What do I do .My husband flirrts with females outside and my maid servants openly

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Clearly this is not the first time that your husband has been involved in 'something on the side'.
When he shows no remorse and no willingness to change his ways, obviously he's seeking a lot of validation from external sources. In this case, it happens to be the maid. (I hope you have sacked the maid already!).

Obviously with repeated instances of him going back on his word, the trust factor is in question. Does he even care? Your marriage is in a place where you must now either work on putting it back OR give him an ultimatum. What will work in your case, is something that only you will know...
Time to bring your husband to his senses; which means perhaps involving a professional to guide you. You may have to go at this by yourself, seek help in managing your husband and his waywardness. Then your husband will be roped in to deal with his deep down need for validation and succumbing to it over and over again. Then you can begin to function as a single unit towards making the marriage work. This looks like a lot to go through BUT the decision is yours.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand that you are hurt right now. The best course of action would be to seek professional help. See a marriage counselor and get the right help to work through this issue.

I am not clear if past means when he was dating you, or when you two were newly married or when you two didn't know one another. I cannot comment without understanding it. Nevertheless, a professional therapist can guide you more structurally.

All I can say is that your emotions are completely valid. Whatever you decide is okay. Do not put society's needs or your family's and suppress your feelings.

Best Wishes.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It's sad that instead of reassuring you, your husband asks you for proof. But, you have not shared how you 'came to know that he has a link' with his assistant. This is vital information as it will not just gather proof but will also tell you how your husband views the marriage and whether he has any interest in continuing.
Now, whether you must continue or not, is a decision you must make based on all the evidences that you gather and also finding out from your husband if this marriage is important to him as well. Then things will give you clarity into making a decision. So, how did you come to know and what actually made you suspect him?

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Your husband needs a lesson or two on how to be respectful within the marriage and especially towards his spouse.
Maybe just to counter his actions, the next time you are out, comment on other men that you see on how handsome they are. It may seem foolish but at times 'taste of one's own medicine' can do the trick.
Also, it is necessary to tell him how you feel...his bachelor days are behind him but if he brings that wild behavior into a marriage, he is drawing a wedge between the two of you and this he needs to know...so do tell him!

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
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