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Can a marriage last without s*x? My husband and I haven't been intimate since our second son was born. It was a difficult pregnancy. I was 34 and was advised bed rest. We were so busy managing two kids and finances that we had no time or desire for each other. We shared one bedroom with the kids who are now grown up. Both are abroad, they rarely visit home. Our lives have been dull since both children left home. My husband goes out for a walk, watches TV, spends time on the phone, goes to the market etc...but there is nothing physical. I am 53, he is 59, retired last year. He mostly sleeps on the sofa I sleep on the empty bed. Is this the end of our marriage?

I think my husband takes me for granted. We have been married for 21 years. I was working until last year but took a sabbatical to recover from a hip surgery. While he was mostly away travelling for work, I raised two kids, one is in first year of college, the other is in 11th standard. Now that I am out of work and recovering, I am noticing how he is mostly complaining that I am not contributing enough and he is feeling the pressure. What about the 21 years I managed everything -- my job, home, kids, his ailing parents? He hasn't given me a single compliment but there is a limit to how much you can live with a man who doesn't value what you do for him and the family. What do you think i should do?

My fiance broke up with me after our engagement. He just messaged me that it's not going to work out. It was a silly argument between our parents about some pre-wedding ritual but he thinks that I don't respect his parents enough. Isn't marriage also about equality? If I don't want to be a part of some stupid ritual which I don't believe in, shouldn't he respect that? They could have discussed this before the engagement which they didn't. He used to be a reasonable guy when we dated but ever since his parents got involved he is acting all different with me. His parents don't let him talk to me any more because they want me to apologise, which is ridiculous. I don't understand how to resolve this. I don't want to miss out on a good partner because of some stupid disagreement over a ritual I don't care about. What should I do?

My wife has been stalking her ex on Instagram. First she said she wanted closure. They met last year over coffee and she said she felt lighter. I asked if she felt anything and she confirmed that there was no feelings. But now they are talking day and night on Whatsapp. Should I worry or talk to my wife about it?

Hello I am married for last 11 years and we have a 9 year old son. We have seen many ups and downs during the early year of our marriage, in our relationship and in economically as well. I even left my work after my son was born, spent all my savings fulfilling his and my wishes. My husband only use to provide us with the basics. We live with our in laws. My father in law has all the control our the money we earn in our business and my mother in law wants to control the whole house. So I limited myself to my room to avoid any arguments. My husband promised me monthly allowance before I got pregnant for the first time. Which I never received. Now I started working again and I am earning well, I finally feel happy again. But now he started asking for second child. Which I actually never want. Because nothing changed from his side. He doesn't provide us with much, we need a bigger house if we have another kid as I can't raise Children with so much age gap in one room as our son still sleeps with us. He only say it will happen eventually but that is what he said even before. I do want a second child but I know I will never be happy with it. Because I will have to leave work and he will not provide us that well. Kindly suggest me what to do

I have an 8 yr old son who gets distracted while I am talking to him. He will pretend like he is listening but do his own thing which I find very disrespectful. He will even make faces when I look away mimicking me. When I am serious and he does this, I get very upset. My parents feel we are being too gentle with our son. What can I do to ensure he listens (not obeys) to me when I speak?

Thanks for your response. I had consulted a psychiatrist few years back but her prescibed medicines did not help. My wife used to feel sleepy and her hands used to go numb. Also the doctor had prescribed a shock treatment which I did not agree. Nevertheless I will again go for an experienced doctor for couple therapy together. My wife does not like even when we consult female doctors. I stay in Thane, Maharashtra, do you recommend any MALE doctors in this place who I can approach. Please advise & Thanks once again !

Hi i m loving a divorced man and my parents are against it and they are emotionally blackmailing me and making me feel guilt and shame . I m anxious and stressed about this . How can I overcome this?

good morning, a woman 40 yrs old having 15 yrs child came to know about her husband affair after which she again came in contact with me and told me that she loves me above everything wants to be with me but not in a position to give our relation a name so is it worth continuing a relation like these and what exactly love means in such type of relationship.

Hi, My Marriage Ends in 1 month after marriage and mutual Divorce was Completed without any strong reasons, Wife went to her home by giving their own reasons like compactability issue.In court and during Divorce process she fully cooperated and we are good friends during the court process also.Divorce was completed,but now she is in contact with me regularly and almost everyday calls me.by her conversations,it seems she is very much regreting for ending the marriage .i don't know why she is in contact with me.please suggest what i need to do?i am very much confuse.

My child is 13 years old and studies in school. Over the past few weeks, I have noticed small but clear changes constant smiling while looking at the phone, waiting eagerly for school in the morning, and repeatedly mentioning the same classmate during conversations. Homework now takes longer, marks have slightly dropped, and the class teacher has shared that my child seems distracted in class. When I gently try to ask what’s going on, my child becomes shy, avoids eye contact, and changes the topic, making me unsure how much to intervene. As a parent, I feel confused and worried, but I don’t want to scold or break my child’s trust.

Hey mam!! Mera 7 years ka relationship hai or muje pichle 2 saalo se overthinking anxiety ho rahi thi ki mere parents humari intercaste marriage ke liye mangenge ya nhi abhi kuch jada hi anxiety hone lagi thi to mene apki maa se bata diya unhone bhaut hi negative answer diya tab se meri anxiety or bhi jada badh gayi muje thoughts aate h ki ab breakup kar lena chahiye parents nhi manenge ye galat hai breakup kar lena chahiye sab end kar dena chahiye

I'm male on the verge of completing 32 years ... Doing currently md from prestigious medical college and completed my mbbs from topmost medical institute in india... I'm into relationship for almost about 5 years when se was 20 and I was 27 ... I know there is a age gap of 7 years but we never felt that there is a age gap between us.. currently her age is 25 years ... We both loved each other ... Her parents is very conservative and from orthodox family .. i know that majority have those mindset and I can't blame it by saying derogatory words like narrow mindset and very cheap thinking even in my family some members have conservative mindset ... So when I don't call my family members by using derogatory then why I am to use cuss words about them also... Khair ... Baat yeh tha ma'am aapse ki mere andar hichkhichat bilkul nhi h lekin bs thoda sa nervousness feel ho rha ki apni baat ko kaise samne rkhe ... Hm toh khud yeh chahenge ji woh bhi samay le apna kyuki apni ghar ki Lakshmi apni jaan se bhi pyari ladki ko kisi ko saupne ki baat h .. lekin hm dono different caste se h ... We both belong to obc but having different communities or caste whatever you say ma'am .. ma'am aapse bs yahi puchna chahte h ki aap hme kya suggestion de skti h agar dena ho toh... Apni kabiliyat pe bharosa h unko hm smjha skte h apni financial stability bta ke apne chizo ko honestly aur transparently rkhte hue lekin phir bhi halka sa dar lgta h ki kai woh na maane toh... Dhanyawad aapka meri baato ko padhne aur smjhne ke liye..

I am ready to stand against my parents for the boy I love, but he isn’t willing to stand up to his family. We are both Hindus but our customs, language and rituals are very different from each other. Since the time we started dating, I have tried to give up on my choices for the sake of our happiness. He proposed to me last year after dating for 12 years. I said yes. Now he wants me to convince his parents. He is 29, the eldest son of the family but he feels his parents will not agree for our marriage. His entire family is against us. His mother won't even look at me, forget sit down and talk. I told him we'll have a court marriage and live separate but he wants me to convince his family. If he doesn't take responsibility now, how can I expect him to stand up for me in the future?

I don't share secrets with my husband any more. Though we were friends when we were dating, I've noticed he takes me for granted since we got married. He used to take so much more interest in talking and getting to know me. Now I’ve started keeping parts of my life, thoughts, and feelings to myself because I feel sharing it with him is pointless. Not because my partner is unkind, but because I don’t feel understood anymore. Why do men take their girlfriends seriously and wives for granted?

My daughter got married 6 months ago, that is in July, completely arranged marriage, both agreed happily. Now the problem is, my son in law is not touching her since first day, sleeping separately by keeping a pillow between them. Once he said to my daughter that he is not interested in marriage, career oriented, we all shocked. He could have said at the time of interview itself. Now he is saying that he wants to correct himself and taking couple therapy sessions. Now my question is, is this problem common or very rare? Will therapy useful? We are all including his parents are very much worried about our daughter's future, how long should we wait for his recovery? Please answer.

Is a joint family better than living separate? My boyfriend is a Gujarati who has always lived in a joint family. He is 32 and they do business together as a family. That's a tradition for over 80 years now. Every one has separate rooms, businesses. But they prefer and try to have one meal together. I am 27, an MBA from a Tamil family. I have cousins and grandparents but we have always been a nuclear family travelling betweeen Mumbai and Pune. I have a younger sister who lives with my parents in Pune. I find the concept of joint family too overwhelming. I am okay to meet them during festivals but living in the same house with so many people is making me uncomfortable. I love my BF so much that I might just agree to make him happy but deep inside I know I will regret the decision. I feel it is so unfair that I have to choose between following his tradition and my comfort and peace. He doesn't mind if I eat non veg outside the house. There are no other discomfort or disagreement areas apart from this. His parents have accepted me as their daughter and I find it hard to tell them I want to live separate. What should I do?

Is it normal if you don’t miss your partner anymore? I recently noticed that when my partner leaves for work or long travel, I feel nothing. When we were dating, I used to feel so emotional. I would cry a lot, miss him for days. Now, I feel nothing. No relief, no longing, no irritation, just emotional blankness. This scares me more than arguments ever did. Does it mean our love is slowly dying?

I am 32 married for 6 years, no kids. But I have been noticing that my partner has changed a lot. He is talking less, I feel less emotional connection, and we have been spending very little time together. I don't know if there was any incident after which his behaviour changed or it is something that happened naturally. Whenever I try to talk about it, it gets ignored. I feel confused, stressed, and worried about my marriage, and this relationship. What should I do?

I enjoy being active on social media and like posting photos, reels, and updates about my daily life, travel, and time with friends. However, my parents constantly worry about online safety, family reputation, and what relatives or neighbours might say if they see my posts. They often ask me to delete pictures, stop posting stories, or reduce my social media presence, even when there is nothing inappropriate. Last time a professor saw me online and said I should spend time studying than be on Instagram. I was being polite by adding them to my feed. Now I feel like they want to control me. Should I just block them or hide my posts?

I am 17, in college and sometimes skip lectures because they feel repetitive or unhelpful, but my parents expect 100 per cent attendance. When they find out, it leads to arguments and lectures about discipline and responsibility. They feel that skipping classes means I am becoming careless. My grades are decent if not great. But it leads to comparison with peers who I don't relate to. How do I explain my perspective and still maintain trust with my parents?

My parents often judge my friends based on their background, habits, or social media presence. We chat, make reels, bunk classes or talk late nights because we like spending time, gossipping, discussing college. They think my friends are a bad influence, even though they don’t really know them. They don't even make the effort. This makes me feel misunderstood and embarrassed. How do I handle this situation without choosing between my friends and my family?

My son is a B. Tech (computer Science) second year student in a well reputed Private University in Greater Noida. He is working very hard in studies but not able to get good grade or passing marks. He is introvert type and has not many friends. He has been introduced to many teachers and senior students for hand holding purposes and guiding him but he not coming up to meet them and sort out his problems. He is a hosteler. To whom should we take him (Professional Counsellor/ Psychologist/ Psychiatrist) to assess and know the exact reasons or issues he is facing to address his problems. How can we help him to come out of present situation.

Mam, I know some ways by which i can change my state of mind from lazy to working.. and having pressure/deadline helps to move on. But still I'm get trapped in guilt of actions and don't feel confident that next time i will be able to control myself..( cuz some actions give short pleasure/gratification easily.. but guilts also). And in all those silent, sad, depressed emotional time my Real working time gets wasted.. and feels like I just live in more guilt and saddness..even if it hurts. But don't wanna live like that!! What I do?

My parents don't let me wear sleeveless or crop tops. I am not fat or ugly. All my friends wear them and my parents expect me to wear boring kurtas and denims to college. I feel embarassed not to dress my age. My mother picks my outfits. Even if someone gifts me something nice, my parents don't let me wear it. I am 17. How do i convince them to let me wear what I like?

I am unable to sleep at night. I wake up with nightmares of random events and people that have no logic or connection in real life. I don’t keep my phone near me, and I’ve tried meditation, but I can’t figure out why I’m still not able to sleep properly.

Dear Miss, I am not a good studious student nor had a good educational background during my schooling and engineering. I somehow managed to pass and get through. I searched for a lot of jobs after my degree but could not get a good one. The last one i got was an unpaid one too. Therefore i decided to pursue studies in UK. After i did two diplomas i got an internship job at a health care which was going good. All of a sudden my parents decided to get me married to a girl from my home country as they liked her and we believe in astrology a lot. The girl was very obedient and decent as per my parents knowledge. So i took leave from work place twice and went and got married , but due to this the project at healthcare went beyond my understanding and i was finding it difficult to cop up with that. Unfortunately, during a meeting the manager found out that my internship was way too much and decided to let me go. After that i decided to apply for my field job and soon i got one. Immediately after that i applied for a spouse visa for my wife. We use to quarrel over the phone several times as she wanted to do her internship in another city. Her phone used to be busy when i used to call at the later part. I was growing suspicious. But never mind i made a call to her and informed her that the spouse visa is sure to come so be ready. For about2-3 months i did not talk to her because it will cause more fight and i wanted her to realize that. I brought her gifts and birthday cake and a lot in the mean time. But my calculation was completely wrong. When the visa arrived i asked her to go for the interview, but she took a u-turn. She ran off to another city for a job. I also went back to my home country and enquired and urged her to go for the interview but she wanted divorce from me and filed a divorce case and harassment case against my parents. I decided to give a fight back which took away a lot of time and put my whole family into depression. Finally my parents went under pressure and decided to let her go by signing the papers without my knowledge. I was completely upset with this behavior of my parents and did not communicate with them for about 2 years. My mother's health was deteriorating also. i decided to take my sister in laws help too as she was from the same health care background. Thinking she can communicate or talk to her and make things easier. But she was a poison by nature and kicked me out of the house by making excuses. My brother was also against me and fought with me. I decided not to visit them anymore I also found out from few sources that my ex wife had sex with someone and did a abortion but that is not fully confirmed yet which happened just after my marriage mostly. Now my parents are worried and are taking effort daily to get me married with a divorced lady on the matrimonial websites. They somehow want me to get married and move further. But i am finding it very difficult, even though i makeup my mind i find one or the problem in the girls whom i meet on matrimonial websites. Either some have attitude or some have something hidden. Some have looks problem or some have less educational background I could not upgrade my knowledge due to all this problems in life, so , i had to settle with a low income pay at a warehouse kind of job. There is no promotion nor any upgradation there only dirty politics. I have applied for the UK citizenship this year by thinking i can move to another country and work or go back to India for sometime upgrade my skills and come back for a good job. I feel i am lost and there is nobody to help me out. I am getting older also and not in a good position to do the ware house job further. My brother keeps communicating with my father that he can arrange some job for me so not worry. But i don't feel like taking his help. kindly advise

one of my friend who is married from past 14 years having 2 kids (elder son 12 and daughter 8)...he was out of home deputed to site on project work by company for more than 4 months. During this period he did not visit the home but regularly available on call and in touch with his w... when he returned to home his wife was behavior was not normal as like earlier ... later he found out that his wife got involve with her college friend during this period ..... and they had physical 01 time during this period... now my best friend he is very caring and not able to forget this betrayed act by his wife... after all this he is not able to concentrate and focus on his work.. he love his wife so much and want to forgive her but how to handle this situation in decent way... he is not willing to divorce or parting his ways... request you to suggest some way out to get out of situation and lead a normal life as like earlier

hello mam, My son 19 year old from last 4 year his behavior change not listing not having food properly whole day watching mobile after 10th i put him diploma in electrical engineer he completed his 1 year but from 2nd year he stop going to college we both are working parent so nobody is there at home to force to go for college his teacher every day calling me to send him to college but he is not listing i ask him did teacher scold you or any student is troubling you he said no one is troubling me i don't want to study i want to do voice dubbing i want to give my voice for cartoon and for dubb movies in july 2025 he told me in 2028 i will leave both of you i have my dream i leave the home i ask him what is your dream he said 1st 2 dream i cant tell you but 3rd dream is to go to japan for tour i thought he is joking. In August 2025 he started going for voice dubbing classes in 1st week of August 2025 he told me my planning is change next month only i will leave both of you again i thought is just pulling my leg but on 15 September its regular Monday we both parent went for job and he called me around 12 pm and said daddy left the home not a single rupees he had with him and he left the home in full of rain he keep walking and talking to me i ask him where you are going but he said that's secrete i took his mom in conference and try convince him but he not listing with 1 hour talking with him on phone i ask him tell me the landmark where you are he told me one landmark while talking him i left office to reach the landmark he told i forcibly sit him in car and take back home with his mother after reaching home with his mother we are trying to convince don't do like this its your home we have only one child that is you but he said no today is the i want to go let me go don't fail my planning whole standing at home he said want to go without having water or food just crying and saying i want leave the home in evening at 7pm i told him give me three month i will send to japan for tour after hearing this he little bit convince but said repair my mobile which was shutdown due rain water get inside arrange visa and passport within three month and give new laptop for playing game but after three i will leave both of you and left the home in december 2025 he told me he will the home. he is very superstitious at home not having bath use same cloth he said if change cloth and have bath all my power will go after that incidence leaving home he become more superstitious each and every moment he whispering himself after asking why you doing this saying this is my power i will get what i want if i scold him he said i will leave home right now please help me what to do he not having bath not changing cloth not having afternoon food not cutting his nails from last 15 days i am very much in stress due to his behavior and stress about his future also he is not behaving like a normal child whole day and night watching mobile. Please help

My husband loves me but he also chills with people who have hurt and insulted me in the past. He says they are his friends and family so he cannot ignore them. I feel very hurt when my partner ignores my feelings because he has never taken a stand for me. Am I wrong to expect my husband to support or comfort me?

Have read some of your answers and I am appalled as to how biased you seem. To most daughters in law you have suggested basically to shut up and best abuse for ‘family peace’ whereas when a man complains of his wife being close to her mother you go like ‘oh what a woman’. Looking at your profile one expects you would teach your clients assertiveness, self respect and fairness.

Hi Anu, My husband doesn't do house chores. We both work full-time, but I still end up cooking, cleaning, and doing laundry. When I ask for help, my partner will say, ‘Just tell me what to do,’ but then he conveniently forgets. Maybe he doesn't like it or he is genuinely forgetful. I have tried many ways to make him explain. Once I only did my share of laundry to make him realise but he simply ignored. Every week this pattern repeats. Is this normal? How can married couples divide responsibilities fairly to avoid fights?

Feeling alone in the world and iam not having any close friends everybody is busy with their works and family, help me what to do

Hi , My name is Jayen and my wife's name is Neha We are (37,36) 13 old in married relationship. Since I do job in abroad . I take 2 leaves of 30 days every year . My wife clearly says she don't have interest in me since our marriage get older . Some days before she told me she has what's app chat with my 28 year nephew , Unmarried guy . She says everytime that she is unsatisfied with me (sexually) She ask me everytime to give her permission to have physical relationship with nephew . She says you have spoiling my life . You can repair it now by giving permission . What can I do in this situation ? Does giving permission can spoil our marriage life ? Give me some better advice

Not happy with previous answer. Asking again. My boyfriend gets angry over very small things. Last time, I didn't respond to his call for 15 minutes and he kept calling to check what happened. Earlier, I thought it was out of concern, but even if I meet my friends without telling him, he gets upset. We fight over little, trivial things, and he would later say he didn’t mean it. I am scared to speak my mind. I don't know what will make him angry. How do I know if this is a toxic relationship? We know each other for 3 years now

My wife and I argue almost every week. Sometimes it's about house chores like who will clean up, sometimes over bigger things like paying bills money or inviting friends. After every fight, she will say sorry, and promise there won't be any argument. But last couple of months, she has stopped apologising and refused to talk to me. We havent spoken properly for a long time now. I have tried initiating but she thinks it is pointless. Is frequent fighting normal in relationships? Should I ignore or do something about it?

Hello, I am in physical relationship before my marriage, after that I do arrange marriage and now I have a baby ... Before sometime my husband saw photos of my past relationship.. before marriage I accept that I am in relationship but not accept that physical relation and take photos but now husband have photos, my husband frequently asking about past but lied .. he want to do legal action against me for hiding situation... What to do now?

My friend got married, it was an arrange marriage all the family is good all went very well but after marriage her husband told her that he has an severe disease which he and his family did not told her before marriage. They were supposed to tell her and her family about it before marriage but they didn't, now she is so tensed she couldn't tell her parents also , what should ahe supposed to do?

My boyfriend's father is flirting with me. Earlier i used to think he is just complimenting me but now it is getting too far. He constantly checks my social media and comments me in private chat. Once he said, if he was younger I would have dated someone exactly like me. I have been respectful, responding with gentle smileys because I don't know how to react. I don't know if I am reading too much into it, but how do I talk about this to my boyfriend? Will this affect their relationship and ours?

My husband doesn't appreciate me. Ours was a love marriage arranged by friends and family. Initially he used to shower me with compliments when I was working. After my delivery, my in-laws did not support me in raising our daughter. They wanted a grandson. They don't say it but it shows in their attitude. They are spreading all kinds of stories about my hygiene, cooking, and conversations with my mother. My daughter is 2 years old. I don't get time to groom myself. I quit my job last year so I could focus on our daughter. I try to help my mother in law in the kitchen whenever I can but she tells my husband that I am lazy, that I am good for nothing. This is causing a lot of fights due to misunderstandings. Now that I don't earn, I feel more guilty and dependent. My confidence is low. I don't remember the last time I visited a salon because my husband is the only earning member in the family. I can't visit my parents as they are also growing old and my daughter is so young. I honestly don't know how to fix these issues staying in this family. What do you think?

Dear madam I have this suitaution in my life. Plz do guide me with this. So i have 2 married sisters and a brother with who i dont get along well. We used to be close back then. Later on my father passed away and then i got busy searching work. After getting work i got carried away with my newly found friendship with a boy i started spending much on him rather then my family. But still then i never neglected my family every kind of help i tried to give them. In the meanwhile i used to take care of my bedridden grandmother who used to stay in another state. Then my second sister started feeding everyone's mind against me saying i dont help them with money and i spend most on my grandmother and cousin. Though my sister were earning well still they waited me to spend on them which i stopped by then as they were earning. And there used to be a real good fight with my sisters and me regarding money issue and als my marriage thing and i gave them bitter words and also curses which i regret to this day thinking how could i do hated thing to my family .In next few years my sister got married but my second sister never invited me for her marriage and did all her wedding plans in my absence and i als never attended her wedding. I attended my 3rd sister wedding. After that my second sister plotted a plan against me by taking everyone on her side and kept me out of all the family functions. I just ignored them and decided to never to get bothered by any of this. Now the problem my 3rd sister is pregnant and they have planned a babyshower and like they are just telling me to attend it. To be honest they just told me a day before the function. How to handle this. Should i attend? And how to deal with such kind of people they seem to take advantage of my helpless. Please guide me on how to become a strong girl while taking desicion.

Whenever there’s a fight, my partner never says sorry. When we were dating this was fine as I like to mend things faster. But now that we are married it's always somehow my fault. Even when I try to talk calmly, he would twist the story and make me feel guilty. I don't know if this is his real personality or he is trying to control me. Is this a red flag? How do I know if he is doing it intentionally to stay powerful? How do I teach him to take equal responsibility?

My husband is very attached to his sister who is 32 and divorced. She visits our house daily and my husband discusses everything with her including our personal matters. She gives advice on what I should cook, how I should dress. I'm 26 married from one year. Every time the siblings talk, I feel like a third person in my own marriage. How to make husband understand this is wrong?

How to improve myself Not interested on anything Want to be alone Feeling stressed tired confused Want to do lots of things but not putting any efforts not even starting anything to get better Always thinking some miracles to be happened Eating food heavy improper time Sleeping fully without guilty Not able to understand what actually I want, what I want to be, what I have to do,.how I need to be live happily, when I will be live happily, when I will change my self and where I'm going in my finnally

I’m 44 years male married and I have one boy.. (10 years). I’m facing some issue with my wife . She always giving so much importance to spiritual thing and not spending time with me and son... even she used to preferred to sleep alone and not that much taking care of my son... I used to take care of my son for his sports activities and study... we are living overseas and my wife used to fly frequently to India for spiritual purpose... but she leave without us.. I’m not against spirituality but my worries his she is not giving importance to family life... whenever any financial topic coming over she used to say I contributed and my share such word which I don’t like... I’m in confusion mode shall I proceed with divorce... this is not first instance this is almost last 2-3 years....

I am married with 15 years of son. My wife and I haven't been on good terms for the past few months. She accuses me of having an affair with another woman without any proof. The atmosphere at home has also deteriorated completely. I want to divorce my wife, but I hesitate thinking about my child future. Tell me what should I do? Should I get a divorce or continue living this toxic life?

My husband and I talk more about bills and house chores than anything else. Our whatsapp chats are filled with boring messages reminding each other of our duties and bills. It has become so monotonous. A few years ago, we used to stay up late chatting about our lives. But now he just scrolls on his phone and says he’s tired. Either of us is always tired. If not there are kids who take up our time. Every day I feel like I'm living with some stranger, not my friend and partner who I dated. My friends feel the same that marriage makes people boring. What should I do?

Dear Ma'am, I have been married for 10 years and have a 4-year-old son, with another child expected soon. About six years ago, I was working with an organization where I became acquainted with a female colleague during our daily commute. Our interactions were initially professional, occasionally casual, and over time, we developed a friendly rapport. There were moments of physical closeness, such as holding hands, although she was unaware of my marital status at the time. After I left that organization, our communication became infrequent. During the COVID-19 pandemic, she experienced a medical emergency in her family, and it was during that emotionally vulnerable period that I unintentionally expressed my feelings for her. She is now nearly 40 years old and dealing with multiple health issues, including being overweight and other medical complications. Although she knows that I care about her, she has not accepted my proposal, fully aware that I am married and unable to commit to a marital relationship with her. Despite this understanding, she often invites me out for movies, dinners, and expects gifts. Recently, our interactions have involved romantic gestures such as hugging and neck kisses. However, she continues to describe herself as asexual and uninterested in a physical relationship, while also expressing a desire to get married — which appears contradictory. She often says she wants to remain friends and doesn’t want me to leave her, but at the same time, her expectations and emotional dependency are becoming increasingly difficult to manage. I want to let her know that I’m looking for more than just a friendship because I feel emotionally vulnerable and need her commitment to feel secure. I believe that building a romantic and physical relationship between us could help her feel more supported. She’s going through a lot and doesn’t have much family support aside from her unmarried younger brother.

My wife left home after a small argument and has been staying with her parents for over two months now. No matter how much I try to talk to her, she refuses to come back or even discuss what went wrong. I still love her and want to make our marriage work, but her silence is hurting me deeply. How do I convince my adamant wife to return home? I miss our kids and she is not letting me in. Please help.

My wife lost interest in sex