Friend Zone Blues: I Regret Telling My Crush How I Feel

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

People make mistakes, especially when they are young. It is great that you realized yours. There is nothing much you can do about the past. You can't change it, but you can make an effort to never repeat the same mistakes. As for missing her, that is momentary. It will happen for a while, and then pass with time. If you have done something wrong with her and feel guilty about it, the best thing to do is apologize. If she doesn't seem interested in your apology, then do not bother her to shrug off the burden from your shoulders. It's your burden and yours only to carry. Try to forgive yourself and work toward being a better person. That's all you can do.

Now, in case you think you are blaming yourself for no reason, half of your problems are resolved. You already understand that this blaming is absurd. Introspect. Think about what went wrong and if you were part of it. In either case, you have to learn to forgive yourself. To err is to be human. But what you learn from it, makes you a better one.

Best Wishes.

Ans: She was nothing but a friend who you may have liked or been attracted to you - it was one way - the sooner you accept this, you will stop missing her. She would have been your 'girl friend' if she reciprocated similar feelings. Hope this helps.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand that you are hurting but if she has asked for space, you should respect it. Confessing your feelings for her did not deserve such a harsh reaction, but at the same time, she might have been looking at it from a different perspective where she didn't want you to assume the continued friendship as any form of interest and indulgence. Please focus on yourself- I am sure you have other friends who want you in their lives. Focus on those friendships.

Best Wishes.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
What is done, is done; you can't go back in time and change any of that!
And you were just being honest with her; it's sad that she could not appreciate your honesty BUT she also fears that being friends with you, may also hurt you; so staying away seems to be the best option...
Move on; it's hard doing that but not impossible...change is the only constant in life and people come and go just as feelings come and go...It's a big beautiful world out there; expand your social circle and give time to your personal growth. Focus on yourself.

All the best!
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