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Marriage counsellor - Answered on Mar 25, 2025

Dr Upneet Kaur is a medical professional and therapist based out of Amritsar.
After completing her bachelor’s degree in Ayurvedic medicine and surgery from the SKSS Ayurvedic College and Hospital, Sarabha, Punjab, in 2008, she worked as a medical officer at various multi-specialty hospitals in Punjab, handling both physical and mental patient care and clinical decision-making. She spent the next decade leading multidisciplinary teams at various levels.
Since 2022, she has been practising as a clinical psychologist and marriage counsellor.
Dr Upneet also holds an MBA in hospital management from Alagappa University, Tamil Nadu, and an MA in psychology from the Indira Gandhi National Open University.... more
anonymous Question by anonymous on Mar 19, 2025

HI! i need an advice on how convince my parents, i am in love with a guy who is much genuine to all my feelings and loves me to the core, well he earns a quite less than me, that is the major reason for my parents disapproval also he belongs to a different caste, i had tried convincing my parents certain times telling them about how we could handle our lives happily but it ended up in them blackmailing emotionally, and verbally and physically abusing. i found this page and thought this would be apt for giving me answers

Ans: Hello mam, it is not bad to fall in love with a person who has a different caste from yours or earns a little less than yours.
Financial things can be managed at a point but he should be willing to change his own situation by working on it.
You can sit with your parents and talk to them and convince them to atleast have a meeting with the boy and share their concerns with him. I am sure you will be able to convince them and make the things in order. Take care !
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