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Marriage counsellor - Answered on Apr 04, 2025

Dr Upneet Kaur is a medical professional and therapist based out of Amritsar.
After completing her bachelor’s degree in Ayurvedic medicine and surgery from the SKSS Ayurvedic College and Hospital, Sarabha, Punjab, in 2008, she worked as a medical officer at various multi-specialty hospitals in Punjab, handling both physical and mental patient care and clinical decision-making. She spent the next decade leading multidisciplinary teams at various levels.
Since 2022, she has been practising as a clinical psychologist and marriage counsellor.
Dr Upneet also holds an MBA in hospital management from Alagappa University, Tamil Nadu, and an MA in psychology from the Indira Gandhi National Open University.... more
Asked by Anonymous - Apr 04, 2025Hindi
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I work for Deloitte. My BF is in India and I am on a project based out of Switzerland. Due to the difference in time zones, we are unable to spend time together. Our intimacy has also gone down. I don't know if I would be back in India any time soon. What should I do? He said he will try to visit me once a year till my project is completed. He wants me to seriously consider returning to India.

Ans: Hello mam,
I want to congratulate you first that you are doing so well in your professional life. Not everyone has such opportunities. Now lets discuss about your personal life. I agree that due to different time zones it gets difficult to maintain proper communication. Take out time once and discuss this with your partner. Otherwise long distance relationships do work. It is just correct understanding. And tell him your tentative plan of coming back to India. I hope this works.
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Dr Upneet kaur
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Hi, I`m planning to buy a SUV costing around 22 Lakhs. Should I go for Car Loan or with my own savings. Which is more beneficial.
Ans: This is a very sensible question. The fact that you are comparing options before buying shows financial maturity. A car is a lifestyle decision, so the goal is to enjoy it without hurting long-term financial comfort.

Below is a clear, practical comparison to help you decide.

Option 1: Buying the SUV using your own savings

Advantages
– No interest outflow at all
– Full ownership from day one
– Peace of mind, no monthly EMI pressure
– Better cash flow freedom in future months

Concerns
– Large one-time outgo can disturb emergency fund or long-term investments
– If savings are pulled out from growth assets, you lose future compounding
– Liquidity risk if an unexpected expense comes soon after purchase

When this makes sense
– You still have a strong emergency fund even after paying
– You are using idle money lying in savings / low-return deposits
– Your long-term investments remain untouched

Option 2: Buying the SUV using a car loan

Advantages
– Preserves your savings and investment momentum
– Better liquidity and safety buffer
– EMI is predictable and manageable
– Useful if your money is already productively invested

Concerns
– Interest cost increases total car cost
– EMI reduces monthly flexibility
– Risk of taking a longer loan just to reduce EMI

When this makes sense
– Your savings are invested for long-term goals
– EMI comfortably fits within your monthly surplus
– Loan tenure is kept short (not stretched unnecessarily)

The key point most people miss

A car always depreciates.
So the real question is not loan vs cash, but:

– Will paying fully in cash disturb your financial safety or investments?
– Or will taking a loan create stress in monthly cash flow?

A balanced and practical approach (often the best)

– Pay a large down payment from savings
– Take a small, short-tenure loan for the balance
– Avoid touching long-term investments
– Close the loan early if cash flow stays strong

This gives ownership comfort and financial flexibility.

What you should clearly avoid

– Withdrawing long-term equity investments for a car
– Taking a long loan just to show low EMI
– Using emergency funds for a depreciating asset
– Buying purely because loan is “available easily”

Simple decision guide

– Strong surplus + idle savings → Prefer own funds
– Savings invested + stable income → Prefer partial loan
– Uncertain income / thin emergency fund → Avoid full cash payment

Final thought

The best choice is the one that lets you enjoy the SUV without regret 2–3 years later.
Financial comfort matters more than interest saved or paid.

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To save LTCG, a strategic and timely planning is required.
Currently, tax rate for LTCG is 12.5% (gains exceeding 1.25L for equity/MFs) and indexation has been removed for most assets but it is retained for property bought before July 23, 2024.

LTCG can be saved in the following ways:
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- If you sell shares/MFs and invest the net sale amount (not just the profit) into a new residential house within 1 year before or 2 years after the sale, you can claim exemption u/s 54F.
- On selling a residential property, Investing the net proceeds into buying or constructing another residential property exempts LTCG u/s 54.
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I have queries related to capital gain tax.To give a bit background, I purchased a second hand property(flat) in 2022 with below detais : Ownership(Joint) : me (doing private job) and mother (Senior citizen/House wife) having around 1L yearly income based on FD's. Purchase price : 69 L Brokerage charges : 1 L Registration/stamp charges : 3.5L Insurance(one time) : Rs 28,000 Repair expenses : 4L Property Mutation Charge : Rs 55,500 Loan amount : 50 L Mother helped with her funding 11L for purchasing as well. Till now , I am paying EMI's that would make around 17L. Now am planning to sale the property at a price ,so that my expenses till date are covered and with that I will close the Loan due(Rs 48L). Can you please suggest in detail how the sale can be made so that the capital gain is saved as much balancing between me and my mother(senior citizen/Houswife).Father expired.
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As a salaried employee, EPFO is my largest long-term investment, but its returns are stable and not very exciting. When I compare EPFO returns with the gold rate today, gold looks more attractive in certain years. For someone in their late 20s or early 30s, should EPFO remain the primary retirement tool, or should gold investments also play a bigger role?
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You have a very genuine query. Mostly people only know about EPF as their retirement and rely solely on their PF amount to cater to their retirement expenses. I will guide you with other best options:
1. PF - you already have an EPF account. More than sufficient to cater to risk-free returns of 8%. Don't increase your contribution here.
2. Gold - as you already said. But gold should not be more than 10% of your total investments. Also, if you are buying gold as an investment, go for gold ETFs or Gold mutual funds. Avoid jewellery and bullions here.
3. Mutual Funds - If you are looking for risk free returns, can opt for balanced mutual funds which give around 10% yearly return and are very safe. You can choose to start investing here for your retirement.
If your risk appetite is slightly more, you can also choose to squeeze in some equity funds.

It is very important for you to connect with a professional to understand things in detail and decide.
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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 07, 2026Hindi
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i am 58 y ears old.my son has mental illness,due to which i have to keep money for his future also.i have income upto 7 lakh from agriculture and hostel rental business.i have 10 lakh in ppf ,15 lakh in lic {maturity in 2027},60 lakhs in shares and mutual funds. i will be receiving 2 crores for road compensation from goverment in this year.please inform where i should invest the amount as i have no loans.
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With the 2 crores received, you will have a total of 2.7 crores worth investible corpus. To ensure son's future, focus should me more on safe and income generating instruments. Below roadmap will suit you:
1. Invest 50 lakhs in income generating bonds. This will ensure timely interest payout and provides a return of approx. 7%.
2. Invest 50 lakhs in debt mutual funds which have low risk and provide a decent ROI of 8%.
3. Park 50 lakhs in hybrid funds.
4. Invest remaining in equity funds for their growth. I would recommend you to avoid direct stocks investment and move that to equity mutual funds as they are managed by professionals.

- Also avoid investing in LIC policy as its net return is approx. 4%

Consider setting up a private trust for your son's secured future after you are gone.

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