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Hi health expert, I have been struggling with severe health anxiety for many years now. I am currently in my mid-40s and I think this started after a traumatic experience around 10–12 years ago. We had gone on a family vacation and shortly after returning my uncle fell seriously ill. After diagnosis we found out he had advanced stage cancer and we lost him within a few months. The shock of that experience affected me deeply and ever since then I have lived with an intense fear of cancer and serious illness. Even small things like a stomach ache, a pimple, swelling, fever, or any unusual sensation trigger extreme fear in me. I immediately start thinking the worst and it causes sleepless nights and constant worry. This has seriously affected my quality of life. Along with the anxiety, my OCD symptoms also become very intense during these phases. It feels like there’s a voice in my head constantly telling me to perform certain rituals like praying immediately, drinking water at a specific moment, not switching off the AC, or doing random actions “or else” something bad will happen. It becomes mentally exhausting, and at times I struggle to function normally in my daily routine. I have consulted several psychiatrists and psychologists over the years, but I still feel unhappy and stuck. I am reaching out here to ask if anyone has experienced something similar or found anything that genuinely helped whether coping techniques, home remedies, calming practices, or anything else that brought some peace and stability. Basically I am looking for some home remedy and also want to check is this something rare or they are people who goi through this.

My husband is having an affair with a woman from his gym for over a year now. I started suspecting it when I started noticing small changes in him. He is 47 and he suddenly became very conscious about his looks. I pushed him to join a gym and soon he started spending extra time. I helped him buy new clothes but now he is glued to his phone. I thought he was focusing on fitness and health. Slowly, he started ignoring me. Our talks reduced, he would get irritated if I asked him something. He started dressing up and hiding stuff from me. When I confronted him, he admitted he had become close to a younger woman from the gym. But what hurt the most was when he said that being with her makes him feel younger. I was shocked he said this after 17 years of our marriage. We have a 15 year old daughter. This woman from the gym is 23. I have seen her on Instagram. Does this mean our marriage is over? Should I speak to the woman as well?

Hello I am 49 years old male I don't know if I am suffering from high level anxiety or not sure what it is I am also suffering from high blood pressure and high blood sugar level but unable to control and get medical check up due to financial issues. I am unemployed for almost 2 years and I think of some incident and as if I am having a argument with argument and cannot conclude that imagination until I get exhausted and sweat. especially while sleeping then I imagine other incident which makes me really talk to myself whisper loudly and I don't know why it keeps happening to me and also have habit of looking at the mirror a lot I really don't know what it is it how to become normal.

My partner and I are very different when it comes to hobbies and interests. For example, I enjoy going out, exploring new places, meeting people, and trying new activities, while my partner prefers staying at home, watching movies, or just relaxing quietly. In the beginning, these differences didn’t bother me much, but now I sometimes feel like we don’t have enough in common to spend quality time together. There are moments when I want to do something exciting, but I end up going alone or compromising, and that makes me wonder if this gap will grow bigger over time. At the same time, I also understand that everyone has their own personality and preferences. So I’m confused is it actually okay for partners to have completely different hobbies and interests, or is having common activities important for a strong and long-term relationship?

Whenever I plan a family trip or even a simple one-day outing, my wife somehow ends up suggesting a temple visit as the main destination. I understand faith is important to her, and I respect that completely, but honestly I get a little frustrated because almost every trip starts feeling more like a religious visit than an actual break or vacation. Sometimes I just want to relax, explore new places, enjoy food, nature, or spend light-hearted time together without following a temple-focused schedule all the time. Even if I suggest a hill station, beach, resort, or short leisure drive, she'll usually try to include a famous temple nearby and make that the priority. After a point, I've started losing excitement while planning trips because I already know where the conversation will go. I don't want to hurt her feelings or disrespect her beliefs, but I also wish my idea of a relaxing holiday was considered equally important. How do couples balance different expectations like spirituality versus leisure when planning family outings?

Recently a new girl joined our office - she's around 25, very stylish, confident, and has that typical Gen Z vibe. Ever since she joined, the whole office atmosphere feels different. Suddenly many people are finding reasons to come to our department just to talk to her or casually hang around near her desk pretending they have some work. Even some colleagues who normally never visit our section have started appearing regularly. What I've also noticed is that many colleagues and like-minded ladies in the office have become very attached to her socially - lots of gossip, laughing, group conversations, and attention around her all the time. Personally, this whole behaviour around one person feels a bit irritating and immature to me. At the same time, somewhere I also feel odd because she doesn't really respond much to my jokes or conversations the way she does with certain others. It almost feels like she selectively interacts only with people she considers 'high class' or matching her vibe. I know nobody is obligated to connect with everyone in office, but why do situations like this sometimes affect us emotionally even when we know it's not a big issue logically? Is it more about ego, attention, workplace dynamics, or feeling socially ignored?

My son's girlfriend wants to separate him from us. He is 21 and is just out of college but she is making him dance to her tunes. I usually don't interfere in my son's relationships until he tells me about it or wants to discuss something. A few months ago he said he met this girl on a dating app and since then he has been acting all weird. He's started smoking, going to late night parties and when I intervened, he decided to move out. He wants me to sign his rent agreement which I have put on hold because he does not have a job yet. I am a single mother and I am not ready to pay for this. Now he has blocked me and is staying with this new girl and her friends. Should I be worried or wait for him to come back when he feels right to talk to me? I hope he doesn't end up doing something illegal to make money. I don't want to lose my son. What am I doing wrong? How can i fix this?

Iam a girl we are charys my boy is SC we are about 8 years ago relationship first my boy proposed me after I Complete my intermediate then first I said to my brother only he proposed me I also have crush on him if I want to marry anyone that's the person like him only I really respects him like I said to my brother .then my brother says no ma in our family we can't accept that intercaste so you have feelings on him I know but you have to live and do focus on your carrier he said tome. But I can't when Iam chatting with my boy him I avoid him and I says forget me but he says I cant live without you. And when Everytimes Iam chatting with my boy I said to my brother and beaten up by my brother . And exact 3 years back my parents are searching I feel my body is shivering with matches so I can't control my self so I decided to say to my parents but my parents how can receive I can't know so Iam full of fear full off tears and at a time my love so I open up to my parentsI love someone he is in SC caste but we don't do without your acceptance we have to marry with your acceptance only is said my parents then my parents says we are die because of you our family respects our image what will happen we die they says like that... So next again and again after I take some months time I try again and again I beaten up by my parents but they can't accept our love and says they die . They still searching matches for me , but Iam still loving my boy there is no help Iam 26 age I don't have any job my family don't agree do job Iam in home and my boy is doing job private ..I ask him once to ask my parents about our marriage he says Like this with his small job how can I ask ma ...if I ask and I ask give time to carrier to good settle this like my boy said to me. But Iam again and again tried but my parents are says wee are die. And search matches to me I can't handle my situation ...my boy now says understand our parents dont agree for marriage how much he loves me support me I know and how he stands for me in my low I know. Now because of my parents he is replied me slowly but Iam feeling pain

Madam Ji since last 3 yrs meand my wife r not on good terms hardly talk each other i feel she has go phobia for me it gives me stres pl advise Thanks

My mother-in-law is making my life miserable. She is a widow. Whenever my husband and I spend time together, she creates small issues or finds reasons to interrupt us. She will suddenly need help with something or start an argument. It's like we rarely get time as a couple at home. Because of this we are constantly fighting. Please help.

My wife is a homemaker and doesn't value money. Since I married her, i have always tried to keep her happy but she insists spending on maids, shopping and kitties. I never hesitated whenever she asked for money, I have always provided it. But now our children are 12 and 14 and I need to save for their coaching and future. My wife thinks marrying me was a mistake because I am not able to meet her high standard of living. I earn Rs 60,000 out of which 20k goes on rent and 20K on my children's education. With the remaining amount, i pay EMIs and other household expenses. She is not willing to adjust. What should I do? I am very stressed.

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I wrote my problem sometimes back Problem was the indifferent attitude of my wife and only son at my old age. You suggested me to adjust. So I gave most of my property to my wife and son and moved to old age home. I started my life my scratch and worked to create wealth and my own house. Today I have old age health problems and old age home treats me well for which I pay to them. I'm still earning my stock business. Now my wife reqests me to join her. I'm happy with my fate but I spent nearly 50 years with her and hence in dilemma. Please suggest with your opinion.

I'm a 53 year old married man living with two sons. In 2020, my wife found that I am having an affair and left for her parent's place. We were never compatible and having children was her choice. I had told her before our marriage that I am not the husband she was hoping me to be. She chose to be a homemaker and insisted on having kids. Before marriage, I had also mentioned to her that I am seeing someone who was going through her own separation, but she said she wanted to marry me for her own freedom. Now she's living with her parents and we have no contact whatsover. We haven't spoken in all these years but she doesn't want to consent to divorce. I have singlehandedly taken care of my sons in these 6 years. She speaks to her sons when they are outside, and they told me she wants them to stay with me because she doesn't want to work or provide for them. I am okay to provide alimony but she doesn't want to sign the divorce papers. My lawyer has tried to speak with her but she wants to stay married so that I can suffer. What kind of punishment is this? What should I do?

My parents are against my divorce. I am married for 17 years but we have been living as stranger for the past 7 years. We had an arranged marriage and we don't get along. Initially I thought it was because we had a 6 year age gap. But most days, it has been rough. No respect from in-laws, constant arguments and fighting. Husband wanted me to stay away for some time but I realised he is just finding grounds for divorce from my end. He doesn't want to give alimony and wants full custody of our 14 year old son. I have mortgaged my gold to buy this 3bhk house but he dismisses my contribution because the house is in his mother's name. She is still alive. My mental peace is destroyed. But i want to do the right thing for us and my son. Anu mam, do you think I should live separate and give up my rights to this house and my son? If he files for divorce will he have a better advantage than me? Please guide what to do.

I am very stressed about career because very confused in it. Fear of failure are front of me and I always took back side

How can one married woman destroy another's life? My husband has been spending more time with his married office colleague whose children have grown up and live abroad. Since I am a homemaker, whenever they meet at our home or during public events when I am around, they talk in riddles that only they seem to understand and laugh about. It used to be annoying and I have also expressed to both of them about how I feel. But I am never taken seriously. They even hug each other so intimately that I feel like the third wheel in their relationship. My husband never appreciates me, he even refuses to acknowledge my feelings. He thinks I am some illiterate homemaker but I had a well paying job. I used to lead a team and I know I am not overreacting. I can tell when a colleague becomes more than a coworker. I can tell that they are having an affair from the way she holds my husband's arm. I am tired of confronting and I don't want to lose my sanity trying to defend my respect. I am just waiting for my daughter to complete her board exam so I can talk to her about this. Anu mam, I need your help. How can I seek divorce while still keeping my dignity?

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Hi Ma'am, I am 37 and my wife is 5 years younger to me. We are married for last 7 years. My wife has been talking to a male friend of hers which I have been not liking and I had also discussed with her couple of times. Despite that she use to say he is just a good friend and don't think so much. I use to believe her. Recently I found out after reading her Whatsapp message that she has been cheating on me since a year. She has also got in physical relationship with him couple of times. We are in middle of planning a baby through IUI process and all these things have come in front of me. I have confronted her now and have said that I have read all her messages and she is speechless. She knows she is at fault she is scared. We have not been talking to each other since last night. Kindly advice what step should I take ahead. She is pleading me to not to stop the IUI procedure and wants to try for a baby. I am completely shattered now and have no willingness to do anything now. I have always loved her. I still feel emotional for her that what will happen to her life if I give her divorce and when both the families will get involved. Her family is very orthodox family. They wont even accept her. Many things going on in my mind and hard to pen down everything. Kindly advice what is your suggestion in this scenario.

My BF is a stalker. It was fun when he used to stalk me because I thought he was genuinely interested in knowing more about me, but now I see him stalking profiles of other women. When I caught him, he dismissed saying Instagram suggested these profiles. I have known him for 4 years but this is one behaviour I am not comfortable at all. What should I do? Should I report him, break up with him? He hasn't misbehaved with anyone but my friend told me that he sent her a request to follow on Instagram. I did my own investigation and found that he has another account on which he follows only women. I am honestly very confused and shocked.

I have been married for 24 years, and ours was a love marriage. We have two sons who are now grown up, and for most of our married life, things were stable and peaceful between us. Over the years, like many couples, we got busy with responsibilities, work, children, and daily life. Slowly our emotional and physical connection started fading without us even realising it. For the past few years, especially after our children became independent, I have started feeling a sense of emptiness in our relationship. We live in the same house but hardly talk beyond basic daily conversations. There is no warmth, no affection, and we have not been physically close for a long time. Recently, when I tried to initiate closeness or even simple gestures like holding her hand, she seemed uncomfortable like I am some stranger. I was very hurt but I didn't react. I still care deeply for her and want to rebuild our bond. I don’t know if she has emotionally moved on, lost interest in the relationship, or if this is just a phase many long-term marriages go through. How can I win her back in my life?

My son doesn't respect me at all. At first I thought he was just being a kid and ignored his tantrums. Now he is 11 and back answers me in front of elders and guests. I have never laid my hands on him but i have scolded him enough, made him understand when he was a child. He used to be scared of his father earlier but now he says do what you want. I don't know what is wrong with him. Things at home haven't been good either. We are going through some financial issues due to which we have to cut down expenses. I can't afford an expensive counsellor. The school counsellor said it could be teen rage and it may get better when he grows up. I am not convinced. What should I do to help?

Me and my wife are just living together being married for 15 years with 13 year old daughter, intimacy has become zero. Even if I touch her by mistake she doesn't like it. Though we sleep on same bed, we do nothing now. Just yes no, kind of conversations. I do not agree with something is taken personally, telling no is becoming a pain. Telling yes then I would be doing it with low interest. She even planned vacation with my daughter without involving me. Marriage is without sex, naughty talks, role plays, touch. I feel we are on verge of heading for divorce!! Talking to her more than 5 mins leads to some or rather irritation. Silently suffering.

My husband suspects I am having an affair with my neighbour. When he is away, sometimes my neighbour helps me fix things at home because his wife and I are good friends. When i make something nice, I offer it to him as well. His wife also comes home and we chat during lunch or have coffee together. But he chooses to only talk about my friendship with the male neighbour. I always leave the door open to avoid any suspicion but this has been leading to daily arguments at home. How do I fix this situation without hurting my friendship?

Can a marriage last without s*x? My husband and I haven't been intimate since our second son was born. It was a difficult pregnancy. I was 34 and was advised bed rest. We were so busy managing two kids and finances that we had no time or desire for each other. We shared one bedroom with the kids who are now grown up. Both are abroad, they rarely visit home. Our lives have been dull since both children left home. My husband goes out for a walk, watches TV, spends time on the phone, goes to the market etc...but there is nothing physical. I am 53, he is 59, retired last year. He mostly sleeps on the sofa I sleep on the empty bed. Is this the end of our marriage?

I think my husband takes me for granted. We have been married for 21 years. I was working until last year but took a sabbatical to recover from a hip surgery. While he was mostly away travelling for work, I raised two kids, one is in first year of college, the other is in 11th standard. Now that I am out of work and recovering, I am noticing how he is mostly complaining that I am not contributing enough and he is feeling the pressure. What about the 21 years I managed everything -- my job, home, kids, his ailing parents? He hasn't given me a single compliment but there is a limit to how much you can live with a man who doesn't value what you do for him and the family. What do you think i should do?

My fiance broke up with me after our engagement. He just messaged me that it's not going to work out. It was a silly argument between our parents about some pre-wedding ritual but he thinks that I don't respect his parents enough. Isn't marriage also about equality? If I don't want to be a part of some stupid ritual which I don't believe in, shouldn't he respect that? They could have discussed this before the engagement which they didn't. He used to be a reasonable guy when we dated but ever since his parents got involved he is acting all different with me. His parents don't let him talk to me any more because they want me to apologise, which is ridiculous. I don't understand how to resolve this. I don't want to miss out on a good partner because of some stupid disagreement over a ritual I don't care about. What should I do?

My wife has been stalking her ex on Instagram. First she said she wanted closure. They met last year over coffee and she said she felt lighter. I asked if she felt anything and she confirmed that there was no feelings. But now they are talking day and night on Whatsapp. Should I worry or talk to my wife about it?

Hello I am married for last 11 years and we have a 9 year old son. We have seen many ups and downs during the early year of our marriage, in our relationship and in economically as well. I even left my work after my son was born, spent all my savings fulfilling his and my wishes. My husband only use to provide us with the basics. We live with our in laws. My father in law has all the control our the money we earn in our business and my mother in law wants to control the whole house. So I limited myself to my room to avoid any arguments. My husband promised me monthly allowance before I got pregnant for the first time. Which I never received. Now I started working again and I am earning well, I finally feel happy again. But now he started asking for second child. Which I actually never want. Because nothing changed from his side. He doesn't provide us with much, we need a bigger house if we have another kid as I can't raise Children with so much age gap in one room as our son still sleeps with us. He only say it will happen eventually but that is what he said even before. I do want a second child but I know I will never be happy with it. Because I will have to leave work and he will not provide us that well. Kindly suggest me what to do

I have an 8 yr old son who gets distracted while I am talking to him. He will pretend like he is listening but do his own thing which I find very disrespectful. He will even make faces when I look away mimicking me. When I am serious and he does this, I get very upset. My parents feel we are being too gentle with our son. What can I do to ensure he listens (not obeys) to me when I speak?

Thanks for your response. I had consulted a psychiatrist few years back but her prescibed medicines did not help. My wife used to feel sleepy and her hands used to go numb. Also the doctor had prescribed a shock treatment which I did not agree. Nevertheless I will again go for an experienced doctor for couple therapy together. My wife does not like even when we consult female doctors. I stay in Thane, Maharashtra, do you recommend any MALE doctors in this place who I can approach. Please advise & Thanks once again !

Hi i m loving a divorced man and my parents are against it and they are emotionally blackmailing me and making me feel guilt and shame . I m anxious and stressed about this . How can I overcome this?

good morning, a woman 40 yrs old having 15 yrs child came to know about her husband affair after which she again came in contact with me and told me that she loves me above everything wants to be with me but not in a position to give our relation a name so is it worth continuing a relation like these and what exactly love means in such type of relationship.

Hi, My Marriage Ends in 1 month after marriage and mutual Divorce was Completed without any strong reasons, Wife went to her home by giving their own reasons like compactability issue.In court and during Divorce process she fully cooperated and we are good friends during the court process also.Divorce was completed,but now she is in contact with me regularly and almost everyday calls me.by her conversations,it seems she is very much regreting for ending the marriage .i don't know why she is in contact with me.please suggest what i need to do?i am very much confuse.

My child is 13 years old and studies in school. Over the past few weeks, I have noticed small but clear changes constant smiling while looking at the phone, waiting eagerly for school in the morning, and repeatedly mentioning the same classmate during conversations. Homework now takes longer, marks have slightly dropped, and the class teacher has shared that my child seems distracted in class. When I gently try to ask what’s going on, my child becomes shy, avoids eye contact, and changes the topic, making me unsure how much to intervene. As a parent, I feel confused and worried, but I don’t want to scold or break my child’s trust.

Hey mam!! Mera 7 years ka relationship hai or muje pichle 2 saalo se overthinking anxiety ho rahi thi ki mere parents humari intercaste marriage ke liye mangenge ya nhi abhi kuch jada hi anxiety hone lagi thi to mene apki maa se bata diya unhone bhaut hi negative answer diya tab se meri anxiety or bhi jada badh gayi muje thoughts aate h ki ab breakup kar lena chahiye parents nhi manenge ye galat hai breakup kar lena chahiye sab end kar dena chahiye

I'm male on the verge of completing 32 years ... Doing currently md from prestigious medical college and completed my mbbs from topmost medical institute in india... I'm into relationship for almost about 5 years when se was 20 and I was 27 ... I know there is a age gap of 7 years but we never felt that there is a age gap between us.. currently her age is 25 years ... We both loved each other ... Her parents is very conservative and from orthodox family .. i know that majority have those mindset and I can't blame it by saying derogatory words like narrow mindset and very cheap thinking even in my family some members have conservative mindset ... So when I don't call my family members by using derogatory then why I am to use cuss words about them also... Khair ... Baat yeh tha ma'am aapse ki mere andar hichkhichat bilkul nhi h lekin bs thoda sa nervousness feel ho rha ki apni baat ko kaise samne rkhe ... Hm toh khud yeh chahenge ji woh bhi samay le apna kyuki apni ghar ki Lakshmi apni jaan se bhi pyari ladki ko kisi ko saupne ki baat h .. lekin hm dono different caste se h ... We both belong to obc but having different communities or caste whatever you say ma'am .. ma'am aapse bs yahi puchna chahte h ki aap hme kya suggestion de skti h agar dena ho toh... Apni kabiliyat pe bharosa h unko hm smjha skte h apni financial stability bta ke apne chizo ko honestly aur transparently rkhte hue lekin phir bhi halka sa dar lgta h ki kai woh na maane toh... Dhanyawad aapka meri baato ko padhne aur smjhne ke liye..

I am ready to stand against my parents for the boy I love, but he isn’t willing to stand up to his family. We are both Hindus but our customs, language and rituals are very different from each other. Since the time we started dating, I have tried to give up on my choices for the sake of our happiness. He proposed to me last year after dating for 12 years. I said yes. Now he wants me to convince his parents. He is 29, the eldest son of the family but he feels his parents will not agree for our marriage. His entire family is against us. His mother won't even look at me, forget sit down and talk. I told him we'll have a court marriage and live separate but he wants me to convince his family. If he doesn't take responsibility now, how can I expect him to stand up for me in the future?

I don't share secrets with my husband any more. Though we were friends when we were dating, I've noticed he takes me for granted since we got married. He used to take so much more interest in talking and getting to know me. Now I’ve started keeping parts of my life, thoughts, and feelings to myself because I feel sharing it with him is pointless. Not because my partner is unkind, but because I don’t feel understood anymore. Why do men take their girlfriends seriously and wives for granted?

My daughter got married 6 months ago, that is in July, completely arranged marriage, both agreed happily. Now the problem is, my son in law is not touching her since first day, sleeping separately by keeping a pillow between them. Once he said to my daughter that he is not interested in marriage, career oriented, we all shocked. He could have said at the time of interview itself. Now he is saying that he wants to correct himself and taking couple therapy sessions. Now my question is, is this problem common or very rare? Will therapy useful? We are all including his parents are very much worried about our daughter's future, how long should we wait for his recovery? Please answer.

Is a joint family better than living separate? My boyfriend is a Gujarati who has always lived in a joint family. He is 32 and they do business together as a family. That's a tradition for over 80 years now. Every one has separate rooms, businesses. But they prefer and try to have one meal together. I am 27, an MBA from a Tamil family. I have cousins and grandparents but we have always been a nuclear family travelling betweeen Mumbai and Pune. I have a younger sister who lives with my parents in Pune. I find the concept of joint family too overwhelming. I am okay to meet them during festivals but living in the same house with so many people is making me uncomfortable. I love my BF so much that I might just agree to make him happy but deep inside I know I will regret the decision. I feel it is so unfair that I have to choose between following his tradition and my comfort and peace. He doesn't mind if I eat non veg outside the house. There are no other discomfort or disagreement areas apart from this. His parents have accepted me as their daughter and I find it hard to tell them I want to live separate. What should I do?

Is it normal if you don’t miss your partner anymore? I recently noticed that when my partner leaves for work or long travel, I feel nothing. When we were dating, I used to feel so emotional. I would cry a lot, miss him for days. Now, I feel nothing. No relief, no longing, no irritation, just emotional blankness. This scares me more than arguments ever did. Does it mean our love is slowly dying?

I am 32 married for 6 years, no kids. But I have been noticing that my partner has changed a lot. He is talking less, I feel less emotional connection, and we have been spending very little time together. I don't know if there was any incident after which his behaviour changed or it is something that happened naturally. Whenever I try to talk about it, it gets ignored. I feel confused, stressed, and worried about my marriage, and this relationship. What should I do?

I enjoy being active on social media and like posting photos, reels, and updates about my daily life, travel, and time with friends. However, my parents constantly worry about online safety, family reputation, and what relatives or neighbours might say if they see my posts. They often ask me to delete pictures, stop posting stories, or reduce my social media presence, even when there is nothing inappropriate. Last time a professor saw me online and said I should spend time studying than be on Instagram. I was being polite by adding them to my feed. Now I feel like they want to control me. Should I just block them or hide my posts?

I am 17, in college and sometimes skip lectures because they feel repetitive or unhelpful, but my parents expect 100 per cent attendance. When they find out, it leads to arguments and lectures about discipline and responsibility. They feel that skipping classes means I am becoming careless. My grades are decent if not great. But it leads to comparison with peers who I don't relate to. How do I explain my perspective and still maintain trust with my parents?

My parents often judge my friends based on their background, habits, or social media presence. We chat, make reels, bunk classes or talk late nights because we like spending time, gossipping, discussing college. They think my friends are a bad influence, even though they don’t really know them. They don't even make the effort. This makes me feel misunderstood and embarrassed. How do I handle this situation without choosing between my friends and my family?

My son is a B. Tech (computer Science) second year student in a well reputed Private University in Greater Noida. He is working very hard in studies but not able to get good grade or passing marks. He is introvert type and has not many friends. He has been introduced to many teachers and senior students for hand holding purposes and guiding him but he not coming up to meet them and sort out his problems. He is a hosteler. To whom should we take him (Professional Counsellor/ Psychologist/ Psychiatrist) to assess and know the exact reasons or issues he is facing to address his problems. How can we help him to come out of present situation.

Mam, I know some ways by which i can change my state of mind from lazy to working.. and having pressure/deadline helps to move on. But still I'm get trapped in guilt of actions and don't feel confident that next time i will be able to control myself..( cuz some actions give short pleasure/gratification easily.. but guilts also). And in all those silent, sad, depressed emotional time my Real working time gets wasted.. and feels like I just live in more guilt and saddness..even if it hurts. But don't wanna live like that!! What I do?

My parents don't let me wear sleeveless or crop tops. I am not fat or ugly. All my friends wear them and my parents expect me to wear boring kurtas and denims to college. I feel embarassed not to dress my age. My mother picks my outfits. Even if someone gifts me something nice, my parents don't let me wear it. I am 17. How do i convince them to let me wear what I like?

I am unable to sleep at night. I wake up with nightmares of random events and people that have no logic or connection in real life. I don’t keep my phone near me, and I’ve tried meditation, but I can’t figure out why I’m still not able to sleep properly.