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Marriage counsellor - Answered on Aug 08, 2025

Dr Upneet Kaur is a medical professional and therapist based out of Amritsar.
After completing her bachelor’s degree in Ayurvedic medicine and surgery from the SKSS Ayurvedic College and Hospital, Sarabha, Punjab, in 2008, she worked as a medical officer at various multi-specialty hospitals in Punjab, handling both physical and mental patient care and clinical decision-making. She spent the next decade leading multidisciplinary teams at various levels.
Since 2022, she has been practising as a clinical psychologist and marriage counsellor.
Dr Upneet also holds an MBA in hospital management from Alagappa University, Tamil Nadu, and an MA in psychology from the Indira Gandhi National Open University.... more
Asked by Anonymous - Aug 06, 2025
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I am in love with my cousin who is three years younger. She is my aunt's daughter. When we are together we feel really happy. She is also my best friend. We are both well settled and want to get married but our parents are against our match. According to them, we are related by blood and it can cause complications later on. Is this even true? I have seen so many friends who are happily married to their first cousins and there is no problem. How do i convince my orthodox parents?

Ans: Hello sir..Well, this notion is not entirely wrong as the chances of getting genetic diseases get higher. But on the other side, this culture had been very popular all over the world. So, marrying your cousin would not entirely be wrong. You can logically go with it.
For convincing your parents, you can request them that you both are happy with each other and want to live a happy life. I am sure that your and her parents will agree to the proposal soon. All the best ????
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