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Ma'am, please Edit out the Last Part of your Answer. It looks a part of some other Answer, which accidentally made it's way into this one.

Thanks for your Answer, Anu Ma'am. I have tried everything that you have Suggested in your Reply. I have been putting a lot of Efforts from my side to gain his Love & Trust. But he seems to be completely unmoved. I'm feeling exhausted but I can't afford to End this Marriage & lose out on the Social Status & Financial Security which he provides me with. My Parents would also be ashamed of me & in our Community, it's quite difficult for a Divorced Woman to get Re-Married & in my case, it would be near impossible if the word spreads around that my Husband has Divorced me because I wasn't Virgin. Please give me any other alternative suggestions. Shall I try threatening my Husband that I would commit Suicide or File a False 498A Case against him & his entire Family, in order to make him Love me again? Or shall I find another Partner who can satisfy my Sexual & Emotional Needs, Secretly, while continuing along with this Marriage?

Ma'am, Due to this I have inferiority complex. How can I get out of this. How can I increase my self-confidence and self-esteem.

Thank you very much for Answering my Question, dear Anu Ma'am... Quoting from your Answer... "the next time you face the same situation...what are you going to do differently that your wife does not act like a child? How are you going to bring it to a place where the two of you can discuss things rather than have her throw a childish tantrum like she is now?" This is exactly where I need Help... and that's why I am seeking suggestions from an experienced professional yourself... What do I do, when she starts Sulking again? I always try to break the Ice, within days (or even weeks, in some extreme cases) even if I believe that it wasn't my fault, in the first place... and this 'Ice-, breaking' needs me to spend a lot of Money, Time & Effort on her... If I don't take the initiative to break the Ice, she would go on giving me the silent treatment for days, weeks & maybe even months... She can live with herself, without even Caring about my Existence, in the same House. I'm getting frustrated that she's not fulfilling my Emotional & Sexual needs, which are the bare minimum, I'm expecting from her. I've tried to Break the Ice, using Love, Affection & other Emotional means... but she doesn't respond until I pamper her expensively. Her cold behaviour is draining both my Patience & Purse. How else can I get her to come around & patch up with me, whenever she does it again? Please suggest me any other methods to deal with her, effectively.

Thanks for Answering my Question, Anu Ma'am... I agree with whatever you have said... I understand her situation & empathize with her Situation. I am willing to give her the Benefit of Doubt & Listen & Understand her side of the Story, without any Harsh Judgement. But she's not even willing to sit down for an Open-Heart Discussion with me. I prefer to have this difficult conversation by meeting her alone, personally, in a Safe Space where we get all the Privacy we need, not in either of our Homes, to avoid the intrusion of other Family Members. The main Reason for preferring a Personal Meeting over a Phone Call/WhatsApp Chat is that, I want to observe her Body Language & Facial Expressions keenly, to ascertain whether she's being truthful or not. And she might get emotional & break down, during the Sensitive conversation, I want to Hug her & Comfort her, so that she feels safe to open up to me, completely. But how can I Trust a Person, who isn't even willing to have an Open & Honest Conversation with me...!!!??? I like almost everything else about her, notwithstanding her Past & a part of me does want to Marry her, but I have many Questions about her Past & I need Honest Answers from her, to make an Informed Decision. But she's asking me to wait until we get Married & then she'd prove herself as a Worthy Wife. But I am afraid that it might be too late & at that point, it wouldn't be easy to undo the Marriage, just in case, I don't find her Honest & Trustworthy enough. I am exploring the option of Postponing the Wedding (citing some other Reason) so that we both get more time to sort this out. But the problem is, how do I get her to talk with me...!!!??? She's unwilling to come anywhere & meet me personally & I don't want to go to her Home & unnecessarily create a scene over there. Shall I threaten her that I'd tell my Parents about her Past & Cancel the Wedding, unless, she comes to meet me in person, for an Open & Honest Conversation? I wouldn't really do something so Harsh, but would this empty threat make her open up to me or have the Opposite effect? If you have a better Idea, please suggest me, how do I get her to meet me personally & Talk to me openly? I have another Question related to this, which I'll post after you Reply to this Question. Thanks in advance, Anu Ma'am ????

Thanks again, Anu Ma'am... But I have another Problem... What to do about the Ex Boyfriend? A Part of me is grateful to him for the Eye-opening Revelation, he'd given me, in the nick of time. He seems to consider me as a Brother & by warning me about my Fiancee, he claims to be upholding the unwritten Bro-code, having the back of a Fellow Man... Though illegal, he Believes that he's Morally Right... He says that, even a Woman, in his place, would do the same, for a Fellow Woman. Even though he tried to Reassure me that he'd moved on from his Ex Girlfriend (my Fiancee) completely & wouldn't disturb our Married Life, in case, I still go on to Marry her. But I am not able to Trust him completely. I feel that he's a Potential threat to my Fiancee & also our Marriage. He might blackmail her into engaging in an Extra-marital affair with him, even after our Marriage... or he might also try to Harm her or Defame her. Should I completely Leave it to my Fiancee to Deal with him, as she herself is not completely Blameless (She allowed him to Record their Intimate Moments & also shared her Private Photos with him)? Or do I have any Obligation to fight this Battle, alongside her, as she's already my Fiancee, if not Wife? I'm worried about Risking my Family's Reputation, by getting into this scandal, in case, the word spreads in our Community. Either way, I want him to be dealt with properly, before our Marriage itself. What approach would you suggest, in this case?

Thank you so much?. I value and appreciate your suggestions and will take steps accordingly.

Thankyou Ma'am for showing me a way out through this

Anuji, I wanted to know when to accept a new proposal or what should I look for in a new relationship?

Talking about her achievements what I meant is appreciation of her success. You can appreciate by heart when that person should not think and talk about your negative aspects of your personality.In arranged marriages one may not know about the other.If one is not up to the other s expectations what to do. Really loving person won't see the others negative side by looking through a lens and talk bad of the other is not good.You can appreciate the other when the others are ready to appreciate you and should not abuse you.The above problem between a cancer zodiac female and a Gemini zodiac male.