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Hlo mam my name is harpreet kaur and I love the person whos name is ArjunSehgal we are intercaste i m in big tension will our parents aggree for marriage

Hello Anu Mam, I have a friend who has been married for 10 years and with 2 kids one 8 yr old daughter and a two year old son. His wife whom he loved and trusted so much had cheated on him with one of her friends for almost 3 years which he came to know about last year. Though he could not digest that and thought of divorcing her but thinking about his children's future he changed his mind and told her to end all communication with him in order to save this marriage .She too had agreed . He hadn't told about this to anyone except me including her parents whom he respected a lot and hence didn't want to hurt them ... But after 3 months he came to know that she was still in contact with her friend using another phone without his knowledge and her affair also had not stopped . This time he couldn't tolerate and told this to her parents and told them that he would be filing for divorce. Her parents literally begged with him not to do so and requested him to give one last chance as they would mend her this time . He told them that even after giving her a chance to mend herself she has cheated again and broken his trust and that he couldn't live with her without trust . So he had decided to move on but his wife and her mother threatened him that they will have no other choice but to commit suicide if he doesnt forgive his wife. He was also worried about his children's future without their mother .. Based on some elders and friends (including mine )advice he gave her one last chance but on condition that there should not be any communication with her affair partner in future and if he comes to know about them being in any kind of contact he would be filing for divorce . His wife and her parents agreed to this and he took her back though not wholeheartedly but due to circumstances. Though they lived under one roof they did not live a harmonious life and lived like strangers and there used to be quarrels very frequently between them . This sometimes had gone physical and on many occasions his wife had threatened him with suicide... And in March this year he came to know that she was in contact with her affair partner secretly using another phone. When confronted she told they were just talking and nothing else...Though there may not be any physical contact this time my friend is very upset and adamant that he wouldn't live with her and want a mutual divorce ...His wife is not agreeing for it and threatening that she would write his name and end her life if he goes for a contested divorce. My friend is too worried about the legal complications if such a thing happens . He is also concerned about his kids especially his daughters future if he goes for a contested divorce based on adultery , the impact it would have on his daughter s future ..He doesn't want to spoil his daughters future ..At the same time he says he cannot imagine living with his wife again after being cheated on twice... Kindly advice what should I advise him ...

When I was in MBA first year . I had a boyfriend from ma graduation and now we have completed 9 year happy and we decided that we will say it to your Parents but when I was in MBA 1 YEAR we went to water park and we had some normal photo and video and after 3 year some today spread ot all our my village. Because of that my father took me home and told me to leave job and he want me to marry the one I don't like and he thinks more about the other people. He says me that I have to do what he want Because I love other more than me. And now he is forcing me to stay home and my uncle is harrasing me badly but still my father support him. I tried to took help to police but my father has lots of money do he is not afraid of than. Now what to do can someone help me

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I've been married for 19 years. We live in a joint family with my husband and in-laws. Since last year, my father has recently become bedridden and needs constant care. Since he lives in another city, I have been travelling constantly to take turns to attend him. I want to bring him to our home, but my mother-in-law strongly objects saying they will lose their privacy. My husband tries to mediate but often ends up siding with his mother, saying she's getting old too. I am not able to decide being a daughter and a daughter-in-law. Is it unfair of me to expect support for my father, or am I compromising too much in this marriage?

After my retirement, my wife and I moved in with our elder son and daughter-in-law, who offered to take care of us. But ever since my younger son got married, he barely calls or visits. Recently, he told my sister that my presence in his brother's house is the reason he avoids coming over. He feels suffocated and says we didn't give him equal attention growing up. I'm confused and hurt. My wife says we should give him space, but I feel emotionally abandoned by him. Have I failed as a father, or is this a common phase in families with grown children?

For the past few months, I spend a lot of time in the social media scrolling. I took 3 days leave from the office to fix this. Yet, those 3 days went by scrolling the social media. Help me please.

I am very behind of everybody in life, whether in relationships, study, career. How can i gear up and compete with people of my age.

Hi, I'm 44, never married. I have been on several dating apps and matrimonial sites. Every time I start talking to someone or go on a few dates, my family finds out and starts interfering. My mom would ask questions, judge what I am wearing. Worse, she will investigate the guy on his social media. She has sent friendship requests to so many strangers just to get access into their account. I am tired of being treated like a teenager. I want to explore relationships at my own pace without being shamed or forced to explain every choice. How do I draw the line?

I'm 37, successful in my career, live in my own flat. I am financially secure. But everyone around me keeps saying, 'you've become too independent, that's why you're still single.' Most men I meet either feel intimidated or want me to adjust my lifestyle to fit into theirs. What if I don't want to change myself to make someone else comfortable? Do strong, emotionally mature men exist? Or do I need to compromise to avoid being alone forever?

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Gurus, My father passed away when I was 27 years old, I was not employed before that, now I am employed in a field I don't know much about and the work is giving me anxiety and depression, also I need to stay away from my wife and child. Do many people go through these feelings ? I feel as I was shielded from people and work environment i am finding the work grind too harsh and feel like giving up, i have accepted my situation but can't find guts to work against these feelings What should I do ?

It's been three months I got married. My wife is a financial analyst in a company (working from home) . I am myself having WHF job. She was earlier doing WFO in gurgaon and now i she is facing some difficulty due to env change. We live with my parents in our hometown and there is always some small things ongoing amongst the family members. What should I do? How to balance between my mother and my wife

I am a 45-year-old divorced entrepreneur based in Pune. Over the past few years, I have been in three short-lived relationships -- all with people who couldn't commit or were emotionally distant. I have done some introspection and even tried therapy, but I still find myself falling for the same type of women. I want to understand what's drawing me to them and how to break this cycle.

I am a 41 yr old man. Married for the last 17 yrs, my wife is now 37 yrs old. w are Bengalis but now due t my work stay in Bengaluru. we had an arranged marriage but soon after the marriage I found her to be very irresponsible, she had the mentality that her husband has to be responsible for all her whims & fancies without any expectation from her. Though her family was more like ours middle class & financially poorer then us Initially I thought that she will mature with time. Within 1 yr we had our 1st kid who is 16 yrs old & in 11th now. Thinking she will now be responsible as mother but found very little change & I had to force/push her to do maternal duties while I managed the other things despite myself working as an engineer in an mnc & she being a housewife. next year we had our 2nd kid. This pressure was reflected in my office & my performance suffered, anyway I managed to stay afloat. Giving her any family task always resulted in her doing a coverup job & when things went wrong I had to set it right as the family or there will be monetary loss. Obviously I used to tell her about all this, then she will be OK for 1-2 weeks then again back to same. Even taking care of the children there studies soon became my responsibility. One thing was good was our sexual life which what I understand she is good & this gave me somewhat something to bear her Though other factor like middle class mentality that parents should not move out for the kids sake kept me somewhat tied to her & tried to make myself happy.Last year around June she told me that she will like to leave me as she wants to marry one of her telegu friend's brother who works in Dubai now, given my above reason I was not very upset on hearing this but was worried about our kids the eldest then gave his 10th exam & younger was promoted to class 10. After some talks & persuasion she agreed that she will wait for 3 yrs ie the younger kid to complete her schooling & going to college, & also keep the whole things secret with only 4-5 people knowing it, this she has responsibly done. Now its 1 year & I am in a very bad situation & need your support first she is now completely without any responsibility of the kids or family, she just cooks the meals sees that the maids work & even if I tell her to look into what the kids are studying or take the small responsibility like waking them up or minor things like go to the shop etc , she simply declines & always she is busy browsing or chatting, in Feb her to be husband came to Bangalore & she spend 2 nights with him in a resort. I did not want the kids to know about all this as it will mentally disturb them so I had to make stories to them about there mom going to a friend's marriage etc. He is again coming in mid July & they are planning to go out again.. My delima is I can bear the whole thing with a glimmer of hope that our separation maybe avoided which makes a somewhat social negativeness for me my parents & my kids but am I doing the right thing or being desperate is what I should be? The second point is something which I am feeling very uneasy to write, though we have decided to separate & she is having sex with this guy but we are still have sex, I dont want to really worry that she having sex with me is cheating with her to be husband but as I told you before it is really relaxing & gives me the strength to bear all this... Please suggest what I should do, immediately leave her which will end the story though I am not really ready if I & the kids will be able to take the social slur or wait for another 2 years with the hope that maybe things will change

I was only 23 when my mother left this world. Me & my father were alone after that. My father was asking me for marriage, so that a girl can come in our home & manage household chores. I wanted to focus on my career for at least 6 more years. That's why I denied. We somehow managed for 1 year after my mother left us, but after that my father started pressuring me to marriage. I was still not ready when I became 24. So, my father found a girl for himself. Co-incidence was that the girl was just 1 year elder than me. My father's master plan was that he will make us pretend that it's my wife in front of the world. I liked the idea & the girl was also ready. Don't know how that girl was convinced to marry my father. She is from decent family. Even her parents don't know that my father is her real husband. So, my father made me married to her in front of all. We managed everything excellently from all the rituals to our relatives. We acted well. In front of the world & in papers, she was my wife, but biologically she became my step mother. They got 2 children within 6-8 years, but I got stuck without marriage because according to everyone, I am married. Now, I am 39 now & my father also left this world last year. I am unmarried & she (step mother) is a widow. I & her both are feeling alone in this world without a partner. My step mother suggested if she can become my real wife. We both like each other's company but I don't know if there will be any consequences in the future. Nobody will say anything because nobody knows the truth except both of us. Divorce is not a good option because there are children. What do you suggest ??

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I am 23 years old. I am in relationship from 8 years. I am Hindu brahmin and He is Sikh . so its inter-religion . my mother and brother accept my relationship. but my father is so conservative. wo kidhar aur rishta dekh rhe hai mera .and he is like usko bhi mar duga aur tumko bhi. but itte door aake i can't loose him. we seriously love each other. but bhagna bhi nahi chahte dono. what should I do ? how to convince my father?

I am happy with my current life i got a job everything is going well but the thing is my mom don't understand that i need time for my self after slogging myself at work i relax myself by watching web series reading a book or going out for walk she follows bageshwar dham baba and expects me to do the same which i don't like i am not that religious i do have Faith in god but she is just to much what can i do plz help?

My husband launched a YouTube channel where he shares dramatic re-enactments of our marital arguments. He uses actual words and mannerisms that I use under the guise of 'relationship counselling'. Some of our common friends now make a joke about it. I feel he should have consulted me or at least asked for permission before using our marriage as an example. His intent may be right but I don't think he should have turned our marriage into an experiment. One of our neighbours recognised me from a video he shot without my consent.

My wife secretly bought a plot of land in rural Himachal using her inheritance money. Last month, she started building a tiny house, calling it her 'future sanctuary' without ever once discussing it with me? I only found out because the builder called our home landline with a payment issue. Is it okay? I am upset with her. I feel betrayed.

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Hi Anu, I've started feeling like my boyfriend takes me for granted. For instance, he'll cancel our dates at the last minute if his friends make other plans, and he rarely asks me how I'm doing emotionally. Like, last weekend, I told him I was feeling really overwhelmed with work, but he just changed the subject and started talking about his favourite football player and how his team scored a goal in the last minute. I love him, but I'm also beginning to feel invisible. How do I talk to him about this?

Hello I am 42 year old unmarried looking alliance but nothing workout still going on searching I need genuine wife where she can support in life matrimony site certain case are fake not genuine speaking for sometime later declined or not interested. Please let me know how to tackle the situation

My husband is beating me and he don't care about me and my children and harassed me I want divorce but he was not accepting we made love marriage and we not have marriage certificate and pics of marriage

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I had a 2 years relationship with a girl. Last year she left me for another guy and gave him her virginity and got pregnant. After getting abortion that guy left her. Now she came back to me and talked to me for about 2 months just as friends but i loved her so much that i forgave her and accepted her and we got in relationship. But one night she told me about all her past with her 2nd boyfriend. Now i don't want to keep relationship as her past makes me shiver and i promised her for marriage but i can't get over the fact that she cheated me and lost virginity to another guy then came back and wants me to marry her. So if i am not sure of marriage should i involve in physical activities with her ( we never envolved in physical activities before ) or should i avoid doing that until i am sure of marrying her.

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