Hi Ms Shalini. I have been using dating apps for 3 years now. I have noticed that after a while, everything starts to feel repetitive. The same conversations, silly jokes and the same dead ends. What can I do to break this pattern and find something meaningful?

Ans: Meet girls in real life. Online dating apps is not the solution

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

There are several amazing dating apps in India that tailored specifically for the Indian audience. While I can't name them, I would suggest doing a little research before picking one. The right fit should cater to your needs- casual dating. Some apps are more suited for serious daters while others are focused on casual dating- the latter should be fine for you. Once you do find the right one for you, make sure to optimize your profile well to find a match quickly. A clear and recent picture as your DP and a well-written Bio will do the trick.

Best Wishes.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You can keep thinking and still won't get a satisfactory answer to your whats and whys.
The key to stop overthinking is to actually STOP it. The 3 year gap and a possible fact of seeing your age group women already having settled down may have put you on an alert mode that tells you: Make sure that you don't goof it up!

When you tell yourself not to goof it up, invariable you will focus on what can and might go wrong and that's enough to exhaust you. Instead enjoy the dating process and go with that flow; things may go fine or not; just be in that moment...be aware of what's important to you and where you will draw boundaries. This check point will make sure that you put yourself out there and yet will keep you reined in without ruining your peace of mind. Enjoy the process...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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