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Hello I am 29 year old female. I married a man of my choice against my family’s wishes 2 years back. I loved him so much but he is totally indifferent towards my feelings. He refers to me as kal ki aai ladki, aisi 10 ladkia chor duga apni family k liye. His mother and two married sisters always disrespect me still he always finds faults with me. I came to know after marriage that he is infertile and cannot become a father. He didn’t tell me such an important thing before marriage and has no shame. I even got to know that his younger brother is a drug addict. He and his family constantly humiliate me and blame me for everything. I am really depressed and feel like ending my life. What should I do?

I am 48 year old mature,responsible and independent working lady. Married to the person whom i loved. 7 years of relationship before marriage and now 20 years of married relationship. My husband is very egoistic and irresponsible about our relationship but at the same time very helpful towards others. He lacks emotional intelligence between us. He lacks to understand my feeling which was never his priority. Due to this attitude after 6 years of marriage i got involved with one of my office colleagues wherein i use to consider him as a big supporter who is beside me whenever i feel depressed or want to express. Since my husband did had such understanding of spending quality time with me. However i was caught by my husband after few month since he had recorded few of my conversation. That chapter got closed as i sincerely apologize by husband and made him understand why was i in to that situation, which he also realized and accepted his mistake. We started a fresh journey as husband and wife. After 13 years post 2009, my husband was cheating on me which i discovered with the help of one agency. He was going around with one married lady. Luckily i cud figure this out in time with proofs and informed that ladies husband also. Post this revelation my husband has changed. He was not feeling guilty at all of what he did as he had lot of plans of leaving me and my 2 kids. He wanted to get separate and stay with his parents only, he was not interested in our family anymore and did not wanted to take any responsibility of our 2 kids, he started playing victim card that when my wife had an affair i did not revealed to anyone,then why is that she has revealed. Its now more than 6 months he is still not back on track, neither he feels guilty nor talk with me. Manipulate the conversation and his action every time. Not able to understand his behavior and this behavior is affecting my daily life. He doesn't update where.does he go, what is he doing. He is jobless since last 7 years. Hence i am only the earning member staying with i laws and kids. Day by day my patience are getting over. Please advise should i get separated from him and stay.with my kids only. Pls suggest

Hi mam, I want to tell and help me regarding one issue mam iam in love with my man since 3 yrs and we r in the same career stream of CA and our career is going good ...but we have only one issue age difference he is 2 yrs younger to me .....i told my parents firstly they didn't accept but ...they accepted but iam afraid of my man parents how will they react , will they accept love or not how to convince them pls guide me mam

Hello I am having a relationship with my boyfriend for 12 years. We both have been maintaining long distance for the last 6 years. He comes to visit once in a year. He is very caring and loves me a lot. His actions prove that no doubt. He has not completed his graduation yet but works for a very good company in usa and earns well. We both want to get married but my father is not agreeing to it. My father thinks without the degree he is nothing, he can never keep me happy and he also thinks these type of less educated people might even torture physically and mentally. My boyfriend’s father financial condition is not good as well which is creating another hindrance as my father thinks i have no financial security. His parents have no problem with the marriage. They all stay abroad and i think my father dont want me to settle there. He wants his daughter to stay close to him. Now, i am in a dilemma of what should i do so that my father agrees to the marriage. I have totally decided that he will be the one i will be getting married to. Also i dont want to hurt my father and break the ties with him. I want my father to approve the marriage and he whole heartedly accept this marriage. How should i proceed on with everything?

I'm 40 years old and my husband is 50 years old. We have been married for 12 years now. We have a son who is 8 years old. My husband has always been a workaholic, which I have known from the beginning and have accepted it. He is a doting father to my son. But for the past year, he seems to have changed a lot. He still continues to be a doting father, his behaviour with me has changed a lot. We hardly talk, except regarding matters related to our son. I have confronted him on this and he says he is very busy with work. He says nothing is bothering him. But it feels like that is not true. It feels like he is angry with me but denies it. I feel ignored and like he is avoiding me. How do I resolve this?

Hii anu This is rahul i am an entrepreneur recently i started talking to my cousin’s wife and develope a nice bonding with her. Although my cousin also knows we talk hours and hours on phone call. She always talks romantically or as in leg pulling. How to check what she wants from me since i am 7-8 years younger than her. How to check if she is physically attracted towards me or its just a time pass thing.

I am married for past 2 years it's an arranged marriage. On the first night of marriage my husband told me that he is in love with someone else I was fine with it then when I told my family they asked me to stop being a fool and try to build this marriage. In these 2 years I have been strictly checking his phone asking for his location as advised by his father still he has never touched me . We never talk and i have lost interest in trying after 1 year .I like living with him as I get freedom even though there is no relationship between us I live in joint family and if I go back and take divorce they will get me married again soon . Why should I do !? Should I leave him as he is still in love with someone. Or should I enjoy my freedom. I have asked him to not ask me anything about my life and i will never ask anything to him about his life... please help ?

I married four years back. I born broughtup in metrocity but i respect n follow my village roots n relatives. Now my MIL, Fil sil joint fmly. In taluka place. My mil second wifeof my fil. The problem started after my baby arrived. My MIL is very possessive to my husband, he has to follow her words. No cinema, hotel no new cloths even kirchief. He has to take her permission or inform her. Never went to outing as mil against everything. Problem started seriously when my started behaving negative towards me n my fathers family. Getting angry, throwing things, using absurd words , keeping recorder in my office bag, etc. I hv to cook food items for all before going to office. Never asked me to eat food. When i told this to my aunties n uncles n mamas, they confirmed my mil is controlling my husband through black magic, vamaachara pratice. When things got worst, i was forced to leave my in laws house, by my sil, mil. I am trying my best to keep in touch wd my hubby. But it is not going well. He takes sis n mom side. Now my baby is 2 yr old. All my relatives tried to make them understand but they are very rude, abuses everyone. Husband never spent or gave any money to me. Mil says no to do so. Sil not married, hv serious health issue. Says i dont marry, i will stay here only. Hubby not takling to me now. Please suggest how to solve this problem

Dear Anu, my only son (40), settled in USA, choose a girl of his choice and we agreed for their marriage in 2012. They are blessed with a son on 8 years. My daughter in law developed deep hate and repulsive feelings for my wife (65) is behaving extremely bad with my wife everytime, whenever we visit them. However she is just OK with me. My son is also observed all this but could not do any thing. My wife looks towards me for my intervention. What should I do in this situation? Kindly advice.

Hii Anu Krishna mam This is ritika I'm a law student I am in relationship with a boy since 7.5 year (he is student of computer science engineering) he always doubt on me i participated in moort competition although i was not told him about that he said he does not like that i am participating in any competition .he doesn't like then how can i participate in the competition Why he behaving like that he started abusing me mam he always think he is correct i am always wrong How can i deal with that if i telling him that it's good for my carrier then he was like how can your carrier bigger than relation Please help me I am literally devastated

Hello Mam. I just started engineering about 3 weeks ago (1st year). Till 12th, I studied in a boys school. But now as I am in college, I found a girl with whom I am in deep crush. But I feel very shy to talk with girls. Sometimes, I feel that the feeling which I have for her, she might not have the same for me. I don't understand how to approach her. What should I do?

In this generation which is better Nuclear Fly or Joint fly. I know both has its own pros and cons. But i need only one answer between them. Nuclear fly - couple with their children Joint fly - couple abd inlaws children

Hi, I am 25 years old and in a situationship with my colleague who is at Kolkata, she is the girl which i wanted but everything happened in our virtual convo work talks and then personal talks, then calls happened..we ve never met...but its there ki we love each other. But her 2 marriages already broke up due to some or the other reason and her parents are looking for another one..she is bengali i m maharashtrian..also we both love and respect our parents and afraid to tell them as it will deterior their image in society. She dont want any commitment she has told and she has lost faith and trust in god due to this she told she will compromise her marriage whoever her father will say...but this will neither of us keep happy...what to do here..

Hi I am very troubled with negative thoughts for quite sometime. Thoughts about putting someone down or any activity not going to go right or imaginary argumentative conversations leading to me showing down the other person keeps preoccupying my mind. Basically I am trying to show down the other person or situation and trying to win my hand or situation. It keeps me occupied majority of the time even when I am driving, taking a walk or running, eating, during meditation as well. For real events like if I have to go buy something, I imaging the seller cheating me, giving me faulty product or not charging me more etc., while in reality it may not happen and I will take a sigh of relief. I was not like this. I was a very happy, positive & optimistic as a child, throughout school, college, at work and used to be an inspiration to many. I think my ruminations have slowly commenced as I grew in age and slowly the positivity has lead to negativity & anger. I am in fifties now. I have been trying to practice Vipassana meditation, trying to get back to exercise but it is not helping. This has increase multifold as in my daily interactions, I always find people/friends poking fun of me and trying to put me down and I fight back even though knowing that it will be of no use. I am nice to my friends and people around me but they are not the same to me. Due to this I am beginning to reduce my interactions and get away from the abuse. Though I feel that I still look at everything in a positive light but the negative ruminations due to the everyday insults / slights have begun to bother me a lot and not able to have positive thoughts. Interaction with family is also suffering. Once upon a time I had many friends who I could talk to freely without prejudice but now I don't as most of them are not nice anymore even when I am very nice, positive & encouraging with them. I hope, I made some sense. Seeking help and guidance.

Hi ma'am, am 27 yr old guy [not yet married]. Recently i had a relationship with a married woman who has 3 kids and happily living with her husband, we were chatting regarding work and slowly started dating. It slowly became love between us and had a few physical relationship with her. Now she loves me so much that, am important than her husband and kids. Actually i dont have much of a problem her her. Whenever we fight,she begs me to talk with her, we meet, again we get wet. But my concern is, if i get married how should i end the relationship with her. But i feel having sex with her. I want sex. What should i do. Please help me

Hi.i am 39 years married man.with a 16 year son.i have a major issue with my wife for a couple of years.due to which I want to divorce her and marry a women.but to due to circumstances I am not been able to get things done properly.so my finished condition is not very strong n and no proper support from my family also I love a woman who is divorced and having a 9 year old daughter.and want to get married to her immediately.please advice on this.

I am working in Government organization and having friendship relation with a lady in the same organization for a long time we are always stand in need to each other but nowadays I am getting attracted towards her please advise can I advance or not.

I have a boyfriend of almost 3 years. We have been in a loving relationship. My boyfriend has a joint family and over this period, I have met his family twice or thrice for not more than 2 hours or so. They seemed to be decent overall. Since, we are planning to get married, me and my boyfriend decided to introduce our families with each other. On doing so, my parents found multiple points of differences in their culture and ours. They even warned me if I will be able to survive within his family and I feel that my parents are 100 per cent right about this. Although, they approved of my boyfriend. He loves me unconditionally. He highly values my parents which is why they like him but not his family. Should I marry him?

I’am 28 yrs old and an elder sister in my 4 member family. Financially we belong in upper middle class but my strict father raised us in middle class standard. After school i got my higher education from government college and around 24yr old i stopped asking money from my father. I asked only for basic minimum to cover my travel experience, that too killed me with shame and heavy burden on my chest. I worked really hard to crack SSC exam and in sep i joined my office after clearing exam by the grace of god. Now here comes my 1st salary and my younger brother demanded that i pay 799 for his phn recharge, which i declined and then later in the evening he is demanding that he is buying someone, he is in the shop so give me 200rp without any explanation of what he is buying. I don’t want to do that but now my mother is lecturing me about relations over money and that its ok, you are ought to give money to ur brother. Now m the villian only because I don’t want to pay for his expenses. M not against giving money in need but is it wrong for me to decline to become ATM for my younger brother? And what should i give him money for, it was my parents who sacrificed for me not him. What should i do when m being forced to treat him like a son by my mother rather than just a sibling?

Dear Gurus, I lost my wife in 2022 reason was unknown as biopsy was denied by in laws.We had long cold fight for 1year.In between I had relationship with 2 women.I was intimating with them simultaneously.she was knowing everything.when she died police and doctor said it was natural death. but I am feeling guilty as I think she lost her life because of me .I have started my new life but couldn’t able to forgot the pain of her.I am not feeling happy now since her lost.what should I do to get away with the guilt.

Hello .I am phd holder in finance .I am in relationship with my partner for 12 years .we were teenage friends and now adults .he has completed all his basic education .less educated than me .but has done MBA .he is working in a private job as creative head earning 15 lakh per annum .his family is broad minded not interfering at all .let us live whichever we want .only problem is our caste is different and their family is less well off .his brothers are also not earning so handsomely.only he is the one who is very progressive thoughtful and going good in life .we both are very spiritually inclined .we done many things together .our coordination is good .life goals matches .but I only feel uncomfortable with his brother not working so good and their status .what should I do ? Should I leave the boy even though he has been faithful and loving caring towards me just becoz his brothers are not doing good professionally .my partner has even bought a home for us in such a young age .without taking single penny from anyone .not even parents .he works harder to grow more in life for Us and himself .

Hi dear Anu Krishna Madam, I am a regular reader of your suggestions and answers on the questions of relationships since long. You are doing a great work to solve the complications of people's life. I have a long story actually, thanks to you in advance for your patience in reading this. I am male 36 YO, married and having a 4 YO daughter. Mandatory to mention here that I have mother who is dependent on me financially as my father passed away years ago. My relationship with my not been since starting as we got married in 2015. She is having serious anger issues and starts fighting on even little things. She is not very inclined to my mother and my younger sister who got married in 2018 and staying in UK with her husband. My wife is always complaining for one thing or the other. I am working for Central Government and earning well but she is never satisfied and keeps on complaining that my brother in law (sister's husband) is better husband or sometimes compare with other men. I always to fulfil all the requirements financially as well as taking care of baby, helping in household chores but she is never a happy woman. I send my mother and amount of Rs 10000 per month as no one is there to take care of her, mother stays at our hometown and I along with my wife and daughter stays at my work place city. I had to finance the marriage of my younger sister also as my father passed away when the both of us siblings were of age 7 and 3, this was told before my marriage to the family of wife as well as her that this will be required to be managed by me financially. But she complains of this also that I have spent this much money on my sister and mother. I am earning from a young age of 18 years but I don't find any peace at home. I am working like a machine, earning and then she is saying bad things to me all the time. She shouts loudly when fighting so that neighbours also listen and I find it very shameful. Her behaviour towards our daughter also changes frequently and she treats her according to her mood. My mother is not staying with us as when she stayed here for 6-8 months due to her health related issues, she started fighting with my mother also and created huge scenes every now and then. My wife's only attachment is with her own family, her mother, father, unmarried elder sister and unmarried elder brother. Her both the siblings couldn't find suitable matches for themselves, this is also creating a stress for my wife and she in the end throws her frustration on me. She and my self have both tried to commit suicide 2-3 times in the fight on different occasions. Last year she met a younger boy of age 26-27 and they both got attracted to each other. I was along with her and I noticed them smiling at each other at a function. I asked my wife and said to her that if you want to you can ask and talk to that boy. Means I told her to have an open marriage, in the hope that this will atleast make her realise that my husband is happy in my happiness. They both started talking and even met on 3-4 occasions and 2-3 of them secret meetings at our home (only i knew that I didn't pointed out) with physical intimacy. Now due to some unknown reason both my wife and that boy are not talking to each other. Her behaviour had been very rude since that boy came to her life and she never realised that my husband is not pointing out this infidelity also. Now, when that boy is also not there, her disrespect towards me is increasing day by day. She starts fighting even at streets and shouting loudly. I have also given a thought for legal separation but due to my daughter I am not going ahead. I am in a very complex situation and don't understand what to do. How i can make her understand that relationship runs on two people. Please guide me further. One more thing to mention here she is not interested to go for councelling or anything like that. Thanks in advance. Regards.

Hi i am age 47 my wife is not interested physically infact when i tried becoming cozy with her she started interaction related to holiday diwali etc it seems she doesn't want to have my feeling keeps on playing candy crush or always in mobile phone during lunch or dinner when we are together now it seems conversation from my end everytime not possible please guide me out

Hello Mam, My age is 48 years and i have one son aged 17 years and i am single son of my parents ,one and half year back my wife expired and upon insisted by my parents and close relatives i got remarried and she has one girl aged 8 years, after passing of six months she has started showing her true colors and it has become very difficult for me to continue and i want to get rid of this . Please guide me what should i do now.

Hi, My husband doing business. They are 2 sons to their parents. My husband is older one, both are married. We live in bengaluru n my in-laws live with younger son in native. They help is younger sin financially in all aspects like bought tractor to him n all. But my husband studied on loan n he paid installments. He gave all his pf money to his brother marriage. And after that during covid time give his profit from business(resigned job) to his parents for developing agricultural land. While doing job he took personal loan to construct home on native, n buy all the household things un his salary. Till today he only giving money to majority of things. Now my husband got some financial problems in his business so asked money with his parents, they are not ready to give. So he stopped asking them but asking me to ask my parents, what shall I do? My husband will give money to his family when he have money but keep distance when he don't have money. How to handle my in laws and his younger brother to stop them asking money from my husband. And how to take financial help from them.

I have toxic household environmental.my parents always fight and it's not good for my mental health. My mother never listens she always fights with everybody

No sexual relation for more than 3+years we have a daughter of 10+ and our marriage relation is of 17+ years what to do i am totally frustrated please guide

Hi Ma'am , I am 35 + yr and married. We have been married for almost 3 yrs now and we do not have any kids . My wife she was my GF and we had a relationship of almost 6 yrs before we got married. In this 6 yrs we broke up and then we patched up as well. Almost around the time we were supposed to get married,I knew that she was not right for me as I am very emotional,and seek someone who understands me. She is clearly not an emotional person and she is very mean and rude. Somehow I got convinced to get married to her.Now she is completely an unmanageable person.She says things I cannot bear at all and I see that these things come from her family as her mother never respected her father and it's an absolute chao in her family with sister behaving 10 times more worse with her parents. Right from starting of the marriage I knew that this would not work and anyhow we went on and on and now we purchased a property as well on both our names. The problem is she humiliates me like nothing and she does not trust me at all. From my side there is no love remaining towards her and everything single time I just think of separation. I lost both my parents and I have an elder brother who is also dependent on me. He stays apart from me. Now if I get separated then how can manage the property which we both together and also I will be absolutely alone. Deep down I am not happy at all. Please help

Hi im a 40 year old man engaged. We have dated for 1.6 months and then got engaged its been 3 months now. My fiance sometimes acts very weird. I am left on unread on whtsapp quite often. She has another phone that she uses where she gives out her number to guys that supposedly force her too. She says she has a difficulty saying no. I have caught her previously deleating texts and calls. She avoid all types of physical contact with me as much as she can. She use to say that she is not sure if im useing her for sex. Now i have proposed and we are engaged. Both our families know about us and are ok. Now that were engaged she says the actual reason "i dont like anything physical with you is because uou are a smoker amd your mouth smells." She spends the weekeends at my house. But there is nothing physical beween us. When we go out she acts like were a couple madly in love. When its just us shes busy on social media scrolling etc. when ever she goes out for wedding or functions i have found pictures with guys that she has tried to deleate from her phone with their arm around her waist . She blames me that i am insecure. I ask her why is she letting some random guy get so close to her. She says she is part of the brides team N thats how it is. She has been slected to be a bridesmaid a few times. Am i being paranoid or is something off. I have tried talking to her about all these and other issues Some how its always my fault or there is a reason that i dont understand. Please help i want an unbiased opinion on wht shld i do ? Talking is not helping And im scared since she is not from a well to do family she is only looking at me as somekind of finacial security

I have a very happy family and one daughter pursuing graduation and son at standard 8. Although I don't have any big issue at my home but my testosterone levels are pretty high. Therefore I am attracted towards ladies and unless ladies offer themselves I never ever have asked anyone for any favour. Since my marriage I have extra marital relation with three different persons. All the time I have shared my things with my wife. She hardly accepts and after lot of persuasion she gets calm. Since my wife has menopause at the age of 40 and she does not display a very happy mood I am always attracted towards outsiders. Even I wanted her to allow me with one of her schoolmate who also have shared her with me. But my wife became furious and has now threatened to legal course of action. What to do? Although I know my desires are already on a negative platform, even then how to control biological requirement?

Hello Madam, i am 38 year married women, having a 15year 1 kid boy ( but my husband not loving me even he is not talking with me from the last 8 years but we r leaving together due to our son, he fulfilled the need with the responsibilities of our home and our son but as wife he is not talking and even not caring to me ,but before 2 years back one married man come to talk with me he is my official colleague and we both attached a lot with each other after some days he proposed me and said that he is loving me many years ago but he thought that i am very Strick person will not response him, but now he is saying that he wants me as a life partner me also every time he treat me like a wife very much caring and loving nature now i introduce him to my family as a friend and family members also very happy with taking to him, we are from 2 year together is it good or what should i do further?

Dear Anu, my wife was hopitalised about 15 days due to thyroid and knee pain during covid. 2021. after that six months once consult with doctor and advised to take tablets. now she is o.k. her age 65. my age 70. prior to hospitalisation we both have well relationship and she likes to have sex. but after dischared from hospital she won't like to share me in bed. Now a days she moves here and there and also gone shop for purchase. but she never allowes me to touch her lips and her private parts. In these situations how can I control my feelings ?. Please give your valued sugguestions

Mam i am a 52 year ols women i have never had a secure relationship only who wanted to have s.Marriage in proposals too dint work for me. At late 40 age i met a guy it was all good till start 1 year but since 3 years we just fight my fault to as i have no family no friends and all i have to look after 2 aged parents and i am deep involved my life is just that. This relationship is good to talk on phone as all i do is talk my problems 24 by 7 365 days which i understands upsets him. But i see no effort too from him for meeting planning dates and if i do i pay for it all he never pays . I lost interest felt disappointed after going on saying he never tries to make plans talk future his family finance. I am not sure what i should do stay or live my life alone which i was always doing.

Hi, I am a 36yo guy. Married and have 2 beautiful kids. I am a naturally happy person in life and have achieved reasonable success through my hard work. From last 3 years i am in love with a married girl who works at an office near my workplace. We two believe that we are best suited for each other in every aspect i.e. mental, emotional and physical. We share a great chemistry that we never felt with our respective spouses. We decided that we both cant leave our spouses because of our kids. But very often she keeps on getting crazy and tortures and taunts me that i love my wife more and doesnt give value to her. She is mostly unhappy about this in her life and many times abuses me when she sees that i am a naturally happy and content person. I have even told her that if she wants we can take divorce from our spouses and move-in together. But she never accepts that also and keeps on making my life hard. But i do believe that we both love each other like crazy and my sexual life with her is just out of this world. I have a very high libido and she satisfies me like no other girl. My question is how can i make her sane and make her trust me that i am more inclined towards her?

Hi Anu, I have been reading since long the advices you give to others expecting that there can be an identical issue which i am suffering, i am 48yrs and my wife 42yrs married for 22yrs & having grown up children, over period of time my wife has become more dominating expecting me to listen and follow everything what she says, everything was going fine for until last six years when she was following me as a dutiful wife, since last 6-7yrs she is disinterested in sex also, i sit and speak with her trying to address all the issues, but things get back to ZERO within days, she has turned very short tempered and egoistic, shouting and using foul language in rage at times, we both are highly educated and give lectures at college with limited reasonable income, the problem is she compares her life to others and disturbs our life, ours is a marriage against parents so both the side relatives are little indifferent and we are not extroverts or that persons who are outgoing to change all that, we just lead our life within ourselves and try to help the relatives whenever they come to us. My question is that is it not cruel for a wife to deprive the husband of sex and develop unreasonable expectations comparing the lifestyles of others. when at peace my wife suggests that i can look outside for sex and she is ok with it but i don't believe in it and in her words, at times in rage she keeps asking for divorce uttering foul language, i keep reminding her that emotions, anger and rage shall only aggravate the issues we should know what we actually want and seek it speaking to each other, i feel that my wife doesn't know what she wants from herself or from me or from life, Anu, Is this all that pre-menopause frustrations which is building up or is it some mental issues which are surfacing due to negligence from me or our relatives? Please suggest? Thank you

Hi, i m married and i have a kid . my wife works for one of the companies in Bangalore. the problem is that she wants me to have sex every day. but i m not able to. i love her so much. but i m upset with myself that i cant do that every day.

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Good evening.i am married for 15: years to a man against my parents wishes we don't have kids.5months back i came to know he has a link with his assistant since some time.i asked them.they asked me for proofs.i don't have.i asked him to send her off.he refused.i am totally disturbed.please advice whether or not to continue with my husband.thank you.

I need help to be ok with my self image...I am a working women with kids , have hair thinning since age of 22 years ( now in my early 40s)and was fed up with the way I looked due to penetrating eyes of anyone I met...Some were so rude that while talking they would continuously stare at my head and all eyes were like seem to be asking why you are like that... So since last change of place I started using hair patch to hide my bald patch and it enhanced my look ...but now the problem is social media...I kind of ignore new friend request anticipating gossips about my look ...may be I am not ok with 2 identities I am having at different place...though I started uploading my new picture with good hair in social media but still let new people know how I looked earlier by accepting their friend request does not feel ok. What should I do to feel free of these feelings. Thanks

Sir mera bf Mujhse baat nhi krna chahta h q ki main usko bina batae bate delete kr di thi aur usko pata chl gya h lekin main kuch glt baat nhi ki hu kisi se bhi usko lg rha h main jhuth boli hu usko ab bol rha h ki main feel nhi kr skta tumhare liye jo pahle krta tha mera log distance relationship h kya kru kuch baat kr rhi hu aur baat kharab ho ja rhi Hai hum dono ke bich me main bahut jayada pyar krti hu ???? usse

I am 48 years old woman and married for 11 yrs with a son of 9 yrs . my husband changed his gender 5 yrs ago without my and family consent but discloses it only 3 yrs back. i moved from my inlaws place with my son. none of us filed divorce.what should i do.what should be the terms and conditions if i file divorce. and how should i deal with my son..is this will have an impact on him.please advice

Hello.. I am 44 years old and been happily married for 15 years with 14 years old son. My wife left home alone after some misunderstanding and the she left kid with me and after 02 month she sent me a divorce notice on the ground of drinking and smoking. kindly advice me what should i do

Hi, I am not yet mairred. I used to like a man and after a month we decided to get married. He was of my caste so I thought my parents won't deny this mairrage. I used to talk to and wanted to let him know everything about my past so that we can built a strong root of our relationship. I spoke every detail of my past life to him. Then before he proposed me for mairrage I went for a vacation with my male friend to dehradun. I didn't tell him that day as he didn't proposed me till that day then why would I tell everything about me to anyone. He was noone to me at that time. After that he came to visit me in Delhi and on the same when he was on train a friend of mine along with his fiance came to meet me after a very long time. I asked him and he didn't denied. After returning home he blocked me. I cried and cried, called multiple times but he didn't received my call. Even I went to his location and waited for almost 3 hr but he didn't came. Then I asked my sister to call him. Then he talked to me but he said me so much of harsh and vulgar words that I went in shock. I cried a lot but he went on humiliating me. But somehow I convinced him to stay with me. I never talked to that friend ever. Then I told my parents about him that I want to get married with this men. Being a girl's father my father enquired about him by being annonymous. And trust me noone has said anything good about him. Later on we get to know that his father has a murder case on him of his brother in law. But then I wanted to get married. Finally my parents agreed only for my happines. Meanwhile I was never being respected by him. He always doubt me, humiliate me, abuse me mentally and physically, and when I was like I don't want to be with you he used to say sorry and begged me to be with him. He even used to restrict to visit my uncle aunty. His mother wants used to defend him and never used to make him realise that he was wrong. Then before engagement we went to Kolkata to buy dress. Yes one more thing I have informed him on the very first day that I used to drink and smoke occassionally. So whenever he used to visit me he always wanted to drink with me whether I want it or not. He always used to abuse me and humiliate me in front of everyone after drinking, so after a period of time I used to avoid drinking. Then he used to fight with me for that also that why will you not drink. In kolkata the same thing happen. We stayed there for 3 days and he was convincing to go to club from the very first day but I refused. On 3rd he hit me. After engagement his family asked for dowry. After a lot of dealing my parents agreed for an amount. But I felt betrayed. I stopped talking. After after when I initiated the conversation he picked up a fight and said he won't marry. I tried to convince. But when everyone was blaming me then I broke my silence and said everything about him to my parent. But he manipulated everything and made me villain. My parents want me to get married as the society will insult our parents. I am getting married in November only for my parents but I have already made up my mind that I'll divorce him after 1 year of mairrage and will live my life alone. Am I thinking right? What should I do?

I am not at all happy at work. There is a lot of politics going on. I haven't been promoted for 8 years and I am working like a slave even during weekends and holidays. I don't understand how to fix this. Please help.

Hello I have a strained relationship with my parents. I am 44 years old woman and married late. And now have twins who are 7 years old. Before entering this marriage, I was working and paid 50% of the earnings to my parents. And tried managing with rest 50% by paying home loan, food and others. It was very difficult but at times, i couldnnot manage on my own as the finances were tight and couldnnot save anything. Later, I took a break from work due to my love marriage and had to settle in a rural place where job opportunities were unavailable. I started a school but things did not go well and had to shut down due to covid. My money which I received from PF, gratuity all had vanished due to the school and my husband business also got into troubles and has no support from families. We were almost on roads and did not have any help. It was difficult to manage with twins. Then, i started with 5 freelancer jobs and made one lakh a month which was needed to support my family. In the interim, i got a good job at Chennai and moved with my husband. He too got a job in a start up and moved with me. His being a work from home could manage my twins while they were at home. While we started earning, again my parents started asking for money and I stopped supporting them, as my sister had started giving them money every month while i got married. My sister is well settled and runs a company abroad. I had got into a job and just settling down and did not want to take pressure again. I have my children and need to save for our retirement too. So, i started saving penny by penny. And due to not supporting my parents they do not talk to me at all. I too stopped as I thought it's better to be far with peace of mind rather than have frequent heart aches. Husband side story is that..after business got lost due to covid, his mother filed case against us stating that my husband brought loss to the business and need to step away and filed an injunction case against us. So, we could neither go to our property or restart business. As such, the case is moving and no relationship with my inlaw. But I always feel when children have holidays ...and children have been unaware of the relationship of grandparents and they yearn to be with them. They are growing up without any love of grandparents and they seem to understand. At time, I feel to help my family but I am scared as they will start squeezing me totally and I will be left with no savings. At this age, I have started to save and need it for our future. Am I doing it right

My wife passed away 2 months ago.i find it very hard to carry on with my life without her

Since from last two months, I'm talking with a guy, whom I met on dating app. We haven't met in real yet. We both are different and because of our differences we often ended up doing arguments. And sometimes, we do hurt each other. Am confused whether arguing with each other is okay. Since from starting we knew we are opposite, still he kept on holding. I do wonder what if things materialise between us, how will I deal with all those arguments?

Dear Sir/ Madam, If an umarried man have live in relationship with another unmarried woman. And a child is bornout of this physical relationship, who will be the right guardians and who will bear the expensies of such child? In another case. And what will be your answer in case both the live in relationship partners are already maried but their spouses are different. I had posted this question some 8 months ago but nobody replied. Please do the needful so that I can have a clear viwe on these two points

I am now 52, i have problem correct at 3 am in (night), i cannot control. My part get hard like rod. I haven't made relationship with my wife since 12 years, after she delivered 2 childerns. I cannot control on my sex after 15 days i need. I have one partner but she is not available aways . I want to reduce my sex. what to do.

I am 29 years old man we have maid who is elder than me and married. I am getting attracted towards her. I want to get into relationship with her how to proceed