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Workplace Expert - Answered on Sep 28, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Sep 28, 2026
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Lost in Life. Seems like I'm finished I’m 25 years old and will turn 26 in October. I completed my B.Tech in Computer Science in 2022. After graduation, I worked as a Graduate Engineer Trainee until November 2023. I resigned from my job because I wanted to seriously prepare for the UPSC examination. I never imagined that the next few years would completely change my life. I lost my father, and overnight, a huge part of the responsibility for my family came onto my shoulders. Then lost my grandfather. Since then, life has been less about career choices and more about dealing with one responsibility after another. I had to take care of my sister’s wedding. Then came my mother’s surgery. My grandmother has Parkinson’s disease and requires care as well. There were things happening in my family that I simply could not ignore or walk away from. I had plans for my career. I had dreams. I wanted to prepare for UPSC and build something meaningful for myself. But circumstances kept forcing me to put everything else aside. Today, I’m in a very difficult position. Our primary source of income is currently half of my grandmother’s pension. I came to Noida in January with the hope that I would find a job, become financially independent again, and start rebuilding my life. Since then, I have been applying and attending interviews. I have been rejected, ghosted, and left without any response multiple times. At one point, I was selected by an MNC, and I genuinely thought things were finally going to get better. But then the company froze the recruitment. That one decision completely shattered the little financial stability and hope I had at that point. I’m currently living in Noida and paying more than ₹12,000 every month just for my living, apart from food, travel, and other expenses. Every month, I have to think about how I’m going to manage the next one. And honestly, it is becoming extremely difficult. There are days when I feel completely exhausted. I’m dealing with a lot of anxiety, stress, and what feels like depression. I wake up knowing that my family depends on me, but at the same time, I don’t have a stable source of income myself. Despite all of this, I haven’t completely given up. I have started preparing for government examinations, particularly Computer Science-related posts, because I want a stable career and, more importantly, I want to be in a position where I can take care of my family without constantly worrying about losing my income. But I’m extremely confused about what I should do now. I’m not looking for shortcuts or sympathy. I’m looking for practical advice from people who have been through career gaps, difficult circumstances, job searches, or similar situations. I have a B.Tech in Computer Science, professional experience, and I’m willing to work hard. I’m not afraid of starting again from a lower position if necessary. I just need an opportunity to get back on my feet. Please don’t suggest BPO or similar jobs. I’m specifically looking for decent technical, operations, analyst, or other professional roles where my education and previous experience can be useful, while still leaving me enough stability and time to prepare for government examinations. My biggest concern right now is not just my career. It is my family. I need to become financially stable, support my mother and grandmother, rebuild my career after this gap, and somehow keep moving forward instead of feeling like I’m constantly falling behind. If you were in my position at with a B.Tech, around 1.5 years of work experience, a career gap due to UPSC preparation and family responsibilities, limited financial support, and immediate pressure to start earning again - what would you do? I would genuinely appreciate any practical, honest advice, career leads, or direction you can provide. I’m trying very hard not to give up. I just need to figure out which direction to take from here.
Ans: Hello

Let me confess it's not easy for anyone to be in your situation, life has thrown multiple challenges at you from all the directions.

What is admirable is your never say die attitude. From your words I can tell that you are willing to try again and again and not give up. This is your biggest strength.

Here is what I would suggest.

While preparing for UPSC exam is indeed commendable, suggest you put time and efforts to get a job in private sector in your domain which is Computer Science.

I am sure you are aware of the rapid development and opportunities in the the field of AI-ML, given your B.Tech in CS, May I suggest you self educate yourself in this domain. For someone like you with a great attitude to learn and grow, I am sure you will be able to master the field and find good breakthrough.

So learn AI-ML field, get a job in private sector so that you can steady your income and then prepare for UPSC exams. Steady income and job will give you more confidence to prepare for the exams and also give you a sense of satisfaction of taking care of family responsibilities.

You need to balance between:

Your Dream, which is clearing UPSC exam.....
Your current family Responsibilities, which is need for a steady income.....
and your Reality, which is multiple challenges.

Accept all three...don't deny anything...work with Patience and believe me You Will Succeed...!!

Wishing you the very best.

Warm Regards
KK
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Dr Nagarajan J S K

Dr Nagarajan J S K   |3314 Answers  |Ask -

NEET, Medical, Pharmacy Careers - Answered on Sep 28, 2026

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Hello Sir/Ma'am, I need some guidance regarding my EWS certificate and GATE 2027/M.Tech admission. My situation is a little unusual, so I wanted to explain it clearly. My family is originally from Bihar. We still have our family/home there, and my mother's address and documents are from Bihar. I also have a valid Bihar EWS Income & Asset Certificate. However, I was born in Kolkata because my parents moved to Kolkata, and I have lived in Kolkata throughout my life. My schooling and graduation were also completed in Kolkata. My current/permanent residential address is Kolkata, West Bengal. I am now applying for GATE 2027 from Kolkata and intend to use my GATE score for M.Tech admission in IITs/NITs through the relevant counselling process. My family circumstances are also a little complicated: My father is deceased. My grandfather is deceased. My mother lives with me in Kolkata, but her official address/documents are from Bihar. I do not own any agricultural land/property. My mother does not own any agricultural land/property. Actually, I lived with my paternal uncle. My main concern is regarding the Bihar EWS certificate vs. my Kolkata permanent address. Since my EWS certificate is issued by Bihar, but I was born and educated in Kolkata, my current/permanent address is Kolkata, and I will be applying for GATE from Kolkata, could this create any issue during M.Tech admission/counselling document verification? Specifically, I would like to know: Can I use my Bihar EWS certificate for Central EWS reservation in GATE-based M.Tech admissions? Is there any requirement that the address/state mentioned in my EWS certificate must match my current/permanent address in the GATE application? Could the fact that my GATE application shows Kolkata, West Bengal, while my EWS certificate is from Bihar, cause a problem during CCMT/IIT/NIT document verification? Since my family genuinely belongs to Bihar, we have a home there, and my mother's official address is Bihar, does this establish my connection/residence with Bihar for the purpose of the EWS certificate? Do I need any additional document or affidavit explaining that my family is originally from Bihar but my parents moved to Kolkata, where I was born, raised, and educated? I want to make sure everything is correct before GATE 2027 counselling/admission, because I don't want any problem during document verification later. Could you please advise me whether my Bihar EWS certificate + Kolkata permanent address/GATE application combination is acceptable, and whether I need any additional documents
Ans: Hi Ujwal.
Greetings from the REDIFFGURUS!
Before I can answer your query, I need two clarifications from you:

1. Do you belong to the General category? If you do not belong to the General category, then you are not eligible to apply for EWS.

2. Do you own any property, land, or a home (not rented)? There seems to be a discrepancy in your statements. You mentioned that you do not have property or land in Bihar, but you also stated that you have a home in Bihar and that your mother's official address is in Bihar. Which one is correct?

Kindly share the details.

BEST WISHES.
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