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Ans: Hi!!

I can understand what you are going through.
I have helped many a people to become better communicators, presenters and public speakers. I agree with you when you say .. that these skills will augur well for your career growth.
What I can say is this .. that it is a learnable skill. Practice and more practice is the only way ahead. You said your content is strong, that is 50% of the job done, so build up on this confidence and practice your delivery in front of the mirror or in front of encouraging family/friends.
The only way to gain confidence is to "JUST DO IT"....to calm your nerves- deep breathing techniques and visualizations techniques will be useful.
I can help you on this journey of being a person who delivers with panache!

There are books by Dale Carnegie on public speaking which can help you out. Also read about Abe Lincoln and his journey of becoming a great orator, it can maybe help you.

Remember, PRACTICE AND PRACTICE is the key to unlock your confidence and become the person who delvers with panache.

All the best!!

Ans: Hi!!

Learn it from an expert, an Image Consultant is not simply called an I MAGE DOCTOR, she is qualified to help you on these aspects!!

Ans: Hey!!
Kudos to you for dreaming big and also working towards it by investing time and energy in learning and development.
Not everyone can do it... so pat yourself on the back for it!!

You are absolutely right when you say TIME MANAGEMANT is the key to avoid burnout. However I'll add compartmentalizing and self care along with time management.

Let's take them one at a time ...here I go-

1. You want to perform at your peak then self care is a must, 20 mins of physical activity(it can be anything, run, brisk walk, suryanamaskars, dancing along with fast paced music, anything that gets your heart beat up)
10 -20 mins of meditation, if you believe in the higher power make efforts to connect with it/him/her.
2. 9 to 6 be fully committed to the office, after that switch off, learn to say NO for anything that comes after this time. You can do only so much right? This was one part of compartmentalizing...
3. be fully present in whatever activity you are doing... this is ZEN, nothing more nothing less. This way you will be razor sharp in your focus and get jobs done faster. When you are studying don't think office and vice versa. This is switching off, this is compartmentalizing. This will take conscious efforts but is doable
4.your course is important to you, so schedule a study time and stick to it .The days you have an holiday too... try to relax a little, schedule a study time, finish your studies and go relax and unwind a little, you deserve it...don't cram too much in a day.
A relaxed mind will always perform better and focus better. I really can't tell you the importance of unwinding and mediation, you really have to do it to experience it and reap the benefits of it
5. Always encourage yourself, be your best cheer leader, don't beat yourself down, be kind to yourself too, your mind and body
need that from you. You are already doing so much.
6 .The only way to stop being overwhelmed is also to put out all your tasks of the day on paper and schedule it, prioritize it.... one task at a time, start taking action. And when the task is don't forget to strike the task out with a clean line over the task with a pen... this is a message your giving to your mind. ...'I got one task done, I am capable of getting another done'.. Ahaha... the joy of getting a job done!!
7. Get a good nights sleep, do "yog nidra' before sleeping
8. Always breathe deep whenever overwhelm creeps in and see how calm you become. A calm mind is key to getting more done.

And remember to write "your gratitude" out in the night before sleeping, you'll sleep peacefully and get up fresh.
Also do remember, all tasks can be done happily too... there is no need to drag yourself or be always overwhelmed!
You chose to work and study as well.... honour your choices joyously and go about life with a spring in your step...All best !!

Ans: Dear Shree!

Commerce graduates have many career options, I am listing some of them for you-
1.Company Secretary (CS)
A program that teaches corporate governance, company law, compliance, and secretarial practices
2.Chartered Accountant (CA)
A career that involves auditing, taxation, accounting, financial planning, and consulting
2.Investment banker
A career that involves developing financial assets for customers or organizations, and obtaining finance for corporate operations, acquisitions, and mergers
3.Cost Management Accountant (CMA)
A prestigious professional credential that is considered one of the highest-paying career options for commerce students
4.Chartered Financial Analyst (CFA)
A career that involves financial analysis, variant bonds and derivatives, types of portfolios, and investment management
5.Cost accountant
A career that involves assessing cost information, making and maintaining an expenses database, managing cost information, and preparing budget reports
6.Certified Public Accountant (CPA)
A career that involves managing the accounting, reporting, taxation, and auditing processes for businesses, clients, and the government

Some more options for you..
Financial Analyst, HR Manager, Economist, Financial Planner, Actuary, Market Research Analysts, Bank PO (Probationary Officer), Tax Consultant, Teaching students

Can you see the options and the opportunities that are available for you??
You can also focus on further studies too… amassing knowledge and skills can also be your goal.Focus on acquiring wisdom, spend time and energy on worthy tasks, become mentally and physically strong!


Hope this helps… all the very best!

Ans: Hi!!
Congratulations on getting a new portfolio!
You have identified that you need to improve your communication skills, that’s the first step. I like the fact that you are preparing yourself for the task on hand, you’ll go very far in life.
Now to improve your communication skills..( I do not know the stage you are in , so suggesting the general aspects of communication)
1. you need to speak in a clear voice with enough loudness to suit the situation
2. make the right amount of eye contact to showcase your confidence
3. Use non verbal cues to convey your thoughts effectively
4. use appropriate language to convey the message in a precise and concise manner. Do not beat around the bush, hold ppl’s attention when you speak
5. Be polite and respectful to create a positive interaction

Communication skills is a vast area which cannot be conveyed in a few minutes.It can be acquired by learning it from an expert. It is a far deeper science and learning it will help you in both personal and professional life.
You can learn it from me too!! My students have learnt it from me and are doing great both personally and professionally!
Communication skills can be learnt like any other skills.

All the best !!

Ans: Hi!!

I won't talk about your fake experience and all. You too don't go back in time and revisit it!! This is not going to help you. Just look ahead now..
You were 26 and now you are 29, you have 03 years experience now, right?
Like I said in the beginning itself, forget the past... sit down calmly in a comfortable place and list out all that you need to learn in order to meet the expectations.... start learning them, keep it simple, that's all you need to do now...LEARN. Spend some extra time, energy in learning. Seek out seniors to help, check online if you can learn something that will help you perform well.

Just go ahead and learn ...

All the best!!

Ans: Hi!!

I am glad you understood the importance of building your Image and acknowledging that you need these aspects in your life to grow, that's half the job done...congratulations. This willingness to learn is what will help you in the long run!!

As an Image Consultant, Soft Skills Trainer and a life Coach , I can help you with all that you have mentioned and groom you to attain your professional goals!!

You can check this out https://transformme.co.in/ and reach out to me !!

All the very best!!

Ans: Hi!!

Learning English in today's time is quite easy, especially online. Just google and check for courses. You can check their reviews and join the one with a good rating!!

All the best!!

Ans: Dear Sunil,

No one is clear cut introvert or an extrovert, look at yourself closely too... in some circumstances you behave like an extrovert and some areas you behave like an introvert.

Be brave and say "hi" to people around you in the office, you be the first one to greet, this itself can be a starting point to making new friends. A smile and a pleasant "hi" is all it takes.
Look for opportunities to connect with ppl in the office, instead of sending mails or reminders to ppl electronically, just walk up to them and speak to them or call them up to say you have sent a mail/reminder. This way you can establish a human connect.
Also check if you can go to the dining area to eat lunch and during breaks.. do not sit at your desk and have lunch.
Social media and watching reels is a "big no" if you are yearning for human connections. I am glad you talk to your family...outside the office, join book clubs, singing clubs, drama clubs or anywhere your interest lies...you can join a classroom to learn and develop a new skill....

Also check if you are getting enough sleep, exercise, fresh air , sunshine during the day....focus on your diet too!!

Hope this helps... take care of yourself!

Ans: Dear Ahalya,
This is the best time to be an entrepreneur in India!! There are enough problems to solve on this planet, look at these closely, see where you can help and become part of the solution. With your experience and your area of expertise, see where you can bridge the gap, this is where you can become self employed and self dependent!
Look around, grab the opportunities that come your way and move forward with courage....any age is a good age, age is just a number, trust me.

If teaching interests you, then please go ahead and teach, there is a severe dearth of good teachers who can shape young minds!!

Don't let fear cloud your judgement ... fortune favours the brave!! Prepare well and take the plunge!! Best wishes to you..

Ans: Hey!!

You are just 27 yrs old, there is a full life ahead of you!! Trust me when I say that every experience is a learning experience. Look back at life, reflect and see what you learnt from each experience, how you responded to each experience, and how you have changed for better. This the only way to go about being positive and happy. This is the key to live a fulfilling life
Focus on your health, however cliche it may sound ,"health is wealth". Recover, rejuvenate, become sound in body and mind. Do all that takes to regain your mojo.
Take one step at a time towards becoming better in all the areas of your life.
Go back to the classroom , learn and get that degree. There is something about getting a degree, it shows your focus, resilience and the ability to get things done come what may, this will again help you in moving forward in life!!

Practice gratitude, meditate, exercise, stay healthy, stay happy and stay positive.
Things will soon fall in place when you start taking care of yourself... your life, your pace and it's your journey... do not compare yourself with anyone. Life is your race to be won, by becoming better version of yourself and giving your 100%. Get up and get going with wisdom and clarity of thought.

All the very best!! More power to you!!

Ans: Dear Madhurrya!!

You have a nice and unique name.. it sounds so good!! I like that fact that you are honest, it's a strength, let this not change because of cheating students. Good people don't change because of bad people. All the best on staying honest always , remember it is your strength.

Coming to your question..it's nice to have ppl competing with others and upping their game. If it is a respectful way, then go ahead and compete and become better, just like Rafal Nadal and Roger Federer, they became good at what they were doing by competing with each other.
Forget about that boy who threatens you...don't give him any space in your head, stay away from him and be strong enough to defend yourself when he tries to harm you, take help of elders if he physically harms you. Don't get into any verbal duels, he is not worth your time and attention. BE SAFE.

Let's now look into you getting better marks and upping your score..
1. discipline and consistency is what will help you score well
2. the power to score better lies in not just regular studies but in your revision. After you study a chapter, revise it within 10 mins , once in 24 hrs and then after 07 days. This way the learning gets absorbed completely.. try it out, maintain a diary for to plan every chapter's revision .. let me explain.. supposing you study chapter 09 in Science, then you revise the concepts for 10 mins after you finish studying it. Revise it the next day( 24 hrs).. and then mark in the diary to revise it after 07 days, revise it on that day. Your retention and reproducing the learning goes up by 80%.
3. Get enough sleep, eat good balanced diet, get 20 mins of physical activity and meditate for 10 mins. The simplest meditation is to sit in a quiet place, relax, close your eyes and observe your breath going in and out. Don't fret if you lose focus, just get back to observing the breath.
4. you keep working on your studies and yourself. You focus on becoming better, forget about all else and do not compare yourself with anyone.

All the very best!!

Ans: Dear 24 yr old, beautiful soul, I am happy you are looking for peace. Let me tell you, peace and happiness should be the only targets in life, everything else is just riff raff. Take care that you value your inner peace more than anything else in your life...anything , everything and anyone coming in your way just needs to be cut out, don't give space to things/people who rob you of your inner peace. Till you overcome your anxiety, just avoid all that takes away your peace, avoid them physically first and then stop giving them space in your head.
Try deep breathing exercises, living in the moment, yoga, meditation....life is full of challenges, you cannot not face them, these will help you to face them with courage and clarity of thought.
Let me simplify... living in the moment right away... whatever you are doing.....let's say you are eating.. be fully present with it, involve all your senses, look at the food, smell the aroma, feel the food in your mouth, chew it and enjoy every morsel...this is being fully present in the moment. being in sync with what your body is doing and getting your mind to focus on the action completely. This is ZEN...just be fully present in every action of yours and see how powerful you become...
Let's deal with lack of sleep too...drink chamomile tea before going to bed, practice guided yoga-nidra before sleeping.
It's a vicious cycle you have got into...lack of sleep, this will lead to clouded mind, groggy mind, irritability, lack of appetite, anger, overthinking, no control over your mind and body... finally leading to anxiety.
Let's nip all this in the bud...
KEEP LIFE SIMPLE...I am just listing out your ""to do list.. without analysing it... pls just follow these for next 21 days, let's make all this into a habit for you..
1. SLEEP EARLY AND PEACEFULLY, AVOID SOCIAL MEDIA FOR ATLEAST 1 HR BFR SLEEPING
2.EAT ATLEAST 2 HOURS BEFORE GOING TO BED
3 GET 8-9 HRS OF SLEEP
4.EXPOSING YOURSELF TO THE SUN, WITHIN 15 MINUTES OF WAKING UP. SPEND TIME WITH NATURE, it is therapeutic
5. 20 MINS OF EXERCISE
6.GOOD HEALTHY BREAKFAST
7. CONSCIOUSLY EAT WELL THROUGHOUT THE DAY
8. STEER YOUR MIND TOWARDS POSITIVE THOUGHTS, BE CONCIOUS OF YOUR THOUGHTS AND BREATH
9.WHENEVER YOU FEEL ANSCIOUS, GET AWAY, EXCUSE YOURSELF ,CLOSE YOUR EYES FOR 10 MINS AND FOCUS ON YOUR
BREATHING..
10. VALUE YOUR INNER PEACE... AVOID EVERYTHING THAT DISTURBS YOU, TILL YOU ARE STRONG ENOUGH TO SAY " NO" TO PEOPLE, SITUATIONSHIP AND ALL THE STUFF THAT CAUSES ANXIETY.

All the ACTIONS listed are doable, just DO IT and transform your life.

If you are someone who reads then, read "Practicing the power of NOW" and " STOP overthinking". Both books offer practical solutions to being in the present and ways to stop overthinking.

Looking forward to seeing you as a powerful being... fully in control of your INNER PEACE.. All the best!!

Ans: Hey!!
Let me tell you as a body language and communications expert, that body language is a like learning any other language.
It needs to be learnt and practiced, it takes time and effort...
When you are technically strong and when your bosses have faith in you... then just go ahead , learn body language, practice it and project it .I say there are three ways of communication, Visual, Verbal and Vocal. What you say is important but how you say is also very important.
Learn body language from an expert and then project that winning image!!
You can get in touch with me too..
https://transformme.co.in/

All the best !!

Ans: OMG Mr Manoj...please take external help, take him to a doctor and get your beautiful son back into the family fold. He needs help and a father/family needs to stand with him like a rock to get him back to living a good life. See where he goes, what he does and then talk to him!! Don't blame, don't criticize...your son needs you... Just be there for him, he is yours ...nobody can do what you can do. Love him , cherish him... get him back!!Pls take action in the best interest of your son. All the best..

Ans: Dear Mom,

I can totally empathise with you...so here is what I am going to tell you out of my own experience and what I did to overcome this mom guilt and seeking forgiveness. It's good that you are have worked on your marriage and have 3 kids, pat yourself on the back for it. And it's normal in any marriage for these kind of ups and downs and then attaining peace and love, so good going for having found them!!And remember marriage is continuous work.

The solution I am going to give, I am going to divide it into two parts..

1. Forgiving yourself first..be kind to yourself, you were young, you were inexperienced, the mom you are to your 3 yr old is not the same person who brought up your first child, so quit being guilty! Every soul has a journey to take, your son chose you as a mother so that he could take that journey with you...you both had to take this journey together in order to evolve and grow into the people you are today. So, FORGIVE YOURSELF AND QUIT FEELING GUILTY, it's not easy but you have to start doing it. Be kind to the old you... and embrace the new you!! You are not the same person and so is your first born, this continuous evolving as a human being and becoming better is called life, rt?

2. Your SON is 16yrs old, the aggression that he has may not be because of what you did to him... it may be the changing hormones? When you are a guilty mother, you tend to blame yourself for all the wrongs that happen in your child's life, so quit being guilty.
Talk to him about how young you were when he was born and how guilty you feel about some things( be careful about what you say, kids are very resilient, they know how to protect themselves , so maybe how you remember things may not be the same way that he remembers), say sorry and seek his forgiveness. Check if you can have this conversation with him, don't give him the power to make you feel further more guilty. I leave this decision to you.

Don't cry dear mom, forgive yourself, heal and see what best you can do from now on with your first born...just move on from the past... be there for him, cherish him, love him and be there for him, help him navigate through life with compassion and understanding. It might take time, but it's all doable. Take care of him.. and a mother truly knows what is best for her child, trust your instincts, the mother's instincts are far too powerful, take back your power from the "guilty mother" and nourish your bond.

What "I do' and also advice all parents is to spend excusive time with each child, scheduling time with each child and doing something which they like takes the bond to new levels!! Try this out...

All the best... and wishing happy times ahead for you and your beautiful family!!

Ans: Dear overthinker,

Thinking is a good trait to have, overthinking is not.

You literally have to STOP overthinking!!!

One way to overcome this is to stop thinking and become more action oriented. STOP analyzing everything in the head, put it on paper, there is something calming about putting thoughts on paper, writing them down with a pen and paper.
And then taking actions based on what you have written and no more thinking about it.

Indulge in physical activity, play a game which is more action oriented , this teaches you to be fully present in the moment, which helps you in being in the moment. Being fully present in the moment is what gets you out of overthinking.
Do meditate , I really can't enumerate all the benefits of meditation, what meditation does to people is beyond words.

There is a book called as, STOP OVERTHINKING by Nick Trenton, this book offers practical advice and exercises to help you break free from negative thoughts and worries. It provides evidence-based methods to combat overthinking and anxiety.

Another amazing book by Eckhart Tolle, "The Power of NOW", can help you.

There is no problem which can't be overcome, believe in yourself, you are more powerful than you think, the body and mind have to listen to you!!
What you think so you become, feed yourself the right thoughts and let the magic unfold.!!

All the best!!

Ans: Hi!!

When I was working in the corporate world, the oft repeated quote was, "people don't leave the company ,they leave bad bosses".
Your manager's boss is your super boss, rt? Can't you go and speak to him directly and put your concerns across?
I am sure the HR must have noticed that people are quitting and might have explored the reasons why they are doing so too, do check with them.
I fail to understand why women should not cooperate with each other. You can also explore the option of talking directly to the manager and telling her if your actions in any way have caused some misunderstanding and if she says yes then you are willing to clear them. Also tell her that you are not eyeing her post and you are just trying to do your job well. I did the same with one of my bosses, it worked for me, we became the best of friends, we are still in touch. You need to think which is your best option and choose one from all the possible solutions I have mentioned. You can always quit, that's the last option I feel..

Hoping you choose wisely..All the very best!!

Ans: Dear Aman,
Do remember, rules are meant to be followed...there are always consequences for not following them.
I think you should request your organisation to give you a relieving letter and submit the relevant medical papers for the same. If there is a penalty to be paid for not serving the notice period , please pay and get rid of this stress, at the end of the day peace of mind is more important than money. Looking for peace of mind will also solve your insomnia!!


hoping the best for you...

Ans: Dear Arun... it is a whole skill set you need to learn in order to overcome stage fear.
It involves mindset change, visualizations, confidence building exercises and finally practice, practice and more practice in order to master public speaking and overcome the fear of the stage.

Get in touch if you are really interested in working on this fear and becoming a stage performer.

All the best!!

Ans: Prasenjit... your concerns are valid, however no one can actually know what the future holds. We can all speculate and get stressed about the future. It is only today and this moment that we have with us. Like railways in India it is very unlikely that PSBs will be privatised. Meanwhile what you can do is be a continuous learner, hone your skills , become indispensable to your organisation.
Keep your eyes, ears and heart/ mind to embrace the change and keep upgrading/learning and living life fearlessly.

All the very best!!

Ans: Hi!!

If it's your dream to fly again, then please be at it... this passion itself should keep you from giving up. Groom yourself, do whatever it takes to be fit, keep your chin up, you have cracked the interview before and worked in this industry, this is your strength. Your time away was for family reasons and remember the lessons you learnt from being away from flying. Be honest in your interviews and show your reasons for joining back. Relook at your resume and then reapply....
Work on yourself, keep your goals realistic and have a positive outlook towards your dreams.

All the very best!!

Ans: OMG, an MSc in clinical psychology is like gold mine in today's time. Schools, colleges, corporates, hospitals are looking for psychologists. I just googled there are many jobs in the Government too.
If this is your area of interest then pls go ahead and start sharing your expertise with the world. Start consulting and start helping people, everyone is looking for an expert to help them navigate through life, specially the young !!

Ans: Dear Revathi,

You are doing so much my dear...take a break from everything for an hour everyday and focus on your well being and peace of mind. 20-20-20 rule for you, meditate for 20 mins, physical activity for 20 mins and connecting with nature for 20 mins( these are your mini breaks).
If you can add 10 mins of an activity which makes your heart joyful then 'sone pe suhaga'!! Self-care comes first, a happy and joyful mother, wife , daughter-in-law is great to have around the house. You are doing so much don't you think you deserve 1 hr for yourself? Without thinking too much , just go ahead and schedule self-care in your time table.

Now let's solve your son's issue...since childhood you have taught him how to do things, he is grown up enough to do things on his own. Until and unless you allow him to do things on his own, how will he learn to do?
DO NOT CHASE...DO NOT CRITICIZE....DO NOT NAG, tell him what to do once and wait for him to do. If he does it fantastic, else let him face the consequences. Every action has to have consequences.. for eg, not studying will lead to less marks, it's his failure, not yours, let him take ownership of his actions, you are preparing him for life, let him falter now and learn to get up. Be there for him when he falls, your job as a mom is to ensure he is healthy...emotionally and physically. (Keep the atmosphere at home happy because you have another son too, he is younger and needs your attention too)
It is his 10th Std, not yours. Keep telling the importance of studies and scoring well and the need to study consistently( again no nagging). He is grown up now, take him to a place without distractions and have heart to heart conversations as a mom and son. Conflicts are neither good for him nor to you/the entire home.
Trust me, parenting is not an easy job, you have to raise yourself, before you raise a child. It is not an easy world for your son too.....raging hormones, conflicting world, conflicting views....the world at the click of a button, you be his rock solid supporter and cheer leader, be there for your sons, create a loving and caring home, where they feel secure and happy. A mother knows best, trust your instinct( the mother's instinct), believe in yourself and your children!!

Wishing the very best to all of you.. and happy parenting!!

Ans: Good afternoon!!

If you have been in the banking industry for the last 24 yrs, don't you think now is the time to consolidate on your skills and do something which brings out your expertise ? Think of moving up the ladder in your organisation or look for coaching/training people to pass a bank exam or any other subject you love to teach.

And trust me 50 is also an age -
1. when you look back and see all that you have accomplished
2. then look into the future and think about all that you wanted to do and want to do
For you to really look into the two questions above, sit with a quite mind and explore all options , write them down for clarity and for the way forward.

If HR is where you want to go in, then look for an MBA in HR while you are continuing to work( I am very particular about being financially independent too during a career shift or the transition phase)!

If Life coaching is what interests you then check out India's leading life coach Puja Puneet and the courses she offers.
To be a life coach is to work a lot on yourself before you can become one.

Working part-time in my organisation is a "no" right now as I am not hiring!!

All the best in your exploration of the self and the clarity on forward path!!

Ans: Dear Ms CEO!! You are already a power house of talent and experience, congratulations. Look back at your life and list out all your WINS. This activity has two benefits....first benefit you'll know your strengths and the second you'll know the activities that brought the best in you and you enjoyed doing them!! Now is the time to consolidate on your strengths and work towards finding joy and meaning in your life , if that is what you desire.
There is no single educational path for becoming an independent consultant or apply for senior positions abroad but here are some things to consider:
1. how good are your leadership skills
2. communication skills
3. updating yourself to look and feel like a leader
4. look into your networking skills and building rapport skills
5. how good are you at leading cross cultural teams

As you go higher up in your career the soft skills and Image projection take center stage backed with solid experience(which is your strength)!!

More power to you..

All the very best!!

Ans: Dearest Mumma of a beautiful girl child..... I am sorry to be a little blunt here.. DO NOT COMPARE, period!! Your times and her times are different. She is just in 2nd std...allow her "TO BE", please. Your job as a mother is to nurture her and ensure that she is joyous and healthy!! Teach her , train her, expose her to a lot of activities if you want but with lots of love and understanding. DO REMEMBER that childhood is not a preparation for adulthood....and who said scoring 90 is the only way to feel empowered, anything above 80 means your child is doing good!! Your child is unique, do not compare her with anyone, every child has her own pace...allow her to run her own race and WIN!! All the best and happy parenting!!!

Ans: Hi!!

I feel that KVs have the best curriculum in terms of overall development of a child. But I really don't know how good this school is, you and your daughter are the best judge for this.
You can take a call whether to put her in a private school based on your goals in life and your budget.
Invest in a school which is invested in your child. School going kids will surely be influenced by the kind of environment they grow and the kind of company they keep. I believe that the confidence in young children comes from their parents.
You be confident about your decisions, she'll grow up being a confident girl. If you are under confident somewhere then see what you can do to raise your confidence, she'll learn to do it too.
You can get a coach to coach her on confidence building and grooming once she is a little older. For now be a confident parent and coach her, she is watching you. You feel you must change the school , then change it...make informed choices, and see how your daughter will bloom where ever she is!!
All the best...

Ans: Hi Guddu!!
English is a funny language... CAT is CAT but CYCLE is SAICLE.
You want to improve English, here are my suggestions -
1. have a proper tutor and learn it from scratch... like from the very beginning, start from A, B,C
2.start talking in English as much as possible don't bother if ppl laugh, your goal is to speak in English. I am learning French, I have learnt it in theory but yet to speak properly, so you want to speak in English well, then pls start conversing in English, that's the only way
3. make use of technology to pronounce words properly, write properly... watch you tube channels dedicated to English learning, use google to clear any doubts..
4. be in an environment of English --- read English newspaper, listen to the news in English ,look for opportunities to converse in English, watch English movies..

Happy learning!!

Ans: Hi!!
You seem to me like a person who is capable of doing much more... look at you... the way you have written this whole question so clearly, explaining your predicaments in very good English, is a proof of your capability.
Now young adult... this is what I want from you-
1. you have come this far...congratulations....bad school you said, malnourished you said, COVID degree you said...I just want you to stop complaining
2. you are really good, resilient....in spite of all the circumstances you narrated so far, none of them were in your control, yet here you are A Computer Science graduate, can you not see that you are good, you rise even when life has not been so fair. Believe in yourself my friend
3. you take heart in what Buddha said, "you are what you think", start by changing your vocabulary, start thinking positively about everything ... 5 ft is good height, check how tall was Napoleon Bonaparte.... you are as tall as you think. Change what you can, accept what you can't change, and be smart enough to know the difference. Pls do not cry about what you can't change- your height, corona, they are all not in your control at all... accept and move forward pls
4.if you think Corona degree is not good enough, then explore other options, see if you can earn another certificate course that will help you in your job search... this time choose wisely
5. ask yourself, "what is that I want my life to look like" and start working towards it, one step at a time.
6. for focus and memory to improve I totally rely on Yoga and Meditation, it can totally help you too...give it a shot

With all my suggestions above, what I am trying to tell you is that, " you are a very smart kid", start looking for solutions now, enough of crying over spilt milk!!

All the best... take all actions today, with one leg in the future!! God created you, love your self!!

Ans: Hi!!
Congratulations ...you took care of your children when they were young, and now that they are all grown up you want to take up a job!!
You are just 31 yrs old, you are still so young, some advantages of marrying early. Now is that time to learn, relearn, and unlearn....find out what is that you love to do the most now which can help you earn money as well. Ask yourself what is that you want to do with your degrees, your life? Find your Ikigai....
Explore the convergence of Ikigai's four primary elements: what you love (your passion), what the world needs (your mission), what you are good at (your vocation), and what you can get paid for (your profession). Take time to reflect and design your life.
Think on this before you get into the job market, you'll be sorted for life...take your time, don't be in a hurry to just get a job. I repeat again here...learn, unlearn and relearn, be prepared before you jump into a job market.

This was my answer to your statement," i dont know how and where to start my career".

Hope this helps... all the very best for your future!!

Ans: Hello Jay!!

This is such a phase of your life with a teenager, that I cannot give you a "to do list" to conform to and whoosh the problems go away!!
What I suggest is this -
1. a teenager is tough to deal with. You have been a teenager once too..it is a very tough phase of life for the teen too, raging hormones, mood swings , a body that is constantly changing every day. Today's teen has it tougher, what with social media and peer pressure to deal with. Your son needs is an understanding parent ,be one pls
2. take care of his physical well being and mental well being. Good food, mental rest ( away from social media and gaming), good sleep and engaging in worthy pursuits( channelize his energies in learning an instrument, singing, debating, football, tennis, anything where he can expend his mental and physical energies... either enrol him in theses classes or have tutors coming home)
3.if making him study is getting difficult, hire tutors to teach him, physical classes, not online.
4. you said he has a brilliant mind... it is time to engage him in worthy pursuits
5. every day is a challenge with a teenager, you , being the parent has to keep changing strategies based on the need/mood of the day
6. as a parent read up on how to deal with a teenager and act accordingly
7. no confronting or criticizing openly, talk to him with all respect..do not tolerate his shouting and scolding...tell him it is unacceptable, nip it in the bud before it becomes a habit. You start dealing with problems and finding a solution in a calm manner, he'll start doing the same, he is learning from everyone around . It is good if adults around him behave properly
8.you are the adult here, set boundaries regarding screen time and stick to it. You all adults at home also need to have control over screen time.
9. talk to his teachers, counsellors, psychologist and anyone who can bridge the gap between you and your child, to help you communicate effectively with each other
10. channelize your son's energies, be with him, understand him( keep telling him that you and he are in the same team),love him, cherish him, guide him, be there for him and create WIN WIN situations!!

All the best to both you and your son!! Happy parenting..

Ans: Hi!!
I really really can empathise with you, having been in a similar situation a few years ago. Having a boss who is less educated than you is always very tough. They'll always consider you as a threat and hence this kind of behaviour towards you.

What I suggest to you is this ...check yourself and your attitude towards everyone in the office. Is your mannerism and demeanour that of superiority? Do you behave/appear like a threat? If "yes", then time to correct you body language and make efforts to show that you are a team player and become likable too.

Now that you are working with them and if you are still interested in working for this organisation and people, then these are my suggestions -
- first and foremost he is your boss, it is not simply that ppl say, "boss is always right"
- find out the reason for his prejudice, see if you can work on taking it away or on minimizing it
-you are the smart one here, find ways and means of befriending your team members, one at a time, showing your good side, help as many ppl as you can without any expectations. I have this belief that no human being is bad, just address their insecurities.
- never confront anyone in a group
- you are the junior, behave like one, don't be a sycophant, but be a team member
- you can always use words like 'can you pls guide me' etc, when you are addressing anyone who is older and more experienced than you
- don't bother about how others are working and what mistakes they are a making ,neither do you have control over them nor are you the one to decide the consequences of their mistakes. You be impeccable, give your 100%, be an asset to the company.
- when you make a mistake, say sorry, correct it and move on, without attaching anymore to it than the fact that you made a mistake and it needs to be corrected( this is essential for your peace of mind)
- your boss is here since 10 yrs, he has a good rapport with the directors, there must be something in him to learn and imbibe. Pls learn and imbibe, it'll be a great asset to you as you grow in your career
- be a team player, take it slow, it is always very tough to build rapport and gel with new teams, it takes time, thought, energy, efforts to become part of a group. Give yourself and others the time
- you have already reported it to the director, trust him help you out
- build harmonious relationships with everyone around
- protect yourself too, learn to speak up, stand up for the right issues but with due respect and the right language
Observe yourself and others, you'll surely find a way to connect and work in harmony. Try all the possible solutions I have suggested, give yourself 6 months to one year, if the situation improves with your good intention and efforts, stay in this job, else quit. No one should stay in a toxic work environment ever. But do try to make it work, you'll emerge stronger and smarter.

All the very best! Remember I am with you now!!

Ans: Hello Anjali!!
I am always very happy when someone asks me, "how can I improve". This just proves that you are an individual who is very sorted, someone who knows her strengths and weaknesses. Your willingness to learn and improve is your strength. However at the age of 36 Anjali, it is also time to consolidate on your strengths, make them so huge that weaknesses are not visible.

You are a M Phil B Ed and have the experience of working as a teacher, this is your strength. If you are going to work as a teacher in English speaking countries, you need to develop good English writing and speaking skills. Seeing your message this needs improvement . Whichever country you are willing to work, you need to see the rules and degrees required for employability in that country. Additionally if you can learn a little bit of the culture and etiquette of that country, it'll always be an advantage.

All the best Anju!

Ans: Hello!!
A marine engineer with over 5 yrs of experience must and should be earning a good salary which can take care of all his family members, right?
Salary wise you are in a good space. What is that is frustrating about your job? List them all out and go about eliminating them from your working life. For every frustration , add a solution against it, check if they are solvable, seek help if required to solve them. Trust me any job you seek there will always be something frustrating about it. You yourself rightly said that MBA and after that is no guarantee that you will be happy. So ponder deeply and check what is that you want your career to look like and feel like and go about achieving it. I am a great believer of putting everything on paper and mapping them to goals. All goals are achievable whether it pertains to career or family or any other goal you have in mind, you just have to lay a road map and start traveling on it. Have the courage to take that route, you don't know what is in store until unless you travel on it. I know your parents and wife have certain expectations of , how about asking yourself also, what is that you except of them and what is that you want out of your life. Be true to yourself also. The quality of your life is based on the quality of your choices and the quality of your relationships. Career is just one aspect of your life, it is a means of earning a livelihood. When you are at sea, see if you can make use of the peace to study and finish that MBA. I am mentioning this is to tell you that you either complain or be part of the solution. Create a WIN WIN, you just need a change of mindset to change frustration into opportunities. Hope this helps...
All the best!!

Ans: Hello Mr Arshad!!
" I am in consultancy business for 20 years and have sufficient work, good clients, excellent relationship with employees and employers as well. "
Isn't this an amazing achievement, congratulations!!
I really am failing to understand your problem here.

I am taking this statement of yours, "But could``t performed well in execution. However some well wisher suggest me to prioritize my tasks and activities. Despite the continuous efforts, it couldn't done."....does this mean that you are not good at getting all your tasks done on a day to day basis?
I am assuming this and asking you to check if you are packing too many things in your schedule and hence at the end of the day you are feeling a sense of not having performed well!!
In order to feel a sense of achievement and a feeling of having executed the day well, you need to schedule your day, setting a time for each activity .Let this list be written down on a white board and let this be in your line of sight always, this will give direction to your day.
Also check( and I am repeating myself here) if you are packing too much into your day, you have only 24 hrs in a day, you can only do so much. Don't be overwhelmed. See if you can put all your tasks under the following categories-

This is called the Eisenhower Matrix-
First Quadrant (upper left): urgent and important.
Second Quadrant (upper right): important, but not urgent.
Third Quadrant (lower left): not important, but urgent.
Fourth Quadrant (lower right): neither important nor urgent.
Do the tasks in quadrant 1 first.
Decide on when to deal with the tasks in quadrant 2.
Delegate the tasks in quadrant 3.
Delete the items in quadrant 4

Hope this helps!!
Happy managing your time well.....all the best!!

Ans: Hi!!
I do help students on personality development but I stay in Delhi and you want offline classes, however I must say this, it is the right time for your daughter to take these classes.
In this regard , I can guide you this much, go to google search and look for personality development classes in Bangalore, you'll get a lot of options, go for someone with a good rating and good/genuine reviews. Zero in on a few options, talk to them, visit them if possible and choose one which fits for your daughter. Choose a tutor who will understand your daughter, her needs and help her develop an amazing personality.

All the best in your search!!

Ans: Hi!!
You are looking for an IT job, then you should get one. What makes you say, "I have no confidence that they'll give me an opportunity"?!! Take a hard look at yourself and ask ,"what are the skills that I need in order to achieve my goal", is it hard IT skills or other soft skills required to clear the interview and get the job", and then go about learning them.
Write down your goals, make a list of all actions you need to take in order to achieve your goals and go about taking the actions. Life is quite simple... there are goals and actions to be taken.

All the best in achieving your goals!!!

Ans: Hi!!
You are just 32 and you are handling a team of 15, that's a good space to be in. Congratulations!!
Let me dissect your message and answer each requirement one by one..
1. "I need some help in rebuilding the positive image in front of my team and peers and even seniors" -
The first step to change is recognising that a change is needed. For you to improve your image in front of your team, peers and seniors you need to work on your communication skills, your negotiation skills and your leadership skills.
2."i have got this feedback that my tone is pushy/ Rude.. even though that's not the case from my perspective"
You make not be pushy and rude in your heart, but if the feedback is this from the majority of people then you need to look into it...that's why I always say, "it's not what you say but how you say it", try adding warmth in your tone when you speak, smile, see if you can make others comfortable in your presence. Check you body language, is it open and inviting?
3 " I need to make my image as approachable manager with Good skills and good behavior and attitude." - there is work to be done here. This can be achieved in terms of making a change in your clothing ( the cut of your clothes, the choice of colours, fabric, the prints, it's a whole science of clothing at work), your verbal and non verbal communication and finally working on your mindset.
See if we can connect one on one. All your targets are achievable and learnable skills!!

All the best to you!!

Ans: Hey cheer up, if you are giving importance to relationships, you are in a great space, you are doing the right thing. The quality of your life is based on the quality of your relationships and the choices you make. In my life coaching classes I have to teach some people to focus on relationships...you are not one of them, so good going.
After reading all that you have to say, these are my conclusions-
1.your friends are good, but they roast you and it hurts- the roasting is good as long as it doesn't hurt, a little bit of leg pulling is alright among friends. So when it hurts, you need to draw boundaries. Get on a one on one chat with the friend whose remarks hurt you, tell her/him that it is "not ok" and that "it hurts", "it makes you feel underconfident"( whatever you genuinely feel). You have to be assertive communicator( someone who respects others and also themselves), here!!
2. You want to mingle with ppl who have a growth mindset, do that, join groups that have this as their agenda. You know this set of friends can't give you that, so you look elsewhere.
3. You said "you are not good at talking and hence joined this set of extroverted friends", has this solved your prob? Have you become better at talking? If yes, then continue to meet them...if NO then time to let go....continue to meet them for other reasons, you yourself said that they are real and won't let go of you at your lowest, then they are real friends. Continue to nurture these friends but don't relay on them for your needs of growth and good communication skills.
4. you said, "I thought i can work hard on my own and reach the top", this is still right, ask for help where you need, develop your personality and soar high.

All the very best to you

Ans: Hi!!

This question was answered long long..
Here's the link - https://gurus.rediff.com/question/qdtl/career/wish-ldquo-write-english-rdquo-profession-happens-core-competency-gives/5151512

All the best!

Ans: Hi!!
When we talk about life skills, it is a whole mindset and skill set required for living your life well. It covers your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual well being .The life coaching sessions are based on your goals for your life and we set out to achieve them together. Life coaching can help you in making better choices....a well qualified and certified life coach has the ability and expertise to hold a mirror and hand-hold you to live a life that you envision for yourself!!

Ans: Hi!!
You are a manger handling a group of 30 , this in itself is so much for you to look into and handle!!It's not some mean task managing 30 individuals and getting them to perform. Keep up the good work!!
In the skip meeting, your team said you are strict, don't you think it is good to be strict, strict about time, strict about performance. It is wrong to be grilled again and again for the same feedback which was documented and then acknowledged by you. Have you shown any changes/improvement in the way of handling issues with your team? As a leader of a team of 30, you need to inspire them to perform to the best of their abilities, you need to empathise, you have to apply different strokes to different people, adopt different styles of leadership based on the situation.
Do take the feedback of your team and your manager to improve yourself. If you take it positively then you will be the winner in this situation!
If they are grilling you again and again and your performance is getting affected, show them how you are working on the feedback and becoming a better leader, tell them to give you some space and time to continue working on yourself. You continue to perform well and do not allow any office negativity to affect you.
More power to you... all the best!!

Ans: Greetings to you too!!
Congratulations to you for stepping out of you comfort zone, ready to pitch in financially for your family !! It's not a small act, pat yourself on the back for this and move into the world with confidence .
Ask people you know, friends, family and past colleagues to help you find a job. There is no harm in asking, at the most they'll say no, not the end of the world, but what if they say "yes", you never know!!
With your kind of strengths - good communication, empathy, willingness to learn and the heart to help others, look for a job with NGOs, schools....and anywhere where your willingness to help others becomes a strength. You can start home tutoring too, I have seen my own cousin becoming a millionaire teaching from home.
You haven't mentioned your qualifications, if you can add a qualification in counselling, then your strengths will get a booster dose!!
If this can help you, I would like to share that I picked up my first job, 04 years after completing engineering, by then I was married, had my first baby and then set out to look for a job and found one,
In today's world ,age is just a number, groom yourself well and confidently set out into the world with all your strengths.
All the very best....

Ans: Dear Retaik,
The very fact that you have been a constant learner is your strength, let this be your USP. You have switched jobs and tried various types of jobs, this is also learning, don't you think so? Now do a proper pen and paper exercise, write down all that you have learnt and the jobs you have done, there maybe something that really struck a chord with you, something which you thoroughly enjoyed, this is where you need to work, build expertise and rise vertically now. Continue to learn and grow... all the very best!

Ans: Hello!!
Most of us have had managers at some point in our careers, while some are helpful, compassionate, and capable, others may not meet these standards, clearly yours is not meeting the standards!! Dealing with challenging managers can be, well, a challenge. Be courageous and face the challenge, you are not a newbie you are a strong 30 yr old man.
When I worked in the corporate world, what I heard most of the times was that people don't leave a company, they leave bad bosses. Throughout your question you have always mentioned a "we", that means this bad boss is affecting many more people.
You have these options-
1. you all can send a signed petition about this boss, post this to the HR
2. nobody has to suffer at work, there will always be a way out, look for it
3. you be sincere in your work and deliver, develop a thick skin and don't allow this boss to affect you
3.if nothing works then quit, do whatever it takes to be peaceful at work

I am sure a smart 30 yr old software engineer like you "can" and "will" find a solution to this problem by choosing your options wisely and looking into what is important for you!

All the best!!

Ans: Dear Reema!
It is best to ask your GP who has been with your child or the teachers who have been teaching your daughter this question.
You, the parent, the GP and the teachers are the best judges of your child's capabilities.

You as the mother must be knowing what brings joy to your daughter and how she has been coping with LD/depression so far. You and you daughter have come this far... she has given her 10th board exams, congratulations to both of you! Celebrate this milestone!!

There are many examples of individuals who have overcome LD and have excelled ...JFK , Robin Williams, Pablo Picasso, Henry Ford and our very own Abhishek Bachchan….there are lots of examples of people with dyslexia (which is likely the most common learning disability) who’ve achieved great success utilizing their own gifts.

With the help of experts identify your child's gift and help her excel in it!!

All the very best to your daughter and you!!

Ans: Hello Barua!!
I really want you to elaborate a little more.
I am assuming you are a working professional who is pursuing a BSc on the side and suggesting a few time management ways to help you...

List out all your tasks and activities in a day and over a period of two weeks. See how you are managing your time now by making a matrix of time for every 1/2 hour. Be accountable to every 1/2 hour, write down what you did every half hour.
It will be an eye opener on how you are spending your time.

There will be some activities that come under "should do" on your list, for example studying for your BSc, physical activity, eating food, etc.... schedule them and work all other activities around it. Keep life simple Barua and you'll be able to achieve much more. Focus on doing right and focus on your well being!!

All the best!!

Ans: Dear Susobhan!!
You will be surprised to know that 72-75% of the population fears public speaking ,this makes public speaking the number one fear of a vast majority. For you, talking to clients is like public speaking!
There is no fear that cannot be overcome with practice and having a process for overcoming it.
Just dig a little deeper and make notes on what happens to your body and mind when a client comes in front of you.
Also look into the past and see why this is happening? The more you become aware of yourself and the WHY of a problem then the HOW of the solution to the problem starts to take shape.
Check, why you get nervous? Is it because you are short of words? You are not properly dressed/groomed? Is it lack of the knowledge of the product? Identifying the problem is half the battle won.

Some suggestions to build the rapport-
(take three deep breaths as soon as you see a client, helps in calming you)-
1. smile as soon as you see the client, a genuine smile
2. stand up to receive him/her
3. exhibit a confident body language
4. greet the client in a clear confident voice
5. ask how you can help them?
6. ask open ended questions, what are they looking for? Let the client speak.
7.offer water/tea/ coffee

I have suggested some ways, however build your own relevant process, from the time the client enters till they leave.
Have your vocabulary ready.... what to say, how to say and practice in front of the mirror.
Always be well dressed/groomed, appropriate for your role.
You must have knowledge about everything in the store and all the services your store offers, this will give you confidence in answering the queries of the client. Do seek help if you don't know all the answers.... there is nothing wrong in saying," I am not so sure about this, let me ask a senior and get back to you on this", don't mumble, say it clearly.

Meditation is a sure shot way of becoming calmer. Go for deep breathing, visualizations and affirmations also overcome your nervousness.

All the best Susobhan!

Ans: Dear mother-to-be,
First of all congratulations, you are blessed, you are going to be a mother, celebrate the fact!!
Now to understand what is happening to your body, it is transforming on so many levels to support you and the growing life within you, accept the fact and cherish the fact, allow the whole world to take care of you!!
If you can continue working and you are happy going to work then continue working. If working is stressful and you can take a break then go for it!!
Have a safe pregnancy, birthing and a happy motherhood! Here's wishing both of you happy times ahead! Stay happy, stay blessed!!