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Ans: Hello sir. Sir, since relationships are very sensitive and the decision to marry someone is an important decision which should be taken with lot of patience so that you don't regret it later. And the thing which you said that she has changed, she may have changed due to your lies. I appreciate that now you are honest with her. Spark needs to be created. It will not remain without effort. If she is sincere with you and you are loyal with her and you both feel that you can spend life together, you should go ahead. Nobody remains the same through out the life. Changes always come. Sit patiently with your friend and discuss the options and see work out if you both want to get married. Then take a decision. I hope this solves your problem.
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Ans: Hello mam.
I understand that it feels strange when someone changes suddenly so much like you said the boy's mother's attitude changed and now she is ready to accept you. Marriage is a big decision and it does not work only with love. It needs many other practical things to work. Like many compromises from both side, finances, acceptance, trust and respect. Think as much as you want before marriage a d take a good decision but after marriage you cannot change the things so easily.
Take some more time and get information on their business, thier family reputation, their relatives and neighbours. Only then take a decision. And leave the things upto your parents. They are much more experienced and have a much more willingness to see you happy.
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Ans: Hello sir. I have read your message and I would first like to express my opinion that a partner is not always for sex. There are many other ways to take care of your partner. You could take your wife out for dinner, go out on a picnic, go with with her to her parents' house. But when we dont do all these things and just want sex from partner. That doesn't work. At this age she might be going through some hormonal changes also. I suggest you to start behaving nicely with your wife and start taking care of her. Slowly the things will improve between you too.
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Ans: Hello mam, I understand that you are having overthinking regarding your present relationship coz of your past. But we need to learn to let go of past, otherwise our present will be ruined coz of overthinking and insecurities. Think positive and try to engage yourself in some positive activities like Book reading, yoga, meditation etc. You can also take some sessions from counselor. Practice mindfulness. I hope it solves your problem.
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Ans: Hello Ajay! Before I answer your query, I want to ask you something. Other than the kids issue, do you have any other problem with her?
Will wait for your reply.
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Ans: Namaste mam.
Main samajh skti hun apki pareshani ko. Ajkal caste system me koi zyada nahi manta. Agar ladka acha hai and job achi hai to apke parents se aaram se baat aap kar skte hai. Par apko ye sure karna hoga ke uske parents apko accept kar le. Agar wo ready hai to aap apne parents se aaram se baith ke baat kar skti hain. Gusse me mat ana. Shanti se behtar koi rasta nahi hai. Aap ye bhi samjho ki apke parents aoke bhale ke liye hi soch rahe hai. Unko pyar se hi samjhaya ja skta hai.
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Ans: Hello Mam, I understand that you are in a dilemma. The situation is like this. Either ways the situation will have its negative effect on your son. If possible take some time out from your family and spend some quality time with your husband. Clear negative thoughts from your mind regarding your husband and try to accept him. If you will think positive about your family it will reflect in your actions and then things will be sorted out. But one thing to be kept in mind that you should not tolerate physical abuse. Involve your parents in this and try to convince him to behave nicely with you. U can always start something online for your financial independence. Try this out. Take care ????
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Ans: Hello mam,
I want to congratulate you first that you are doing so well in your professional life. Not everyone has such opportunities. Now lets discuss about your personal life. I agree that due to different time zones it gets difficult to maintain proper communication. Take out time once and discuss this with your partner. Otherwise long distance relationships do work. It is just correct understanding. And tell him your tentative plan of coming back to India. I hope this works.
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Ans: Hello mam..This could be a part of mid life crisis and he could feel this extra marital affair to be coping mechanism after trauma, your mother's death. Your father should definitely think about his children and their future. Are you and your sister working or studying? I would like to know a little further about your present status so that i can suggest you something better.
Kindly do reply.
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Ans: Hello sir. Plz have some patience. I understand that this is an important aspect of relationship but not the only aspect. It could be a reaction to some trauma also. Take some private time and sit with your wife. And politely try to figure out the problem. Take her some time. Have some patience. Let her be comfortable with you again. Everything will come to normal. Take care!
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Ans: Hello mam. Mam, knowing that he is married and has a family to support it is not a good decision to move ahead in this relationship. He might be having a mid life crisis and feels that he is in love with you but he should concentrate on his family and you should presently concentrate on your career. Your parents also might not approve this alliance.
Plz rethink on this advice and take the right decision. Take care!
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Ans: Hello sir! People do have different backgrounds. No two persons can have exactly same financial backgrounds. As long as you are settled and you are accepting her by heart, her financial background doesn't really matter. But one thing is there that you should not make her realise at any point of time that she has a weak background than you. You can slowly convince your parents also to accept the girl by heart and include her in your family. I hope this solves your problem.
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Ans: Hello sir. I understand that parents are the only ones who want the best for their children, no matter their age. As now your daughter is a doctor and is considering a doctor only is not a bad option. Earlier there was an issue of caste and age in the society but now the difference is getting vanish. Love marriage is considered normal now despite the difference in caste or age. You can meet the boy once or twice and clear your doubts. After that both the families can sit and talk. After all its the happiness of your daughter that matters. According to me, should should consider this option.
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Ans: Hello mam,
The problem you are facing is very important to discuss. Well, I appreciate your sacrifice of leaving your job for your son and in laws. I understand that you have to take care of your in laws also and your family also. In today's world there are many work from home options that you can see and work on like you can join some coaching site, or if you know something then you can share your knowledge with others. You can earn very well by working from home and you can take care of your family also. I hope this will work. Gradually your husband and your son will understand you and start respecting you. Take care !
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Ans: Hello mam
It's completely understandable that you're feeling concerned, embarrassed, and unsure about how to approach this situation. As a relationship counselor, I'd suggest that you choose a calm and private moment to talk to your husband, avoiding any blaming tone. Start expressing your feelings and concerns. You could say, "Hey, I wanted to talk to you about something that's been bothering me. I've noticed that you're often on your phone at night, and I feel uncomfortable not knowing what's going on. Can we talk about what's going on and why you're doing this?" In this way, you may be able to have a more open and honest discussion about what's going on and work together to find a resolution that strengthens your relationship.
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Ans: Hello sir. I am not finding your question proper. Can you plz elaborate the question and ask it again?

Ans: Hello mam, it is not bad to fall in love with a person who has a different caste from yours or earns a little less than yours.
Financial things can be managed at a point but he should be willing to change his own situation by working on it.
You can sit with your parents and talk to them and convince them to atleast have a meeting with the boy and share their concerns with him. I am sure you will be able to convince them and make the things in order. Take care !
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Ans: Hello mam,
I understand your dilemma mam. Let's look at both aspects of this relationship.

If you go ahead with this relationship, what have you thought about his previous family? His marital status and family commitments can't be ignored. Have you considered the potential impact on his children and wife? Their life will be ruined and kids future will be at stake.

Secondly, your mother concern is very important and correct. The person who already has family commitments will not be able to invest the same amount of financial and emotional resources in your relationship.

I understand that you have invested four years in your relationship and you both care for each other. But in this case, it is advisable for both the families to sit and discuss every aspect and problems of this situation. The situation will get clear and you ll be able to take a better decision. You can also try couple counsellings.

In case the things dont work out then accept the reality and move on gracefully and welcome the opportunities that are waiting for you with open arms.
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Ans: Hello mam,
I understand your problem mam. I would like to know how's your husband's behaviour with you? If he is ok and doing good with you, its my personal advice that you should think good about your marriage. As you have a son also his future depends on your today's actions. One more thing, when you ll not leave your past behind, you ll not be able to invest in your present. So I would advise you to stop talking to your ex and concentrate on your husband and kid.
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Ans: Hello sir,
Try to understand why your wife is drawn to this Baba or Guru, and acknowledge her feelings. Avoid arguing or debating with her, as this can make things worse. Instead, encourage her to think critically about their teachings and focus on maintaining a balanced lifestyle. If things don't improve, consider seeking help from a counselor or therapist. Prioritize your own well-being and safety above all.
I hope it solves your problem. Take care!
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Ans: Hello mam,
I need to understand your problem in detail. Plz tell me what kind of toxic environment is there at your home and what difficulties are you facing to complete your degree?
Waiting for your reply
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Ans: Hello sir,
This incident was not your wife's mistake. As doctors, our intentions are pretty clear while we are dealing with the patients. But of course there are some rules and regulations of medical practice. This is a rule that whenever patient is female and doctor is male then a female staff or attendant should be there for examination.
But if in case it was done without female staff, in that case also your wife is not at fault. Secondly breast examination is done only after touching and properly examining the breasts. It's a normal procedure. So plz don't bring this in your mind and continue to live with your partner happily. I hope your dilemma is gone now. Take care !
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Ans: Hello mam
The first thing you should do is sit with your parents and tell them patiently about you relationships and the problems you are having. Instead of your ex telling them you should rather tell them. And then after sometime when the things will get settle, then reveal them your present relationship. I hope this works. All the best!
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Ans: Hello sir.
Does your kids live with you or with your wife? Plz reply to discuss further
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Ans: Hello sir
First of all i would like to appreciate you for taking such a step and marrying a person who is having psoriasis. This disease is not infectious but still in Indian society people don't have that awareness. Now let's come to your problem. The dilemma in which you are is actually mid life crisis. I know that your wife and you don't have that compatibility and you are getting attracted to your colleague. But you should once sit with your wife and should discuss your issues. You can also go for couple counselling. This will solve your problem and will save your marriage. Your kids future depend on your compatibility with your wife. They should have both their parents beside them. Think about it.
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Ans: Hello mam
I am sorry to hear about the loss your business made in covid. That time was a real challange for all of us.
Lets focus on your problem now. Mam, as now you are living with your in laws, I am sure your husband must be feeling bery secure and happy. But you may have some challanges. Diffrence of opinion always occur in joint families specially when parenting of kids are involved coz they want to raise your kids according to them which can sometime create conflicts Between the family members. Tou can discuss the matter with your husband without blaming anyone and then with his help you can talk to your in laws to support a little bit so that you can also search further for a job. This will increase your satisfaction level and you ll be happy in your family.
Think about it and try this out. I am sure it will work. Plz do tell me your feedback. Take care !
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Ans: Hello mam
Apne ye bahut acha socha ki aap is relation se nikalna chahti hain. Jis tarah aap bata rahe ho ye insaan mujhe toxic lag raha hai jo apne fayde ke liye apko fasa ke rakhna chahta hai. Is nikalna hi behtar hai. Us insaan ko aap firmly clear kar dijiye ke aap uske sath koi relation nahi rakhna chahti. And usse contact tod dijiye. Apne husband ke sath kahin holiday pe ja skte hai taaki apka dimag bhi us taraf na jaye. Kyuki waise bhi is relation ka koi future nahi hai.
Apne pe bharosa rakhiye and is toxic relationship ko chod dijiye.
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Ans: Hello mam
I understand that you are confused. Plz don't be confused. There are many male friends whom you are close to but can't think of a life long commitment.
Secondly, if your parents don't want you to have a intercaste marriage but you are fully sure that you want to marry this guy, then sit patiently with your parents and share your feelings with them. But their validation is very important for any relationship. Acknowledge your feelings, understand them and then go ahead.
I hope this will help you.
All the best !
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Ans: Hello mam
I understand that you are going through this problem. If you like someone, and you want to marry him, then you can talk to your parents. If both the sides agree then atleast you do a small ceremony and then wait for few years to settle down. But as in this process both the families are involved then should be agree to this. Talk to them and give yourself and your families some time to decide.
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Ans: Hello mam.
I can see that you felt disappointed by his comment by as you said that he said it in a casual way...Just sot patiently and think about it. May be you should give some more time to your relationship. With time, you will be able to understand him more. And then it will be easy for you to decide for your relationship. Till then forget the thing and give him a fair chance to prove himself. I hope this works for you. You can get back to me anytime you feel like discussing anything.
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Ans: Hello mam
I must say that you are very brave that you are raising your kid single handedly. At this time you must be young and may be you don't feel the need of partner. But ultimately you have to understand that your kid needs a father's love also. And in the long run you will also miss a partner from whom you expect emotional support and companionship. So I think its not bad to think about re marriage. You can take some time to understand that person and can explain him about your situation. I understand you may have gone through some traumatic experience from previous marriage but for the secure future of you and your kid, you have to move on and lead a good and happy life.
Take care and do message me about your future plans.
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Ans: Hello mam,
I am sorry that you have to go through all this stuff. I do understand that in India, it is difficult to go along with auch kind of stuff. If the person whom you want to marry is not ready to take stand for you and go against the kundali system, then there is no fun in crying for him or waiting for him. Love relationships are always two sided. Now if he feela that break up is a normal thing for him, then I would suggest you that you should also move on. There is no compulsion that you think of marriage right now but rather you should go ahead with your studies and carrer. At the right time, you will find your right partner.
I hope this helps. Plz write to me regarding your education and what do you want to pursue further?
Waiting for your reply.
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Ans: Dear mam, I can understand that you are going through some issues in your life but I am unable to understand your problem as there are some grammatical mistakes in the paragraph that you have written. I request you to plz rewrite your query and send it again.
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Ans: Hello sir,
This is actually mid life crisis that you are going through, because of which you think you are having feelings for your colleague. Now that you have been transferred to a new place wirh new surroundings, take this as an opportunity to build new healthy relationships around you. You should start giving more quality time to your wife. She has given you a second chance. You should take it well and forget about your past as your colleague has also moved on now. I hope this will help you with your problem.
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