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Can I Marry a 19-Year Older Person? A Reader's Dilemma

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 25, 2025

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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 24, 2025Hindi
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Can I marry a 19yr elder person will the relationship susttain and wt about the future

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I don't predict the future BUT I can tell you that when the age gap is large, thoughts and value systems start to become different and 19 years is a very long gap...so, it can cause issues within the marriage when mind compatibility fails.

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Yes, the age gap might most likely bother her in a few years when she sees you growing older when she finds a lot of younger men around.
You did mention that her parents are concerned about this alliance BUT what about the girl? What does she think of marriage with you? Since she is young, has she had the time to process if the care that you were showering her with is not actually what she has missed from her parents especially her father? You need to be very careful of this one because she could be projecting her lack of love from her parents onto you and then seek it from you!
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