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Me and a guy are at talking stage and he only talks to me for 30 mins in the whole day while I wait for him to reply. He tells me that it will take him around 4 months to actually tell me if he wants to date me or not. Is this normal or he is just a red flag

I am a single child and I am finding it difficult to get a partner. Nowadays every guy I meet online or through matrimony either want a sanskari or a working bahu or a modern one, with no expectations of children or future planning. I want a good partner and a family with modern thoughts. I am 36 and would like to have two children but I don't want to give up on my career completely. I am tired of the rejections and constantly throwing myself at these events and having to prove myself to strangers.

Ma'am, I love a girl very much; we understand each other without saying anything, like soulmates. Both my girlfriend and I are intercaste, and her parents are very strict. They would kill her if they found out she was thinking about intercaste marriage. My girlfriend has now given up on the situation, and talks about her marriage have started at her house. I don't know what to do – whether to continue the relationship with her or not. On one hand, I think I should stay with her and love her until her engagement is fixed, but on the other hand, I feel I should leave her now because her father will never accept a love plus intercaste marriage in this lifetime.

Hello mam, I am 45 year old single mother of 19 year old son, I am feeling loneliness and have searched a partner as like I wanted, he is widower having two children, but problem is that we both are working and well settled with our permanent government jobs, my job is not transferring job and he doesn't want to move due to his kids education and his job...we both want to marry with each other, but we are helpless right now...due to this situation I again getting very anxious and tense... what should I do? Please show me a path...

I realised that my boyfriend needs a break from the relationship to fix his life. He never said it himself, but slowly distancing himself. This is disturbing me. Should I initiate the break? How should I prevent myself from contacting him during this break period? I am worried that what if the break turns into a breakup.

My boyfriend is very immature. He is two years younger than me. Sometime his immaturity causes lots of pain. I dont want to leave him because majority of the men i have seen around me are even more immature and irresponsible than him. I dont know whether I will ever find any manture man ever because I am already 29 and so far I have found none. What should I do of entire situation? How should I prepare myself to accept his immaterial?

I feel that I intimidate my boyfriend. How should I stop? I should I recognise when I am intimidating him? Or is there any other approach to deal with entire situation. What will happen when in the future I will use all my potential and become very successful? I am very hardworking woman who regularly improve herself. He is hardworking too. But always a step behind. I have never said anything to him even I have downgraded myself several time to boost his confidence. But is it right thing to do? He is very loving person and I dont want to loose him. How should I deal with entire situation?

I am 25 F. I had proposed my now boyfriend. For initial 1 year he played really hard to get and gave me mixed signal. This negatively affected me. Now he had accepted that he has feeling for me. But in the process of chasing him i have lost the respect and trust I had for him. I dont have feeling for him anymore. Even he showed love and care for a day and than once again started giving me mixed signals. What should I do? Should I invest in this relationship? Should I be patient?

Hi, I'm a 42 year old widower. Lost my husband 3 yrs ago. Initially I wanted to focus on my child's education, who is 17 now. But recently I started feeling that I want a companion, a friend for life. I did meet a few people, but most of them were not genuine with what they wanted.

I love my boyfriend.He is 7 yrs older than me.He wants to get married soon to me,but I don't want to get married at least for 4 yrs due to my education and job.Thats why I don't see a future with him.How do I tell him and make him understand that I don't want to marry him.Also I don't want to hurt him.

Hi, I am a 27-year-old male living in Gurugram, in a 28-month relationship (25 months long distance - she lives in southern India). Lately, we've been fighting a lot, and she recently said she doesn't feel loved, happy, or supported. She's having a tough time at work, where her boss said she might lose her job in 6 months, and is facing family issues. She says I'm not supportive, which causes our fights. I'm trying my best to be there for her, but she thinks I'm not putting in effort, triggering fights and making me react badly. During fights, she gives me the silent treatment for 2-3 days, and everything gets blamed on me. This silent treatment is intolerable and eats me up. I know she loves me, and I love her, but it's becoming very difficult to deal with. Can you please help me as I'm at a breaking point?

Hi I am from Bangalore earning decent salary, having own house,..29yrs average look but athletic body... Still unable to find girl for marriage.. And many request have come in matrimony sites but all are deadly opposite of my requirements (I mean there requirements)... And I am unable to chat openly with any girls I feel they may be not comfortable and end up in saying all the best for your future... Any some opinion or suggestions

im in a long relation ship with my girl friend 10 years . I want to marry her but some cast issue against them. how can we resolve that problem.

I am in a relationship with a guy, we both are student of NIT. First, he didn't told me about his past relationships but nowadays he is telling me about his past and sometimes he lies. But i don't know how to trust him, i love him but i don't know what to do, he lies then after sometime he tells me the truth but i don't know is it true or not. Plz help me

I loved a girl who is a good friend of mine. She knew my feelings because I proposed her twice. But when I last proposed her she declined so I decided to move on. Even she mentioned that she like someone else but see's me as a friend only. So I decided to distance her. Now it has been around 9-10 months we don't talk but my feeling are not fading. She is still to me a sweet little kid I loved. So I am deciding to go back to her to befriend me again. How should I do it that it don't seems creepy. Also how can she take me back in her life as a BAE

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How to cope up with Sexual desires Is it not havin sex even once can cause mental healths issues and occipital pain.

I want to move on but I cannot please help me

I am a second year student (male), till now in my life i never been i any relationships actually to say i never attracted to anyone, but during the college i met a girl, we started talking, one day while texting she told me that "I heard something I want to ask u.. Something like u likee me?" after that with some fear or i don't know what to say that feeling but I had told her that yes. but then she told we can be only normal friends not to expect more than that. i dont know what to say but i told ok. then even after that we had talk but now a days it reached a point with no replies on chat. i have tried to move on, then suddenly i miss her. as she was my first girl (not even into relationship) that i had some feelings.

Hello Recently i proposed my crush than she reject me . Than we don't talked anymore like I stopped talking but one i know ki after reject me she felt guilty and she need second chance I got to know from her best friend. So I asked her again that u love me .. she said i need same time and after waiting she said i like u but i don't want to be a part of relationship because of my parents . After that I decided that I am ready to wait for her but now problem is I'll go another City for masters and i release that kind woh kabi efforts hi nahi karti mere liye like na kabi text or na kabi call ... So mere wait karna worth it hai ya nahi and what about long distance . Please help me on this :)

Hello Mam, me and my bestfriend were in a relation for 2 years. everything was going smooth until he asked me to send video of my chest. When i denied he became emotional and asked- we are going to marry right? then whats the problem in sharing those. everyone does that. I'm not that kind of a girl. whenever i said no he used every ways to make me do that despite my discomfort. I told him many times I am uncomfortable but he chose to ignore them. he was the one who promised me that he will never make me uncomfortable. Since then I started to not like his touches. I loved him truly and he was there with me during my dark times . when i was at hostel which allowed phone only 2 days a week because I was planning to write CLAT that year, i seriously felt distant from him. he said he would wait just to hear my voice. i was allowed phone for only 30 minutes and he wanted me to talk to him more than my parents when i needed them most. I gradually started losing hope and i didnt want to create a scene which will affect my exam. But the thing is after gradually losing trust in him i developed a crush at my centre. i never knew his name, never talked , nothing. My mental health was completely messed up. I passed my CLAT exam last year and i never acted upon the crush i had, i broke up with my bf right after the exam because I couldnt handle that relation anymore. to be clear i never broke up with him because i had a crush, even though i was guilty. i broke up because of how he forced me into things he liked and how he never valued my opinions and how i lost trust eventually when he said he had photos of me with him. I broke up for my peace but why do i feel like I've cheated on my ex because i had a crush even though i never acted upon it. Please help me. Was I cheating on him. When we broke up he said I'm like other girls always playing the victim card, he called me names and said he lost respect and felt petty about me when I said I had nothing else to talk on this matter.

I am 30 years old having a full time decent job. I had very less female interaction in childhood and later despite having enough opportunities I didn't give importance to the dating life and also didn't work on my self confidence. Because of that I didn't have any relationship experience yet. Yes 3 girls rejected me and I also said no for 2 girls. Now I see my friends dating multiple girls and I am not able to convert even one into relationship. I feel like a complete failure also can't discuss with anyone. It's affecting my work and personal things too. Recently I girl said no after two months of conversation which gave me big hit and I have still not moved on. Please help me to over this situation.

I don't know, am in the relationship or not! Basically from 2020 onwards my relationship started with a girl who was beautiful, loyal, and trustworthy and we did used to spend lot of time together and we loved each other company's plus for a span of 8 months I even went at different city for study there too we were too attached with each other and still are. But as I haven't yet matched her salary expectations she has given me last few months to prove otherwise she is ready to leave me and marry the boy her parents shows! We both are 25 year old! I seriously can't leave her but then I feel it's better if she stays with a boy who can give her better life! But then immediately at other points I am trying and giving my best couldn't see her with anyone else and won't leave her..

Hello Mam, me and my bestfriend were in a relation for 2 years. everything was going smooth until he asked me to send video of my chest. When i denied he became emotional and asked- we are going to marry right? then whats the problem in sharing those. everyone does that. I'm not that kind of a girl. whenever i said no he used every ways to make me do that despite my discomfort. I told him many times I am uncomfortable but he chose to ignore them. he was the one who promised me that he will never make me uncomfortable. Since then I started to not like his touches. I loved him truly and he was there with me during my dark times . when i was at hostel which allowed phone only 2 days a week because I was planning to write CLAT that year, i seriously felt distant from him. he said he would wait just to hear my voice. i was allowed phone for only 30 minutes and he wanted me to talk to him more than my parents when i needed them most. I gradually started losing hope and i didnt want to create a scene which will affect my exam. But the thing is after gradually losing trust in him i developed a crush at my centre. i never knew his name, never talked , nothing. My mental health was completely messed up. I passed my CLAT exam last year and i never acted upon the crush i had, i broke up with my bf right after the exam because I couldnt handle that relation anymore. to be clear i never broke up with him because i had a crush, even though i was guilty. i broke up because of how he forced me into things he liked and how he never valued my opinions and how i lost trust eventually when he said he had photos of me with him. I broke up for my peace but why do i feel like I've cheated on my ex because i had a crush even though i never acted upon it. Please help me

Hello, I have been in a relationship from 5months. I really love him. But yesterday night I checked his phone and found he is chatting with others and meeting them. I don't want to loose him I'm ready to do a fresh start but he may be want to end this relationship. How should I save my relationship?

Namaste Ma'am...I even tried to find a partner for long term relationship & marriage...but can't able to find one...every women finds me nice human,but not ready to be associated with me.Even in bumble,I am not getting matches...????.What to do? Kindly reply ma'am.

I was in a living relationship with my boyfriend whom I met through online. We have been together for more than one year. Nowadays I started hating him as he don't want me to spend time with family and friends. I gave all my savings to him which he used for buying a house. Once I told him not to use my money without informing me as I had some urgent expense but he used it that hurted me a lot. I got a fight with him for the issue. I don't want to live with him but he is telling he don't have anyone other than me.I don't know what to do sometimes he is showing more care on me but I don't like him these days. Please help me on this should I continue on this relationship ?

Hello Gurus, Please advise what are downsides of not getting married as i have crossed age of 33 years, male and not finding suitable person and how to asses a person who is good at heart , what are pros and cons of getting married, please advice.

Im 47 year old can i marry a 27 year old woman

Hi, I met this girl. We were in a relationship for 2 years. She left me after 2 years because I was from a different religion and I am a vegetarian and she wants to marry, but I am not quite settled in life because I have lost my job due to AI strike. She wants someone who can travel and stay with her in her country as well. As she is half Indian and half foreigner, I was willing to sacrifice everything just to be in a relationship so I told her that I was willing to stay with her in her country. I told her it does not matter which religion she is from and food should be just personal preferences but she is not willing to continue the relationship. What can I do as I have deep feelings for her? Any idea how to sort this out? I am not able to concentrate on anything.

i got committed to a divorced person . will my parents accept?

Is it normal for my boyfriend to be chatting with his cousins more often I'm curious because I've been asking him what's going on because at first they saved each others contact with their real names but now they changed to lovely cousin with some love emojes. He used to tell me that I should send him my pictures whenever I'm far from him but now he stopped yet he put his cousin on status daily with different captions including love emojes When I ask him, he always replies that there is nothing between them

A another question plz answer me When he told me that "i don't like that you wear a jeans" i also agree with that i also said okay i can change myself . But when it comes to my needs and career he blame that " you were cheated with me tumne mera baat nhi mana aur bina batae tum yaha waha chali gyi "I told him that i have also my needs and happiness . But he said you cheated with me tumhare lea jeans pehna jada value kiya mera koi value nhi haii tumhare life me. I am literally devastated does it amount to cheating if i just do one thing for my happiness.Even i did not have any male friends he doubted me

Hi.. I have a question ... I am a 40 year old female and there is someone younger to me about 8 years younger who has shown interest and I’m reluctant .. As I am skeptical if due to the age gap it can work out ... I am also scared of how I will be perceived if I do go ahead with this relation due to our age gap. Pls advise

Hello, I'm 28 year old South indian, my boyfriend is 30 year old North indian. From the beginning I was skeptical about our relationship, but he made sure we'll work out. Now it is 2 years and my family is pressuring me for wedding. I haven't told them about him. Now when I talk to him about talking to parents and taking steps, he's afraid and says he don;t want to get married and scared of it. We love each other and I'm so confused. Last night he even said me to marry the guy my parents suggests as he don't want to waste my life. I tried to convince him for the wedding and to be together, but he's fixated that he don not want to marry. What should I do?

Hi Mam. I am 40 years old single woman. I was happy being single and never had any issues regarding this. But few days back i suddenly started liking somone who is 10 yrs younger than me. We both work volunteer in social work. He doesn't feel same for me. He is luking for girl to get married. He never message nor called me except for work related issues. I also never told him abt my feelings as i know he will refuse. So i don't want to get myself embarrassed. Pls help me how to deal with this situation as i am feeling very upset and stressed all the time. As I can't properly avoid him.

I am in a long distance relationship. We haven't met each other . It's been 6 months ,but the guy does not talk about marriage. He keeps telling we will decide about it after meeting each other. I am getting attached to him emotionally and i am constantly anxious about future . I tried to stop talking to him various times,but he keeps coming back . He keeps telling me he loves me ,but his actions do not match his words . Shall i give him time untill we met and keep in touch with him or shall i stop this here .Please guide . I am getting emotionally unstable day by day.

My girlfriend is ignoring me ...what should I do to get her attention back?

My bf is egoistic...many times we dont even text first from both of our sides coz of ego..and this continues sometimes for week or month...what to do?

Hi I'm 32+ years old I'm quite chubby that's why didn't get any life partner most of gentlemenans are under qualified or their family is not good they are rejected me so I'm totally fade up now and relatives are also asking about marriage and they are telling. I'm choosy why I'm searching much ..I dnt know what's their problem pls suggest

Dear Madam.... iam a 42 year old single man. I am in relationship with a divorced lady of 35 years old for past 1 year. Recently I found she have relationship with another man also. When i asked her she got angry and told me nobody have, she loves only me. When asked repeatedly she told i didnt give her time so she gone with that man . But now no relationship with him. And says in her life only iam her man. I love her so much. But i can't trust her. What shall i do. Iam mentally upset.

Hello, I am 27 years old and wants to marry a guy who is younger than me and earns less than me. Also we are from different caste. I am afraid of having conversation about this with my parents and also I am confused that should I marry him or not because sometimes it feels like he is not thinking about his future (finance). He loves me a lot and always support me, but still I am confused to get married to him.

Hi Ma'am, I'm in a 5 yrs relationship the boy is Hindu ,and I'm catholic. The boy parents agreed for the marriage but my parents are not. I tried my best to convince them. Still they not accepting. I just want to be with the boy who I love. My parents to the boys parents to find another girl and get him married so I have only time till August to convince my parents please help me what to do ?

I am relationship with someone but i have trust issue because he suddenly stop talk with me and start fighting with me because i am not trust on him and i put some wrong allegations on him that time he said to me please don't talk with me i do everything but he said you do drama what i should do i am thinking he is cheater because he suddenly stop conversation and start doing fight

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Hi Shalini, thanks for responding. I browsed through your blog. I still need some help find someone.

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we are in 2 yrs of long distance relationship 1yr normal relation now we live in different states and we both study in college now but we know our future job location will remains same even i (girl) having IT job which does not have much scope in state where boy lives and he is doing mbbs even he dont want to switch location becos he want to take care of his parents and even his parents are strict and bhramin family . he is telling me to settle in his place that i dont want to as there os no job scope for me there. Please tell me what should we do what the boy or girl should do to make it work? we really want to make it work.

Hello mam , we are in relationship of total 3 yrs in which long distance is for 2 years we both have their colleges in different state now question arises to our mind about future that we both no we will do job in same location where we study we we both can't compromise to go to any other states as there is less opportunity as we both are in different field this is one of the problem and other is his parents are so strict and belongs to bhramin family they don't accept intercaste marriage even he don't want to step out from his home as he want to take care of his parents .and we are very sure that we don't want to compromise our careers . So how our marriage is possible ? Should we have to leave each other prior to the day comes or is there any solution to it which we both can compromise ??

My husband is 33 y. We got married last year.He is getting 80k per month in a metro city but he has taken many personal loans before marriage and I was unaware of that. Now his emis are greater than his monthly salary what to do because of this our relationship is also affecting.He has no money in his banks or any saving or own property.