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Anu Krishna

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Anu Krishna is a mind coach and relationship expert.
The co-founder of Unfear Changemakers LLP, she has received her neuro linguistic programming training from National Federation of NeuroLinguistic Programming, USA, and her energy work specialisation from the Institute for Inner Studies, Manila.
She is an executive member of the Indian Association of Adolescent Health.... more

Answered on Apr 09, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Apr 02, 2025Hindi
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My Daughter-in-Law Refuses to Have Children: Should We Seek Separation or Legal Help?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
This may sound a bit rude to you; my apologies if it does but someone needs to say it aloud...

Why exactly are you getting into the middle of all of this? They are two grown people who need to sort this out for themselves. If your daughter-in-law is not prepared to be a mother, there's obviously a reason for this and this is between the couple. Let them talk about it If your son is coming to you with his issues with his wife, should you not actually ask him to take it up on his own?
And how did the talk of separation come about? Is this question from you son or are you suggesting it by yourself?
Let them sort out their issues without any intervention from you or anyone in the family and this so-called dream of family lineage and depriving you of becoming grandparents is sounding like an agenda.
Their marriage, their way of living! And that's how it must be! Please push your son to be a husband first and then a dutiful son otherwise he will lose his marriage.
Once all of you back off from all your expectations, it's possible that the relationship between the two of them starts to get better
and she may feel like even thinking of an idea of starting a family. And as for unpleasantness created in your larger family; they have no say in your son's marriage.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Answered on Apr 09, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Apr 01, 2025Hindi
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Worried About Friend's Uncharacteristic Behavior After Father's Death
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Thanks you for your kind words of acknowledgement!

It's nice to know that you care a lot. Just be with him as any friend would...let him have the time to grieve and instead of putting a time to how quickly he must normalize, just let him be...That would really help him more than you wanting to see him better due to your anxiety. This is more about him than you. Step in to intervene only if there are drastic and detrimental changes in his behavior.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Answered on Apr 01, 2025

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Arranged Marriage Pressure: Girlfriend's Family Ignoring My Job Prospects and Caste
Ans: Dear solar,
In sab ke beech, aapke girlfriend ka kya kehna hai? Woh aapne bataaya nahin. Kya woh apne parents ko tall sakegi aur kitni der kar paayegi? Kya woh aapke jon lagne tak intezzar karna chahti hai? Aisa lag raha hai ki is rishte ka wazan aap leke ghoom rake ho...thoda apne girlfriend ke saath baithkar plan kijiye taaki woh bhi aapke saath is samasya ka hal dhoond sake.
Ek baat toh hai ki uske parents ko manaana mushkil hoga aur jab tak aapki job nahin lagti woh is rishte ke liye raazi nahin honge. Toh plan yeh karna ki jab tak aapki naukri lage, tab tak aap dono is baat ko aur is samasaya ko aur uske parents ko kaise sambhalenge. Joh bhi ho saath mein milke plan karna.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Asked on - Apr 09, 2025 | Answered on Apr 11, 2025
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I am 26 and she is 25…but tbh maam mujhe lgta hai uske parents pr jada influence unke rishtedaro ka hai..vo unko force krte hai ki jldi shadi krdeni chaiye..uski nani bolte hai mere jeetey ji shadi krwa do m dkhlungi …thoda emotional blackmail type krte hai..or sirf phla hi rishta dekha tha unhone or 1 baar milne pr hi haan b krdiya sayad ladke valo ki family ko…pr mujhe esa b lgta hai ki koi bhi parents itne to strict nhi hote hongi ki bacho ki bilkul hi na sune …sayad ladki ko itni jldi himat nhi harni chaiye usko or efforts krne chaiye thats what i think…mujhe smjh nhi ara m kisko blame kru khud b krta hu ki kash jldi job leleta to ye din na dkhna pdhta pr ek mn me khyal ata hai ki tb b to caste differences hote tb bhi to himat dikhani pdhti khud ke liye fight krna pdhta tb kya vo kr pati? Vo pandit hai unme caste society kya sochegi ye chij sbse phle dekhi jati h…usne to mujhe boldiya ki ki usse koi umeed nhi dikhri hai hme move on krna chaiye pr m koi b hope ni chrd para hu mujhe umeed hai pr usko nhi hai or m ..na to pdhai me concentrate kr para hu bilkul bhi stressed hu job ko lekr bhi apne relationship ko lekr bhi future ko soch soch kr bhi ..m sari taraf se fs gya hu …
Ans: Dear solar,
App padhaai pe dhayaan dena pehle and ladki ko bolna ki tab tak woh apne parents ko sambhal le...naukri ki talaask bhi jaari rakhiye taaki exam hote hi aap ladki ke pariwaar se milke shaayd unhe samjhaa sake...
par zaroori yeh hai ki yeh pareeksha sirf aapke liye hi nahin balki ladki ka bhi hai ki kitna aur kis hadd tak woh apne parents ko taal sakti hai...aapka dhyaan ab sirf pareeksha pe hona chahiye.
Uske baad faisla lena ka bhi haq ban jaayega aap logon ka...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Answered on Mar 24, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Mar 13, 2025
I had a 2 years relationship with a girl. Last year she left me for another guy and gave him her virginity and got pregnant. After getting abortion that guy left her. Now she came back to me and talked to me for about 2 months just as friends but i loved her so much that i forgave her and accepted her and we got in relationship. But one night she told me about all her past with her 2nd boyfriend. Now i don't want to keep relationship as her past makes me shiver and i promised her for marriage but i can't get over the fact that she cheated me and lost virginity to another guy then came back and wants me to marry her. So if i am not sure of marriage should i involve in physical activities with her ( we never envolved in physical activities before ) or should i avoid doing that until i am sure of marrying her.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You are not even sure whether you want to accept her past with the other guy. If you have not made peace with this, why talk of marriage and indulging in physical stuff with her? It's not her this time; it's YOU!
So, take a break from this association, clear your mind space on what you want from life and a life partner. If she is the person you know that fits the description, then perhaps the past will not matter. Mere love is not enough, what you value in a relationship is in question now...so, take time to think i through and then make a decision on it.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
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Answered on Mar 18, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Mar 17, 2025Hindi
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28M Fearful of Marriage After Witnessing Failed Relationships, Seeking Advice
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
How have you managed to confuse yourself so much? You know how?
By reading into situations that have happened outside of you way too much. Yes, I will say this to you; not all women are the way you perceive.
If you got attacked by a cat, you will say...All cats are aggressive and dangerous. Is this true? Are all cats that way or just the one that you got attacked by?
In your case, you have only seen failed marriages and you have concluded as some universal truth that things will go bad and then you have gone to the extent of protecting your mother. Do you not see what rigid thinking can do? Confuse you, derail you, disillusion you...
If you wish to set things right, change the way that you are thinking of marriage, potential partners for marriage...focus on what can go right rather than on what can go wrong, will help you a lot in this.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/
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Answered on Mar 16, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Mar 07, 2025Hindi
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Confused Wife Facing Relationship Troubles: Should I Fight for My Marriage?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
As bad or hurtful as it may sound to you, you have simply thrown your life at the mercy of others. They have used you as a puppet only because you have given them permission to do so...past relationships and even now.
What you should do now is:
1. Ask an elder member (not your mother) of the family to intervene and talk to him and his side of the family to see if there is any scope for reconciliation. If there is, then your husband has got to stop playing these games of wanting you one day and then not wanting you the next. It's highly toxic to live with someone who trusts you for a moment and then asks you to prove your innocence the next moment. The two of you will need to get into Intensive Therapy as a couple to put things back together.
2. If there is no scope for reconciliation, please get a good lawyer who can secure the baby's future and yours.

Though you haven't asked me this, for your own good I suggest:
Please understand that no man is going to make you happy. So, depending on them despite the fact that can act toxic, is only draining you mentally and emotionally. Evaluate for yourself what you want from life besides being in relationships constantly. A break from it all will actually help you, you know. At least it will give you sense of how you can be by yourself and what you value the most in your life. Once you get past this stage, you will be stronger to draw boundaries and know how to enforce them. No one will be able to walk over you and you will be able to reclaim your identity.
You come first and your baby is going to need a strong mother raising them. So, step up NOW!

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
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Asked on - Mar 20, 2025 | Answered on Apr 01, 2025
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At first he was hesitant to introduce me to his family because he was afraid what if his family members get to know my past, that would be awkward and disrespectful to me and him. But now after this argument and me coming back to my mom's home for studies, he revealed my past to his cousin brother and his wife. I feel embarrassed now. He has mentioned in the letter of intent to divorce that I was not being honest and transparent but there is no such thing in my life that he doesn't know about. My family, relationships, finance, childhood abuses, every single thing in my life. He has also mentioned that if I go back to him now, he will reconsider giving another chance to this relationship which is not possible because I have to finish my internship here to get my UG degree. He wants me to drop this degree and says he will take care of me and child but this degree is something I dreamed of my whole life which is like an eye to me. I did not reply to letter of intent to divorce then when he sent it to me via text it's been more than a week now, we haven't talked to each other till now. What should I do now!
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
How you want your life to be is in your hands. You seem to be focusing more on what he did in the hope that things will change. Now, whether he will change or not, is left for you to decide. But what you can change is the fact of how you seem to be allowing your life to played at the mercy of others. The day you stop this, that day you will end up respecting yourself and people will take you seriously. If you wish to study, should you not be able to do it? Does that have to be at the mercy of someone else? Does this not seem like a RED FLAG to you?
And oh, he talks of giving you another chance if you go back to him now? Seriously? He decides what to do with you and when...Does this all not feel like a huge weight on you? Take charge of your life; learn to LOVE yourself please...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/
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Answered on Mar 05, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Mar 04, 2025
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I have a cousin brother (21 years). He is 5 years elder than me. His father & my father are own brothers. His father is also 5 years elder than my father. I am concerned about something. My cousin brother always orders my mother (40 years old) for such things who nobody wants to do. She obeys him always quietly without any hesitation. Like if he ask her to bath twice or thrice in a day, then she will bath thrice in a day. If he ask her to dance, then she will dance also. If he ask her to press his legs, then she will press his legs. If he ask her to not to eat anything, then she will not eat anything. She is totally behaving like his slave. I told about it to my father. He ignored my words & called it rubbish. I asked my mother why she is behaving like this, but she doesn't answer. I asked my cousin brother why is he doing like this & why is my mother obeying his words, he said it's none of my business. Can you please help & tell what's going on ??
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It is kind of strange to see your mother act like this around him. This is definitely not something usual or causal and there is something deeper than what you can see or understand.
Does you father and his brother also notice the same or are they pretending to not notice it? This could give you a good understanding of what is going on. If your father is ignoring it, then kindly ask him to take some time out and explain this to you. On your part, spend more time with your mother; take her out, shop together, show her some fun time...encourage her to pursue some hobby or educational learning classes outside of home. When she starts to feel good about herself and does things for herself, she might be able to stand up for herself and push this fellow away.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/
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Answered on Mar 05, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Mar 03, 2025
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Hi, my name is Dhruv, I have been married for 13 years. It was love marriage. We dont have any kids, though we tried but due to medical complications, we could not have a child. After a point of time, we both accepted the situation and moved on. Since last 3-4 years, slowly we have been drifting apart, though we are together but the love, feeling of togetherness has gone, we talk only about our regular lives, household chores, relatives etc but never about US. That feeling of being loved, even we don't hug each other anymore. Though we do care for each other but its not love anymore. Recently I met someone through work and somehow felt a connect with her, I could talk about things which I'm not able to talk with my wife. She make me feel that I'm still important and now I always think about her, want to be with her, talk to her. Though it makes me guilty also as somewhere in my heart I still love my wife and want to make it work. I am torn between what is right and what is wrong. If I think about myself, my happiness and t it hurts my wife, am I selfish or should I restrict my feelings, please advise way out
Ans: Dear Dhruv,
The easiest way to feel better when a relationship is failing is to get into another one. Searching for what you want in the original relationship cannot be found anywhere else; so giving into that temptation is only going to make things more confusing.
So, if you still love your wife and want to make it work, what have the two of you done so far to make things work?
Working on the marriage is a task that needs effort and a certain kind of stubborn nature that will help you cross over the the challenges that can emerge.
Your marriage now requires a complete RESET. So, push that button and go back to where it all began; no baggage, no expectations, no complaining...When you accept a situation, then do so fully...you can't have children; if you have accepted it then what's the reason to move apart. It only suggests that it was a compromise and not an acceptance.
Understand that acceptance is being graceful about the situation and being supportive of one another. Begin life afresh; date one another...laugh together, do things together. Bring back the little joys and bigger goals for marriage and life...
And most importantly, be in complete support of one another! That hidden love that you both share needs to be watered and nurtured even more...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/
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