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Shalini Singh is the founder of andwemet, an online matchmaking service for urban Indians living in India and overseas. After graduating from college as a kindergarten teacher, Singh worked at various firms specialising in marketing strategy, digital marketing and public relations before finding her niche as an entrepreneur. In 2008, she founded Galvanise PR, an independent communications and public relations. In 2019, she launched andwemet.
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Asked by Anonymous - May 11, 2025
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Hi Shalini ji I was in a serious relationship for 6 years with a boy whom I met on the 1st day of my college. He was from a different caste. Hence when my parents got to know they disapproved of it very strictly so I knew it wasnt going to work that easily. After sometime they started asking to get married. It was an ultimate pressure while we both were preparing for some government exams. I went through utter confusion and I got stuck between trying to study and at the same time thinking about my future with him. I was pressurised by my family including my brother and parents to leave him. Meanwhile I decided to not to carry it forward because I couldn't leave my parents for whole life to be with him because it was either him or my family. I lost all the focus towards my studies due to this decision and also started talking to some other boy (he was from my own caste accidently) whom I met accidentally at an exam centre for comfort. I got a brief moments of happiness with him. I confide my pain in him. Suddenly something happened in my family ,between my parents. And my mother started acting like you can choose your own partner for life because somehow she lost trust on my father. She even was comfortable with my brother's marriage with the one whom he loves. Now I feel completely betrayed because for them I left love of my life and got into another relationship with the boy I met at an exam center ( which now I feel was a hasty decision as I felt alone and depressed). Now no one talks about my real love and what i think about it for the future. I am in a complete state of repentance. I feel like I betrayed him. Now when i think of getting back to him I hesitate a lot because I think that I took a wrong decision due to the pressure and under stress. The person I am with now, I feel is not what I wanted as a partner and I feel that he is not mentally supportive. I wnat to leave him as well. What should I do now to be happy?

Ans: 1. Happiness is in your hand
2. You sound like an adult, over 21 and someone who knows what is right and what is not - so take action
3. If you are not happy in your current relationship, come out of it.
4. If you wish to reconnect with your earlier partner do so, but keep in mind he may not be single and if he is he will not be how you knew him, as in he will come with his own experience of life.

all the best.

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Hi Anu, I hope you're doing well. I'm a 24 year old girl working as a software engineer. I was in love with a boy in long distance relationship and I met him only once. We both had great understanding, respect on each other. It was all good between us. On February 2023, he called me one day saying that he wants to tell his parents about our love matter. I said okay and asked him what he wanted to do if his family disagrees. He said that he'll wait until his family approves. I was okay with it and he informed to his family. But things started changing after he talked with his family. He wanted to break up with me. I told him many times that I wanted to be with him and don't want to break up. But, he didn't agree. Eventually, we stopped talking with each other. It was hard for me to move on but after few months, i finally decided to move on with my life. Then suddenly he messaged me saying that he wants to get back with me. I didn't agreed as I lost my trust on him. He even informed his family about getting back with me and they were okay with it. He wants to marry me. But, now the problem is I still like him, but I lost trust in him. I wanted to give him a chance but I'm afraid because of past break up with him. I'm confused about what should I do? Anu, can you please suggest me about giving him a chance or moving on with my life?
Ans: Dear Mahi,
Thank you for asking. I am doing well and trust that you too will be in the same space as well.
When what he has done has broken your trust, it is difficult to get it back... he has come back, but you are perhaps thinking: what if he pulls the same stunt again? And this makes you question every move of his...

If you look at it from his point of view, he possibly also loves you but his family pressures are getting to him and he can do only that much. Yes, it would have been more 'human' to talk to you about what had happened after he spoke with his family. But he chose not to and that lack of transparency is what has thrown you off...perhaps, he isn't all that mature emotionally or feels that he might lose you if he shares anything.

Whatever it is, your loss of trust on him is justified after the way he had behaved. If the two of you still want to give your relationship a chance, kindly do so...and clearly state to him that you have lost trust on him. Not only does he have explaining to do but he must reassure you that he will be honest with you in future. Also, give some time before committing to a marriage while you watch whether he has changed and he is consistent with what he has committed to changing. Only when you are sure, take a decision either way!

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 05, 2024
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It is really difficult to explain what I am going through and my words might not completely bring that out but a piece of advice/perception might be really helpful. I am 30 years old. I have a long term boyfriend(started dating in 2012). He was the world to me till almost 2020. He was my family, my everything. I too meant the world to him. We treated each other like "I am his and he is mine". Such was the commitment and care. We never thought we could even think of marrying some one else. We are in long distance since 2017. Used to meet once in every 2 months sort of. In 2021, I met some one else and started going out with him as we were in the same city just casually believing that nothing serious has to happen between us and that I "obviously" will marry my long term boyfriend undoubtedly. But things drastically changed. I developed strong feelings for this person and met more frequently. I went with the flow despite having immense guilt that things will eventually get very complicated and all the three of us will be hurt. But I never gathered the courage to break ties with this new person as the bonding was very maturely strong between us. Nor I could break ties with my long term boyfriend as he still was "my family" and he was the only one I resorted to whenever I needed someone. The new guy belongs to a caste my family will never agree and because of this I persuaded the marriage talks with my family for my long term boyfriend. My family agreed and my marriage date is scheduled in end of November 2024. But I everyday am in dilemma as to whether should I marry my long term boyfriend as scheduled or should I take a bold step of breaking it and going for the guy I met in 2021. I told my mother about the situation but she said my father will never agree for this new guy's caste and that its too late and I should marry as scheduled. I am not able to take a decision and going with the flow and probably will get married with this dual thought and uncertainty. I have thought a lot about this, about how my life will be with both of them, but its very difficult for me to break things with my long term boyfriend even though I have no romantic feelings for him from the past 3 years. There is 0 intimacy, neither emotional nor physical. But I do care for him. I do want him in my life, whether as a husband or otherwise. I feel the way he takes care of me and thinks about me, no one else will. But the thing is I don't actually "feel" for him anything, nor do I miss him as much, we don't talk the way we used to , there's a detachment. We are in long distance and are in such different fields that we never probably will live closer location wise. There's financial disparity. I earn almost thrice as him but we probably are okay with this. We both are aware of all these problems and are still ready to marry with the "hope" that things will eventually be okay. On the other hand, the guy I met in 2021- he has a good career and location wise, we are in long distance too but way better placed and in near future, his job location might be very flexible. He earns more but has huge family obligations as his family including his two brothers are not very well off. I have probably made peace with it when I thought about considering him for marriage. I love him and we have great emotional intimacy . I feel so calm and happy around him. It's like a festival when he is around me. He too loves me a lot and is ready to take efforts to make our marriage possible given the family and caste differences. I am really very disturbed and unable to decide whether I should break the marriage as if things don't improve after marriage, I will regret it always. Preparations have started slightly and it would be a big step now. Should I just forget about the 2021 guy and marry my long term boyfriend in November hoping that things will fall in place..or.. What should I do! My long term boyfriend has also lost feelings for me but he still cares for me and he says if we work for our relationship, things will be good post marriage
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It sounds like a difficult decision to make. But one simple thing is that you should never commit for a lifetime to a person you do not feel for; that does not mean I am asking you to leave him right away and marry the other guy. That means, you can have an open talk with your long-term BF. Tell him how you feel and let him clarify his feelings too. You can postpone the wedding to sort things out first- and think hard whether both of you want to get married at all.
Leaving one does not equate to choosing another. Choose yourself first; your happiness. You can never be happy in a relationship when you are of two minds. Please don't rush to get married to either of them.

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This is an urgent situation and is really difficult to explain what I am going through and my words might not completely bring that out but a piece of advice/perception might be really helpful. I am 30 years old. I have a long term boyfriend(started dating in 2012). He was the world to me till almost 2020. He was my family, my everything. I too meant the world to him. We treated each other like "I am his and he is mine". Such was the commitment and care. We never thought we could even think of marrying some one else. We are in long distance since 2017. Used to meet once in every 2 months sort of. In 2021, I met some one else and started going out with him as we were in the same city just casually believing that nothing serious has to happen between us and that I "obviously" will marry my long term boyfriend undoubtedly. But things drastically changed. I developed strong feelings for this person and met more frequently. I went with the flow despite having immense guilt that things will eventually get very complicated and all the three of us will be hurt. But I never gathered the courage to break ties with this new person as the bonding was very maturely strong between us. Nor I could break ties with my long term boyfriend as he still was "my family" and he was the only one I resorted to whenever I needed someone. The new guy belongs to a caste my family will never agree and because of this I persuaded the marriage talks with my family for my long term boyfriend. My family agreed and my marriage date is scheduled in end of November 2024. But I everyday am in dilemma as to whether should I marry my long term boyfriend as scheduled or should I take a bold step of breaking it and going for the guy I met in 2021. I told my mother about the situation but she said my father will never agree for this new guy's caste and that its too late and I should marry as scheduled. I am not able to take a decision and going with the flow and probably will get married with this dual thought and uncertainty. I have thought a lot about this, about how my life will be with both of them, but its very difficult for me to break things with my long term boyfriend even though I have no romantic feelings for him from the past 3 years. There is 0 intimacy, neither emotional nor physical. But I do care for him. I do want him in my life, whether as a husband or otherwise. I feel the way he takes care of me and thinks about me, no one else will. But the thing is I don't actually "feel" for him anything, nor do I miss him as much, we don't talk the way we used to , there's a detachment. We are in long distance and are in such different fields that we never probably will live closer location wise. There's financial disparity. I earn almost thrice as him but we probably are okay with this. We both are aware of all these problems and are still ready to marry with the "hope" that things will eventually be okay. On the other hand, the guy I met in 2021- he has a good career and location wise, we are in long distance too but way better placed and in near future, his job location might be very flexible. He earns more but has huge family obligations as his family including his two brothers are not very well off. I have probably made peace with it when I thought about considering him for marriage. I love him and we have great emotional intimacy . I feel so calm and happy around him. It's like a festival when he is around me. He too loves me a lot and is ready to take efforts to make our marriage possible given the family and caste differences. I am really very disturbed and unable to decide whether I should break the marriage as if things don't improve after marriage, I will regret it always. Preparations have started slightly and it would be a big step now. Should I just forget about the 2021 guy and marry my long term boyfriend in November hoping that things will fall in place..or.. What should I do! My long term boyfriend has also lost feelings for me but he still cares for me and he says if we work for our relationship, things will be good post marriage
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It sounds like a difficult decision to make. But one simple thing is that you should never commit for a lifetime to a person you do not feel for; that does not mean I am asking you to leave him right away and marry the other guy. That means, you can have an open talk with your long-term BF. Tell him how you feel and let him clarify his feelings too. You can postpone the wedding to sort things out first- and think hard whether both of you want to get married at all.
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Best Wishes.

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Hi, I am not yet mairred. I used to like a man and after a month we decided to get married. He was of my caste so I thought my parents won't deny this mairrage. I used to talk to and wanted to let him know everything about my past so that we can built a strong root of our relationship. I spoke every detail of my past life to him. Then before he proposed me for mairrage I went for a vacation with my male friend to dehradun. I didn't tell him that day as he didn't proposed me till that day then why would I tell everything about me to anyone. He was noone to me at that time. After that he came to visit me in Delhi and on the same when he was on train a friend of mine along with his fiance came to meet me after a very long time. I asked him and he didn't denied. After returning home he blocked me. I cried and cried, called multiple times but he didn't received my call. Even I went to his location and waited for almost 3 hr but he didn't came. Then I asked my sister to call him. Then he talked to me but he said me so much of harsh and vulgar words that I went in shock. I cried a lot but he went on humiliating me. But somehow I convinced him to stay with me. I never talked to that friend ever. Then I told my parents about him that I want to get married with this men. Being a girl's father my father enquired about him by being annonymous. And trust me noone has said anything good about him. Later on we get to know that his father has a murder case on him of his brother in law. But then I wanted to get married. Finally my parents agreed only for my happines. Meanwhile I was never being respected by him. He always doubt me, humiliate me, abuse me mentally and physically, and when I was like I don't want to be with you he used to say sorry and begged me to be with him. He even used to restrict to visit my uncle aunty. His mother wants used to defend him and never used to make him realise that he was wrong. Then before engagement we went to Kolkata to buy dress. Yes one more thing I have informed him on the very first day that I used to drink and smoke occassionally. So whenever he used to visit me he always wanted to drink with me whether I want it or not. He always used to abuse me and humiliate me in front of everyone after drinking, so after a period of time I used to avoid drinking. Then he used to fight with me for that also that why will you not drink. In kolkata the same thing happen. We stayed there for 3 days and he was convincing to go to club from the very first day but I refused. On 3rd he hit me. After engagement his family asked for dowry. After a lot of dealing my parents agreed for an amount. But I felt betrayed. I stopped talking. After after when I initiated the conversation he picked up a fight and said he won't marry. I tried to convince. But when everyone was blaming me then I broke my silence and said everything about him to my parent. But he manipulated everything and made me villain. My parents want me to get married What should I do
Ans: Dear Akriti,
After reading your question I can only give you one advice, please do not marry him no matter what people say. Even if we overlook every other red flag that he has exhibited, abuse of any form is unacceptable. Why are you trying to convince your parents to marry a guy who hits you? Do you think you deserve it or anyone, for that matter, deserves that?
Now, no matter who tries to manipulate you, or however much they try to convince you, get out of the relationship for the love and self-respect you have for yourself. It is a big decision but in your case, it is worth making that big decision. I'd normally never tell people they should this or they shouldn't do that, but in your case, no sane person would ever suggest you marry this man and be subjected to abuse for the rest of your life.

Please make the right choice.

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My Salary is 78000 per month and I have house rent 20500 and 17000 emi and 15000 monthly expenses other emis 15000 and iam unable to save please suggest
Ans: You are facing a very common challenge. Many earn well but struggle to save. The good part is that you are aware and looking for a solution. That’s the first important step.

Let me now give you a 360-degree analysis and practical advice to help you manage better.

 
 
1. Monthly Income and Expense Breakdown

Your salary is Rs. 78,000 per month.
 
 

House rent is Rs. 20,500.
 
 

EMI for one loan is Rs. 17,000.
 
 

Other EMIs total Rs. 15,000.
 
 

Monthly living expenses are Rs. 15,000.
 
 

After these, almost nothing is left.
 
 

There is no saving happening right now. But small adjustments can bring big changes.
 
 
2. Rent Expense Evaluation

Rent is the biggest cost. Rs. 20,500 is over 26% of your income.
 
 

Ideally, rent should not exceed 20% of income.
 
 

Check if slightly cheaper home is available.
 
 

A Rs. 3,000 to Rs. 4,000 saving in rent helps.
 
 

Shifting may feel hard. But it gives monthly relief.
 
 

Stay near public transport to reduce travel cost also.
 
 

Even small rent change brings long-term benefits.
 
 
3. EMI Consolidation Strategy

You have Rs. 32,000 total EMI every month.
 
 

This is over 40% of your income. That is too high.
 
 

Ideally, EMI should be under 30% of income.
 
 

Check if some loans are high-interest short-term loans.
 
 

If possible, combine all EMIs into one with lower interest.
 
 

Talk to your bank about loan consolidation options.
 
 

Even 2–3% interest reduction will help monthly cash flow.
 
 

Loan restructuring gives breathing space.
 
 
4. Monthly Expenses Assessment

You spend Rs. 15,000 monthly for all needs.
 
 

This looks reasonable, but break it down category-wise.
 
 

Note how much goes to groceries, mobile, subscriptions, fuel, etc.
 
 

Use a simple mobile app to track. Or a paper log.
 
 

You may find Rs. 1,000–2,000 saving opportunity easily.
 
 

Cancel unused services like OTT or apps.
 
 

Prepare weekly shopping list. Avoid impulse purchases.
 
 

Every rupee saved adds up.
 
 
5. Surrender Low-Return Insurance Policies (if any)

Do you hold any LIC, ULIP or endowment plan?
 
 

These plans mix insurance with investment. They give poor returns.
 
 

If held for more than 3 years, check surrender value.
 
 

If suitable, surrender and reduce premium load.
 
 

Take separate term insurance if not already done.
 
 

Reinvest in SIP when your cash flow improves.
 
 

This step will free up space in your budget.
 
 
6. Start Emergency Fund, Even Small

You may feel saving is impossible now.
 
 

But even Rs. 500–1000/month is a start.
 
 

Keep this money in a separate savings account.
 
 

Don’t touch unless it’s urgent.
 
 

Over time, it builds up to 3–6 months of expenses.
 
 

Emergency fund avoids fresh loans in future.
 
 

Even small savings matter. Start tiny, but stay regular.
 
 
7. Avoid New Loans or EMI Purchases

Say no to credit card EMIs or online EMIs.
 
 

These temptations disturb cash flow and cause stress.
 
 

If you need anything, plan and save first.
 
 

Delay buying until you have money.
 
 

EMI-free life feels peaceful and light.
 
 

Self-control today brings freedom tomorrow.
 
 
8. Health and Life Insurance Priority

Health emergency can break your finances.
 
 

Take a personal health insurance cover.
 
 

Group cover from employer is not always enough.
 
 

Also take a low-cost term life insurance.
 
 

Do not mix insurance with investments.
 
 

Term plan protects family. Premium is affordable.
 
 

Insurance is not optional. It’s your safety net.
 
 
9. Don’t Rely on Index Funds or Direct Mutual Funds

Some people suggest index funds or direct plans.
 
 

But these lack personalised support and active review.
 
 

Index funds don’t beat inflation in long term.
 
 

Direct funds don’t guide you in market changes.
 
 

Use actively managed mutual funds.
 
 

Invest through a Mutual Fund Distributor backed by a Certified Financial Planner.
 
 

Proper advice gives proper results.
 
 
10. Set a 3-Step Goal Plan

Step 1: Get control of monthly spending.
 
 

Step 2: Reduce EMIs or consolidate loans.
 
 

Step 3: Start small savings. Build emergency fund.
 
 

Once your cash flow improves, you can add SIPs.
 
 

Even Rs. 2,000/month SIP can build wealth slowly.
 
 

Long-term discipline matters more than short-term sacrifice.
 
 
11. Talk to a Certified Financial Planner

You don’t have to figure it all alone.
 
 

Certified Financial Planners can review your full profile.
 
 

They guide step-by-step based on your goals.
 
 

You get help with loan restructuring, budgeting and investing.
 
 

Regular plan reviews give better direction.
 
 

Guided support gives better results than guesswork.
 
 
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Your situation is difficult but not unfixable. You are not alone. Many professionals earn well but have tight budgets. You are aware. That’s the key strength.

Now you need to make few lifestyle and financial changes. Nothing happens overnight. But over 6–12 months, you can turn things around.

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Once you’re stable, shift focus to long-term investments. Work with a Certified Financial Planner to guide you along the journey.

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Dear Sir, My age is 48 years and I have taken house loan of Rs. 25 Lacs two years back, EMI per month is 20K, my monthly salary is 75 k. I m investing Rs. 39 k per year in LIC, 50k in PPF per year and 12500 per month in SIP. After all this investment at the end of the month I barely able of save Rs. 15K. My son age is 5 years . Please suggest any changes and further future planning so that after retirement I have atleast 1 Cr.
Ans: You have shown good discipline in managing your finances. You have started early planning for your child and your retirement. That is very good. You also have a good monthly income and manageable loan EMI. But, a few adjustments will help build stronger wealth for retirement.

Let me now help you with a step-by-step review of your current financial structure and suggest better ways for future financial well-being.

 
 
1. Income and Expense Overview

Your monthly salary is Rs. 75,000.
 
 

You are paying Rs. 20,000 as home loan EMI.
 
 

You are investing Rs. 12,500 in SIPs every month.
 
 

You are investing Rs. 50,000 per year in PPF. That is around Rs. 4,167 per month.
 
 

You are paying Rs. 39,000 per year in LIC premium. That is around Rs. 3,250 per month.
 
 

After all expenses and investments, you save around Rs. 15,000 per month.
 
 

Your savings habit is strong. That is a great quality. But now, you need to optimise your savings and investments better.

 
 
2. Home Loan Management

Rs. 25 lakhs loan is manageable with your income.
 
 

Rs. 20,000 EMI is reasonable. But loan closure before retirement is important.
 
 

Aim to close the loan by 58 years. That will reduce stress after retirement.
 
 

If you receive any bonus or surplus, use that partly to reduce loan.
 
 

But do not stop SIPs or long-term investments for loan prepayment.
 
 

Balance is important.
 
 
3. LIC Policy Assessment

You are paying Rs. 39,000 yearly in LIC.
 
 

Most likely, this is a traditional endowment or money-back policy.
 
 

Such plans give very low returns. Usually below 5% per year.
 
 

Also, mixing insurance with investment is not ideal.
 
 

What to do now?

If the policy has completed more than 3 years, check surrender value.
 
 

If surrender is financially suitable, stop and reinvest in mutual funds.
 
 

Take pure term insurance separately if not already taken.
 
 

Term plans give large cover at low cost.
 
 

This one change will free up funds and give better returns.
 
 
4. PPF Investment Review

You are investing Rs. 50,000 per year in PPF.
 
 

PPF is safe and gives tax-free returns.
 
 

Current interest is around 7% to 7.5% per annum.
 
 

But this return may not beat inflation over 15–20 years.
 
 

Still, PPF is good for safety and diversification.
 
 

Continue PPF, but do not increase allocation too much.
 
 

Keep PPF limited. Focus more on higher return options.
 
 
5. SIP Investment Strategy

You are investing Rs. 12,500 per month in SIPs.
 
 

SIP in mutual funds is one of the best long-term tools.
 
 

Ensure you are investing in diversified, actively managed funds.
 
 

Actively managed funds give better returns over long term.
 
 

Avoid index funds. They copy the market and don’t beat inflation strongly.
 
 

Avoid direct funds unless you are experienced and review portfolios often.
 
 

Regular plans through a Mutual Fund Distributor with CFP support are better.
 
 

You get proper guidance, rebalancing, and tracking.
 
 

SIP should be your main engine for wealth building.
 
 
6. Retirement Goal Planning

You want Rs. 1 crore at retirement. That is a good starting goal.
 
 

At age 48 now, you have around 12 years left to build this.
 
 

You are already investing in SIP and PPF.
 
 

After surrendering LIC, redirect that amount into mutual funds.
 
 

Even your current Rs. 12,500 SIP + Rs. 3,250 LIC (if re-directed) = Rs. 15,750.
 
 

This amount, if invested in equity mutual funds, can create strong growth.
 
 

Also, your savings of Rs. 15,000/month is available.
 
 

Use part of this savings also to boost your SIP.
 
 

Retirement goal can be achieved. Just need disciplined investing and small adjustments.
 
 
7. Child’s Education Planning

Your son is 5 years old. You have time to build corpus.
 
 

Higher education expenses will start after 13–15 years.
 
 

Create a separate SIP for this goal. Do not mix with other investments.
 
 

Invest in diversified equity mutual funds for child goal.
 
 

Even Rs. 5,000–7,000/month SIP can build good corpus by then.
 
 

Review the portfolio every year with your Certified Financial Planner.
 
 

Do not depend on insurance plans or ULIPs for child goals.
 
 

They give poor returns and lock your money for long.
 
 

8. Insurance Protection Plan

At 48, insurance is critical. You are the family’s main earning member.
 
 

Take pure term insurance of minimum 10–12 times your yearly income.
 
 

That is Rs. 75,000 × 12 × 10 = Rs. 90 lakhs at least.
 
 

Premium will be low if taken soon.
 
 

Do not mix insurance with investment.
 
 

Also take health insurance for family if not already covered.
 
 

Company cover is not enough. Take personal health policy also.
 
 

9. Tax Planning and Optimisation

You are using LIC and PPF for tax benefits.
 
 

Also SIPs in ELSS funds can give tax benefits.
 
 

Consider ELSS only if you need 80C limit and can take 3-year lock-in.
 
 

Do not over-focus on tax saving. Wealth creation is more important.
 
 

If your 80C is already full, invest in non-tax saving mutual funds.
 
 

SIPs in equity mutual funds held for more than one year will attract LTCG.
 
 

LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.
 
 

Keep track of capital gains yearly. Use your limit smartly.
 
 

10. Emergency Fund Management

Keep at least 4 to 6 months of expenses in emergency fund.
 
 

Use liquid mutual funds or savings account for this.
 
 

Do not invest emergency funds in PPF or SIP.
 
 

You should be able to withdraw anytime when needed.
 
 

Use your Rs. 15,000 monthly saving to slowly build this buffer.
 
 

11. Key Adjustments You Can Make Now

Surrender low-return LIC policy if suitable.
 
 

Redirect Rs. 3,250/month to mutual funds.
 
 

Increase SIP by at least Rs. 5,000 more monthly using your surplus.
 
 

Start a child education SIP separately.
 
 

Build emergency fund of Rs. 3 to 4 lakhs gradually.
 
 

Do not increase EMI. Prioritise investment and loan closure balance.
 
 

Finally

You have already done many things right. That is a great starting point.

Just fine-tune your investment structure now. Shift from low-return products to higher growth investments. Don’t stop your SIPs. Keep increasing SIP as income rises.

Work with a Certified Financial Planner. Review your plan every year. This is not a one-time setup. Financial planning is a regular process.

With the right steps, Rs. 1 crore for retirement is very much possible. Also, your child’s education will be secure. Just stay consistent and focused.

 
 
Best Regards,
 
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
 
Chief Financial Planner,
 
www.holisticinvestment.in
 
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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I'm getting CSE Core at JSS University , CSE with Cyber Security at JIIT , CSE core in VIT Bhopal in category 2, and CSE Core in ABESIT. Which one should i choose?
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sir, am 26 year old and have some SIPs for Rs 1000 each. 1. QUANT SMALL CAP FUND DIRECT 2. NIPPON INDIA LARGE CAP DIRECT 3. MIRAE ASSEST ELSS TAX SAVER 4. UTI NIFTY 50 5. PARAG PARIKH FLEXI CAP 6. TATA MIDCAP GROWTH DIRECT 7. TATA SMALL CAP DIRECT my question is, these are good SIPs for next 10-15 years ? second is i want to invest 10000 more per month, please let me know which SIPs will be good for next 15 years. Thanks
Ans: At age 26, it is appreciable that you have started investing early.

It shows responsibility towards your future financial goals.

Your current SIPs are diversified across multiple categories.

But some of these SIPs may not be aligned well for long-term consistency.

Let us now review each one professionally.

1. Quant Small Cap Fund - Direct

Small caps can be volatile.

This fund is aggressive and high-risk.

Direct plans have no guidance or monitoring.

This may affect long-term performance.

Switching to a regular plan with a Certified Financial Planner is better.

This will ensure proper guidance and rebalancing.

2. Nippon India Large Cap - Direct

Large caps offer stability in a portfolio.

However, this fund’s long-term consistency is not very strong.

Also, direct plans lack expert monitoring.

A regular plan through a CFP ensures better handholding.

Tracking and performance review becomes easier.

3. Mirae Asset ELSS Tax Saver

This fund is decent for tax saving.

It is diversified and has shown fair returns.

However, regular review is still needed.

A regular plan helps with documentation and timely alerts.

Switching to regular mode can be beneficial in the long run.

4. UTI Nifty 50 - Direct

This is an index fund.

Index funds only mirror the market.

They do not aim to beat the market.

They lack human intelligence and flexibility.

They don’t perform well during corrections or sideways markets.

Actively managed funds have higher potential.

They can outperform in changing market situations.

Consider replacing this with a well-managed large cap fund.

In regular plan through CFP, you get guided fund selection.

5. Parag Parikh Flexi Cap

Flexi cap funds provide flexibility across market segments.

This fund has been popular recently.

But it has higher exposure to international stocks.

This brings currency risk and regulatory risks.

Also, it may overlap with other holdings.

You should regularly monitor for overlap and concentration.

Again, direct mode has no professional review.

6. Tata Midcap Growth - Direct

Midcaps are good for long-term.

But they need close tracking due to higher volatility.

A regular plan with expert guidance is ideal.

Direct mode will not help during market correction periods.

Switching to regular mode will ensure ongoing support.

7. Tata Small Cap - Direct

Small caps are risky in short to medium term.

This should not be your core holding.

Should be allocated only with close guidance.

Again, direct plans can go off-track without support.

If unmanaged, can bring portfolio imbalance.

Assessment of Direct Funds: Key Concerns

Direct funds may look cheaper in expense.

But they lack professional support and review.

There is no monitoring of changes in fund quality.

You may miss timely exits and rebalancing.

A Certified Financial Planner guides with logic and analysis.

They also help align your funds with your goals.

Regular plans have MFD support and rebalancing discipline.

They protect from behavioural mistakes during market volatility.

Overall, regular funds with expert guidance bring higher net value.

What Can Be Done with Your Existing SIPs?

You can consider the following changes:

Discontinue index fund (UTI Nifty 50) SIP.

   

Reduce exposure to direct small and midcap funds.

   

Switch from direct plans to regular plans via a Certified Financial Planner.

   

Ensure SIPs are part of a professionally constructed portfolio.

   

Ensure proper asset allocation, fund category balancing and tax efficiency.

   

New SIP of Rs 10,000 per Month – Suggestions

For your new Rs 10,000 monthly SIP, here is a 360-degree plan:

Allocate across diversified categories.

   

Ensure each fund has low overlap and different market focus.

   

Invest in 3 to 4 funds max.

   

All in regular mode with CFP-led support.

   

Avoid index funds, as they only match market returns.

   

Go for actively managed funds with proven history.

   

Include large-cap, mid-cap and flexi-cap mix.

   

Monitor quarterly with your Certified Financial Planner.

   

Additional Guidance for 15-Year Wealth Building

At 26, your time horizon is excellent.

But long-term wealth creation needs more than just SIPs.

It needs strategy and discipline.

Below are key steps for a full-circle approach:

Set clear financial goals: Home, car, retirement, child education etc.

   

Link SIPs to each goal separately.

   

Keep emergency fund in place (6 months expenses).

   

Get sufficient life and health insurance (pure protection plans).

   

Avoid investment-cum-insurance products.

   

They give low returns and poor insurance.

   

Do not mix insurance with investment.

   

Track your SIP performance annually.

   

Rebalance if some funds underperform.

   

Maintain asset allocation: Equity, Debt and Liquid.

   

Avoid emotional reactions during market dips.

   

Stay invested with guidance from your CFP.

   

Be aware of taxation rules on equity and debt funds.

   

LTCG on equity above Rs 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.

   

STCG on equity is taxed at 20%.

   

Debt fund gains are taxed as per income slab.

   

Regular plan MFD and CFP helps with all tax planning.

   

What Not to Do in the Next 15 Years

Don’t invest in index funds.

   

They lack active strategy.

   

Don’t choose funds by past returns only.

   

Don’t use direct funds without financial expertise.

   

Don’t invest in real estate for returns.

   

Don’t invest in annuity products for retirement.

   

Don’t mix investment and insurance.

   

Don’t make decisions based on short-term news or noise.

   

Don’t stop SIPs during market corrections.

   

Role of a Certified Financial Planner

A Certified Financial Planner helps you:

Set goals based on life stages.

   

Create custom SIP and lump sum plans.

   

Select the best active funds for your goals.

   

Rebalance annually to stay on track.

   

Plan taxes as per latest rules.

   

Protect wealth with right insurances.

   

Build retirement with strategic planning.

   

Create a total financial blueprint for life.

   

Keep emotions out of financial decisions.

   

Final Insights

You have taken a great step by starting early.

But choosing the right funds is key.

More important is monitoring them regularly.

Direct plans lack this important support.

Switching to regular plans under CFP brings value.

Also, add Rs 10,000 new SIP with proper strategy.

Don’t follow trends.

Stay committed and review annually.

Avoid overlapping funds and unnecessary risks.

Have a complete financial roadmap in place.

You are building your future.

Make each rupee work with expert guidance.

This 360-degree approach will lead to better outcomes.

You will be financially secure and confident.

Take the next steps with clarity and care.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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