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I am a single mother, my husband has passed away 1.10 years ago, now I have decided to find a life partner, my son age is 3.5 years--how can I select a perfect guy for me?

Hi My name is MR and I am 47 years old. For a long time, I was single until I met AS, who is 46. At first, I was hesitant to move forward, but we eventually became intimate. Over the next six months, we had a deeply physical relationship, and my life began to revolve around her. I had never experienced such intense feelings for anyone before and felt that she was equally in love with me. We wanted to take our relationship to the next level, but due to complications with my divorce, I needed more time. She also had not finalized her divorce and was planning to start the process. Meanwhile, I saw her facing challenges in life and managing household tasks to support herself despite having completed her master's degree. Her visa did not permit her to work. We patiently waited together until her visa issues were resolved, after which I secured a job for her at the firm where I worked. She then traveled to India to initiate the divorce process. For three weeks, I anxiously waited for her return. When she came back, I came to know that she was back with her husband, she informed me that she was moving away with him for the children's sake. This left me devastated and in a deep depression for two months. Upon her return to the office, we had to work together for several hours daily, and I struggled to control my feelings, reverting to old behaviors. After her husband found out I called her by a personal nickname and yelled at her, she asked me to write an apology letter. I felt utterly devastated. During our next trip to India, I once again saw her with another man, this time sharing a hotel room. When I confronted her about it, she claimed he was a family member. I was 100% sure that he was not. He was a CEO of one firm here. HE is married and I know his wife too. This deeply devastated me. I feel at a loss and uncertain about how to handle the situation. Since she reports to me, any misstep on my part could be seen as harassment. What should I do? I want to come out of this. I am also planning to be back with my wife and kid and is calling off my divorce. I need help to come back to a stable life. MR

I am 29 years old man. My concern is related to love. I have never really been in a relationship. I'm not sure how much success I would have had if I even would have tried. I have been complemented by women saying that they find me attractive. But didn't go beyond that and I never really pursued it beyond that. The reason being I never wanted to risk being emotionally attached to someone who wouldn't necessarily be there for me in the long term. That's why I never pursued a relationship. I'm not socially awkward or easily get anxious. I used to think that it is better if I wait for marriage as well. But given the times I'm made to feel like that is now considered a 'red flag' these days. I just wanted to know if this would hurt my marriage prospects. I do believe in women having an equal opinion in the relationship. I don't hold any opinions that could be considered misogynistic or sexist. But I just wish to know is it really a red flag and if it is what do I do to tackle the same

Ma'am I'm in love with a Jatt guy. We both are in love with each other. But I'm not a Jatt. He already told me about the circumstances that can come when it comes to marriage point of view. His family is very much orthodox, they already asked their son to choose a girl from their community. Meanwhile he respect his family a lot, which is too good. Can you please advice me how to convince his family?

You posted: Hello. I am dating someone from almost 4 years. During those years, our relationship has grown to the extent that we know we are pretty much compatible in aspects such as values, friendship, vulnerability, understanding and support. But one or two factors have always been a hurdle in commitment for a marriage which he himself consider as superficial but is not able to completely let go of. So, he suggests that we can compromise on those factors, and focus on other positives. The problem is that he feels that we don't have that romantic spark and chemistry which he had imagined. But he is ready to settle on that, and thus, I also shouldn't expect his 100 percent response in romance. I don't know how to take this statement. I never felt that missing part; I never asked for grand romantic gestures. I did complain sometimes about basic expressions of romance. I feel his approach as if it is some sort of calculation with no instinctive feeling. And how do I not take this comment as personal.

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Hi I am a 27f. My parents are looking for arrange marriage alliances. I am not looking to get married right now. However, my parents feel pressured and because of that I’m feeling pressured. I kept on saying no to all the rishtas that have come by taking out one or the other problem in family or guy. But now this rishta has come where the family is nice and the guy is super nice too. I’m not able to find any reason to say no to this guy and he seems really interested in me yet I don’t want to get married, not at least this year I feel. I need this year for myself. Moreover I am in love with someone whom I know I won’t be able to get married too. I want this year with him. I feel I cannot betray my bf and be selfish and say yes to this man just because he feels fine to me to get married to. Next year I have decided to give in to my parents demands. Also the man I am dating is wonderful. It’s just we cannot get married because of our age gap. He is 10 years older to me and he never wants to get married. He knows what he wants. I am in such a dilemma what should I do? I feel trapped.

"Hi... I'm a 28-year-old female. My parents are searching for a suitable match for me. They recently received a proposal from a guy's family. Since my family is orthodox, they're trying to finalize my marriage without consulting me. However, the main issue is that when my father told them I want to speak with the groom, his father hesitated."He said they can talk after the engagement, which made me feel uneasy and suspicious. What should I do in this situation?

Hello mam, my boyfriend don't want to fight with his parents because his parents are against of intercaste religion. Marriage is still far like we have time now. He said let's stay together for now. Then we will separate in good way. I also think that he is right but on other side i also think that i have to face this again in future. What should i do? Should I continue my relationship with him for now or break up with him?

I have fallen in love with my male bestfriend and we love each other. But our castes are totally different and both of our families are against this. We are unable to leave each other and he is so obsessed with me that wants a casual relationship where we'll provide support to each others feelings until we find our serious partners in the future. What should i do? Should i part our ways or should i continue to be with him even though there's no future but we love each other more than anything. Is it good to have a relation that is more than friendship and less than relationship? I really want him but i'm afraid of what if i'll have flashbacks of him? Please help

I am a very disciplined guy with a decent job. I take care of my parents, provide for them. I am hard working, ambitious, always do everything in a planned way. I am typical nice guy type but I know my boundaries. But I don't understand why girls gets attracted to the bad guys, guys having no plans for their future, don't even value them just want their body. Unfortunately the girls are ready to give their body and mind to them and once they are done they throw the girl away. But again they fall for the same type of guys and the cycle repeats. If you are not that type of guy, they don't consider you as a man and insult you. I just want to know why most of the girls nowadays are like this. They hurt the good people and chase the wrong ones. Maybe there are good girls, but chances of finding them is very less. Want to know how to overcome this. I have almost lost hope now. I don't want to change myself for some girl but I also want someone in my life who can really support and love me.

Hello Mam Im single male 51 years Never thought of marriage till now.But now feel like having a life partner is betterwhere both of us will be support to each other. Marriage advisable in this age .?

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Me and a guy are at talking stage and he only talks to me for 30 mins in the whole day while I wait for him to reply. He tells me that it will take him around 4 months to actually tell me if he wants to date me or not. Is this normal or he is just a red flag

I am a single child and I am finding it difficult to get a partner. Nowadays every guy I meet online or through matrimony either want a sanskari or a working bahu or a modern one, with no expectations of children or future planning. I want a good partner and a family with modern thoughts. I am 36 and would like to have two children but I don't want to give up on my career completely. I am tired of the rejections and constantly throwing myself at these events and having to prove myself to strangers.

Ma'am, I love a girl very much; we understand each other without saying anything, like soulmates. Both my girlfriend and I are intercaste, and her parents are very strict. They would kill her if they found out she was thinking about intercaste marriage. My girlfriend has now given up on the situation, and talks about her marriage have started at her house. I don't know what to do – whether to continue the relationship with her or not. On one hand, I think I should stay with her and love her until her engagement is fixed, but on the other hand, I feel I should leave her now because her father will never accept a love plus intercaste marriage in this lifetime.

Hello mam, I am 45 year old single mother of 19 year old son, I am feeling loneliness and have searched a partner as like I wanted, he is widower having two children, but problem is that we both are working and well settled with our permanent government jobs, my job is not transferring job and he doesn't want to move due to his kids education and his job...we both want to marry with each other, but we are helpless right now...due to this situation I again getting very anxious and tense... what should I do? Please show me a path...

I realised that my boyfriend needs a break from the relationship to fix his life. He never said it himself, but slowly distancing himself. This is disturbing me. Should I initiate the break? How should I prevent myself from contacting him during this break period? I am worried that what if the break turns into a breakup.

My boyfriend is very immature. He is two years younger than me. Sometime his immaturity causes lots of pain. I dont want to leave him because majority of the men i have seen around me are even more immature and irresponsible than him. I dont know whether I will ever find any manture man ever because I am already 29 and so far I have found none. What should I do of entire situation? How should I prepare myself to accept his immaterial?

I feel that I intimidate my boyfriend. How should I stop? I should I recognise when I am intimidating him? Or is there any other approach to deal with entire situation. What will happen when in the future I will use all my potential and become very successful? I am very hardworking woman who regularly improve herself. He is hardworking too. But always a step behind. I have never said anything to him even I have downgraded myself several time to boost his confidence. But is it right thing to do? He is very loving person and I dont want to loose him. How should I deal with entire situation?

I am 25 F. I had proposed my now boyfriend. For initial 1 year he played really hard to get and gave me mixed signal. This negatively affected me. Now he had accepted that he has feeling for me. But in the process of chasing him i have lost the respect and trust I had for him. I dont have feeling for him anymore. Even he showed love and care for a day and than once again started giving me mixed signals. What should I do? Should I invest in this relationship? Should I be patient?

Hi, I'm a 42 year old widower. Lost my husband 3 yrs ago. Initially I wanted to focus on my child's education, who is 17 now. But recently I started feeling that I want a companion, a friend for life. I did meet a few people, but most of them were not genuine with what they wanted.

I love my boyfriend.He is 7 yrs older than me.He wants to get married soon to me,but I don't want to get married at least for 4 yrs due to my education and job.Thats why I don't see a future with him.How do I tell him and make him understand that I don't want to marry him.Also I don't want to hurt him.

Hi, I am a 27-year-old male living in Gurugram, in a 28-month relationship (25 months long distance - she lives in southern India). Lately, we've been fighting a lot, and she recently said she doesn't feel loved, happy, or supported. She's having a tough time at work, where her boss said she might lose her job in 6 months, and is facing family issues. She says I'm not supportive, which causes our fights. I'm trying my best to be there for her, but she thinks I'm not putting in effort, triggering fights and making me react badly. During fights, she gives me the silent treatment for 2-3 days, and everything gets blamed on me. This silent treatment is intolerable and eats me up. I know she loves me, and I love her, but it's becoming very difficult to deal with. Can you please help me as I'm at a breaking point?

Hi I am from Bangalore earning decent salary, having own house,..29yrs average look but athletic body... Still unable to find girl for marriage.. And many request have come in matrimony sites but all are deadly opposite of my requirements (I mean there requirements)... And I am unable to chat openly with any girls I feel they may be not comfortable and end up in saying all the best for your future... Any some opinion or suggestions

im in a long relation ship with my girl friend 10 years . I want to marry her but some cast issue against them. how can we resolve that problem.

I am in a relationship with a guy, we both are student of NIT. First, he didn't told me about his past relationships but nowadays he is telling me about his past and sometimes he lies. But i don't know how to trust him, i love him but i don't know what to do, he lies then after sometime he tells me the truth but i don't know is it true or not. Plz help me

I loved a girl who is a good friend of mine. She knew my feelings because I proposed her twice. But when I last proposed her she declined so I decided to move on. Even she mentioned that she like someone else but see's me as a friend only. So I decided to distance her. Now it has been around 9-10 months we don't talk but my feeling are not fading. She is still to me a sweet little kid I loved. So I am deciding to go back to her to befriend me again. How should I do it that it don't seems creepy. Also how can she take me back in her life as a BAE

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I am a second year student (male), till now in my life i never been i any relationships actually to say i never attracted to anyone, but during the college i met a girl, we started talking, one day while texting she told me that "I heard something I want to ask u.. Something like u likee me?" after that with some fear or i don't know what to say that feeling but I had told her that yes. but then she told we can be only normal friends not to expect more than that. i dont know what to say but i told ok. then even after that we had talk but now a days it reached a point with no replies on chat. i have tried to move on, then suddenly i miss her. as she was my first girl (not even into relationship) that i had some feelings.

Hello Recently i proposed my crush than she reject me . Than we don't talked anymore like I stopped talking but one i know ki after reject me she felt guilty and she need second chance I got to know from her best friend. So I asked her again that u love me .. she said i need same time and after waiting she said i like u but i don't want to be a part of relationship because of my parents . After that I decided that I am ready to wait for her but now problem is I'll go another City for masters and i release that kind woh kabi efforts hi nahi karti mere liye like na kabi text or na kabi call ... So mere wait karna worth it hai ya nahi and what about long distance . Please help me on this :)

Hello Mam, me and my bestfriend were in a relation for 2 years. everything was going smooth until he asked me to send video of my chest. When i denied he became emotional and asked- we are going to marry right? then whats the problem in sharing those. everyone does that. I'm not that kind of a girl. whenever i said no he used every ways to make me do that despite my discomfort. I told him many times I am uncomfortable but he chose to ignore them. he was the one who promised me that he will never make me uncomfortable. Since then I started to not like his touches. I loved him truly and he was there with me during my dark times . when i was at hostel which allowed phone only 2 days a week because I was planning to write CLAT that year, i seriously felt distant from him. he said he would wait just to hear my voice. i was allowed phone for only 30 minutes and he wanted me to talk to him more than my parents when i needed them most. I gradually started losing hope and i didnt want to create a scene which will affect my exam. But the thing is after gradually losing trust in him i developed a crush at my centre. i never knew his name, never talked , nothing. My mental health was completely messed up. I passed my CLAT exam last year and i never acted upon the crush i had, i broke up with my bf right after the exam because I couldnt handle that relation anymore. to be clear i never broke up with him because i had a crush, even though i was guilty. i broke up because of how he forced me into things he liked and how he never valued my opinions and how i lost trust eventually when he said he had photos of me with him. I broke up for my peace but why do i feel like I've cheated on my ex because i had a crush even though i never acted upon it. Please help me. Was I cheating on him. When we broke up he said I'm like other girls always playing the victim card, he called me names and said he lost respect and felt petty about me when I said I had nothing else to talk on this matter.

I am 30 years old having a full time decent job. I had very less female interaction in childhood and later despite having enough opportunities I didn't give importance to the dating life and also didn't work on my self confidence. Because of that I didn't have any relationship experience yet. Yes 3 girls rejected me and I also said no for 2 girls. Now I see my friends dating multiple girls and I am not able to convert even one into relationship. I feel like a complete failure also can't discuss with anyone. It's affecting my work and personal things too. Recently I girl said no after two months of conversation which gave me big hit and I have still not moved on. Please help me to over this situation.

I don't know, am in the relationship or not! Basically from 2020 onwards my relationship started with a girl who was beautiful, loyal, and trustworthy and we did used to spend lot of time together and we loved each other company's plus for a span of 8 months I even went at different city for study there too we were too attached with each other and still are. But as I haven't yet matched her salary expectations she has given me last few months to prove otherwise she is ready to leave me and marry the boy her parents shows! We both are 25 year old! I seriously can't leave her but then I feel it's better if she stays with a boy who can give her better life! But then immediately at other points I am trying and giving my best couldn't see her with anyone else and won't leave her..

Hello Mam, me and my bestfriend were in a relation for 2 years. everything was going smooth until he asked me to send video of my chest. When i denied he became emotional and asked- we are going to marry right? then whats the problem in sharing those. everyone does that. I'm not that kind of a girl. whenever i said no he used every ways to make me do that despite my discomfort. I told him many times I am uncomfortable but he chose to ignore them. he was the one who promised me that he will never make me uncomfortable. Since then I started to not like his touches. I loved him truly and he was there with me during my dark times . when i was at hostel which allowed phone only 2 days a week because I was planning to write CLAT that year, i seriously felt distant from him. he said he would wait just to hear my voice. i was allowed phone for only 30 minutes and he wanted me to talk to him more than my parents when i needed them most. I gradually started losing hope and i didnt want to create a scene which will affect my exam. But the thing is after gradually losing trust in him i developed a crush at my centre. i never knew his name, never talked , nothing. My mental health was completely messed up. I passed my CLAT exam last year and i never acted upon the crush i had, i broke up with my bf right after the exam because I couldnt handle that relation anymore. to be clear i never broke up with him because i had a crush, even though i was guilty. i broke up because of how he forced me into things he liked and how he never valued my opinions and how i lost trust eventually when he said he had photos of me with him. I broke up for my peace but why do i feel like I've cheated on my ex because i had a crush even though i never acted upon it. Please help me

Hello, I have been in a relationship from 5months. I really love him. But yesterday night I checked his phone and found he is chatting with others and meeting them. I don't want to loose him I'm ready to do a fresh start but he may be want to end this relationship. How should I save my relationship?

Namaste Ma'am...I even tried to find a partner for long term relationship & marriage...but can't able to find one...every women finds me nice human,but not ready to be associated with me.Even in bumble,I am not getting matches...????.What to do? Kindly reply ma'am.

I was in a living relationship with my boyfriend whom I met through online. We have been together for more than one year. Nowadays I started hating him as he don't want me to spend time with family and friends. I gave all my savings to him which he used for buying a house. Once I told him not to use my money without informing me as I had some urgent expense but he used it that hurted me a lot. I got a fight with him for the issue. I don't want to live with him but he is telling he don't have anyone other than me.I don't know what to do sometimes he is showing more care on me but I don't like him these days. Please help me on this should I continue on this relationship ?

Hello Gurus, Please advise what are downsides of not getting married as i have crossed age of 33 years, male and not finding suitable person and how to asses a person who is good at heart , what are pros and cons of getting married, please advice.

Im 47 year old can i marry a 27 year old woman

Hi, I met this girl. We were in a relationship for 2 years. She left me after 2 years because I was from a different religion and I am a vegetarian and she wants to marry, but I am not quite settled in life because I have lost my job due to AI strike. She wants someone who can travel and stay with her in her country as well. As she is half Indian and half foreigner, I was willing to sacrifice everything just to be in a relationship so I told her that I was willing to stay with her in her country. I told her it does not matter which religion she is from and food should be just personal preferences but she is not willing to continue the relationship. What can I do as I have deep feelings for her? Any idea how to sort this out? I am not able to concentrate on anything.

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Is it normal for my boyfriend to be chatting with his cousins more often I'm curious because I've been asking him what's going on because at first they saved each others contact with their real names but now they changed to lovely cousin with some love emojes. He used to tell me that I should send him my pictures whenever I'm far from him but now he stopped yet he put his cousin on status daily with different captions including love emojes When I ask him, he always replies that there is nothing between them

A another question plz answer me When he told me that "i don't like that you wear a jeans" i also agree with that i also said okay i can change myself . But when it comes to my needs and career he blame that " you were cheated with me tumne mera baat nhi mana aur bina batae tum yaha waha chali gyi "I told him that i have also my needs and happiness . But he said you cheated with me tumhare lea jeans pehna jada value kiya mera koi value nhi haii tumhare life me. I am literally devastated does it amount to cheating if i just do one thing for my happiness.Even i did not have any male friends he doubted me

Hi.. I have a question ... I am a 40 year old female and there is someone younger to me about 8 years younger who has shown interest and I’m reluctant .. As I am skeptical if due to the age gap it can work out ... I am also scared of how I will be perceived if I do go ahead with this relation due to our age gap. Pls advise

Hello, I'm 28 year old South indian, my boyfriend is 30 year old North indian. From the beginning I was skeptical about our relationship, but he made sure we'll work out. Now it is 2 years and my family is pressuring me for wedding. I haven't told them about him. Now when I talk to him about talking to parents and taking steps, he's afraid and says he don;t want to get married and scared of it. We love each other and I'm so confused. Last night he even said me to marry the guy my parents suggests as he don't want to waste my life. I tried to convince him for the wedding and to be together, but he's fixated that he don not want to marry. What should I do?

Hi Mam. I am 40 years old single woman. I was happy being single and never had any issues regarding this. But few days back i suddenly started liking somone who is 10 yrs younger than me. We both work volunteer in social work. He doesn't feel same for me. He is luking for girl to get married. He never message nor called me except for work related issues. I also never told him abt my feelings as i know he will refuse. So i don't want to get myself embarrassed. Pls help me how to deal with this situation as i am feeling very upset and stressed all the time. As I can't properly avoid him.

I am in a long distance relationship. We haven't met each other . It's been 6 months ,but the guy does not talk about marriage. He keeps telling we will decide about it after meeting each other. I am getting attached to him emotionally and i am constantly anxious about future . I tried to stop talking to him various times,but he keeps coming back . He keeps telling me he loves me ,but his actions do not match his words . Shall i give him time untill we met and keep in touch with him or shall i stop this here .Please guide . I am getting emotionally unstable day by day.