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I am a 32 year old married woman working in an IT company earning 1.2 lakhs monthly. My husband earns 1.8 lakhs. We stay with in-laws in joint family in Mumbai. My mother-in-law taunts me daily about not having baby even after 4 years of marriage. She says I am career focused and I am not a good wife. My husband says ignore but it's affecting my mental health. Is it wrong to have a career after marriage? Should we move out or I should quit job?

My boyfriend did not wish me on my birthday even though he was online all day. We’ve been together for over two years, and I made a big effort on his 30th birthday. I had planned a surprise and bought him an expensive gift. When it was my turn, he completely ignored my day. I am really hurt.

My husband doesn't want to be with me. We are married for 7 years, and have a 3 year old daughter. He says we are not compatible and he wants to file for a divorce. I sacrificed my career for him and now he is in a relationship with a female colleague who is attractive and earns well. He says I don't take care of myself so he doesn't feel attracted to be with me. I don't know how to handle this situation.

Hello ma'am, I am 38 year old woman in love with 32 year old man. I have never married and he is divorced with no children. We both work in same company and relationship is serious. But everyone says woman being 6 years older is shameful in our society. His friends joke calling me aunty. Should we ignore society or I should end this before it gets serious?

Hello ma'am, I am 29 year old married for just 2 years with 1 year old baby. My husband's mother controls everything in house and humiliates me daily. My husband never supports me and always takes his mother's side. I came from love marriage and now regret my decision. Should I divorce with small baby or adjust for few more years? My parents say come back home but I am confused about baby's future.

I am 38 year old woman married for 14 years. My husband is alcoholic and mentally abusive to me and our two daughters age 10 and 7. He earns well 2.5 lakhs per month but spends on drinking. My parents say adjust for children sake as divorce is shame in our community. But I cannot tolerate anymore. Should I divorce and how will I support my daughters on my salary of 65,000? I am scared and confused. Pls help

My partner and I have lived together for three years, and we really love each other. She is 36, I am 37. But our different ideas about money are causing huge fights all the time. For example, I like to save, and she likes to splurge, and it's making us both stressed about our future. How can we deal with these money fights without letting it ruin our relationship? I grew up in a middle class family, while her parents are privileged. She thinks I nag too much about money that's why I am unhappy. Can't we find a way to agree that works for both of us? Or is this just a sign that we're too different and can't get along?

My mom in law wants to join us on our honeymoon to Andaman. Actually it's our second wedding anniversary and I don't understand why she insists on travelling with us. She is more excited and has already started shopping. My husband thinks it's okay but we will also be sharing a room together because he doesn't want her to stay alone. Since he is the only son, his mom is his world for him. I think it is super weird to join a couple and stay in the same room. I want to opt out. What do you think I should I do?

I am in love with my cousin who is three years younger. She is my aunt's daughter. When we are together we feel really happy. She is also my best friend. We are both well settled and want to get married but our parents are against our match. According to them, we are related by blood and it can cause complications later on. Is this even true? I have seen so many friends who are happily married to their first cousins and there is no problem. How do i convince my orthodox parents?

I am (35) married for 4 years (wife 31) and it was an arranged marriage. During our conversations before the marriage that she told me she had a boyfriend and she broke up with her ex bf as he cheated on her. I was never in a relationship all my life till I started talking to my current wife in the year 2020. We only met in person after speaking to each other for more than 9 months via video and audio calls as both of us were living in different countries. After our marriage in 2021 we now have a 2 year old kid. A year ago, I found out that I was her 6th or 7th relationship. She also had physical relationships with several guys during her university days in Udupi, Manipal. She was also in a live in relationship in Udupi for almost a year with her boyfriend during her final year. After her graduation she moved to another country where she was again in an emotional and physical relationship with a different guy. After knowing all this I feel traumatized. I don't have any feelings for her as of now. I just do not care about her existence anymore. I am only worried about the future of my child. The most horrible part is that we still live together under the same roof. Our parents are in India and we reside in US. I really do not know how to proceed. The only good value that I see in her is that she is a good mom to our child. She has a good rapport with my parents and they like her a lot. My parents often suggests my younger sister to consider her as a model. These reasons prevent me from filing for a divorce. My wife does not have an income and if I proceed with a divorce she will have no means to stay here and will have to relocate to India. Most probably Custody of child will be with her and I will not be able to survive a day without my child beside me. I am just trapped in this traumatic, unproductive marriage of mine and it prevents me from accomplishing my goals. I work late hours and try not to be at home just to avoid seeing her. Trying to avoid physical relationship as well. I feel it disgusting these days. Is there a way out?

I am currently facing issues in my marriage. My husband is extremely hurt and angry with me and wants separation because of a blunder committed by me. I am extremely remorseful of my actions and want reconciliation with my husband and daughter. How can I convince my husband to give me another chance. I really want to redeem myself and prove myself to him

Hi, I married forcefully to a girl, iam not interested in her, I want to separate with her, only 10days of my married life she is harrassing me with her words, and she don't want to give divorce, am fedup with my life what should I do pls tell me

My husband ignores me unless he needs something. Like he will not say Good morning or ask how my day was. But he will ask me where his wallet is, whether dinner is ready. Beyond that, I barely exist in his world. We live in the same house, sleep in the same bed, but we don't have a real conversation in weeks. He scrolls through his phone all evening, and shows no interest in how I feel or what I do all day. Even when we go out shopping, he will not share any feedback. I feel invisible in my own marriage. I have seen my parents behaving like this. Is this how marriage becomes over time?

Dr Kaur, I have been married for 3 years. Ours was a love marriage. We dated for 5 years during college. My boyfriend, who is now my husband used to be a harmless flirt. He had many girlfriends before me. When he proposed to me, he promised that I was the only soulmate in his life. Now, when we go out, I have noticed that he ogles at other women. I agree that he is charming and girls find him attractive. Sometimes he casually flirts with my friends as well. No one has a problem or complaint. But I am feeling threatened. When I mentioned, he said I am jealous and there is no harm in staring at other women or flirting harmlessly. He said marriage should not feel like a jail sentence. I don't know how to handle this.

I am a 38-year-old software engineer from Pune, married for three years. My wife often keeps comparing me to her ex and other men. I used to ignore it earlier and it started affecting my self confidence. But now I feel she is doing it to make me feel incompetent and irresponsible. I do not want to be compared to other men. This is leading to unnecessary fights and arguments. How do I handle the constant criticism without losing my confidence?

I've been facing a recurring issue in my marriage that's beginning to affect both my peace of mind and our trust. Whenever I go out with friends especially if we're having drinks my wife constantly calls or messages to check on my whereabouts. Even though I always tell her the truth about where I am, who I'm with, and when I'll be back, she still seems suspicious and uneasy. For instance, just last week I was out with two of my old college friends at a restaurant, and she called me multiple times within two hours, asking if I was really with them and when I planned to return. I could sense from her tone that she didn't fully believe me, even though I wasn't doing anything wrong. This has happened several times before, and every time I try to explain, she either changes the topic or says, "You men always hide something." I understand the importance of transparency in a relationship, and I've always tried to be honest with her. But I'm beginning to feel like I'm being micromanaged or doubted for no reason. It's not just about a night out - it's about trust and space. I'm worried that her insecurity might lead to bigger trust issues down the line. How should I deal?

I'm in a relationship where my partner often compares me to others friends, colleagues, and even their exes. For example, last weekend we were at a friend's housewarming party, and afterward my partner commented, "See how well Neha handles her career and home together you could learn something from her." In the past, they've also said things like, "My ex used to understand me better when I was stressed," or praised a colleague's appearance in front of me. These remarks, even if casual, are really starting to hurt and chip away at my self-esteem. I've told them calmly that these comparisons make me feel undervalued, but they usually laugh it off or say I'm overthinking. I don't want to sound overly sensitive or insecure, but I'm feeling emotionally drained. I also don't want to cause tension or constant fights. How can I set healthy boundaries and make them understand how this is affecting me without turning it into a blame game or sounding needy?

My husband and I love each other, but lately we've been having frequent arguments over small things. Even when we try to talk calmly, it often ends in frustration. How can we rebuild emotional intimacy and improve our communication without constantly triggering each other?

I have been married since 2021.I live with my mom, sister, brother and wife.Since beginning my wife is not getting along with my mother and sister.Also father in law,mother in law and specially my brother in law get involved in every fight.The fights are so worse that even neighbours come and say few things.We have been to police station also one time where my wife has put dowry allegations against me and my family.My mother and sister do not let anything slide by my wife and always keep searching for reason to fight with her and accuse me of taking her side.I have tried to create balance between them but I am exhausted and I am failing at everything please help me

I am a 46 year old male living separately from my wife and child because of some unresolved issues. Wife has asked for a divorce. The child, 12 years of age is likely to prefer staying with her mother. My question is: how practical it is to start a fresh life altogether at this age. Thought of a second marriage scares me a lot. Or should I continue living separately and meet the child over weekends and not go for divorce. (Wife is not that keen for a second marriage)

Dr Kaur, we've been married for 10 years, and have two children. We barely talk, sleep in separate beds, and intimacy has completely died. There is no romance between us. I feel invisible, but I don't want to break up the family. Is this a phase, or are we slowly falling out of love? How to know if there is room for counselling?

My husband and I met in college. We dated for 6 years and got married in 2018. In covid after his parents moved in, we started having arguments. Since we had nowhere to go, arguments turned to fights and we couldn't even sleep in separate rooms. After his parents left, we became distant. Our relationship became toxic with constant fights, blame game and emotional manipulation. I finally walked away to my parents place, thinking I'd feel free. Instead, I'm crying every night. Did I make a mistake, or is this normal post-breakup grief?

I am male married since 2013 , I was working full time and had good career for 10 yrs, I absolutely did not had any physical or mental health issues before marriage and was working full time as IT professional. After marriage from begning I had conflicts and disputes with inlaws. They were keeping too many expectations from My Wife and were doing lot of interference and trying to control My Wife and our married life. They were not allowing us to live our married life independently. There is no issues or conflicts between Me and My Wife and she is living with Me by her own will , but My Wife is mentally and physically weak so she does not handle inlaws and is unable to set the boundries with them after marriage. My in laws are immoral, highly manipulative and controlling people, on face they show and act as if they are very matured people and gentleman but behind they do all sort of negative and immoral activties. They also practice black magic and do all sorts of immoral activities to control My Wife and harm Me. After 5 yrs of marriage , I am suffering from rare, severe and complex Neurological disease since 2019 , I am like bed bound, and having difficulty in talking, sitting upright for long time. I am not able to work due to My severe health condition since 5 yrs now. Taking advantage of My severe, rare and long term health condition , My in laws are defaming Me and spreading rumors about Me to the neighbours, relatives and wherever I go by tracking My activities. They are telling that I am mentally unstable and have had physcological / mental issues from begning of marriage and they are trying to earn fake soft corner of thier daugther in front of people saying that our daughter is caught in this toxic marriage and her life is getting spoilt due to this marriage. They are also tracking each and every activity of Mine by hacking my mobile and creating severe obstacles by defaming Me and spreading rumors about Me They are trying to block My medical treatment by misguiding the Doctors and also blocking anyone who is helping Me ? They are forcing Me indirectly to convience My Wife and take mutual divorce and also demanding Money one time Amount from Me. --------------------------------------- How can I deal with such situation ? Considering I am bedbound and My health condition is severe , I am not in position to take legal action against them What can I do to stop this defamation and turning people against Me ? What can I do about tracking of all My activities through hacking of My mobile ?

My parents, married for 30 years now, yell at each other. My father keeps showing my mother down while she keeps playing victim card in front of me. I am emotionally drained since 10-12 years. Now I live away but I am too lonely now. I don't have any relationship outside, no good friends and close connection. Every friend I have are very selfish because of my achievements and stipend. My brother too is distant and doesn't care about anything related to family. He too loves separately. I am unable to keep my mental peace and constantly feel the need for someone. What should I do. I am a 25 yr old female currently into MTech

Hi my brother married 6 months ago we come to lnow that girl is alredy married we get in the property document how we prove my wife cheat on me and finally how we get dovorce from that girl

Hello Ma'am, I have been married for almost 14 years and have a 10 year old. A few months ago my husband found some intimate chats of mine with someone else. I am extremely remorseful of my actions. Honestly those chats happened because my husband never showed me any love or concern. However I know that's not excuse to have those chats. After seeing those chats he got extremely angry and threw me out of the house. It's been more than 3 months. He is not willing to forgive me. He wants separation and he has told our daughter also that we are separated. I am so heartbroken that because of my blunder I lost my husband and daughter. Is there any way I can get back with my husband

I'm a 41-year-old businessman. I live in Ahmedabad with my wife and two kids, aged 12 and 8. Whenever I come home from a trip, my wife starts blaming me for everything that happened during the week. I call her every day and all I get to hear is I am a bad husband and father. She expects me to be home by 7 every day. She knows I am a businessman and my work timings are never fixed. I travel for work and meetings so I make up once a week by spending time with the kids. She feels it's not enough. We have hired maids to help my wife but she never takes responsibility. She never appreciates my hard work or how I struggle to give them a good life. She is always been complaining about something. Is this emotional manipulation or just bad communication?

I never had the courage to share this with anyone, but after watching a lot of recent movies, I feel I must share this with someone. I've been married to my wonderful wife for 8 years. We have two young kids, 6 and 4. A few years ago, I had a one-time affair with a colleague during an office offsite. It was an emotionally charged moment, but the affair was a brief one. I got a bit too carried away. It's been 2 years and 3 months. We work in the same office, and I'm overwhelmed with guilt. I haven't told anyone. She is single, and we go out on casual dates, even harmless flirting, but never discussing the event. She asked me if I would ever confess this to my wife. I said No, because she is very close to my family now. I'm scared of losing my family, but at the same time, I feel like a fraud every day. This guilt is not letting me sleep. But if I confess, I don't know how my wife will respond. Things may not go back to normal. Isn't it better to silently carry the guilt? Please suggest what to do.

Hello gurus.. I have a friend who has been married for 10 years and with 2 kids one 8 yr old daughter and a two year old son. His wife whom he loved and trusted so much had cheated on him with one of her friends for almost 3 years which he came to know about last year. Though he could not digest that and thought of divorcing her but thinking about his children's future he changed his mind and told her to end all communication with him in order to save this marriage .She too had agreed . He hadn't told about this to anyone except me including her parents whom he respected a lot and hence didn't want to hurt them ... But after 3 months he came to know that she was still in contact with her friend using another phone without his knowledge and her affair also had not stopped . This time he couldn't tolerate and told this to her parents and told them that he would be filing for divorce. Her parents literally begged with him not to do so and requested him to give one last chance as they would mend her this time . He told them that even after giving her a chance to mend herself she has cheated again and broken his trust and that he couldn't live with her without trust . So he had decided to move on but his wife and her mother threatened him that they will have no other choice but to commit suicide if he doesnt forgive his wife. He was also worried about his children's future without their mother .. Based on some elders and friends (including mine )advice he gave her one last chance but on condition that there should not be any communication with her affair partner in future and if he comes to know about them being in any kind of contact he would be filing for divorce . His wife and her parents agreed to this and he took her back though not wholeheartedly but due to circumstances. Though they lived under one roof they did not live a harmonious life and lived like strangers and there used to be quarrels very frequently between them . This sometimes had gone physical and on many occasions his wife had threatened him with suicide... And in March this year he came to know that she was in contact with her affair partner secretly using another phone. When confronted she told they were just talking and nothing else...Though there may not be any physical contact this time my friend is very upset and adamant that he wouldn't live with her and want a mutual divorce ...His wife is not agreeing for it and threatening that she would write his name and end her life if he goes for a contested divorce. My friend is too worried about the legal complications if such a thing happens . He is also concerned about his kids especially his daughters future if he goes for a contested divorce based on adultery , the impact it would have on his daughter s future ..He doesn't want to spoil his daughters future ..At the same time he says he cannot imagine living with his wife again after being cheated on twice... Kindly advice what should I advise him ...

Hello mam, I'm 31 and married for 4 years. My husband wants to know where I am all the time. He checks my phone, and even questions why I spoke to a male colleague. He says it's because he loves me. But I feel suffocated. I can't even meet my own friends without causing a drama at home. Is this normal? Or am I just being over-sensitive?

I am 28 and I have been married for 8 months. We live with my husband's parents, and I feel constantly scrutinised for how I dress, what I cook, even how I talk. My husband avoids taking sides and asks me to 'adjust' and understand. I am starting to feel anxious and isolated. How do I maintain my mental peace?

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Hi Dr Kaur, my wife and I have been married for a decade. We have two kids, 8 and 6 and live with my parents. Our conversations are often turning into arguments. We barely communicate without stress or worry. I fear this is affecting our children. With parents around, it becomes difficult to have an honest chat. How can we restore our connection and improve our communication?

My husband and I have been married for two years. Ours was a love marriage. I'm Hindu and he is Christian. While we agreed to follow both traditions equally, things changed after his elder sister moved in temporarily due to her divorce. She insists on us attending church every Sunday, and recently criticised me for putting up a rangoli for Ekadashi, saying it's against their beliefs. My husband tries to avoid confrontation and says it's just for a few months, but I feel sidelined in my own home. My parents advise me to be patient, but I'm starting to feel like I am the outsider. Am I overreacting or is this a sign of incompatibility?

I am 34 years old, married for 6 years. We live in Pune. My husband's sister is always involved in our matters. She decides what we buy, how we raise our child, and even stops us when we fight. She stays nearby and comes over daily. My husband never stops her because she is elder by 6 years. But I feel like she controls our marriage. I am tired of keeping quiet. What should I do?

I am married since 9 months and My husband does not allow me to do any job.And he doesn't even give me money for expenses and even if he gives it to me, he scolds me a lot, that's why I return that money also.And I have also talked about all these topics but nothing has happened.

I am in a relationship with a girl since 2 years, we have a lot of differences like, she is more than 3 years older than me, our castes are different and she is marathi and I am non marathi. But apart from all this she has just got divorced from court legally, till now she was living separately from his ex husband. She had a affair for about 10 years with her ex but they started living separately just after 8 months of marriage. When I met this girl, we both fell in love, but there were 2-3 mistakes from my side during the first year of our relationship. I lied on small things thinking she will get hurt if she knows that. I haven't cheated, not even talked personal things with any other girl. And for the last one year i have been as honest as anyone can be. But I feel she is not like she used to be. I don't know if I can even call this a relationship anymore. Since we are colleagues we talk in office, we go out for dinner, we still talk lot of personal things too, but that spark is not there. I wanted to marry this girl once. What should I do now?

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