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Hi Shalini ji . I am confused and want to that is it fine that your spouse want to keep her life with her friend private and dont want to share anything about it with you . As I am facing this challenge and my spouse she is busy chatting or talking with friends and hardly discuss anything with me . is this alarming

I am 28 yo women and going for arranged marriage. A boy of 32 yo have come he is a nice guy I loved his way of speaking and his focus on his career his intelligence in the 1st meeting. Now he is an average looking boy I kind of like his face but my mother donot like his face and his colour is also dark. What should I say yes or no. Please guide

Hi Shalini ,I am 50 year old women (orphan )married but No kids .My husband treats me like trash .He talks Bad about my character to everyone behind my back and involved in extramarital affair with young women .we have seperate rooms and don't sleep together from 10 years .he refuses mutual divorce and I don't have energy to file false case as adviced by lawyer .I am into depression.Difficult to find house for solo women without family most owners literally ask for tenant kundali (sarcasm) .we live in apartment which is in joint name and I paid half the amount.he still stays in this house in separate room but has taken a seperate flat for his love .he doesn't want to sell the flat and neither wants to give my share financially for me to buy new house .I am all alone helpless .I don't know what to do

Hello, I am in a relationship with my boyfriend who is 2 yrs younger to me for past 3 years and i am not sure if he is someone whom i want to spend the rest of my life with. But he is ready to get married and his parents know about me and asking me when will i get married. I do not know how to take this forward and how will i know if he is the one

Hi, Ma'am, i start talking with guy through online. At first he was very good, gentle person. Later i found out his behavior something change. His has anger issue, mental issue. So i found this is toxic relationship. I stop replying. I even said to move on. But now he starts threatened me as he will suicide, also blackmail me with my pic . He has anger issues. I dont know what will happen next. I need a suggestion. Thank you

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I am 23 year old. One of my ex who is married now told me about a job opportunity in his company where I applied and got selected he became my boss. He was recently married and was staying alone in Bangalore. He made alot of things easier for me, even arranged flight tickets, hotels for me from company's expenses. From first day I reached Mumbai he kept on saying me he loves me and has no intimacy with his wife it was a forced marriage and he can't live without me he came to check me at my hotel and he tried kissing me and when I resisted he said he has never touched his wife, it was his dream to loose his virginity with me only once he wants to have sex with me it was his dream I am his first love he can never be happy with that lady but this one moment will be enough to keep him happy and healthy convinced me to the level I gave up and we had sex that day. Later that day I got to know that he had clicked pictures of whatever happened. When I confronted him he said whenever he will miss me he will see this. I was like u did dis without my knowledge it's wrong without my permission. I left that company and Mumbai immediately in few days. I feel really bad, how I got into his words although I was single but I have a guilty of helping him in cheating his wife. Now he is having 2 children and a very happy mai life and I still keep blaming myself for having a thing with a married man and immense guilty for helping him cheating his wife. I have lost my mental peace. Is it all my fault??? It been 5 years since this things happened. I am happily married now and have no contact with that man but is it correct myself for it. Was it completely my fault. Have i cheated his wife or i myself got cheated by a liar?

I was in a 3 year rls with my ex boyfriend. During the rls, he cheated on me with another girl and then after some time, came back to me. He's so toxic and I don't want to live with him anymore but he threatens me so much, calls me everyday and blackmails me. I cry everyday because of him and I can't even tell my dad about it coz there is some family situation which isn't stable rn. Please help me and tell me a solution to get rid of this mess once and for all.

I already have a boyfriend but now I'm falling in love with another guy from my office. Now I am not sure who is right for me. I feel secure with one but more intimate with the other. I don't want to throw it all away but I don't know how to tell this to my boyfriend. What should I do?

Hi ma'am, I met one guy through arrange marriage setup . I had strong instincts since I saw his bio that he is the one. Never felt like this before for anyone. After that, I didn't receive any clear answer from him or his family. I tried to connect with him on LinkedIn. He accepted my connection invite, which was really unexpected from him. Its been 15 days , I want to message him also but families were involved so I am afraid that if either his or my family got to know about this then what if they will misjudge me for directly contacting him. What should I do?

Hi Love Guru, greetings for the day, I am a 30 years old man . How to find Soulmate. I have never been in a relationship and don't have any past experience in even talking to Girls . I want to have love interest or want to have love marriage kindly request you to please advise. Thank you.

Hi Shalini Ji,Me(M38) and wife(F37) happily married for 12 years and blessed with one daughter. Partner(F28)continuing friendship with a person[M] who had crush on her before marriage considered emotional infidelity? Me(M38) and wife(F37) happily married for 12 years and blessed with one daughter. My wife is having friendship (strictly platonic) with a guy from her 10tlh grade (same class). Before our marriage (she may be doing her college, our relationship just started may be 2 weeks) this guy told her he has genuine interest in her and he want to take the relationship further if she wants, she said she is not interested in a relationship and she got committed, she always saw him as a friend, no other feelings for him and we can be friends if you don't bring any romantic interest again. He never took this talk again ever after and happy to be a friend. They are talking as friends. She got married to me. He also got married. They still do chats once in a month. She introduced me to him and visited his home when we visited his country. He also came to our home once with his family. She used to update me with every chat she had with him and the content they are chatting. I am ok with that When we were talking about our school life and college life 2 years before. She said this guy had crush on her during her college days. I asked her, why did not she tell me this info till now. She said it is not purposely, she does not feel the need to do as the person is not in-appropriate with her and continuing as good friend as promised after she rejected his proposal. I don’t want to create any unnecessary issues as I don’t have any felling or so with him. That time I checked their chats completely, it’s about update about their common friends, their recent travel, their job, meditation courses and the books they read recently. I haven’t seen any flirting or romantic message from either of them. So I am perfectly fine with it and had no problems. I recently came to know about the concept of emotional cheating which is very new to me. Before that cheating to me is only flirting, sexeting and physical sex. I have asked for advice in redddit.com in infedility sub forum about emotional cheating/ emotion affair. There persons are advising like even having friendship with someone who had crush on you is emotional cheating as it is indirectly leading them on you. So with a omission of lie he had crush on her and indirectly leading him on you wife was emotionally cheating on you. This is very much equal to cheating. I do have lots of friends in other gender, but no one had crush on me. Does this count as emotional cheating/affair as she did not mention he had crush on her before marriage? I am little depressed and not able to spend quality time with my wife who is in postpartum depression and take care of our daughter properly as before. Do you guys advise me how to navigate this situation?

My gf works in company where his manager propose her and she refused that . She already informed that guy she has bf. But the problem is still she is chatting with him and also dropped by him what hurts me lot. What can I do ? I asked her several times what's going on and she is still telling me that nothing . But I have doubt. I have already talked to that guy. And he also said sorry but I don't think it was ended from his side. He is still trying to manipulate my gf's mind

Dear Anu, I am a 45 year old female, iam single and now from last year involved with a guy of my age who is also single. We have a long distance relationship but somehow we like each other and are from the same sector. Iam financially stable and have and am doing good in my career and life. When i met him i thought may be i was longing for a male companionship and physical relationship which i was avoiding consciously. We both are from the same field but he is struggling financially and is very unstable right now. He is not physically healthy and is overweight. But he promised me 2 years back that everything will be alright. But nothing has changed, i asked him to make the relationship formal and then continue working towards his goals, but he says he needs more time, maybe one year more. Iam not happy with this, i want to be together. I have given him a ultimatum of this year December and otherwise i will not wait for him. I have also cleared him that i dont need any financial support from him only if works on his physical health it will be fine for me. Please suggest iam i right in asking this, should i give him more time or quit?

I am a single mother, my husband has passed away 1.10 years ago, now I have decided to find a life partner, my son age is 3.5 years--how can I select a perfect guy for me?

Hi My name is MR and I am 47 years old. For a long time, I was single until I met AS, who is 46. At first, I was hesitant to move forward, but we eventually became intimate. Over the next six months, we had a deeply physical relationship, and my life began to revolve around her. I had never experienced such intense feelings for anyone before and felt that she was equally in love with me. We wanted to take our relationship to the next level, but due to complications with my divorce, I needed more time. She also had not finalized her divorce and was planning to start the process. Meanwhile, I saw her facing challenges in life and managing household tasks to support herself despite having completed her master's degree. Her visa did not permit her to work. We patiently waited together until her visa issues were resolved, after which I secured a job for her at the firm where I worked. She then traveled to India to initiate the divorce process. For three weeks, I anxiously waited for her return. When she came back, I came to know that she was back with her husband, she informed me that she was moving away with him for the children's sake. This left me devastated and in a deep depression for two months. Upon her return to the office, we had to work together for several hours daily, and I struggled to control my feelings, reverting to old behaviors. After her husband found out I called her by a personal nickname and yelled at her, she asked me to write an apology letter. I felt utterly devastated. During our next trip to India, I once again saw her with another man, this time sharing a hotel room. When I confronted her about it, she claimed he was a family member. I was 100% sure that he was not. He was a CEO of one firm here. HE is married and I know his wife too. This deeply devastated me. I feel at a loss and uncertain about how to handle the situation. Since she reports to me, any misstep on my part could be seen as harassment. What should I do? I want to come out of this. I am also planning to be back with my wife and kid and is calling off my divorce. I need help to come back to a stable life. MR

I am 29 years old man. My concern is related to love. I have never really been in a relationship. I'm not sure how much success I would have had if I even would have tried. I have been complemented by women saying that they find me attractive. But didn't go beyond that and I never really pursued it beyond that. The reason being I never wanted to risk being emotionally attached to someone who wouldn't necessarily be there for me in the long term. That's why I never pursued a relationship. I'm not socially awkward or easily get anxious. I used to think that it is better if I wait for marriage as well. But given the times I'm made to feel like that is now considered a 'red flag' these days. I just wanted to know if this would hurt my marriage prospects. I do believe in women having an equal opinion in the relationship. I don't hold any opinions that could be considered misogynistic or sexist. But I just wish to know is it really a red flag and if it is what do I do to tackle the same

Ma'am I'm in love with a Jatt guy. We both are in love with each other. But I'm not a Jatt. He already told me about the circumstances that can come when it comes to marriage point of view. His family is very much orthodox, they already asked their son to choose a girl from their community. Meanwhile he respect his family a lot, which is too good. Can you please advice me how to convince his family?

You posted: Hello. I am dating someone from almost 4 years. During those years, our relationship has grown to the extent that we know we are pretty much compatible in aspects such as values, friendship, vulnerability, understanding and support. But one or two factors have always been a hurdle in commitment for a marriage which he himself consider as superficial but is not able to completely let go of. So, he suggests that we can compromise on those factors, and focus on other positives. The problem is that he feels that we don't have that romantic spark and chemistry which he had imagined. But he is ready to settle on that, and thus, I also shouldn't expect his 100 percent response in romance. I don't know how to take this statement. I never felt that missing part; I never asked for grand romantic gestures. I did complain sometimes about basic expressions of romance. I feel his approach as if it is some sort of calculation with no instinctive feeling. And how do I not take this comment as personal.

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Hi I am a 27f. My parents are looking for arrange marriage alliances. I am not looking to get married right now. However, my parents feel pressured and because of that I’m feeling pressured. I kept on saying no to all the rishtas that have come by taking out one or the other problem in family or guy. But now this rishta has come where the family is nice and the guy is super nice too. I’m not able to find any reason to say no to this guy and he seems really interested in me yet I don’t want to get married, not at least this year I feel. I need this year for myself. Moreover I am in love with someone whom I know I won’t be able to get married too. I want this year with him. I feel I cannot betray my bf and be selfish and say yes to this man just because he feels fine to me to get married to. Next year I have decided to give in to my parents demands. Also the man I am dating is wonderful. It’s just we cannot get married because of our age gap. He is 10 years older to me and he never wants to get married. He knows what he wants. I am in such a dilemma what should I do? I feel trapped.

"Hi... I'm a 28-year-old female. My parents are searching for a suitable match for me. They recently received a proposal from a guy's family. Since my family is orthodox, they're trying to finalize my marriage without consulting me. However, the main issue is that when my father told them I want to speak with the groom, his father hesitated."He said they can talk after the engagement, which made me feel uneasy and suspicious. What should I do in this situation?

Hello mam, my boyfriend don't want to fight with his parents because his parents are against of intercaste religion. Marriage is still far like we have time now. He said let's stay together for now. Then we will separate in good way. I also think that he is right but on other side i also think that i have to face this again in future. What should i do? Should I continue my relationship with him for now or break up with him?

I have fallen in love with my male bestfriend and we love each other. But our castes are totally different and both of our families are against this. We are unable to leave each other and he is so obsessed with me that wants a casual relationship where we'll provide support to each others feelings until we find our serious partners in the future. What should i do? Should i part our ways or should i continue to be with him even though there's no future but we love each other more than anything. Is it good to have a relation that is more than friendship and less than relationship? I really want him but i'm afraid of what if i'll have flashbacks of him? Please help

I am a very disciplined guy with a decent job. I take care of my parents, provide for them. I am hard working, ambitious, always do everything in a planned way. I am typical nice guy type but I know my boundaries. But I don't understand why girls gets attracted to the bad guys, guys having no plans for their future, don't even value them just want their body. Unfortunately the girls are ready to give their body and mind to them and once they are done they throw the girl away. But again they fall for the same type of guys and the cycle repeats. If you are not that type of guy, they don't consider you as a man and insult you. I just want to know why most of the girls nowadays are like this. They hurt the good people and chase the wrong ones. Maybe there are good girls, but chances of finding them is very less. Want to know how to overcome this. I have almost lost hope now. I don't want to change myself for some girl but I also want someone in my life who can really support and love me.

Hello Mam Im single male 51 years Never thought of marriage till now.But now feel like having a life partner is betterwhere both of us will be support to each other. Marriage advisable in this age .?

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Me and a guy are at talking stage and he only talks to me for 30 mins in the whole day while I wait for him to reply. He tells me that it will take him around 4 months to actually tell me if he wants to date me or not. Is this normal or he is just a red flag

I am a single child and I am finding it difficult to get a partner. Nowadays every guy I meet online or through matrimony either want a sanskari or a working bahu or a modern one, with no expectations of children or future planning. I want a good partner and a family with modern thoughts. I am 36 and would like to have two children but I don't want to give up on my career completely. I am tired of the rejections and constantly throwing myself at these events and having to prove myself to strangers.

Ma'am, I love a girl very much; we understand each other without saying anything, like soulmates. Both my girlfriend and I are intercaste, and her parents are very strict. They would kill her if they found out she was thinking about intercaste marriage. My girlfriend has now given up on the situation, and talks about her marriage have started at her house. I don't know what to do – whether to continue the relationship with her or not. On one hand, I think I should stay with her and love her until her engagement is fixed, but on the other hand, I feel I should leave her now because her father will never accept a love plus intercaste marriage in this lifetime.

Hello mam, I am 45 year old single mother of 19 year old son, I am feeling loneliness and have searched a partner as like I wanted, he is widower having two children, but problem is that we both are working and well settled with our permanent government jobs, my job is not transferring job and he doesn't want to move due to his kids education and his job...we both want to marry with each other, but we are helpless right now...due to this situation I again getting very anxious and tense... what should I do? Please show me a path...

I realised that my boyfriend needs a break from the relationship to fix his life. He never said it himself, but slowly distancing himself. This is disturbing me. Should I initiate the break? How should I prevent myself from contacting him during this break period? I am worried that what if the break turns into a breakup.

My boyfriend is very immature. He is two years younger than me. Sometime his immaturity causes lots of pain. I dont want to leave him because majority of the men i have seen around me are even more immature and irresponsible than him. I dont know whether I will ever find any manture man ever because I am already 29 and so far I have found none. What should I do of entire situation? How should I prepare myself to accept his immaterial?

I feel that I intimidate my boyfriend. How should I stop? I should I recognise when I am intimidating him? Or is there any other approach to deal with entire situation. What will happen when in the future I will use all my potential and become very successful? I am very hardworking woman who regularly improve herself. He is hardworking too. But always a step behind. I have never said anything to him even I have downgraded myself several time to boost his confidence. But is it right thing to do? He is very loving person and I dont want to loose him. How should I deal with entire situation?

I am 25 F. I had proposed my now boyfriend. For initial 1 year he played really hard to get and gave me mixed signal. This negatively affected me. Now he had accepted that he has feeling for me. But in the process of chasing him i have lost the respect and trust I had for him. I dont have feeling for him anymore. Even he showed love and care for a day and than once again started giving me mixed signals. What should I do? Should I invest in this relationship? Should I be patient?

Hi, I'm a 42 year old widower. Lost my husband 3 yrs ago. Initially I wanted to focus on my child's education, who is 17 now. But recently I started feeling that I want a companion, a friend for life. I did meet a few people, but most of them were not genuine with what they wanted.

I love my boyfriend.He is 7 yrs older than me.He wants to get married soon to me,but I don't want to get married at least for 4 yrs due to my education and job.Thats why I don't see a future with him.How do I tell him and make him understand that I don't want to marry him.Also I don't want to hurt him.

Hi, I am a 27-year-old male living in Gurugram, in a 28-month relationship (25 months long distance - she lives in southern India). Lately, we've been fighting a lot, and she recently said she doesn't feel loved, happy, or supported. She's having a tough time at work, where her boss said she might lose her job in 6 months, and is facing family issues. She says I'm not supportive, which causes our fights. I'm trying my best to be there for her, but she thinks I'm not putting in effort, triggering fights and making me react badly. During fights, she gives me the silent treatment for 2-3 days, and everything gets blamed on me. This silent treatment is intolerable and eats me up. I know she loves me, and I love her, but it's becoming very difficult to deal with. Can you please help me as I'm at a breaking point?

Hi I am from Bangalore earning decent salary, having own house,..29yrs average look but athletic body... Still unable to find girl for marriage.. And many request have come in matrimony sites but all are deadly opposite of my requirements (I mean there requirements)... And I am unable to chat openly with any girls I feel they may be not comfortable and end up in saying all the best for your future... Any some opinion or suggestions

im in a long relation ship with my girl friend 10 years . I want to marry her but some cast issue against them. how can we resolve that problem.

I am in a relationship with a guy, we both are student of NIT. First, he didn't told me about his past relationships but nowadays he is telling me about his past and sometimes he lies. But i don't know how to trust him, i love him but i don't know what to do, he lies then after sometime he tells me the truth but i don't know is it true or not. Plz help me

I loved a girl who is a good friend of mine. She knew my feelings because I proposed her twice. But when I last proposed her she declined so I decided to move on. Even she mentioned that she like someone else but see's me as a friend only. So I decided to distance her. Now it has been around 9-10 months we don't talk but my feeling are not fading. She is still to me a sweet little kid I loved. So I am deciding to go back to her to befriend me again. How should I do it that it don't seems creepy. Also how can she take me back in her life as a BAE

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I am a second year student (male), till now in my life i never been i any relationships actually to say i never attracted to anyone, but during the college i met a girl, we started talking, one day while texting she told me that "I heard something I want to ask u.. Something like u likee me?" after that with some fear or i don't know what to say that feeling but I had told her that yes. but then she told we can be only normal friends not to expect more than that. i dont know what to say but i told ok. then even after that we had talk but now a days it reached a point with no replies on chat. i have tried to move on, then suddenly i miss her. as she was my first girl (not even into relationship) that i had some feelings.

Hello Recently i proposed my crush than she reject me . Than we don't talked anymore like I stopped talking but one i know ki after reject me she felt guilty and she need second chance I got to know from her best friend. So I asked her again that u love me .. she said i need same time and after waiting she said i like u but i don't want to be a part of relationship because of my parents . After that I decided that I am ready to wait for her but now problem is I'll go another City for masters and i release that kind woh kabi efforts hi nahi karti mere liye like na kabi text or na kabi call ... So mere wait karna worth it hai ya nahi and what about long distance . Please help me on this :)

Hello Mam, me and my bestfriend were in a relation for 2 years. everything was going smooth until he asked me to send video of my chest. When i denied he became emotional and asked- we are going to marry right? then whats the problem in sharing those. everyone does that. I'm not that kind of a girl. whenever i said no he used every ways to make me do that despite my discomfort. I told him many times I am uncomfortable but he chose to ignore them. he was the one who promised me that he will never make me uncomfortable. Since then I started to not like his touches. I loved him truly and he was there with me during my dark times . when i was at hostel which allowed phone only 2 days a week because I was planning to write CLAT that year, i seriously felt distant from him. he said he would wait just to hear my voice. i was allowed phone for only 30 minutes and he wanted me to talk to him more than my parents when i needed them most. I gradually started losing hope and i didnt want to create a scene which will affect my exam. But the thing is after gradually losing trust in him i developed a crush at my centre. i never knew his name, never talked , nothing. My mental health was completely messed up. I passed my CLAT exam last year and i never acted upon the crush i had, i broke up with my bf right after the exam because I couldnt handle that relation anymore. to be clear i never broke up with him because i had a crush, even though i was guilty. i broke up because of how he forced me into things he liked and how he never valued my opinions and how i lost trust eventually when he said he had photos of me with him. I broke up for my peace but why do i feel like I've cheated on my ex because i had a crush even though i never acted upon it. Please help me. Was I cheating on him. When we broke up he said I'm like other girls always playing the victim card, he called me names and said he lost respect and felt petty about me when I said I had nothing else to talk on this matter.

I am 30 years old having a full time decent job. I had very less female interaction in childhood and later despite having enough opportunities I didn't give importance to the dating life and also didn't work on my self confidence. Because of that I didn't have any relationship experience yet. Yes 3 girls rejected me and I also said no for 2 girls. Now I see my friends dating multiple girls and I am not able to convert even one into relationship. I feel like a complete failure also can't discuss with anyone. It's affecting my work and personal things too. Recently I girl said no after two months of conversation which gave me big hit and I have still not moved on. Please help me to over this situation.

I don't know, am in the relationship or not! Basically from 2020 onwards my relationship started with a girl who was beautiful, loyal, and trustworthy and we did used to spend lot of time together and we loved each other company's plus for a span of 8 months I even went at different city for study there too we were too attached with each other and still are. But as I haven't yet matched her salary expectations she has given me last few months to prove otherwise she is ready to leave me and marry the boy her parents shows! We both are 25 year old! I seriously can't leave her but then I feel it's better if she stays with a boy who can give her better life! But then immediately at other points I am trying and giving my best couldn't see her with anyone else and won't leave her..