asking for team meetings where everyone is on camera.
See if you can play instrumental music while working ... have fixed routine for work, take mini breaks to be more productive.
Indulge in physical activity to keep your energy levels up...meditate in order connect with yourself. Since you work remotely and not much interaction happens with people, just get out of the house after work to connect with real people. Spend time in nature, it's therapeutic.

All the best!!

Ans: Hi!!

A leader is one who leads, rt?
So your biggest role as a leader is to get the job done from others. Good that you have realized that the model where you do most of the work is not sustainable. So delegate work to individuals based on their capabilities, check in on them at regular intervals . Learn the art of the leadership model where you apply different strokes to different people and different times. Identify your own natural leadership style and adopt the right style of leadership based on the kind of team members you have and the task on hand.
Conduct workshops or get your personnel trained on what it means to be a trustworthy team member and how important it is to be accountable in the greater interest of the team. If need be you too enroll yourself in a leadership program. As a corporate trainer myself I can assure you that every skill can be learnt and developed.

Be an inspiring leader and then see how your team will measure up to standard you set for them. I always believe that the team is as good as the boss..... all the very best in leading your team !!

Ans: Hi!!

Congratulations on being promoted, I can feel your excitement. Leading a team which includes your former peers is a challenge and I want you to measure up to the challenge by following what i suggest below...
1. go prepared in meetings so that you can answer any questions that they may throw at you... write the answers down and practice them in front of a mirror
2. if they interrupt you, then say that they can ask whatever they want to ask after you have finished
3. be an assertive communicator... whatever you have to say, say it confidently in a respectful manner
4. dress up one rung higher than your peers , to look like a leader

You were chosen to lead so it is time to show them who the boss is...it will take time to establish authority, take it one day, one meeting and one interaction at a time, slowly and surely you'll be able to do it!!

All the very best!

Ans: Hi!!

It is good to see a significant raise in your salary in the last four years. You must have had a good reason to change companies so often. Three different companies in 04 yrs will not look good on any CV, so for now consolidate on what you have and stay put for a while and prove your worth in a single company.
If you are confident enough to manage a job as well as an MBA, go ahead and do it .

All the very best!

Ans: Hi!
I understand what you are saying!
This skill of communicating effectively can be learnt just like any other skill! It takes time to master it. You need to learn it from an expert and practice the same! Learn from someone who offers tailor made solutions for you.
You can connect with me too to learn the same.

Ans: Hi!!

Thankfully this is your co-worker and not your boss. When bosses do this you can do nothing about it....when the co worker does it then you know that you should never share your ideas with them ever again. In the cut throat competitive world why will they share the credits for it with you...!T he way you have asked the question, it shows that you are a good person, good people should not change because of the bad people in the world. So my advice to you is this ...the coworker is selling your ideas.. the boss is liking them, so have faith in yourself and your ideas.
Every bad experience happens so that you become wiser.
Become wise do not share your ideas with people who don't give you credit.

Other option is you talk to him/her assertively, one on one and ask why he/she did this....calling your idea silly and then repackaging it and presenting before the boss. Next time he/she will be careful not to do this to you.

Ans: Hi Priya!

Wonderful to know that you are project manager and you want to improve your digital presence.

Body language is like learning any other language. It requires proper teaching, learning and then practicing the same to master it.

After the start of the work from home culture, taking care to present yourself well digitally has become very important.

It is important that you take care of your clothes, hair, make up, how much of you is visible, your backdrop, the angle of your camera, the use of your hands, the facial expressions, the voice modulation( so that ppl listen when you speak), you developing listening skills..... there is so much to learn.

I really cannot write here and teach you... this is all about showing you how to create your aura digitally.

This is my website..https://transformme.co.in/
Do get in touch to learn to create you amazing presence digitally.

Best wishes!!

Ans: Hello Sunil!!

I am doing great, thank you for asking, God bless you!

I can totally understand when you say you are worried.

Your son is 12.5, he will soon be a teenager. There will be different challenges, I want you to read up on parenting a teenager and be ready to handle him well.

The problem as I see it is that everyone of you, his teachers included have made studies like a burden for him.... and subjected the young child to a lot of anxiety, he just wants to run away form it....
"Every teacher from his kindergarten days upto now has the same complaint that he is doesn't pay attention in class".... this statement of yours... it is the teacher's duty to ensure the child listens to him/her, how can she start labeling a child like this. From a young age your son has been conditioned to believe that he is not not good in studies, he doesn't focus and he doesn't sit in one place. All my sympathies are with your son...every child comes with immense potential and it's our duty as parents and teachers to nurture the child.

The following is what I propose so that we bring him back to loving to learn ( not score marks, that should never be the barometer)-
1. Love your child the way he is now
2. Give him lot of positive strokes
3. Have one on one sessions for any activity you plan for him... let him choose the activity, empower him
4. choose a teacher, who can get along with him and help him develop a positive attitude towards studies and life in general
5. look for a school where they nurture him... not just a reputed one...less number of students and a teacher who is invested in her/ his students,

If you can connect with me, I can help him. Have had many a students in this kind situation.
This is my website..
https://transformme.co.in/

Loads of best wishes to the whole family..

Ans: Hey, first of all congratulations on clearing so many rounds and reaching the personal interview round!!

Now regarding the preparations...

1. Be impeccably dressed for the interview, this shows you care. Also you need to appear professional and confident
2. Enter the interview room with confidence
3. Enjoy the whole process of being interviewed, it's about you, that's why it is called the personal interview
4. Prepare the questions that are relevant to your role and the company you will be working for. Know a little about the company's competitors
5. Prepare for the usual questions, tell us a little about yourself or introduce yourself, what are your strengths and weaknesses, why should we select you, etc .... these questions are for you to showcase the real you...in a positive light. This is where you show your authenticity
6. Prepare for the Q and A with someone asking you the questions and you replying

Have the confidence, you have come so far, I am sure you'll clear this round too!!

All the very best!

Ans: Hi!!

This was my article in Rediff on world Youth Skills Day.... hope this helps !

https://www.rediff.com/getahead/report/world-youth-skills-day-5-skill-lessons-for-you/20240715.htm

All the best!!

Ans: Hello!!

Going to a higher position is only possible by your contribution to the company by sheer hard work, giving your 100%.

The only way to a higher salary is to demand your worth. If he feels he is underpaid he must ask for more... only the person knows his worth. He has to prove by his work ethics and the results he has given to the company in terms of revenue and communicate respectfully that he deserves more. If they listen to him then great otherwise he has to look for another place where he is valued.

All the best!!

Ans: Hello!!

Let's only look at the forward path here pls.

Forget about all the failings so far... Be kind to yourself, whatever happened to you, whatever is happening now, the period of COVID did it to many.

The only way to get out of this is -
1. your willingness to see a beautiful future ahead of you
2. you have already taken the first step by seeking counselling
3. leave the habit of revisiting the past again, like you just said that I should have gone to the counselor earlier, don't do this, be happy you are seeing him/her now
4. you have come so far in life, give yourself some credit, you have not reached the senior position just like that, right? You have reached here with your efforts, you have done it before, you'll do it again, have faith in yourself
5. your wife is your life partner, sit across and talk to her, take her to the counselor make her understand that this a phase where you need her on your side. A facade with your wife is a NO NO, it will come out some day, it is extra strain on you and your relationship, come clean , be truthful and honest with her.
6. make self care a priority ..get your routine in order, it's your life, just don't fill your day with mindless activities, like I said one step in the future, start taking actions now.....get up early, expose yourself to the sun and nature( they are great healers), exercise, have good meals throughout the day, learn something new , join a course which will be job oriented, how about adding an MBA or any other course which will help you in your career or job search?
7. make being joyful a habit... spend time volunteering, go teach underprivileged children or where ever you feel like lending a helping hand
8. value yourself....you were not put here to suffer, take action now.

Forget the past, jo beet gayi so baat gayi( meaningless to talk about the past)... stop blaming, complaining....look into the future with energy and enthusiasm, it's your life man , take one step towards it every day.

Bless you to life your life well..

Ans: Hey!!

The solution for this is to learn to stand up to the bullies, learn to say "NO", protect yourself and communicate assertively. Assertive communication is communicating respectfully in a clam and collected voice, taking care of your needs as well as others and creating a WIN-WIN. Believe me... it is a learnable skill and comes with practice.

If this works , then congratulations, else start looking for other jobs and quit, no one deserves to work in a toxic environment.
Give utmost importance to your inner peace and happiness, stand guard, let this not be disturbed by anything or anyone.

Practice yoga and meditation, this will give you immense strength and clarity of thought.

All the best for making the wise decisions!

Ans: Dear Sir,

He is your son and your blood. You have brought him up ....your values and culture is in him. You have supported him wholeheartedly and you have always been there for him, I am sure he will be there for you too. Just sit down with your son and have a heart to heart talk with him, have the faith that you have brought up your son well, he will listen to your genuine concerns and help you out.

It is just that he is too eager to fly high, the education, the US culture, the freedom is a heady combination right now. Participate in his plans wholeheartedly and with full josh when he shares his plans with you. Don't come in his way, don't demand but ask him to help you out. Please remember that when your child stays away from you, the bonds require efforts to rebuild and make them strong again. Since he is no longer staying with you, he may not have the clear picture of what is happening in your lives here. So please " TALK " to him face to face.

You must be happy that your son has grown up enough to make his life decisions on his own, this is a good sign, he is no longer dependent on you, like you said just be proud of him and be supportive. Love him unconditionally. I know as a parent you feel left out..... what can you do, but to see your little one soar high, trust me I totally understand how you feel. You have given him the wings by funding his education, you can't demand he return the money or pay you back. What you can do is this... give him a proper picture of your financial condition, your younger son's aspirations, he is your eldest, elder children are always responsible, he will come to your rescue and help you out I am very sure of that. Let the language of love and togetherness between the son and father create the magic. Communicate with your child dear father, that's the key, that's the solution.

All the very best!!

Ans: Hi!!
It is so heartening to see this statement of yours," solid reputation among my students and colleagues". I feel that you need to build a solid foundation on all the set skills that you currently have. Not everyone can earn the respect of students ...especially in today's world. Consolidate on this... put in a psychology course/ degree and anything else that can solidify your existing skills!
People are ready to invest in their children, always remember this.....If financial goals is an issue, you can switch to a school where the salary is good, good teachers are in great demand. Collect a lot of testimonials from parents and students before you switch. Demand the salary that you deserve. For earning extra income you can start classes, one of my friends earns in crores just by lending extra help to students .As a teacher you know where the gap exists in our educational system, see if you can fill this gap, see what you can offer and make money.
I am investing a lot of time on this aspect of you because you said that you are actually good at it and that you enjoy doing it, not everyone can say this about their work. It is a matter of time you monetize what you love doing ....groom yourself well, look like a powerful person and demand the salary you think you deserve. Learn to invest your money well and let money work for you. Think of opening your own school.

I am a personal coach as well as a corporate trainer, it a crowded place here too, your experience as a teacher will definitely come in handy ,but you will require additional training for becoming a corporate trainer no doubt about it, it builds credibility if you do. It is hard work, it takes time, energy, certification and constant learning in order to be a sought after corporate trainer and demand that kind of money you are referring to. If you are a go getter, smart, well groomed, confident in your communication, you can bring about change in people just by your presence and you are good in planning your sessions well, then go for it...else, you said it, "I've already put a lot into my teaching career", consolidate on this!! Lots of schools are investing in training teachers as well as students, see if you do this, or you can come to me, we can have a chat together and then you can take the leap forward in whatever direction you feel like taking. Your decision has to be a well thought out decision!

Hope this helps...may wisdom be on your side..TC!

Ans: Hey!! That’s wonderful!! One fellow Image Consultant to another… congratulations!! The way you have written, I already feel your authenticity!
Skill development and personal development always go hand in hand… this actually decides your growth. As a trainer, you are a leader, always remember that, ppl look up to you and you do all that is required to be inspirational! One advice, while you help others , keep earning money, otherwise you’ll burn out.
While on this journey, you can look up to someone and be inspired, but do not compare yourself with others and be sad! It’s your journey to live at your pace.
Also what you teach you must be living that, this is the only way to be authentic and inspiring at the same time!!
All the best!

Ans: Hi!!

I can understand what you are going through.
I have helped many a people to become better communicators, presenters and public speakers. I agree with you when you say .. that these skills will augur well for your career growth.
What I can say is this .. that it is a learnable skill. Practice and more practice is the only way ahead. You said your content is strong, that is 50% of the job done, so build up on this confidence and practice your delivery in front of the mirror or in front of encouraging family/friends.
The only way to gain confidence is to "JUST DO IT"....to calm your nerves- deep breathing techniques and visualizations techniques will be useful.
I can help you on this journey of being a person who delivers with panache!

There are books by Dale Carnegie on public speaking which can help you out. Also read about Abe Lincoln and his journey of becoming a great orator, it can maybe help you.

Remember, PRACTICE AND PRACTICE is the key to unlock your confidence and become the person who delvers with panache.

All the best!!

Ans: Hi!!

Learn it from an expert, an Image Consultant is not simply called an I MAGE DOCTOR, she is qualified to help you on these aspects!!

Ans: Hey!!
Kudos to you for dreaming big and also working towards it by investing time and energy in learning and development.
Not everyone can do it... so pat yourself on the back for it!!

You are absolutely right when you say TIME MANAGEMANT is the key to avoid burnout. However I'll add compartmentalizing and self care along with time management.

Let's take them one at a time ...here I go-

1. You want to perform at your peak then self care is a must, 20 mins of physical activity(it can be anything, run, brisk walk, suryanamaskars, dancing along with fast paced music, anything that gets your heart beat up)
10 -20 mins of meditation, if you believe in the higher power make efforts to connect with it/him/her.
2. 9 to 6 be fully committed to the office, after that switch off, learn to say NO for anything that comes after this time. You can do only so much right? This was one part of compartmentalizing...
3. be fully present in whatever activity you are doing... this is ZEN, nothing more nothing less. This way you will be razor sharp in your focus and get jobs done faster. When you are studying don't think office and vice versa. This is switching off, this is compartmentalizing. This will take conscious efforts but is doable
4.your course is important to you, so schedule a study time and stick to it .The days you have an holiday too... try to relax a little, schedule a study time, finish your studies and go relax and unwind a little, you deserve it...don't cram too much in a day.
A relaxed mind will always perform better and focus better. I really can't tell you the importance of unwinding and mediation, you really have to do it to experience it and reap the benefits of it
5. Always encourage yourself, be your best cheer leader, don't beat yourself down, be kind to yourself too, your mind and body
need that from you. You are already doing so much.
6 .The only way to stop being overwhelmed is also to put out all your tasks of the day on paper and schedule it, prioritize it.... one task at a time, start taking action. And when the task is don't forget to strike the task out with a clean line over the task with a pen... this is a message your giving to your mind. ...'I got one task done, I am capable of getting another done'.. Ahaha... the joy of getting a job done!!
7. Get a good nights sleep, do "yog nidra' before sleeping
8. Always breathe deep whenever overwhelm creeps in and see how calm you become. A calm mind is key to getting more done.

And remember to write "your gratitude" out in the night before sleeping, you'll sleep peacefully and get up fresh.
Also do remember, all tasks can be done happily too... there is no need to drag yourself or be always overwhelmed!
You chose to work and study as well.... honour your choices joyously and go about life with a spring in your step...All best !!

Ans: Dear Shree!

Commerce graduates have many career options, I am listing some of them for you-
1.Company Secretary (CS)
A program that teaches corporate governance, company law, compliance, and secretarial practices
2.Chartered Accountant (CA)
A career that involves auditing, taxation, accounting, financial planning, and consulting
2.Investment banker
A career that involves developing financial assets for customers or organizations, and obtaining finance for corporate operations, acquisitions, and mergers
3.Cost Management Accountant (CMA)
A prestigious professional credential that is considered one of the highest-paying career options for commerce students
4.Chartered Financial Analyst (CFA)
A career that involves financial analysis, variant bonds and derivatives, types of portfolios, and investment management
5.Cost accountant
A career that involves assessing cost information, making and maintaining an expenses database, managing cost information, and preparing budget reports
6.Certified Public Accountant (CPA)
A career that involves managing the accounting, reporting, taxation, and auditing processes for businesses, clients, and the government

Some more options for you..
Financial Analyst, HR Manager, Economist, Financial Planner, Actuary, Market Research Analysts, Bank PO (Probationary Officer), Tax Consultant, Teaching students

Can you see the options and the opportunities that are available for you??
You can also focus on further studies too… amassing knowledge and skills can also be your goal.Focus on acquiring wisdom, spend time and energy on worthy tasks, become mentally and physically strong!


Hope this helps… all the very best!

Ans: Hi!!
Congratulations on getting a new portfolio!
You have identified that you need to improve your communication skills, that’s the first step. I like the fact that you are preparing yourself for the task on hand, you’ll go very far in life.
Now to improve your communication skills..( I do not know the stage you are in , so suggesting the general aspects of communication)
1. you need to speak in a clear voice with enough loudness to suit the situation
2. make the right amount of eye contact to showcase your confidence
3. Use non verbal cues to convey your thoughts effectively
4. use appropriate language to convey the message in a precise and concise manner. Do not beat around the bush, hold ppl’s attention when you speak
5. Be polite and respectful to create a positive interaction

Communication skills is a vast area which cannot be conveyed in a few minutes.It can be acquired by learning it from an expert. It is a far deeper science and learning it will help you in both personal and professional life.
You can learn it from me too!! My students have learnt it from me and are doing great both personally and professionally!
Communication skills can be learnt like any other skills.

All the best !!

Ans: Hi!!

I won't talk about your fake experience and all. You too don't go back in time and revisit it!! This is not going to help you. Just look ahead now..
You were 26 and now you are 29, you have 03 years experience now, right?
Like I said in the beginning itself, forget the past... sit down calmly in a comfortable place and list out all that you need to learn in order to meet the expectations.... start learning them, keep it simple, that's all you need to do now...LEARN. Spend some extra time, energy in learning. Seek out seniors to help, check online if you can learn something that will help you perform well.

Just go ahead and learn ...

All the best!!

Ans: Hi!!

I am glad you understood the importance of building your Image and acknowledging that you need these aspects in your life to grow, that's half the job done...congratulations. This willingness to learn is what will help you in the long run!!

As an Image Consultant, Soft Skills Trainer and a life Coach , I can help you with all that you have mentioned and groom you to attain your professional goals!!

You can check this out https://transformme.co.in/ and reach out to me !!

All the very best!!

Ans: Hi!!

Learning English in today's time is quite easy, especially online. Just google and check for courses. You can check their reviews and join the one with a good rating!!

All the best!!

Ans: Dear Sunil,

No one is clear cut introvert or an extrovert, look at yourself closely too... in some circumstances you behave like an extrovert and some areas you behave like an introvert.

Be brave and say "hi" to people around you in the office, you be the first one to greet, this itself can be a starting point to making new friends. A smile and a pleasant "hi" is all it takes.
Look for opportunities to connect with ppl in the office, instead of sending mails or reminders to ppl electronically, just walk up to them and speak to them or call them up to say you have sent a mail/reminder. This way you can establish a human connect.
Also check if you can go to the dining area to eat lunch and during breaks.. do not sit at your desk and have lunch.
Social media and watching reels is a "big no" if you are yearning for human connections. I am glad you talk to your family...outside the office, join book clubs, singing clubs, drama clubs or anywhere your interest lies...you can join a classroom to learn and develop a new skill....

Also check if you are getting enough sleep, exercise, fresh air , sunshine during the day....focus on your diet too!!

Hope this helps... take care of yourself!

Ans: Dear Ahalya,
This is the best time to be an entrepreneur in India!! There are enough problems to solve on this planet, look at these closely, see where you can help and become part of the solution. With your experience and your area of expertise, see where you can bridge the gap, this is where you can become self employed and self dependent!
Look around, grab the opportunities that come your way and move forward with courage....any age is a good age, age is just a number, trust me.

If teaching interests you, then please go ahead and teach, there is a severe dearth of good teachers who can shape young minds!!

Don't let fear cloud your judgement ... fortune favours the brave!! Prepare well and take the plunge!! Best wishes to you..

Ans: Hey!!

You are just 27 yrs old, there is a full life ahead of you!! Trust me when I say that every experience is a learning experience. Look back at life, reflect and see what you learnt from each experience, how you responded to each experience, and how you have changed for better. This the only way to go about being positive and happy. This is the key to live a fulfilling life
Focus on your health, however cliche it may sound ,"health is wealth". Recover, rejuvenate, become sound in body and mind. Do all that takes to regain your mojo.
Take one step at a time towards becoming better in all the areas of your life.
Go back to the classroom , learn and get that degree. There is something about getting a degree, it shows your focus, resilience and the ability to get things done come what may, this will again help you in moving forward in life!!

Practice gratitude, meditate, exercise, stay healthy, stay happy and stay positive.
Things will soon fall in place when you start taking care of yourself... your life, your pace and it's your journey... do not compare yourself with anyone. Life is your race to be won, by becoming better version of yourself and giving your 100%. Get up and get going with wisdom and clarity of thought.

All the very best!! More power to you!!

Ans: Dear Madhurrya!!

You have a nice and unique name.. it sounds so good!! I like that fact that you are honest, it's a strength, let this not change because of cheating students. Good people don't change because of bad people. All the best on staying honest always , remember it is your strength.

Coming to your question..it's nice to have ppl competing with others and upping their game. If it is a respectful way, then go ahead and compete and become better, just like Rafal Nadal and Roger Federer, they became good at what they were doing by competing with each other.
Forget about that boy who threatens you...don't give him any space in your head, stay away from him and be strong enough to defend yourself when he tries to harm you, take help of elders if he physically harms you. Don't get into any verbal duels, he is not worth your time and attention. BE SAFE.

Let's now look into you getting better marks and upping your score..
1. discipline and consistency is what will help you score well
2. the power to score better lies in not just regular studies but in your revision. After you study a chapter, revise it within 10 mins , once in 24 hrs and then after 07 days. This way the learning gets absorbed completely.. try it out, maintain a diary for to plan every chapter's revision .. let me explain.. supposing you study chapter 09 in Science, then you revise the concepts for 10 mins after you finish studying it. Revise it the next day( 24 hrs).. and then mark in the diary to revise it after 07 days, revise it on that day. Your retention and reproducing the learning goes up by 80%.
3. Get enough sleep, eat good balanced diet, get 20 mins of physical activity and meditate for 10 mins. The simplest meditation is to sit in a quiet place, relax, close your eyes and observe your breath going in and out. Don't fret if you lose focus, just get back to observing the breath.
4. you keep working on your studies and yourself. You focus on becoming better, forget about all else and do not compare yourself with anyone.

All the very best!!

Ans: Dear 24 yr old, beautiful soul, I am happy you are looking for peace. Let me tell you, peace and happiness should be the only targets in life, everything else is just riff raff. Take care that you value your inner peace more than anything else in your life...anything , everything and anyone coming in your way just needs to be cut out, don't give space to things/people who rob you of your inner peace. Till you overcome your anxiety, just avoid all that takes away your peace, avoid them physically first and then stop giving them space in your head.
Try deep breathing exercises, living in the moment, yoga, meditation....life is full of challenges, you cannot not face them, these will help you to face them with courage and clarity of thought.
Let me simplify... living in the moment right away... whatever you are doing.....let's say you are eating.. be fully present with it, involve all your senses, look at the food, smell the aroma, feel the food in your mouth, chew it and enjoy every morsel...this is being fully present in the moment. being in sync with what your body is doing and getting your mind to focus on the action completely. This is ZEN...just be fully present in every action of yours and see how powerful you become...
Let's deal with lack of sleep too...drink chamomile tea before going to bed, practice guided yoga-nidra before sleeping.
It's a vicious cycle you have got into...lack of sleep, this will lead to clouded mind, groggy mind, irritability, lack of appetite, anger, overthinking, no control over your mind and body... finally leading to anxiety.
Let's nip all this in the bud...
KEEP LIFE SIMPLE...I am just listing out your ""to do list.. without analysing it... pls just follow these for next 21 days, let's make all this into a habit for you..
1. SLEEP EARLY AND PEACEFULLY, AVOID SOCIAL MEDIA FOR ATLEAST 1 HR BFR SLEEPING
2.EAT ATLEAST 2 HOURS BEFORE GOING TO BED
3 GET 8-9 HRS OF SLEEP
4.EXPOSING YOURSELF TO THE SUN, WITHIN 15 MINUTES OF WAKING UP. SPEND TIME WITH NATURE, it is therapeutic
5. 20 MINS OF EXERCISE
6.GOOD HEALTHY BREAKFAST
7. CONSCIOUSLY EAT WELL THROUGHOUT THE DAY
8. STEER YOUR MIND TOWARDS POSITIVE THOUGHTS, BE CONCIOUS OF YOUR THOUGHTS AND BREATH
9.WHENEVER YOU FEEL ANSCIOUS, GET AWAY, EXCUSE YOURSELF ,CLOSE YOUR EYES FOR 10 MINS AND FOCUS ON YOUR
BREATHING..
10. VALUE YOUR INNER PEACE... AVOID EVERYTHING THAT DISTURBS YOU, TILL YOU ARE STRONG ENOUGH TO SAY " NO" TO PEOPLE, SITUATIONSHIP AND ALL THE STUFF THAT CAUSES ANXIETY.

All the ACTIONS listed are doable, just DO IT and transform your life.

If you are someone who reads then, read "Practicing the power of NOW" and " STOP overthinking". Both books offer practical solutions to being in the present and ways to stop overthinking.

Looking forward to seeing you as a powerful being... fully in control of your INNER PEACE.. All the best!!

Ans: Hey!!
Let me tell you as a body language and communications expert, that body language is a like learning any other language.
It needs to be learnt and practiced, it takes time and effort...
When you are technically strong and when your bosses have faith in you... then just go ahead , learn body language, practice it and project it .I say there are three ways of communication, Visual, Verbal and Vocal. What you say is important but how you say is also very important.
Learn body language from an expert and then project that winning image!!
You can get in touch with me too..
https://transformme.co.in/

All the best !!

Ans: OMG Mr Manoj...please take external help, take him to a doctor and get your beautiful son back into the family fold. He needs help and a father/family needs to stand with him like a rock to get him back to living a good life. See where he goes, what he does and then talk to him!! Don't blame, don't criticize...your son needs you... Just be there for him, he is yours ...nobody can do what you can do. Love him , cherish him... get him back!!Pls take action in the best interest of your son. All the best..

Ans: Dear Mom,

I can totally empathise with you...so here is what I am going to tell you out of my own experience and what I did to overcome this mom guilt and seeking forgiveness. It's good that you are have worked on your marriage and have 3 kids, pat yourself on the back for it. And it's normal in any marriage for these kind of ups and downs and then attaining peace and love, so good going for having found them!!And remember marriage is continuous work.

The solution I am going to give, I am going to divide it into two parts..

1. Forgiving yourself first..be kind to yourself, you were young, you were inexperienced, the mom you are to your 3 yr old is not the same person who brought up your first child, so quit being guilty! Every soul has a journey to take, your son chose you as a mother so that he could take that journey with you...you both had to take this journey together in order to evolve and grow into the people you are today. So, FORGIVE YOURSELF AND QUIT FEELING GUILTY, it's not easy but you have to start doing it. Be kind to the old you... and embrace the new you!! You are not the same person and so is your first born, this continuous evolving as a human being and becoming better is called life, rt?

2. Your SON is 16yrs old, the aggression that he has may not be because of what you did to him... it may be the changing hormones? When you are a guilty mother, you tend to blame yourself for all the wrongs that happen in your child's life, so quit being guilty.
Talk to him about how young you were when he was born and how guilty you feel about some things( be careful about what you say, kids are very resilient, they know how to protect themselves , so maybe how you remember things may not be the same way that he remembers), say sorry and seek his forgiveness. Check if you can have this conversation with him, don't give him the power to make you feel further more guilty. I leave this decision to you.

Don't cry dear mom, forgive yourself, heal and see what best you can do from now on with your first born...just move on from the past... be there for him, cherish him, love him and be there for him, help him navigate through life with compassion and understanding. It might take time, but it's all doable. Take care of him.. and a mother truly knows what is best for her child, trust your instincts, the mother's instincts are far too powerful, take back your power from the "guilty mother" and nourish your bond.

What "I do' and also advice all parents is to spend excusive time with each child, scheduling time with each child and doing something which they like takes the bond to new levels!! Try this out...

All the best... and wishing happy times ahead for you and your beautiful family!!

Ans: Dear overthinker,

Thinking is a good trait to have, overthinking is not.

You literally have to STOP overthinking!!!

One way to overcome this is to stop thinking and become more action oriented. STOP analyzing everything in the head, put it on paper, there is something calming about putting thoughts on paper, writing them down with a pen and paper.
And then taking actions based on what you have written and no more thinking about it.

Indulge in physical activity, play a game which is more action oriented , this teaches you to be fully present in the moment, which helps you in being in the moment. Being fully present in the moment is what gets you out of overthinking.
Do meditate , I really can't enumerate all the benefits of meditation, what meditation does to people is beyond words.

There is a book called as, STOP OVERTHINKING by Nick Trenton, this book offers practical advice and exercises to help you break free from negative thoughts and worries. It provides evidence-based methods to combat overthinking and anxiety.

Another amazing book by Eckhart Tolle, "The Power of NOW", can help you.

There is no problem which can't be overcome, believe in yourself, you are more powerful than you think, the body and mind have to listen to you!!
What you think so you become, feed yourself the right thoughts and let the magic unfold.!!

All the best!!

Ans: Hi!!

When I was working in the corporate world, the oft repeated quote was, "people don't leave the company ,they leave bad bosses".
Your manager's boss is your super boss, rt? Can't you go and speak to him directly and put your concerns across?
I am sure the HR must have noticed that people are quitting and might have explored the reasons why they are doing so too, do check with them.
I fail to understand why women should not cooperate with each other. You can also explore the option of talking directly to the manager and telling her if your actions in any way have caused some misunderstanding and if she says yes then you are willing to clear them. Also tell her that you are not eyeing her post and you are just trying to do your job well. I did the same with one of my bosses, it worked for me, we became the best of friends, we are still in touch. You need to think which is your best option and choose one from all the possible solutions I have mentioned. You can always quit, that's the last option I feel..

Hoping you choose wisely..All the very best!!

Ans: Dear Aman,
Do remember, rules are meant to be followed...there are always consequences for not following them.
I think you should request your organisation to give you a relieving letter and submit the relevant medical papers for the same. If there is a penalty to be paid for not serving the notice period , please pay and get rid of this stress, at the end of the day peace of mind is more important than money. Looking for peace of mind will also solve your insomnia!!


hoping the best for you...

Ans: Dear Arun... it is a whole skill set you need to learn in order to overcome stage fear.
It involves mindset change, visualizations, confidence building exercises and finally practice, practice and more practice in order to master public speaking and overcome the fear of the stage.

Get in touch if you are really interested in working on this fear and becoming a stage performer.

All the best!!

Ans: Prasenjit... your concerns are valid, however no one can actually know what the future holds. We can all speculate and get stressed about the future. It is only today and this moment that we have with us. Like railways in India it is very unlikely that PSBs will be privatised. Meanwhile what you can do is be a continuous learner, hone your skills , become indispensable to your organisation.
Keep your eyes, ears and heart/ mind to embrace the change and keep upgrading/learning and living life fearlessly.

All the very best!!

Ans: Hi!!

If it's your dream to fly again, then please be at it... this passion itself should keep you from giving up. Groom yourself, do whatever it takes to be fit, keep your chin up, you have cracked the interview before and worked in this industry, this is your strength. Your time away was for family reasons and remember the lessons you learnt from being away from flying. Be honest in your interviews and show your reasons for joining back. Relook at your resume and then reapply....
Work on yourself, keep your goals realistic and have a positive outlook towards your dreams.

All the very best!!

Ans: OMG, an MSc in clinical psychology is like gold mine in today's time. Schools, colleges, corporates, hospitals are looking for psychologists. I just googled there are many jobs in the Government too.
If this is your area of interest then pls go ahead and start sharing your expertise with the world. Start consulting and start helping people, everyone is looking for an expert to help them navigate through life, specially the young !!

Ans: Dear Revathi,

You are doing so much my dear...take a break from everything for an hour everyday and focus on your well being and peace of mind. 20-20-20 rule for you, meditate for 20 mins, physical activity for 20 mins and connecting with nature for 20 mins( these are your mini breaks).
If you can add 10 mins of an activity which makes your heart joyful then 'sone pe suhaga'!! Self-care comes first, a happy and joyful mother, wife , daughter-in-law is great to have around the house. You are doing so much don't you think you deserve 1 hr for yourself? Without thinking too much , just go ahead and schedule self-care in your time table.

Now let's solve your son's issue...since childhood you have taught him how to do things, he is grown up enough to do things on his own. Until and unless you allow him to do things on his own, how will he learn to do?
DO NOT CHASE...DO NOT CRITICIZE....DO NOT NAG, tell him what to do once and wait for him to do. If he does it fantastic, else let him face the consequences. Every action has to have consequences.. for eg, not studying will lead to less marks, it's his failure, not yours, let him take ownership of his actions, you are preparing him for life, let him falter now and learn to get up. Be there for him when he falls, your job as a mom is to ensure he is healthy...emotionally and physically. (Keep the atmosphere at home happy because you have another son too, he is younger and needs your attention too)
It is his 10th Std, not yours. Keep telling the importance of studies and scoring well and the need to study consistently( again no nagging). He is grown up now, take him to a place without distractions and have heart to heart conversations as a mom and son. Conflicts are neither good for him nor to you/the entire home.
Trust me, parenting is not an easy job, you have to raise yourself, before you raise a child. It is not an easy world for your son too.....raging hormones, conflicting world, conflicting views....the world at the click of a button, you be his rock solid supporter and cheer leader, be there for your sons, create a loving and caring home, where they feel secure and happy. A mother knows best, trust your instinct( the mother's instinct), believe in yourself and your children!!

Wishing the very best to all of you.. and happy parenting!!

Ans: Good afternoon!!

If you have been in the banking industry for the last 24 yrs, don't you think now is the time to consolidate on your skills and do something which brings out your expertise ? Think of moving up the ladder in your organisation or look for coaching/training people to pass a bank exam or any other subject you love to teach.

And trust me 50 is also an age -
1. when you look back and see all that you have accomplished
2. then look into the future and think about all that you wanted to do and want to do
For you to really look into the two questions above, sit with a quite mind and explore all options , write them down for clarity and for the way forward.

If HR is where you want to go in, then look for an MBA in HR while you are continuing to work( I am very particular about being financially independent too during a career shift or the transition phase)!

If Life coaching is what interests you then check out India's leading life coach Puja Puneet and the courses she offers.
To be a life coach is to work a lot on yourself before you can become one.

Working part-time in my organisation is a "no" right now as I am not hiring!!

All the best in your exploration of the self and the clarity on forward path!!

Ans: Dear Ms CEO!! You are already a power house of talent and experience, congratulations. Look back at your life and list out all your WINS. This activity has two benefits....first benefit you'll know your strengths and the second you'll know the activities that brought the best in you and you enjoyed doing them!! Now is the time to consolidate on your strengths and work towards finding joy and meaning in your life , if that is what you desire.
There is no single educational path for becoming an independent consultant or apply for senior positions abroad but here are some things to consider:
1. how good are your leadership skills
2. communication skills
3. updating yourself to look and feel like a leader
4. look into your networking skills and building rapport skills
5. how good are you at leading cross cultural teams

As you go higher up in your career the soft skills and Image projection take center stage backed with solid experience(which is your strength)!!

More power to you..

All the very best!!

Ans: Dearest Mumma of a beautiful girl child..... I am sorry to be a little blunt here.. DO NOT COMPARE, period!! Your times and her times are different. She is just in 2nd std...allow her "TO BE", please. Your job as a mother is to nurture her and ensure that she is joyous and healthy!! Teach her , train her, expose her to a lot of activities if you want but with lots of love and understanding. DO REMEMBER that childhood is not a preparation for adulthood....and who said scoring 90 is the only way to feel empowered, anything above 80 means your child is doing good!! Your child is unique, do not compare her with anyone, every child has her own pace...allow her to run her own race and WIN!! All the best and happy parenting!!!

Ans: Hi!!

I feel that KVs have the best curriculum in terms of overall development of a child. But I really don't know how good this school is, you and your daughter are the best judge for this.
You can take a call whether to put her in a private school based on your goals in life and your budget.
Invest in a school which is invested in your child. School going kids will surely be influenced by the kind of environment they grow and the kind of company they keep. I believe that the confidence in young children comes from their parents.
You be confident about your decisions, she'll grow up being a confident girl. If you are under confident somewhere then see what you can do to raise your confidence, she'll learn to do it too.
You can get a coach to coach her on confidence building and grooming once she is a little older. For now be a confident parent and coach her, she is watching you. You feel you must change the school , then change it...make informed choices, and see how your daughter will bloom where ever she is!!
All the best...

Ans: Hi Guddu!!
English is a funny language... CAT is CAT but CYCLE is SAICLE.
You want to improve English, here are my suggestions -
1. have a proper tutor and learn it from scratch... like from the very beginning, start from A, B,C
2.start talking in English as much as possible don't bother if ppl laugh, your goal is to speak in English. I am learning French, I have learnt it in theory but yet to speak properly, so you want to speak in English well, then pls start conversing in English, that's the only way
3. make use of technology to pronounce words properly, write properly... watch you tube channels dedicated to English learning, use google to clear any doubts..
4. be in an environment of English --- read English newspaper, listen to the news in English ,look for opportunities to converse in English, watch English movies..

Happy learning!!

Ans: Hi!!
You seem to me like a person who is capable of doing much more... look at you... the way you have written this whole question so clearly, explaining your predicaments in very good English, is a proof of your capability.
Now young adult... this is what I want from you-
1. you have come this far...congratulations....bad school you said, malnourished you said, COVID degree you said...I just want you to stop complaining
2. you are really good, resilient....in spite of all the circumstances you narrated so far, none of them were in your control, yet here you are A Computer Science graduate, can you not see that you are good, you rise even when life has not been so fair. Believe in yourself my friend
3. you take heart in what Buddha said, "you are what you think", start by changing your vocabulary, start thinking positively about everything ... 5 ft is good height, check how tall was Napoleon Bonaparte.... you are as tall as you think. Change what you can, accept what you can't change, and be smart enough to know the difference. Pls do not cry about what you can't change- your height, corona, they are all not in your control at all... accept and move forward pls
4.if you think Corona degree is not good enough, then explore other options, see if you can earn another certificate course that will help you in your job search... this time choose wisely
5. ask yourself, "what is that I want my life to look like" and start working towards it, one step at a time.
6. for focus and memory to improve I totally rely on Yoga and Meditation, it can totally help you too...give it a shot

With all my suggestions above, what I am trying to tell you is that, " you are a very smart kid", start looking for solutions now, enough of crying over spilt milk!!

All the best... take all actions today, with one leg in the future!! God created you, love your self!!