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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 18, 2025

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Pursottam Question by Pursottam on Mar 16, 2025Hindi
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hello mam, i live in a residential area and i have a girl in a balcony front of my house. at first i liked her but she never looked at me. but after i gave her signs and wave she is now interacting. she always opens her curtains while studying so i can see her and even waves to me with her torch at late night. I want to express my true feeling but i am afraid of her family. i reaklly love her and we both are of same caste. things are in our favour. i want her badly. please mam help me please.

Ans: Dear Pursottam,
Looks a bit filmy, right? To assume that moving of curtains is leading to love is only fooling yourself. And based on this assumption, you want to express your feelings...How are you so sure that the girl feels the same?
By the way, how old are you? You have left that part off while writing your query.

All the best!
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Hello Ma’am/Sir. I, Shivam Sharma. I want a suggestion for the problem I am facing right now. Before that I am going to share my story with you. It is about 2018 when I joined a gym near-by my house. I got a crush on a girl. She came with her sister and brother. I used to watch her in gym. Later I found that I love her. I have had her in my dreams. After some time I think she knows that I watched her in gym and got a crush on her. Then she, her sister started watching me every day and sometimes they smile sometimes they used to make a strange face like angry or something but I didn't understand at all (mixed reactions). All this went for a long time till 2020 before COVID-19. I know her Instagram and Facebook handle but I didn’t her send her a request becoz of reputation. Even I can't able to talk to her in gym becoz of reputation. After that I didn't get the time to join the gym till now. Now the situation is I joined the gym but still I got mixed reaction sometimes smile or strange or no reaction. I don't able to understand what is going on in her head. I really want something to happen but in a positive way. I really like this girl I want to spend my whole life with her. I want to marry. I want this to happen in 3 months becoz after that I will move to some other state for my further studies. I don't have enough time. Ma’am, please help me how can I approach her. How can I make her feel positive or to like me and relationship all. I can't able to understand what I am going to do.  Shivam
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Whoa, slow down Romeo!

Just seeing a girl in the gym is different from spending the rest of your life with her.

Please be a little practical...you know NOTHING about her. So I’d suggest that you make a move to get to know her first, because you haven’t for three years!

And stop building her up so much in your head, it’s not healthy.

You’re obsessed with someone you don’t know. Go up to her and her sister in the gym, introduce yourself and maybe ask them both out for coffee after your workout session and get acquainted first.

You can think of marriage when you’re dating a person, not when you don’t even know her name! 

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I am 26 and she is 25…but tbh maam mujhe lgta hai uske parents pr jada influence unke rishtedaro ka hai..vo unko force krte hai ki jldi shadi krdeni chaiye..uski nani bolte hai mere jeetey ji shadi krwa do m dkhlungi …thoda emotional blackmail type krte hai..or sirf phla hi rishta dekha tha unhone or 1 baar milne pr hi haan b krdiya sayad ladke valo ki family ko…pr mujhe esa b lgta hai ki koi bhi parents itne to strict nhi hote hongi ki bacho ki bilkul hi na sune …sayad ladki ko itni jldi himat nhi harni chaiye usko or efforts krne chaiye thats what i think…mujhe smjh nhi ara m kisko blame kru khud b krta hu ki kash jldi job leleta to ye din na dkhna pdhta pr ek mn me khyal ata hai ki tb b to caste differences hote tb bhi to himat dikhani pdhti khud ke liye fight krna pdhta tb kya vo kr pati? Vo pandit hai unme caste society kya sochegi ye chij sbse phle dekhi jati h…usne to mujhe boldiya ki ki usse koi umeed nhi dikhri hai hme move on krna chaiye pr m koi b hope ni chrd para hu mujhe umeed hai pr usko nhi hai or m ..na to pdhai me concentrate kr para hu bilkul bhi stressed hu job ko lekr bhi apne relationship ko lekr bhi future ko soch soch kr bhi ..m sari taraf se fs gya hu …
Ans: Dear solar,
App padhaai pe dhayaan dena pehle and ladki ko bolna ki tab tak woh apne parents ko sambhal le...naukri ki talaask bhi jaari rakhiye taaki exam hote hi aap ladki ke pariwaar se milke shaayd unhe samjhaa sake...
par zaroori yeh hai ki yeh pareeksha sirf aapke liye hi nahin balki ladki ka bhi hai ki kitna aur kis hadd tak woh apne parents ko taal sakti hai...aapka dhyaan ab sirf pareeksha pe hona chahiye.
Uske baad faisla lena ka bhi haq ban jaayega aap logon ka...

All the best!
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Before I address your query, please avoid mentioning your date of birth on social media; it's not necessary at this point. However, I noticed that some other details are missing.

In addition to the educational concerns, it seems like you may have a bit of a psychological issue in that you tend to worry excessively about others. This mentality is quite common in our country. Prior to the NEET exam, entry into the medical field, specifically for MBBS and BDS, was mainly reserved for aspirants with high marks. Additionally, those with significant wealth could gain admission through management quotas or at times via NRI quotas. However, the situation has changed completely after the introduction of NEET.

As you know, the major advantage of NEET is that the marks aspirants score in their HSC examinations are now less relevant. Candidates from any part of the country, of any category or state, and even those taking the exam for a second time can attempt NEET, regardless of their HSC performance. If aspirants have talent, they can succeed in NEET, which provides a standardized syllabus across the nation. So, even if you are currently struggling with your HSC studies, you can still perform well on the NEET.

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Regarding your desire to enter the medical field (I believe you want to become a doctor), is that correct?

If so, in addition to MBBS, there are other medical courses known as Indian Medicine, including BAMS, BHMS, BSMS, and BNYS. If you find MBBS challenging, consider focusing on these options as well. Many people have started to embrace Indian medicine after the COVID pandemic, so it’s not a problem at all.

Prepare for NEET 2025, analyze your situation, and send your details to the Rediffguru. We can discuss this further.

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If the organisation is such that EPFO laws are applicable and if employee 's salary is as per the threshold given by EPFO (15 K basic +DA) then you don't have an option to avoid EPF.

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