My husband launched a YouTube channel where he shares dramatic re-enactments of our marital arguments. He uses actual words and mannerisms that I use under the guise of 'relationship counselling'. Some of our common friends now make a joke about it. I feel he should have consulted me or at least asked for permission before using our marriage as an example. His intent may be right but I don't think he should have turned our marriage into an experiment. One of our neighbours recognised me from a video he shot without my consent.

Anu Mam, in your video you mentioned about healthy communication. I have tried many times to initiate communication with my husband but he is very biased. He shuts me down immediately in front of his parents and friends. It’s very embarrassing when he does that in front of people we know. He likes to dominate and make fun of me which everyone else seems to enjoy but I don’t. If I tell him that he feels I am being a spoilsport. He says I have put on weight and look fat after marriage and I don’t have a job that’s why I am getting all these negative thoughts. My mother in law also never supports me. She doesn’t tell if her son does something wrong. If I make one mistake she will blow it out of proportion and discuss in front of everyone. That becomes another topic for argument. All this is making me very annoyed and affecting our marriage now. We don’t have a child yet but we are already fighting every day. Please help. I just want to start a happy relationship. But I don’t know how to do it.

Dear Guru I was in a relationship with a guy before my marriage where we had physical relation and he had taken videos without my consent. I had to leave him as he was physically and emotionally abusive and was not taking relationship to marriage. I am now married and my husband knows I had a relationship, but not details. My husband wants to start a family and I am worried if the videos will come out in future and bring shame to family and my kid. I am not able to decide what to do? Please advice.

I shot an mv with one of my friend who is also a friend to my bf. It was a simple video with no awkward or controversial scenes but my bf just hated it and kept on blaming me saying how could i do such an awful thing while he was away for training (btw, he was in his army training phase and got access to phones only on sunday the video got out on saturday). He kept on pastering the same thing over and over again despite me telling him several times that it is not what he thinks it is. It has been 2 years and more since that incident and he again brought that topic. This time he says that his mom saw it and looks really bad and he felt terrible and stuffs like that. hearing this i fell upset and cried too. We've been together for almost 5 years now should I breakup with him for never supporting me and always acting insecure. What's your opinion on this matter?