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Dr Upneet Kaur |73 Answers |Ask -Follow

Marriage counsellor - Answered on Jul 26, 2025

Dr Upneet Kaur is a medical professional and therapist based out of Amritsar.
After completing her bachelor’s degree in Ayurvedic medicine and surgery from the SKSS Ayurvedic College and Hospital, Sarabha, Punjab, in 2008, she worked as a medical officer at various multi-specialty hospitals in Punjab, handling both physical and mental patient care and clinical decision-making. She spent the next decade leading multidisciplinary teams at various levels.
Since 2022, she has been practising as a clinical psychologist and marriage counsellor.
Dr Upneet also holds an MBA in hospital management from Alagappa University, Tamil Nadu, and an MA in psychology from the Indira Gandhi National Open University.... more

Asked by Anonymous - May 30, 2025Hindi

Relationship

Hi, I married forcefully to a girl, iam not interested in her, I want to separate with her, only 10days of my married life she is harrassing me with her words, and she don't want to give divorce, am fedup with my life what should I do pls tell me

Ans: Hello sir. I understand your situation. But the information you have given is very less. Before answering your question, I would like to know some more things. Like why were you forced to marry this girl and why you don't like her? Was she also forced to marry you? And now how is she harrassing you?
Kindly answers the following questions so that i can guide you in a better way.
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Dr Upneet Kaur
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A lot that could have been sorted out has gotten worse now.
But of course, we can't change what's happened in the past right?
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hi iam 53 yhears old got married around 18 yearsw back to my wife she is no 39 years old good evening i got married and i have three kids elder is 18 years younger is 16 years and i have daughter of 10years old since my marriage there was always clash between me and my wife for small silly reasons it was going on but since 3 years the clash become very rash and she even gave complaint on me to lady police station she threated me and every night i come late that time i am taking drinks she started to quarrel even not allows me to have food she drive me wild and in my unconsious mind i oftenly i use to abuse her with bad words even my neighbours many time they came to resolve the problem now she is asking property which i have gained from my parents. and since one year she is treating me like stray dog and never allowes me to have sex routenly she sleep like a dead in my bed. she left my house taking my all kids since last 6 months i forced to live alone now by some how i manage to bring her to my house along with kids but she refused having sex with me and she neverhad sex with me since 7 months i have becom patient of depression i dont know what to do please help me in this regard thank you

Ans: Hello sir. I have read your message and I would first like to express my opinion that a partner is not always for sex. There are many other ways to take care of your partner. You could take your wife out for dinner, go out on a picnic, go with with her to her parents' house. But when we dont do all these things and just want sex from partner. That doesn't work. At this age she might be going through some hormonal changes also. I suggest you to start behaving nicely with your wife and start taking care of her. Slowly the things will improve between you too.
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I am married but my relationship with my wife is not good. For past 5-6 year wife was not living in my house but when I said that need divorce recently she came to my village house. Now she is living in my village house and She says that She will give divorce. I am determined that I can not live with her but now she is not ready to give divorce and she is staying in my house. Suggest me what should I do for the divorce.

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