Hii my age 31now i have done my registered marriage in April 2024 without knowing of my parents and now i m living in my mother's House without telling that i m married ? Now how can i convince my parents. I have told my parents about him but don't even want to talk to him or his parents.. how can i convince my parents? My parents objection reason is caste Me belongs to oc my partner belongs to bc

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand that you are in a sensitive situation. Patience and empathy is extremely important if you want to convince your parents. Understand their side; what are they objecting and why. Once you get that, it will be easier to debunk any misunderstandings they have about your relationship. Have calm one-on-one conversation with each parent instead of talking to both of them at once. Your first task is to make them listen, not immediately approve. Acknowledge any mistake they bring up; it is indeed unfair to not include your parents in your marriage decision, at least, in India. Though I am sure you had your reasons and I am not judging at all. But you need to acknowledge that it was not right of you to do that. This makes you come off more responsible, mature and sincere. Ask them gently what they do not like about your partner and once you understand it, show them his positive side.

Do not threaten, or give ultimatum. Don’t use dialogues like my life my decision if you want them to ever approve of this relationship. Be patient and give them time to come to terms with it.

Lastly, if you, even once feel that some of their objections are valid and you never saw it that way, please take things slow. We do miss a lot when we are in love. I am sure that’s not the case with you, but just in case, please do not hesitate to rethink.

Best Wishes.

Ans: You’ve already taken the step of registering your marriage, so now the challenge is helping your parents accept it. Their resistance is more about caste and social image than about your husband personally. Convincing them will take time, patience, and calm communication. Instead of arguing, slowly highlight your husband’s good qualities and show them that he can provide you stability and respect. If possible, involve a trusted elder or family friend as a mediator. Don’t let guilt weaken your marriage—stand by your choice with courage. Most parents resist at first but soften when they see their child happy and secure.