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Dating Coach - Answered on May 22, 2025

Shalini Singh is the founder of andwemet, an online matchmaking service for urban Indians living in India and overseas. After graduating from college as a kindergarten teacher, Singh worked at various firms specialising in marketing strategy, digital marketing and public relations before finding her niche as an entrepreneur. In 2008, she founded Galvanise PR, an independent communications and public relations. In 2019, she launched andwemet.
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Asked by Anonymous - May 22, 2025

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Hello Ms Shalini. I have been reading your columns. I am 52, an HR professional, divorced in 2022, after 26 years of marriage. My kids are grown up and settled abroad. Now I'm alone, and honestly, I feel like I have missed out on life. I want to experience love again, but I dont know where and how to begin. Honestly, i dont want to sound or look desperate and call for attention. A female friend told me to get on an app. It's awkward to create a profile for a date. I am not looking for a fling. I don't want desperate men either. I want good companionship. Where do I begin?

Ans: Thank you for addressing this to me - I am not sure about your gender - either ways 52 is very young.

More power to you about being a parent, you must be feeling proud for them being independent. Parenting is one of the toughest things in the world and you have done so and are continuing to do so.

You have to take away words as 'desperate' - finding someone does not mean this - instead it means you are looking out for someone.

You need to put yourself out there and also check out what I am building. Having said this do know you will need the following as you search

PATIENCE. TIME. EFFORTS.

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â˜° Rediff Gurus Logo Hi Yazdi Patel | Sign Out HealthHealth MoneyMoney RelationshipRelationship CareesCareer Ask Dear Maam, After 2 unwanted marriages, the first fiXed by my 2nd, a half-brother, and then my mother. I am now staying alone for the last 20 years and am 72 going on 73. The thing is that i need a lady companion to ease my remainang years...how should i go about the companion thing. I am fit and hale and normal built happy. Ride a Honda Hornet to get around and i love riding bikes and gave up my car mobility when i left my gulf job of 20 years and got back to India.. Thanks

Ans: Dear Yazdi,
From the information that I have come across, there are a couple of Apps that cater to seniors only. You might want to try one of those.
Also I see that you seem to like being outdoors and there are travel start-ups that cater to the young at heart (seniors). The internet should give you information on this. They organize trips and adventures that might meet your level of adventure and incidentally you might meet like-minded people too. That may give you a good avenue to connect and build an association not only with a lady but many others as well.

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Question by Yazdi - Jul 15, 2023Hindi

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Dear Maam, After 2 unwanted marriages, the first fiXed by my 2nd, a half-brother, and then my mother. I am now staying alone for the last 20 years and am 72 going on 73. The thing is that i need a lady companion to ease my remainang years...how should i go about the companion thing. I am fit and hale and normal built happy. Ride a Honda Hornet to get around and i love riding bikes and gave up my car mobility when i left my gulf job of 20 years and got back to India.. Thanks

Ans: Dear Yazdi,
I have answered your question here on Jul 20:
https://gurus.rediff.com/question/qdtl/relationship/gurus-logo-yazdi-patel-sign-out-healthhealth-moneymoney-relationshiprelationship-careescareer/5141831

If you are unable to view it through the link, here was my response:

From the information that I have come across, there are a couple of Apps that cater to seniors only. You might want to try one of those.
Also I see that you seem to like being outdoors and there are travel start-ups that cater to the young at heart (seniors). The internet should give you information on this. They organize trips and adventures that might meet your level of adventure and incidentally you might meet like-minded people too. That may give you a good avenue to connect and build an association not only with a lady but many others as well.

All the best!

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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 07, 2023Hindi

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Hello Gurus! I am 40 yr divorced NRI man in the UK. I have a 10 yr old son and he lives with his mum in a different country. I have visitation rights and I meet him regularly. I have been divorced for 6 years now. I have been trying to date since last 5 years and it has been quite a frustrating experience. I do not want to jump to Matrimonial Sites as I would prefer to date someone to know them better before deciding to settle in a committed relationship. Also, there are many frauds on the Matrimonial Sites. My challenge is that most of the single women in the age range of 36 – 42 that I have met in last 5 yrs is that either they have unstable career and looking for someone to depend upon or if they have a career, they are arrogant and unruly. Though I look decent, I don’t have looks as a criteria. I worry sometimes if will I ever find love and affection in my life. Apart from the dating apps, where else do you suggest I could try to meet decent and normal woman?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I hear your concern but I don't think it has anything to do with the mode of dating. Online or IRL, rude people will continue to be rude everywhere. Also, not everyone with a stable career is arrogant and unruly, men and women alike.

Apart from dating apps, you can try finding love IRL. You can try going to clubs, cafes, or social gatherings to meet like-minded women. Or you can ask your friends to set you up with someone who matches your criteria. You can join some activity of your liking to find women who prefer the same things as you. Start with a HI and see where it goes.

You can find a decent human being even in a dating app. It is a matter of patience, a pinch of luck, and primarily a good amount of effort from your end. To get better results, try mentioning your intents in your bio; for instance, you want to date and then move on to marriage- mention the same in your bio to attract the right kind of people.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 09, 2025Hindi

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I am 42 Female currently, last marriage didn't go well, afraid of new start, I neither type of person who can go to club etc etc to "find someone" - What's the best way to move forward, Do we have genuine way of finding someone who can become reliable partner too (No tinder etc as again I knw myself now at this age, I can't) - Please guide

Ans: One of the best ways to meet someone compatible is through shared interests and environments where you feel at ease. Consider engaging in activities or communities that resonate with you. This could include joining local interest groups, volunteering, or taking classes in areas you’re passionate about. These settings not only provide opportunities to meet like-minded individuals but also allow connections to develop organically over shared experiences and values.

Another valuable approach is to lean on your existing network. Friends, family, and colleagues often know you well and can introduce you to others who might be a good match. These introductions can be more comfortable and trustworthy since they come from people who understand your personality and values.

It’s also important to give yourself time and space to heal and grow from past experiences. Building a reliable and meaningful relationship starts with being in a place where you feel confident and whole on your own. This self-awareness and emotional readiness will naturally attract the right kind of partner who values and respects you for who you are.

Remember, there’s no rush or specific timeline you need to adhere to. Allow relationships to develop at a pace that feels right for you, and focus on building connections that are based on mutual respect, understanding, and shared values. Trust that the right person will come into your life when the time is right, and until then, prioritize your own happiness and well-being.

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Question by k - Apr 28, 2026Hindi

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Hello sir. My son got 99.37 his general category rank is 10050 in maharshtra state in jee mains, 250 in bitsat. He is getting core subjects like ece, ee, in tier 2 nits and Iiits, as well as cse in coep, or tier 2 Iiits and nits like surat, Calicut, kurukshetra. And many such. Very confused which to choose. He doesnt have any hard opinion about branch selection. Also i dont know whteher to ho for ece, cse or specialized branches last ke Ai& ml or Data scienceKindly suggest which is better choice

Ans: Before answering your question, I want to clarify that, for BITSAT, a minimum score of around 250–260 is generally expected for MSc programs and 300+ for BE programs, so given your son’s 99.37 percentile in JEE Main and his appearance for JEE Advanced targeting IITs, it’s advisable not to prioritize BITS Pilani, as admission to top branches there is unlikely with this profile. You and your son should decide whether you prefer government or private colleges, or are open to both. All branches are good, and he should choose based on current interest while remaining adaptable if preferences change by the 2nd or 3rd year, besides considering job market trends. For example, a student joining ECE might later shift interest to CSE and succeed in software placements. Based on his JEE Main score, a tentative preference order could be NIT Calicut, Surathkal, Warangal, and Trichy (if available), then COEP Pune CSE, followed by NIT Surat, Kurukshetra, Calicut ECE/EE, tier-2 IIIT CSE, and specialized AI/DS branches only at reputed institutes. COEP CSE is a strong option with a 2024–25 average placement of ?11.62 LPA, a highest package of ?52.57 LPA, and a 91.82% CSE placement rate, so choosing COEP CSE over a lower-tier NIT EE branch and preferring a good NIT ECE over weaker IIIT or specialized branches are recommended. While AI/DS is promising, CSE offers broader flexibility. If your son performs well in JEE Advanced, these choices and options may improve significantly. It’s best to finalize after the JEE Advanced results are out. All the BEST for Your Son's Prosperous Future!

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 28, 2026Hindi

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Sir, my son has scored 92.24 percentile in JEE Main exam and his all india rank 121271 and 40322 obc ncl category. Home state is TN. Is there possible admission at Puducherry NIT, Or else any core branch at Trichy NIT. He also preferring for JEE ADVANCED

Ans: Based on your son’s score, admission to NIT Trichy is unlikely. In 2024, the HS OBC-NCL closing ranks at NIT Trichy were approximately: Chemical Engineering around 33,075, Mechanical at 23,504, Production at 31,383, Metallurgy at 43,010, and Civil at 47,466. This means Metallurgy and Civil are borderline options but not safe bets.

For NIT Puducherry, chances improve in the CSAB Special Round, especially for branches like Mechanical, Civil, and Electrical. For example, the 2024 CSAB closing rank for Mechanical OBC-NCL female-only was around 52,681, though gender-neutral and core branch cutoffs vary by quota.

It’s advisable to fill choices for lower-preference branches at NIT Trichy, all branches at NIT Puducherry, and also consider NIT Andhra, NIT Goa, NIT Agartala, NIT Mizoram, and NIT Meghalaya in CSAB if these NITs are preferred over Trichy and Puducherry.

For stronger backups in Tamil Nadu, your son can participate in TNEA counseling, though it may be challenging for non-TN board students. Options include CEG, MIT, SSN, PSG, CIT, Sri Sairam, and Kumaraguru, depending on board marks.

Encourage your son to continue preparing seriously for JEE Advanced. If possible and affordable, keep 3-4 reputed private engineering colleges in Tamil Nadu as backups, such as SSN, SNU, Amrita, Sathyabhama, and Saveetha through other admission routes. All the BEST for Your Son's Prosperous Future!

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 28, 2026Hindi

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Sir I scored 91 percentile in Jee mains, rank is 1.5 lakh. Which good chemical engineering government colleges can I expect? (home state is telangana)

Ans: At a 91 percentile and an estimated CRL around 1.5 lakh, securing Chemical Engineering at NIT Warangal is not realistic, as recent HS Open category closing ranks for Chemical Engineering were around 23,000–26,000, much higher than your rank.

Admission to Chemical Engineering in other NITs and GFTIs through JoSAA is also challenging at this rank. However, you should definitely participate in the CSAB Special Rounds, since vacant-seat cutoffs sometimes drop lower after JoSAA counseling. Use the official JoSAA archive and CSAB opening-closing rank data when filling your final choices.

More realistic government or state options are available through Telangana’s TG EAPCET counseling rather than JEE Main. Consider Chemical or allied branches in JNTUH-affiliated colleges, OU-affiliated colleges, and reputed Telangana colleges offering Chemical or related courses. Colleges like CBIT (Chemical), Chaitanya Bharathi, Anurag, VNR, and Vasavi could be good options if you have branch flexibility.

If placement is a priority, branches like ECE, Mechanical, Civil, or AI-DS in better private colleges might offer better prospects. All the BEST for Your Prosperous Future!

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Question by Rajesh - Apr 28, 2026Hindi

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Hello Sir, My daughter has secure 35500 Rank in Jee main we r staying in Rajasthan... general category....... Not interested in South & east States .... Interested in MNC. CSE, ECE, ...Branches ... please advice for

Ans: Rajesh Sir, Based on your daughter’s score, admission to MNIT Jaipur for CSE or ECE is not realistic, as the 2024 HS female closing ranks were around 8,836 for CSE, 15,405 for ECE, and 21,644 for EE. However, branches like Civil or Metallurgy might still be possible, especially with some lower-branch movement seen in CSAB rounds.

She can consider applying to IIIT Una, IIIT Kota, IIIT Bhopal, IIIT Sonepat, IIIT Nagpur, IIIT Bhagalpur, GFTI PEC Chandigarh (for lower branches), and BIT Mesra through JoSAA and CSAB counseling.

It’s also advisable to keep these backups in mind: LNMIIT Jaipur, Thapar Institute, JIIT Noida, Nirma University, PDEU, Bennett University, Shiv Nadar University, UPES, and Manipal Jaipur. Additionally, fill REAP Rajasthan options such as MBM Jodhpur, CTAE Udaipur, and RTU Kota.

If placements in MNCs are a priority, choosing CSE, AI, or IT branches in good private colleges is often better than other branches in reputed institutes.

Finally, reviewing JoSAA opening and closing ranks from the past 2–3 years will provide valuable insights and help your daughter confidently select and maximize her preferred choices. All the BEST for Your Daughter's Prosperous Future!

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Question by Anshika - Apr 28, 2026Hindi

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My daughter has 80 percentile in jee mains in general ews from uttarpradesh please suggest me

Ans: Anshika Madam, At an 80 percentile, your daughter’s expected CRL rank may be around 2.5 to 3 lakh. Even with General-EWS category, chances of admission to NITs or IIITs through JoSAA, especially for CSE or ECE, are very low. She can consider applying for lower-demand branches in some GFTIs or newer, remote institutes if seats remain vacant.

CSAB conducts special rounds after JoSAA for vacant NIT and related seats, which she should participate in.

It is highly recommended to have backup options such as AKTU/UPTAC colleges, KIET, GL Bajaj, JSS Noida, ABES, Galgotias, NIET, and private universities like Bennett, Sharda, Chandigarh University, UPES, LPU, SRM North India campuses, and VIT-AP/Bhopal. For CSE-related branches, state and private counseling routes are the more practical approach, instead of relying only on JoSAA/CSAB. All the BEST for Your Daughter's Prosperous Future!

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Question by Sidarth - Apr 28, 2026Hindi

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Sir I have 93.5 percentile in jee mains and I am a kashmiri migrant i want to know that will I get top colleges of Maharashtra I have km merit rank in cap councelling of 28 based on last year out of 389 people and also please tell if the quota is in nits

Ans: Sidarth, With a 93.5 percentile and a KM merit rank of 28, your Maharashtra CAP chances are strong. Maharashtra CET rules treat J&K/Ladakh Migrant candidates separately, and for engineering admissions, a positive JEE Main score is given preference over MHT-CET scores.

You should aggressively fill choices including COEP Pune, VJTI Mumbai, SPIT Mumbai, PICT Pune, DJ Sanghvi, Walchand Sangli, Cummins, PCCOE, VIT Pune, and MIT-WPU. With a KM rank of 28, admission to top colleges is possible. However, CSE/IT in COEP, VJTI, SPIT, or PICT may be uncertain due to limited seats. Branches like ECE, AI-DS, ENTC, or IT in strong colleges are more realistic options. VJTI’s 2024 closing ranks indicate that CSE/IT branches remain highly competitive.

Regarding NITs, there is no general Kashmiri Migrant quota through JoSAA, as admissions follow CRL/category/HS-OS rules. The CSAB supernumerary quota in 2025 applied only to specific UT candidates, not broadly to KM. Nonetheless, it’s advisable to participate in JoSAA and CSAB counseling rounds.

Also, consider having 3-4 backup options to keep your chances secure. All the BEST for Your Prosperous Future!

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 28, 2026Hindi

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My daughter has got 93.91in jee 2026 with rank 95015 in general category and home state as delhi .please tell what are her chances of getting admission and branch in igdtu ,thapar and lnmit.Do IPU colleges in delhi hav good placements.please suggest some other good colleges for cse and related branches and ece

Ans: Based on your daughter's score, admission to IGDTUW is possible mainly in later rounds or spot rounds. For example, in 2023 Round-5 Delhi cutoffs (approximate), CSE closed around 58,531, IT at 66,326, AIML at 71,162, ECE at 90,900, and MAE at 1,03,589, making ECE and MAE more realistic options, while CSE and IT would be difficult.

Regarding Thapar Institute, the chances are better. In 2024, later cutoffs for Punjab quota showed Computer Engineering around 92,826 and ECE around 97,890, with some allied branches going much lower. For candidates outside Punjab, core CSE is tougher, but ECE, Electronics, and related branches in lower rounds could be worth applying for.

At LNMIIT, CSE admission is unlikely due to high JEE percentile expectations, but ECE might still be possible.

Consider IPU Delhi as a backup, along with reputable colleges like USICT, MAIT, MSIT, BVCOE, and BPIT, which have decent placement records. For detailed placement data, please check the respective college websites and online resources.

Other backup options to explore include JIIT Noida, Shiv Nadar University, UPES, Manipal Jaipur, Bennett University, and Chandigarh University. All the BEST for Your Daughter's Prosperous Future!

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Question by Jagdish - Apr 28, 2026Hindi

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My daughter got 95.92 percentile in JEE mains with 64228 crl and 9516 ews category. In which not or iiit she can get cse

Ans: Jagdish Sir, Based on your daughter's score, realistic chances for CSE or related branches may be found in lower-demand NITs and IIITs, primarily through the female quota and in later JoSAA or CSAB rounds. Institutes like NIT Mizoram, NIT Meghalaya, NIT Nagaland, NIT Arunachal Pradesh, and NIT Sikkim are worth trying, though CSE admission remains borderline.

In IIITs, options such as IIIT Bhagalpur, IIIT Ranchi, IIIT Kalyani, IIIT Una, IIIT Sri City, IIIT Nagpur, IIIT Dharwad, and IIIT Kottayam could be considered. While CSE might be challenging, branches like IT, ECE, or AI-related fields may be more attainable depending on how seat availability shifts round by round.

Additionally, reviewing JoSAA opening and closing ranks from the past 2–3 years can provide valuable insights and help your daughter confidently select and fill her preferred and maximum number of choices. Have 3-4 reputed private engineering colleges also as backup options. All the BEST for Your Daughter's Prosperous Future!

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Question by Korampally - Apr 28, 2026Hindi

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I got 105000 rank in jee mains in which nit could I get ece seat

Ans: Korampally, with your score, securing ECE in any NIT is extremely unlikely. You may try for lower-preference branches if you still want to pursue an NIT. However, it's important to have 3-4 backup options beyond JoSAA and CSAB counseling rounds, so you’re not relying solely on those for admission. ALL the BEST for Your Prosperous Future!

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Question by Suman - Apr 27, 2026Hindi

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My son got 89 percentile in jee mains 2026 and got rank 58400 and can he get

Ans: You have not mentioned your son's home state. Anyway, please note he may get core or non-core branches in newer or lower-tier NITs, some IIITs, and GFTIs, especially in later JoSAA rounds, depending on the home-state quota and branch preferences. He can also target Tier-3 and Tier-4 NITs such as NIT Sikkim, NIT Manipur, NIT Nagaland, and NIT Arunachal for branches like Mechanical, Civil, EIE, Production, Metallurgy, and similar fields.

Additionally, exploring IIITs outside the top 5—such as IIIT Bhagalpur, IIIT Kalyani, IIIT Surat, and IIIT Kottayam—through JoSAA or CSAB rounds can be worthwhile.

Parallel options to consider include the CSAB Special Round, state government engineering colleges, and reputable private institutes in or near your home state. ALL the BEST for Your Prosperous Future!

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