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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Oct 27, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Oct 25, 2026

Hi, My sister is 41 years and her husband is 44 years old. She recently shared that she and her husband are no longer able to have sex properly as her husband can’t hold the position long enough to have it. He even used some kind of spray to last it longer but it didn’t work. This happened last 4-5 times and then she told her husband that there is some problem. Her husband ignored her and told her that he is not the one with the problem and blamed my sister instead. He blatantly refused to visit the doctor. How should she go forward and help her husband. Earlier as well, they would get intimate once or twice a year only.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Seeing a doctor who can determine if the issue is physiological one or in the mind or both is useful...
But like you mentioned that they are hardly intimate, what's the issue then? Each couple has their own frequency or not! If it's not bothering either of them, then why bother about it at all?
And if does bother them, well, as a couple they need to figure this one out for themselves...a doctor would help as long as they get to one...
In the meantime ask your sister if their intimacy outside the bedroom is good; that can fix a lot.

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Paediatrician - Answered on Oct 27, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Oct 27, 2026

My baby’s head looked slightly swollen and bigger than usual immediately after birth, which made me a little worried. Some relatives told me that this can happen during delivery and gradually return to normal, but I wanted to understand it better. Is it common for a newborn’s head to look enlarged or swollen after birth, what causes it, and how long does it usually take to become normal?

Ans: Yes, due to the pressure exerted by the birth canal..it settles down in the first week or maximum 2 weeks

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Paediatrician - Answered on Oct 27, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Oct 27, 2026

My baby is approaching six months, and I'm planning to introduce solid foods alongside breast milk or formula. I shd start with mashed banana or rice cereal or is it okay with dal water, fruit purees or homemade khichdi?

Ans: All these options are fine, one at a time with a gap of few days for new things. Your pediatrician willmprovide a diet chart that you can follow

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Oct 27, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Oct 12, 2026

My mother-in-law is a very good cook, and recently I took her alu wadi to my office. Five of my colleagues tasted it and liked it so much that they asked if she could prepare it for them regularly as a tiffin service. I feel this could be a nice opportunity for her to earn some extra money from her cooking skills. However, I am not sure how to bring up the idea with her. I don’t want her to feel that I am treating her cooking like a business or putting pressure on her to cook for others.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It's sweet of you to think of how to monetize her cooking skills...Float the idea with her; initially she may just dismiss it.
Then bring it up randomly another day after a week or two...then again!
If she is really interested, the reminders will have hit the mark in making her think about herself and what she could do.
Be patient but persistent!

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Oct 27, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Sep 10, 2026

One day my son studing in 4th grade suddenly asked me, ‘If you got three wishes, what would you ask for? I told him my three wishes would be to finish my home loan as soon as possible, open my own cafe someday, and become successful in life. Then I asked him what his wishes would be. His answer completely caught me off guard. He said, 'I want bubbles above my friends heads with percentages written on them, so I can know how much they really love and care about me and which friendships are fake. I honestly didn’t expect such an emotional answer from him. It made me wonder whether children at this age already think so deeply about friendship, acceptance and whether people genuinely like them. Is this just a child being imaginative and curious, or can such answers sometimes tell us something about what a child is feeling socially?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It's a sweet and playful and childlike answer; I would worry if he had instead given you a very grown-up, philosophical or practical answer!
You can of course, prod a bit and find out if he is happy and comfortable with his friends.

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Oct 27, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Oct 01, 2026

My father-in-law is very involved in our family life. He often tells us how we should spend money, take care of our children and even handle small things at home. My wife feels that he is only giving advice because he cares about us, but sometimes I feel that he is getting too involved in our personal decisions. I respect him and I don’t want to create any problem with him or make my wife feel that I don’t like her father. But at the same time, I feel that my wife and I should have some space to make our own decisions as a couple. How can I explain this to my wife in a calm way and set some limits without making her feel that I am disrespecting or rejecting her father?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Merely listen to him and then take your decisions; listening to him with an intent will also show your wife that you care about her father and his opinions...
That will also let her loosen up on what you are finally going to with your money.
Most often to break someone's involvement, just get involved genuinely in what they say or do; invariably they stop wanting to be heard OR who knows you might actually find what they say good for you!

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Oct 27, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Oct 01, 2026

There is a woman who lives near me, and I never really paid much attention to her before. Recently, my wife pointed out that the woman sometimes wears a revealing maxi dress at home and sits near her open door while watching TV. We ended up discussing it, and I admitted to my wife that I also find her appearance attractive. The strange thing is that now I have started noticing her more than before. Sometimes I catch myself wanting to look again and again, and I find myself thinking about it even when she is not around. I know this is only a fantasy, but I am worried that because my wife and I have talked about it openly, I may be encouraging these thoughts instead of letting them pass. Why has something I barely noticed before suddenly become so interesting to me, and how can I understand whether this is just a harmless attraction or something I should be concerned about in my relationship?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Feeling attracted to someone is not something to wonder much about BUT acting on that feeling is a choice...
As long as you know that this isn't turning into an obsessive streak consuming your mind all day, I guess it's better to ignore it and move on...the more you question WHY this is happening, the more it is going to draw your attention into it...
Turn your attention towards your wife and what is within your marriage...And is that doesn't work either, pull the dark curtains to cut the scene visually :), your mind, your control!

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Tax Expert - Answered on Oct 27, 2026

Question by Srinivas - Oct 08, 2026

my wife purchased a site in 2005 for 1,50,000 document value market value 7,00,000. Now we are giving it for development thru JDA and the builder has agreed to give two flats which we plan to register in our daughters names each to our two daughters. now kindly advise us as to how the LTCG will be. Can my wife claim Tax exemption 54F. Can we include our daughters names in the JDA as co owners , Which is the best way to reduce or avoid Capital gains and at the same time the flats should be registered in my daughters names.

Ans: The transfer of land under a Joint Development Agreement (JDA) will be subject to capital gains tax and liability will be deferred until the completion certificate for the project is issued. The Long Term Capital Gains (LTCG) will be computed by deducting the indexed cost of acquisition from the full value of consideration (stamp duty value of flats plus any cash consideration on the date of completion certificate). Your wife can claim exemption by reinvesting the net consideration into the two residential flats, subject to conditions like not owning more than one residential house (other than the new asset) on the date of transfer and a monetary cap of ten crore rupees. If the flats are registered in your daughters' names, tax will not apply as daughters are 'relatives'. However, if the daughters are minors, any income from these flats would be clubbed with your wife's income. For adult daughters, clubbing provisions would not apply.

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Question by Academic - Oct 17, 2026

Sir, i m having SC caste certificate in central format issued from UP, But appearing 12th from Telangana, so home quota will be Telangana. Will my caste certificate valid for Josaa counselling specially for NIT warangal Btech after JEE mains

Ans: Yes, your certificate is valid. JoSAA/JEE is a centralised admission process, so an SC certificate issued in the prescribed central format by a competent authority in Uttar Pradesh is acceptable for claiming the SC reservation at NIT Warangal. Your State of Eligibility (Home State quota) is determined by the state where you first appeared for/passed Class 12 or an equivalent examination—in your case, Telangana. Therefore, you can claim Telangana Home State benefits while using your UP-issued SC certificate. Please ensure that your certificate follows the official JoSAA SC/ST format and is issued by the appropriate competent authority. All The Best for Your Prosperous Future!

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Question by Ashwin - Oct 17, 2026

Hi im currently in 12th. Preparing for JEE mains and advanced. As of now scoring around 190 to 210 in jee mains in my school exams and 180 to 210 in jee advanced. Little confused to choose colleges. Im from chennai.. im applying for JEE. I wanted to apply other colleges for safer side. Apart from BITS,VIT, SNU, Manipal which other best options were there. Like IIIT hyderabad, which other institutes conduct exams/admission seperately

Ans: Ashwin, you haven’t mentioned which coaching institute’s mock or practice tests you are taking to score 180+. Nevertheless, your score is excellent, and you seem to be on the right track. Coming to your question, you have already shortlisted good options, including JEE-based admissions, BITS, VIT, SNU, Manipal and IIIT Hyderabad. In addition, you can consider IIIT Bangalore through your JEE score, ISI Admission Test if you have a strong interest in Statistics, and CMI Admission Test if you genuinely enjoy Mathematics, logical reasoning, abstract thinking and scientific problem-solving. Please note that CMI is not a conventional engineering college; its undergraduate programmes focus on Mathematics and scientific disciplines. If you are genuinely interested in scientific research, you can also consider KIITEE as a backup option, Amrita’s AEEE, COMEDK of Karnataka and IISER’s IAT. My suggested order of preference would be: (1) JEE-based options, depending on your rank and the institutes available; (2) IIIT Hyderabad through UGEE or JEE Main, depending on the programme and admission route; (3) BITS, if the fees are affordable; (4) IIIT Bangalore through JEE Main; (5) SNU, preferably its main campus at Shiv Nadar University, Chennai (Kelambakkam), subject to the programme offered; (6) ISI, if Statistics is your primary interest; (7) COMEDK of Karnataka (8) CMI, if Mathematics is your strong interest; (9) VIT; (10) KIIT through KIITEE, as a backup; (11) Amrita through AEEE; and (12) IISER through IAT, if you wish to pursue research-oriented science programmes. Remember that this is a broad preference order, not a universal ranking. Your final choice should depend on your JEE performance, preferred branch, genuine academic interests, fees and career goals. All The Best for Your Prosperous Future!

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