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Hi Shalini, My case is strange. I am 54 now. But I can forget my old flame of 1991. She was my neighbor, six years younger to me. We were good friends. She would often come to my house and she had great bonding with my mother. I liked her so I confessed my feelings and she accepted it. I was a believer that I will marry the girl, I fall in love with. So, I was looking for an ideal relationship and then ending in a marriage. To my shock, I found myself that she had 2 boy friends. One of them was a notorious guy who was jailed few times. She was not able to say no to anybody. Perhaps, she liked the fact that boys fell for her. I was disturbed. I failed in my engineering year that year. Later, I couldn't finish my degree Engineering. I had Diploma Engineering so I pursued my job basis on it and then became a Director of a US company. I got married and I have a loving wife taking my good care. We have a lovely kid and everything is fine. Somehow, my missing Degree engineering is still hurting me. That girl later married and shifted to the US and she also has two kids. How can I forever bury this hurt and move on to my life?

Im 37 employed in a private sector im. Not geting any marriage alliance my parents are very sad wat could be the best way for this issue

How to find love after a divorce? I am 45 and mother of two.

Hi Shalini, Am in touch with a girl who is a doctor in Old Mumbai, Versova. She is practicing from 15 yrs and born and brought up from Mumbai only. She is around 40 yrs and am 43 yrs. She accepted via matrimony and now numbers are exchanged. She never does a VC nor comes to meet at mid way between Khargar to Versova. I stay in Khargar. I am requesting her many ways to meet, but she never responds when I say call VC or lets meet. She just talks via phone and reads whatsapp messages. Its almost from 2 months happening. Even at week ends she says she is busy but she attends all my calls at week days. But she never comes to meet nor to wish do VC also. Now whats your advice. Note; She is divorced without any child and it happened 10 years back. And I am purely unmarried and first marriage. Both of us horoscopes are matching with around 25 Gunas as per astrological reports. Pls advice further how to take it forward. Thanks,

I am 58 years old working in a central government office. I have a junior female colleague who is 43 years old. We have been working together for the past fifteen years and travel together on official tours. She will always be jovial and I enjoy her company. Both were married and have children as well. I like her very much and love her as well. Recently, I developed strong feelings for her. I expressed the same to her through emails and WhatsApp and by showing special attention and care. When I presented her a special jewelry gift on her birthday, she refused to accept the same. Despite my repeated pleas and requests, she refused and when I made an emotional appeal to her on my birthday, she finally accepted and do not know till now what she has done with it! Ever since I expressed my love to her, she withdrew from me and started to avoid me. I got the message! But, I am unable to forget her and all these happenings. I feel like not being able to live without her and her thoughts. In spite of my appeals to her to forgive me and my requests to her to express herself on what she feels about me and these happenings, she maintains stoic silence and never reacted so far. I am unable to read her. Because of this, my work also suffers. I am unable to bear her moving away from me, even though she limited to speaking to me only on profession-related matters. At the same time, my feelings towards her increase day-by-day. I am unable to tolerate this new situation and just can't forget her. Just wondering if I did a mistake by expressing myself to her. I love her so much that every moment I think of her. Please advice on how to overcome this!

Hi , its getting very difficult to find a suitable bride for 26 year boy earning 1.2L/m medium built smart

Hi Madam, I am 36 yrs old girl, working in central govt, I lost my parents long back, all my siblings are elder & busy in their family, brothers doesnt even talk to me, so there is no one who is seriously finding boy for my marriage, I tried through matrimonial apps, it didnt work. Based on my colleague advise, I tried through dating apps but nobody is genuine there, most of them are looking for hook up. Finally I found one guy who is 3 years elder than me but come to know within 3months that he too married but we are in touch through calls & msgs from past 6 years, since I stay alone at quarters, he met me more than 30 times at my place, even spent nights with me but never forced me for anything that I dont like. I love him a lot but he is married so I dont want have physical relationship with him but I too have biological urges but I am scared of getting pregnant or even loosing virginity which might affect my marriage, at the same time I dont have any hopes left on my marriage. This guy has lots of patience , we meet, drink together , do all things except intercourse , could you pls advise me whether I should have sex with him? also I stopped using dating apps as I love this guy.

Hi. I am 25 years old and she is 30. I need some more time to get settled but her parents want her to get married immediately. She is not working. I need your advice.

I am married but I want to date and my wife is ok with it. Can u suggest some good optilons?

When being in a relationship, how long does it take before you really know each other?

hello. in a typical arrange marriage scene , i talk to a person from 4 months. Everything goes well . wen parents ask about his concent ,he said i m already committed. what is the interpretation?

My friend who is 38 is unable to find a good partner to get married. She earns well, is well settled and is looking for a boy who can spend his future with her keeping her interests and goals in mind. However, most guys she's met either want an educated girl to look after his parents or want someone who will quit her job to raise a family. Is she wrong to have basic expectations and dreams from her future partner?

I went on a bad date and I don't want to do it again. How can I thank the person and refuse politely without offending them?

My boyfriend tells me he might want to go back and be friends again because he doesn’t feel a different kind of ‘love’ when he is dating me now. What should I do?

We had a relation 2 years . He cheated on me, he is with someone now I want him back I am in the depression now even I can't breath properly I don't know what to do or not

I am 59 & i want to be in relationship with some good lady . I am married & having two children. How can you help me?

was in a relationship for 3 months but the girl never reciprocated in the same way as i did.There was no initiative from her side but when I used to ask her why is this happening only i m trying to build but you aren't, she used to say that i was unable to see anything she is doing for me.To be very honest and being impartial if i was at level 10 she was at 1.One day on this very topic some arguments happened and she walked away.After that no message no call and she used to tell me that she loved me but she never ever tried to reach out to me.Now its been one month.I literally am feeling really gloomy.Now she is putting status and showing that to me that i was not ready to build with her i uttered wrong words to her.But honestly i am telling you that I loved her very much and tried all the ways to build with her but she never reciprocated.I still miss her a lot but she seems to moved on so easily that's hurting me too much simultaneously she is putting these statuses too What to do?

How to move on after break up

I am 50 Male. Had a very brief spell of marriage of about one month, 18 years ago. Not consummated due to tempramental differences, soon,ended into divorce. Still single, also virgin. Till now not able to find a soulmate.

He is much younger than me but I love him so much , I think I'm suffering from attachment lifestyle disorder for 3 months we used to be always together having fun , I also know it will hurt me when this kind of relationship ends but now he went away to other places n I thought it's a good chance for me to treat myself but I started feeling the need to be with him , I miss all things we do , n all I do is think about n about him all the time I tried to forget it n heal my mind but I could never its getting worse n worse , he likes my involvement in his life but also I know when I'm with him I hve no time to work but my feelings always wants to be with him n I want him to be always be in my side , when im with him I feel extraordinarily happy but as soon as I'm not with him everything feels so quiet I'm think it's our attachment lifestyle that is haunting me I love him so much but I want to quit us for good but I feel like he is my own part of my body n I really really hurts me when I try to distance myself from him I tried so much to stop this feeling but I find no happiness from anything if I'm not with him please help me

Hlo maam, I kind of like someone...and i have even expressed it to him,he don't answer me about this He sometimes cares for me but sometimes he makes fun of me in anger

We broke up in January. In Feb he let me know that he wants some space and time to get healed. When I stop respond his calls in March he asked for a discussion over the issues we had. In those days I was a bit busy with official works so couldn’t meet for discussion. Then he was angry that I am not showing interest in discussion. Then we meet to talk but he become angry recalling the fight at the time of our break up. I want to reconcile the relationship. At some point from his messages I think he want but sometime I think he doesn’t. How should I proceed.

I got breakup and still not able to moveo

Marriage lasted for eight months, girl is separated without of a divorce, how to act after waiting for 8yrs. of court case?

W.r.t the relatioship, I am having my own question " why the Wife demanding money most of the time when she is finding that her husband is working in an World classCompany in Abroad? This is true situation where wife is a housewife( Non working). Does money is only find the love , trustworthy, understanding, mutual respect etc in a married life of Man of good working with his non working( houseWife) wife?

I am married person of 42 years. I have a childhood friend and this girl is facing family and emotional pressures from her family. I have developed feelings for her, but cant tell her as I am afraid that it will hurt our friendship. She is quite open with me and tell me all her emotional aspects, but i feel helpless to help her emotionally as it can cross the boundaries of our friendship. I know her issues but cant help her both emotionally and physically due to these boundaries. I also see that other men are moving around her and may take advantage of her weak mindset which i can never tolerate. Please help me how best I can help her

Hello Mam ! Mam I don’t know if I have right to ask you this cause Iam still 17 ! Mam Iam Seetha ..I have completed my inter 2nd year and I am preparing for Neet 2023 and Yes I am least confident about my first attempt so I’ll be preparing for Neet 2024 to ! There is a boy whom I know him since 5th class but we were close to each other from 9th class ….. but like a good friend and 4 months ago he proposed me and I slowly fell in love with him !!! He is a good guy he respects me a lot and he respects everyone …from past one month we were very close and we met several times ….. He is a guy who respects my time and his time he don’t have obsession like I have for him ….I always force him to stay or talk bit longer and he felt like I won’t respect his time and Said Iam a person who won’t understand his efforts he puts for us and he said 10 days ago that we should be away for a year so that concentrate on ourself and he said to that I should change to a mature person …and he blocked me everywhere but I refused but I done it I mean neither we talked or chatted with each other for 5 days but after few days I called him from other number and he know that and unblocked me so we spoke to each other ! He said that we should be apart for our self but then again he said we should have been friends only but whatever happened is happened now we can’t do anything he said ! I asked him that be true and if you want to ask for a break up you can buy he said no I want you and I don’t want to leave you … and yeah mam he never tried to be physical with me …only I was and for this he sayid that I never understand him and etc etc and said that I just loved him physically not truely and that broke my heart ! But I don’t know what I should do now ? He said this is test for us that will our love be the same for one year ? But then again few days ago We talked to each other and that to I started first …yesterday as a friend we were talking and he said he wrote a poem and I asked for whom u wrote this he said For my ex …he said that if she comes again then he will accept and I was really confused 😐…And we had a huge fight he felt bad and I too but lastly I said sorry and today he asked for a break up and I said I won’t repeat my behaviour gain and I asked for last chance so that I could change from childish behaviour to a mature girl as he likes … Now you please say me mam that what should be done ? Should I have to stay away from him temporarily until I get changed to a better person as he wants or should I break up with him since he said we should have been frnds only ! What should I do mam ? Kindly please reply me as fast as you could mam !!! 😕

How to know if you are dating guy is serious about you and putting some efforts ir u have fallen for his words

Dear Coach, I know that communication is the best way to be and remain connected in marriage. My wife and me are married since 12 years, but we don't have a healthy communication between us. I tried to tell her many times (by words, writing, whatsapp messages, etc.) that she needs to hear me out and not cut my sentence in between. But she will always cut my sentence in between and not allow me to speak. Due to this, she derives wrong meaning from a half sentence. On the contrary, I am a good listener and will never stop her from speaking or expressing herself. Please help me, how should I convince my wife to listen to me.

Hii, mam i love a guy since 8th i used to propose hum he accepted but after a year due to his personal issues he left the school but when I was in my graduation we again connected again and now it been three years we talked to each every day in beginning he used to talk with me very nicely and i feel lobe from his side but now in these days he don't even talk with me seems he look frustrated with me and wants to get rid out of this relationship despite i don't know still why i love him that much I cried for him but now he never cared of this .. what should I do??

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We had an arranged marriage through matrimonial site. He lied to me about his drinking habits and financial status, etc. But after marriage i let it go that these things can be changed. His mother from the very first day was taunting and harrassing me for my skin colour, clothes, things given by my parents, etc. I never answered back to her. He also didn't said a single word to stop her. His sisters also used to taunt me and there were lots of interference. I never told anything to my parents. One day his mother was harrassing me over phone. I didn't said anything to her but called my husband and told him everything in very angered tone. He recorded everything and sent it to my parents, his parents, etc. When i tried to confront him, he blocked me. We couldn't talk for a long period. Now, he doesn't want to continue this relationship and said he wants divorce without giving any explanation. I am also very hurt. But also very confused about my future with him that how will i live with such a spineless man? My parents are not listening me that i also don't want to continue this toxic relationship. What should I do?

Hi, I am looking for a life partner. I have met 5-6 gals, most of them have liked me and I too like them. I go on date and get along well with them but when it comes to take a decision for marriage, I just take step back and start feeling like she is not the right person for me or kind of start losing interest. I feel I deserve better person. How to make a decision and to know who is the right person? At the same time, I also feel that I am taking lot of time to decide and wasting lot of time. How do we know that the person we are seeing is the right person to be our partner? How long do we need to date / meet to decide on this?

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Dear Ms Shalini, what are some of the qualities to look for while searching for a partner online? Also, what are the red flags and how to identify them?

What advice would you like to give young couples on Valentine's Day?

Shaliniji, What were some good things about old-time matchmakers/matchmaking that are lost in today's dating world?