Hi I am 34 year old male and want to settle down but also in doubt that the marriage will take my independence. I started looking for bride with arrange marriage option. I am taking to a girl for last 3-4 months 2 time a week. I never had any serious relationship before and don't know what exactly to lookout in marriage. The girl I am seeing has average looks and physique but she okay with conversation and little shy and majority of the conversation I have only started. Her weight or BMI is very low around 19 and my BMI is overweight above 26. There is different in 45-50 kgs in weight. Am I working too much about physical appearance and should I interact with other prospects also. I have meet with her family along with my parent two times and little worried that more meeting will led to frustration if marriage didn't materialize. I have also left my current job and taking some break before joining new one. Will this career break will impact my marriage prospects. Also sometimes I feel that I may have set my standards very high as I am well educated from good institute and I can explore many options before choosing one. Is this leading me to non commitment as I may find some fault to not commit to marriage.

Hi, I am 32 year old male. I have contentment in all major aspects of life such as job, money, friends, family, fun etc. But everytime I try to bring a girl into my life everything just turns in to chaos. There is a lot of pressure from from family, friends and almost everyone that I know for me to get married. But I cannot accept just anyone in my life through matrimony sites or references. I am afraid that the hard work that I have put in all these years to make my life comfortable will be shaken up by marriage. I cannot choose people by their attributes but have to just develop a liking for them. Similarly I have no interest in how a girl looks, what job she does or any material aspects. I am happy with someone who choses me completely and is committed to me. Unfortunately I couldn't find anyone such and I am in the phase of saying no to marriage completely as life is good as it is. I had a girlfriend when I was 25 and she left me after 5 years of relationship because her parents did not accept which I respected. Could connect with anyone else until this year who also left me after an year because her parents will not agree as my parents are not rich enough. I cannot connect with anyone else physically or emotionally. I think it's injustice to the woman I marry if I marry her just for the sake of society. I am completely confused, could you please share your expertise on this. Thanks in advance!

Im currently meeting a girl for a arranged marriage. I have met her around 4 times. She doesnt talk that much. Im not that attracted to her. But our families r in rush to get married. Saying our ages are running out. Im 35 yrs old. The girl looks uninterested i feel. And im also in 2 minds should i go ahead or no. Or i will not get anyone. What should i do .