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Anonymous Question by Anonymous on Apr 24, 2025
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Hi Anu, I've started feeling like my boyfriend takes me for granted. For instance, he'll cancel our dates at the last minute if his friends make other plans, and he rarely asks me how I'm doing emotionally. Like, last weekend, I told him I was feeling really overwhelmed with work, but he just changed the subject and started talking about his favourite football player and how his team scored a goal in the last minute. I love him, but I'm also beginning to feel invisible. How do I talk to him about this?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You are invisible to him now. Honestly, you need to figure out if he's still interested in the relationship. Because canceling dates, not wanting to listen to what you have to say seems like red flags; do explore this further and you can decide to have an honest conversation with him.
Be clear on what you want in this relationship and don't settle for less; you will thank yourself for it.

All the best!
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The problem you’re facing is very common in long-distance relationships.

You have a need for attention that you’re not getting from him and he’s so busy planning a future that he’s forgotten how to take care of the present.

I can tell you that until he is secure in a job and has stabilised his situation, his behaviour is not going to change significantly. And maybe not after either...Maybe this is who he is, and after the initial spark wore off, this is him.

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Maybe he isn’t at liberty to chitchat every single day or every couple of days also.

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I understand your wish to keep talking late, but there's a big difference between your lifestyle and his. He is the elder son with responsibilities and a job, while you are a college student; besides studies, you have the luxury of not having all the burdens of your family on your shoulders. His eagerness to sleep early might be owing to tiredness or having to wake up early.
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