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41 and Single, Feeling Drawn to My Widow Maid: What Should I Do?

Anu Krishna |1639 Answers |Ask -Follow

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 16, 2025

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 15, 2025Hindi

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Hi I am 41 year old single in my house my maid is working she is widow everytime I am thinking about him and had feeling. Please let me know how to tackle the situation.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Please find a replacement for the maid!

All the best!
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Ans: Whilst I comment on dating and how to find your person, I will like to comment on this

1. basis of what you have shared you are overthinking and ruining what you have had since 18 years. your wife decided to stay with you and invest in the relationship with you is the fact that she cares for you and the relationship so stop being upset, be kind to yourself, her and the relationship.

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3. if you are married, it means you are an adult which means if two adults consent to adultery its their responsibility to accept it. say if you are attracted to a woman and go all the way its not the woman who has lured you, both are in their senses and know what they are doing.

4. yes even after marrying or being in a committed relationship you can and will find others attractive and you will be found attractive to others. Its upto you and only you on how you wish to act if such a situation arises. As I shared you are an adult and someone who can not think but also overthink so you decide how to act in such a situation.

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Hi sir, I am 26 Female widow with no children and I am working. My husband passed away recently due to illness. I am not able to move on in my life. Each and everyday I feel like can’t start my day without him. Living, but it feels like I am dead. What should I do now?

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Losing your spouse can be very harsh. I understand how difficult it must be to keep going. But that's just it, you have to keep going. I wish I had some quick fix or remedy to help you soothe the pain, but the only way out is through. I can ask you to hang out with loved ones, focus on yourself, pick up a hobby, or a myriad of other advice, but I am sure you have tried them all. But here's what you might not have tried yet and should definitely try- please see a professional counselor. It can help you lift some weight off your chest. They can guide you in navigating your emotions in a structured manner and every day, little by little, things will get better. Please do it for yourself. You are still alive and you have a big, wonderful life ahead of you.

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Just imagine a situation where this maid cries 'foul' after your association and then you have to live within the same apartment/society/surrounding.
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Hello I am in relationship with my maid as she is working in my house as she is widow we talk casually but sometimes physical touch will be there she will not say anything she is not that much qualified I don't know his age. Can I take this forward there will be huge complications in family after hearing this news. I am earning member but single.

Ans: You're in a sensitive situation that involves emotional, social, and power dynamics. While it's possible to build a genuine relationship with someone in a different social position, it's crucial to ensure it’s mutual and not based on dependency or silence.

Her not objecting to physical touch doesn’t automatically mean consent or emotional interest—she may feel unable to speak freely because of her job. Before taking things further, have an honest, respectful conversation. Ask her how she feels, without pressure, and make it clear her job is secure no matter what.

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