I am a 38-year-old software engineer from Pune, married for three years. My wife often keeps comparing me to her ex and other men. I used to ignore it earlier and it started affecting my self confidence. But now I feel she is doing it to make me feel incompetent and irresponsible. I do not want to be compared to other men. This is leading to unnecessary fights and arguments. How do I handle the constant criticism without losing my confidence?

Ans: This is a very sensible question. The fact that you are comparing options before buying shows financial maturity. A car is a lifestyle decision, so the goal is to enjoy it without hurting long-term financial comfort.

Below is a clear, practical comparison to help you decide.

Option 1: Buying the SUV using your own savings

Advantages
– No interest outflow at all
– Full ownership from day one
– Peace of mind, no monthly EMI pressure
– Better cash flow freedom in future months

Concerns
– Large one-time outgo can disturb emergency fund or long-term investments
– If savings are pulled out from growth assets, you lose future compounding
– Liquidity risk if an unexpected expense comes soon after purchase

When this makes sense
– You still have a strong emergency fund even after paying
– You are using idle money lying in savings / low-return deposits
– Your long-term investments remain untouched

Option 2: Buying the SUV using a car loan

Advantages
– Preserves your savings and investment momentum
– Better liquidity and safety buffer
– EMI is predictable and manageable
– Useful if your money is already productively invested

Concerns
– Interest cost increases total car cost
– EMI reduces monthly flexibility
– Risk of taking a longer loan just to reduce EMI

When this makes sense
– Your savings are invested for long-term goals
– EMI comfortably fits within your monthly surplus
– Loan tenure is kept short (not stretched unnecessarily)

The key point most people miss

A car always depreciates.
So the real question is not loan vs cash, but:

– Will paying fully in cash disturb your financial safety or investments?
– Or will taking a loan create stress in monthly cash flow?

A balanced and practical approach (often the best)

– Pay a large down payment from savings
– Take a small, short-tenure loan for the balance
– Avoid touching long-term investments
– Close the loan early if cash flow stays strong

This gives ownership comfort and financial flexibility.

What you should clearly avoid

– Withdrawing long-term equity investments for a car
– Taking a long loan just to show low EMI
– Using emergency funds for a depreciating asset
– Buying purely because loan is “available easily”

Simple decision guide

– Strong surplus + idle savings → Prefer own funds
– Savings invested + stable income → Prefer partial loan
– Uncertain income / thin emergency fund → Avoid full cash payment

Final thought

The best choice is the one that lets you enjoy the SUV without regret 2–3 years later.
Financial comfort matters more than interest saved or paid.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment