
Hi
I am Prateek Kumar 20 year old class 12 pass with Biology stream writing this because I feel completely stuck and unable to make any decisions in my career. Overthinking, fear of missing out, fear of regret, procrastination, i have found all these things within myself.
I don't understand what my interest is and what my goal is. I am interested in many things I feel like I have potential, but I can't decide what to do.
I am unable to accept just one option.
I have an interest in many fields: Engineering, Medical (MBBS), Law, Economics, Finance, Business, Politics, Science, History, AI/ML, Data Science, Research, top government jobs, Banking, etc. Because I cannot choose just one thing, I imagine myself in every single option.
-Sometimes I feel that today is the era of AI, which has huge scope and good growth.Sometimes
- I feel I should go into a career in politics and policymaking.Sometimes
-I feel I should enter the field of Economics or Finance for a good salary and growth.Sometimes
- I feel I should prepare for top government exams like IAS or IFS for power, respect, and authority.
-Sometimes I feel I should choose a law for power and to bring change to the system.
-Sometimes I feel I should go into the medical field because I am from the Biology stream and my family wants this too.
-I also love writing stories and want to make my own movie because I have very good stories.
-Earlier, I even wanted to become a pilot.
I keep switching between 'should I do this' or 'should I do that', and I don't know what to do. Time is passing by.Whenever I try to choose one thing, I feel like I am missing out on everything else.
I feel like the other option is the perfect one. Because of this perfectionism, I cannot make any decision. People say, 'Do what you are interested in.' But I am interested in so many things, how do I choose just one?
As a boy from a middle-class family, I have imagined very big dreams. I feel I have the potential to achieve them, but a lack of direction, laziness, and overthinking are stopping me.I feel completely stuck. It has been 1.5 years since I passed Class 12, and I have still not taken admission anywhere. No one understands my situation.
Many people tell me to just pursue graduation from a local college. But there are no good colleges here; you don't even have to attend classes daily. I won't get a real college environment, I won't be able to explore anything, and I won't enjoy college life. Taking admission here means either preparing for a government job or just getting a degree for the sake of a name. Most importantly, I don't even know which course I should actually pursue.
I am trying very hard to figure things out, but I cannot reach a decision. Please help me. There is no psychologist near me, and my family will not take me to one either. I do not understand if I should change my stream or stick to it.
Should I switch from Biology to Math or not? Before taking any decision, I overthink so much and feel terrified. It feels like my entire life depends on this single decision.
Through YouTube and the internet, I have noticed patterns within myself like overthinking, procrastination, some signs of ADHD (not confirmed), fear of regret, fear of making a wrong decision, FOMO, and having multiple interests.
Please help me and show me the right way to get out of this problem and choose the right direction. Also, please tell me how I can make my own decision."
Ans: Dear Prateek
Please note you have articulated your question and also given the answer.
Imagine you driving a car and you come to a crossroads. Now you have to decide either to go left, right, straight or take a U turn. Any decision is based upon the destination where you want to go. Even if you are simply wandering, yet you cannot stop at the crossroads, you must decide which turn to take. Or else you will miss on EVERYTHING that is there on the left, right, straight or even U turn.
Now by taking left definitely you will miss on somethings on right or straight or even from the road you travelled. But if you don't take a turn then you will miss on EVERYTHING that is there in a particular turn.
A good doctor can also be a good painter or a good engineer can also play guitar. However a good piano player cannot be a good lawyer unless and until he or she has learnt law and practised it in the court of law.
Expertise in professional filed comes through education and practise.
So, take up any profession that you want to, decide by asking a simple question, what is it that you would continue doing if there was no fame or fortune or power. What will you do just for the sake of doing it. start pursuing that field.
Home is built on a strong foundation but interior of drawing room we can change it even mix and match. So build one rock solid foundation by choosing a particular field of profession and explore other areas as intrest or hobbies.
All the best
Regards
KK