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Hi , I am married 2.5 years ago to a man , who is very less in education compared to me , this marriage was done as a compromise or in worries about my future as my parents are no more .. He and his family is average in all case ..cleanliness, hygeiene , social relations, religious practices , education , self respect , financial well being ... all these things are either meaningless for them or they vary poor in those . Nor even they have moral values , as they have cheated me by hiding my husband's age to me . I told them that we strongly believe in astrology and will not go without it . Still they gave me wrong information about his age and he is very elder to me .As I am well educated , employed and self dependant. So they somehow trapped me for marriage. After 3-4 months of marriage my husband was diagnosed (a type of oral cancer) caused due to consuming gutkha and ciggarettes. He lied and denied to have any disease still i started his medication . In some time I lost my job also still continued his treatment , tried to help him in his business , it made a big impact on my sqving too :( But because of his careless business practice , it didnt work for him. Also I paid many times his car's EMI . And supported in all types of expenses be it house hold , his medication or business . He has parental properties in village but they are hardly using it for their own use and wanted to use my money till now . As I now denied to give more money , now they have started looking to sell or rent / lease their property for their use . I have spent lot of money on them , I hardly believe they will try to pay it out fully to me or give some part of property for my safe future now :( I am now 43 and have no children . At other hand my brother is also alone( even being his wife and 2 sons) Wife is quarrelsome and has a history of false case of dowry on my brother and due to this my brother and my family sufferered a lot , its been 20 years now . But this has tortured my brother me and my mother a lot in past .Sis-in-law never let my nephews to stay or sit for some time with us (me or my mother ). And now as my both nephews have grown up my sis-in-law told them lie as if she was victim and , we were the culprit . Children were innocent , they didnt knew the fact , hence taking mother's side now. I thought that as my sis-in-law doesn't like us so unwillingly I decided to marry with a compromise , thinking that after my marriage all will be fine in brother's home , But nothing improved. And now my brother , after my marriage is emotionally alone at home , I feel very sorry about this . I want to go back and take care of my brother , as now he is 53 and emotionally very weak , diabetic and suffering other disease too . Sis-in-law is least interested in his health , care .. so as her children. Going back to parental (it is my father's home, so i also have legal right on that property )home and leaving husband is not so easy, .. Elder Nephew and sis-in-law can become very violent as they are always . I dont want to endanger my brother's health and if I dont go then also .. brother is taking care of him alone ..that too very casually ..how can i make all things correct . Please suggest .

Hi Anu, Im 27yrs old. I have been married for 1.5 yrs. Me and my husband live abroad. I grew up abroad for a great deal of my life and all members of my family are post graduate degree holders from renowned universities. Recently my mother-in-law came to visit us, she is staying for 6 months. My husband prior to marriage said that his mother is educated when I asked him. Post marriage I found out she studied only till 10th and married my father-in-law who is deceased. Since her arrival, my mother-in-law’s behaviour has been very weird. 1. She once told me that in their caste Kshatriyas ( we had an inter-caste marriage) its very common for the men to have 2 wives and mistresses. This was said totally out if context. Couple of days later she mentioned that her husband had a mistress. 2. She asks me questions about why things are the way they are and why are they like that. I find it very difficult to answer to her questions at the same time I don’t want to sound condescending. 3. She complained to my mother that my husband and I are using up too much ghee and oil. She blames that I made her son fat. My husband likes to have everything deep fried when I don’t do as he asks he throws a fit like a child and refuses to eat. Now I realised why, she deep fries almost everything, bhindi, potato, gobi, arvi, and even brinjal. 4. She also mentions that some relative of their was going to give then 2kg gold dowry to marry her son. I asked her why didn’t she accept it then. They she covered up saying that our engagement was already done by then. Again recently, she was talking to her sister on the phone and was saying that a girl is really beautiful and she was considering her for my husband but he liked me. All while I was literally in front of her. 5. She tries to take over the kitchen, she wants to wash dishes by hand and there is food residue all over. She doesn't want me to use the dishwasher. When I pointedly out that there is residue all dried up on the mixer blade, she covered it up saying that its powder. 6. I asked her not to put oil or ghee on the roti pan when making rotis as its ruining the pan and to ghee after the roti is cooked. She still went ahead and melted butter and poured it on the pan and made rotis. She said that they are not puffing up without the oil. I tried it out myself and I discovered that she lied. Dishonesty is my biggest peeve. I have no respect for her now. I don’t understand why she behaves the way she does. She also expects me to listen to all her stories and express interest in her superstitions. She on the other hand shows total disregard to what I say. My parents want me to be nice to her as she is a widow and has only her son and daughter. She is not nice to her daughter. My sister in law does not want to live with her in laws and my mother-in-laws laughs when she calls her crying. I have witnessed her gas lighting her daughter on many occasions. Once my husband asked her is the sister can come stay at home with her back in India and my mother-in-law said that she does not want her daughter in the house because she is a burden. My mother in law also keeps telling me that I should press her son’s legs as it will give Lakshmi. Once he took food from my plate I told him to put it back and get his own, she said its a Maha paap to snatch from husband’s mouth. She uses this Mahapaap whenever I ask my husband to help around the house. I don’t know how to communicate this with my husband and how to deal with her. He believes he needs to provide everything his mom wants and give her the world because she went thru difficulties after their dad’s passing. However my mother in law believes her life got better after her husband’s passing. She says that her husband was abusive to her physically, emotionally and financially. What do I do?

My mother (42 years old) came in relationship with a neighbour guy suddenly before few months. This neighbour guy is just 5 years elder than me & 20 years younger than my mother, but whenever this neighbour guy touch my mother, she feels too uncomfortable. My father knows about it, but he is not saying anything to my mother to stop all these nonsense. Why don't my mother break-up with him if she feels uncomfortable ?? What was the need of being in relationship with a person who is 20 years younger than her ?? Why is my father allowing this ?? Is there any problem ?? My father loves my mother a lot & she knows about it, then what's wrong here ?? My mother asked me to not to interfere in this when I asked these questions to her.

Hi maam. I am a doctor and i am in relationship with a solider. We are very happy. But i told my family.. My family is not ready to accept him. As my both parents are lawyers and am doctor. My parents are very much concerned about there social status and want me leave this relationship anyhow for them and marry a guy of there choice. They have huge problem as he is normal solider not a officer ranked person. .... I tried to convice them. Alot.. But now both my parents started called me bad words and trap me like if i leave them and go they will suicide... Daily they calls me and tell that it will never happen. And if u leave ur parents for him they will commit suicide. Recently my dad is acting or actually he have i dont know... He does like a pyschotic person and told he feels like commiting suicides. He told because an doing lke this he feel pyachotic probome. Now he is on medication. And he is planning to do voluntart retirement as he is not able to work. He keep telling all this is because of my relationship and i want to marry my partner Both my mother and father is continuously telling no to my relationship and if i leave them they will suicide. They told me they don't care about how hard it will be for me to leave but somehow to leave amd save ur family I dont know. I am not able to leave my relationship Nor not able to makemy parents suffer I feel really frustrated

Hello, I am 38 years old. I have been living abroad since I was 21 years old. I have been focused on my career since then. I got married in 2021 in India and just after 4 months living in India, we again moved abroad. This country was new for me and my my wife, but my brother was already settled in this country with his family. As I was living away from my family for many years, me and my wife decided to live in a joint family with my brother’s family. However, I was quite busy adjusting to my new job, my wife couldn’t adjust well to my side of the family, my brother, his wife and my mother. After living together with everyone for a year, me and my wife decided to live separately from my side of the family. Now after 5 months my wife became pregnant and we both wanted to have a child. So even though my family was quite close and could have supported us during this time. I decided to sponsor my in laws on a visa so that my wife could feel supportive during this time. We had a girl child and I have avoided to communicate to my family during this one year so that my wife doesn’t get any stress or anything from my family. However as soon as we had a child, I have invited my mother and my brother family to visit my daughter. Now my in laws have started quarreling with me once in a while. And they convinced my wife to go to India with them. My wife has been living in India since last 6 months, they would never let me see my daughter over the phone call, and whenever I called them they would ask me for the money/gifts. Let me add to that when I went abroad, my wife was not working initially and I used to give her 30% of my salary and I used to bear all the expenses. When my in laws started living with us, I over heard them talking if I continued having relationship with my side of the family, she would buy her a home in India and take my daughter away from me. Now recently I came to India to get everything sorted, I do not think my wife would be willing to come with me without my in laws. How could I convince her to start over and repair our relationship for us and our beautiful daughter.

Hello Anu I ma married man with age of 54 & my wife is 52 years. We are married since 30 years and we are not having good sexual relationship. She is more keen but i have some issues with my health. From the beginning I have disorders and do even ejaculate very soon. Because of this our relations are not that good. Now we are on the verge of separation but due to childrens who are quire grown up and settled in their life they are strictly against this decision of ours. My wife wants divorce from me and wants to settle down with someone else and at present there is no such person in her life. I also want divorce but of the last thought. How can I regain my sexual life again please let me know.

Hi, My sister is married and lives jus couple of house away from our home both sister and husband work at an MNC they are blessed with baby boy. I to got married recently and we are planning for baby. My wife has an issue wherein my sister almost mon to fri drops her kid at our home from morning to evening stating they have office work and this is affecting my wifes mind i am not sure what i need to do. I want everyone to be happy i dnt want to spoil anything.

I have since my growing age where i felt i cannot make friends, over the years i find cannot conversate with others, i just hello, good morning to say cannot go beyond, i just to others for work related things do not have casual, friendly chat in the office or outside. Cannot go for expensive therapy, place bangalore. Govt set up usually offers medicines, counseling but not therapies

What does it menas to have voices in the head...why 1 voice tells to do challenging things or things we want to do..& other says leave it!! Be there where u are in that zone.. . And there are many other voices example.. for socially introvert person(especially when attracted by someone) one voice tells..go & talk, even if u failed no one gonna kill u...& other says leave it..and we hear that 2 voice most of the times... 1. Why is that. 2. How to deal with it.

I'm in a happy relationship with my boyfriend since 1.5 years. Before meeting him I had a relationship of around1.3 years(he cheated on me) and my mother got to know about it when she saw me crying and i end up telling her about my relationship(now ex). So I just need advice, should I tell my current boyfriend that my mother know about my ex? Now My mother somehow almost got to know about my current relationship also and i have told about this to my boyfriend but should I tell him that she knows about my past also.? Would he be okay with it or he will get upset about it that i haven't told him about this prior?

Hello Anu Madam, I am 43, and my wife is 40, no kids. We are married for 13 years. Immediately after marriage, for a few months, she did not let me have physical relation. She used to push me away if I tried. Then, for almost 3.5 years, she was treated by a psychiatrist for depression and doctor advised not to have sex. After that too, she was not much interested. We consulted 5 gynaecs and a counsellor, one surgery was performed on her vagina, I got my semen tested multiple times but all in vain. There was no normal physical relationship for next 6-7 years. And now, all of a sudden, she is pushing to have a child. To be honest, I have lost interest. But she is hell bent to get pregnant. Everyday, we fight over this and our mental peace has gone for a toss. She has become way too admant and always gets angry over trivial things. Can you please suggest a way ahead? Thank you in advance and sorry for the long post.

Problem with my mother in law and her demanding behaviour in everything i used to do.. Even if i go with my husband.. She demanding me to tell where are you going.. Everything backbithches about me n my family when i was not in home to my husband He used to tell me after that... And i completely fed up... Why is she doing like this? They always make me to do work... Even her daughters are sitting peacefully with their phones.. Recently i addressed all these through my family to them... Now its became a big problem... That i told to my parents... They are blaming me now.. On this reason.. My husband supports them What to do now

I am 67 years and my wife is 61 years married 38 years have daughter. Last year she suddenly fell ill and have liver transplant. After few months i find she is angry on me and criticize me in all of my actions with past. Is there any relations on her recent behaviour.

Hi Anu I am a married man for the last 20 years...have 2 kids...i am in a relationship with my friends now divorced wife for the last 5 years she has 2 kids too..we are very much in love with each other & have actually accepted each other as husband & wife..we cant stay without seeing each other...my wife & her ex husband kind of know what's going on between us, although they have not confronted us yet...one thing we both are sure of is that we want to stay together in this relationship ..pls advicein this case as I am married & she is divorced

iam a 35year old man ,my father in law is manipulative and emotional blackmailer iam struck in wrong marriage. She is nether willing to divorce nor peacefully live with me , she keeps dragging the divorce case for 5years now , iam not interested in this marriage and i want to step out and find a better partner who can live with me peacefully without intervention of her family

i am married with kids however i still feel infatuated seeing young girls and even tried approaching them/her . however that guilt acts like a catalyst which force me to redo those silly things. i dont know hwo to come out of such thoughts + acts. note - i still care and love my wife .

My daughter is a working women & married about a year ago Son in law wants to visit his parents who reside in the same city every week..which is exhausting to her. When discussed with him, he fights with her..she appears to be depressed. Please advice how to proceed.

Hi, I am 55 and married to a wonderful lady of 52. Both of us are employed. We have been blessed with a son who has done his MBBS and now undergoing his PG in a reputed govt hospital. Problem is that I am working with a pvt company ( listed ). While my wife works with a govt company. We are located in two different states and not possible to travel from home on daily basis. So we meet up once a month only. Generally on a second or forth Saturday. As I work with a company where I have to take permission to leave HQ, I feel frustrated that even after working for more than 30 years, one needs to take a permission. Work culture over the years has changed too much as the company has changed hands many times. And now I am not able to change nor ready to change my way if working. And thua brings out friction in my job and affects my performance everywhere. I wish to leave the job as only 03 years are balance and I feel that having a good enough health would allow me some time to pursue my hobbies of travel and meeting with my relatives which I have ignored for so many years. While I wish to take an early retirement ( no financial liabilities and a good enough bank balance and own home too.) But wife is not agreeing to this. Whenever I raise the topic we end up arguing too much and don't reach any conclusion. Regarding her job, she has to travel by own vehicle for almost 45-60 minutes daily. So she cooks only once and for dinner she consumes whatever cooked in morning. House help is not easily available and she is.not able to adjust with them. I don't like this and if I leave my job I could help her with household chores as well. So, my query is how do I pursuade my wife to let me leave the job ( I am not at all insisting for her to leave the job as well ). How do I make her understand that we are financially well enough and our son would do well in his career without needing any more help from us. My continuation in my job frustrates me and I can't think of anything but to leave the job.

Hi, I and my husband are married of 12 years, love marriage and have two boys. My husbands friends are forcing him to go thailand, they have been there earlier and they just want to have casual sex which I heard n so they want to go. After hearing this I really don't want my husnad to go n our relationship has been tough since then as every now n then they force n I fight that if u don't want to do all stuff y accompany them. please help how should I take this

Mai shadisuda hu aur do bcche hai, lkin mujhe ek ladke me attraction hai. Aur ye attraction pahle uske side se hua, ab wo mera crush ban chuka hai usse bina lagta hai kuch adhura hai. Wo bhi mujhe passnd karta hai, meri choti se choti wish ko pura karta hai. Mera husband ko bhi iske bare me pata hai ki eo kon hai. Aur eo mujhe uske sath bahar janeki parmmission bhi dete hai jab bhi wo mere ghar ata hai please suggest me shall i continued it.

I got married 1year back. It was an arrange marriage. But boy & his mother put so much efforts for convincing me for a year, though I was not comfortable by his mom’s behaviour of over controlling & dominating (she is on various anti psychotics medicine for 10-15 years), her husband is no more. I had my only parent my mom who got expired 3years back, no siblings. I am in good profession with job since 6 years. I kept myself busy in hobbies to get out of this loss. During that period, this family approached my relatives. I talked to them but couldn’t get convinced by their behaviour as his mom seemed to be very cunning. But finally got married to same person as my relatives were already convinced. They apologised & promised for their past misbehaviour. From first month, I got to know that I m married to a mama’s boy who made fake promises for protecting me. He becomes so unstable & had multiple outbursts. He puts all blames on me, he gaslights about me, whenever he is under his mom’s affect. My job is far away from their home. So I didn’t quit my job & living alone even after marriage. We both husband-wife meet on weekends. But as soon as he spends a day with his mom, he starts talking shit about me. His mom directly targets me in front of him, he never defends me. He just compensates with outings.. but later on, blames me that I asked him to take me out. I go home only for weekends.. but in that also his mom speaks something out of her own insecurities. I am clear now that her only intention is to make us fighting so he never visits me. And if I visit them, she does something blackmailing to threaten his son if he tries to ignore her. (For more info— she has all the authority & money though she was always the homemaker, no contact with her own in-laws, her own brothers & parents , even her own married daughter). I am totally helpless to save my marriage. I tried various therapists for couple counselling sessions but he does not show much if compliance & his mom just hate when u suggest couple counsellings. She wants everything in her hand, which I understood so early , so I kept continuing my work & living at my workplace. But my husband also never recognise the root cause. He gives me silent treatment for days till weekend. He just blames me everyday , very very sarcastic tone that I don’t want to talk to him even on a call. He does something for me & then everyday he blames me for asking for that which is totally false. Now I refuse to take any favour from my husband. I tried for baby but miscarriage. There was so much stress & immediately I moved to my workplace. Plz any suggestions?? For how long, me & my husband will be living like this ? Is there any similar case with some positive hope ?? I know he has some personality issues, one moment he is nice to me & within hours he backfires continues to talk without listening with full energy of blaming me for everything. He imagines something false to portrait about my image & doesn’t trust me at all. On other hand by their behaviour, I am constantly missing my beloved mom. And getting into that grief of losing her deeper. I am seeing my mom in my dreams regularly these days. I am feeling betrayed by trusting them & made a wrong decision on their fake promises.

Meri partner h mujhse aise personal baat karegi to bolti h aapse shadi karungi aap sab kuch h mare whe kuch din baad uski mummy phone karati h aur wo kahti h phone pr ki sab rishta khatm kariye aapke sath main shadi nhe karungi

Dear Ma'am, Thank you from all with great answers..I have a broken marriage need your help..I have been married for 9 years with a boy of almost 4 years. My wife is very adamant and is very influenced by her sister and mother after her fathers death 5 years ago. She has left me for almost 8 months now and wants me to leave seperately from my age old parents with serious age ailments. I don't want to as they have taken care of me and my siblings their entire life. How can i be so selfish? Well my wife has completely avoided me and not showing my son and keeping closed doors and not attending or receiving my calls as I tried getting help from their father's family side. I have travelled umpteen times for the sake of saving my marriage and kid. Will he not a father is my question here? My wife is unemployed leaving in the sake of her father's saving and sister's job. I do not know what would be the future of my kid in these circumstances. I have not reached to any legal conclusions as I don't want either of the families to go into such burden. Please help me what should I do?

Hi Mam we are living happily from marriage to till now. But for last three months i m in stressed because my husband schoolmates formed a watsapp group and he is always on the phone and talking to another woman that is his ex. I convey to him that I am uncomfortable so don't speak but he continues.

Hello Mam, I'm seeking your help over topic that might not be a usual one. I am 42 and my wife is 37 and we are married from 10years and have two loving kids. We r working professionals and my wife is fond of reading lot of spiritual gurus in office over internet, to which primarily I have no problem. Now the issue here is she has very low to no interest in aspirations over usual things between a couple like each other wishes, priortising dis relation before others, a shared dream,a shared hobby, house decor or a common social circle, etc, no ornaments at home ,adoring with just a bindi is a debatable thing as for her because it's all a dikhawa.(though grooming well for office is a duty not dikhawa) .We sleep in separate rooms due to kids, Sex exist but is seldom and mostly a one way traffic. She doesn't take interest in my emotional well being because as per her I'm too confined in materialistic topics . She has an allegation too some day she was seeking the same things from me and didnt got so has found it all in spirituality. While I wonder what was dat exact date as marriage to me was to have a loving romantic and if not perfect but a true relation. .I rather see this as excuse for her deep interest in spiritual journey. What is common and connect us today is we both love kids unconditionally. I am happy go lucky person who believe in karma, god believing and nurturing family from bottom of heart and take every day as new opportunity , but there is a large space I'm lagging definately in this relation. I don't have any interest in diving into all spiritual content at all that hold answers to mystery of life or beyond life. During time of marriage she didn't shared such thoughts (now she say it's continuos evolution) but I feel it's a true cheating of kind to be in marriage and instead of weaving common dreams , deep dive into unilateral agenda. I do get busy to fill this vaccume but I m worried when I think of future as such people tend to further cut off from usual life is what I believe. I'm worried once our primary duties r complete wih regard to kids what will be common grounds in this marriage and if she pursue all this and takes to another level why shall I hue and cry at 60 regretting for my golden past years and whatever remainder future. Moreover, I won't like to ruin the kids mental and emotional well being in their upbringing at any cost and therefore kindly guide how to work things out with her.. What will kids learn from us as they see us two odd mind people staying together.. How will they begin their Romantic relations if dey see ours in misery all through childhood. I feel so sorry for them. What can I do as of now as I feel clueless and helpless inside.

Hi Anu Mam Im 27 yrs old ( married) and 10 yrs old daughter. Im seperated from my husband since 2 yrs due to several reasons like he is drinking and Totally addicted to it. And he is totally dependent and now today also roaming on the roads of some streets of hyd. I belongs to an orthdox family. Now the question is one backward caste man who is married age : 33 he is interested in me and proposed me to a marriage after knowing all my past and saying that he accepts my child too. And the thing is he said a lie to me at first that he is unmarried and even though i had a good impression on him about the way he behaves with me he even treat me in a very polite manner. He says he loves me even though i too had a good impression but the things are the castes and can we both settle down with a marriage can we be happy or he is only trying to convince me to get him a wife to care care of him or only for his parents, he always talks about his own sister and also the office colleagues calls them sister and get emotional about them those who left the office. And he cries a lot which i dont trust on him and the face i see him that was not an real cry that looks like an act which i dont like in him. May he is acting ? Or really loving me, ge cares alot i feel like he is over reacting

Hi Anu! I am married and have a kid . I love my husband and we both are working. The problem is that my husband wants me to have sex every day. But I am not able to. I love him so much, but I am upset with myself that i cant do that every day. Please suggest.

Hi Got married 3 months back and i got to know my wife had 6 year relation with someone. she lost her virginity with him she was more sexually active. i am not able to digest this.

Hello Ms Anu, I am a 42yr female..married since 14 yrs and have 10yr old son . I am highly qualified and financially independent. My marriage was a arranged one.. but in these 14 yrs.. I never experienced love or and attachment from my husband's side. He is a family man.. there is no other woman involved..He loves his parents and his two sisters immensely... but always treats me as a option. I feel humiliated and lonely and he has short temper when i talk about this issue... so basically I don't discuss... but that is no solution... I am suffering and unhappy. What should I do?

Namaste Mam Main Ek Ladki Se Bohot Pyaar Karta Hun Lekin Woh Kisi Aur Se Pyaar Karti Ek Wakt Pahle Woh Ladki Meri Acchi Dost Thi Fir Maine Soccha Ki Usse Ek Yeh Kehdu Ki Main Usse Be Inteha Pyaar Karta Hun Maine Usse Keh Diya Par Usne Muzhe Mana Kiya Eh Kehke Ki Usse Pyaar Karne Main Dilchajbi Nahi Aur Wahan Se Chali Gai Main Uss Din Bohot Dipretion Main Tha Fir Maine Yeh Faisla Kiya Ki Woh Apne Bhai Maa Baap Se Darkar Iss Rashte Ko Banane Main Dar Rahi Hogi Par Aaise Karte Karte 2 Saal Ho Gaye Aur Fir Ik Din Achanak Do Saal Baad Yeh Kehne Aati Hain Ki Main Ek Ladke Se Pyaar Karti Aur Tab Maine Usse Puccha Kya Tum Usse Shaadi Bhi Karna Chahti Ho To Ussne Jhijakte Hue Yeh Jawab Diya Ki Woh Usse Shaadi Karna Chahti Darsal Woh Mere Paas Yeh Madat Mangni Aai Thi Ki Woh Usse Milne Jaana Chahti Hain Aur Usse Usko Milne Keliye Kucch Paiso Ki Jarurat Hain To Maine Uss Situation Ko Samjhakar Uski Baaton Ko Samjhakar Usse Paise De Diye Magar Woh Muzhe Usse Pehle Maine Usse Yeh Kahan Ki Tum Mere Paas Kaise Aai Paise Mangne To Usne Kaha Ki Woh Muzhe Uska Ek Accha Dost Manti Isiliye Woh Mere Paas Madat Mangni Aai Thi Iska Main Matlab Kya Samjhu Ki Woh Muzhe Sachme Accha Dost Mantti Hain Yah Sirf Usse Paison Ki Jaruart Thi Isliye Agar Muzhe Apna Accha Dost Manti Hain To Kya Woh Bhavishya Main uss Ladke Jisse Woh Pyaar Karti Agar Uss Ladke Ne Uss Ladki Ki Dhoka Diya To Kya Woh Mere Paas Wapas Aa Sakti Kya Woh Mere Saath Shaadi Kar Sakti Hain Main Abbhi Usse Utna Hi Pyaar Karta Hoon Aur Usse Kabhi Kabar Baad Chit Karne Mile To Usse Healthy Conversation Karta Hoon To Kya Yeh Sambhav Ho Sakta Hain Ki Woh Aage Chalkar Mere Future Wife Bane Aur Main Uske Saath Hamesha Khush Rah Saku Aur Usse Khush Rakh Saku

Hi Anu, i am 34 year old woman married to a 41 year old man. We are married for past 10 years. We had no sexual relationship for first 5 years, after lot of pestering and fights and realisation that there must a physical problem at my husband’s end i convinced him to visit an expert in this domain. Turns out he had low testosterone level. He took the necessary medication and i really tried for 1 year to make it work. It worked to a certain extent but it was more like a chore than something we really want to do. Then we decided that we should go for a baby as well while we are at it. Now my daughter is 2.5. Things never got better. We don’t talk about our lack of any intimacy physical or mental. We are living like roommates. He is the best husband a person can ask for on paper. My parents love him. He is the nicest guy. But in reality we never had any connection and no comparability. And whatever attraction and love i had for him in the beginning is lost completely. I have no idea what goes on his mind. He is a closed book i could never open. He accepts the problem but blames me too if i force him to open up. I am in such a bad place mentally. I keep thinking about the one life i got, i wasted it. Why did i get married so soon? I like someone in office who i have no future with because he is in some other country. I do not know what to do and how to live my life. I get thoughts that life should not be so long.

My age is 47 male and my partner age is 41 we have a child of 12 years old i didn't had sex for more than 3 years and my partner is not interested in sex what is the solution ?

Im 54 married my wife 44 since our marriage 22 years all is fine even in my trouble time my wife supported me fully but last 2 years we are no contact situation even we shaare same house we have 2 kids 18 and 12. Last 2 year back she met her school friend from there she is ignoring me don't know how to fix it i Dought she has a affair with him. But m not getting clue. Hiw to find it

Hi, I am a 48 year old unmarried woman. I stay with my parents and we 3 enjoy our life in our own way. I have 2 married elder sisters and share a loving relation with them. In short I am blessed with a loving and supportive family. But at times I miss having a man in my life. We have tried so hard but nothing materialised on the marriage front.All men in my age group either married or divorced with kids. Do u think its ok to get married if I find someone whom I like. Sometimes I feel i should atleast date someone and if marriage is to happen it will. I am single for a very long time. I am grateful to God for all the good things I have in my life. How to find someone no clue. Have tried thru matrimony no success. Not interested in any dating app. Nor interested in casual dating with a younger guy. I need someone of my age or elder. Pls advise. Thanks..

I had lost my virginity before marriage, at the age of 18 and now I'm 26 years old but now I Going to marry someone else.did my future husband know that I have lost my virginity when I have intercourse with my ex, we had 7 to 9 years of relationship till now but that relationship did not worked so we broke up recently. Now I'm going to marry next year ending. What should I do? Its a arrange marriage if he knows all that shits then my family reputation is also harm. What should I do to this situation. I can't tell anyone about this and what is the solution that he never know about my past life..i want to hide from him that I'm not virgin.

Help me!!! 1.I'm starting new "work" on my own(challenging for me) but my mind says quit it, be quite & do nothing. I myself don't know that wether the result of work will be +ive or uncompleted like alws. 2. My mind has become like order seeker type, when someone orders me, I do those things with dedicated(but sad from inside) manner. But when myself will try something different(which i fear, but necessary) then. "I QUITS IT" & sometimes I don't even start. 3. I'm like stuck no clue what/whom I want to do in life, I'm in cllg(1 yr) doing (CSE) ,. 4. I want to do/try (sports,talking girls,study,stocks,coding..) many things, but myself, my thoughts(overthinker), R like just be in the place where u are[confused,po*n,think about past/future(being billio..re,olympics..), girl (that u liked & never talked), abusive/beating self,.. sometimes feels like end life, but don't hv courage for that also.. 5. I tried self help books, spirituality, god, self affirmation, writing... & thay affected me(sometimes) but for only some time, then again that devil me comes up &these things never get completed. As no one in my family knows about all these, so that's Y ,I hv to fight/loose/try again, the battles with myself.

hi main 37 years ki hoon or mere 4 bachche h 16 saal meri shaadi ko ho gye h main shroo se he is shaadi main nhi rehna chahti mera pehla beta hua to mujhe lagaa sab thik ho jyega pr halat or kharab hone lage 1 saal 4 months ka beta tha to beti hogi Bete k hone k baad se mere husband ne mujhe marna shroo kr diya wo hr time mujh pr shaq krte h or tarah tarah k ilzam lagate h main finacially independent nhi hoon or na he wo mujhe bhar ja kr kaam krne dete h mere kafi baar suiside krne ka dil hota h pr main kr nhi pati plz batye kya karun

I am married for last 3 years. I found out about my wife's sexual past just months into our marriage. I even enquired her about her past before our marriage and told her that I don't tolerate lies and don't believe in premarital sex but she still lied to me and deceived into a fraud marriage. So I started sleeping with prostitutes and call girls as a revenge. I even had an affair with a divorced woman but that didn't last long. I know I didn't do anything wrong. She is the one is in the wrong. She deceived me into a fraud marriage. Should I forgive her and live with her?

Hello, I am a 42 year old woman with a 14 year old boy and a 12 year old girl. Ours was an arranged marriage. I got married at age 23 and my husband is just 2 years older to me. Right from the beginning my husband is great at cooking, household chores etc but never expresses romance openly. I was always a emotional woman who slowly turned to him and stopped expressing my needs well. So far out marriage was great cos I avoided confrontations and arguments. Only thing was he was always a critical person and I am emotional girl . Since I cld not express myself clearly as he never heard me, my communication with him sounded nagging, comparing and complaining. In 2011, he cheated on me and I learnt on his affair. I did not know how to process this phase so immediately forgave him within 2-3 days and even ended up being pregnant with my daughter. However he never used to speak on his past affair not were my feelings resolved. Whenever he would speak rudely or yelled at kids or me for little things, the past trauma would trigger and I would openly remind him of his grave mistake. This went on and he would get agitated and keep quiet. One day he did tell me that lifelong he needs to live with this past of me reminding him. But he has never understood the trauma I have gone through. I have just repressed it all along. Cut short 2024- there is lots of resentment with us. In 2022, I saw messages that he exchanged with another lady colleague on romantic songs , good morning messages and they would casually meet for lunch etc . This time I flew in rage and assumed he has cheated on me again. Told him first time I was a fool who didn't notice things right under my nose and now this is the latest. We had a big fight. I reminded him of his dirty past. At first he looked shocked from these allegations and told me he will clarify everything later. But next day in 2022 , when I asked him, he appeared to be a changed man and sounded more confident that he didn't do anything wrong. I pestered him to take me to office, we went to his office I met this lady and politely told her to stop sending good morning messages to my husband. I indirectly told her I have trust issues because of a past but did not elaborate. My husband who had taken me to the office , later was annoyed because apparently the woman colleague was annoyed about me coming to office and also mentioned about my trust issues. At this point this great husband spilt out to her that he had cheated on me. I never ever disclosed anything to her. Later he messaged me saying he was very annoyed and upset that I disclosed the dirty past to his colleague and if anything happens to his job he will never forgive me. I did tell him I never disclosed but he did not belive me. From 2022 until now we are almost in a silent divorce phase. We sleep in different bedroom and only communicate basic stuff on milk, curd , veggies etc He had never connected to me emotionally and would always get annoyed when I wld cry or show my frustrations. Now after all this he has literally cut me off emotionally. In this period from 2022-till now I did try to get back to normal but his vibes are very negative and disconnected. So even I too started distancing myself. During 2022, after the incident he had mentioned on how it is important to work, ve independent and how he favours open relationships ( non sexually). I was always working but earned lesser and used to depend on him a lot. Now I have changed in these 2 years, I have a better job and am not at all dependent on him emotionally, physically or mentally. Infact I pitch in to our household expenses.Our lives are totally disconnected and we there just for the kids. He cooks for all of us, I take care of remaining chores and help them in their studies . We don't attend family events and this has left many guessing on our status. I have lot of unresolved emotions and since he cannot process my emotions or least interested to hear me out I don't know when I will explode. I am just repressing my feelings and keeping a happy cheerful face for the family and kids. We even went for a vacation for kids sake where we just interacted with kids. Kids know things are not allright and pray for us together. I know this isn't healthy for me and I will invite psychosomatic issues in life later on. I am still attached to him and maybe once he expresses a sorry or a remorse and have a hope we can fall back in love again. Why can he never understand that emotional trauma that I have gone through Inspite of being loyal to him always. For once if he just uses kind words and apologises I will forever love him and forget everything.

Hi mam. I have a bf of 7 yrs and we decided to marry. My bf is very nice person at heart. His family is okay with me because he insisted on marrying me. But one time he had a fight with my brother and he made a mess and my family kinda had bad impression on him. He thinks that he has not done anything wrong and my family is not accepting him especially my dad. My dad is expecting him to talk to him and convince him but my bf is strong headed and he is not okay with convincing my dad. I am crushed in between I don't want to lose him. I don't know what to do.

Hi my son 36 year old having some bed habits like drinking , smoking ,having relationship with other females, have habits of argument with everyone , unable compromise with different circumstances and try to prove himself right all the times. Due to these habits he unable to do job , he already left 2-3 jobs in past . he got married in 2018 with same age of working female. Both were separately in other city from day of marriage. Due to his habits they took divorce in 2024. Even after that he did not changed , continue with his bed habits. Being parent when we tried to make him understand but nothing change in his habits. Now he is job less last 2 months , sitting ideal at home hole day , evening go out and come back home very late , some time early morning. As parents we are very upset and scare , don't know what to do and how to handle this situation.

I am a father of two young daughters aged 5 and 3. I and my wife got love married and post marriage things began to fall apart. The relationship is not where I have done any physical abuse as we see generally posted in this group . But the issue is more of the individual viewpoints and hence arguments. For every action I take there are reverse opinions and which ends with a feud which takes a lot of mental toll on me and my wife. So considering what we are going through we decided to seperate in good terms. But I am worried about how this will impact my kids. When separating, obviously I will have to stay seperate and I will not be able to meet and play with my kids like I do daily today. Best case would be weekends where I can spend my maximum time with them. Along with this the other concern is if either of us want to get into another relationship or dating, how best can we do along with co parenting? We both are 35 yrs old

Hi Madam, I'm 60,retired, my wife is 47, our son is 23. I had love marriage and was leading a happy married life. Just after silver jubilee of our wedding anniversary I accidentally came to know that my wife is madly in love with one of our common married friend who runs a simple shop. Upon investigation I found that they are in relation for last 12 years and were enjoying sex in my own house for such a long time. He hails from an uneducated family and is not even cultured. I could not believe that the wife of a highly educated socially respected man could do this with a shopkeeper who does not have any socio economic status. I am living a normal life with my wife for the sake of our only child. Once he settles in life I have decided to end my life. Ofcourse I still love her as ours was a love marriage. I seek your wise suggestion in this regard, should I divorce her or live a normal life that we are doing?

Hello madam I a 32 year old married man with a kid , who is 6 years old. I have done arrange marriage with my own decision I agreed to my parents for the marrige at that time I was in a casual relationship with a girl I didn't said anything to the girl and get married to someone else. After that I tried to live a happay life with my wife without thinking about the girl whom I left behind, from outside I tried to be happy with my wife but my wife thought doesn't matches with me so I felt so disturbed from inside. Still I was trying to continue the relationship for sake of our child but suddenly I got my ex love contact and I was so happy that after so long time I got a chance to talk to her, I have tried to meet her but she always refused to meet me because she was in a relationship. I tried many times and due to some misconduct I again lost her for the second time. At this moment when she is not with me her thoughts memories are troubling me so much I am in pain, what am I suppose to do to get rid of the pain?? Please help

My friend's boyfriend married to another woman from last 2 years and now when he is separating , told my friend about his divorce and marriage. My friends has still soft corner for him. what advice should I give to her?

Hi I m 30 year old n having a baby girl for 3 yrs .. I got married 5 years back .. I and my husband have misunderstandings because of my mother - in - law as she is fights over small small topics n my husband cNt do anythings .. Things vo wrong that I have to rush to my mother's home because of which my mother wants that I should take divorce from him .. but I again came back to my husband because of child .. I m right or my mother is right

Hello Mam, I am 37 Yrs Old Married With 2 Kids & Leaving Happy Life. But Wife is Now not much Interestd goingPhysical . Recently I have come Across One of My Staff Who is Married with 2 Kids & Happily Married But Somehow We started talking each other & be on call for 1/2 Hrs on daily (in Night) as Her Husband Come Late at Night We Both Like Each Other & Will Not Mind to Go Physical in Near Future. Should we Keep Taking each Other & Can go Ahead Or Not

I am 40 year old Man and single. Deprived of sex, emotional attachment, and companionship. Have made my profile in many marriage websites since a decade but things are not working out. I am earning a salary of around 9 lakhs per annum and often think tht my salary is a constraint for female to get married to me. I am educated i have done my MBA marketing and also have a Hotel Management degree. Please advice what to do.

Respected Madam, I am a 44 years old unmarried man. I didn't get any girl due to my low income & because I have only bachelor degree, but my younger brother married before 7 years. I have good & emotional bonding with my younger brother's wife (37 years old) in these 7 years. I always tell her all my feelings about depression & loneliness. I tried yoga & meditation. I tried reading books. I tried travelling on tours, but nothing worked. I told my brother's wife nothing is working. To my surprise, she offered me physical relation with her for some days. I immediately told her I love my brother & can't cheat him. She said she also loves my brother & she is not watching it as cheating. According to her, it's a medical cure from her side to get me out from depression. She said she will always love my brother, but as of now, she just wants to see me happy. She said if physical satisfaction will result in my happiness, then she is ready for this. She said medicines will not work in my situation. I have asked her to give me sometime to think about it. I know her from 7 years. She is a good genuine woman. She & my brother has a child. We do flirting with each other sometimes, but never made any such move. Now, you tell what should I do ??

I'm married and my husband is jobless, toxic and an addict. I'm living with him for the last fifteen years. Whenever I tried to break off the relationship he gets violent and threatens to kill me and my sister. My parents are dead. In the past I have complained about him at the local police station but they asked me to move out and get a divorce but it's not so simple. I'm suicidal and depressed. I don't have anyone else with whom I could share my problems.