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Dating Coach - Answered on Dec 07, 2024

Shalini Singh is the founder of andwemet, an online matchmaking service for urban Indians living in India and overseas. After graduating from college as a kindergarten teacher, Singh worked at various firms specialising in marketing strategy, digital marketing and public relations before finding her niche as an entrepreneur. In 2008, she founded Galvanise PR, an independent communications and public relations. In 2019, she launched andwemet.
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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 05, 2024Hindi

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Hello Ma'am, Recently I told my feelings to my friend that I like her. I even told her that I am not expecting anything right now. May be one year, two year or three years down the line we might have a future together. She then told me that she loves someone else and didn't thought of it. Now even she told me to say away as it would be good for both of us. Now I regret that why I told her that. I shouldn't have told her my feelings. Now I regret more that I lost a valuable friend and friendship. Now I even think that I am not good looking as her, so that might be the case of rejection. Can you please tell what should I do now as I am not able to focus on anything and the regret is very heavy on me. I am always thinking that I shouldn't have told her about my feelings.

Ans: She had become more than a friend, please accept it - you did nothing wrong by expressing your feelings, the important bit here is not what you conveyed but her response. It is best you maintain your distance as you have romantic feelings which is byond friendship - keeping away will be good for both.

And stop overthinking about why she declined - it is simple - that she likes someone else and not you so it is best to hear what she is saying vs getting into a overthinking mode. Your looks has nothing to do with her declining your gesture.

All the best

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I am a second year student (male), till now in my life i never been i any relationships actually to say i never attracted to anyone, but during the college i met a girl, we started talking, one day while texting she told me that "I heard something I want to ask u.. Something like u likee me?" after that with some fear or i don't know what to say that feeling but I had told her that yes. but then she told we can be only normal friends not to expect more than that. i dont know what to say but i told ok. then even after that we had talk but now a days it reached a point with no replies on chat. i have tried to move on, then suddenly i miss her. as she was my first girl (not even into relationship) that i had some feelings.

Ans: She was nothing but a friend who you may have liked or been attracted to you - it was one way - the sooner you accept this, you will stop missing her. She would have been your 'girl friend' if she reciprocated similar feelings. Hope this helps.

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Hello sir. Recently I told my feelings to my friend that I like her. I even told her that I am expecting anything right now. May be one year, two year or three years down the line we might have a future together. She then told me that she loves someone else and didn't thought of it. Now even she told me to say away as it would be good for both of us. Now I regret that why I told her that. I shouldn't have told her my feelings. Now I regret more that I lost a valuable friend and friendship. Now I even think that I am not good looking as her, so that might be the case of rejection. Can you please tell what should I do now as I am not able to focus on anything and the regret is very heavy on me. I am always thinking that I shouldn't have told her about my feelings.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand that you are hurting but if she has asked for space, you should respect it. Confessing your feelings for her did not deserve such a harsh reaction, but at the same time, she might have been looking at it from a different perspective where she didn't want you to assume the continued friendship as any form of interest and indulgence. Please focus on yourself- I am sure you have other friends who want you in their lives. Focus on those friendships.

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Hello Ma'am, Recently I told my feelings to my friend that I like her. I even told her that I am not expecting anything right now. May be one year, two year or three years down the line we might have a future together. She then told me that she loves someone else and didn't thought of it. Now even she told me to say away as it would be good for both of us. Now I regret that why I told her that. I shouldn't have told her my feelings. Now I regret more that I lost a valuable friend and friendship. Now I even think that I am not good looking as her, so that might be the case of rejection. Can you please tell what should I do now as I am not able to focus on anything and the regret is very heavy on me. I am always thinking that I shouldn't have told her about my feelings.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
What is done, is done; you can't go back in time and change any of that!
And you were just being honest with her; it's sad that she could not appreciate your honesty BUT she also fears that being friends with you, may also hurt you; so staying away seems to be the best option...
Move on; it's hard doing that but not impossible...change is the only constant in life and people come and go just as feelings come and go...It's a big beautiful world out there; expand your social circle and give time to your personal growth. Focus on yourself.

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