My ex and I broke up mutually after dating for 3 years. We stayed in touch casually on WhatsApp. He told me he got a new job in Bangalore and signed up for a dating app. I didn't react. A few months ago, I found out that he's getting arranged-married. I congratulated him casually. Since then, he has been sending me long, emotional texts at night saying how much he misses me, how he misses my food, hugs, how I once used to be his home, safe place. I feel confused and emotionally triggered again. I do have feelings for him, but I am not sure if this is the right time to reconsider, especially since there is another girl in his life right now. He said wanted to talk to me and find out if there is hope. If I respond, I feel like I am emotionally cheating on his fiancee. I feel bad and long for our old days. But my roommate says I should block him immediately. I feel selfish wanting him back. I also miss his companionship. Honestly after our break up, I haven't been able to date again. But is it too late now? Or is this destiny's way of correcting my mistake? I am 32, he is 34.

Dear Anu, I started a relationship with this guy, who I met on a dating app like a year back. I started to like him and everything was going fine. We started talking and soon our conversations steered towards talking about our future. However, he suddenly told me out of nowhere that he is a divorcee. His marriage was called off at the altar due to dowry issues. He and his family are embroiled in a dowry case which is going on. I was shocked and wanted to know the entire truth but he never came clear about what exactly happened. He told me that he cannot think of marriage and the future and wants to keep it casual. I was heartbroken and we fought a lot after which he suddenly stopped talking. After sometime he started talking again and said that he wants me back. He always makes plans to meet in hotels and spend nights with him. I started to grow distant, stopped taking his calls and tried to push him out. I also started to look out for matches, based on my age. I am 32, but nothing is materialising there. I started missing him and recently messaged him again. I lied to him that I am getting hitched and he said ‘okay let’s meet and spend a night together.’ I really don't know. I am amused that all he is really interested in is getting into my pants all the time. I am genuinely in love with him and he says it again now also he loves me. But his thoughts and words are not in sync. I am just not able to get over him. I have been trying hard since I decided to move on. Some thing or the other brings me back to him again and again. I am becoming more lonely, depressed all the more coz the marriage thing is also not picking up and I have no one.Please help.

Hi, I was in a relationship rather I can say love bonding with a man who is 7yrs elder to me. We both loved each other. It was 2yrs of relationship and it was strong from my side. But we had a religious/spiritual constraints to get married . Elders did not agree to get us married. Finally he left because of this reason and married another girl. I was depressed for 2 yrs then gradually came back to normal. My instincts still tell that he liked me but he never reached out to me after that. It’s been 15yrs and I still think of him even though I’m happily married. There is never a single day I don’t think about him. Recently I texted him casually without bringing the past in our conversation. He was chatting normally , but suddenly he restricted me and stopped texting. He came into my life like a rescue as I was mentally very weak facing family issues. I can never forget him For being with me and for having given me happy days atleast until He was with me. I used to Feel so happy to be with him and talk to him all day. Off late I’m thinking of him all the time and want to see him and talk to Him. I know it’s wrong and not good to disturb his life but why not just 10mins to express how I felt when he left me?? I really miss that I am Not able to spend the rest of my life with him.

Dear Anu, I am a highly introvert girl with no friends and is preparing for a tough competitive exam. I love a guy and was dating him for 5 years. Due to our diametrically opposite career choices, uncertain future, and for 2 years long distance, he broke up with me. We talked about reconciliation in future if things turned out in our favour. But I feel he is indifferent regarding the breakup as he went to Goa just after that. In frustration I texted a guy from my inbox who wanted to meet me. So I met him. He is good, intellectual and highly principled. We never formally asked each other to date but he was helping me out for my exams and we achieved many milestones together. But after some time I got introduced to his short temper and dominating behaviour which bothers me a lot and I talked about it many times with him. I cry every single day (it's been 5 months now) since I broke up. Met a new guy I don't really love but he has done a lot for me so I don't want to hurt him. I am facing this mental turmoil whether to stay in this new relationship or should I wait for my ex to reconcile with me as I still love him a lot.

My married ex still texts me for comfort. Because of him, I am unable to move on. He makes me feel guilty by saying he got married out of family pressure. His dad is a cardiac patient and mom is being treated for cancer. He comforts me by saying he will get separated soon and we will get married because he only loves me. We have been in a relationship for 14 years and despite everything we tried, his parents refused to accept me, so he chose to get married to someone who understands our situation. I don't know when he will separate from his wife. She knows about us too but she comes from a traditional family. She also confirmed there is no physical intimacy between them. I trust him, but is it worth losing my youth for him? Honestly, I am worried and very confused.