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Ans: Hello!!

This information you have shared is not enough to understand what is that you are exactly wanting right now.
Let me see how I can help you. First of all extend your arm and pat yourself on the back for completing your engineering. You are a mechanical engineer!! Celebrate the fact and feel good about yourself.

I like the fact where you say "I am currently, unemployed", this can change soon, look out for opportunities, keep attending interviews, prepare well, ask for help, give it your best shot. Treat every failure as part of a learning process in becoming better next time. Surround yourself with positive and encouraging people.

Till you find a job, live life well on a day to day basis-
1. wake up early
2. exercise
3. eat well and sleep well
4. dress well at home too, don't be in your pyjamas, you should be in such a state that if someone asks you to come for an interview right away, you must be ready
5. beware of negative self talk... nip negative thoughts in the bud
6. looking for a job is your full time job, keep looking
7. be helpful around the house if you are living with your parents
8. till you find a job keep learning and building on your skills
9. volunteer to teach and help the less fortunate lot
10. do not sit idle, keep your body and mind active

Constantly invest in activities that ensure your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual well being!! Have rituals that focus on these four pillars of your life!

Blessings and all the very best!!

Ans: Hello Mr Kunal!!
It is good yo see a parent so aware about their child's capability and wanting the best for him. Congratulations on that!!

Well, to answer your question...... you can google 'career guidance after 10th', there will be a host of companies offering an aptitude test to gauge your son's capabilities. Based on the test they'll suggest a future path on choosing a career and on further education. You can choose one of them based on the reviews and talking to them over phone.

Use a combination of-
1. your son's views on what he wants to do,
2. your gut feeling as a parent and
3. the outcome of the aptitude test to arrive at a final decision.
A single personality test can't decide the future of your child. Make an informed decision, you can involve his teachers who know him well too,

All the best in choosing the best for your son!!

Ans: Hello Mr Mukesh!!
Your son is lucky yo have a father who sends him to the best school. He is getting a good foundation. Investigate why he is scoring less. What do his teachers say about him? As a parent how do you evaluate your child? What is his level of understanding in each subject? Where does his interest lie in? Is he consistent with his studies, does he study regularly on a day to day basis? Remember you become a master in what you repeat, revising and recalling is also a very important part of studies to score good marks.

If your son's focus is good and intelligence levels are average, then he can score well with regular studies. Ensure he revises whatever is taught in the school everyday. Also check with him if he understands whatever is taught in the school. Your son is 14, he is a big boy now and can participate in problem solving. Involve him in decision making and empower your son. Let him participate in the process of he scoring good marks, every child wants to do well. Some children can study for an hour and score well, some children need to put in a little extra to score well. See if his score can be improved by having a home tutor. Make studying, gaining knowledge and scoring well a enjoyable, positive experience!

Best wishes to you for positive parenting and best wishes to your son for scoring well!!

Ans: Hello!!
You are a married business woman and now you are a mother too!! Congratulations!!
There was a time in the world when a woman was revered just because she was a mother, she carried humanity forward, that in itself was a big responsibility. It is time to put the mother back on the pedestal.....in India they say giving birth, is like a 'punarjanam', rebirth for a woman. Don't you deserve some rest at least for 40 days before you start thinking of your business and all. Your body has undergone a lot during pregnancy and birth of your child. Rest a little, heal well and then get back to work. You deserve it!!

Now the action plan for you to perform the dual responsibility of a mother and a business woman with grace ..
Your baby totally needs you for the first 6 months because you need to breast feed her. Gradually get her used to other care givers. Build a good support system at home as well as at your store. Earmark an area at the store and at your home which can work as home/office. Don't feel guilty about carrying your baby to the office, remember how the New Zealand ex-PM Jacinda Ardern, carried her new born to the parliament?
It is a balancing act between the two... motherhood and business woman, it'll take time and you'll eventually learn it. Give yourself sometime, don't beat yourself down if there is a little loss now in your business or blame motherhood for the loss. With a new born your schedules will go haywire for sometime. Soon you and your baby will settle down into a routine, you'll have to work for that. Be very flexible, flow like a river for sometime, with your mental peace as the centre.
Don't try to do everything by yourself, delegate, seek help.

List out what is important for you in life. Have every task laid out on paper, plan and schedule activities, this one act will bring in a lot of peace to you. You'll never ever feel overwhelmed. Prioritize all tasks on a scale of 1 to 5. Keep your targets simple and doable on a day to day basis.

In between being a mother and a business woman, take care of yourself too!! Sleep well, eat well, 20 mins of physical activity and doing one thing that brings you joy( it can be as small as looking at the sun set or sipping your chai peacefully) on a daily basis will give you the strength to perform your balancing act.

Loads of blessings and best wishes!!

Ans: Hello there!!
"The greatest success in not in never failing, but getting up every time you fail"!
It's time for you to get up and move!!
With the information you have given me, the conclusions I have drawn are that-
1. you are a person who is aware of what went wrong, this itself is a blessing. There are many who just move in life without being aware.
2. you are still working, you have a job at an MNC. That's good!! Had you been so bad as you are describing yourself, you would not be still working, so cheer up!!
3. you have a caring wife, she is trying to cheer you up .You are lucky.
4 . you are an intelligent man, hence you did well in your job initially

Now the way forward-
1. with so little information you have given me , I have listed 4 things you need to be grateful for. Every morning you'll count your blessings and write them down or say it aloud. You'll repeat this activity before going to sleep.
2. spend 20 mins walking amidst nature. Physical activity and spending time in nature is a must everyday. I am sure taking 20 mins in a day for this should be easy.
The above two activities will make your depressive mood run far away from you.

Next plan of action ,for you to move further in you career-
1. first and foremost forgive yourself for your carelessness and laid back attitude. Past is past ,forget it.
2. plan every action of yours with one leg in the future, is there a new skill set you need to learn or improve upon your Image, Soft skills , leadership skills , etc in order to have an edge over others. Think about it and learn new skills.
3. do not compare yourself with anyone, it's your journey at your own pace. Compare yourself with others if you feel inspired else do not compare.
4. you are just 41.... there is still a long life ahead. Don't beat yourself down for a few mistakes ...Just look ahead now...Look forward to a beautiful future with your family.

All the very best!!

Ans: Hi !!Could you please elaborate a little more about yourself . Tell me little more about your problem so that I can help you. TC

Ans: HI!!
The way you have stated your needs so clearly shows that you have good writing skills, so no doubts about your writing skills.

In the message you mentioned that you quit your job in 2021 and yet you say you are not enjoying work since the last couple of months. A little confusion there for me, I am assuming you are still working. You also mention that you did pretty well professionally, this shows a mind that can work well even when it not totally into the work heart and soul. Try to find positive reasons around your work.
You are 44 you said, at this age we all are at loggerheads with what we studied, what we are doing for a living and what we are passionate about! I have been there..

I need to say a little about myself in order to answer your question. I am an Engineer too, today I am Image Consultant and a Soft Skills Trainer. I used to work with one of the top telecom companies, my Mentor there used to say an Engineer can do anything and me and you are proving that. You are a BE, MBA and you have exceptional writing skills.

As a public speaking skills coach I used to write speeches for clients and help them deliver with panache. One of my long standing clients said no to the classes after I increased the fees. Where did she get her strength from to say no?....AI and Chatgpt, even though she always said it doesn't have the AD (Archana Deshpande) effect!! Why I am mentioning such a personal incident is to help you understand the scenario today.
You want to write good stuff and earn money too, rt? You don't want that typical content writer kind of jobs... so what I suggest is that since a BE MBA is a deadly combo and you are an intelligent man, pls continue to use these to earn money. I want you to google, "platforms for writers to make money" and check all your options, for sometime write and publish on various platforms, send it to various newspapers, see how people respond to you. I know your joy comes from writing so go for it on a day to day basis, schedule it everyday. When you continue to do tasks that bring you joy, your doing all the things that are compulsory becomes easy( like going to office). Test the waters before you quit your well paying job( and yourself mentioned you are doing pretty well). Plan to write a book on a subject that comes easily to you or a book of short stories around your experiences. Today Mrs Sudha Murthy is a celebrated writer, look at her journey as writer, it didn't happen overnight. There is no ASAP here. You want to become a writer professionally, take it slow, start writing, start publishing you work, gauge the readers reaction, keep writing, keep reinventing, it's a creative process, let it flow through you without the stress of earning money through it.... it's joy for you to write, let it remain so!! Create a beautiful space at home to allow the creative juices to flow, continue to write everyday. Apart form writing, check what else brings you joy, on a day to day basis consciously spend time doing things that bring you joy. Enthusiasm/energy for life comes from your joy list. I am listing so many things because you mentioned you are not enjoying your job. I want you to arrive at a place where you enjoy your job( it pays your bills and takes care of your family) and continue to work on stuff you are passionate about. It can be done by living a little consciously and joyously, a little shift in the mindset can do wonders!!
All the very best!!

Ans: Hi!!You have the experience, 17 yrs ….build your future on it! Nothing in life ever goes waste. Look a little deeper into yourself, why is that you didn’t become a manager? What skills you need? Looking the part, leadership skills, public speaking, communication skills? In today’s world you can learn any skill that you want… believe in yourself, perform a SWOT analysis ( Google SWOT ) .
Put everything on paper… you’ll get a lot of clarity and it will no longer overwhelm you. Any age is a good age to start learning. You are just 47… there is still a whole life ahead of you!!
Burnout comes when you stop learning and not doing stuff that brings you joy. Next 30 days., you’ll do the following-
1. 20 mins of physical activity, it can be anything which makes your heart beat faster, brisk walks, dancing non- stop , etc
2. 10-15 mins of any activity which fills your heart with joy,( make your joy list, start doing one of them every day) Your energy for life comes from your joy list!
3 spending time in nature ( nature heals you)
4. Up skilling yourself
Forget the past now, we can’t change it…plan all of your today with one step in the future and it all starts with taking care of yourself..
All the best…

Ans: Hi!! It would have been nice to know your age, what you are doing right now and what is that you are confused about. Nevertheless… you reached out, you put your thoughts on paper, that in itself is a great job!!
Whatever you are pursuing right now, just finish it… finish what you start, that’s the first thing!
Next task is if you are confused, you are not alone, life is a lived experience, you can’t be rigid about it! Life is a series of experiments till you find out what is that you really want to do, Some people get it right quickly, some people take time, it’s your journey, just live it well! As a student, give your 100% in your studies… keep life simple … eat well, sleep well, play well, study well. Doing these 04 simple activities is simple, rt?
Anything that comes in the way of doing the four activities well, you need to chuck it away! If you can add a guided meditation to your daily routine , then the focus on studies is definitely going to improve.All the best!

Ans: Hi!! Thank you for reaching out, the first step to overcoming your fear is already done! You asked for help…. kudos to you!! Pat yourself on the back for that.
Now the next step to overcoming fear is by befriending it…. how do you do that? By just doing it, no thinking, just doing, taking action…the example you have taken of the office event, let’s simplify that for you…
1 put everything on paper, break down the tasks into smaller doable chunks and do it
2. check if some of the tasks can be delegated, you need not do everything on your own
3. prepare well, visit the venue a day before, become familiar with the surroundings, there is comfort in this activity, it takes the fear out of being in unfamiliar surroundings
4. get to know your crowd, you know the names and designations, now attach a picture of them along with it, see how you are taking the fear of the unknown and making yourself comfortable here..
And remember someone believes you can handle this, they saw your capability and gave you this activity, just believe in yourself, just do it!! Striving for excellence is in your hands, the result is not in yours.If you get 80% of the job right in this event, then it’s a success, there is nothing called as a perfect event!! All the best????

Ans: Hi!! Count you victories- you got selected after 03 rounds- that's your victory!! There is no way you can find out what went wrong.
Do a self analysis, most of the answers you'll know.
" How can I prepare?"- that's the question to ask ,you are looking forward, look at the past only if there is something to learn, else let it go. Now your preparation for the interview -
1.do a SWOT analysis( Google SWOT to know in detail)
2.dress appropriately for the role you are applying for and the goal you want to achieve
3.ask yourself all the probable questions they may ask and write them down
4. ask someone who is positive and encouraging to conduct a mock interview for you
5. seek help of an expert if required
Prepare well and answer all questions they ask honestly. All the best!!

Ans: Ashishji can you pls reframe the question? The concerns are about which child, the elder one or the younger one? Pls come back again...But for now, I can say when we have two children we are always comparing... if they are of the same sex then the comparison goes up, manifold. Can we treat each child as an individual? Treat each child separately, address each child's concerns, his strengths and weaknesses separately. You have listed so many positives in your children. Give a lot of positive strokes to each child. It is important that you spend time individually with each child. You want them to grow up as happy, healthy children and supportive brothers then STOP COMAPARING the children !! For your elder one, time to focus on so many strengths he already has, nurture his talents, give him an atmosphere where he can flourish and hire experts to hone his skills. I know this feeling, when we have very intelligent children, we always think we are incapable as parents. As a parent you are the best well wisher for the child, this is the only relation in this universe where someone ( your child) is more important than yourself, trust yourself as a parent, YOU WANT ONLY THE BEST FOR YOUR CHILD!! Cherish each child, they are gifts from GOD! Happy parenting...

Ans: Veeraraagavanji, at the age of 71 yrs, you are doing a great job. You have job, you are working 9:30 AM to 1:30 AM and earning 11k, which is fantastic. At your age most ppl live a retired life. You have worked all your life, it's time for you to take it easy and enjoy doing things you like after your working hours, no one should pester you. Pls sit down with your wife and talk it out, communication is the key. How old is your wife? Does she work too?? Are there any money concerns? If there are money concerns then try taking classes at home on subjects that you like, accounts maybe for commerce graduates or Maths for young children. You can conduct classes online too.
It's time for you and your wife to live a happy life together and enjoy each other's company, you are lucky to have each other, my father in law is 82 and without a partner for the last 12 yrs. Cherish each other ...

Ans: Hi !! Anilji, clearly your son is stressed about Maths and studies. This is probably affecting his self confidence and therefore the anxiety in public. Look at what kind of vocabulary you are using at home, children who are good at Maths/ Science are considered smart in our country, is he in such an atmosphere? Praise in public and admonish in private is one thing you need to follow now, to increase his self esteem. Young children, when they develop a" Maths anxiety", I blame the adults, they couldn't teach the child in a way the he understood. Either you teach or hire a one on one teacher to teach him Maths. Use the VAK methods ( pls google VAK method) to teach Maths. It's the adult's responsibility to teach your son Maths in a way he understands. You are in luck, the summer holidays are here, make the most of it, complete the whole syllabus of Maths( when he goes back to school he is already prepared). Show lots of patience and understanding, answer all his doubts, and remember, Maths is mastered by solving sums, revising and repeating. It's going to take some time for him to get out of the fear for Maths and knowing that you'll help him on this journey is going to add to your son's confidence. Happy learning both of you!!

Ans: Hi!! As a parent , I know it is worrisome to see a child who was so good till 10th, and then the sudden slump. This happens with many bright children...after school, the outside world looks very different.
However cliche it may sound, a failure is a stepping stone to success. There is definitely something to learn for all of you in this whole episode. Whenever something goes wrong in your work place, you sit down, you call for a meeting and solve the issue by listing out the pros and cons in a respectful atmosphere. You come up with solutions, don't you? A similar situation has arisen at home, create an atmosphere of love and respect at home, list the pros and cons of the choices in front of you. If you think , it's a bad college, bad branch t and she has failed in one subject, Maths , then look out for other options. Ask her opinion in every decision. Before you sit down with her , you, as parent think it out thoroughly what is best for her. If quitting the college is an option then you have to give her choices of what next. There is never a right or wrong, what best suits your child, is the best solution. Keeping your daughter happy, healthy and productive is what you need to look at. No blame games please, jo beet gayi so baat gayi.... just look forward. Look for solutions and pls create a WIN WIN solution. It's your daughter, you need to love her, cherish her and help her out. All the best..

Ans: Hi!! Whenever a child is not understanding Maths, its always because of the adults ,who are unable to teach him in a way he or she understands. You are in luck , the summer holidays have begun, take one chapter at a time and explain the concepts to your child in a way he understands. Go to the very basic level and then increase the difficulty level.( be very encouraging and understanding, show lots of patience, the bigger goal to help him understand and score marks) Some children learn visually, some learn by listening, some learn by doing practically. It's called the VAK method , use all three ways of teaching your child. Complete the Maths syllabus before he joins back school. There will definitely be an improvement. You need to teach the child in a way he understands, remember you are the adult here. He doesn't understand by one method, try other ways of teaching a concept. You are in a generation where you can use internet, AI and other tools to help you learn to teach your child.

Ans: Hi!! You are still young and it's just the beginning for you, don't feel dejected pls. There is always something to learn from a rejection ,be supremely self aware and be aware of the interviewer ,read other's body language and master your own body language to give out the right messages. See if you can learn interview skills form an expert. Make notes after every interview, rate yourself on-
1. your confidence level( the first impression you gave, your clothing, your shoes, how you entered the room, everything makes a difference)
2. the answers you gave
3. interviewer's reaction to your answers
4. how truthful and honest you were
5. was this better than your last interview
(you can keep adding to your list)
The only way to boost your self confidence and self worth is to believe that you are worthy of all good things in the world. Give yourself lot of self love, there are talents in you which no other person has, look for that! Look at yourself in the mirror every morning, affirm all the things you want in yourself and for yourself!!Just google " self affirmations" and make your own list of affirmations... ....give yourself lot of positive strokes throughout the day, be your best cheer leader, pat yourself on the back for every good act. All the best...remember to be your best cheer leader!!

Ans: Hi!!Convocation ceremony is a celebration of all that you achieved in college. It's about about owning yourself and taking pride in yourself, striding up to the podium, smiling and beaming with your certificate, celebrate yourself and go for that convocation!
See if you can call up your friends before the ceremony and resolve the issues and try being cordial at least. No one has ever benefitted by holding on to anger and resentment, time to bury old stuff and move forward. Forgive others and forgive yourself, say sorry and move on!! Have an amazing convocation ceremony!!

Ans: Hi!! You have been a primary teacher for the last 10 yrs, wow!! You have a minefield of information on how to take care of children in this age group. Young parents need you and young children need you. See if you can have a career where these skills of yours can be put to great use, maybe a parenting coach, an expert in handling young children, you can have a place to conduct classes or you can start classes online. HR as a career will need you to pursue some certification or an MBA degree in HR, see where your passion lies and make it earn money for you!! All the best..

Ans: Congratulations for the interview call! The few tips that can help you ace the interview..
1. dress appropriately, ensure everything about your appearance is neat and tidy and nothing is distracting.
2. exhibit confident body language- mind your limbs, good eye contact and have a pleasing smile
3. project your voice , communicate loudly and clearly and with right emotion
4. prepare for the usual questions , write them down and practice answering them with someone
5. research about the company and your role in it
6. answer the questions in the interview confidently and truthfully
Prepare well .....and remember you are unique and bring with you your unique skill set... All the best for the interview...

Ans: Hi!! First of all congratulations ,let's celebrate the fact that your son is good at studies as well as art and crafts! You'll be shocked to know that a vast majority of people in the world rank public speaking as their number one fear, your son is just 12 yrs old ,a little nervous while presenting and communicating in front of others! First and foremost, all this is normal, you have to deal it with sensitivity and help him address and overcome this fear and anxiety, it will take time though, do some research or hire a communication skills expert/public speaking expert to help him become confident in this area of his life! Having helped ppl become good public speakers and good communicators I know it can taught and can be learned. However pls go slow,(sometimes it can take months of practice) make him learn 5 lines and narrate it to you. Once he gains confidence and narrates this flawlessly, then increase his difficulty level. You have said that he fumbles and gets nervous in front of an audience, till he gains his confidence in this aspect of his life give a break to performances to large gatherings. Let him perform within the family first, then to an extended( but encouraging) family. then to larger group of friends and family and then maybe after a yr or so he can perform in front of a large audience. Ensure the script you give him is well woven together and has words and sentences which he can understand, this way it is easy for him to recall and narrate. Also remember every interaction is like a public speaking exercise, so whenever he is narrating something, let him talk fearlessly, don't interrupt, don't correct while he is talking. If he is good at studies then definitely he has a good memory and is intelligent . Fumbling and forgetting lines while performing is due to anxiety. Help him to relax before a performance, breathing exercises and visualization will help. He will require lots of love, encouragement , support in order to regain his confidence first and then become good at public speaking. Let him take his time, show a lot of patience, and with an encouraging parent like you he can be a good public speaker. But if it doesn't work out, it's ok, give a break to it. Start focusing on his strengths, give him lot of positive strokes, let him gain his confidence back and maybe you can give it a shot few months down the line. Wishing you both the very best and HAPPY PARENTING!! Have fun with your child.....let public speaking be a fun activity too...