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Dating Coach - Answered on May 22, 2025

Shalini Singh is the founder of andwemet, an online matchmaking service for urban Indians living in India and overseas. After graduating from college as a kindergarten teacher, Singh worked at various firms specialising in marketing strategy, digital marketing and public relations before finding her niche as an entrepreneur. In 2008, she founded Galvanise PR, an independent communications and public relations. In 2019, she launched andwemet.
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Asked by Anonymous - May 22, 2025
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Hello Ms Shalini. I have been reading your columns. I am 52, an HR professional, divorced in 2022, after 26 years of marriage. My kids are grown up and settled abroad. Now I'm alone, and honestly, I feel like I have missed out on life. I want to experience love again, but I dont know where and how to begin. Honestly, i dont want to sound or look desperate and call for attention. A female friend told me to get on an app. It's awkward to create a profile for a date. I am not looking for a fling. I don't want desperate men either. I want good companionship. Where do I begin?

Ans: Thank you for addressing this to me - I am not sure about your gender - either ways 52 is very young.

More power to you about being a parent, you must be feeling proud for them being independent. Parenting is one of the toughest things in the world and you have done so and are continuing to do so.

You have to take away words as 'desperate' - finding someone does not mean this - instead it means you are looking out for someone.

You need to put yourself out there and also check out what I am building. Having said this do know you will need the following as you search

PATIENCE. TIME. EFFORTS.

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I hear your concern but I don't think it has anything to do with the mode of dating. Online or IRL, rude people will continue to be rude everywhere. Also, not everyone with a stable career is arrogant and unruly, men and women alike.

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