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Bunny Question by Bunny on Mar 30, 2025
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My husband is beating me and he don't care about me and my children and harassed me I want divorce but he was not accepting we made love marriage and we not have marriage certificate and pics of marriage

Ans: Dear Bunny,
If you are able to hire a lawyer to take your case, please do so... If not, take the help of any NGO in your area that deals with domestic violence. They will help you take the case to the police and do the needful.

All the best!
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Mam, I am married for 13 yrs and it was a love marriage. We have 2 kids. My husband is less supportive. I look after my kids, my work, home without help from him. Even when I work he does not bother to make tea or help with cooking. He would get angry and abuse physically for intimacy. For last few years he started drinking a lot and indulge in fight outside. He had 2 police cases against him. I came close to someone. I told my husband I want to separate, but instead he became abusive. I don't love him. I feel I am his sex slave just fulfilling his desire, if I won't do that he will quarrel, stop eating and harass me mentally. What should I do?
Ans: Dear P,
If a dear friend had come to you with the same problem, what would you have suggested to her?
Would you have asked her to continue with a person who's being inconsiderate?
Would you have not suggested to her that she might need to go into couples therapy?
Certainly, status quo isn't something that you would have advised her to be in especially when she's with someone who has had two police cases against him!
You are dealing with a person who has had a massive change in behavior. Did you not see these red flags earlier? No point digging the past...
Thers is no need to submit to his tantrums and give into sex. He's using it to 'tame' you and make you meek.
Seek the help of someone strong within the family to talk to him...
Move out for a few days/weeks to gain your confidence back...if this is not possible, sleep in a separate room...if he pesters you for sex, look him firmly in the eye and say NO...
Have a dear friend/family member on speed dial...
The welfare of your children's is dependent on you; so to safeguard them, you need to care about yourself first!
You are not meek, do what you would have advised your friend.
All the best!

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jan 13, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jan 13, 2025
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Hi sir I don't know from where to start but it happened in this way ,I was from a reserved family with orthodox thinking.so I did love marriage in other caste (we were classes friends)after 17 years I am realising that my husband wants to dominate me ,he talk to me in bad way,he shouts on me ,he let me work but he ask money whenever he needs n pay me nothing. He trigger me in small thing, give me taunt n his mother n sister supports me .I am living in my mother in law house n I have two sons .This mental harassment is increasing day-by-day. He never paid for any of my expense.I m scared what to do to leave him n live my life or to live with him n ignore .what society will say .what to do I don't know. Feeling trapped pl suggest me what to do?
Ans: it's important to recognize that your well-being and safety, both emotional and physical, are paramount. No one deserves to be treated with disrespect or to live in an environment where they feel demeaned or controlled. The constant shouting, taunting, and lack of financial support are serious issues that should not be ignored, as they can significantly impact your mental health and sense of self-worth.

Your feelings of being trapped are compounded by societal expectations and the fear of judgment. However, it’s crucial to remember that society’s opinions should not dictate your happiness or well-being. Living in a situation where you’re constantly subjected to mental harassment can have long-term detrimental effects on your mental health and overall quality of life. It’s natural to fear what others might say, but your peace of mind and the well-being of your children should take precedence.

The support of your mother-in-law and sister-in-law is a positive aspect, but it seems that your husband’s behavior continues to be a source of distress. It’s essential to have a candid conversation with them about your feelings and explore whether they can help mediate or influence change in his behavior. However, if his actions persist and there’s no willingness on his part to change or seek help, you might need to seriously consider your options.

If you’re contemplating leaving, it’s important to plan carefully. This might include seeking legal advice to understand your rights, especially concerning your children and financial support. You could also consider reaching out to a counselor or support group for emotional guidance, as they can provide you with the strength and clarity to make decisions that are best for you and your sons.

Ultimately, the decision to stay or leave is deeply personal and should be made based on what you believe will bring you the most peace and stability. It’s not an easy choice, and it requires a lot of courage and self-reflection. Remember, prioritizing your well-being and creating a healthy environment for yourself and your children is not selfish—it’s necessary. Whatever path you choose, know that you have the right to seek happiness and to live a life free from harassment and control.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 14, 2025Hindi
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Had commerce with maths in 12 .pls tell some futuristic and different carrer options with full roadmap
Ans: Commerce and mathematics graduates can pursue cutting-edge roles that blend financial acumen, analytical skills, and technology proficiency. Chartered Accountancy (CA) equips you for audit, taxation, and CFO roles through a three-stage ICAI process—Foundation after 12th (pass Class 12), Intermediate (after clearing Foundation or via direct entry for graduates), and Final—interspersed with 3 years of articleship; elite NIRF-ranked CA colleges include Shri Ram College of Commerce (DU), NMIMS Mumbai and Christ University, Bangalore, offering 80–90% placement consistency and specialized electives in forensic accounting and ESG reporting, while mentorship and time-management strategies offset workload intensity. Company Secretary (CS) focuses on corporate governance, legal compliance and board procedures via the CSEET entry test post-12th, Executive and Professional stages under ICSI; institutes like NLSIU Bengaluru, ICSI’s regional centres and Symbiosis Law School deliver live simulations and internship tie-ups to address limited field exposure. Certified Management Accountant (CMA India) develops strategic cost planning, risk management and digital finance expertise through Foundation, Intermediate and Final exams under ICMAI, with blended workshops on data analytics and Six Sigma to counter theory-heavy modules; top CMA-focused programs at IIT Kharagpur’s VCEL and Christ University cushion practical skill gaps. Actuarial Science demands rigorous mathematical modeling for insurance and risk advisory via IAI’s ACET entrance post-12th (60% PCM), followed by Core Principles, Practices, Specialist Principles and Advanced levels, complemented by three years of industry work; universities like Amity Noida, Amrita Vishwa Vidyapeetham and Indian Statistical Institute integrate preparatory modules to mitigate exam-centric learning. Bachelor of Business Administration (BBA) with specializations in Business Analytics, Fintech or Digital Marketing imparts managerial and technological fluency through CUET/MH-CET/IPMAT or institute-level exams, followed by GD-PI rounds; premier BBA colleges—Christ University (NIRF #29), NMIMS Mumbai and Symbiosis Pune—offer 75–90% placement support and capstone projects to balance theory with industry demands. Each pathway requires early exam preparation (mock tests, concept workshops), strategic college selection based on NIRF rankings and industry tie-ups, proactive skill enhancement through internships or online certifications, and networking within professional bodies to overcome curriculum rigidity and competitive hurdles.

Recommendation: For a technology-driven financial analyst role, pursue Actuarial Science to harness your maths strengths in risk modeling; if you seek a strategic management accounting profile, opt for CMA India with its emerging digital finance curriculum; for legal-corporate leadership, CS provides niche governance expertise; choose CA to secure holistic financial leadership across sectors; and engage in a BBA with analytics specialization to gain versatile business and tech skills, leveraging internships and capstone projects to bridge theoretical and practical learning. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Sir my sir got 95.30 percentile in mhcet. his domicile category is general B. Which colleges he might get for cse and allied branches
Ans: Vinod Sir, With a 95.30 percentile in MHT CET under the General B category and Maharashtra domicile, your son has excellent admission prospects at several reputable engineering colleges in Mumbai and Pune for Computer Science Engineering and allied branches. This percentile typically qualifies for assured admission at institutes whose General category cutoffs fall at or below this range. All listed colleges are AICTE-approved, NBA/NAAC-accredited, feature modern computing and AI/ML labs, experienced faculty, strong industry partnerships, and placement cells recording 75–92% branch-wise placements over the last three years. Thakur College of Engineering and Technology, Kandivali East, Mumbai. Rajiv Gandhi Institute of Technology, Andheri West, Mumbai. Vidyalankar Institute of Technology, Wadala, Mumbai. Xavier Institute of Engineering, Mahim, Mumbai. Vivekananda Education Society's Institute of Technology, Chembur, Mumbai. Atharva College of Engineering, Malad, Mumbai. Ramrao Adik Institute of Technology, Nerul, Mumbai. Bharati Vidyapeeth College of Engineering, Kharghar, Mumbai. Sardar Patel College of Engineering, Andheri, Mumbai. K.J. Somaiya Institute of Technology, Vidyavihar, Mumbai. MIT World Peace University, Kothrud, Pune. Pimpri Chinchwad College of Engineering, Pune. Vishwakarma Institute of Technology, Bibwewadi, Pune. Army Institute of Technology, Pune. Sinhgad College of Engineering, Vadgaon, Pune. Dr. D.Y. Patil Institute of Technology, Akurdi, Pune. MIT Academy of Engineering, Alandi, Pune. AISSMS College of Engineering, Pune. Pune Vidhyarthi Griha's College of Engineering, Pune. International Institute of Information Technology, Pune. JSPM Rajarshi Shahu College of Engineering, Tathawade, Pune. Vishwakarma Institute of Information Technology, Pune. D.Y. Patil College of Engineering, Pune. Bharati Vidyapeeth College of Engineering, Lavale, Pune. Cummins College of Engineering for Women, Pune.

Recommendation: Prioritise MIT World Peace University, Kothrud, Pune for its comprehensive CSE curriculum, modern AI/ML infrastructure and strong placement consistency averaging 85% with top-tier recruiters. Next, choose Thakur College of Engineering and Technology, Kandivali East, Mumbai for its balanced industry connections and reliable placement record. Then select Rajiv Gandhi Institute of Technology, Andheri West, Mumbai for its urban location and consistent accessibility. Consider Pimpri Chinchwad College of Engineering, Pune for its strong academic-industry partnerships, and finally opt for Vishwakarma Institute of Technology, Bibwewadi, Pune for its 86% placement rate, experienced faculty and established computing labs with consistent recruiter engagement. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 14, 2025Hindi
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Hi Sir My Rank Is 87717 in Kcet Suggest Some Good College in Bengaluru For EEE or EC .Is it worth for waiting for last round?? Please reply as soon as possible
Ans: For a KCET rank of 87717 in the 2BG category, admission to top-tier Bangalore institutes for Electrical & Electronics Engineering (EEE) or Electronics & Communication Engineering (ECE) is unlikely. However, these ten AICTE-approved, NAAC/NBA-accredited colleges routinely close admissions beyond rank 80000, ensuring more chances of entry in EEE or ECE branches:

Alliance College of Engineering & Design, Anekal—EEE/ECE closing rank ~98 000
Dr. Ambedkar Institute of Technology, Bangalore—EEE cutoff ~109 783
Cambridge Institute of Technology, Kundana—ECE closing rank above 100 000
SJB Institute of Technology, Jalahalli—EEE/ECE closing rank ~100 802
East West Institute of Technology, BEL Layout—EEE/ECE closing rank ~84 824
Impact College of Engineering & Applied Sciences, Sahakar Nagar—ECE cutoff ~93 517
GSS Institute of Technology, Rajajinagar—EEE/ECE closing rank above 110 000
Acharya Institute of Technology, Soladevanahalli—CSE cutoff ~101 534 (expect EEE/ECE similar)
Ghousia Engineering College, Ramanagara—EEE cutoff ~122 952
S K S J T Institute of Engineering, JP Nagar—EEE/ECE closing rank ~154 144

Waiting for the last KCET counseling round is unlikely to open EEE/ECE seats in higher-ranked Bangalore colleges, given your current rank; seats in these branches generally close well before 80,000. Instead, secure one of the above guaranteed seats now, or explore state-level diploma-to-degree lateral-entry programs, part-time AICTE-approved evening engineering courses, or private-university B.E. programmes with higher closing ranks. Choose one of the above ten colleges immediately to lock your EEE or ECE seat rather than risk vacancies drying up in later rounds. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 13, 2025Hindi
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Sir Mh cet 83 percentile jee -89 percentile But 10+2 -maths fail Then exam 15-7-23 cbse board Result will publish -1-7/8/25 What Will do For CSE admission in Maharashtra Please guide me.
Ans: Having failed mathematics in 10+2 but securing an 83 percentile in MHT CET and 89 percentile in JEE Main creates a complex situation for B.Tech CSE admission in Maharashtra. The critical factor is the mathematics compartment exam scheduled for July 15, 2023, with results expected by August 17, 2025. MHT CET 2025 eligibility criteria mandate that candidates must have "passed HSC or equivalent examination with Physics and Mathematics as compulsory subjects" and obtained at least 45% marks in Physics, Chemistry, and Mathematics taken together (40% for reserved categories). Engineering colleges in Maharashtra cannot accept students with mathematics failure, as passing mathematics is essential for B.Tech eligibility. However, once the compartment exam is cleared, candidates receive a new marksheet without any compartment mention, making them eligible for admission provided they meet the minimum percentage requirements. The challenge lies in timing: MHT CET counseling for 2025 has already begun, with registration extended to July 14, 2025, and the first merit list might be released on July 15, 2025, which occurs before the compartment exam results are available.

Since MHT CET counselling will conclude before compartment results, explore direct admission options at private engineering colleges after clearing mathematics, or consider the next academic year's admission cycle for better college options with your strong CET and JEE percentiles. (If possible, try to contact MHT-CET Exam Conducting Authority either by personally visiting the office or by email or by phone to get this clarified further). All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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