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Hi Anu, My husband doesn't do house chores. We both work full-time, but I still end up cooking, cleaning, and doing laundry. When I ask for help, my partner will say, ‘Just tell me what to do,’ but then he conveniently forgets. Maybe he doesn't like it or he is genuinely forgetful. I have tried many ways to make him explain. Once I only did my share of laundry to make him realise but he simply ignored. Every week this pattern repeats. Is this normal? How can married couples divide responsibilities fairly to avoid fights?

Feeling alone in the world and iam not having any close friends everybody is busy with their works and family, help me what to do

Hi , My name is Jayen and my wife's name is Neha We are (37,36) 13 old in married relationship. Since I do job in abroad . I take 2 leaves of 30 days every year . My wife clearly says she don't have interest in me since our marriage get older . Some days before she told me she has what's app chat with my 28 year nephew , Unmarried guy . She says everytime that she is unsatisfied with me (sexually) She ask me everytime to give her permission to have physical relationship with nephew . She says you have spoiling my life . You can repair it now by giving permission . What can I do in this situation ? Does giving permission can spoil our marriage life ? Give me some better advice

Not happy with previous answer. Asking again. My boyfriend gets angry over very small things. Last time, I didn't respond to his call for 15 minutes and he kept calling to check what happened. Earlier, I thought it was out of concern, but even if I meet my friends without telling him, he gets upset. We fight over little, trivial things, and he would later say he didn’t mean it. I am scared to speak my mind. I don't know what will make him angry. How do I know if this is a toxic relationship? We know each other for 3 years now

My wife and I argue almost every week. Sometimes it's about house chores like who will clean up, sometimes over bigger things like paying bills money or inviting friends. After every fight, she will say sorry, and promise there won't be any argument. But last couple of months, she has stopped apologising and refused to talk to me. We havent spoken properly for a long time now. I have tried initiating but she thinks it is pointless. Is frequent fighting normal in relationships? Should I ignore or do something about it?

Hello, I am in physical relationship before my marriage, after that I do arrange marriage and now I have a baby ... Before sometime my husband saw photos of my past relationship.. before marriage I accept that I am in relationship but not accept that physical relation and take photos but now husband have photos, my husband frequently asking about past but lied .. he want to do legal action against me for hiding situation... What to do now?

My friend got married, it was an arrange marriage all the family is good all went very well but after marriage her husband told her that he has an severe disease which he and his family did not told her before marriage. They were supposed to tell her and her family about it before marriage but they didn't, now she is so tensed she couldn't tell her parents also , what should ahe supposed to do?

My boyfriend's father is flirting with me. Earlier i used to think he is just complimenting me but now it is getting too far. He constantly checks my social media and comments me in private chat. Once he said, if he was younger I would have dated someone exactly like me. I have been respectful, responding with gentle smileys because I don't know how to react. I don't know if I am reading too much into it, but how do I talk about this to my boyfriend? Will this affect their relationship and ours?

My husband doesn't appreciate me. Ours was a love marriage arranged by friends and family. Initially he used to shower me with compliments when I was working. After my delivery, my in-laws did not support me in raising our daughter. They wanted a grandson. They don't say it but it shows in their attitude. They are spreading all kinds of stories about my hygiene, cooking, and conversations with my mother. My daughter is 2 years old. I don't get time to groom myself. I quit my job last year so I could focus on our daughter. I try to help my mother in law in the kitchen whenever I can but she tells my husband that I am lazy, that I am good for nothing. This is causing a lot of fights due to misunderstandings. Now that I don't earn, I feel more guilty and dependent. My confidence is low. I don't remember the last time I visited a salon because my husband is the only earning member in the family. I can't visit my parents as they are also growing old and my daughter is so young. I honestly don't know how to fix these issues staying in this family. What do you think?

Dear madam I have this suitaution in my life. Plz do guide me with this. So i have 2 married sisters and a brother with who i dont get along well. We used to be close back then. Later on my father passed away and then i got busy searching work. After getting work i got carried away with my newly found friendship with a boy i started spending much on him rather then my family. But still then i never neglected my family every kind of help i tried to give them. In the meanwhile i used to take care of my bedridden grandmother who used to stay in another state. Then my second sister started feeding everyone's mind against me saying i dont help them with money and i spend most on my grandmother and cousin. Though my sister were earning well still they waited me to spend on them which i stopped by then as they were earning. And there used to be a real good fight with my sisters and me regarding money issue and als my marriage thing and i gave them bitter words and also curses which i regret to this day thinking how could i do hated thing to my family .In next few years my sister got married but my second sister never invited me for her marriage and did all her wedding plans in my absence and i als never attended her wedding. I attended my 3rd sister wedding. After that my second sister plotted a plan against me by taking everyone on her side and kept me out of all the family functions. I just ignored them and decided to never to get bothered by any of this. Now the problem my 3rd sister is pregnant and they have planned a babyshower and like they are just telling me to attend it. To be honest they just told me a day before the function. How to handle this. Should i attend? And how to deal with such kind of people they seem to take advantage of my helpless. Please guide me on how to become a strong girl while taking desicion.

Whenever there’s a fight, my partner never says sorry. When we were dating this was fine as I like to mend things faster. But now that we are married it's always somehow my fault. Even when I try to talk calmly, he would twist the story and make me feel guilty. I don't know if this is his real personality or he is trying to control me. Is this a red flag? How do I know if he is doing it intentionally to stay powerful? How do I teach him to take equal responsibility?

My husband is very attached to his sister who is 32 and divorced. She visits our house daily and my husband discusses everything with her including our personal matters. She gives advice on what I should cook, how I should dress. I'm 26 married from one year. Every time the siblings talk, I feel like a third person in my own marriage. How to make husband understand this is wrong?

How to improve myself Not interested on anything Want to be alone Feeling stressed tired confused Want to do lots of things but not putting any efforts not even starting anything to get better Always thinking some miracles to be happened Eating food heavy improper time Sleeping fully without guilty Not able to understand what actually I want, what I want to be, what I have to do,.how I need to be live happily, when I will be live happily, when I will change my self and where I'm going in my finnally

I’m 44 years male married and I have one boy.. (10 years). I’m facing some issue with my wife . She always giving so much importance to spiritual thing and not spending time with me and son... even she used to preferred to sleep alone and not that much taking care of my son... I used to take care of my son for his sports activities and study... we are living overseas and my wife used to fly frequently to India for spiritual purpose... but she leave without us.. I’m not against spirituality but my worries his she is not giving importance to family life... whenever any financial topic coming over she used to say I contributed and my share such word which I don’t like... I’m in confusion mode shall I proceed with divorce... this is not first instance this is almost last 2-3 years....

I am married with 15 years of son. My wife and I haven't been on good terms for the past few months. She accuses me of having an affair with another woman without any proof. The atmosphere at home has also deteriorated completely. I want to divorce my wife, but I hesitate thinking about my child future. Tell me what should I do? Should I get a divorce or continue living this toxic life?

My husband and I talk more about bills and house chores than anything else. Our whatsapp chats are filled with boring messages reminding each other of our duties and bills. It has become so monotonous. A few years ago, we used to stay up late chatting about our lives. But now he just scrolls on his phone and says he’s tired. Either of us is always tired. If not there are kids who take up our time. Every day I feel like I'm living with some stranger, not my friend and partner who I dated. My friends feel the same that marriage makes people boring. What should I do?

Dear Ma'am, I have been married for 10 years and have a 4-year-old son, with another child expected soon. About six years ago, I was working with an organization where I became acquainted with a female colleague during our daily commute. Our interactions were initially professional, occasionally casual, and over time, we developed a friendly rapport. There were moments of physical closeness, such as holding hands, although she was unaware of my marital status at the time. After I left that organization, our communication became infrequent. During the COVID-19 pandemic, she experienced a medical emergency in her family, and it was during that emotionally vulnerable period that I unintentionally expressed my feelings for her. She is now nearly 40 years old and dealing with multiple health issues, including being overweight and other medical complications. Although she knows that I care about her, she has not accepted my proposal, fully aware that I am married and unable to commit to a marital relationship with her. Despite this understanding, she often invites me out for movies, dinners, and expects gifts. Recently, our interactions have involved romantic gestures such as hugging and neck kisses. However, she continues to describe herself as asexual and uninterested in a physical relationship, while also expressing a desire to get married — which appears contradictory. She often says she wants to remain friends and doesn’t want me to leave her, but at the same time, her expectations and emotional dependency are becoming increasingly difficult to manage. I want to let her know that I’m looking for more than just a friendship because I feel emotionally vulnerable and need her commitment to feel secure. I believe that building a romantic and physical relationship between us could help her feel more supported. She’s going through a lot and doesn’t have much family support aside from her unmarried younger brother.

My wife left home after a small argument and has been staying with her parents for over two months now. No matter how much I try to talk to her, she refuses to come back or even discuss what went wrong. I still love her and want to make our marriage work, but her silence is hurting me deeply. How do I convince my adamant wife to return home? I miss our kids and she is not letting me in. Please help.

My wife lost interest in sex

My father-in-law tried to manipulate my husband into moving back into their house. We have been married for 3 years but we live separately because of constant interference from my in-laws. Now my husband feels guilty and wants to return, even though I’m uncomfortable. What should I do?

i got married to a guy six years he was very handsome and i think he loved me but he was u can say mammas boy. Soon after our marriage my mom in law started telling if anything was wrong in the kitchen like once i had burnt a cloth she told me she will send me back to my house . In the same way 4 months after my marriage she asked to get out of her house because not knowing how to house hold work. As she had me to do a specific dish but i didnt know she began to scream in the house asking me get out of the house. i called my parents that mom in law was shouting they came to take me i took all my belongings she took away my chain which was given to me during my marriage and when i placed my wedding ring on the floor she kicked it was a football we came from their house . later on i tried to call my husband many times but he never picks up any call from our side. then my father had given for divorce even to the court he had not come to court . even on the day i left their house we had gone to the church we got married and the priest had called him but he did not come and the reason told was his mother i sick and wants to be near her. i had called him several times he never replied even to emails etc. my civil divorce is done from court. but i still love and regret the decision to come from that house but is scared of my mom in law she threatened she will throw me down from balcony . On the day i was leaving their home my mom in law gave bad words to my father. my mother and father always tell me they are not okk people. but i like him and always miss him or a gap is there . he also told my husband that from me body odour comes. what should i do ???

Hi Madam, I am seeking your advice regarding my brother’s situation, as our family is going through a very difficult time. My brother was in a relationship with a girl who is 14 years younger than him. Their relationship began when the girl was very young — possibly in her early teens, around the time she was studying in 8th standard. What seemed like an early-age attraction eventually continued for more than 10 years. The girl’s family was aware of their relationship, but our family came to know about it only later. After nearly a decade of being together, my brother told us that he wanted to marry her. This came as a shock to us, and initially, our family (my parents, my sister, and I) did not agree to the marriage due to several reasons — including the significant age gap and the emotional immaturity that often comes with such early relationships. For two years, we tried to convince him to reconsider his decision, but he was determined to go ahead. Eventually, we accepted his choice, and the marriage took place. Unfortunately, after the wedding, they never lived together — not even for a single day. Soon after the marriage, the girl left to prepare for exams for about eight months. Over time, she completed her master’s degree and seemed to have developed a new perspective on life. Later, she informed him that she no longer wished to continue the marriage, saying she had lost her feelings for him and wanted a divorce. My brother still loves her deeply and wishes to continue the relationship. He is even ready to accept all her conditions, including her desire to work. However, the girl remains firm on her decision to end the marriage. Both families have now consulted lawyers, and while the girl’s family is pressing for a divorce, my brother continues to hope that she will change her mind and return. He is now 39 years old, and our family is very concerned about his emotional and mental well-being. He has become withdrawn, unable to move on, and still lives in the hope of reconciliation. Our aged parents are deeply distressed, seeing him suffer and unwilling to accept reality. We sincerely seek your guidance on how we can help him let go of the past, accept the situation, and rebuild his life with peace and positivity. Thank you for your time and advice.

My 31-year-old is not motivated about his career or future. Despite our repeated advice and support, he shows no sense of responsibility and wastes most of his time online playing games, scrolling through Instagram. I am worried about his future. How can I tell him to be more serious about his life and career?

My wife caught by cheeting me and but she didn't feel guilty and still I think she continues the same, I lost my feelings and interest on her, we have two kids because of kids I can't able to take divorce option and I can't be able to live with her Mentally feeling alone and not able to focus on work and family responsibilities what I can do to make better all these problems

Dear Madam, I am 45YO working in GCC and She is 45YO working in India govt banking sector. We met through matrimonial site in 2009. We liked each other and decided to get marry. But due to some arrogent way of talking of her and her mother with my mother, which I didn't like at all. So before gettting finalising and engagement, I decided to go away from her without hurting and it took 5 month in Feb 2010. Actually I AM AGAINST HURTING ANYBODY'D'S HEART. So I made a situaton like that she rejected me. While meeting we both decided, even though, if we are not getting married with other we will be as friends in future. So I got married in 2011 and She got married in 2012. After our marriage we got busy in our married life and we were not able to contact with other for several years. But in second half of 2019 we again came into to contact over phone WA. Once she demanded make-up box and some chocolates from GCC, so I provided through courier. Then her demand increased with mobile recharge, Sani-pads, U/garment, sometime cakes on birthdays for her and for her 2 daughters, for late father's, own mother even though her mother stays in different city, gifts through Amezon, Flipkaut, Zamato, Swiggu etc etc.. One day she told she want to marry me, because there were physical quarrel with the husband and MIL, So she want to get divorse due to dosmetic violence between them. I avoided this topic as I am happy with my married life. Then 1 day she had some gmeil problem she was not receving email so she shared password. So I cleared all the promotions and unuseful stuff from her gmeil account. But I was shocked when I saw that she had saved all communication of having extramarital affair chats of WA with her office 2 different colleagues and, 1 Garage mechanic and College friend all were vulgar chats and different-different years. Especially all vulgar words and arrangement and planning made by her to meet in different room location. There I came to know why her husband is so physical quarrel with her. She had mentioned about husband activity of beating to her. And so both of them want to get divorse. But this all thing I kept it confidential with me from her. Let she admit some day. But I am still waiting. Now after 2021 all this has stopped because I convinced her and made her feel what she was doing after meeting her. She admitted her mistake and she promised that she will not go in wrong path. She also said it happened unknowingly she went with the flow. But She pleaded me and wants my Love and want to marry me privately and for her happiness, she in under divorce process. She proposed me for marriage in 2021 till now I have avoided with some excuses. Coming to the main topic, since 2021 to 2025, whenever I visit India, we meet each other, as I too have soft-corner for her and Love her as we were first Love of each other in 2009. Everytime when I inform her that I am coming to India, her dreams flies in sky and tells me come soon, I want to marry with You. And every time she ask something or the other gift as mentioned above. How should I get rid of this burden of over-expenses. Due to this it is difficult to manage my monthly expenses, means "The snake has to be killed and the stick should remain intact". Everytime I tells her this month not possible next month for sure, but again after 2-3 days she comes with new demand. And I am sure, if I broke this relationship she will again go to wrong path as she is getting divorce. Pls give some tips how to reply her to stop these expenses from me.

My parents don't listen to me or my brother. They are 67 and 74, both diabetic and suffering from high blood pressure and cholesterol. We have tried everything -- from explaining calmly, getting family friends to talk to them, showing them doctor videos on YouTube, and even accompanying them to medical checkups. But they refuse to take their medicines seriously or follow a proper diet. When we were young, we were so obedient and disciplined. It is hard to believe that our parents are behaving like rebellious teenagers. My brother and I have taken turns to look after them, take them for follow-ups but they get angry if we remind them, and say we’re treating them like children. How do we handle their stubborness?

Hi, I like this guy from 2 years now and me and my partner decided to tell my parents as it’s marriage proposal I got from office and I would like you guys to consider and my mom was okay initially but my dad is not at all agreeing and not even ready to consider this, it always been my dad’s decision is my mom’s decision. My dad is blackmailing me emotionally saying I already have health issues and if you still continue to do this we will die and will that make me happy. They are making me do promises that i would only marry to the guy they like but the other side I don’t want to marry any other guy, marrying someone else other then my partner is just making me feel bad and those thoughts are making me sick. How should I convey this to them and how can I handle other matches they are going to bring?

26f, parents found a match , talked for 2 weeks and had a Instant connection...then families met , we found out that he has a medical issue which is going to be lifelong, he is on meds daily monthly biologics.. went through a surgery 5 yrs back .. limps while walking and cannot bend or sit down ..... nd yes d disease will be passed on to d child.. but d actual trigger happening for d medical issue in child is 5% . The man is the nicest human being ive ever met .. prettiest sweet charming man.. its been 4 months we are talking.. and i want to. Marry him(i am perfectly alright, and a solid 8 when comes to looks)... Now parents are not agreeing .. samaaj n all rishtedar.... Either him or them . Is what they've told . Both of my parents are govt public servants.. so society kya kahegi ...etc etc.. things between me n them have gone south nd bitter than karela can be.. its torture at home bcz ive been trying to convince them nd now i think i might loose my sanity... yelling crying d drama happens on daily basis.. nd ive been getting rishtas from good families nd d guys are also good ... They've found another match .. who is everything a girl can ever dream of ... Nd a much more for my parents.... Guy who i want to marry is super chill and d parents are also super chill and very supportive.. again d niceet human beings ive ever met ... But its only 4 months I don't know .. parents are not budging.. Plus they are bringing matches which are good.. too but ive been running out of ideas to say no to them

Hello. I am currently in my second year of Engineering. I have been studying in a boarding school since 8th standard. Till 7th, there was a girl whom I didn't like much. But, after seeing her after almost 1.5 year, in 9th, I was literally shocked. I got a deep crush for her. But the biggest problem has raised because my family shifted to a city far away from the previous one in my 10th standard. I can't even find her anywhere, not on Instagram or anywhere on social media. Her father might be there in contact list of my dad's phone. But I am very much afraid to inform regarding this to my family.Can you tell me what should I do ?

I just hate my parents and my relatives they are so annoying

Mam, I am 48, hitting menopause. My partner is 50 and sexually active. My mood swings are affecting our sex life. He has been patient for the last 2 years but I am not able to co-operate. I understand his frustration. He is not satisfied. How can I help him?

I am 42 year old working woman earning 1.8 lakhs monthly. Married for 15 years with one daughter 12 years. My husband quit his job 5 years back to start business which failed completely. Now he sits at home, doesn't work and depends on my income. He refuses to find job saying it's below his dignity. Should I divorce him or support him? My patience is finished now.

My husband spent Durga Puja with his mother and divorcee brother. I spent at different city with daughter and family When he came back I saw lots of photos of a beautiful lady and her mother. Husband told that these ladies visited pandals with them in their car. Lady is widow and I saw few singles photos of her in my husband's mobile.During 4-5 days of puja,my husband didn't tell me anything about her When I got angry and accused him of omission of information and adultery,he told that it was not a necessary information. Am I wrong to accuse him.....

Madam, my parents are celebrating 18 yrs of marriage this year.. however still some strains remain in between ... my father cannot even talk to my maternal grandparents especially maternal grandma... I dont know why is this so, but papa says some old things come in between... i still dont know.. when my mom requests him to talk to them.. especially when they are ill.. he refuses.. saying you never care of me.. For recent two years we have shifted to hometown for study purpose.. still .. if sometimes my grandparents are in trouble.. my mom thinks of visiting them.. father says .. u never have a feeling of responsibility towards me.. u should always ask me before taking a decision.. who has permitted you to go ur home?? My mom.. is too good.. she never quarrels with him.. she just keeps silent.. but now she is troubled by these allegations.. Even i tried to convince my papa regarding it.. he didn't listen.. said once I grow up.. i will understand.. but i am old enough to understand it.. am 25 yrs... can u help us out?

Hello, I am 35 year old woman got arranged marriage 10 years back. My husband is 40 and we have one son age 8. Husband is nice person but zero physical chemistry between us. I feel like I married wrong person. Recently I reconnected with my college boyfriend on Facebook and old feelings came back. Should I divorce and destroy my child's life or sacrifice my happiness? Please guide me honestly.

I'm 39yr old from Delhi, India. My mind was blocked and I wasn't able to study well, job. Never have a solid career. Just career gaps and employment gaps. Also, some family situations and schizophrenia of a parent didn't allow to go outside and work. The mind was not on that level which do the work and get a job. Still, i got some and left jobs as well. Also, i discovered about my own mind's weaknesses, ADHD situations, those habits, those patterns and those 25+ things like "fear, anxiety, overthinking, victim mentality, self doubt, indecisiveness, negative self talk, negative mindset, too many choices, mind paralysis, voices and many more". I met a psychiatrist who treated my parent. But, nothing worked. I'm still stuck not only in my career but also in my head too. Just because of these Mental issues. I'm not able to achieve anything in life in all areas. The good thing is that with the self discovery and asking those questions. I found a lot about myself. Specially, the mental blockages but the bad thing is that it took so many years to finally came to a conclusion that it's the Mental situations in my life that stopped and still stopping to achieve great in life. But, i don't know those techniques, those ways to get out from my own head. How? I desperately needed that guidance and help? I got to know very well that Mind plays the role between a failure and sucess in all areas of life. #YourThoughts #ma'am

I divorced my first husband due to family issues. Since then I have been in different relationships but nothing permanant. Recently I met a guy at a friend's wedding and we got along well. He lost his wife due to cancer and has two daughters. I have one son, aged 12. His condition is that I should move in with his joint family. I don't want to go back to the same situation. What should I do?

I think about a person most of the time , I might get an affection towards her. But I want to remove the thoughts of her from my head as I not in her priority list. How to do that? Moreover I am little shy so can't express my feelings

Hi Anu, I'm 25. I have a younger sister who's 22. My dad passed away 10 years ago, my mom hasn't remarried. She's been taking care of us ever since. She is 47 .we're financially unstable and As a son, I really don't want to see my mom sad and depressed from the last few years so I'm thinking of asking her to remarry, hoping it would make her happy, but she's not really interested in getting married again. Apparently, society has some judgment about remarrying and also I think she is not interested but I don't want my mom to be sad how should I convince her to remmary?

Sir, I am 51 years old businessman married for 28 years. My wife is 48 and we have two married children. Last 10 years our marriage is dead with constant fights and no compatibility. We stay together only for society and children. Now children are settled, should I seek divorce at this age? My relatives say this is sin at 50 years and I should adjust. What is right thing to do?

Hello ma'am, I am 44 year old man married for 18 years with two children aged 15 and 12. My wife and I have no physical relationship for last 8 years and we basically live like roommates. There is no abuse or fight, just no love left. Now I met someone at office who understands me and I have feelings for her. Should I divorce my wife at this age with teenage children? I am emotionally suffering but worried about children's future and society.

Every time I make plans with my friends, my girlfriend gets upset. My friends also think she is too controlling. She says I don’t care about her when I spend time with others. I am not liking this. Why do girls change after being in a relationship. I used to have a social life before this relationship. How do I balance my personal space with our relationship?

As a late disabled, I am facing lot of challenges at work. They have not changed my profile since i became disabled (complete deaf) but have not even helped me shift within company in some other role. It is a big co. My current manager is making it very difficult for me to continue working by citing that I am not great at what I do, and hence I should look at other profiles. At 41, I am contemplating to quit altogether. Since I do not have kids, I can manage a middle class life in some tier 2 city of India, but what will I do with my time? Should I exit with grace and dignity, or keep a thick skin and continue getting salary despite being overlooked, underappreciated, and unwanted at work. It really affects my mental health and confidence, but I really work what I would I do next? With this disabled status, I would not get a new job with same salary.

Hi Anu, I am 49 years old married with kids ( 19 and 14) ..have good relations with wife throughout 21 years of marri d life. I was always a bi and with age that part has taken prominance..I have been meeting guys whenever I travel. Thisbwas till manageable but I have fallen in love ( which never happened even when I was unmarried ) with a colleague aged 32 ..he is aware about my orientation. He flirts with me verbally..when we meet or go for vacation we drink, smoke and even share cuddles , pecks on cheek, neck but nothing like a proper physical relationship. He is getting married now..while he says he will always be my friend and will be there for me whenever I need him..I want to distract myself away from him, not sure how. I tried not speaking to him but then he msgs like if I am angry or upset with him...and then I again fell for him..needless to say my intimacy with wife has taken a toll since I have fallen for him. I am not able to handle ..please suggest

i am 42 years old divorced men with healthy life style my parents are pussing me to marry 21 year old widow women with 1 year old baby should i move if yes how to approach the women and express my intrest

in an arranged marriage,He talked to me for 45 minutes.He didn't give a clear clarity,at the end of the conversation he told to enquire about him and told his college and batch and also to enquire about his profession and didn't follow up me or my parents after one week.What does this mean

My mom's 20-year younger boyfriend makes her uncomfortable - what should I do?

A 26 year old unmarried girl, having extra marital affairs with already married 48 year old man having 2sons and 2wife. how there relation is going to survive and what should wives do.

How to make conjugal life successful with suspicious wife?

My girlfriend doesn't want to share a bedroom with me after marriage. She says she wants her own space, and the bed and closet to herself. She shares we can share our bedrooms on special days but we will not invade each other's space. According to her, this will keep our marriage alive. This is the first time I am hearing something like this. I don't know how to react.