My mom in law wants to join us on our honeymoon to Andaman. Actually it's our second wedding anniversary and I don't understand why she insists on travelling with us. She is more excited and has already started shopping. My husband thinks it's okay but we will also be sharing a room together because he doesn't want her to stay alone. Since he is the only son, his mom is his world for him. I think it is super weird to join a couple and stay in the same room. I want to opt out. What do you think I should I do?

Hello Pooja madam, my wife began hating her mother in law since last 15 years . They dont speak and dont see eye to eye. The issue was ancestor property division... Now my daughter has grown up. She will get married next year, my wife does not want to invite mother in law or even talk about them.. My wife earns more than me ... my mother in law is a widow .. how can I solve this marraige inviting problem , kindly suggest a remedy..

Dear Sir, I am married for 10 years and are blessed with a daughter. My wife is very supportive, and we both are working middle class professionals. We usually take our parents along with us whenever we go for any vacation. My mother-in-law and my parents love travelling and openly inform me if they are disinterested in visiting any place. The issue is with my father-in-law. My father-in-law is 80 years and working full time and keeps himself occupied. He is healthy and can walk around easily considering his age. We have visited many places together (both locally and domestic travel) and whenever I ask my father-in-law about his feedback about the place visited/activity performed, he often tells me that he is not interested in any of the activities/places visited and prefers sitting in one place. This really bothers me as to the reason for my father-in-law accompany us and instead, send only his wife would have travelled with us. My mother-in-law is also fine travelling without him. My father-in-law could have simply sat at home or perform his office duties. There is always a cost factor incurred for flight or train travel/stay in a hotel/food/local travel whenever we visit any place, and we could have saved lakhs of rupees if my father-in-law had not visited any of the places. I discussed this with my wife who informed that she feels happy taking her parents and we should not discuss the issue with my father-in-law openly as it will hurt him. If my father-in-law was genuinely interested, I would not have minded spending money, but because of his negative feedback, I feel we could have rather invested the saved money for future use. Please advise.

Thank you mam. I conveyed to both of them that I feel uncomfortable but they still saying that I understood wrongly and there is nothing between them.but my husband shares everything with her but not with me. Me and my husband had a difference of ten years may this might be a reason and I m a house wife after completing twelth I got married and then i didn't study. He is a good caring husband and good father for my two childrens and nice person. But I feel uncomfortable only with this problem what to do may be I am thinking wrong.

Hi Anu, Im 27yrs old. I have been married for 1.5 yrs. Me and my husband live abroad. I grew up abroad for a great deal of my life and all members of my family are post graduate degree holders from renowned universities. Recently my mother-in-law came to visit us, she is staying for 6 months. My husband prior to marriage said that his mother is educated when I asked him. Post marriage I found out she studied only till 10th and married my father-in-law who is deceased. Since her arrival, my mother-in-law’s behaviour has been very weird. 1. She once told me that in their caste Kshatriyas ( we had an inter-caste marriage) its very common for the men to have 2 wives and mistresses. This was said totally out if context. Couple of days later she mentioned that her husband had a mistress. 2. She asks me questions about why things are the way they are and why are they like that. I find it very difficult to answer to her questions at the same time I don’t want to sound condescending. 3. She complained to my mother that my husband and I are using up too much ghee and oil. She blames that I made her son fat. My husband likes to have everything deep fried when I don’t do as he asks he throws a fit like a child and refuses to eat. Now I realised why, she deep fries almost everything, bhindi, potato, gobi, arvi, and even brinjal. 4. She also mentions that some relative of their was going to give then 2kg gold dowry to marry her son. I asked her why didn’t she accept it then. They she covered up saying that our engagement was already done by then. Again recently, she was talking to her sister on the phone and was saying that a girl is really beautiful and she was considering her for my husband but he liked me. All while I was literally in front of her. 5. She tries to take over the kitchen, she wants to wash dishes by hand and there is food residue all over. She doesn't want me to use the dishwasher. When I pointedly out that there is residue all dried up on the mixer blade, she covered it up saying that its powder. 6. I asked her not to put oil or ghee on the roti pan when making rotis as its ruining the pan and to ghee after the roti is cooked. She still went ahead and melted butter and poured it on the pan and made rotis. She said that they are not puffing up without the oil. I tried it out myself and I discovered that she lied. Dishonesty is my biggest peeve. I have no respect for her now. I don’t understand why she behaves the way she does. She also expects me to listen to all her stories and express interest in her superstitions. She on the other hand shows total disregard to what I say. My parents want me to be nice to her as she is a widow and has only her son and daughter. She is not nice to her daughter. My sister in law does not want to live with her in laws and my mother-in-laws laughs when she calls her crying. I have witnessed her gas lighting her daughter on many occasions. Once my husband asked her is the sister can come stay at home with her back in India and my mother-in-law said that she does not want her daughter in the house because she is a burden. My mother in law also keeps telling me that I should press her son’s legs as it will give Lakshmi. Once he took food from my plate I told him to put it back and get his own, she said its a Maha paap to snatch from husband’s mouth. She uses this Mahapaap whenever I ask my husband to help around the house. I don’t know how to communicate this with my husband and how to deal with her. He believes he needs to provide everything his mom wants and give her the world because she went thru difficulties after their dad’s passing. However my mother in law believes her life got better after her husband’s passing. She says that her husband was abusive to her physically, emotionally and financially. What do I do?

My mother in law wants to shift into our home permanently. My husband agreed without consulting me. And now we are arguing about it. If we say NO to her, it will be obvious that I have rejected her. We don't get along with each other. What should I do?