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Long-distance woes: Should I relocate to India for my boyfriend?

Dr Upneet Kaur |77 Answers |Ask -Follow

Marriage counsellor - Answered on Apr 04, 2025

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After completing her bachelor’s degree in Ayurvedic medicine and surgery from the SKSS Ayurvedic College and Hospital, Sarabha, Punjab, in 2008, she worked as a medical officer at various multi-specialty hospitals in Punjab, handling both physical and mental patient care and clinical decision-making. She spent the next decade leading multidisciplinary teams at various levels.
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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 04, 2025Hindi

Relationship

I work for Deloitte. My BF is in India and I am on a project based out of Switzerland. Due to the difference in time zones, we are unable to spend time together. Our intimacy has also gone down. I don't know if I would be back in India any time soon. What should I do? He said he will try to visit me once a year till my project is completed. He wants me to seriously consider returning to India.

Ans: Hello mam,
I want to congratulate you first that you are doing so well in your professional life. Not everyone has such opportunities. Now lets discuss about your personal life. I agree that due to different time zones it gets difficult to maintain proper communication. Take out time once and discuss this with your partner. Otherwise long distance relationships do work. It is just correct understanding. And tell him your tentative plan of coming back to India. I hope this works.
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