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Shalini Singh is the founder of andwemet, an online matchmaking service for urban Indians living in India and overseas. After graduating from college as a kindergarten teacher, Singh worked at various firms specialising in marketing strategy, digital marketing and public relations before finding her niche as an entrepreneur. In 2008, she founded Galvanise PR, an independent communications and public relations. In 2019, she launched andwemet.
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Asked by Anonymous - May 22, 2025
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I am 33, female, living and working in Bangalore. My parents are constantly asking me to settle down in an arranged marriage. I was in a serious relationship but the boy cheated me for a rich girl so I have trust issues. The people I meet for marriage either on apps or through friends don't want commitment. My mom is scared that if I don't marry soon, society will label me as old and picky. I don't want to marry for the heck of it. Is it even possible to find someone serious online or should I rely on my parents to find a suitable guy?

Ans: 1) Firstly 33 years is young and so is 43 :) you are as young as you feel (share this with mom :))
2) You cannot take a poor past experience as you enter into a new one - you faced trust issues - noted, they are not fun - but heal from it as you move ahead.
3) You will have to meet many, many - several via apps, friends, parents to find your person. If you do self reflection, healed from past , have must-have (not more than 3) and on it - you will find your person within 6 months - I have written on tips for doing so.

all the best.

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