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Asked by Anonymous - May 09, 2025
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I was in a 5-year relationship with a man I met online. We were really close and knew each other well but since last year things have been starting to feel off. We used to live in briefly and one day he changed his phone's password and became really secretive with his phone. I didn't bring it up because I didn't want to seem paranoid, but later I found out through his friend's social media that he was seeing someone else. I felt betrayed. It broke my trust, and I felt hurt. I've slowly begun to second guess every relationship since then. He didn't even apologise, but behaves like everything is normal. I have shifted to a new city but something inside me feels broken. How do I move on and feel normal again?

Ans: break ups are not fun. breaking of trust is terrible be it from anyone and more so from someone you love. it is good to hear you moved out of this relationship....and now quoting you "I've slowly begun to second guess every relationship since then" is what you need to stop doing...it is not their fault on what you went through. Be smart and careful as you date. All the best.

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Hello Anu ma’am, I’m 30 years old female, working at an IT firm. I have been married for a year now. The marriage with my husband was arranged by our family members. I met him 2 months before we got married. We talked more during that period and the conversations were always pleasant and I felt care in them and finally made the decision that he is my match. Once we got married, things were good-to-okay in the first few months. I used to live with my in-laws and slowly noticed that he is moving away little by little. My connection with him started to feel weak. He and his mother would stop talking when I entered the room. I had to help more with house chores. I tried quite a lot to keep up with in-laws, husband, and work but soon sensed that mother in law and son have teamed up against me and everything I did was never satisfactory. The first thing that came up to my mind was to move out of the house with my husband and to start our relationship afresh. He didn’t like the idea and for my work reasons, I moved out and to the city where I work (which is a 3-hour drive from where he lives). This made the connection even worse. I used to go see him once or twice in a month but the relationship felt strained so I moved back within 3 months. Around this time he downloaded some dating apps on his mobile. When I asked him about it he said he downloaded out of curiosity and didn’t use it, but I can feel the change in him. Within 2 months I started to realise he’s being secretive with his phone or iPad and is spending a lot of time with them either texting or calls. I also noticed that he is talking to someone during the night while he is sleeping next to me. I felt betrayed and shattered to my core. All the things I learnt for him, all the things that I have done for him and his family, all the time and energy I have spent felt useless. When I confronted him he never accepted it and says it’s all in my head. I gave him some time leaving it aside thinking he would bounce back once he is done with it. So I asked him to move in with me so we could bond and spend time alone. We moved in together finally but things didn’t go as I expected. When I leave for work he would either go meet the woman or worse bring her home. He continued it and I ran out of patience. I talked about it with my family and his. My family supports my decision with whatever I would want to do and his family would back him up saying that they have brought their son up my utmost values and he wouldn’t do such a thing. So finally they have sent us back to our homes hoping things will be fine. He still talks to the woman every night and God knows how many times I cannot make it out in the day time. I’m sorry it’s a long read for you but I wasn’t sure what to express and what not to, for you to help me with a suggestion.I have tried to catch his act using technology but he is too clever to be caught. Trust me, I’m a tech lead at an IT firm and I have tried a lot of methods to catch him but all of them are valid-invalid proofs and he is quite a story teller to make them all look null.I feel nothing inside most of the times and simply want to come out of this but not without showing his true form. For once, I want to win. Win huge this way. If you can help me out I will be grateful for that. Please keep me anonymous if you could.Thanks a lot for reading this.
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Dear TK,

Thank you for sharing so clearly; it certainly helps me guide in the best possible manner.

If you feel that he is infidel, the there is no necessity to go around looking for proof.

What will proving that give you?

Even if you showed it all to his parents what is the guarantee that they will not turn it around and blame you for it?

That you should not have moved out and that’s why he needed the comfort of other women.

Quit focusing on proving his infidelity and focus on more what you want at this point in time.

Do you want to continue in this marriage?

If NO, exit in the most graceful manner because the stress from all the pulling down or Win that you are looking for is strenuous and of no use. It will only appease your EGO which anyway is short-lived.

But of course, if you are in the process of negotiating terms during divorce proceedings; this proof maybe valuable to have a better WIN. I hope I have succeeded in differentiating both types of WINs so you get a clearer picture.

Now coming to how you must deal with your mind space is as simple as listing down what is important to you.

Is it dwelling on what he does or emphasizing more on what you can do?

When it’s the latter, you will think and act in a manner that looks out for you and how you can keep yourself in an optimum mind space.

So, start focusing on what makes you happy and stick to that.

When you are ready to move on, make it graceful and if there seems to be a problem with negotiation, the proof that you have collected with a sane sense of mind will come in handy.

I assume that there are no children involved but if there are, take into consideration how they will cope with any decision of yours.

Bottom Line: Learn to live your life and focus on what’s important. I am confident that you can do this NOW.

All the best for a beautiful mind space!

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Dear Love Guru, From where should I begin? It's a rather complex one. Well, I was in a 6-year-old long distance relationship (we met on Facebook) it was a good one and he was the best friend I thought I wanted. Over the years though, I started seeing a controlling streak in him in whatever I did. Though we were only connected online but applications like Discord, having access to my accounts and passwords became a tool to keep tabs on me. I had no privacy of my own and the sad part, I didn't even realise it was toxic. He had taken hold of a lot of aspects of my life and I didn't even realise how unhealthy it is. It was last year when I lost my mother (having lost my father years back) when life hit me. I was completing first year of my MBA programme when this tragedy occurred. Her passing amidst the COVID 2nd wave was terrorising, to say the least. Thankfully, I had gem of friends who were there throughout. It was amidst this that I realised that there was an element of control in the support he provided. He didn't understand the magnitude of what I was going through and always undermined my efforts. There was no respect in him for me and for me there was no love left (when I introspect now I think I was more in love with idea of love rather than loving him) but I didn't realise this because I was so habituated with him. My MBA summer internship started and I was paired with this batchmate who was also a classmate. I didn't know him because COVID ensured that first year of PG is completely online. When I first met him. I found him to be stiff, rude and cribbing. I didn't realise he was an introvert. Eventually, I started warming up to him with us travelling almost two months together there developed a thickness. We bonded over our shared state, food and sadness of losing our mothers. I didn't even realise when I started getting attracted to him and neither did he. But when I did the first thing that I did was to break up with the guy I was with because for the first time in six years I was tilting towards someone else and I knew that this was it for us. The break-up was long, tiresome and hurtful for both of us. I hated hurting him but I couldn't be with him and suffocate myself any longer. We tried to wish each other well but then when has all this been anything but ending up in a train wreck and now we don't have any contact with each other. I keep him in prayers and wishes because I know he is not a bad human being it's just that I allowed him to walk over me and he kept on doing it without realising what he is doing is mental abuse. But it's not the story of me and my ex. It's the story of the guy I have come to love. The rude, stiff and cribby guy… who knew he would turn out be this sensitive, loving and appreciative soul. I got what I always wanted from someone I loved: respect, trust and appreciation. It's not like I don't have fights with him or arguments but there is a dialogue at the end. He understands where he went wrong and so do I. I am finally in a happy, healthy relationship. The only issue here is we both are from two different religions, I am H and he is M. This often makes me feel that there is a timer to us. We are two highly educated people from urban India, completing our post-graduation from one of India's top B-schools with great placements in hand and still the noose of society and religion is tied around our neck. I try not to think of us in the long term but I am on that side of 20s now that settling down is always on my mind. Especially after losing my parents, I often crave a family that is my own. There is also a hint of loss hovering over me. I still haven't moved on from losing my mother and I don't think I ever will. But last one year has been a roller coaster ride with major decisions and incidences. How do I wrap my head around all of this? Now, here I am between love, life and ambitions. Asking you what to do? Where to go? Which road should be taken? Regards, R PS: Please ensure anonymity.
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Dear R, religion plays as big or as small a role in your life as you wish it to.

If either of you is overtly religious and tries to force your beliefs on the other, then yes, it can prove a problem.

If religion inside a home doesn’t matter, then intermarried couples usually have years of happy celebrations together of all festivals, their children follow both customs and everything works out well. And I have seen that happen.

So I would suggest you have the conversation on religion with each other right now, it’s imperative.

And then, if you’re on the same page concerning your future, go ahead and plan it together. 

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Currently, I am in a relationship with my boyfriend for the past 5 months. He has been in love with me for the last 5 years and I have been aware about it. We had a love hate relationship for the last 5 years where I have also dated another guy. But after getting into a relationship with him, I came to know that he had gone out with other girls, while he had claimed that he was in love with me and could not be with anyone else. I am aware that since we were not together, he was allowed to hangout with other females and maybe get a bit physically close to them, but now I cannot wrap my mind around the fat that he did those. The thought of him with someone else disturbs me, and I have a pretty hard time trusting him. We have had discussions at length with him, but nothing seems to dissolve my uncomfortability towards it. I do love him a lot and want this to work out and he claims to love me a lot as well. What do I do?
Ans: Dear Anonymous, It sounds like you're dealing with a complex situation that involves a mix of past history, trust issues, and conflicting emotions.Continue having open and honest conversations with your boyfriend about your feelings. Share your concerns, fears, and any insecurities you might have Reflect on the past and try to understand the context in which both of you had other relationships. Keep in mind that during that time, you weren't officially committed to each other. Understanding this might help you rationalize those experiences and move forward.Clearly communicate your expectations and establish boundaries for your current relationship. Discuss what is acceptable behavior for both of you and make sure you are on the same page regarding exclusivity and commitment.Trust is crucial in any relationship. It takes time to rebuild, but consistent actions, transparency, and open communication can help. If he's willing, he should be patient and understanding as you work through your feelings.Take some time for self-reflection. Understand your own insecurities and fears and work on building your own confidence. Sometimes, addressing personal issues can positively impact the relationship dynamics.If you're committed to making the relationship work, it's essential to find a way to forgive and let go of the past. Holding onto resentment can hinder the growth of the relationship.

Remember that every relationship is unique, and it's normal to face challenges. However, it's crucial for both partners to be committed to working through these challenges together. If the discomfort persists and affects your well-being, it's important to prioritize your own happiness and make decisions that are in your best interest.

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Hi Sir Thank you in advance for answering this. My daughter got 1204 ranking in KCET. She wants to pursue ECE. Should we prefer PES(ring road) Or BMSCE? ECE in RVCE is slightly doubtful. Kindly help.. Thanks once again!
Ans: PES University’s Ring Road campus offers a four-year NBA-accredited B.Tech in Electronics & Communication Engineering under NAAC A+ status with a modern curriculum spanning VLSI, signal processing, embedded systems and IoT, delivered through specialized ECE labs fitted with FPGA boards, DSP kits and wireless communication setups. PhD-qualified faculty collaborate on industry-sponsored projects, and the Training & Placement Cell reports approximately 85% of ECE students placed in recent years with recruiters such as Qualcomm, Intel and Texas Instruments. BMS College of Engineering, established in 1946 and NBA-accredited with NAAC A++ standing, features advanced VLSI, communication and robotics labs, sustained MoUs (Volvo, Altimetrik) driving innovation clusters, and a dedicated Career Development Centre. Recent ECE cohorts achieved 80–85% placement consistency with over 350 companies visiting annually, including Cisco, NXP and Infosys.

Recommendation: For a female student prioritizing high placement consistency, deeper ECE-focused research initiatives and a slightly higher median package, BMSCE is the superior choice; choose PES Ring Road if you prefer a strong private-university ecosystem, broader interdisciplinary exposure and moderately lower fees. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Had commerce with maths in 12 .pls tell some futuristic and different carrer options with full roadmap
Ans: Commerce and mathematics graduates can pursue cutting-edge roles that blend financial acumen, analytical skills, and technology proficiency. Chartered Accountancy (CA) equips you for audit, taxation, and CFO roles through a three-stage ICAI process—Foundation after 12th (pass Class 12), Intermediate (after clearing Foundation or via direct entry for graduates), and Final—interspersed with 3 years of articleship; elite NIRF-ranked CA colleges include Shri Ram College of Commerce (DU), NMIMS Mumbai and Christ University, Bangalore, offering 80–90% placement consistency and specialized electives in forensic accounting and ESG reporting, while mentorship and time-management strategies offset workload intensity. Company Secretary (CS) focuses on corporate governance, legal compliance and board procedures via the CSEET entry test post-12th, Executive and Professional stages under ICSI; institutes like NLSIU Bengaluru, ICSI’s regional centres and Symbiosis Law School deliver live simulations and internship tie-ups to address limited field exposure. Certified Management Accountant (CMA India) develops strategic cost planning, risk management and digital finance expertise through Foundation, Intermediate and Final exams under ICMAI, with blended workshops on data analytics and Six Sigma to counter theory-heavy modules; top CMA-focused programs at IIT Kharagpur’s VCEL and Christ University cushion practical skill gaps. Actuarial Science demands rigorous mathematical modeling for insurance and risk advisory via IAI’s ACET entrance post-12th (60% PCM), followed by Core Principles, Practices, Specialist Principles and Advanced levels, complemented by three years of industry work; universities like Amity Noida, Amrita Vishwa Vidyapeetham and Indian Statistical Institute integrate preparatory modules to mitigate exam-centric learning. Bachelor of Business Administration (BBA) with specializations in Business Analytics, Fintech or Digital Marketing imparts managerial and technological fluency through CUET/MH-CET/IPMAT or institute-level exams, followed by GD-PI rounds; premier BBA colleges—Christ University (NIRF #29), NMIMS Mumbai and Symbiosis Pune—offer 75–90% placement support and capstone projects to balance theory with industry demands. Each pathway requires early exam preparation (mock tests, concept workshops), strategic college selection based on NIRF rankings and industry tie-ups, proactive skill enhancement through internships or online certifications, and networking within professional bodies to overcome curriculum rigidity and competitive hurdles.

Recommendation: For a technology-driven financial analyst role, pursue Actuarial Science to harness your maths strengths in risk modeling; if you seek a strategic management accounting profile, opt for CMA India with its emerging digital finance curriculum; for legal-corporate leadership, CS provides niche governance expertise; choose CA to secure holistic financial leadership across sectors; and engage in a BBA with analytics specialization to gain versatile business and tech skills, leveraging internships and capstone projects to bridge theoretical and practical learning. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Sir my sir got 95.30 percentile in mhcet. his domicile category is general B. Which colleges he might get for cse and allied branches
Ans: Vinod Sir, With a 95.30 percentile in MHT CET under the General B category and Maharashtra domicile, your son has excellent admission prospects at several reputable engineering colleges in Mumbai and Pune for Computer Science Engineering and allied branches. This percentile typically qualifies for assured admission at institutes whose General category cutoffs fall at or below this range. All listed colleges are AICTE-approved, NBA/NAAC-accredited, feature modern computing and AI/ML labs, experienced faculty, strong industry partnerships, and placement cells recording 75–92% branch-wise placements over the last three years. Thakur College of Engineering and Technology, Kandivali East, Mumbai. Rajiv Gandhi Institute of Technology, Andheri West, Mumbai. Vidyalankar Institute of Technology, Wadala, Mumbai. Xavier Institute of Engineering, Mahim, Mumbai. Vivekananda Education Society's Institute of Technology, Chembur, Mumbai. Atharva College of Engineering, Malad, Mumbai. Ramrao Adik Institute of Technology, Nerul, Mumbai. Bharati Vidyapeeth College of Engineering, Kharghar, Mumbai. Sardar Patel College of Engineering, Andheri, Mumbai. K.J. Somaiya Institute of Technology, Vidyavihar, Mumbai. MIT World Peace University, Kothrud, Pune. Pimpri Chinchwad College of Engineering, Pune. Vishwakarma Institute of Technology, Bibwewadi, Pune. Army Institute of Technology, Pune. Sinhgad College of Engineering, Vadgaon, Pune. Dr. D.Y. Patil Institute of Technology, Akurdi, Pune. MIT Academy of Engineering, Alandi, Pune. AISSMS College of Engineering, Pune. Pune Vidhyarthi Griha's College of Engineering, Pune. International Institute of Information Technology, Pune. JSPM Rajarshi Shahu College of Engineering, Tathawade, Pune. Vishwakarma Institute of Information Technology, Pune. D.Y. Patil College of Engineering, Pune. Bharati Vidyapeeth College of Engineering, Lavale, Pune. Cummins College of Engineering for Women, Pune.

Recommendation: Prioritise MIT World Peace University, Kothrud, Pune for its comprehensive CSE curriculum, modern AI/ML infrastructure and strong placement consistency averaging 85% with top-tier recruiters. Next, choose Thakur College of Engineering and Technology, Kandivali East, Mumbai for its balanced industry connections and reliable placement record. Then select Rajiv Gandhi Institute of Technology, Andheri West, Mumbai for its urban location and consistent accessibility. Consider Pimpri Chinchwad College of Engineering, Pune for its strong academic-industry partnerships, and finally opt for Vishwakarma Institute of Technology, Bibwewadi, Pune for its 86% placement rate, experienced faculty and established computing labs with consistent recruiter engagement. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Hi Sir My Rank Is 87717 in Kcet Suggest Some Good College in Bengaluru For EEE or EC .Is it worth for waiting for last round?? Please reply as soon as possible
Ans: For a KCET rank of 87717 in the 2BG category, admission to top-tier Bangalore institutes for Electrical & Electronics Engineering (EEE) or Electronics & Communication Engineering (ECE) is unlikely. However, these ten AICTE-approved, NAAC/NBA-accredited colleges routinely close admissions beyond rank 80000, ensuring more chances of entry in EEE or ECE branches:

Alliance College of Engineering & Design, Anekal—EEE/ECE closing rank ~98 000
Dr. Ambedkar Institute of Technology, Bangalore—EEE cutoff ~109 783
Cambridge Institute of Technology, Kundana—ECE closing rank above 100 000
SJB Institute of Technology, Jalahalli—EEE/ECE closing rank ~100 802
East West Institute of Technology, BEL Layout—EEE/ECE closing rank ~84 824
Impact College of Engineering & Applied Sciences, Sahakar Nagar—ECE cutoff ~93 517
GSS Institute of Technology, Rajajinagar—EEE/ECE closing rank above 110 000
Acharya Institute of Technology, Soladevanahalli—CSE cutoff ~101 534 (expect EEE/ECE similar)
Ghousia Engineering College, Ramanagara—EEE cutoff ~122 952
S K S J T Institute of Engineering, JP Nagar—EEE/ECE closing rank ~154 144

Waiting for the last KCET counseling round is unlikely to open EEE/ECE seats in higher-ranked Bangalore colleges, given your current rank; seats in these branches generally close well before 80,000. Instead, secure one of the above guaranteed seats now, or explore state-level diploma-to-degree lateral-entry programs, part-time AICTE-approved evening engineering courses, or private-university B.E. programmes with higher closing ranks. Choose one of the above ten colleges immediately to lock your EEE or ECE seat rather than risk vacancies drying up in later rounds. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 13, 2025Hindi
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Sir Mh cet 83 percentile jee -89 percentile But 10+2 -maths fail Then exam 15-7-23 cbse board Result will publish -1-7/8/25 What Will do For CSE admission in Maharashtra Please guide me.
Ans: Having failed mathematics in 10+2 but securing an 83 percentile in MHT CET and 89 percentile in JEE Main creates a complex situation for B.Tech CSE admission in Maharashtra. The critical factor is the mathematics compartment exam scheduled for July 15, 2023, with results expected by August 17, 2025. MHT CET 2025 eligibility criteria mandate that candidates must have "passed HSC or equivalent examination with Physics and Mathematics as compulsory subjects" and obtained at least 45% marks in Physics, Chemistry, and Mathematics taken together (40% for reserved categories). Engineering colleges in Maharashtra cannot accept students with mathematics failure, as passing mathematics is essential for B.Tech eligibility. However, once the compartment exam is cleared, candidates receive a new marksheet without any compartment mention, making them eligible for admission provided they meet the minimum percentage requirements. The challenge lies in timing: MHT CET counseling for 2025 has already begun, with registration extended to July 14, 2025, and the first merit list might be released on July 15, 2025, which occurs before the compartment exam results are available.

Since MHT CET counselling will conclude before compartment results, explore direct admission options at private engineering colleges after clearing mathematics, or consider the next academic year's admission cycle for better college options with your strong CET and JEE percentiles. (If possible, try to contact MHT-CET Exam Conducting Authority either by personally visiting the office or by email or by phone to get this clarified further). All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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