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Anu Krishna  |1617 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 09, 2025

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 01, 2025Hindi
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Hi ,thanks for all your suggestions that you give. Really helpful to all. Would like to discuss my close friend .He is in 40's and has off late behaving wierd sometimes.specially after his fathers demise.he sometimes forgets what we discussed few days before.often goes on past memories. (what others did to him and his struggle). become more religious. He is doing good in office and famoly unaware as he behaves mostly normal at home. Really worried.pl advice what can I Do extra to make him behave normally.thanks.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Thanks you for your kind words of acknowledgement!

It's nice to know that you care a lot. Just be with him as any friend would...let him have the time to grieve and instead of putting a time to how quickly he must normalize, just let him be...That would really help him more than you wanting to see him better due to your anxiety. This is more about him than you. Step in to intervene only if there are drastic and detrimental changes in his behavior.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Asked on - Apr 11, 2025 | Answered on Apr 11, 2025
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Thanks for the reply. It is now 4 years since father demise..How long to wait and what can I Do .thanks
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Why are you timing it? I know that you are concerned BUT unless you see any self-harming or externally abusive behavior, just let him be...Again I say this, it's not about you as much as it is about him. Everyone process grief their own way and many change and become religious, spiritual, aethist, agnostic...
This change is perhaps what is bothering you as your friend is not who you are used to seeing; if you could just be there for him when he needs you, honestly that would make a huge difference to him. He is lucky to have a friend like you.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Ans: Dear Friend,

It’s never easy to see a close relationship change, especially when you’ve shared such a strong bond over the years. Friendships, like any other relationships, go through ups and downs. Let’s take a step back and understand what might be happening, and explore ways to address it.

Possible Reasons for the Change
Misunderstanding:
It seems your friend may have felt unsupported during his property purchase decision. While your caution was well-meaning, he might have interpreted it as hesitation or lack of trust in his judgment.

Life Changes:
Settling abroad and adjusting to a new life can be overwhelming. Sometimes, people unintentionally drift apart while navigating new environments and responsibilities.

Emotional Guard:
His formal and distant behavior might indicate hurt feelings or a belief that the friendship has become strained. Instead of addressing the issue openly, he might be avoiding confrontation.

Steps to Rebuild the Friendship
Acknowledge and Address the Situation:
Send a heartfelt message where you acknowledge the distance between you both and express your willingness to understand and resolve it. For example:

“I’ve noticed we’ve been distant lately, and I really value our friendship. If I’ve done or said something to hurt you, I’d like to understand and make things right.”

Clarify Your Intentions:
If the property issue is at the root of the problem, explain your perspective. Share that your intention was to be cautious and protect him from potential risks, not to let him down.

Respect His Space:
While it’s important to reach out, avoid overwhelming him with too many calls or messages. Give him time to process and respond.

Reconnect Gradually:
Try rekindling the friendship in a lighter, more neutral way. Share a funny memory, an old photo, or an update about your life that might spark a natural conversation.

Lean on Common Friends:
If you have mutual friends, they can sometimes act as bridges in such situations. They might also provide insight into what your friend is feeling.

Prepare for All Outcomes:
Sometimes, despite our best efforts, people choose to move on for reasons of their own. If he remains distant, remember the good times you’ve shared and focus on maintaining the friendships that continue to nurture and support you.

A Gentle Perspective
Friendships, especially those that have lasted through tough times, are precious. But they also evolve as people grow and change. If your friend is currently unable to reciprocate your efforts, it doesn’t mean the bond you shared was meaningless. It simply means that both of you might be in different places emotionally or geographically right now.

Give it time, approach the situation with understanding, and keep your heart open. A true friendship often finds its way back, even after temporary distances.

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Dr. Madam My son,30 yr old, is MBA and serving MNC earning 25000 pm . He shows a very awkward behaviour , rude to family members, very adamant, careless, no charm for marriage and above all shows no responsibility. He takes everything as burden, curses peoples. Always remains fearful of his looks as his beard n hairs getting gray. We consult many psychiatrist but no result. Your suggestions please.
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